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Therapist Uncensored PodcastManaging Unconscious Defense and Fear with Ann Kelley and Sue MarriottOvercome defense and fear - Catch up with hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott while they discuss the difference between cognitive understanding of modern attachment and regulation and the bottom-up experience of it. We distort information coming in - either by not registering interpersonal information or by over-interpreting the importance of an exchange (up-regulating with fear). This is an unconscious process that to undo we have to have the courage and the resources to feel the feelings that cause us to defend. They walk through it with you they don't just tell you what to do, so join us in...2021-11-0244 min
Therapist Uncensored PodcastLoving & Living with Adult Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) with Ari TuckmanWhen we think of ADHD, we often imagine a restless & figity child who loses focus rather than the grown up parent or partner these kids eventually become. It is a legit neurological condition - yet adults with ADHD or ADD often believe that they are forgetful, lazy, selfish & disorganized. Unfortunately sometimes so do their partners. This episode will help you apprecitate your unique gifts or value your distractable partner.
In this episode, Dr. Tuckman sheds light on how ADHD can impact our relationships, from conflict to sex, and outlines ways to improve both.
"ADHD...2020-05-1957 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastThe Purpose of Relationships Redefined During Quarantine with Guest Stan TatkinWith the tsunami of unclear and contradictory yet potentially life-threatening information coming at us right now - it's no wonder there is so much conflict within groups that are/were quarantining together. Reasonable people can interpret the suggestions very differently, in this episode we go into how to navigate how to manage right now.
Why Stan Tatkin?Stan Tatkin was one of as the first guests on the Therapist Uncensored Podcast and is so awesome, we are bringing him back for a second interview. (https://www.therapistuncensored.com/episodes/episode-12-relationship-expert-stan-tatkin-interview/ (Listen to the first episode here).)He is...2020-05-0852 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastFinding Security During COVID-19 Isolation with Dr. David ElliottIs this pandemic making your nervous system crunchy? Find out how to use one of the Elliott and Brown's 3 pillars of healing attachment to cope during this society-wide emotional hotbox.
Using the first pillar of the three pillars of healing attachment, using the imaginings of your mind to leverage security, David explains how this practice can be beneficial during a time where we're looking for connection to regulate and heal.
Why Dr. David ElliottWe are pleased to bring Dr. Elliott back for a second interview. We were so enamored with his co-authored book Attachment Disturbances in...2020-04-2747 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastFor the Love of Men... Mindful Masculinity with Liz Plank of Vox MediaIt isn't a war between the genders, it's a war between those interested in freedom of individual expression and equality, and those wedded to and defending the patriarchal script.“I measure activism based on impact... .” - Liz PlankIn this episode, co-host Sue Marriott speaks with Liz Plank, one of the worlds most powerful and influential voices for gender and policy.
Who is Liz Plank?Liz Plank is an award-winning journalist and senior producer at Vox Media. Her TedxTalk, How to Be a Man: A Woman's Guide inspired her first book, https://amzn.to/3acOB8l (For the Love of M...2020-04-0849 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastMental Health Support During this Damn COVID-19 Pandemic (Coping Through Coronvirus)Calm is contagious, too! Coping through Coronavirus.Our hearts hurt for those affected by COVID. Those who are ill, survivors of those taken by the virus, service employee's continuing to work, front-line medical and science warriors, those who lost their job or savings, those who are isolated alone and those stuck at home in harsh relationships or with kids out of school and needy... it's all relative. It doesn't help to compare pain - pain is pain - we all need support through this. Period.
So let's clasp hands and co-regulate one another through this as best we...2020-03-3040 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastResilience Trauma and the Brain W/ Guest Bruce Perry MD, PhD"Regulate, then relate, then reason" Dr. PerryIn this episode, co-host Sue Marriott speaks with Dr. Bruce Perry, a renowned neuroscientist, psychiatrist, clinician and researcher on children's mental health. They discuss staging intervention based on brain develop in a technique called the Neurosequential Model.
Who is Dr. Bruce Perry?Bruce Perry, MD, PhD is the Senior Fellow of The ChildTrauma Academy, a not-for-profit organization based in Houston, TX, and adjunct Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University in Chicago. He serves as the inaugural Senior Fellow of the...2020-03-1357 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastFight Flight Freeze ... and "Fawn"?? Can People-Pleasing Be a Sign of Trauma?Are you a huge people-pleaser, conflict avoider, peace-keeper? Maybe you are just being nice, but if you are compelled to do it, driven to not take up much space, to not impose... and you don't have much of a choice about it, there may be something deeper going on. If so, today's episode talks to you, friend.
Freeze Appease Dissociate... Appease is Fawning when it comes to C-PTSD.
If you haven’t joined us in the 30-Day Challenge, you can start at any time by http://therapistuncensored.com/challenge (CLICKING HERE)! No sales, no gimmicks, just 4 supportive em...2020-02-2729 min
Therapist Uncensored PodcastImprove Your Emotional Health - Update on the 30 Day Challenge - Yikes!In this episode of Therapist Uncensored, co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss their progress in their 30-Day Challenge.
If you haven’t joined us in the 30-Day Challenge, you can start today by http://therapistuncensored.com/challenge (CLICKING HERE)! No sales no gimmicks, just support for you to change!SHOW NOTESPositive, Humbling, and Frickin’ HardAnn discuses the positive activation around sharing and discussing the 30-Day Challenge.
Sue shares about the Challenge of the Challenge
A bit ambitious because it is a deeply held unconscious learning
Working on Changing Adaptations From Early ChildhoodThe consensus in the Facebook group and...2020-02-1928 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU115: Improving Your Emotional Health – the Challenge & the Update with Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP30-Day Emotional Health Challenge Update
In this episode of Therapist Uncensored, co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss their progress in their 30-Day Emotional Health Challenge.
If you haven’t joined us in the 30-Day Challenge, you can start today by CLICKING HERE! No sales no gimmicks, just support for you to change!
Positive, Humbling, and Frickin’ Hard
Ann discuses the positive activation around sharing and discussing the 30-Day Emotional Health Challenge.
Sue shares about the Challenge of the Emotional Health Challenge
A bit ambitious because it is a deeply held unconscious learning
Working on Changing Adaptations From Early Childhood
The c...2020-02-1928 min
Therapist Uncensored Podcast30 Day Emotional Health Challenge with Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP & Ann Kelley PhD
Sue & Ann laughing at themselves, probably at our bumbling efforts on our 30-day challenge!
Enough theory – it’s time to choose JUST ONE emotional health goal to work on for the next 30 days. Let go of what no longer serves you. Join us for our 30-day emotional health challenge!In this episode,Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP are walking the walk. They personally challenge you to pick one thing to work on for the next 30 days – something challenging but within reach.
Show Notes BackstoryIt’s February – this is not a new years resolution...2020-02-0438 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastIntegrating Self-Defense, Neuroscience and Affirmative Consent to Build Empowerment and Heal Trauma“Yes means yes is the new no means no!”Often we doubt our gut instinct, question our right to take up space in the world, and live governed by fear -especially when we’ve experienced trauma. Meet the Safety Team, a group of ordinary women doing extraordinary work teaching women how to build resiliency and re-claim their sense of agency.In this episode,Co-host Dr Ann Kelley joins this powerful group of women as they teach us how to find our voice, feel more present and powerful in our bodies, build resilience, and heal trauma.
Who is The Safety Team?
...2020-01-2350 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastLife-Changing Science of Memory Reconsolidation with Guests Bruce Ecker & Tori OldsTori Olds with Deep Eddy Psychotherapy
Learn to apply the advances in neuroscience to our lives in a real way – we all want to be able to do that, right? This episode delivers on that for sure – memory reconsolidation is changing how therapists practice and explains why those lightbulb moments can actually transform us if done correctly. 🙂In this episode,Powerhouse clinicians Tori Olds and Bruce Ecker join co-host Sue Marriott in a discussion on how memory reconsolidation brings awareness to old maps and traumatic emotional learning and gives us a clean slate on which to build new learning pathway...2020-01-071h 00Therapist Uncensored PodcastNavigating Narcissistic RelationshipsYou deserve better!! Are you lost in a narcissistic relationship? The term narcissism is easily tossed around, especially in this world of selfies. However if you are deeply connected to someone with the personality disorder narcissism it is a very real, painful and a seriously disruptive experience. It is also surprisingly difficult to identify when you are immersed in it, and difficult to disengage the pattern of supporting their world-view. We break it down here!In this episode on narcissism,Co-hosts Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP continue the dialogue on narcissistic relationships...2019-12-2443 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU110: Story Follows StateWhen we have an anchor in ventral, we can then go visit sympathetic and dorsal without being hijacked by it. In this episode of Therapist Uncensored,Co-host Sue Marriott explores the intersection of Polyvagal Theory, neuroscience, and attachment with Deb Dana. We will investigate how the mind creates stories from information relayed by the nervous system, and how we can rewrite the script to move toward security.
Meeting Deb DanaDeb Dana is a clinician and consultant who works with trauma
She has a training program called the Rhythm of Regulation
Goals of this: understand the nervous system and help people...2019-12-0556 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU109: THIS is Resilience in Action With Guest Alphanso AppletonResilience in real-life from a non-Western perspective. (Cover photo, Appleton took responsibility for feeding kids in his village by diving and spearing food from the sea.)
“And if there’s any other person that is going through mental health problems or a very hard time in their life, or they have been through something really bad… I just want them to know that they’re not alone.” Alphanso Appleton
In This Episode of Therapist Uncensored on Trauma and Resilience,Alphanso Kwame Appleton, a Liberian native, shares his experiences of growing up in a country devastated by civil war, living thr...2019-11-2234 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU108: Judgment of Others & Self-Criticism Explored as a DefenseJudgement says more about the judg-er than the judg-ee. It’s not Judgement – Bad. It’s Judgement-Interesting.
Everybody judges and in truth, we unconsciously evaluate good/bad all the time – both positively and negatively. It’s our brains appraisal system. However unchecked it’s also a very handy interpersonal defense. Today we explore one aspect of insecure functioning, unchecked judgement and harsh self-criticism.
It is just one common insecure pattern to think in absolutes and moral righteousness, and before you judge judgers, those of us who’s favorite flavor is self-criticism and self-judgement please be warned that ha...2019-11-1521 min
Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU107: What is Somatic Experiencing With Guest Abi BlakesleeTrauma is not a life sentence. We are rapidly learning what works to reverse the effects of stored injuries and today we will explore one treatment version of that, called Somatic Experiencing.
First a shout out to a listener who connected us to our guest today, Ali Capurro – thank you! And to everyone else please note that we love these kinds of connections are always open to hear from you on who you think would deepen this conversation of earning security.
In This Episode of Therapist Uncensored,co-host Sue Marriott explores Somatic Experiencing with Dr Abi Blakeslee. Th...2019-10-301h 00Therapist Uncensored PodcastWhat Actually Heals in Therapy with Psychoanalyst Nancy McWilliamsLearn what actually works in therapy.
It’s hard to verbalize the problem with “evidence-based” models of care, but renowned psychoanalyst and psychologist Nancy McWilliams does just that. She further describes what happens in quality depth-oriented therapies such as psychoanalytically-informed, attachment-oriented therapy, and integrates the neurobiological aspect that Freud started that has now been confirmed.
Who is Nancy McWilliams?Nancy McWilliams, PhD, ABPP, is Visiting Professor in the Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology at Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey, and has a private practice in Flemington, New Jersey. She is on the editorial board of Psycho...2019-10-1845 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU105 Narcissism What is Going on Under the Defense with Sue Marriott and Ann KelleyHey everybody, we are BACK and ready to take off on Season 4!!! Wahoo!
Narcissism – This time we focus on how it’s created and what is going on behind the narcissists defenses. Later we will address Malignant Narcissism, which is in a class all to itself! It deserves an entire episode, but for today we will look at what causes it, healthy and pathological degrees of it and what is really going on under the hood of the person afflicted with narcissism.
We really heard the requests wanting to hear more about some of the diagnostic pieces of a...2019-10-0344 min
Therapist Uncensored PodcastAttachment Science & the Single World With Becki Mendivil (Replay)Are you sick of hearing about relationships but interested in attachment? (Or want to deepen your understanding of real world application of the relational sciences while you have a good laugh??!) All the single listeners (think Beyonce) heads up! We are going to break down attachment theory and apply the cool science for all of us….
Continuing in the series on adult attachment, co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP joins Becki Mendivil in a spunky conversation about how attachment affects someone who isn’t in a romantic relationship nor is seeking one, but simply as an individual and a hu...2019-09-2554 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastCuriosity: One of the Most Powerful Tools For Connection (Replay)Have you ever just sat back and observed a small child as they learn something new? There is this profound sense of awe and wonder with each new discovery they make. Kids are naturally curious. As adults, we tend to take what we know about the world for granted. But, through the eyes of a child, the world is an exciting mystery just waiting to be discovered! What if we told you that it is possible to experience that childlike curiosity in your day-to-day life, starting right now? What if we also told you that...2019-08-1640 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastFinding Neurological Safety through Relationships,with Guest Bonnie Badenoch (Replay)Explore the myth of self-regulation, the natural neurobiology of co-regulation and it’s capacity to engage safety and heal trauma. Learn about using interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) and Polyvagal Theory to establish safety and security in therapy and in relationships.
Therapist Uncensored co-host Sue Marriott LCSW CGP talks with author and therapist Bonnie Badenoch about the concept of using safety to reshape your neural landscape through authentic relationships. Badenoch guides us through her progression of building a bridge between science and practice to cultivate the best therapeutic mind.
You’ll learn how exercising “happy humility” and compassion can allow for an i...2019-08-0150 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTreating Attachment Disruptions in Adults With David Elliott (Replay)We knew we had to interview Dr. Elliott upon finding his book, http://amzn.to/2sUdioc (Attachment Disturbances in Adults, Treatment for Comprehensive Repair(2016)). It immediately became Sue’s current favorite read and that is saying a lot!
We cover quite a lot in this podcast, especially about treatment, but if that still isn’t enough, these show notes are PACKED with PDF’s of great material offered by Dr. Elliott! Below you will find 4 full PDF handouts about the salient ideas of their synthesis of treatment for adults with attachment disruptions.
In today’s episode you will hea...2019-07-1449 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU100: Reflections and Favorites From 100 Episodes100 Episodes and Going Strong!Tune in for a review of our listener’s favorite episodes and back stories about the evolution of Therapist Uncensored with co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott. This is a show hosted by 2 therapists who share the most usable science on attachment relationships, psychotherapy, and trauma. It combines both host lead conversations and interviews with top experts in their respective fields – neuroscientists, therapists, researchers, musicians, pop-culture celebrities, and so on – that share their wisdom about relationships.
Today we celebrate starting with colleague Patty Olwell, and evolving everything from our messaging, our website, our audio and ed...2019-07-0853 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastFood, The Body, Trauma, & Attachment With Guests Paula Scatoloni & Rachel Lewis-Marlowhttps://www.therapistuncensored.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/RachelLewis-MarlowPaulaScatoloni-e1561646721938.png ()
What if we flipped the script and learned to see our body as a messenger that needs to be heard rather than an obstacle to be conquered when it comes to our relationship with food? When we take physiological perspective, we learn that the body has much to say not only about food but also emotional regulation and our basic human needs for attachment and defense.
Using the sensory information, attachment system and working with defenses.
Who are our guests on this episode, you ask? Well here ya go, they are...2019-06-2757 min
Therapist Uncensored PodcastDiving Deeper Into the DMM of Attachment Science With Ann Kelley & Sue MarriottDive deeper into this new (to us) model of interpreting attachment science and discover how to apply it into your daily life. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD have fun breaking down the last two episodes where Dr. Patricia Crittenden so generously shared her model called the Dynamic Maturational Model (DMM). Focus is on personal and clinical importance in this last of a 3-part series on the DMM.
Before we begin:A’s (Red in the DMM)=Historically referred to as Blue on TU
B’s (Blue in the DMM)=Historically referred to as Green on TU
...2019-06-1326 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastThe Dynamic Maturational Model (DMM) of Attachment With Guest Patricia Crittenden (Part 2)“So which strategy in this model is best? Every behavioral strategy is the right strategy for some problem, but no strategy is the best strategy for every problem. We need them all.”
– Dr Patricia Crittenden, creator of the Dynamic Maturational Model of Attachment & Adaptation (DMM) using culture and context.
https://www.therapistuncensored.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Rudiments-of-the-DMM-1.pptx (Click )https://www.therapistuncensored.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Rudiments-of-the-DMM-1.pptx (HERE )https://www.therapistuncensored.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Rudiments-of-the-DMM-1.pptx (to download the slides discussed in detail in this episode!)Note: This episode is Part 2 of 2. It stands alone, but to start...2019-05-3056 min
Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU96: Treating Attachment & Self-Protective Strategies With Guest Patricia Crittenden (Part 1)http://www.patriciacrittenden.com ()
“If it protects you, it’s the right strategy.”
– Dr Patricia Crittenden, creator of the Dynamic Maturational Model of Attachment & Adaptation (DMM) using culture and context.
Are you ready to move from describing injured developmental pathways and symptoms – to addressing how to heal from disrupted development? We are on the case! In this episode co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discusses exactly that with Dr. Patrica Crittenden, founder of the Dynamic Maturational Model of Attachment & Adaption (DMM) using culture and context to understand, decode and heal early relational injuries.
Their conversati...2019-05-1541 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU95: Oxytocin, Dogs & Pet's in General as Attachment FiguresSweet, sweet Jackson – of Johnny Cash fame. My heartbreak. Look at those eyes and tell me you don’t get a neuropeptide hit?! 🙂
Want a totally free, no-hangover naturally produced cuddle-drug?
Oxytocin and dogs!Our pet relationships provide a trust and bonding boost, and is the natural love drug our bodies make at key relational moments such as child-birth, nursing, orgasm and falling in love.* In this episode we discuss how to create this moral molecule without even needing complicated human relationships by connecting mutually to our companion pets. What’s not to love about that?
The science n...2019-05-0133 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU94: The Science of Self-Regulation - Breaking down Polyvagal TheoryThe science of relaxing into love, this episode continues the exploration of Polyvagal Theory, one of the most important theories of our generation, especially when it comes to trauma and psychological treatment.
Join Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley as they continue to break down and bring Polyvagal Theory to life. Through discussion and real-life examples of what happens when our bodies experience threat, you will learn how to recognize when you or your loved one is experiencing an unconscious physiological threat response as well as some practical self-regulation skills to move back into safety. Additionally, we will begin unfolding...2019-04-1830 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU93a: Polyvagal Theory in Action (full version) - The Science of Body Regulation With Dr Stephen PorgesPolyvagal Theory is about the biology of opening our hearts. Cool, huh?
What is all this fuss about the vagal nerve and the flurry of interventions developed around it? Find out the facts directly from the father of Polyvagal Theory, award-winning neuroscientist Dr. Stephen Porges.
In this episode, he speaks with co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP to discuss this ground-breaking discovery about the biology of threat and safety which explains so much about human behavior and psychological disturbances. Rest assured,this isn’t just about our brains, it’s about the biology of opening our hearts.
This epis...2019-04-1059 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU92: Understanding Addiction and Attachment-Informed Treatment With Guests Brad Kennedy & Vanessa KennedyLearn 3 distinct features that make one vulnerable to addiction and understand the varied dynamics through the lens of attachment and emotional regulation.
In today’s episode, Dr. Ann Kelley interviews two experts in the field of substance abuse treatment, Brad Kennedy and Dr. Vanessa Kennedy from Driftwood Recovery Center. They discuss their attachment-based perspective on what addiction is, how it develops, how understanding our attachment styles critically impacts the treatment and recovery process. Learn what they have to say about stigma, shame, self-destruction, and check out the incredible resources included in today’s topic.
Addi...2019-03-151h 14Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU91: Curiosity - One of the Most Powerful Tools For ConnectionHave you ever just sat back and observed a small child as they learn something new? There is this profound sense of awe and wonder with each new discovery they make. Kids are naturally curious. As adults, we tend to take what we know about the world for granted. But, through the eyes of a child, the world is an exciting mystery just waiting to be discovered! What if we told you that it is possible to experience that childlike curiosity in your day-to-day life, starting right now? What if we also told you that...2019-03-0139 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU90: Attachment Avoidance, Trauma and the Difficulty Opening Up with Guest Robert T. Mullerhttps://amzn.to/2WTnI3J ()
Troubled attachment is a natural outcome of challenging life experiences or trauma. But, there’s another outcome that we want to talk about: intimacy avoidance.
It’s hard enough to open up in relationships. However, when your life experience has challenged you, avoidance is sure to follow. You may have found safety in hiding (a.k.a. cloaking). Yet, that cloak can clog up our current adult relationships. Dang it! Sorry to tell you what we imagine you already know – 🙂
Gotta lose the cloak, friend.
Sue Marriott & guest, Robert T. Muller, talk from a pl...2019-02-1443 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastNeurofluency with Dr. Lou Cozolino, Applied Neuroscience from Psychotherapy to the Corporate WorldThis episode breaks down neurofluency – the basics of neuroscience as it relates to being human in a relational world. This skill will help you with your boss, your teacher, your student, your child, you client or your spouse.
Renowned author and therapist Lou Cozolino returns to Therapist Uncensored with co-host Sue Marriott for a breakdown of a concept he calls neurofluency. They describe what the key ingredients are for growth and why integration of different treatment forms can be crucial to healing.
This one is for true neuronerds, therapists and advanced “normals” – technical but also truly applied theory!
In this...2019-01-3150 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU88: 6 Steps to Security & Self-Confidence You Can Do By YourselfStrategies to deliver what to do, not so much why to do it.
Building self-confidence and inner security on your own can seem nearly impossible, so for today we are ditching the heady theoretical neuroscience to break down 6 quick tips to improve self-confidence entirely on your own. It’s science-based but we focus on the actionable.
You’ll discover how this handful of practical steps can vastly improve the way you feel internally and the way you carry yourself externally.
Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott co-host this show to bring the science of relationships to the...2019-01-2429 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU 87: Treating Complex Trauma and Attachment with Guest Dr. Daniel BrownThis episode is packed with cool content! Learn about complex trauma, debunk myths of false memories from an expert witness for the prosecutors of child sexual abuse, and revisit the 3 Pillars Model of effective treatment for attachment disturbances, Dr. Daniel Brown! Also see the https://learn.mindonly.com/a/12103/EvztK9J7 (SPECIAL OFFER) for his newly launched training below.
Early attachment disruption is often the primary contributor to many adult mental health issues. Treating symptoms without addressing the underlying root cause can set up both the therapist and the client, so it’s important we all understand what is...2019-01-1054 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastMentalization and Regression, Responding to Listener's Questions with co-host Sue MarriottTherapist Uncensored co-host Sue Marriott ends the year with an episode answering two great questions about mentalization, regression and attachment left by listeners. By the way she totally missed her co-host and partner in crime, Dr. Ann Kelley, who was out of town and could not make it work before end of year. Hi Ann! Can’t wait to have you back on air!
In this episode, we discuss:Question 1: “If someone is so far on the blue spectrum, they are completely out of touch with emotions and needs and intimate relationships, trying to think of what the...2018-12-2132 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU85: Attachment in the Classroom with Guest Linno RhodesUsing the science of attachment, mentalization and emotional regulation in the classroom, and in this case, adult learners. A look at the take-aways from a tour of relational science experts, guest Linno Rhodes joins co-host Dr. Ann Kelley as they look at applying the skills learned in one’s life and the workplace.
Our guest today shares herself as a case example of how learning about the use of attachment science and how it affects one’s perceptions of co-workers, employees and students can change your life personally, and your effectiveness in the workplace. For her that meant the...2018-12-1450 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU 84: Why Do We Over (or Under) React? The Neurobiological Underpinnings of Attachment CategoriesNeurobiological differences can be detected between secure and insecure relating, and even between the two organized insecure patterns of attachment (Dismissing and Preoccupied)! Cool, huh!?
In this Therapist Uncensored episode, co-hosts and real therapists Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP begin to the question – why are there only 3-4 categories established in the largest body of attachment research given the zillions of different experiences across the globe? We point to the neuroscience behind our attachment strategies that limit our biology in responding to stress and threat.
This is cool because we can understand it and be...2018-11-3055 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU83: Establishing Neurological Safety through Relationships with Guest Bonnie BadenochLearn about the natural neurobiology of co-regulation and it’s capacity to engage safety and heal trauma. In addition, this episode addresses the myth of self-regulation and how to re-engage interpersonal relationships if they’ve been neglected.
Therapist Uncensored co-host Sue Marriott LCSW CGP chats with author and therapist Bonnie Badenoch about the concept of using safety to reshape your neural landscape through authentic relationships. Badenoch guides us through her progression of building a bridge between science and practice to cultivate the best therapeutic mind.
You’ll learn how exercising “happy humility” and compassion can allow for an ide...2018-11-0752 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU82: The Paradox of Masculinity with Guest Esther PerelCan men be BOTH Relational and Masculine? It couldn’t be a more important time for thoughtful, honest, and provocative discussion on what it means to be a man in today’s culture. Perel makes a case that men are both harmed by the existing power structures and perpetuate harm by the codes imposed on them by all of us. In 2018 there are many contentious ideas about masculinity and “the male code” including confusion by men about how to hold themselves out as safe and masculine during this time of #MeToo and Kavanaugh.
Esther Perel, named by Oprah as...2018-10-2534 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU81: How Good Boundaries Actually Bring Us Closer, with Guest Juliane Taylor ShoreInterpersonal co-regulation requires boundary setting. Most of us haven’t been lucky enough to learn to be good at boundary setting naturally, by good examples, so we have to literally be taught how to do this important skill. Well today we are in luck! Jello will be your friend. 🙂
Therapist Uncensored co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott join the founder of IPNB Psychotherapy of Austin, Dr. Juliane Taylor Shore, in a discussion on interpersonal neurobiology and how it relates to boundaries. We’ll explore the three types of boundaries, how to co-create boundaries and how...2018-10-1750 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU:80 Nervous Systems in the News: Dr. Blasey Ford, Sexual Trauma Stories and the Power of PatriarchyWe joke around a lot on this show, but when it hits the fan we are serious therapists devoted to treating real people and all kinds of survivors. As women, as privileged humans lucky enough and wildly empowered enough to have a mic and thus a voice with an audience, and as survivors ourselves, we could not let the treatment of Dr. Christine Blasey Ford in the Kavanaugh hearing for his nomination for the Supreme Court pass without sharing our thoughts on what is happening from an attachment perspective.
We give our best guess on what exactly people were...2018-10-0424 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU78: The Stress Response System (Attachment) Across the Lifespan - (Replay)
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How does your involuntary stress response system affect you throughout life?
FAVORITE EPISODE!!! This one takes a wide-angle look at attachment throughout one’s life, discusses how one’s environment affects their system’s involuntary response to stress, and how that stress response system impacts us from infancy to the autumn years. In this episode, co-hosts Ann Kelley Phd and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss attachment across the lifespan, specifically looking at the elder years and how our attachment system affect...2018-09-2632 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU77: Understanding the Mind with Guest Dr. Dan Siegel (Replay)Deep discussion on how the current political, international and climate crises could be viewed as a chance to transform human connection rather than be seen from a place of doom. Dr. Siegel called for us all to become pervasive leaders – a great inspiration.Look for a new interview with Dr. Siegel coming soon on his new book, Aware. We will publish that very early into our next season which will be launched soon!Interview with Dr Dan Siegel, the father of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB). Get a peak into his thoughts on building hope in our fe...2018-09-1158 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU75: Behind the Scenes with Ann and Sue, Reflections and A Look AheadIn this candid and more personal conversation than usual, Therapist Uncensored co-hosts Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP open up about the last year of podcasting and a few painful life events. Since they are therapists first, they typically keep themselves somewhat out and keep content forward. This is to protect patients that may be listening but also to keep the focus on the material the audience is tuning into to hear, the content.
However during this break between seasons, they’ve had time to both prepare for next season and really get honest about where th...2018-08-3010 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastMentalizing: A Critical Component For Secure Relating With Guest Tina Adkins (replay)It’s not too late to develop security in yourself, your children and your relationships. With this skill, you can increase attachment security today even without a long-term relationship or years of psychotherapy. Dr. Adkins and co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP walk us through the steps.Mentalizing seems easy – but actually it is quite complex. Thinking accurately about our own and others minds is such a core skill that many consider it a pre-condition for self-soothing, empathy and other facets of emotional intelligence and social-emotional maturity. It is also something that one can learn at any time in life, so i...2018-08-2248 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU73: Building Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr Kristin Neff (replay)Self Compassion is an antidote to shame, the underpinning of narcissism.
It is fierce accountability that is core to psychological health… who knew? Most of us think of it as being soft on yourself, but our guest will reveal the surprising power and science of self-compassion in this episode.
Co-host Dr. Ann Kelley interviews Dr. Kristen Neff, an Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin and a foremost author and expert on Self Compassion.
Self Esteem vs Self Compassion
This is not feel-good, la-la, therapy-talk, it’s real science. Learn the important distinction between thes...2018-08-151h 00Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU72: Attachment Parenting Versus Attachment Science, Clearing up MisconceptionsFinding the middle ground between constantly attending to your child versus letting them learn to self-soothe is a challenge that all parents must face. In this episode, Therapist Uncensored hosts, Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP, break down the difference between “Attachment Parenting” and the science of actual Attachment theory. They share key elements from research outcomes that surround many common misconceptions of applying the theory itself.
You’ll learn that the ideals setup by Dr.William and Martha Sears and Richard Ferber might not fully translate in today’s world of parenting and that the...2018-08-0438 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU71: Speakably Sexy – Communicating to Make Sex Hotter and Relationships More AliveWhat makes the ins and outs of sexuality so hard to talk aboout?
It turns out, if couples do talk about sex, the conversation is often mostly about frequency. However, what is missing are the zillion of other thoughts and feelings we have about intimacy (or lack there of), desire (or lack thereof), fantasies (or lack thereof), pleasure (or lack therefo) and, oh yeah, the mechanics of sex as well.
But don’t sweat it, in this episode Therapist Uncensored co-host Dr. Ann Kelley joins guest Dr. Susan Ansorge to talk about talking about sex.&nb...2018-07-2437 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU70: Challenge Your “Busy” Identity – Gain Consciousness Over Your PaceDo you use a to-do list as a way to justify the need to be busy rather then the other way around? Idleness can breed discomfort and busyness seems to help to fill in the gap. Learn how conscious busyness and idleness can generate cognitive health and happiness, while unconscious busyness just adds to the stress trap.
As real therapists, we challenge you to not believe what you think. Inquire. It’s healthy to question the stories you tell about yourself and the world… update your model. Check out your story. See if w...2018-07-1940 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastExploring Intersecting Genders, What We Can All Learn with Guest Li BrookensWalk through the discovery experience of coming to understand yourself as transgender and see how coming to truly discover and embrace yourself relates to everyone, not just those who identify as non-binary.
Therapist Uncensored co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP joins Umbrella Collective founder, clinical social worker, psychotherapist and parent Li Brookens in a lively discussion on recognizing the complexities (and social implications) of defining oneself as non-binary. They discuss what therapists need to know in working with these populations, and share...2018-07-1050 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastA Practical Technique to Calm and Confidence with Guest Richard HillCalm the chaos of your mind by trying out these ideas and this technique with yourself or if you are a clinician, your patients.
The Mirroring Hand technique teaches you to use your natural problem solving to manage stress and anxiety. In this episode we dive into practical techniques for building your own growing edge and using your natural felt-sense of security. Discover how to tap into your inner wisdom by using curiosity about your own body to cultivate focus and healing.
Join psychotherapist and author Richard Hill in an over-the-pond discussion with co-host Dr. Ann Kelley about...2018-06-2545 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastFun Lessons from the Single-Not-Dating World on Using Attachment Science in Real Life, with Guest Becki MendivilAfraid of interacting at work? Candid and hilarious conversation about how the relational sciences translates to work and parenting, by a listener ready to challenge the premise.
Are you sick of hearing about relationships but interested in attachment? (Or want to deepen your understanding of real world application of the science while you have a good laugh??! All the single listeners (think Beyonce!) heads up. We are going to break down attachment theory and apply the cool science for all of us….
Continuing in the series on adult attachment, co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP joins&nb...2018-06-0452 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastSensorimotor Psychotherapy: Tuning Into the Wisdom of Your Body with Guest Dr. Pat OgdenWe have unconscious stories about ourselves and the world held in our mind/body. Learn how becoming curious about your body can have a huge impact on your sense of self. Body attunement + conscious reflection (left/right, top/bottom integration) are hallmark markers of secure functioning. Tap into your own body as a deep and abiding source of information and means of finding self-understanding and closer connection.
Guest Dr. Pat Ogden is a pioneer in somatic psychology, co-founder of Hakomi, founder of the Sensorimotor Institute, and...2018-05-2554 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU63: Living with Cancer - The Six Principles of Emotional Healing with Guest Kelly InselmannCancer sucks, no way around it. If you have it, had it or are supporting someone who does, this episode will be nourishment for you by bringing your mind and body into the healing and recovery process for cancer and trauma is so important.
Fighting cancer is often traumatic physically, emotionally and relationally. Podcast host Dr. Ann Kelley joins therapist and Yoga Instructor Kelly Inselmann (LCSW, C-IAYT,CGP) as she shares her personal journey through cancer recovery and describes her passion and process in supporting others to find hope and healing while in this compromised state.
They discuss...2018-05-1040 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU62: The Luv Doc - Dating and Relationship Advice from the Trenches with Dan HardickBy Luv Doc
Get Dan Hardick’s irreverent and bitingly honest insights on the dating scene and relationships that survive. Also known as the Luv Doc, he provides a unique view with his decades of experience editing Personal Ads and giving cringe-worthy dating advice with his column in the Austin Chronicle. Great insights and rowdy fun.
Today’s episode may shock, offend or entertain (we are uncensored, remember?), but we are excited to keep it real by bringing in a real-guy from the trenches of the dating world. Columnist Dan Hardick, the beloved “Luv Doc” from the Austin Chronicl...2018-05-0151 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU61: It's Not Crazy, It's a Solution to an Unsolvable Problem - Disorganized AttachmentThe elusive 4th category of adult attachment, disorganization, and how this state of mind relates to everyone, no matter your trauma history.
Dropping into overwhelm and disorganization happens to everyone at times, and some more than others. When we have been exposed to serious danger, unresolved fright or major loss in such a way that it interferes with healthy coping patterns, we are left to our own to manage the world. In research terms they call this disorganized or unresolved, but we’d like to describe it as squirting squid ink to confuse who we th...2018-04-2436 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU60: Preoccupation in Relationships - Signs and Solutions to Anxious AttachmentImprove your sense of security and communicate more effectively inside yourself, and with those you love by understand preoccupied/anxious attachment. Begin to learn to manage your body’s reactivity in relationships by learning about preoccupied/anxious attachment and how it relates to unconscious regulation of the brain.
Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss the Insecure Preoccupied, or Anxious/Ambivalent side of the attachment spectrum. This discussion can stand alone, but it also continues as a soft Part 2 from last episode http://www.th...2018-04-1634 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU59: Dismissing/Avoidant Styles of Relating in Adulthood,Confidence is not the same thing as courage.
Sometimes you feel secure but really have just learned to cut off from important life-giving emotions. This episode is especially for those “talk to the hand” kind of people or those that love them. You know, the uber-independent, rational, left-brain, excel spreadsheet person that sees others emotions as needy and weak.
Co-hosts Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD translate decades of research and clinical experience into easy to understand usable points to help you improve your understanding of why people appear so irra...2018-04-0336 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastEmotional Navigation of the Internet for Both Kids and Adults with Guest Catherine KnibbsEnjoyable one – learn the problematic and adaptive psychology behind online social interactions as Therapist Uncensored host Dr. Ann Kelley interviews this delightful UK-based psychotherapist and author. Catherine Knibbs coined the phrase “cyber trauma” and is the author of The Darker Side of the Internet for Children And Young People. This is not conservative doom and gloom. We get into attachment and neuroscience and provide realistic recommendations to help you and your children navigate the web, unpack myths, identify cyber bullying, discuss consent and provide proactive strategies that lead towards integration and health.
Respond more a...2018-03-281h 02Therapist Uncensored PodcastHealthy Dating for Women Who Love Women with Guest Pam Greenstone LCSWDating bites (& no, that’s not necessarily a complaint :)). Learn to get out there and enjoy yourself as you peruse your choices. This episode is for everyone – all genders and sexualities – but today we focus on same-sex oriented women in the LGBTQ community.
If you’re a queer woman who has been struggling with your dating life or if you’re still considering whether or not to come out, you’ll enjoy this discussion with co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, and Austin-base therapist Pam&nbs...2018-03-1258 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastHow We Come to Define Ourselves, Attachment Research Over Decades with Guest Alan SroufePick the brain of a leading attachment researcher to more deeply understand how attachment styles from infancy are both stable and can change over time. Dr. Sroufe leads us through his 40 years of research to give us his reflections on what is important in parenting and in relationships to grow security.
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If you’ve ever wanted to know how much you can predict a person’s development years in advance, then you’ll enjoy our conversation with Dr. Alan Sroufe. Co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP talks with Dr. Sroufe about his research findings over the years and how insecure and secu...2018-03-061h 00Therapist Uncensored PodcastFeeling Empty? Demoralization and the Fight Back to Caring AgainHave you given up the fight (political, interpersonal….)? In this episode we attempt to reignite the fight inside you for things that used to matter, and distinguish demoralization from clinical depression.
Hopelessness, loss of meaning, and existential distress – these are the characteristics not of depression as one might think, but of demoralization. They are different syndromes with different directions for intervention. Find out more in this episode where co-hosts Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW CGP discuss how transitioning from taking an active stance towards either situation can be bene...2018-02-1432 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastThe Stress Response System (Attachment) Across the Life SpanHow does your involuntary stress response system affect you throughout life?
This episode takes a wide-angle look at attachment throughout one’s life, discusses how one’s environment affects their system’s involuntary response to stress, and how that stress response system impacts us from infancy to the autumn years. In this episode, co-hosts Ann Kelley Phd and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss attachment across the lifespan, specifically looking at the elder years and how our attachment system affects us as caretakers of our...2018-01-3132 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastComplex Trauma and Managing Dysregulation with Guest Robyn GobbelLoving someone with cumulative and complex relational injuries can be challenging. Learn to manage the impacted neurobiology and relational wounds. This episode addresses both children and adults with complicated attachment histories and gives ideas about how to manage.
Whether it’s your own history or someone you love, let’s be honest – it can be challenging at times to be in very close relationships when early attachment injuries have been layered and ongoing and unaddressed. Threat and unrepaired relational ruptures are encoded in our biology and our neurological systems.
Child and Family Therapist Robyn Gobbel...2018-01-1741 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastMindfulness, Movement and Yoga to Manage Arousal, with Guest Kelly InselmannUse these neuroscience-backed techniques to conquer your anxiety and depression with a few simple yoga and mindfulness principles.
This podcast will teach you how combining movement, rhythm and sound as well as practicing mindfulness can allow for a calm alertness and tackle everyday life. Psychotherapist and Yoga Instructor Kelly Inselmann joins Dr. Ann Kelley in an extensive discussion about tapping into your body and gaining a better understanding and awareness of it to ultimately improve your mental health.
This podcast is paired with a bonus episode, a 12-minute...2018-01-0846 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastConquer Shame by Understanding the Science Behind the Feeling, with Guest Expert, Dr. Steve FinnShame, the good, the bad and the ugly! In this podcast, learn how to recognize the various forms of shame and how guilt can be an antidote to this pit in the stomach feeling. Sue Marriott, Dr. Ann Kelley and guest Dr. Stephen Finn engage in a wide-ranging discussion about the least favorite feeling in most people – the collapsed feeling of shame!
It is more complicated than you think. Shamelessness and debilitating shame are both toxic and yet there is a version of these feeling that is quite healthy. Listen as we discuss the contemporary research an...2017-12-1559 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastThe Psychology of an Entrepreneur -Surprising InsightsLearn what goes on inside the mind of a successful entrepreneur and bring to life your own dormant projects!
Kristina ‘Z’ Holly, curator and host of first ever TEDx, as well as the founder of the podcast, “http://artofmfg.com/ (The Art of Manufacturing),” joins our own Dr. Ann Kelley to delve into the mind and personality of an entrepreneur. Through her podcast, Z speaks in-depth with inspiring and successful entrepreneurs and shares wisdom and insights about this population. Discover how risk, reasoning, and cognitive biases work towards entrepreneurial decision-making. The bene...2017-12-0752 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastFive Strategies to Manage Intense EmotionsBecome a master not a disaster at relationships! In this episode we provide some quick tips to help you regulate emotions in yourself and others. Deepen your skills at deciphering these things we call feelings (ack!) and learn how to use this information to co-regulate yourself and those close to you.
What happens when we’re suddenly overcome with emotions? In this episode, Ann Kelley, Ph.D. and Sue Marriott, LCSW, CGP discuss five tips to internally and externally regulate your emotions when things get too much. Yo...2017-11-2827 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTensions Around #MeToo, Bridging Gender & Power in This Conversation#MeToo flips power on it’s head, but in so doing has also caused strife within good relationships and high tension and some polarization across the gender divide.
Women are taking their abuse and assault stories out from hiding. They are using their collective voice to mobilize and they are Telling Their Stories. The power and safety of strength in numbers, #MeToo social media phenomenon, has unleashed a flood of sharing as-yet unheard stories of a wide variety of unwanted intrusions.
In this episode we explore the tensions felt by both men and women in their discussions around coming out ab...2017-11-2159 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastAttachment Insecurity and Parenting with Guest Tina Payne BrysonLet’s get real about not being a perfect parent or partner so we can do both better! Regulation before reflection!
We were so excited about https://www.therapistuncensored.com/tu27_tina_payne_bryson/ (our first interview with NYT best-selling author Tina Payne Bryson) that for the first time we are bringing a guest back for a second interview! Sue Marriott, co-host of Therapist Uncensored and Dr. Payne-Bryson get real about parenting when you don’t have a secure background yourself. They cover cons...2017-10-3045 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastMusic, Emotion and Therapy: Interview with Bob Schneider, Austin Music LegendNot only does Bob Schneider (professional musician and wicked Creative) share his navigation of emotion as he writes music, in this in-depth conversation he also shares personal information about his therapy and recovery with Sue Marriott. He goes on to describe mediocre versus great therapy, how to train your critical brain like your dog, and taking in tons of information like a whale and spitting out “song turds” from his unconscious. Blending anecdotal stories, neuroscience and attachment theory, this interview both entertains and educates.
This is a soft Part 2 to our previous Episode 44: https://www.therapistuncensored.com/tu44...2017-10-181h 03Therapist Uncensored PodcastYour Brain on Music: Learn How to Use Music to Improve Brain HealthLearn how to use music to improve brain health, manage mood, increase relational happiness and get tips on how to build neural plasticity through this art. Remember, it’s not just cotton candy for the ears!
Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss the deeper meaning behind people’s responses to music on the brain, and how music affects happiness and mood. How can we purposely manipulate our mood with tunes and lyrics in terms of motivation, distraction, synchronicity and stimulation? How is music a form of social architecture and how do we interact with it individually and as a whol...2017-10-0934 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastSexual Vitality, The Six Principles of Sexual Health with Doug Braun-Harvey(PART 2 of 2) Add pleasure back in to the conversation about healthy sex and the whole conversation changes!
This is the second half of a conversation with Doug Braun-Harvey, co-author of http://amzn.to/2xLUYjW (Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior, Rethinking Sex Addiction ), where psychotherapists Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott continue to discuss the six principles of sexual health as defined by Doug Braun-Harvey. If you missed the first episode https://www.therapistuncensored.com/therapist-uncensored-season-2-sexual-vitality-new-conversation-sexual-health-doug-braun-harvey-part-1-2-sexual-debut-vs-losing-virginity-wow-fun-2/ (hear it here: Part 1)
How do shared values, honesty and pleasure work into having a healthy sexual life...2017-09-2639 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU42: Sexual Vitality, Refreshing our Understanding of Sexual Health with Doug-Braun Harvey (Part 1 of 2)Add pleasure back in to the conversation about healthy sex and the whole conversation changes!
In this very sexy conversation (earphones around little kids are good idea for this one!), we talk about the balance between pleasure and safety as a way to think of sexual health. “Sexual debut” vs losing our virginity… wow, how fun is that shift in thinking, for example?
This is the first half of an extended conversation with Doug Braun-Harvey, co-author of Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior, Rethinking Sex Addiction, where Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss two of the six princi...2017-09-1952 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU41: The Dark Side Of Therapy: Recognizing When The Therapeutic Relationship Goes BadIN THIS EPISODE:The Dark Side Of Therapy: Recognizing When The Therapeutic Relationship Goes BadShow NoteQueue Darth Vader music… we admit it, not all therapy is good therapy. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss the potential negatives in the therapeutic relationship – focusing on how a client might distinguish between good therapy, that’s tough at times and a genuinely dysfunctional relationship. The difference between healthy dependency and one that erodes your sense of self is unpacked, as well as the idea of safe vulnerability that leads to change. Finally, they name the truth that one can feel h...2017-08-3139 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU39: Getting What You Want From Therapy: The Essentials Of A Therapeutic RelationshipIN THIS EPISODE:Getting What You Want From Therapy: The Essentials Of A Therapeutic RelationshipShow NotesDr. Ann Kelley, Sue Marriott & Patty Olwell chat about the importance of building a strong therapeutic relationship with clients. We’ll discuss how feelings of love, hate, disappointment, excitement and more between a therapist and a patient are not only normal, but even potentially essential to working towards healing. They break-down counter-transference and how mutual influence works to help clients grow.
Timeline0:00-0:27 Intro Questions
0:27- Possibilities for Therapist-Client relationship (potential for harm from power differential in the relationship OR neural sculpting) – When choosing a th...2017-08-1438 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU38: The Blended Family: How to Create Strong and Lasting Step-Family RelationshipsIN THIS EPISODE:The Blended Family: How to Create Strong and Lasting Step-Family RelationshipsShow NotesThis episode breaks it down by debunking the most popular myths and giving specific do’s and don’ts to help you create secure long-lasting families no matter their origin.
Blended Family MythsWicked stepmothers and red-headed step children – our psyche with the help of Disney often portrays step-families through a suspicious lens. However, only 23% of families are made up of two heterosexual biological parents in their first marriage. So called “weird” families such as blended, same-sex parents, adoption and f...2017-07-2654 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU37: Organizing The Disorganized: Understanding The Elusive Attachment CategoryIN THIS EPISODE:Organizing The Disorganized: Understanding The Elusive Attachment CategoryShow Notes Disorganized attachment states of mind happen to us all. We temporarily get lost in a jumble and it’s difficult to track what is happening… but for some this is a more serious concern that can reflect much of how we feel much of the time. By popular request, we begin to unravel the last attachment category and update current thinking that includes those who have unresolved trauma, loss or have had caregivers who were frightening.
Disorganized AttachmentIn this epis...2017-07-1926 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU35: Sexuality From A Neurobiological PerspectiveIN THIS EPISODE:Show NotesSexuality From A Neurobiological PerspectiveIn this episode, our guest is Dr. Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D., LMFT, who is the Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles, California and author of Sex Addiction As Affect Dysregulation: A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment, co-author of the multiple award-winning Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence, contributing author to Making Advances: A Comprehensive Guide for Treating Female Sex and Love Addicts, and author of Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex While in Recovery From Sex Addiction.
Dr. Katehakis’ and Dr. Kelley en...2017-06-2948 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTreating Attachment Difficulties Using the Three-Pillar Approach with Dr. David ElliottIn this episode of Therapist Uncensored,Guest Dr. David Elliott presents the Three Pillars of treatment for attachment disruptions. Besides background on why attachment matters and the prevalence of insecurity, we focus mostly on how to apply the science in trying to heal relational attachment injuries for our clients, or ourselves.
Meeting David ElliottDr. Elliott has had leadership roles in several professional organizations. He was President of the Rhode Island Psychological Association for a two-year term, during 2000 and 2001; and prior to that he was Chair of the Coalition of Mental Health Professionals of Rhode Island ...2017-06-2250 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU32: Mentalizing:Breaking Down A Critical Component For Secure Relating With Tina AdkinsIN THIS EPISODE:Mentalizing: Breaking Down a Critical Component for Secure Relating with Tina Adkins, PhdShow NotesMentalizing seems easy – but actually is quite complex. Thinking accurately about our own and others minds is such a core skill that many consider it a pre-condition for self-soothing, empathy and other facets of emotional intelligence and social-emotional maturity. It is also something that one can learn at any time in life, so it’s never too late to improve in this capacity for yourself or your children!
Mentalizing and AttachmentOf course this is directly related to attachment styles, which is part of our...2017-05-2556 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU28: Minding Anxiety: How To Reduce Noise In The System
IN THIS EPISODE:Minding Anxiety: How To Reduce Noise In The SystemOur Survival BrainOur brains evolved to be alert for threats. It was valuable to be scanning our environment for predators, planning escape routes and rehearsing contingencies when we were living on the savannah. Today rather than facing being eaten by a predator, our stressors are more likely to be a conflict with our spouse, a difficult boss, financial worries. But our brain reacts the same way it did when faced with a saber toothed tiger. Our emotions and nervous system are hijacked by our brain into survival...2017-04-2835 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU27: Raising Secure Children With Guest Tina Payne BrysonIN THIS EPISODE:Raising Secure Children with Guest Tina Payne BrysonIn this episode co-host Sue Marriott interviews attachment expert Tina Payne Bryson about the real challenges of staying attuned and connected while raising children. It’s a no-nonsense conversation that offers parents practical steps to increase the odds of raising secure kids. For child-free individuals it’s also a great conversation about what we needed but may not have gotten, so it’s a good listen for those needing to develop more self-empathy.
We discuss how to stay curious, peel back the layers and recognize the behavior as communication.Tina Payne...2017-04-1834 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU26: Live Conversation With Austin In Connection About Interpersonal NeurobiologyIN THIS EPISODE:Live Conversation With Austin In Connection About Interpersonal NeurobiologyShow NotesIn this special episode, we take you deep in the heart of Austin TX where therapists gather to learn, study and practice the relational sciences and interpersonal neurobiology. Austin IN Connection is the largest organized gathering of local therapists studying and applying this research in the world.
In today’s episode, co-hosts Patty Olwell Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott turn the mics around and let the world hear from these experienced clinicians and students, and share with them and all of you the most important and useful applied co...2017-04-0337 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU24: Grief And Our Body’s Wisdom On Surviving It With Candyce Ossefort-RussellGrief: a natural process to heal the violation of loss.
Candyce Ossefort-Russell and co-hosts Ann Kelley and Patty Olwell discuss what grief is, how our culture views it and how to understand and help ourselves and others navigate the healing journey through mourning and loss.
What Is Grief?Grief is the natural healing process that we experience when our emotions and bodies are confronted with loss of an important person, relationship or role. Loss disregulates our nervous system and our self organization. The podcast describes how destabilizing this can be and how different the process can...2017-03-2059 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU23: Building Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr Kristin NeffIN THIS EPISODE:Building Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr Kristin NeffShow NotesCo-host Dr. Ann Kelley interviews Dr. Kristen Neff, an Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin and a foremost author and expert in Self Compassion.
Self compassion is fierce accountability that is core to psychological health… who knew? Most of us think of it as being soft on yourself, but our guest will reveal the surprising power and science of self-compassion in this episode.
Self Esteem vs Self CompassionThis is not feel-good, la-la, therapy-talk, it’s real science. Learn the important distinction between thes...2017-03-011h 00Therapist Uncensored PodcastTU22: Love Letter To Group PsychotherapyIN THIS EPISODE:Love Letter To Group PsychotherapyShow NotesCo-hosts Sue Marriott and Patty Olwell interview colleagues at the American Group Psychotherapy 2016 Association Annual Meeting in New York. They talk about why they love group therapy and why it is so valuable to their clients. We want to thank our interviewees for their help and insights.
Interviewees for Love Letter To Group PsychotherapyTammy Brown – Austin TX http://tammybrowntherapy.com/ (tammybrowntherapy.com)
Jamie Moran – San Francisco CA http://www.jamiemoran.com/ (jamiemoran.com)
Rita Drapkin – Indiana University of Pennsylvania (724)357-2621
Pierre Choucroun – Austin TX https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/name...2017-02-2009 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU20: Developing Racial Identity With Guests Rudy Lucas And Christine SchmidtIN THIS EPISODE:Developing Racial Identity with Guests Rudy Lucas and Christine SchmidtShow NotesGuests Christine Schmidt and Rudy Lucas join co-hosts Patty Olwell and Sue Marriott in a wide-ranging discussion on racial identity just after the election. Privileged white people talking about race can be awkward – we discuss how our natural sense of safety is part of our privilege and letting ourselves step out and get uncomfortable is necessary to even begin to dig in and get the compassion, understanding and necessary context to be able to be useful in these times. The safety bubble has popped and it could no...2017-02-0149 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU19: Increase Your Cool By Managing Your Ventral Vagal SystemIN THIS EPISODE:Increase Your Cool By Managing Your Ventral Vagal SystemShow NotesIn Part II of our exploration of polyvagal theory, with psychotherapists and co-hosts of this podcast, Ann Kelley, Patty Olwell and Sue Marriott we talk about strategies to help us engage our ventral vagal or social engagement system to calm our nervous system. We review how our nervous system appraises safety and danger. Then they discuss how to harness the knowledge and make it usable in real life.
Polyvagal Theory RevisitedStephen Porges developed polyvagal theory, which explains our nervous system’s response to stress or danger. It de...2017-01-2435 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU18: Polyvagal Theory: Understanding Irrational Threat Responses in RelationshipsUnpack the science behind the polyvagal theory, with psychotherapists and co-hosts of this podcast, Ann Kelley, Patty Olwell and Sue Marriott as they explore how our nervous system appraises safety and danger. Then they discuss how to harness the knowledge and make it usable in real life.
What Is Polyvagal TheoryStephen Porges developed polyvagal theory, which explains our nervous system’s response to stress or danger. It describes a three part hierarchical system. The first, the ventral vagal is described in the podcast as a safety system or green zone. The second is activation. This is the sympathetic nervous system ge...2017-01-1826 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU17: The Biology of Motivation and Habits: Why We Drop the BallIN THIS EPISODE: Biology of Motivation and Habits: Why We Drop the BallUnderstanding Research Behind Motivation and HabitsEven when it is so important to us, why is it that it’s so hard to follow through when we are trying to make or break habits? In this episode, we discuss research and biology around why it is so hard to change our patterns and stick to the goals we set for ourselves.
How we view our goals significantly impacts how we behave and the decisions we make. In general, people tend to have elevated levels of motivation and as...2017-01-1130 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU16: Inside The Mind Of Dr Dan Siegel: An InterviewIN THIS EPISODE:Inside the Mind of Dr. Dan SiegelShow NotesInterview with Dr Dan Siegel, the father of Interpersonal Neurobiology. Get a peak into his thoughts on hope in our fear-based culture today, human kind across history and using this science to make changes individually and as a society.
Patty Olwell & Sue Marriott speak with Dan Siegel about the most recent finding in IN and his new book, Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human (A New York Times Best Seller). Co-host Dr. Ann Kelley supports backstage for this episode.
Dan Siegel discussed how...2017-01-0459 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU15: Decoding The Science Of Interpersonal NeurobiologyIN THIS EPISODE:Unpacking The Science of Interpersonal NeurobiologyShow NotesUnpack the complicated science behind the brain, the mind and secure relating with psychotherapists and co-hosts of this podcast, Ann Kelley, Patty Olwell and Sue Marriott as they break down the complicated subject of Interpersonal Neurobiology to make it usable in real life.
Interpersonal neurobiology sounds complicated but it isn’t. Use this in business, families, civic organizations and couples.
What Is Interpersonal NeurobiologyIt’s related to the mind, to the brain and to many different disciplines of science that come together and basically agree on a few things, which is i...2016-12-1332 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU14: How To Handle Post Election Tensions: Tips For The Holidays And BeyondIN THIS EPISODE:How To Handle Post Election Tensions: Tips For The Holidays And BeyondYou know the feeling you get when you find out that someone you know and like voted for the “wrong person” this past election? Ann Kelley, Patty Olwell and Sue Marriott discuss post-election tensions as they relate to family, neighbors and co-workers, and give tips on going home for the holidays.
If you are losing your mindApplying concepts from IPNB (interpersonal neurobiology), hosts discuss getting a deeper understanding of the very big feelings that have emerged with the surprise election results. While we are all sick of t...2016-11-2135 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU13: Our Powerful Fascination With Narcissism In The Era Of Trump
IN THIS EPISODE: Our Powerful Fascination With Narcissism In The Era Of TrumpAn in-depth discussion with Dr. Leonard Cruz and Dr. Steven Buser, editors of “A Clear and Present Danger: Narcissism in the Era of Donald Trump.” We are publishing this podcast just a few days before the United States selects their next President and at a time of historic national pain and divisiveness.
Why narcissism?We discuss how one aspect of this election that has driven people to such passion is their draw toward or their aversion from some of the large personalities that continue to inflame our...2016-11-0457 minTherapist Uncensored PodcastTU12: If It’s Not Good For You, It’s Not Good for Us: Interview With Relationship Expert Stan Tatkin
IN THIS EPISODE:If It’s Not Good for You, It’s not Good for Us: Interview with Relationship Expert Stan TatkinShow Notes
Clinician, author, PACT developer, and co-founder of the PACT Institute, Dr. Stan Tatkin teaches at UCLA, maintains a private practice in Southern California, and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author Wired for Dating, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships. Dr. Stan Tatkin is on the board of directors of Lifespan Learning Institute and serves as an advisory board member of Rela...2016-11-0155 min