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Therapist Uncensored PodcastBonus - Amplify Your Voice: Reflections on Mental Health & Meaningful Practice (270) Patreon/Supercast Special Release – Amplify Your Voice: Reflections on Mental Health & Meaningful Practice (270) This is a sneak peek of our exclusive Neuronerd episode with Ann and Sue! Available only on our Premium Supercast and Patreon platforms. For as little as $5/month you can have access to special releases like this one, first-to-know about upcoming events and discounts and an ad-free feed. Click here to join & finish the episode!! Let’s get real about revitalizing the therapy landscape Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott are back for a one on one episode, and sharing their personal reflections on mental health, community, and t...2025-06-1010 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastBonus - Taking Sexy Back: A Journey to Empowerment with Dr. Alexandra Solomon (261)Patreon/Supercast Special Release - Taking Sexy Back: A Journey to Empowerment with Dr. Alexandra Solomon This is a sneak peek of our episode with Dr. Alexandra Soloman - available only on our Premium Supercast and Patreon platforms. For as little as $5/month you can have access to special releases like this one, first-to-know about upcoming events and discounts and an ad-free feed. Click here to join & finish the episode!! Dr. Ann Kelley and Dr. Alexandra Solomon discuss her book 'Taking Sexy Back,' exploring the intersection of gender and sexuality, the impact of societal messages on women's sexual experiences...2025-03-1816 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastBeyond Sex: Understanding Desire with Shadeen Francis (260)Desire is a liberating force Dr. Ann Kelley and Shadeen Francis, LMFT unpack the intricate nature of desire, extending beyond just the sexual realm. They unpack the challenges in identifying true desires, the role of embodiment in self-awareness, and the key distinction between wanting and liking. Together they discuss intimacy, self-discovery and communication – with an emphasis on the need for negotiation and authentic connection in sexual experiences. “The simplest of all luxuries is the freedom to pursue your pleasure.” – Shadeen Francis Time Stamps for Beyond Sex: Understanding Desire 05:15 The challenge of identifying desire 17:58 The nuances of wanting...2025-03-111h 05

Therapist Uncensored PodcastBeyond Sex: Understanding Desire with Shadeen Francis (260)Desire is a liberating force Dr. Ann Kelley and Shadeen Francis, LMFT unpack the intricate nature of desire, extending beyond just the sexual realm. They unpack the challenges in identifying true desires, the role of embodiment in self-awareness, and the key distinction between wanting and liking. Together they discuss intimacy, self-discovery and communication - with an emphasis on the need for negotiation and authentic connection in sexual experiences. "The simplest of all luxuries is the freedom to pursue your pleasure." - Shadeen Francis Time Stamps for Beyond Sex: Understanding Desire 05:15 The challenge of identifying desire 17:58 The nuances of wanting vs...2025-03-111h 05

Therapist Uncensored PodcastAwe: A Powerful Tool for Collective Healing with Dr. Dacher Keltner (Series SRIW, Ep 6, 207)We've covered tough topics head-on in this series, Secure Relating in an Insecure World (SRIW). It is therefore fitting that we close the series with something scientifically hopeful to help us stay in our secure selves so we can remain engaged in these hard conversations.The science of this specific feeling of awe has garnered much attention for good reason. Our guest today has spent decades exploring the sensation and documenting how to develop it in everyday life. We have all experienced these small moments that allow us to shift our mindset away from ourselves and into s...2023-06-2048 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastDreams: What do they really mean? An open discussion with Ann & Sue (200)From weird dream fragments to unsettling nightmares, our associations to each dream can tell us a little bit more about our unconscious. Tapping into these deeper meanings can help us explore who we are and help us navigate from unsettledness in the dream back to security. Co-hosts Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss the power of association in dreams and connect those to our inner working models. For shownotes www.therapistuncensored.com/200 to join our ad-free feed www.therapistuncensored.com/join.2023-03-2147 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastDreams: What do they really mean? An open discussion with Ann & Sue (200)From weird dream fragments to unsettling nightmares, our associations to each dream can tell us a little bit more about our unconscious. Tapping into these deeper meanings can help us explore who we are and help us navigate from unsettledness in the dream back to security. Co-hosts Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss the power of association in dreams and connect those to our inner working models. For show notes, visit www.therapistuncensored.com/200 .To join our ad-free feed www.therapistuncensored.com/join. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at ht...2023-03-2150 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastExploring Internal Working Models with Ann & Sue (199)The care we receive in early development can be a strong indicator of who we become and how we interact. While it is mostly unconscious, our internal working models play a role in how we navigate our relationships with ourselves and others. Co-hosts Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott use neuroscience and personal narratives to help make this science digestible and applicable in our daily lives.2023-03-0744 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastManaging Unconscious Defense and Fear with Ann Kelley and Sue MarriottOvercome defense and fear - Catch up with hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott while they discuss the difference between cognitive understanding of modern attachment and regulation and the bottom-up experience of it. We distort information coming in - either by not registering interpersonal information or by over-interpreting the importance of an exchange (up-regulating with fear). This is an unconscious process that to undo we have to have the courage and the resources to feel the feelings that cause us to defend. They walk through it with you they don't just tell you what to do, so join us in...2021-11-0244 min

Therapist Uncensored Podcast150th Episode! Recap and Recommendations with Sue Marriott & Ann KelleySue Marriott LCSW CGP and Ann Kelley PhD conclude their fifth season of this podcast. Therapist Uncensored is packed with incredible content and has an archive of episodes developed over the past 5 years with the theme growing security. The expert guest list is an embarrassment of riches. This episode reviews some of the highlights and points you in the right direction based on your interest. Shownotes at therapistuncensored.com/tu150.2021-07-2243 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastBoys and Sex: Modern Young Men and Sexuality with Peggy OrensteinDive into hook up culture, locker room talk, and the modern shifts in youth sexual behavior and health. Peggy Orenstein unpacks her new book “Boys and Sex” with co-host Ann Kelley. In this peak behind the curtain of the experience of young male sexuality, we’ll see how boys struggle with the conflicting needs of the conquest narrative of sex and their own internal understanding of pleasure. Her book was written about both cis and trans men, and covers the whole spectrum of sexual orientations, backgrounds, and experiences.2020-12-1358 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastWhat if you are the difficult one? Holding your own with Challenging Personalities (Series 6 of 6)So we've been studying how to hold our own with challenging people, but what if you become aware that that difficult person is you? Cringe. Yea, us too, we get it. We summarize and review the series and focus on how to change your life for the better. Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley take you along on some personal examples of being difficult themselves.2020-12-101h 05

Therapist Uncensored PodcastHolding Your Own 3: "Borderline" traits Session 4When does sensitivity cross the line into clinical reactivity? Borderline traits, or those with highly reactive personalities, are another common challenge in relationship that we might need support to navigate well. Today's episode sees co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott unpack high reactivity through a caring and developmental approach. Together, they discuss how these dynamics and traits arise, what they look like, and what we can do when we find ourselves in relationships with them. Find more here www.therapistuncensored.com/episodes 2020-11-1843 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastHolding Your Own 2: Grandiose Narcissism has Met it's MatchHolding Your Own with Challenging Personalities - staying secure in relationship with those high in narcissistic, borderline or anti-social traits. Session 2 - Staying secure in connection with one kind of narcissism: grandiose narcissism Co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott have launched a new series titled “Holding Your Own with Challenging Personalities.” Together, they’ll unpack how to navigate strained relationships during and after this pandemic. The goal of this series is to bring you the skills and practices that you can use right now to get to secure relating and if not that, helping you ground and stay in your secure...2020-11-0251 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastCrisis Exhaustion - Hang in There, it's Eventually Going to Be OK...with Sue Marriott and Ann KelleyTogether we can protect our hearts from freezing in bitterness, drowning in sorrow, lashing out in justified rage or worse, disconnecting. Fight the exhaustion that comes with the relentless crises surrounding us now.2020-10-0831 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastWhat Do We Mean by Modern Attachment? Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley DiscussPausing the riches of the guest interviews, Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley are back to discuss what has changed in the attachment field. They share what makes it modern anyway, review the science, and discuss their Modern Attachment-Regulation Spectrum (MARS). They also cover best practices for getting through online therapy. Learn more at Therapist Uncensored www.therapistuncensored.com and get full shownotes here.2020-07-2351 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastNarratives of Fear: George Floyd, Protest, and Community Empowerment with Dr. Raphael TravisGeorge Floyd. Breanna Taylor. Tony McDade. Sandra Bland. Rayshard Brooks. Tamir Rice. Emmett Till. The violence enacted by the criminal justice system isn’t new, so what makes this moment feel so different? Dr. Raphael Travis joins co-host Ann Kelley to break down the now global protests against the murder of George Floyd. Together they explore the role of youth empowerment, coronavirus, and narrative storytelling in helping fuel the biggest social movement in decades.2020-06-2351 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastLoving & Living with Adult Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) with Ari TuckmanWhen we think of ADHD, we often imagine a restless & figity child who loses focus rather than the grown up parent or partner these kids eventually become. It is a legit neurological condition - yet adults with ADHD or ADD often believe that they are forgetful, lazy, selfish & disorganized. Unfortunately sometimes so do their partners. This episode will help you apprecitate your unique gifts or value your distractable partner. In this episode, Dr. Tuckman sheds light on how ADHD can impact our relationships, from conflict to sex, and outlines ways to improve both. "ADHD...2020-05-1957 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastImprove Your Emotional Health - Update on the 30 Day Challenge - Yikes!In this episode of Therapist Uncensored, co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss their progress in their 30-Day Challenge. If you haven’t joined us in the 30-Day Challenge, you can start today by http://therapistuncensored.com/challenge (CLICKING HERE)! No sales no gimmicks, just support for you to change!SHOW NOTESPositive, Humbling, and Frickin’ HardAnn discuses the positive activation around sharing and discussing the 30-Day Challenge. Sue shares about the Challenge of the Challenge A bit ambitious because it is a deeply held unconscious learning Working on Changing Adaptations From Early ChildhoodThe consensus in the Facebook group and...2020-02-1928 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU115: Improving Your Emotional Health – the Challenge & the Update with Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP30-Day Emotional Health Challenge Update In this episode of Therapist Uncensored, co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss their progress in their 30-Day Emotional Health Challenge. If you haven’t joined us in the 30-Day Challenge, you can start today by CLICKING HERE! No sales no gimmicks, just support for you to change! Positive, Humbling, and Frickin’ Hard Ann discuses the positive activation around sharing and discussing the 30-Day Emotional Health Challenge. Sue shares about the Challenge of the Emotional Health Challenge A bit ambitious because it is a deeply held unconscious learning Working on Changing Adaptations From Early Childhood The c...2020-02-1928 min

Therapist Uncensored Podcast30 Day Emotional Health Challenge with Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP & Ann Kelley PhD Sue & Ann laughing at themselves, probably at our bumbling efforts on our 30-day challenge! Enough theory – it’s time to choose JUST ONE emotional health goal to work on for the next 30 days. Let go of what no longer serves you. Join us for our 30-day emotional health challenge!In this episode,Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP are walking the walk. They personally challenge you to pick one thing to work on for the next 30 days – something challenging but within reach. Show Notes BackstoryIt’s February – this is not a new years resolution...2020-02-0438 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU114: Take the 30 Day Emotional Health Challenge!Sue & Ann laughing at themselves, probably at our bumbling efforts on our 30-day emotional health challenge! Enough theory – it’s time to choose JUST ONE emotional health goal to work on for the next 30 days. Let go of what no longer serves you. Join us for our 30-day emotional health challenge! In this episode, Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP are walking the walk. They personally challenge you to pick one thing to work on for the next 30 days – something challenging but within reach. Show Notes - 30 day emotional health challenge Backstory It’s February – this is not a new years r...2020-02-0438 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastIntegrating Self-Defense, Neuroscience and Affirmative Consent to Build Empowerment and Heal Trauma“Yes means yes is the new no means no!”Often we doubt our gut instinct, question our right to take up space in the world, and live governed by fear -especially when we’ve experienced trauma. Meet the Safety Team, a group of ordinary women doing extraordinary work teaching women how to build resiliency and re-claim their sense of agency.In this episode,Co-host Dr Ann Kelley joins this powerful group of women as they teach us how to find our voice, feel more present and powerful in our bodies, build resilience, and heal trauma. Who is The Safety Team? ...2020-01-2350 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU113: Integrating Self-Defense, Neuroscience and Affirmative Consent to Build Empowerment and Heal Trauma“Yes means yes is the new no means no!” Often we doubt our gut instinct, question our right to take up space in the world, and live governed by fear -especially when we’ve experienced trauma. Meet the Safety Team, a group of ordinary women doing extraordinary work teaching women how to build resiliency and re-claim their sense of agency. In this episode, Co-host Dr Ann Kelley joins this powerful group of women as they teach us how to find our voice, feel more present and powerful in our bodies, build resilience, and heal trauma. Who is The Safety Team? Christi...2020-01-2350 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastNavigating Narcissistic RelationshipsYou deserve better!! Are you lost in a narcissistic relationship? The term narcissism is easily tossed around, especially in this world of selfies. However if you are deeply connected to someone with the personality disorder narcissism it is a very real, painful and a seriously disruptive experience. It is also surprisingly difficult to identify when you are immersed in it, and difficult to disengage the pattern of supporting their world-view. We break it down here!In this episode on narcissism,Co-hosts Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP continue the dialogue on narcissistic relationships...2019-12-2443 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU108: Judgment of Others & Self-Criticism Explored as a DefenseJudgement says more about the judg-er than the judg-ee. It’s not Judgement – Bad. It’s Judgement-Interesting. Everybody judges and in truth, we unconsciously evaluate good/bad all the time – both positively and negatively. It’s our brains appraisal system. However unchecked it’s also a very handy interpersonal defense. Today we explore one aspect of insecure functioning, unchecked judgement and harsh self-criticism. It is just one common insecure pattern to think in absolutes and moral righteousness, and before you judge judgers, those of us who’s favorite flavor is self-criticism and self-judgement please be warned that ha...2019-11-1521 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU108: Judgment and Self-Criticism Unchecked – a Great Interpersonal DefenseJudgment says more about the judg-er than the judg-ee. It’s not Judgement – Bad. It’s Judgment-Interesting. Everybody judges and in truth, we unconsciously evaluate good/bad all the time – both positively and negatively. It’s our brains appraisal system. However unchecked it’s also a very handy interpersonal defense. Today we explore one aspect of insecure functioning, unchecked judgment and harsh self-criticism. It is just one common insecure pattern to think in absolutes and moral righteousness, and before you judge judgers, those of us who’s favorite flavor is self-criticism and self-judgement please be warned that harsh scale extends quickly to tho...2019-11-1521 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastWhat Actually Heals in Therapy with Psychoanalyst Nancy McWilliamsLearn what actually works in therapy. It’s hard to verbalize the problem with “evidence-based” models of care, but renowned psychoanalyst and psychologist Nancy McWilliams does just that. She further describes what happens in quality depth-oriented therapies such as psychoanalytically-informed, attachment-oriented therapy, and integrates the neurobiological aspect that Freud started that has now been confirmed. Who is Nancy McWilliams?Nancy McWilliams, PhD, ABPP, is Visiting Professor in the Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology at Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey, and has a private practice in Flemington, New Jersey. She is on the editorial board of Psycho...2019-10-1845 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU106: What Actually Heals in Therapy with Psychoanalyst Nancy McWilliamsLearn what actually works in therapy. It’s hard to verbalize the problem with “evidence-based” models of care, but renowned psychoanalyst and psychologist Nancy McWilliams does just that. She further describes what happens in quality depth-oriented therapies such as psychoanalytically-informed, attachment-oriented therapy, and integrates the neurobiological aspect that Freud started that has now been confirmed. Who is Nancy McWilliams? Nancy McWilliams, PhD, ABPP, is Visiting Professor in the Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology at Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey, and has a private practice in Flemington, New Jersey. She is on the editorial board of Psychoanalytic Psychol...2019-10-1845 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU105 Narcissism What is Going on Under the Defense with Sue Marriott and Ann KelleyHey everybody, we are BACK and ready to take off on Season 4!!! Wahoo! Narcissism – This time we focus on how it’s created and what is going on behind the narcissists defenses. Later we will address Malignant Narcissism, which is in a class all to itself! It deserves an entire episode, but for today we will look at what causes it, healthy and pathological degrees of it and what is really going on under the hood of the person afflicted with narcissism. We really heard the requests wanting to hear more about some of the diagnostic pieces of a...2019-10-0344 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU105: Narcissism – What is Going on Under the Defense with Sue Marriott and Ann KelleyHey everybody, we are BACK and ready to take off on Season 4!!! Wahoo! Narcissism – This time we focus on how it’s created and what is going on behind the narcissists defenses. Later we will address Malignant Narcissism, which is in a class all to itself! It deserves an entire episode, but for today we will look at what causes it, healthy and pathological degrees of it and what is really going on under the hood of the person afflicted with narcissism. We really heard the requests wanting to hear more about some of the diagnostic pieces of attachment, trauma and the...2019-10-0344 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastCuriosity: One of the Most Powerful Tools For Connection (Replay)Have you ever just sat back and observed a small child as they learn something new? There is this profound sense of awe and wonder with each new discovery they make. Kids are naturally curious. As adults, we tend to take what we know about the world for granted. But, through the eyes of a child, the world is an exciting mystery just waiting to be discovered! What if we told you that it is possible to experience that childlike curiosity in your day-to-day life, starting right now? What if we also told you that...2019-08-1640 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU103: Curiosity – One of the Most Powerful Tools For Connection (Replay)Have you ever just sat back and observed a small child as they learn something new? There is this profound sense of awe and wonder with each new discovery they make. Kids are naturally curious. As adults, we tend to take what we know about the world for granted. But, through the eyes of a child, the world is an exciting mystery just waiting to be discovered! What if we told you that it is possible to experience that childlike curiosity in your day-to-day life, starting right now? What if we also told you that curiosity is one of the most...2019-08-1640 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU100: Reflections and Favorites From 100 Episodes100 Episodes and Going Strong!Tune in for a review of our listener’s favorite episodes and back stories about the evolution of Therapist Uncensored with co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott. This is a show hosted by 2 therapists who share the most usable science on attachment relationships, psychotherapy, and trauma. It combines both host lead conversations and interviews with top experts in their respective fields – neuroscientists, therapists, researchers, musicians, pop-culture celebrities, and so on – that share their wisdom about relationships. Today we celebrate starting with colleague Patty Olwell, and evolving everything from our messaging, our website, our audio and ed...2019-07-0853 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU100: Reflections and Favorites From 100 Episodes100 Episodes and Going Strong! A Review of Our Most Popular and Referenced Episodes Tune in for a review of our listener’s favorite episodes and back stories about the evolution of Therapist Uncensored with co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott. This is a show hosted by 2 therapists who share the most usable science on attachment relationships, psychotherapy, and trauma. It combines both host lead conversations and interviews with top experts in their respective fields – neuroscientists, therapists, researchers, musicians, pop-culture celebrities, and so on – that share their wisdom about relationships. Today we celebrate starting with colleague Patty Olwell, and evolving everything from our...2019-07-0853 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastFood, The Body, Trauma, & Attachment With Guests Paula Scatoloni & Rachel Lewis-Marlowhttps://www.therapistuncensored.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/RachelLewis-MarlowPaulaScatoloni-e1561646721938.png () What if we flipped the script and learned to see our body as a messenger that needs to be heard rather than an obstacle to be conquered when it comes to our relationship with food? When we take physiological perspective, we learn that the body has much to say not only about food but also emotional regulation and our basic human needs for attachment and defense. Using the sensory information, attachment system and working with defenses. Who are our guests on this episode, you ask? Well here ya go, they are...2019-06-2757 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU99: Food, The Body, Trauma, & Attachment With Guests Paula Scatoloni & Rachel Lewis-MarlowWhat if we flipped the script and learned to see our body as a messenger that needs to be heard rather than an obstacle to be conquered when it comes to our relationship with food? When we take physiological perspective, we learn that the body has much to say not only about food but also emotional regulation and our basic human needs for attachment and defense. Using the sensory information, attachment system and working with defenses. Who are our guests on this episode, you ask? Well here ya go, they are pretty bad-ass and they were interviewed by Dr. Ann K...2019-06-271h 01

Therapist Uncensored PodcastDiving Deeper Into the DMM of Attachment Science With Ann Kelley & Sue MarriottDive deeper into this new (to us) model of interpreting attachment science and discover how to apply it into your daily life. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD have fun breaking down the last two episodes where Dr. Patricia Crittenden so generously shared her model called the Dynamic Maturational Model (DMM). Focus is on personal and clinical importance in this last of a 3-part series on the DMM. Before we begin:A’s (Red in the DMM)=Historically referred to as Blue on TU B’s (Blue in the DMM)=Historically referred to as Green on TU ...2019-06-1326 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU98: Dive Deeper into a Model of Attachment Science (the DMM) by Ann Kelley & Sue MarriottDive deeper into this new (to us) model of interpreting attachment science and discover how to apply it into your daily life. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD have fun breaking down the last two episodes where Dr. Patricia Crittenden so generously shared her model called the Dynamic Maturational Model (DMM). Focus is on personal and clinical importance in this last of a 3-part series on the DMM. Before we begin: A’s (Red in the DMM)=Historically referred to as Blue on TU B’s (Blue in the DMM)=Historically referred to as Green on TU C’s (Green...2019-06-1326 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU94: The Science of Self-Regulation - Breaking down Polyvagal TheoryThe science of relaxing into love, this episode continues the exploration of Polyvagal Theory, one of the most important theories of our generation, especially when it comes to trauma and psychological treatment. Join Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley as they continue to break down and bring Polyvagal Theory to life. Through discussion and real-life examples of what happens when our bodies experience threat, you will learn how to recognize when you or your loved one is experiencing an unconscious physiological threat response as well as some practical self-regulation skills to move back into safety. Additionally, we will begin unfolding...2019-04-1830 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU94: The Science of Self-Regulation – Breaking Down Polyvagal TheoryThe science of relaxing into love, this episode continues the exploration of Polyvagal Theory by bringing it to life through discussion and real-life examples. Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley continue to break down one of the most important theories of our generation when it comes to trauma and psychological treatment.2019-04-1730 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU92: Understanding Addiction and Attachment-Informed Treatment With Guests Brad Kennedy & Vanessa KennedyLearn 3 distinct features that make one vulnerable to addiction and understand the varied dynamics through the lens of attachment and emotional regulation. In today’s episode, Dr. Ann Kelley interviews two experts in the field of substance abuse treatment, Brad Kennedy and Dr. Vanessa Kennedy from Driftwood Recovery Center. They discuss their attachment-based perspective on what addiction is, how it develops, how understanding our attachment styles critically impacts the treatment and recovery process. Learn what they have to say about stigma, shame, self-destruction, and check out the incredible resources included in today’s topic. Addi...2019-03-151h 14

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU91: Curiosity - One of the Most Powerful Tools For ConnectionHave you ever just sat back and observed a small child as they learn something new? There is this profound sense of awe and wonder with each new discovery they make. Kids are naturally curious. As adults, we tend to take what we know about the world for granted. But, through the eyes of a child, the world is an exciting mystery just waiting to be discovered! What if we told you that it is possible to experience that childlike curiosity in your day-to-day life, starting right now? What if we also told you that...2019-03-0139 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU88: 6 Steps to Security & Self-Confidence You Can Do By YourselfStrategies to deliver what to do, not so much why to do it. Building self-confidence and inner security on your own can seem nearly impossible, so for today we are ditching the heady theoretical neuroscience to break down 6 quick tips to improve self-confidence entirely on your own. It’s science-based but we focus on the actionable. You’ll discover how this handful of practical steps can vastly improve the way you feel internally and the way you carry yourself externally. Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott co-host this show to bring the science of relationships to the...2019-01-2429 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastMentalization and Regression, Responding to Listener's Questions with co-host Sue MarriottTherapist Uncensored co-host Sue Marriott ends the year with an episode answering two great questions about mentalization, regression and attachment left by listeners. By the way she totally missed her co-host and partner in crime, Dr. Ann Kelley, who was out of town and could not make it work before end of year. Hi Ann! Can’t wait to have you back on air! In this episode, we discuss:Question 1: “If someone is so far on the blue spectrum, they are completely out of touch with emotions and needs and intimate relationships, trying to think of what the...2018-12-2132 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU85: Attachment in the Classroom with Guest Linno RhodesUsing the science of attachment, mentalization and emotional regulation in the classroom, and in this case, adult learners. A look at the take-aways from a tour of relational science experts, guest Linno Rhodes joins co-host Dr. Ann Kelley as they look at applying the skills learned in one’s life and the workplace. Our guest today shares herself as a case example of how learning about the use of attachment science and how it affects one’s perceptions of co-workers, employees and students can change your life personally, and your effectiveness in the workplace. For her that meant the...2018-12-1450 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU85: Attachment in the Classroom with Guest Linno RhodesUsing the science of attachment, mentalizing and emotional regulation in the classroom. A look at the take-aways from a tour of relational science experts, guest Linno Rhodes joins co-host Dr. Ann Kelley as they look at applying the skills learned in one's life and the workplace.2018-12-1450 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU 84: Why Do We Over (or Under) React? The Neurobiological Underpinnings of Attachment CategoriesNeurobiological differences can be detected between secure and insecure relating, and even between the two organized insecure patterns of attachment (Dismissing and Preoccupied)! Cool, huh!? In this Therapist Uncensored episode, co-hosts and real therapists Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP begin to the question – why are there only 3-4 categories established in the largest body of attachment research given the zillions of different experiences across the globe? We point to the neuroscience behind our attachment strategies that limit our biology in responding to stress and threat. This is cool because we can understand it and be...2018-11-3055 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU82: The Paradox of Masculinity with Guest Esther PerelCan men be BOTH Relational and Masculine? It couldn’t be a more important time for thoughtful, honest, and provocative discussion on what it means to be a man in today’s culture. Perel makes a case that men are both harmed by the existing power structures and perpetuate harm by the codes imposed on them by all of us. In 2018 there are many contentious ideas about masculinity and “the male code” including confusion by men about how to hold themselves out as safe and masculine during this time of #MeToo and Kavanaugh. Esther Perel, named by Oprah as...2018-10-2534 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU81: How Good Boundaries Actually Bring Us Closer, with Guest Juliane Taylor ShoreInterpersonal co-regulation requires boundary setting. Most of us haven’t been lucky enough to learn to be good at boundary setting naturally, by good examples, so we have to literally be taught how to do this important skill. Well today we are in luck! Jello will be your friend. 🙂 Therapist Uncensored co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott join the founder of IPNB Psychotherapy of Austin, Dr. Juliane Taylor Shore, in a discussion on interpersonal neurobiology and how it relates to boundaries. We’ll explore the three types of boundaries, how to co-create boundaries and how...2018-10-1750 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU78: The Stress Response System (Attachment) Across the Lifespan - (Replay) Photo by eberhard grossgasteiger How does your involuntary stress response system affect you throughout life? FAVORITE EPISODE!!! This one takes a wide-angle look at attachment throughout one’s life, discusses how one’s environment affects their system’s involuntary response to stress, and how that stress response system impacts us from infancy to the autumn years. In this episode, co-hosts Ann Kelley Phd and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss attachment across the lifespan, specifically looking at the elder years and how our attachment system affect...2018-09-2632 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU78: The Stress Response System (Attachment) Across the Lifespan – (Replay)FAVORITE EPISODE!!! This one takes a wide-angle look at attachment throughout one’s life, discusses how one’s environment affects their system’s involuntary response to stress, and how that stress response system impacts us from infancy to the autumn years. In this episode, co-hosts Ann Kelley Phd and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss attachment across the lifespan, specifically looking at the elder years and how our attachment system affects us as caretakers of our parents or as the senior who may be undergoing the various losses inherent in aging.2018-09-2632 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU75: Behind the Scenes with Ann and Sue, Reflections and A Look AheadIn this candid and more personal conversation than usual, Therapist Uncensored co-hosts Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP open up about the last year of podcasting and a few painful life events. Since they are therapists first, they typically keep themselves somewhat out and keep content forward. This is to protect patients that may be listening but also to keep the focus on the material the audience is tuning into to hear, the content. However during this break between seasons, they’ve had time to both prepare for next season and really get honest about where th...2018-08-3010 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU73: Building Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr Kristin Neff (replay)Self Compassion is an antidote to shame, the underpinning of narcissism. It is fierce accountability that is core to psychological health… who knew? Most of us think of it as being soft on yourself, but our guest will reveal the surprising power and science of self-compassion in this episode. Co-host Dr. Ann Kelley interviews Dr. Kristen Neff, an Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin and a foremost author and expert on Self Compassion. Self Esteem vs Self Compassion This is not feel-good, la-la, therapy-talk, it’s real science. Learn the important distinction between thes...2018-08-151h 00

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU73: Building Grit Through Self-Compassion With Dr Kristin Neff (replay)Self Compassion is an antidote to shame, the underpinning of narcissism. It is fierce accountability that is core to psychological health… who knew? Most of us think of it as being soft on yourself, but our guest will reveal the surprising power and science of self-compassion in this episode. Co-host Dr. Ann Kelley interviews Dr. Kristen Neff, an Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin and a foremost author and expert on Self Compassion. Self Esteem vs Self Compassion This is not feel-good, la-la, therapy-talk, it’s real science. Learn the impo...2018-08-151h 00

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU72: Attachment Parenting Versus Attachment Science, Clearing up MisconceptionsFinding the middle ground between constantly attending to your child versus letting them learn to self-soothe is a challenge that all parents must face. In this episode, Therapist Uncensored hosts, Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP, break down the difference between “Attachment Parenting” and the science of actual Attachment theory. They share key elements from research outcomes that surround many common misconceptions of applying the theory itself. You’ll learn that the ideals setup by Dr.William and Martha Sears and Richard Ferber might not fully translate in today’s world of parenting and that the...2018-08-0438 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU72: Attachment Parenting Vs. Attachment Science – Clearing up MisconceptionsFinding the middle ground between constantly attending to your child versus letting them learn to self-soothe is a challenge that all parents must face. In this episode, Therapist Uncensored hosts, Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP, break down the difference between “Attachment Parenting” and the science of actual Attachment theory. They share key elements from research outcomes that surround many common misconceptions of applying the theory itself. You’ll learn that the ideals setup by Dr.William and Martha Sears and Richard Ferber might not fully translate in today’s world of parenting and that the way you respond...2018-08-0438 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU71: Speakably Sexy – Communicating to Make Sex Hotter and Relationships More AliveWhat makes the ins and outs of sexuality so hard to talk aboout? It turns out, if couples do talk about sex, the conversation is often mostly about frequency. However, what is missing are the zillion of other thoughts and feelings we have about intimacy (or lack there of), desire (or lack thereof), fantasies (or lack thereof), pleasure (or lack therefo) and, oh yeah, the mechanics of sex as well. But don’t sweat it, in this episode Therapist Uncensored co-host Dr. Ann Kelley joins guest Dr. Susan Ansorge to talk about talking about sex.&nb...2018-07-2437 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU70: Challenge Your “Busy” Identity – Gain Consciousness Over Your PaceDo you use a to-do list as a way to justify the need to be busy rather then the other way around? Idleness can breed discomfort and busyness seems to help to fill in the gap. Learn how conscious busyness and idleness can generate cognitive health and happiness, while unconscious busyness just adds to the stress trap. As real therapists, we challenge you to not believe what you think. Inquire. It’s healthy to question the stories you tell about yourself and the world… update your model. Check out your story. See if w...2018-07-1940 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastA Practical Technique to Calm and Confidence with Guest Richard HillCalm the chaos of your mind by trying out these ideas and this technique with yourself or if you are a clinician, your patients. The Mirroring Hand technique teaches you to use your natural problem solving to manage stress and anxiety. In this episode we dive into practical techniques for building your own growing edge and using your natural felt-sense of security. Discover how to tap into your inner wisdom by using curiosity about your own body to cultivate focus and healing. Join psychotherapist and author Richard Hill in an over-the-pond discussion with co-host Dr. Ann Kelley about...2018-06-2545 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU63: Living with Cancer - The Six Principles of Emotional Healing with Guest Kelly InselmannCancer sucks, no way around it. If you have it, had it or are supporting someone who does, this episode will be nourishment for you by bringing your mind and body into the healing and recovery process for cancer and trauma is so important. Fighting cancer is often traumatic physically, emotionally and relationally. Podcast host Dr. Ann Kelley joins therapist and Yoga Instructor Kelly Inselmann (LCSW, C-IAYT,CGP) as she shares her personal journey through cancer recovery and describes her passion and process in supporting others to find hope and healing while in this compromised state. They discuss...2018-05-1040 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU62: The Luv Doc - Dating and Relationship Advice from the Trenches with Dan HardickBy Luv Doc Get Dan Hardick’s irreverent and bitingly honest insights on the dating scene and relationships that survive. Also known as the Luv Doc, he provides a unique view with his decades of experience editing Personal Ads and giving cringe-worthy dating advice with his column in the Austin Chronicle. Great insights and rowdy fun. Today’s episode may shock, offend or entertain (we are uncensored, remember?), but we are excited to keep it real by bringing in a real-guy from the trenches of the dating world. Columnist Dan Hardick, the beloved “Luv Doc” from the Austin Chronicl...2018-05-0151 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU61: It's Not Crazy, It's a Solution to an Unsolvable Problem - Disorganized AttachmentThe elusive 4th category of adult attachment, disorganization, and how this state of mind relates to everyone, no matter your trauma history. Dropping into overwhelm and disorganization happens to everyone at times, and some more than others. When we have been exposed to serious danger, unresolved fright or major loss in such a way that it interferes with healthy coping patterns, we are left to our own to manage the world. In research terms they call this disorganized or unresolved, but we’d like to describe it as squirting squid ink to confuse who we th...2018-04-2436 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU61: It’s Not Crazy; It’s a Solution to an Unsolvable Problem – Disorganized AttachmentThe elusive 4th category of adult attachment, disorganization - and how this state of mind relates to everyone, no matter your trauma history. Wrapping up this 3-part series (episode 59, 60 & 61) focusing specifically on adult attachment, Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss disorganized attachment, how it forms, how it appears in adult life, and how you can identify when you fall in a pocket of it to organize yourself internally and externally. Learn how to adjust back into an organized and more secure state of mind and begin to conquer your disconnection through focusing on grounding your mind, dev...2018-04-2436 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU60: Preoccupation in Relationships - Signs and Solutions to Anxious AttachmentImprove your sense of security and communicate more effectively inside yourself, and with those you love by understand preoccupied/anxious attachment. Begin to learn to manage your body’s reactivity in relationships by learning about preoccupied/anxious attachment and how it relates to unconscious regulation of the brain. Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss the Insecure Preoccupied, or Anxious/Ambivalent side of the attachment spectrum. This discussion can stand alone, but it also continues as a soft Part 2 from last episode http://www.th...2018-04-1634 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU60: Preoccupation in Relationships – Signs and Solutions to Anxious AttachmentDr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss the Insecure Preoccupied, or Anxious/Ambivalent side of the attachment spectrum. This discussion can stand alone, but it also continues as a soft Part 2 from last episode TU59: Are You Cool or Just Cut Off – Dismissing Attachment. The hosts begin to really go into how to use the attachment spectrum and use it to identify where you might fall and how to move towards a more secure place. Find out how preoccupied attachment is formed and passed on, as well as how starting anxious effects relationships later in our adult life. You’l...2018-04-1634 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU59: Dismissing/Avoidant Styles of Relating in Adulthood,Confidence is not the same thing as courage. Sometimes you feel secure but really have just learned to cut off from important life-giving emotions. This episode is especially for those “talk to the hand” kind of people or those that love them. You know, the uber-independent, rational, left-brain, excel spreadsheet person that sees others emotions as needy and weak. Co-hosts Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD translate decades of research and clinical experience into easy to understand usable points to help you improve your understanding of why people appear so irra...2018-04-0336 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastEmotional Navigation of the Internet for Both Kids and Adults with Guest Catherine KnibbsEnjoyable one – learn the problematic and adaptive psychology behind online social interactions as Therapist Uncensored host Dr. Ann Kelley interviews this delightful UK-based psychotherapist and author. Catherine Knibbs coined the phrase “cyber trauma” and is the author of The Darker Side of the Internet for Children And Young People. This is not conservative doom and gloom. We get into attachment and neuroscience and provide realistic recommendations to help you and your children navigate the web, unpack myths, identify cyber bullying, discuss consent and provide proactive strategies that lead towards integration and health. Respond more a...2018-03-281h 02

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU58: Improving the Interpersonal World of the Internet for Both Kids and Adults with Guest Catherine KnibbsEnjoyable one - learn the problematic and adaptive psychology behind online social interactions as Therapist Uncensored host Ann Kelley interviews the delightful UK-based psychotherapist. Catherine Knibbs coined the phrase “cyber trauma” and is author of The Darker Side of the Internet for Children And Young People. This is not conservative doom and gloom, they get into attachment and neuroscience and provide realistic recommendations to help your children navigate the web, unpack myths, identify cyber bullying, discuss consent and provide proactive strategies that lead toward towards integration and health. Respond more adaptively to the to the internet and social media rathe...2018-03-281h 02

Therapist Uncensored PodcastFeeling Empty? Demoralization and the Fight Back to Caring AgainHave you given up the fight (political, interpersonal….)? In this episode we attempt to reignite the fight inside you for things that used to matter, and distinguish demoralization from clinical depression. Hopelessness, loss of meaning, and existential distress – these are the characteristics not of depression as one might think, but of demoralization. They are different syndromes with different directions for intervention. Find out more in this episode where co-hosts Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP discuss how transitioning from taking an active stance towards either situation can be bene...2018-02-1432 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU55: Feeling Empty? Demoralization and the Fight Back to Caring Again.Hopelessness, loss of meaning, and existential distress – these are the characteristics not of depression as one might think, but of demoralization. They are different syndromes with different directions for intervention. Find out more in this episode where co-hosts Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP discuss how transitioning from taking an active stance towards either situation can be beneficial. Learn how you can develop both internal and external coping mechanisms against demoralization.2018-02-1432 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastThe Stress Response System (Attachment) Across the Life SpanHow does your involuntary stress response system affect you throughout life? This episode takes a wide-angle look at attachment throughout one’s life, discusses how one’s environment affects their system’s involuntary response to stress, and how that stress response system impacts us from infancy to the autumn years. In this episode, co-hosts Ann Kelley Phd and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss attachment across the lifespan, specifically looking at the elder years and how our attachment system affects us as caretakers of our...2018-01-3132 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastMindfulness, Movement and Yoga to Manage Arousal, with Guest Kelly InselmannUse these neuroscience-backed techniques to conquer your anxiety and depression with a few simple yoga and mindfulness principles. This podcast will teach you how combining movement, rhythm and sound as well as practicing mindfulness can allow for a calm alertness and tackle everyday life. Psychotherapist and Yoga Instructor Kelly Inselmann joins Dr. Ann Kelley in an extensive discussion about tapping into your body and gaining a better understanding and awareness of it to ultimately improve your mental health. This podcast is paired with a bonus episode, a 12-minute...2018-01-0846 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastConquer Shame by Understanding the Science Behind the Feeling, with Guest Expert, Dr. Steve FinnShame, the good, the bad and the ugly! In this podcast, learn how to recognize the various forms of shame and how guilt can be an antidote to this pit in the stomach feeling. Sue Marriott, Dr. Ann Kelley and guest Dr. Stephen Finn engage in a wide-ranging discussion about the least favorite feeling in most people – the collapsed feeling of shame! It is more complicated than you think. Shamelessness and debilitating shame are both toxic and yet there is a version of these feeling that is quite healthy. Listen as we discuss the contemporary research an...2017-12-1559 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastConquer Shame by Understanding the Science Behind the Feeling, with Guest Expert Dr. Steve FinnShame, the good, the bad and the ugly! In this podcast, learn how to recognize the various forms of shame and how guilt can be an antidote to this pit in the stomach feeling. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP, Dr. Ann Kelley and guest Dr. Stephen Finn engage in a wide-ranging discussion about the least favorite feeling in most people – the collapsed feeling of shame!2017-12-1559 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastThe Psychology of an Entrepreneur -Surprising InsightsLearn what goes on inside the mind of a successful entrepreneur and bring to life your own dormant projects! Kristina ‘Z’ Holly, curator and host of first ever TEDx, as well as the founder of the podcast, “http://artofmfg.com/ (The Art of Manufacturing),” joins our own Dr. Ann Kelley to delve into the mind and personality of an entrepreneur. Through her podcast, Z speaks in-depth with inspiring and successful entrepreneurs and shares wisdom and insights about this population. Discover how risk, reasoning, and cognitive biases work towards entrepreneurial decision-making. The bene...2017-12-0752 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastFive Strategies to Manage Intense EmotionsBecome a master not a disaster at relationships! In this episode we provide some quick tips to help you regulate emotions in yourself and others. Deepen your skills at deciphering these things we call feelings (ack!) and learn how to use this information to co-regulate yourself and those close to you. What happens when we’re suddenly overcome with emotions? In this episode, Ann Kelley, Ph.D. and Sue Marriott, LCSW, CGP discuss five tips to internally and externally regulate your emotions when things get too much. Yo...2017-11-2827 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTensions Around #MeToo, Bridging Gender & Power in This Conversation#MeToo flips power on it’s head, but in so doing has also caused strife within good relationships and high tension and some polarization across the gender divide. Women are taking their abuse and assault stories out from hiding. They are using their collective voice to mobilize and they are Telling Their Stories. The power and safety of strength in numbers, #MeToo social media phenomenon, has unleashed a flood of sharing as-yet unheard stories of a wide variety of unwanted intrusions. In this episode we explore the tensions felt by both men and women in their discussions around coming out ab...2017-11-2159 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastYour Brain on Music: Learn How to Use Music to Improve Brain HealthLearn how to use music to improve brain health, manage mood, increase relational happiness and get tips on how to build neural plasticity through this art. Remember, it’s not just cotton candy for the ears! Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss the deeper meaning behind people’s responses to music on the brain, and how music affects happiness and mood. How can we purposely manipulate our mood with tunes and lyrics in terms of motivation, distraction, synchronicity and stimulation? How is music a form of social architecture and how do we interact with it individually and as a whol...2017-10-0934 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastSexual Vitality, The Six Principles of Sexual Health with Doug Braun-Harvey(PART 2 of 2) Add pleasure back in to the conversation about healthy sex and the whole conversation changes! This is the second half of a conversation with Doug Braun-Harvey, co-author of http://amzn.to/2xLUYjW (Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior, Rethinking Sex Addiction ), where psychotherapists Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott continue to discuss the six principles of sexual health as defined by Doug Braun-Harvey. If you missed the first episode https://www.therapistuncensored.com/therapist-uncensored-season-2-sexual-vitality-new-conversation-sexual-health-doug-braun-harvey-part-1-2-sexual-debut-vs-losing-virginity-wow-fun-2/ (hear it here: Part 1) How do shared values, honesty and pleasure work into having a healthy sexual life...2017-09-2639 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU42: Sexual Vitality, Refreshing our Understanding of Sexual Health with Doug-Braun Harvey (Part 1 of 2)Add pleasure back in to the conversation about healthy sex and the whole conversation changes! In this very sexy conversation (earphones around little kids are good idea for this one!), we talk about the balance between pleasure and safety as a way to think of sexual health. “Sexual debut” vs losing our virginity… wow, how fun is that shift in thinking, for example? This is the first half of an extended conversation with Doug Braun-Harvey, co-author of Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior, Rethinking Sex Addiction, where Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss two of the six princi...2017-09-1952 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU41: The Dark Side Of Therapy: Recognizing When The Therapeutic Relationship Goes BadIN THIS EPISODE:The Dark Side Of Therapy: Recognizing When The Therapeutic Relationship Goes BadShow NoteQueue Darth Vader music… we admit it, not all therapy is good therapy. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss the potential negatives in the therapeutic relationship – focusing on how a client might distinguish between good therapy, that’s tough at times and a genuinely dysfunctional relationship. The difference between healthy dependency and one that erodes your sense of self is unpacked, as well as the idea of safe vulnerability that leads to change. Finally, they name the truth that one can feel h...2017-08-3139 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU41: The Dark Side Of Therapy – Recognizing When The Therapeutic Relationship Goes BadIN THIS EPISODE: The Dark Side Of Therapy: Recognizing When The Therapeutic Relationship Goes Bad Show Note Queue Darth Vader music… we admit it, not all therapy is good therapy. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss the potential negatives in the therapeutic relationship – focusing on how a client might distinguish between good therapy, that’s tough at times and a genuinely dysfunctional relationship. The difference between healthy dependency and one that erodes your sense of self is unpacked, as well as the idea of safe vulnerability that leads to change. Finally, they name the truth that...2017-08-3139 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU39: Getting What You Want From Therapy: The Essentials Of A Therapeutic RelationshipIN THIS EPISODE:Getting What You Want From Therapy: The Essentials Of A Therapeutic RelationshipShow NotesDr. Ann Kelley, Sue Marriott & Patty Olwell chat about the importance of building a strong therapeutic relationship with clients. We’ll discuss how feelings of love, hate, disappointment, excitement and more between a therapist and a patient are not only normal, but even potentially essential to working towards healing. They break-down counter-transference and how mutual influence works to help clients grow. Timeline0:00-0:27 Intro Questions 0:27- Possibilities for Therapist-Client relationship (potential for harm from power differential in the relationship OR neural sculpting) – When choosing a th...2017-08-1438 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU39: Getting What You Want From Therapy – The Essentials Of A Therapeutic RelationshipIN THIS EPISODE: Getting What You Want From Therapy: The Essentials Of A Therapeutic Relationship Show Notes Dr. Ann Kelley, Sue Marriott & Patty Olwell chat about the importance of building a strong therapeutic relationship with clients. We’ll discuss how feelings of love, hate, disappointment, excitement and more between a therapist and a patient are not only normal, but even potentially essential to working towards healing. They break-down counter-transference and how mutual influence works to help clients grow. Timeline 0:00-0:27 Intro Questions 0:27- Possibilities for Therapist-Client relationship (potential for harm from power differential in th...2017-08-1438 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU38: The Blended Family: How to Create Strong and Lasting Step-Family RelationshipsIN THIS EPISODE:The Blended Family: How to Create Strong and Lasting Step-Family RelationshipsShow NotesThis episode breaks it down by debunking the most popular myths and giving specific do’s and don’ts to help you create secure long-lasting families no matter their origin. Blended Family MythsWicked stepmothers and red-headed step children – our psyche with the help of Disney often portrays step-families through a suspicious lens. However, only 23% of families are made up of two heterosexual biological parents in their first marriage. So called “weird” families such as blended, same-sex parents, adoption and f...2017-07-2654 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU38: The Blended Family – How to Create Strong and Lasting Step-Family RelationshipsIN THIS EPISODE: The Blended Family: How to Create Strong and Lasting Step-Family Relationships Show Notes This episode breaks it down by debunking the most popular myths and giving specific do’s and don’ts to help you create secure long-lasting families no matter their origin. Blended Family Myths Wicked stepmothers and red-headed step children – our psyche with the help of Disney often portrays step-families through a suspicious lens. However, only 23% of families are made up of two heterosexual biological parents in their first marriage. So called “weird” families such as blended, same-sex parents, adoption ...2017-07-2654 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU37: Organizing The Disorganized: Understanding The Elusive Attachment CategoryIN THIS EPISODE:Organizing The Disorganized: Understanding The Elusive Attachment CategoryShow Notes Disorganized attachment states of mind happen to us all. We temporarily get lost in a jumble and it’s difficult to track what is happening… but for some this is a more serious concern that can reflect much of how we feel much of the time. By popular request, we begin to unravel the last attachment category and update current thinking that includes those who have unresolved trauma, loss or have had caregivers who were frightening. Disorganized AttachmentIn this epis...2017-07-1926 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU37: Organizing The Disorganized – Understanding The Elusive Attachment CategoryIN THIS EPISODE: Organizing The Disorganized: Understanding The Elusive Attachment Category Show Notes Disorganized attachment states of mind happen to us all. We temporarily get lost in a jumble and it’s difficult to track what is happening… but for some this is a more serious concern that can reflect much of how we feel much of the time. By popular request, we begin to unravel the last attachment category and update current thinking that includes those who have unresolved trauma, loss or have had caregivers who were frightening. Disorganized Attachment In this episo...2017-07-1826 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU26: Live Conversation With Austin In Connection About Interpersonal NeurobiologyIN THIS EPISODE:Live Conversation With Austin In Connection About Interpersonal NeurobiologyShow NotesIn this special episode, we take you deep in the heart of Austin TX where therapists gather to learn, study and practice the relational sciences and interpersonal neurobiology. Austin IN Connection is the largest organized gathering of local therapists studying and applying this research in the world. In today’s episode, co-hosts Patty Olwell Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott turn the mics around and let the world hear from these experienced clinicians and students, and share with them and all of you the most important and useful applied co...2017-04-0337 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU24: Grief And Our Body’s Wisdom On Surviving It With Candyce Ossefort-RussellGrief: a natural process to heal the violation of loss. Candyce Ossefort-Russell and co-hosts Ann Kelley and Patty Olwell discuss what grief is, how our culture views it and how to understand and help ourselves and others navigate the healing journey through mourning and loss. What Is Grief?Grief is the natural healing process that we experience when our emotions and bodies are confronted with loss of an important person, relationship or role. Loss disregulates our nervous system and our self organization. The podcast describes how destabilizing this can be and how different the process can...2017-03-2059 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU23: Building Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr Kristin NeffIN THIS EPISODE:Building Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr Kristin NeffShow NotesCo-host Dr. Ann Kelley interviews Dr. Kristen Neff, an Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin and a foremost author and expert in Self Compassion. Self compassion is fierce accountability that is core to psychological health… who knew? Most of us think of it as being soft on yourself, but our guest will reveal the surprising power and science of self-compassion in this episode. Self Esteem vs Self CompassionThis is not feel-good, la-la, therapy-talk, it’s real science. Learn the important distinction between thes...2017-03-011h 00

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU19: Increase Your Cool By Managing Your Ventral Vagal SystemIN THIS EPISODE:Increase Your Cool By Managing Your Ventral Vagal SystemShow NotesIn Part II of our exploration of polyvagal theory, with psychotherapists and co-hosts of this podcast, Ann Kelley, Patty Olwell and Sue Marriott we talk about strategies to help us engage our ventral vagal or social engagement system to calm our nervous system. We review how our nervous system appraises safety and danger. Then they discuss how to harness the knowledge and make it usable in real life. Polyvagal Theory RevisitedStephen Porges developed polyvagal theory, which explains our nervous system’s response to stress or danger. It de...2017-01-2435 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU18: Polyvagal Theory: Understanding Irrational Threat Responses in RelationshipsUnpack the science behind the polyvagal theory, with psychotherapists and co-hosts of this podcast, Ann Kelley, Patty Olwell and Sue Marriott as they explore how our nervous system appraises safety and danger. Then they discuss how to harness the knowledge and make it usable in real life. What Is Polyvagal TheoryStephen Porges developed polyvagal theory, which explains our nervous system’s response to stress or danger. It describes a three part hierarchical system. The first, the ventral vagal is described in the podcast as a safety system or green zone. The second is activation. This is the sympathetic nervous system ge...2017-01-1826 min

Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU14: How To Handle Post Election Tensions: Tips For The Holidays And BeyondIN THIS EPISODE:How To Handle Post Election Tensions: Tips For The Holidays And BeyondYou know the feeling you get when you find out that someone you know and like voted for the “wrong person” this past election? Ann Kelley, Patty Olwell and Sue Marriott discuss post-election tensions as they relate to family, neighbors and co-workers, and give tips on going home for the holidays. If you are losing your mindApplying concepts from IPNB (interpersonal neurobiology), hosts discuss getting a deeper understanding of the very big feelings that have emerged with the surprise election results. While we are all sick of t...2016-11-2135 min