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Behind The Numbers With Dave BookbinderThe Psychology of Leadership: How Personality Shapes Workplace Culture - Anne DranitsarisIn this episode of Behind the Numbers, host Dave Bookbinder welcomes back Anne Dranitsaris, author of Become Who You Are Meant to Be in Your Relationships, for a deep dive into the intersection of personal relationships and leadership in the business world.
Anne shares her expertise as a leadership coach, exploring how personality types and brain organization shape emotional behaviors and workplace culture. She and Dave discuss the challenges leaders face in balancing authority with authenticity and how self-awareness can drive better decision-making and employee performance.
Key topics include:
✅ Understanding personality types to enhance wo...2025-02-2534 min
50% with Marcylle CombsThe Journey of Reconnection: Anne and Heather's Striving Style StoryIn this conversation, Marcylle Combs hosts Dr. Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard, who share their unique journey of reconnection after adoption and how it led to a successful business partnership. They discuss the importance of understanding nature versus nurture, the development of their personality assessment system called Striving Styles, and the lessons learned throughout their 26-year business journey. Their focus on personal growth, leadership development, and the need for systems to support individuals and organizations is emphasized throughout the discussion. Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard and Anne Dranitsaris discuss the complexities of partnership in business, the importance of internal work for entrepreneurs...2024-11-2739 min
Dismantling DysfunctionUnseen Barriers to Accountability Caused by Chaotic Leaders These days it's increasingly common to hear leaders describe themselves as "a little ADHD," citing high energy and impulsive decisions as both a strength and a challenge in their professional lives. The same traits, often seen in some of the most successful organizational leaders, drive innovation and quick decision-making but can also lead to chaos, confusion, and increased insecurity among team members. In this episode, we’ll help listeners understand the complexities of chaotic leadership and its impact on accountability, exploring how the dynamic interplay between resilience, adaptability, and the need for structure and consistency affects organizational ef...2024-04-0929 min
Chasing The InsightsAnne Dranitsaris & Heather Hilliard on Peter Pan SyndromeIn this episode of Chasing the Insights, I talk to mother daughter legends Anne Dranitsaris & Heather Hilliard. Anne and Heather talk to us about Peter Pan Syndrome and it's impact on entrepreneurial businesses. Anne Dranitsaris & Heather Hilliard’s unique expertise is in dismantling dysfunction in organizations and leadership behavior through a variety of approaches. This mother-daughter team are owners of Caliber Leadership Systems, a boutique consulting firm working with leaders and organizations to achieve their potential. Their approach incorporates their expertise in the neurobiology of human development combined with organizational systems....2024-03-2939 min
Dismantling DysfunctionUnseen Barriers to Accountability Caused by Over-Nurturing Leaders Have you ever noticed how some teams don't hit their targets, despite having leaders who seem really supportive and caring? Or maybe you've seen situations where everyone seems happy, but the actual work results just aren't there? If these situations sound familiar, you're not alone, and we've got just the topic for you in our newest podcast episode - Unseen Barriers to Accountability Caused by Over-Nurturing Leaders. In this episode, we're taking a close look at a trend where leaders, in their effort to avoid conflict and keep everyone (including themselves) comfortable, might actually be holding their...2024-03-2636 min
Dismantling DysfunctionHidden Blockers to Accountability Caused by Leaders Who Disappear Imagine your team is on a tight deadline, but when you reach out to your leader for crucial feedback, they're nowhere to be found. Their office is empty, their Teams status says 'Do Not Disturb,' and there's no response to emails, DMs, or Messenger. This scenario is all too familiar for many, reflecting a leadership gap where guidance and support are needed the most. In today's episode, we talk about the challenges posed by leaders who disappear, leaving their teams to navigate obstacles without any direction. During the podcast, we explore the impact of leaders who...2024-03-1235 min
Dismantling DysfunctionHidden Blockers to Accountability Caused by Leaders Who Bully Picture this: you step into your workplace, a space where you spend most of your waking hours, only to face subtle threats, overt hostility, or being outright ignored by your leader. Instead of feeling supported, you have a leader who resorts to bullying behavior to either make themselves look good or to get things done. While some leaders believe behaviors like yelling and dressing you down for a minor mistake are a sign of strength, more often, it's about control and insecurity. So why does this happen, and why is it normal in many organizations? Usually, it's b...2024-02-2744 min
Dismantling DysfunctionHidden Blockers to Accountability: Shaming Employees into Poor Performance Have you ever seen a spark of creativity extinguished by a single dismissive remark from a leader? If so, you're not alone. In this episode of Dismantling Dysfunction, we talk about the unconscious shaming done by leaders and peers and reveal how this pervasive issue chips away at team morale and damages a culture of accountability. Imagine the chilling effect when a team member's bright idea is met with a "That's been tried before. Didn't you do your homework?" The room falls silent, the employee's spirit deflates, and a wave of discomfort spreads through the team. Join...2024-01-2334 min
Dismantling DysfunctionHidden Blockers to Accountability Caused by Narcissistic Leaders In the latest episode of "Dismantling Dysfunction," we delve into the significant impact of narcissistic leadership on workplace accountability. We highlight the unique challenges posed by leaders who exhibit narcissistic traits such as a grandiose sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy towards others. The discussion underscores how these characteristics lead to a toxic work environment, where credit hoarding, denial of mistakes, and gaslighting are prevalent. A key focus of the episode is the detrimental effect these leadership styles have on organizational culture. Narcissistic leaders often create a culture of blame...2024-01-0930 min
Dismantling DysfunctionRemedies for the Epidemic of Accountability | Part Six: Engaging for Growth Leaders often miss crucial opportunities to engage meaningfully with their employees when reviewing performance, primarily due to a lack of knowledge or comfort in handling these sensitive discussions. Many leaders, uncertain about how to balance feedback with encouragement, may default to a more objective or critical approach. The discomfort leaders feel in navigating these conversations can lead to a transactional approach, where the review is treated as a checklist exercise rather than an opportunity for meaningful interaction. Reviewing performance is a pivotal moment where employees seek validation and connection. When leaders focus solely on metrics and outcomes, n...2023-12-0530 min
Dismantling DysfunctionRemedies for the Epidemic of Accountability | Part Five: Reviewing for Growth Ever heard a leader say they skipped reviewing their employee performance because they “don’t have time” or because "Mercury was in retrograde"? While we all chuckle at the latter, there's an underlying truth we can't ignore - leaders often dance around performance evaluations, and in this episode, we unpack why. It's hard to believe, but some leaders sidestep evaluating their team's performance, opting out of what they view as a judgmental process. No clear expectations, no celebration of successes, no pinpointed development areas - just a pat on the back and a vague “good for you” or "better...2023-11-1431 min
Dismantling DysfunctionRemedies for the Epidemic of Accountability | Part Four: Confronting for Realignment Every leader has had to confront an employee's performance when a simple correction hasn't worked at some point in their career. It's part of the job. But when leaders mistake confrontation and consequences with punishment, they make the idea of a candid conversation even more daunting. Add to that the lack of training leaders receive to conduct an issue-resolution conversation about performance, and you get leaders going in the other direction – avoiding performance. Join us as we discuss how the lack of training leaders to confront performance leads to taking employee performance personally, using (un)intentional shaming or g...2023-10-3135 min
Dismantling DysfunctionRemedies for the Epidemic of Accountability - Part Three: Ensuring Alignment with Expectations In the bustling corridors of a rapidly growing tech firm, CEO David found himself grappling with a dilemma. His teams were vibrant and intelligent, but something was amiss. Projects were lagging, and the quality wasn't consistent. At team meetings, David provided clear instructions, trusting that would suffice. Yet, when milestones were missed, he hesitated to step in, fearing confrontation. Does this sound familiar? In this podcast episode, we explore the challenges faced by leaders like David. Why do so many of us, despite our best intentions, shy away from setting clear benchmarks and guiding our teams effectively? H...2023-10-1828 min
Dismantling DysfunctionRemedies for the Epidemic of Accountability | Part Two: Setting the Stage for Success Did you know that a whopping 60-70% of employees feel that leaders are not clear with their expectations? That’s more than half of the workforce saying they feel lost in their roles. Concerning statistics for leaders, isn’t it? Join us in this informative episode as we explore the reasons many leaders hesitate to clearly outline and guide performance, teams, and organizational processes. As we continue our series on the prevalent issue of Accountability Dysfunction, we aim to understand how our fears and fixed beliefs can prevent us from setting clear expectations. We discuss how the...2023-10-0334 min
Dismantling DysfunctionRemedies for the Epidemic of Accountability | Part One: Emotional Intelligence and Defining Expectations Leaders today are burdened by increased expectations to achieve results without appearing to micromanage, define things too clearly (for fear of being labelled a control freak) and manage employee engagement. Some leaders seem to naturally possess the knack for seamlessly getting their team aligned with expectations, achieving exceptional results. But increasingly, leaders are struggling to know what to do to get employees to get their work done in a timely fashion. Despite telling employees exactly what to do and when to do it, leaders are dealing with their own frustration with inertia, quiet quitting, and overt opposition to their...2023-09-1936 min
Dismantling DysfunctionAccountability Series Introduction Struggling with the "A-word" in your organization? You're not alone! Accountability is more than just a buzzword these days – it's morphed into a systemic problem pervading workplaces all around the globe. Prepare to embark on a brand-new series with us - we've been eager to unveil this for months! Yes, we're diving headfirst into ACCOUNTABILITY, a subject that's ignited endless conversations, debates, and confusion in organizational cultures everywhere. Leaders shivering at the mere mention of accountability, productivity spiraling downwards, misconceptions and fears aplenty—we've seen it all. Now, we're ready to shine a light on this growing epide...2023-09-0537 min
The Big Ticket LifeDr. Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard - Building Confidence as a Leader: EP 085This episode features Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard, one half of a mother-daughter duo whose incredible bond has shaped not just their personal lives, but also their groundbreaking approach to business, leadership, and personal development.What sets Anne and Heather apart is their deep comprehension of the intricacies of relationships, leadership dynamics, and organizational behavior. Their profound insights, grounded in their own experiences, have enabled them to develop a distinct approach to coaching and consulting. Through self-awareness, dismantling limiting patterns, and focusing on a desired future vision, they empower others to tap into their full potential.2023-08-2154 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the INFPGet ready for an immersive journey into the intriguing universe of INFPs! These creative, introspective, and deeply emotional individuals are known for their profound inner lives and rich tapestry of feelings. In today’s episode, we’re going to peel back the layers of the INFP personality, revealing their innate warmth, integrity, and charisma hidden beneath their enigmatic exterior. We’ll explore their paradoxical nature of self-criticism and perfectionism, guiding you through the complexity of their inner world. Join us as we dive into the turbulent sea of Imposter Syndrome, an all-too-familiar foe for many INFPs. Their unique gi...2023-07-1835 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ISFP Get ready to dive into the captivating world of ISFPs - those super-creative, free-spirited individuals who dance to the beat of their own drum. These enchanting personalities seem to effortlessly waltz in and out of societal norms, choosing instead to carve out their own unique path. They're champions of their values and ideals, defenders of peace, and experts in evasion when conflicts loom. Add to that their deep-rooted loyalty and open-mindedness, and their embodiment of the 'live and let live' principle, and you've got some truly admirable individuals. Now, let's turn a page and talk about the e...2023-07-0429 min
No Woman Left BehindCrushing Imposter Syndrome: Unleashing Your Inner Power With Anne Dranitsaris Ph.D. And Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardTrue strength lies not in the absence of self-doubt, but in the courage to acknowledge it and forge ahead anyway. Embrace your worth, confront imposter syndrome head-on, and pave the way for a future where your brilliance knows no bounds. Welcome back to our podcast! In this episode, we'll explore imposter syndrome, delve into the awareness of our thoughts, and, most importantly, discover effective strategies to confront it head-on. Joining us are two incredible women, Dr. Ann Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard —a dynamic mother-daughter duo who are experts in consulting, executive coaching, training, speaking, and writing. They’re going to d...2023-06-3056 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ESTPBuckle up and brace yourselves for an exhilarating ride into the fast and fabulous world of ESTPs in today's thrilling episode! Meet the masters of spontaneity and action, the life-force at every party and the quick thinkers in every crisis. These resourceful dynamos are always ready for the next adventure. They're all about diving into the unknown, embracing challenges head-on, and bringing everyone along for the thrill of it. With their can-do spirit and knack for rallying others, ESTPs are a powerhouse of energy, charisma, and enthusiasm. While their love for spontaneity and breaking the norm sure...2023-06-2027 min
The One Big Tip Podcast with Jeff MendelsonE345 - A mother-daughter team's unique take to empower individuals and unleash organizations’ potential | with Anne Dranitsaris & Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardDr. Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard, a mother-daughter team, bring a wealth of knowledge, insight, and experience to their work with individual clients and client organizations. Whether it’s by teaching leaders how to lead and engage their people, dismantling dysfunctions caused by misalignment of efforts, or helping individuals empower themselves by breaking free from Imposter Syndrome or Codependent dysfunctional patterns. Anne and Heather take people and organizations beyond the limits of self-defeating behavior. They are dedicated to empowering individuals, leaders, and organizations to achieve their potential by leveraging their expertise in the neurobiology of human development combined with a...2023-06-1621 min
STANDOUT From The Crowd#64 | Darine with Anne and Heather Dranitsaris: Dysfunctional LeadershipAre You Or Your Team Dysfunctional? Our STANDOUT guests are a mother-daughter duo - Anne and Heather Dranitsaris - two acclaimed leadership consultants who uncover the toxic dynamics, destructive behaviors, and organizational consequences of dysfunctional leaders. Whether you're a leader seeking to improve your own practices or an employee navigating a challenging work environment, this interview will give you valuable insights into the complex world of dysfunctional leadership.
In this conversation Anne, Heather and Darine discuss topics, such as:
The advantages and disadvantages of being a mother-daughter duo developing a business
The signs of dysf...2023-06-1528 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ISTPHold on to your headphones, listeners! Today, we’re taking a deep dive into the riveting realm of ISTPs – the Intellectual Adventurers. Picture this: an agile mind, capable of crafting innovative solutions on the fly, an eye that catches every tiny detail, and a spirit of rugged self-reliance. That’s an ISTP for you! They’re the silent powerhouses of any team, bringing an arsenal of knowledge, dedication, and a knack for staying cool under pressure. But here’s the twist. Even these problem-solving prodigies face hurdles. Imposter Syndrome, the cunning villain, often lurks in the shadows of their su...2023-06-0633 min
Catalytic LeadershipWhat is Permissive Leadership and Why Do Leaders Behave This Way? With Anne Dranitsaris & Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardSend us a textWhat are fixed beliefs that stop development?How do you ‘cure’ a toxic workplace?What happens to an entrepreneur’s company when they suffer from the Peter Pan syndrome?What is permissive leadership and why do leaders behave this way?This week on the podcast, William interviews Anne Dranitsaris & Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard. These two wear many hats – Consultants, Executive Coaches, Trainers, Speakers and Authors. A mother-daughter team, they are organizational and leadership development experts at Caliber Leadership Systems, a boutique consulting firm specializing in dismantling dysfunct...2023-06-0548 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ESFJESFJs, the dedicated, responsible, and oh-so-warm connectors, are the backbone of families and communities, the go-to for comfort and support. They're the birthday-rememberers, the milestone-celebrators, the hardworking team players! Their dedication is a force to reckon with, and their commitment is as solid as a rock. But beneath this dedicated exterior, they too struggle with self-worth, self-esteem, and a deep-seated need to be needed. Imposter Syndrome in ESFJs often sprouts from their relentless drive to please others, which sometimes spirals into feelings of inadequacy. Their relentless drive to please others, to ensure that everyone's needs are met...2023-05-2331 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the INFJINFJs - what a unique and fascinating bunch! They're driven by a strong desire to understand and connect with others on a deep level. Their empathy fuels their passion for helping others and makes them perfect candidates for careers in counselling, teaching, or social work. But that's not all! INFJs are also visionary go-getters with a strong sense of purpose. They're always looking for ways to make a positive impact on the world and pursue causes that align with their values. This forward-thinking mindset allows them to create innovative solutions and push boundaries. INFJs are all about...2023-05-0936 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ENFJGet ready to meet the real-life supercharged caregivers of the world - the ENFJs! With their unparalleled empathy and dedication to serving others, ENFJs have a unique gift for bringing out the best in people. They're always eager to lend a helping hand and genuinely care about the well-being of others. With top-notch interpersonal skills, ENFJs are the life of any party or team. Despite all of their remarkable qualities, ENFJs - are just like all the other MBTI types! - can still struggle with Imposter Syndrome, doubting their abilities and worth. With their laser focus on...2023-04-2540 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the INTJHey there! We’re here to talk about the incredible INTJs and their awe-inspiring cognitive abilities! If you're lucky enough to have an INTJ in your life, you'll definitely know they have an amazing knack for spotting patterns and connections, making them absolute rockstars at setting ambitious goals and envisioning multiple paths to success. However, their analytical thinking combined with their super high standards for themselves can trip them up, resulting in a pressure-cooker environment and allowing the Imposter Syndrome to rear its ugly head. You see, INTJs believe that anything less than perfection equals failure (you ag...2023-04-1839 min
The Find Your Leadership Confidence Podcast with Vicki NoethlingAnne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard on Power Up Your Innate PotentialSubscribe to Our PodcastIn this episode Vicki’s guests, Dr. Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard share they came to work together and create the Striving Styles Personality System. We cover such interesting topics as how they get to know the mechanics of the mind. You’ll want to tune in and learn more about this dynamic duo.
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2023-04-1711 minDismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ENFPOh, ENFPs! With their vivacious and captivating personalities, they effortlessly take center stage and light up every room they enter. Their infectious energy and unwavering optimism make them a magnet for people, and they have an innate ability to inspire and motivate others. ENFPs are often the life of the party, bringing a sense of fun and adventure wherever they go. They're not afraid to try new things, and their passion for life is contagious. Here comes a plot twist though: despite all of their wonderful qualities, ENFPs are not immune to the insidious grip of Imposter...2023-04-1137 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the INTPProcrastination and perfectionism – what a perilous duo for anyone suffering from Imposter Syndrome. But for those with an INTP personality type, it’s like a fatal blow! But why is that you ask? You see, the INTP personality type is characterized by an inquisitive nature and a desire to understand the world on a deep level. They value knowledge and expertise above all else, and they enjoy the challenge of intellectual debate and argumentation. Here’s the kicker, though: their thirst for knowledge and their competitive nature often causes them to be extremely critical of their own work...2023-04-0434 min
Fearless Freedom with Dr. GDriven to Achieve the Greatest Potential: Dr. Anne Dranitsaris and Heather HilliardDr. Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Hilliard are highly versatile and experienced professionals, with a range of skills and expertise that they can tailor to meet the unique needs of each client. Their knowledge of human development and behavioral change, leadership, and interpersonal dynamics allows them to provide comprehensive solutions for organizational transformation and individual growth. Their extensive work with leaders and individuals around the world, as well as their numerous publications, speaking engagements, and book series on personality type and the brain, demonstrate their commitment to sharing their expertise and helping others achieve their full potential. They are a mother-daughter team...2023-04-0232 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ENTP Imagine walking into a room and feeling an electric buzz in the air - that's what it feels like when an ENTP is nearby! These are the people who make things happen with an energy that's contagious and an enthusiasm that's impossible to ignore. They're constantly seeking ways to shake things up, push the limits and try something new - they have a knack for thinking ahead and seeing future possibilities that others can't even fathom. But here’s the catch: this same strength is also their biggest weakness, leading to their version of the dreaded Imposter Syn...2023-03-2834 min
Positioning to ProfitDismantling Dysfunction with Anne Dranitsaris & Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardHey there! Patty Dominguez here with episode 172 of the Positioning to Profit Podcast. Thank you for being here.
Our guests today are mother-daughter dynamic duo Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard, who are trainers, speakers, authors, and experts in human development, behavioral change, leadership, interpersonal dynamics, and the achievement of potential. Anne and Heather have been working together for the past 25 years and have spoken at professional conferences, written several series of books on personality types, and created brain-based content.
Today’s episode is all about dismantling dysfunction and managing fe...2023-03-2235 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ISFJHey there, our dependable, hard-working ISFJs! Have you ever found yourselves striving for perfection at work, even when no one else seems to be holding you to such impossible standards? Do you avoid taking on new challenges because the thought of failure is just too overwhelming – and you’re just sure you WILL FAIL? If so, we are saddened to inform you that you are likely suffering from the Imposter Syndrome! Yes, that nagging feeling that always seems to be lurking in the back of our minds. It's the fear that keeps us from taking on new chal...2023-03-2139 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ENTJLet us paint you a picture: as an ENTJ, you try to set high standards for yourself and your team. But sometimes, it feels like your team just DOESN’T GET IT! I mean, you’ve given them clear instructions, right? So, when they drop the ball, you have every right just to lose it. I mean, how can they be SO clueless? Don't they realize how important this project is?! It's like they're not even trying. But as the dust settles, the self-doubt creeps in. Now you become anxious, wondering if you lashed out because you were...2023-03-1437 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ISTJ Imagine this: you're an ISTJ - a natural planner who is diligent in getting things done. You have your systems, processes and routines in place and you're crushing it even when things get crazy at work. And then, out of nowhere, this pesky co-worker of yours suggests some new automated system that seems sketchy at best, that is supposed to “help everyone”. You're all about keeping things as they are (they work fine, so what’s the point?!), but it seems like everyone else is cheering for this new idea. Does that ring a bell? To most, ISTJs...2023-03-0735 min
The Future of Leadership299 Finding the leadership sweet spot with authors Anne and Heather DranitsarisAnne Dranitsaris, Ph.D and Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard are a mother-daughter team with an incredible backstory and a refreshing approach to leadership that blends psychology with systems to advance the potential of individuals, teams and organisations. Together they have co-authored three books, most recently So, You Think You Can Lead? Anne and Heather’s relationship is unique (you’ll have to listen to find out why!) and makes their professional collaboration even more remarkable. The synergy of Anne’s developmental psychology background and Heather’s systems thinking and transformation expertise enables them to help executives - and especially emerging...2023-03-0549 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the ESTJ Let's paint a picture: you're an ESTJ - a born leader who always gets things done. You have a clear idea of what success looks like, and you hustle hard to make it happen. But deep down, you feel like a phony. You wonder if you're really as good as people say you are and if you're a step away from being exposed as a fraud. Oof, it's a gut-wrenching feeling, isn't it? But here’s the thing: the Imposter Syndrome doesn't discriminate, hitting all personality types, even our bold, authoritarian ESTJ (aka the Leader Striving Style). De...2023-02-2832 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDismantling the Imposter Syndrome of the 16 Personality Types Have you ever had a dreadful thought that perhaps you're not as competent or talented as others think you are? Or that, despite all the blood, sweat and tears, you're not worthy of the success you've achieved, and it's just a matter of time before you're finally exposed as a fraud? If so, you're not alone. These thoughts are actually quite common and even have a name. We present to you… the Imposter Syndrome. Yes, it's that sneaky little voice in our heads that can make us doubt ourselves and our abilities, even when there's significant evidence to the co...2023-02-2129 min
Dismantling DysfunctionRomance Styles of the MBTI The season of love is upon us! Time to indulge in all swoon-worthy matters: heart-shaped jewellery, romantic candle-lit dinners, red roses, chocolate covered strawberries… Except your partner just texted you they will be working late tonight (likely masking their discomfort with all things ‘touchy feely’) but will buy you the same boring flowers they do every year; you also just realized you forgot to buy a dozen ingredients for your home-made dinner that seemed so great in your fantasies but actually takes 6 hours to prepare, and you are about to open that bottle of wine and drink it in the ki...2023-02-1442 min
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Dismantling DysfunctionTips for Dismantling the Compromising Codependent DysfunctionIt gets REALLY tiresome being around people who act like they have everything together and are above our normal, everyday human struggles, doesn't it? They do this even when everyone else is letting it all hang out and being vulnerable. These same people can't seem to stop with the insights the profound comments and try to enlighten everyone rather than just being human with them. Dear readers and listeners, we introduce you to the Compromising Codependents! Compromisers adopt a detached approach with people, sometimes treating others as though they were specimens to be inspected and critiqued. This...2023-02-0744 min
Dismantling DysfunctionTips for Dismantling the Complying Codependent DysfunctionIf you have ever had that annoying conversation where you say, “Where should we go for dinner?” and your partner or friend responds, “I don’t really care, wherever you pick,” you’ll relate with how frustrating it is to be in relationship with someone who uses the Complying Codependent strategy. These Compliers have a nasty habit of making you the boss, whether you want to be or not by always deferring to what you want and not initiating. But it’s not that they have to. They believe they are doing it because you want them to! Those who us...2023-01-3147 min
Dismantling DysfunctionTips for Dismantling the Dismissing Codependent DysfunctionIt’s not uncommon for certain personalities to believe they are the smartest person in the room. But being in a relationship with someone like this is exhausting. Not surprising, those in a relationship with a Dismissing Codependent become fatigued by their arrogance, condescension and superiority. And when they try to confront it, well, the Dismissing Codependent simply disappears behind their wall, unreachable and untouchable making their partner even more furious. Dismissive Codependents create psychological safety for themselves by acting independently within their relationships. These people want to be left alone to do their own thing and ar...2023-01-2449 min
Dismantling DysfunctionTips for Dismantling the Devaluing Codependent DysfunctionHow do you react when your friend or partner starts a conversation with: “You won’t believe how stupid I am”? Trust us, we’ve been there too, and our first reaction is to jump in and affirm them that they are great, intelligent, wonderful and definitely not stupid. Negative self-talk is one of the most common strategies of people who suffer from the Devaluing Codependent Dysfunction. This disarming strategy has a way of triggering a desire to protect those who use it from themselves. As we contradict their negative descriptions of themselves, we find ourselves arguing for them...2023-01-1744 min
Dismantling DysfunctionTips for Dismantling the Personalizing Codependent DysfunctionWe all like to place blame for things that go wrong in our lives – the public transit being late on your morning commute, your employee who didn’t finish a report in time, a partner that doesn’t pull their weight in the relationship, and sometimes… even ourselves. If you use the Personalizing Codependent Strategy, “it must have something to do with me!” is likely your daily mantra. Personalizing Codependents act as though they are to blame for EVERYTHING that goes on even when they have little (or nothing!) to do with the situation. It’s also a way of makin...2023-01-1047 min
Dismantling DysfunctionTips for Dismantling Codependent Holiday“OMG, I hate this time of year. The gift giving is so stressful, I never have enough time to prepare properly, my family is insane, and I feel like such a disappointment! HELP!”. If you have a holiday script like the one above, you are likely on your way to creating anxiety and misery for yourself. Winding ourselves up with “not enough” thoughts and “I’m so stressed” exclamations every 15 minutes is a formula for unhappiness during the season and depression come January. BUT WAIT… it doesn’t have to be like that! As we mentioned in Episo...2022-12-2229 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDon’t Let Codependent Dysfunctions Spoil Your Holiday SeasonSnow is falling, the fireplace is crackling, and the turkey is slowly roasting in the oven while you sip from your mug of hot chocolate, surrounded by your loving family. Idyllic, isn’t it? We wish! In reality, most of us get overwhelmed the minute we arrive at family gatherings: we overeat, overdrink, and spend time trying to get the approval and love that we never quite feel we got as children. There is nothing like family with all its unresolved conflicts and unrealized expectations to hijack our brains. The holiday season has a way of triggering co...2022-12-2039 min
Dismantling DysfunctionTips for Dismantling the Invalidating Codependent DysfunctionHave you noticed how often people tell you your problem is insignificant because it’s a first world problem? Maybe others say this to you or you’re thinking – OMG, I say that all the time. Without realizing it, we are invalidating the experiences of others or having our feelings invalidated when we are seeking empathy. It’s called emotional invalidation and we use it when we can’t tolerate what we or others are feeling. Most of us can recall a time when we’ve said to our partner, child, or employee “You’re making a big deal out of n...2022-12-1339 min
Dismantling DysfunctionTips for Dismantling the Caretaking Codependent Dysfunction“I don’t know what my family would do without me. I cook, clean, organize and make sure everyone gets out of the house on time. I find interesting articles that I know each of my kids and partner needs to read because if I didn’t, why they wouldn’t have a clue about themselves, how to behave, or what’s going on in the world. The other day, I had to remind my son who is 25 years old to take the lunch I made him to work. I was late for my first client and tried to make it up...2022-12-0635 min
Dismantling DysfunctionTips for Dismantling the Controlling Codependent DysfunctionDid you know that the bossy, selfish friend or partner you always complain about is likely codependent? If you answered no, you aren't alone. People who use dominant codependent behaviours, especially controlling behaviors, look the same and act the same as narcissistic people at times. That’s because we don’t give them the same empathy or compassion as “nice” submissive codependents. Instead, most people react to them by vilifying them and complaining to friends and family members about them and how powerless they are to do anything about their behavior. People who use the Controlling Codependent Strategy...2022-11-2948 min
Dismantling DysfunctionSubmissive Dysfunctional Codependent StrategiesDoes this sound familiar? Despite doing all you can to hold your relationship together, and everything you’ve sacrificed to make it work, it’s still dysfunctional and you're still miserable. The more you try to “fix” your partner or figure out new ways of approaching them to change their behavior, the worse it gets. Frustrating, isn’t it? That’s because while we try to rescue our partner, child or friend and fix the relationship, we should actually be focusing on ourselves and how we are contributing to the codependent relationship, recognizing the developmental delay that has us acting like...2022-11-2251 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDominant Dysfunctional Codependent StrategiesNarcissists aren’t the only people who are manipulative. It’s a primary Codependent Strategy used to control and dominate in a codependent relationship. The use of indirect communication and manipulation to get their own way, including pouting, guilting, becoming outraged or indignant, devaluing and gaslighting to name a few tactics make the other person submit because they feel so bad about themselves. We don't often think of it this way, but how people behave in relationships is very brain dependent. Our psychological type (for example, our MBTI® type or Striving Style®) plays a large role in determ...2022-11-1548 min
Dismantling DysfunctionDysfunction of Codependent RelationshipsWould you consider yourself codependent? When asked that question, some people will say yes, and others will say, no, but I think my partner is. Most of the time we equate Codependency with a clingy, needy person who takes a lot of abuse from their partner, boss, children, and friends. We may think of Codependency as the peacekeeper in relationships, putting needs aside and taking care of others or of someone who constantly blabbers or complains about their partner and never talks about themselves or their own needs. Even worse, people like that never accept advice. As...2022-11-0838 min
Dismantling DysfunctionArchetypes of Survival – Saboteur & StagnationSome people identify as procrastinators, some as perfectionists. And still, others - as risk averse. These proclamations are usually made when someone is asked to do something that feels scary or out of their comfort zone. They expect others to simply accept that this is who they are and to respect their "boundaries" despite the commitments they may have made. These same people feel powerless to do anything about their own self-limiting and often destructive beliefs and tendencies. They say they can't help themselves, and act as though they have no power to even try. Little do...2022-11-0132 min
Dismantling DysfunctionArchetypes of Survival – Child & ResponsibilityWe are sure most people would agree that it’s absolutely horrifying when competent and accomplished adults resort to childish behavior, like having temper tantrums, sulking, pretending nothing is their fault, or shifting the blame to others for their mistakes, to name a few. Yet we all do it - and don’t think for a moment you don’t! All of us can abdicate responsibility or blame others in situations that make us feel insecure or embarrass us. When we see leaders fly into a rage because they are confronted or insist defensively that it isn’t their...2022-10-2532 min
Dismantling DysfunctionArchetypes of Survival – Prostitute & PermissivenessIf there is anyone in your life who tends to agree with you when you know they disagree, you’re acquainted with the Prostitute Archetype (before you say anything – as you likely got caught off guard after reading that - when we talk about the Prostitute Archetype it’s NOT related to sex!). People using this Archetype believe it's a whole lot safer if they just keep their mouths shut. It’s true that everyone does this to a certain extent - we go along to get along, pick our battles, and might not speak up when we really aren’t i...2022-10-1834 min
Dismantling DysfunctionArchetypes of Survival – Victim & the Drama TriangleWe all know people who always seem to be victims of someone or some situation. People who blame others when disappointing or frustrating things happen to them or even when they make a mistake. They don’t discriminate and will blame their boss, peers, direct reports, family, partner, children - anyone is subject to their ability to spin a story to make it look like they are the victims while they in fact are victimizing others. But don’t try rescuing them, because if you have ever tried helping someone who is trapped in the Victim Persona, you’...2022-10-1142 min
Dismantling DysfunctionTips for Dismantling the Dysfunction of DisempowermentComplain, complain, complain... We hear an endless myriad of complaints these days from leaders who believe that disengagement, lack of quality, poor work ethic, and entitled behaviors are the employee's fault, and they have no power to do anything about it. When and why did leaders become so disempowered? It seems that leadership powerlessness may have slowly crept in over the last decade on the heels of the popularity of the extreme version of laisse-faire leadership, otherwise known as Permissive Leadership (if you haven’t already, you must check out our Episode #13 – Dysfunctions of Permissive Leadership to lear...2022-10-0429 min
Dismantling DysfunctionHow Leaders Contribute to the Dysfunction of DisempowermentWhy is it that leaders keep themselves so busy that they don't have time to deal with their people? And why, despite their position of power, do leaders struggle with asserting their authority and managing the performance of their employees? It is all too common for employees to bring their personal issues to work with the expectation that their boss will take special care of them. This form of employee entitlement has some leaders avoiding their employees out of fear that they will not know how to handle the situation. Leaders are giving away their power to...2022-09-2733 min
Dismantling DysfunctionTips for Dismantling the Dysfunction of AccountabilityIn today’s workplaces, accountability has become part of a leader's role they increasingly avoid. They avoid difficult conversations, let employees miss deadlines and waste precious time and resources, all to the detriment of the organization. Impulsiveness, entitlement and emotions which create more drama than results are no longer held in check by leaders who are supposed to be managing and developing performance. Everyone is noticing the bar slipping from high to mediocre performance as a result, with leaders doing nothing to stop the decline. Recent research conducted by the Futures Company found that the average worker spe...2022-09-2020 min
Lead at the Top of Your GameDismantling Dysfunctions That Narcissistic Leaders Create w/Dr. Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardUnfortunately, narcissistic executives are everywhere. The most effective leaders today understand how to navigate collaborating with narcissistic leaders, while also lessening the impact of their behavior on the broader team or stakeholders.Dr. Anne Dranitsaris and her daughter, Heather Dranitsaris-Hillard, share how to dismantle such dysfunctions in leaders and heal the organizations impacted by their behavior.------------Full show notes, links to resources mentioned and other compelling episodes can be found at http://LeadYourGamePodcast.com. (Click magnifying icon at top right and type “Dranitsaris”)LOVE THE SHOW? Subscribe, rate, review and shar...2022-09-1344 min
Dismantling DysfunctionHow Leaders Contribute to the Dysfunction of AccountabilityToday, leaders complain about employees not being accountable for getting things done. But is it really the employee or is it the issue that leaders don't hold themselves accountable for managing the performance of their direct reports? Our experience is that many leaders don't define tasks in a clear manner, leaving employees lost and confused about their expectations. And they fail to follow up to see how the employee is doing, missing the opportunity to praise progress or course correct. Leaders have this nasty habit of believing that employees are “mini-me's,” joined at the brain, with the same...2022-09-1335 min
B.O.O.S.T. PodcastDismantling Dysfunction| Dr. Anne Dranitsaris & Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard EP103Mother/daughter duo, Dr. Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard have a passion for dismantling dysfunction in organizations by helping individuals and organizations to achieve their best and highest human development and fulfillment. They’re experts in behavioral change, leadership and organizational transformation, and interpersonal dynamics. During our conversation, we cover what gets in the way of people establishing themselves as thought leaders, strategies for people who are struggling with the Imposter Syndrome, and much more. Resources:Podcast: Dismantling Dysfunction Book: Power Past the Impos...2022-09-0823 min