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Becoming MeWhy You Can't Discern Mission Without HealingEpisode 100 So many of us wish to know our gifts and our mission or vocation, but few know that without healing and integration we won’t be able to truly discern or live out our giftings or vocation.In this episode I explain WHY it is that trying to discern our gifts or mission without going through healing is often ineffective, resulting in us remaining trapped in not knowing who our True Self is.If you’re actively discerning a vocation or trying to deepen your self-knowledge, listen to this episode!T...2023-10-2432 minBecoming MeDeveloping Trust & Secure Attachment In AdulthoodEpisode 98 How do we begin to develop secure attachment with God and others in adulthood when we have struggled so long with insecurity about our loveableness?In this episode I break this question down from the perspective of interior integration and share some practical steps you can take.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days straight. Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow...2023-10-1637 minBecoming MeWhat To Do When Other People Project Their Insecurities Onto UsEpisode 97 How can you maintain inner freedom and equilibrium when other people project their issues onto you?In this episode I explain the first principles behind a process that allows us to become more anchored in our True Identity which will allow us to respond to other people’s projections onto us with greater authenticity and integrity.I teach this process in the context of leadership in my online course A Leader’s Spirituality (ALS): https://www.integroformation.com/als This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day...2023-10-1234 minBecoming Me3 Steps To Take When The Interior Journey Overwhelms YouEpisode 96 “How do I pace myself on the interior journey when the speed of what comes up (mostly past experiences, childhood memories) is faster than what I can process or unpack?”In this episode I offer THREE clear and very practical steps of what to do when the interior journey becomes overwhelming.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days straight. Watch this recording on YouTube...2023-10-0913 minBecoming MeHealing Through Delight, Beauty, Rest & PlayEpisode 95 In my season of deep healing I was led to rediscover how to receive delight, rest, pleasure, rest and be extravagant with beauty without guilt.I never knew until that season how “holiness” and “goodness” and my image of God had been distorted in my life through trauma to be narrow, pedantic, dogmatic and puritanical.Hear how I experienced embodied spiritual healing through contemplative photography, gourmet coffee and becoming a pet parent to my dog Miko!This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge...2023-10-0546 minBecoming MeWhen Your Interior Journey Feels Disconnected With The Outside WorldEpisode 94 At some point of the interior journey we will feel disconnected with the outside world and this can be scary if we don’t understand why it’s happening or how to respond.In this episode I explain why this sense of disconnection happens at specific seasons of the interior journey and what practical action we can take to nurture and protect our emerging interior life.This episode will be particularly helpful for those of you who need more than the usual advice about prayer as you enter deeper waters of the in...2023-10-0339 minBecoming MeLoneliness In Singlehood and MarriageEpisode 93 Loneliness is a universal experience, regardless of whether you are single or married (or in religious life/ordained)!What’s at the root of our loneliness? How do we build a foundation towards having secure attachment with others and with God?Tune in to this episode to hear me talk about how no-one, not even God, can replace a secure relationship with our SELF.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects...2023-09-2855 minBecoming MeWhy Becoming Our Own Person Is Required to Mature in LoveEpisode 92 In order to love authentically, we need to have a healthy sense of who we are as a separate SELF.In this episode I talk about why being enmeshed or too detached in our relationships both prevent us from becoming more fully alive and authentically loving.I also address a question about the particular challenge of being an Asian/Chinese Catholic making this interior journey of integration.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak...2023-09-2543 minBecoming Me"Doing The Right Thing" vs Being Authentically LovingEpisode 91 There’s a world of difference between shutting down our emotions and ignoring our needs to “do the right thing” and being genuinely, authentically loving with our whole being.In this episode I explain this distinction and share with very concrete experience how differently these two frameworks operate and how only one of them sets us free to become more alive and more truly loving.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the inte...2023-09-2156 minBecoming MeHow God Led Me To Trust Him Through My BodyEpisode 90 Did you know your lack of a good relationship with your own BODY prevents you from being able to TRUST God, your Self or others?When we try to discipline our body without first having a loving relationship with it, we deepen the emotional fracture within our being.In this episode I share how God led me to reconsider my relationship with my body and learn to be able to trust Him more fully.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge wher...2023-09-1837 minBecoming MeAttuning to vs Controlling Our EmotionsEpisode 89 What’s the difference between controlling our emotions and regulating them? We often try to control our emotions in order to “be loving” but by doing so we actually make it harder for us to make authentic connections.In this episode I share my experience on the difference between controlling my emotions and learning to regulate by attuning to them and the impact this has on my ability to be a safer space for myself and others.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge...2023-09-1430 minBecoming MeLife’s Interruption Is the Invitation To Your Real WorkEpisode 88 Illness. Burn out. Relationships breaking down. Death. Losing a job. Giving birth. These are some of life’s interruptions that can throw us off our carefully planned lives and make us feel destabilised.Our instinct is usually to over-function and overcome these interruptions, but as INTERIOR PILGRIMS we have the option of seeing these interruptions as God’s invitation for us to do the REAL work of growing in freedom, restoration and love.In this episode I talk about how life’s interruptions can be a painful grace we need to lean i...2023-09-1131 minBecoming MeSlowing Down Is About FreedomEpisode 87 In the interior journey it's not how slow or fast you are but the quality of the energy and presence you embody that shows how much space is within you. Slowing down is a way of cultivating that SPACE within us that enables us to exercise our freedom to choose our responses.For many of us addicted to busyness, preoccupation and speed, we may not be able to slow down with our own efforts. Even when we think we have slowed down, in reality we are not slowing down nearly enough. Listen to...2023-09-0728 minBecoming MeWhy Your Self-Knowledge Needs To Be More SpecificEpisode 86 How well do you know yourself? The more specific and concrete we can get about knowing the way we are uniquely created and how to be aligned with our design, the freer and more confident we become in making our journey and in taking up the unique mission God created us to do.In this episode I share some real life examples of individuals who have developed greater freedom and confidence because they gotten a lot more specific in their self-knowledge.This episode is part of a series taken from my...2023-09-0444 minBecoming MeWhy Striving Harder Doesn't Work In Our Interior JourneyEpisode 85 We are often used to getting results in many areas of life by working harder, pushing past our limits and bypassing our weaknesses. Most of us try to approach our spiritual and interior lives in the same way when we begin to take our interior journey seriously.Yet these methods that we default to actually backfire when we try to use them to grow in integration and authenticity and wholeness in Christ. In this episode I discuss why that is the case. This episode is part of a series taken fro...2023-08-3139 minBecoming MeHow Do I Balance Compassion and Zeal?Episode 84 Many of us struggle between demanding standards of virtue and holiness from ourselves/others and being compassionate as we know we are called to be.In this episode I invite you to observe the energy underlying your zeal or your desire to be compassionate. Are these tied to a fear of falling short somehow? Do you feel pushed or are you drawn from a place of loving freedom?I also explain how integration will help you navigate this particular tension with greater ease and grace.This episode is par...2023-08-2828 minBecoming MeHow Do I Respond From Interior Freedom?Episode 83 In today’s episode I responded to a question about FREEDOM.What does it mean to be interiorly free? What is that freedom like? How do we recognise when we are unfree? How can we become more free?Listen to this episode to hear me discuss these questions from a practical and experiential perspective.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days...2023-08-2437 minBecoming MeTiming, Grace and Readiness in the Interior JourneyEpisode 82 What do we need to successfully embark and stay on the interior journey? In this episode I explain three factors that we often miss out in our understanding of the interior journey - and they are Timing, Grace and Readiness.If you've been frustrated at your lack of progress even though you've been putting in effort, it may be due to one or more of these factors being missing. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live vide...2023-08-2129 minBecoming Me3 Ways Spiritualising Blinds Us From TruthEpisode 81 One mark of a lack of interior integration is SPIRITUALISING. And this can have real detrimental impact on ourselves, our families and our communities.In this episode I talk about three specific ways spiritualising can blind us from reality, keep us from actually loving, and even helps keep real evil under a spiritualised wrap.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days straight. Wat...2023-08-1742 minBecoming MeBecoming Free(er) from Parental WoundsEpisode 80 The most difficult and courageous thing I've ever had to do in the interior journey was confront the TRUTH of my relationship with my parents and the ways they have wounded me even though they loved me the best they could.In this episode I share why acknowledging the painful truth of how our parents have wounded us is a non-negotiable for anyone wanting to become integrated, and also how we can be hopeful even when nothing external changes.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Ins...2023-08-1453 minBecoming MeRebuilding Trust With Our EmotionsEpisode 79 Do you trust your emotions? Our lack of a good relationship with our emotions impact our ability to TRUST OURSELVES to make good decisions and spiritual discernment.Trust is earned, even when it is with ourselves. And to lead ourselves well, we need to rebuild our trust in our emotions and let them play their critical role in our lives without overwhelming or dominating us.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of...2023-08-1047 minBecoming MeComing Home to YourselfEpisode 78 So many of us struggle with how to be at home with our Self and be secure.When we don't feel secure in our own bodies, we will continue to look for security from sources outside of ourselves through exerting control. In this episode I share about the experience of coming home to ourselves and being able to be at rest.This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the int...2023-08-0748 minBecoming MeNoticing the Patterns of Our BrokennessEpisode 77 In this episode I talk about noticing the unique pattern of brokenness in our lives and why that's a crucial part of the interior journey. The specific pattern of our brokenness contain clues and invitations to healing and also tells us something about the ways we were actually meant to live. This episode is part of a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days straight. Watch this recording on...2023-08-0339 minBecoming MeWhy I Began my Interior Journey (Loneliness)Episode 76 This episode is the first in a series taken from my 30 Day Instagram Live Challenge where I went on live video to speak about different aspects of the interior journey every day for 30 days straight. On Day 1 I shared about how it was a very human experience of deep loneliness and abandonment as a teenager that led me to begin making my interior journey. It’s sometimes easy to forget that it is from the real and concrete contexts of our suffering that we recognise that we are created for more.2023-07-3124 minBecoming MeOvercoming "Perfectionist Paralysis" In The Interior JourneyEpisode 75 Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle of thinking of the better self you want to grow into, wanting to take action, but not knowing how to bridge the gap between where you are and where you think you should be? Listen to this episode to discover how this common trap of "Perfectionist Paralysis" might be playing out in your own life and uncover the ways you can break free from this pattern. Instead of running away from our fear of inadequacy, we explore how to let God catch u...2023-06-0631 minBecoming MeExploring Safety, Trust, and Healing in Faith (with Brya Hanan LMFT)Episode 74 Have you ever wondered how our relationship with God can be influenced by our family of origin and faith communities?Join me in a special conversation with Brya Hanan, a licensed marriage and family therapist and life coach, as we explore the often overlooked connection between feeling safe with God and our experiences within our faith communities and families. Discover the importance of safety as the foundation for trust, surrender, and taking risks to fully become who God created us to be.In this thought-provoking episode, we also discuss the com...2023-05-301h 09Becoming MeHow Our Desire For Self-Fulfilment Can Lead Us Into Fruitful ServiceEpisode 73 Those of us who desire to become more loving and self-transcending can mistakenly believe that our God-given desire for self-fulfilment is something innately selfish. If we are afraid to embrace and lean into our longing for self-fulfilment, we will not be able to become the unique individuals that God created us to be.In this episode I explain how our longing for self-fulfilment is a powerful means through which God calls us into the specific and unrepeatable personal vocation we are each created to live - which is in turn the most lov...2023-05-1638 minBecoming Me3 Ways Our Scripts Keep Us From Becoming Who We AreEpisode 72 Are you aware of the invisible chains of unfreedom and how they keep you from expressing and becoming your true self? In this episode you will hear me share about three specific ways our life scripts block our path to becoming who God created us to be - in ways you may not have even realised. Anyone who is serious about discerning their personal vocation can benefit from listening to this episode.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCESClarity Consultative-Coaching with Ann...2023-05-0246 minBecoming MeWhy Can't I Trust The Design God Gave Me?Episode 71 Even when we have been on the interior journey for a while and have grown in self-knowledge and self-acceptance, we may find that we still struggle to integrate our new awareness into our daily living. Why is that?In this episode I delve deeper using my own current ongoing struggle of integration to explain why it is that even when we have become much clearer on who we are, we can still find it very difficult to let our be-ing match our understanding and experience.Share this episode via this e...2023-04-1847 minBecoming MeThe Burden of Expectations In Different Seasons of LifeEpisode 70 One of the constant challenges we face on our road into authenticity and wholeness is the burden of other people's expectations of us. What we don't often realise is that the "form" of these expectations can change greatly when we are in different seasons of our life, even when we have undergone conversion and growth.In this episode I share with you three very different seasons in my life and how the initial liberation of one season led to new burdens of expectations that were of a very different nature from the s...2023-04-0452 minBecoming MeThe Pace of Soul Work (with Edwina Yeow)Episode 69 In this episode I speak with soul guide and companion Edwina Yeow of Anam Cara Ministries about pace in the interior journey. We share our own experiences of the struggle to slow down, breaking through the compartmentalisation between sacred and secular, and soaking in God's love instead of striving to prove ourselves.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCE If you are unfamiliar with Ignatian Contemplation (which is mentioned in this episode) you can find out more here.CHAPTER MARKERS2023-03-281h 16Becoming MeDo We Feel Safe Enough to Discover Our Life's Purpose?EPISODE 68 Is your search for your True Self and the unique calling that God has given you anchored in a sense of existential safety, or is it subtly driven by anxiety and fear? Many of us long to know who we are and leap ahead to tools of discernment and retreats without realising that a deep confidence that we are being accompanied by God and by our selves in unconditional acceptance and love is a prerequisite that needs to be in place first. In this episode I explain why that is.S...2023-03-1429 minBecoming MeThe Reality of Discerning and Living Out Our Personal VocationEPISODE 67What is it like to actively discern one's personal vocation and take the steps to follow that discernment in real life? This episode is a live recording I made after I realised I have been holding back on fully acknowledging the new direction God was asking me to take. In this episode I trace the milestones and turning points of the journey I have taken so far as I follow God's "breadcrumbs" from being an aspiring academic to full time lay pastoral minister in church to budding entrepreneur, content creator and clarity c...2023-02-2842 minBecoming MeLetting God Meet You Where You Are This LentEPISODE 66 (BONUS) Can you let God meet you where you REALLY are this Lent? Will you allow yourself to not DO anything for Lent if you are overwhelmed? What might an authentic Lent of interior integration look like for you?In this special bonus episode recorded live on Ash Wednesday, I share about the struggle when we are overwhelmed by what's going on in our own life and find it difficult to "do" our Lenten practices. This episode is for anyone who needs the reminder this Lent that God meets us wher...2023-02-2241 minBecoming MeWhy It's Important to Know Our ScriptsEPISODE 65 Without identifying the scripts that influence our behaviour without our awareness, we would be unable to come into deeper self-knowledge of who we truly are. In this episode I share why our scripts can affect our ability to know our real selves, including impacting the accuracy of instruments such as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI®) and Motivation Code (MCODE™).Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:17) - Introduction(00:05:25) - Is this part of My Personality or a Trauma Response?(00:10:26) - How do we know what is...2023-02-1426 minBecoming MeHow to Have Boundaries with Our Life ScriptsEPISODE 64When we start healing and become aware of the life scripts that bind us, it can be especially frustrating when we find ourselves succumbing to "old ways". When this inevitably happens, how can we remain serene?In this episode, I share some tips on how we can learn to co-exist with the old scripts that get triggered even as we grow in strength to live more authentically and be our true selves.Share this episode via this episode page. Cf: EP 8 | The Necessary Practice of Making Space2023-01-3140 minBecoming MeEmotionally Healthy Spirituality (with Nicole Law)EPISODE 63 In this bonus episode to round off 2022, Nicole Law interviews me about my thoughts on emotionally healthy spirituality. I speak candidly about the pitfalls of approaching our spiritual life without attention to emotional health and what we can do to take steps towards a more integrated and human spirituality.This conversation was originally published over 8 mini episodes on nourishthesoul podcast.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:31) - Introduction(00:01:46) - 2022 Recap (00:05:45) - Catch Me On Social Media (00:07:15) - What is 'Emotionally...2022-12-061h 12Becoming MeThe Four Layers of Self-KnowledgeEPISODE 62 In this final episode of the series on interior life and leadership, I discuss four distinct and deepening layers of knowing ourselves.As interior pilgrims we need to understand why self-knowledge needs to go beyond knowing about ourselves to learning how to attune to our inner selves and knowing how to lead ourselves into unity and wholeness.Share this episode via this episode page.RESOURCELearn more about my Clarity Consultative-Coaching Package CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:31) - Introduction(00:01:03) - Leadership Series Recap...2022-11-2921 minBecoming MeSelf-Leadership: Scripts, Temperament & Motivational DesignEPISODE 61 What does it look like to use what we learn about our scripts, temperament and motivational design to help us show up as our best and also most authentic selves? In this episode I illustrate what this process can be like in concrete terms using my own experience and journey as an example. I share how growing in self-acceptance, becoming more aware of my scripts and learning about my temperament and motivational design through the Myers-Briggs (MBTI Step II®) and Motivation Code (MCODE®) instruments helped me lead myself into greater authenticity and effectivenes...2022-11-1552 minBecoming MeLeveraging our Gifts and Honouring our Limits in LeadershipEPISODE 60 How can we bring the best that we can offer as a leader through leveraging our areas of giftedness and honouring our limits? What can we do to increase our effectiveness and impact without burning out and without needing to be inauthentic? Sometimes it's not what we have or don't have, but knowing HOW to manage and use what we have that makes all the difference.In this episode I discuss how we can grow in self-awareness about our gifts and our limits as well as four ways we can use that awarenes...2022-11-0136 minBecoming MeDealing with Our Insecurities in LeadershipEPISODE 59 What do we do when our insecurity rears its head? When we feel vulnerable and exposed, incompetent but we still have to lead? Denying, suppressing or bypassing our insecurities may give us short-term relief but will inevitably lead us to greater stress and disintegration.In this episode I explain why learning to recognise and deal with our insecurities in a healthy, self-compassionate way is essential to leading effectively. I go on to offer 4 steps we can take to become better at leading ourselves through our insecurities.Share this episode via this episo...2022-10-1843 minBecoming MeThe Perils of Leadership (with Timothy Khoo)EPISODE 58 In this special episode of the Leadership series, I share a conversation with a fellow interior pilgrim who had tasted the heights of success in leadership but found himself tumbling into the search for authenticity and meaning when the personas that had defined him were taken from him.My guest for this episode is a former President and CEO of a global charitable organisation who now lives with the reality of the undeniable fact that true leadership is not only exercised with skilful hands but with integrity of heart. I hope you enjoy l...2022-10-041h 32Becoming MeLeadership: Role vs. Core IdentityEPISODE 57 Have you ever been so identified with a role that you lose touch with who you are apart from it? Playing an important leadership role can occupy so much of our lives that we forget that our True Self is so much deeper and more multi-faceted than the role(s) we play.In this episode I talk about the importance of having a strong and integrated core identity so that you lead out of who you are instead of allowing your leadership role to limit your identity. I also talk about the implic...2022-09-2035 minBecoming MeWhat Your Leadership Script Is & Why It MattersEPISODE 56 Scripts are the unspoken silent guidelines that shape our thoughts, our beliefs, and our actions which we learn from our interactions with our environment since our earliest days. Scripts are the lens through which we see and interpret our world - but they are often not in our conscious awareness.In this episode I share how we each have a leadership script that impacts the way we lead - often without our awareness. I talk about where our scripts come from and why continuing to be unaware of our leadership script can preve...2022-09-0634 minBecoming MeInterior Life & LeadershipEPISODE 55 We all know how important good leadership is, and many of us fear that we don't measure up when we have to lead. While there are many ways that we can grow to become more effective as a leader, we often fail to appreciate the harm that an inauthentic and insecure leader can cause - even when we possess other leadership abilities.In this episode, I share about my past struggles with leadership when I was still unaware of my lack of interior integration, and how my dependence on external validation made the b...2022-08-1630 minBecoming Me3 Reasons You Can't Find Your CallingEPISODE 54 If you have been searching for your calling or personal vocation and still feel that you lack clarity, have you wondered how you can help yourself gain clarity in this process?In this episode I talk about three reasons we struggle to gain clarity about our personal vocation - a lack of awareness of the scripts that influence our lives; a lack of knowledge about the unique design we have been given; and a lack of interior freedom to be authentic.Watch the video (without praxis prompts) here.Shar...2022-08-0225 minBecoming MeSeason 4 Round-up & A Leader's SpiritualityEPISODE 53In this final episode to Season 4, I review what we've covered and once again provide an over-arching view of the thematic arcs of this podcast.I also talk about A Leader's Spirituality (ALS), an online course that I will be teaching in Sep-Oct 2022 for the Catholic Leadership Centre where we will delve systematically into the fundamental principles spoken about on this podcast. Specifically, this course facilitates participants in learning now to be a more authentic, integrated and spiritually fruitful leader - at work, in...2022-07-0521 minBecoming MePerforming vs Living Life FullyEPISODE 52 (BONUS) When we are in performance mode we expect to be assessed, evaluated and we seek to impress. There are times when we need to be in performance mode but what if that's how we approach our whole life? We end up exhausted and our identities fuse with the roles we play. In this bonus episode I reflect about what happens when we don't get out of "performance mode" and end up never really LIVING our life as our full, human, imperfect and work-in-progress selves.Watch the original video of thi...2022-06-2828 minBecoming MeFreedom from the Shame that Binds YouEPISODE 51 Many of us don't realise how much of a hold shame - specifically toxic shame - has over us. When shame is 'toxic', we don't just feel shame over what we do but we experience deep shame over WHO WE ARE.Toxic shame at the core of our identity re-tells the lie that our worth depends on never making a mistake or never disappointing others.In this episode I share some of my own experiences of shame and how I began to be freed from the hold that it had over...2022-06-1436 minBecoming MeBuilding Inner Resilience in Stressful TimesEPISODE 50 Being our real selves can be difficult even when we are not under duress. How do we build the inner resilience to still act with authenticity even in times of stress and adversity?In this episode I discuss three factors that impact our inner resilience:- our level of integration (healing)- our ability to self-regulate when we are triggered, - and the availability of the right kind of external support.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:15) - In...2022-05-3141 minBecoming MeInner Child Healing & Healthy RelationshipsEPISODE 49 When we lack integration in our own identity, we do not have the power to love ourselves or others well. The work of interior integration helps us to love not only much but also love others well.In this episode I share how inner child healing helped grow my capacity to love others well:- Made me more self-aware of when I was using connection with others to avoid connecting with myself - Helped me to stop shape-shifting in relationships - Helped me learn to recognise where healthy boundaries ar...2022-05-1728 minBecoming MeLoving Much vs Loving WellEPISODE 48 Have you ever felt the frustration and bewilderment of why your love for someone pushes them away or why your beloved feels harmed by your best intentions? Loving Much ≠ Loving Well. We can love much and harm ourselves and others if we do not also learn how to love well. In this episode I share how loving well is something we simply cannot do unless we heal and integrate our core selves from the unconscious traumas we may have accumulated in our lives. You can find the video of t...2022-05-0334 minBecoming MeInner Child Reparenting: Healing My Relationship with God & SelfEPISODE 47 Have you ever experienced a dissonance between knowing that you are loved and really FEELING that you are loved in your body? For the longest time I used to think there was something wrong with me because I couldn't really experience the love that I cognitively believed God loved me with.In this episode I share about why this dissonance existed and how inner child healing finally helped me to bridge that gap. Inner child work was the practical healing I didn't know I needed to help me experience God's love for me...2022-04-1936 minBecoming MeHow Inner Child Healing Transformed MeEPISODE 46 Just what kind of impact can healing your inner child make in your life? In this follow-up episode to the interview with Dr Jean Cheng, I share about three ways that inner child healing helped me increase my capacity for authenticity and integrity by:- Helping me to stop second-guessing myself;- Helping me to stop people-pleasing;- Helping me grow my moral courage to use my voice and stand by my choices calmlyShare this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS2022-04-0525 minBecoming MeInner Child Healing (with Dr Jean Cheng): Part 3EPISODE 45 In this third and final part of the series on Inner Child Healing with Dr Jean Cheng, we talk about:- How do we begin to heal our inner child? What is inner child reparenting? - How does healing our relationship with ourselves help us love others better?- What might we be able to expect if we embark on inner child healing?Have about inner child healing? Ask them HERE!Share this episode via this episode page.B...2022-03-2943 minBecoming MeInner Child Healing (with Dr Jean Cheng): Part 2EPISODE 44 How did we learn to distrust our emotions? Or to disconnect from our inner knowing about our needs in order to keep pushing through to deliver what is expected of us, even if it harms us?In this second part of my conversation with Dr Jean Cheng about inner child healing, we talk about how our inner children received wounding and what's at stake when, as adults, our inner children do not find healingThis episode is particularly rich with analysis, examples and stories about children and how these relate to...2022-03-1541 minBecoming MeInner Child Healing (with Dr. Jean Cheng): Part 1EPISODE 43 Who or what is my inner child? What is inner child healing and how does it help me in my interior journey?In this three part series on Inner Child Healing, clinical psychologist Dr. Jean Cheng and I delve into how this particular kind of interior work can help bring us to wholeness and live a more authentic life.In this episode we hear a little about Dr. Jean Cheng's own journey and get introduced to who/what our inner child is.Share this episode via this episode pa...2022-03-0139 minBecoming MeEnlarging Our Capacity for AuthenticityEPISODE 42 Many of us long to be more authentic than we are able to be. We feel that our ability to be authentic is constrained by a lack of acceptance from other people. But what if we can increase our internal capacity to be authentic regardless of extrinsic circumstances?In this episode I talk about how the journey into wholeness enlarges our capacity to be our true selves even when we experience rejection from others.Share this episode via this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:20) - Introduction2022-02-1533 minBecoming MeAuthenticity & Integrity in Times of ScandalEPISODE 41 (BONUS)How do we maintain our course towards greater authenticity and integrity when our Church is rocked by scandal?In this podcast I talk about how important it is to acknowledge and include our emotions in our response instead of denying, repressing, or bypassing them.I also share some tips and resources that can help with processing our complex thoughts and emotions in these challenging times.Watch the original video of this episode here.Share this episode via this episode page.T...2022-02-0829 minBecoming MeGrounding Tips for Surviving Chinese New YearEPISODE 40 (BONUS)Are you stressed during Chinese New Year? Hate the feeling of having to give a "progress report" of your life to relatives who want to know about your marital/family status, work, studies etc? Here are some simple reminders to help keep you calm, grounded and prepared to honour your boundaries as you go CNY visiting!Happy Chinese/Lunar New Year everyone!- Ann YeongWatch the video of this episode here.Share this episode via this episode page.T...2022-01-3014 minBecoming MeThematic Arcs of Becoming Me (Getting ready for 2022)EPISODE 39 (BONUS)In this bonus episode I give a big picture overview of the thematic arcs in the Becoming Me Podcast and how they relate to the interior journey into authenticity. I also talk about what theme to expect in the new season drop for Feb 2022. Watch the video of this episode here.For a bonus 5 min video on Allowing Yourself to Change with Life’s Seasons which I made at the turn of the new year, click here.You can watch the sho...2022-01-0617 minBecoming MeEnd of 2021 Sharing and Thank YouEPISODE 38 (BONUS)This podcast episode is the audio version of a video I made for my clients, subscribers, and followers who have been growing with me and my work over 2021.I share about areas of personal and professional growth I have experienced this year as well as some new offers for those of you who are interested in having me teach or coach you in your interior journey. Share this episode via this episode page.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.LINKS Exploratory Integrative L...2021-12-2822 min
Becoming MeBehind the Scenes of Becoming Me (with Nicole Law)EPISODE 37 In this special episode, I take the hot seat and let fellow podcaster Nicole Law, host of nourishthesoul , interview me about my journey with Becoming Me in this first year. I share the story behind "the call" for me to podcast, my approach to thinking up topics for episodes, insecurities about the podcast's performance and how producing this podcast challenges me to live what I preach in new ways. Guest Profile, Transcript and Chapter Markers at this episode page.CHAPTER MARKERS (00:00:45) - Introduction(00...2021-12-1449 minBecoming MeAuthenticity or Belonging?EPISODE 36 Do you ever feel like you have to choose between being true to yourself (authenticity) and being accepted by others (belonging)? For many people, this internal conflict between our need for authenticity and our need for genuine attachment continue to tear our inner lives apart. Many of us have learned to sacrifice our authenticity for the sake of keeping relationships, but over time we find ourselves deeply unhappy because we have inadvertently abandoned ourselves because of our fear of being abandoned by others.In this episode I share about my life-lo...2021-11-3042 minBecoming MeMotivational Design and Personal Vocation (with Dr Joshua Miller PhD): Part 3EPISODE 35 What is Motivational Design and how does it give us clues to the unique way we are called to live, work, love and serve? This is the last of three episodes featuring an interview with Dr. Joshua Miller (PhD), Founder of INSCAPE Personal Vocation Centre and co-author of Unrepeatable: Cultivating the Unique Calling of Every Person. In Part 3, Dr Miller and I talk about how living in alignment with our motivational design and Personal Vocation helps us not only live with greater joy and fulfilment but also allows us to pour...2021-11-1640 minBecoming MeMotivational Design and Personal Vocation (with Dr Joshua Miller PhD): Part 2EPISODE 34 What is Motivational Design and how does it give us clues to the unique way we are called to live, work, love and serve? This is the second of three episodes featuring an interview with Dr. Joshua Miller (PhD), Founder of INSCAPE Personal Vocation Centre and co-author of Unrepeatable: Cultivating the Unique Calling of Every Person. In Part 2, we discuss the following questions: What’s at stake if we ignore our motivational design? Do people ever struggle to accept their given motivational design? How does the larger community benefit from us liv...2021-11-0234 minBecoming MeMotivational Design and Personal Vocation (with Dr. Joshua Miller PhD): Part 1EPISODE 33 What is Motivational Design and how does it give us clues to the unique way we are called to live, work, love and serve? This is the first of three episodes featuring an interview with Dr. Joshua Miller (PhD), Founder of INSCAPE Personal Vocation Centre and co-author of Unrepeatable: Cultivating the Unique Calling of Every Person. In Part 1, Dr. Josh Miller and I talk about what Motivational Design is, the importance of broadening the definition of "service" to consider the unique motivational design of each person, and why it is impo...2021-10-1929 minBecoming MeYour Unique Design for ThrivingEPISODE 32 A lack of self-compassion can often come from unrealistic expectations or comparison with others who have very different gifts than we do.In this 1 year anniversary episode of the Becoming Me Podcast, I talk about why learning to understand your unique personal design can help you make your interior journey with greater grace and ease even when circumstances are challenging.You can watch the short video message for you on the occasion of Becoming Me's first birthday by clicking HERE.Share this episode via this episode pa...2021-10-0532 minBecoming MePersonal Integrity & Authenticity (in Evangelisation)EPISODE 31 (BONUS)This episode is edited from a live breakout session I presented in July 2021 at the New Evangelisation Conference (Catholic Archdiocese of Singapore). In this episode, I share how my pursuit of a deeper relationship with God and my desire to serve in full-time pastoral ministry led me to realise that I needed to make the journey into authenticity and wholeness and that being REAL was more important than a constant striving to be 'GOOD'.There is also a Q&A session near the end with some really honest questions!W...2021-09-2842 minBecoming MeCounselling or Spiritual Direction (or both)?EPISODE 30 How familiar are you with the emotional and spiritual challenges of your interior journey? When and why should you consider getting counselling/therapy or spiritual direction? How are they different from each other and how do you know which one you need?In this episode, I offer an introductory explanation to the questions above and offer a real illustration of how the emotional and spiritual dimensions of the interior journey are connected and how these resources can help through a sharing of my own story. Share this episode via this epi...2021-09-1448 minBecoming Me3 Ways We Make Things Harder for OurselvesEPISODE 29 Making the interior journey into authenticity and wholeness is not easy. But could we also be making it even more difficult than it has to be? In this episode I talk about three common ways we often unwittingly sabotage ourselves by treating ourselves with contempt, having unrealistic expectations, and not availing ourselves to the support we need.Share this episode via this episode page. CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:08) - Introduction(00:01:04) - 1. Self-contempt(00:09:52) - 2. Unrealistic Expectations(00:20:34) - 3. Not Getting Sufficient Help(00:28:22) - PRAXIS: Listen. Po...2021-08-3134 minBecoming MeYou Don't Complete Me Part 2/2 (with Henry Hoo)EPISODE 28 What impact does making the interior journey have on a marriage? Henry and I look back at our 22 years of couple-hood and 14 years of marriage and share how our own commitment to our individual healing and integration has transformed our relationship. In Part 2 of this conversation we continue to talk about how practicing healthy boundaries transformed our relationship, how we have learned to respond when our insecurities are triggered and how becoming more skilled at repairing ruptures in our relationship has made us less afraid of conflict.Share this episode vi...2021-08-1735 minBecoming MeYou Don't Complete Me Part 1/2 (with Henry Hoo)EPISODE 27 What impact does making the interior journey have on a marriage? Henry and I look back at our 22 years of couple-hood and 14 years of marriage and share how our own commitment to our individual healing and integration has transformed our relationship. In Part 1 of this conversation we talk about the liberating discovery that we are not meant to complete each other, the joy of discovering beauty in what IS in the here and now, and what practicing healthy boundaries with our selves and each other has done for our marriage.Sh...2021-08-0339 minBecoming MeCan You Be Gentler With Yourself?EPISODE 26 (BONUS) Do you try to dominate and push yourself into living more authentically? Or have you learned to accompany yourself with reverence and compassion?(This episode first appeared as an IGTV and Facebook video. You can find it on YouTube as well.)Share this episode via this episode page.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.ADDITIONAL RESOURCESOther episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with YourselfPO...2021-07-2012 minBecoming MeI Know I Need to Slow Down But I Can'tEPISODE 25 (BONUS) What do you do when you find yourself living life at an unsustainable pace? Do you slow yourself down or find yourself peddling harder, thinking that you'll catch up if you go fast enough? In this special bonus episode, I bring you 'behind the scenes' into how I accompany myself when I struggle with slowing down even when I know that's what I need. My sharing illustrates how I try to honour the pace I need when life throws some unexpected curve balls. I also share a couple of ann...2021-06-2924 minBecoming MeIs it Selfish to Live the Life I Want?EPISODE 24 It can be easy to feel guilty for wanting to live a life that would make ourselves happy. As a result, many of us end up living according to other people's desires for us instead of choosing a life aligned to our own heart's deep desire.In this episode, I explain why listening to our heart's deep gladness is a necessary part of living a life that truly blesses others.Share this episode via this episode page.Blog Post: Your Life is About You (Too) ...2021-06-1528 min