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anyway, more soon!special episode: may the eclipses be with you, bitchesenjoy this special episode of recommendations from aubree and adrianna. we know these are hard times full of fascism, eclipses, and retrogrades. these are a few things we enjoy that keep us human in good and challenging times. ~aubree~+CHANI App - use code SUPPORT30 to get 30 days of free content!!+Vibe Check - Difficulty Isn’t a Wall, It’s a Doorway with Namwali Serpell+Poetry is Not a Luxury (book) - @poetryisnotaluxury (instagram)~adrianna~+have i got news for you...
2026-02-2712 minanyway, more soon!episode 7: there are 8 beverages between usyou'll like this episode if you enjoy:-books-beverages-scary stories-publisher disputes-horses-tea-exes-book fairs-metaphors-ego-eating well-breaks-birdsshoutout to some good book orgs/stores:brooklyn book bodegahttps://www.brooklynbookbodega.org/open books chicagohttps://www.open-books.org/indy readshttps://indyreads.org/online shoppinghttps://bookshop.org/adrianna recommends: "the house on mango street" by sandra cisnerosaubree recommends: “scary stories to tell in the dark” by alvi...
2025-12-191h 09
Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching108: Brains, boundaries, & bodies with Adrianna SilverWelcome back to a brand new season of Ask Aubree! In this episode, I sit down with my wonderful friend, comedian Adrianna Silver to answer a slew of exciting listener questions including:-How do you get yourself out of a funk?-How do I get comfortable in my own skin & get the confidence to start dating?-How do I love my friend who is making self sabotaging choices and not changing their behavior?-How do I support my partner’s exploration of their gender & sexuality?-Should my partner and I...
2025-09-121h 22
Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching107: Demystifying Foster Parenting with Marisa Whelan (New Alternatives for Children)In this episode, my wife Laura Henderson and I sit down with Marisa Whelan, Foster Parent Recruitment Specialist from New Alternatives for Children (our NYC foster care agency) for a conversation about our journey to becoming foster moms, what it takes to become a foster parent, and some common misconceptions and myths about the world of foster care. If you have questions about becoming a foster parent or are just curious about the world of foster care, this episode is for you.Learn more about New Alternatives for Children or register for a foster parent orientation at www.nackidscan.orgFollow...
2022-04-131h 00
Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching100: Why ultimatums aren’t always a bad thing.We've always been taught that ultimatums are a relationship no-no - this week, I tell you why I've changed my mind about ultimatums and don't think they're all bad.Order my new book, Breaking Up With People-Pleasing, on Amazon or wherever you get your books! Get $10 off your first shipment of luxury undies from Underclub when you use code AUBREE at underclub.com Hang out with me on Instagram @ahhhhbree Got a question? Fill out the form on my website or email me at hello@aubreehenderson.com Learn more about m...
2021-12-1318 min
Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching97: Breaking Up With People Pleasing with Andrea Seydel (Part 6)In this six-part series, I sit down with my co-author Andrea Seydel to walk through each chapter of our new book, Breaking Up With People-Pleasing!! Get your copy here or anywhere books are sold.
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Find Andrea at @livelifehappy_as and @savingyouiskillingme
2021-11-1826 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching96: Breaking Up With People Pleasing with Andrea Seydel (Part 5)In this six-part series, I sit down with my co-author Andrea Seydel to walk through each chapter of our new book, Breaking Up With People-Pleasing!! Get your copy here or anywhere books are sold.
Follow Aubree on Instagram @ahhhhbree
Find Andrea at @livelifehappy_as and @savingyouiskillingme
2021-11-1822 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching95: Breaking Up With People Pleasing with Andrea Seydel (Part 4)In this six-part series, I sit down with my co-author Andrea Seydel to walk through each chapter of our new book, Breaking Up With People-Pleasing!! Get your copy here or anywhere books are sold.
Follow Aubree on Instagram @ahhhhbree
Find Andrea at @livelifehappy_as and @savingyouiskillingme
2021-11-1822 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching94: Breaking Up With People Pleasing with Andrea Seydel (Part 3)In this six-part series, I sit down with my co-author Andrea Seydel to walk through each chapter of our new book, Breaking Up With People-Pleasing!! Get your copy here or anywhere books are sold.
Follow Aubree on Instagram @ahhhhbree
Find Andrea at @livelifehappy_as and @savingyouiskillingme
2021-11-1822 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching93: Breaking Up With People Pleasing with Andrea Seydel (Part 2)In this six-part series, I sit down with my co-author Andrea Seydel to walk through each chapter of our new book, Breaking Up With People-Pleasing!! Get your copy here or anywhere books are sold.
Follow Aubree on Instagram @ahhhhbree
Find Andrea at @livelifehappy_as and @savingyouiskillingme
2021-11-1821 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching92: Breaking Up With People Pleasing with Andrea Seydel (Part 1)In this six-part series, I sit down with my co-author Andrea Seydel to walk through each chapter of our new book, Breaking Up With People-Pleasing!! Get your copy here or anywhere books are sold.
Follow Aubree on Instagram @ahhhhbree
Find Andrea at @livelifehappy_as and @savingyouiskillingme
2021-11-1827 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching91: I can do hard things when I need to.A pep talk for you & me to remind us that we can do hard things.
Pre-order my new book, Breaking Up With People-Pleasing, on Amazon - available 11/18 wherever you get your books!
Get $10 off your first shipment of luxury undies from Underclub when you use code AUBREE at underclub.com
Hang out with me on Instagram @ahhhhbree
Got a question? Fill out the form on my website or email me at hello@aubreehenderson.com
Learn more about me & my work at www.aubreehenderson.com
2021-11-0817 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching87: That conversation you're afraid to have? It's probably the most important one, too.Welcome back, babes! Ask Aubree is back after a restorative hiatus and today, we're talking about why the conversations we're scared to have are often also the ones we need to have the most.
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Got a question? Fill out the form on my website or email me at hello@aubreehenderson.com
Learn more about me & my work at www.aubreehenderson.com
2021-10-0416 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching81: How to mindfully receive & respond to apologies.We've talked in a couple of episodes about how to give better apologies - being specific, checking in with the other person, being accountable for your actions, and avoiding unnecessary apologies when gratitude will serve you better. But what about when you're on the receiving end of the apology?
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2021-05-3121 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching80: Your permission slip to stop pretending to enjoy things when you really don't.What are the things in your life that you are actively choosing and pretending to like, but that drain your energy? Things you’re saying you enjoy, when really they make you feel like garbage? Consider this episode your permission slip to let go of the things that make you feel like shit.
2021-05-2422 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching79: Shifting your mindset from perpetual apology to gratitude.Are you a chronic over-apologizer? In this episode, I uncover the underlying beliefs that cause us to compulsively apologize and the transformative shifts that a gratitude mindset can help you make.
2021-05-1721 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching78: REPLAY: Guided Meditations for Self-CompassionThree guided meditations to cultivate love & compassion toward yourself.
2:23 guided meditation for self-acceptance
12:15 guided meditation for worthiness
26:42 guided meditation for self-love
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2021-05-1033 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching77: How do I source validation from within?A listener asks: how can I provide my own validation and reassurance when I’m so used to needing it from other people? Why do we need attention, affection, and affirmation from others in the first place?
2021-05-0327 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching76: REPLAY - Guided meditation for disappointment & rejection.This week, I'm sharing a replay of an old favorite from September 2020 - a guided meditation to build self-compassion and increase positive self-talk in the face of disappointment and rejection.
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2021-04-2624 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching75: Three Listener Questions - Roommates, Boyfriends, & In-LawsThis week, I answer questions from three listeners who are all navigating boundaries and asking for what they need in three very different types of relationships.
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2021-04-1932 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching74: The gift of feedback with Adeola (Ola) WhitneyDoes giving feedback make you want to puke? Do you get defensive at just the possibility of getting constructive criticism? This week, I'm joined by my mentor and friend Adeola (Ola) Whitney, who taught me a ton of what I know about giving and receiving feedback artfully.
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2021-04-121h 01Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching73: Listen to this when you have a vulnerability hangover.You know that feeling after you’ve shared something personal or tender or vulnerable? When the anxiety sets in or you’re worried about what the other person is thinking or you inexplicably feel like you wanna puke?
Yep - that’s a vulnerability hangover! And this week I’m telling you how to handle it the next time you have one.
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2021-04-0524 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching72: How to ask for more of what feels good in your relationships.We talk a lot about boundary-setting when someone’s behavior is hurting us - and that’s obviously important, but what about the stuff that feels good? In this episode, we talk about how to ask for what you *do* want, and why it’s important to name what already feels good in your relationships.
2021-03-2931 min
You Need TherapyBreaking up with People Pleasing with Aubree HendersonThis week Kat (@kat.defatta) has Self Worth Coach, Aubree Henderson (@ahhhhbree), back to talk about how to break up with people pleasing. So many of you all resonated with the codependency episode that Kat decided to zone in on one of the characteristics of codependency. People pleasing is something that happens when we put the needs, expectations, and feelings of others above our own. In this episode you will hear us talk about why we do this and how we can start to untangle ourselves from this behavior. You can learn more about A...
2021-03-2243 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching71: You’ll probably never get rid of your nagging thoughts... and that’s okay.You know those nagging, automatic, inner-critic-driven thoughts that come up all the time and make you feel like shit? Well... those might never go away. No, not even when you’ve worked on your healing and recovery for years. In this episode, I’ll tell you why that doesn’t mean you aren’t still healing & growing.
2021-03-2229 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching70: Demystifying Codependency - a conversation with Whytli RogersThis week, I'm sharing an interview I did earlier this year with Whytli Rogers for her podcast, In the Wake with Whytli. Whytli is a mental health advocate, certified life coach, and survivor - her podcast is a space for conversations about topics that are often shrouded in stigma and shame, but need to be talked about more. In this conversation, we talk all things codependency - what it is, where it stems from, and how to love others while still loving yourself.
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2021-03-1543 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching69: It's ok to want what you want: your sex questions, answered.This week, I answer your sex & self-worth questions - we're talking oral sex, pelvic pain, non-monogamy, sexual shame, queerness, and more.
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2021-03-0138 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching68: Guided Meditation for Self-Compassion & Connectedness.This week, I walk you through a guided meditation created to tune into and hold compassionate space for difficult emotions. Listen when you want to get present in your mind & body, need to sit with your feelings, or just want a yummy moment for yourself.
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2021-02-2215 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching67: How do I ask for what I need if I don't know what I need?I often preach about the importance of asking for what you need - but how can you do that if you don't know what it is that you need?! In this episode, I share some strategies to try when you're not sure what you need, so you can gain the clarity required to name your needs.
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2021-02-1518 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching66: Why we need rituals.Humans thrive on rhythms, routines, and rituals. In this episode, I share a little bit about the roles that rituals play in my life and how they can be a benefit to yours, too!
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www.aubreehenderson.com
2021-02-0826 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching65: Can I be platonic friends with someone I’m attracted to?A listener asks: Is it okay to feel sexual attraction for a friend? How do I deal with the guilt of having a close friendship outside of my relationship with someone of the same gender as my partner? How can I talk to my partner about my friendships when there is insecurity there?
2021-02-0146 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching64: It's not your job to endure being treated like shit.The 4th and final installment of "It's not your job to..." - a series on the things we've been socialized to believe are our responsibility, but in reality are NOT our job!
This week: it's not your job to endure being treated like shit! Why we're made to believe that tolerating shitty treatment is an admirable quality, and the mindset shifts to support better boundaries.
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RESOURCES FOR FOLKS EXPERIENCING VIOLENCE OR ABUSE
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
www.ndvh.org
National Dating Abuse Helpline
1-866-331-9474
www.loveisrespect.org
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2021-01-2527 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching63: It's not your job to keep other people comfortable.Part 3 in "It's not your job to..." - a series on the things we've been socialized to believe are our responsibility, but in reality are NOT our job!
This week: it's not your job to keep other people comfortable! Why we are so quick to prioritize other people's comfort over our own happiness, and strategies to begin to unlearn these habits and move toward authenticity over approval.
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2021-01-1833 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching62: It’s not your job to “fix” other people.This week, we continue our series on things that aren’t your job. Next up - other people’s healing & emotional wellness. Shout-out to my wife, Laura Henderson, for joining me on this one!
2021-01-1139 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching61: It’s not your job to prove that you’re worthy.It’s a new year, babes! So it’s the perfect time to kick off a series about things that are not your job. First up - proving to anyone that you’re worthy, lovable, or good enough.
2021-01-0427 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching60: REPLAY - You aren’t selfish for asking for what you need.Enjoy this replay of one of my favorite episodes, originally recorded in February 2020.
“Asking for what you need doesn't make you selfish." To some, this is a simple statement. To others, it's a radical notion. In this episode, we dig into the people-pleasing patterns and experiences that make us terrified to ask for what we need and how we can break that cycle. A listener writes in about the pain of rejection.
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2020-12-2130 min
HealersSelf-worth and setting boundaries with Aubree HendersonWe’ve all heard it before: put on your oxygen mask before assisting others. But living like you are truly enough and have value no matter what is another story. Self-worth coach Aubree Henderson is so clear and convinced about her worth and your worth that it will make you sit up taller and want to love yourself harder. This episode is going to hit you in the gut in the best way possible.
2020-12-1758 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching59: REPLAY - How do I get comfy with conflict and confrontation?Enjoy this replay of one of my favorite episodes, originally recorded in October 2019!
In this episode, we hear from a listener who struggles with conflict and prefers to avoid it altogether, but wants to know how to approach conflict and confrontation in their relationships with confidence and health.
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2020-12-1425 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching58: REPLAY - Is self-care keeping people from getting shit done?Enjoy this replay of one of my favorite episodes, originally recorded in November 2019!
In this episode, I respond to a letter writer who is struggling with anger at others around them who are prioritizing self-care at the expense of their work and relational roles and responsibilities, and asks for strategies to reframe their thoughts and interactions around this.
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2020-12-0729 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching57: The stories we tell ourselves & how to rewrite them.Ever notice how your brain will take a gap in information and fill in a whole catastrophic narrative that leaves you feeling like shit about yourself? Let’s talk about that.
2020-11-3026 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching56: The difference between being nice and being kind.So many of us have been reminded to be "nice" to keep others comfortable - but how is this different from being kind? I break down the difference and why I will always encourage my clients to pursue one over the other.
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2020-11-2319 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching55: Your Questions, Answered - Listener Questions on Boundaries, Trust, Codependency, Self-Love, and More!I answer 5 listener questions from the archives, including:
How do I set boundaries with myself?
What's your approach to trust? Do people start with all your trust and it's theirs to lose, or do they start at zero and have to earn it?
Why is it so much easier to give grace and forgiveness to others than to be kind to myself?
What do you think of the idea that "You can't love/be loved by someone else until you love yourself"?
Is it possible to maintain parts of codependency and "manage" it rather than give it up and recover...
2020-11-1640 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching54: Guided Meditations for Centering, Lovingkindness, and Self-WorthA few of my favorite guided meditations to support you in a difficult week - not to distract you or tune out the world around you, but to tune you in to yourself.
3:41 Centering Meditation
12:16 Loving Kindness Meditation
20:54 Worthiness Meditation
32:51 Self-Love Meditation
2020-11-0242 minYou Need TherapyBefriending Your Inner Critic: with Aubree HendersonYNT joined The Amy Brown Network, WHATTTTTTTT. Yep. We are now a part of a group of strong empowering women who are helping to create positive change in the world! I am so excited and I hope you are excited because this is just the beginning! AND make sure to check out and share our new trailer that was released last week, as well! Now, as for today’s episode Kat (@kat.defatta) has self worth coach, Aubree Henderson on. You are going to love feeling her energy and wisdom today as she is talks to us about how to...
2020-10-2635 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching53: Building Self-Worth: Conversation with Karen Maloney (Curiosity & Consciousness Podcast)This week, I’m sharing my conversation with Karen Maloney from her show, the Curiosity & Consciousness Podcast. In this episode, we talk people-pleasing, self-worth, codependency, and more. Love this conversation? Check out the Curiosity & Consciousness podcast wherever you get your podcasts!
2020-10-2643 min
Curiosity & Consciousness PodcastBuilding Self-Worth with Aubree HendersonAubree Henderson is my guest this week. Aubree is a Self-Worth Coach who helps women & LGBTQ folks to befriend their inner critic, break up with people-pleasing, and reclaim their desire. As a recovering people-pleaser and codependent herself, Aubree is passionate about using her background in counseling, 12-step recovery, and leadership development to help others work toward the big goals and dreams that light them up. She is based in Brooklyn, New York where she lives with her wife and 3 amazing kids. www.aubreehenderson.com
2020-10-2246 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching52: Can I be friends with someone I used to be "more than friends" with?A listener asks: how can I be friends with someone I was once attracted to? What does it look like to move a relationship from a romantic or sexual place into platonic friendship?
Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator by Amy Gahran
"In A Secure Relationship" post by @thebraincoach on Instagram
2020-10-1927 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching51: Where do you get your confidence?A mini episode answering a question I get all the time - "where/how do you get your confidence?" I'll share why that memory transports me directly to the year 2004, and three strategies for strengthening your own self-confidence.
2020-10-1215 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching50: Being brave enough to suck at something new.A listener asks: How do you recommend that new coaches remain grounded in their self-worth and combat self-doubt?
A pep talk for anyone thinking about starting something new, pursuing a dream, or following a desire but dealing with some self-doubt along the way.
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2020-10-0537 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching49: Guided meditation for disappointment & rejection.A guided meditation to build self-compassion and increase positive self-talk in the face of disappointment and rejection.
2020-09-2828 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching48: Not everyone's gonna like you, babe.Will you do anything to avoid being disliked? Are you more comfortable feeling like everyone and their mom likes you than living as your authentic self? In this episode, we break down the three reasons why this mindset isn't serving you and how to begin to move away from it.
2020-09-2132 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching47: How to make decisions that honor your intuition.Do you struggle to make big decisions (or even smaller ones!) because you're too bogged down with all the options in front of you - not to mention what other people might say or think - to know what you really want? You're probably out of touch with your intuition. Don't worry - I used to be, too! But in this episode, I'll share a tool I use that has helped me, my coaching clients, and tons of other folks in my life to make hard decisions AND connect more deeply with our intuition in the process.
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2020-09-1428 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching46: Why I coach on self-worth."Why self-worth coaching?" I get this question ALL the time - in this episode, I share a bit about why I choose to focus on self-worth from the start with my clients, and why I believe that self-worth is one of the most powerful levers for changing our lives.
2020-08-3114 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching45: Look at you, doing it anyway: A self-love practice for grief & overwhelm.Reflections on self-compassion when you’re riding the waves of grief and overwhelm, and a guided meditation for radical self-acceptance.
2020-08-2425 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching44: Toxic family & healthy jealousy - your questions, answered!Two listener questions this week - one asks how to support someone in a toxic relationship, while the other wants to know if jealousy is inherently unhealthy and unhelpful.
Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for 15% off your first purchase at https://www.elizaandwyld.com
2020-08-1723 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching43: People-Pleasing Part 4 - How do I thrive in my relationships?In the final episode of our people-pleasing miniseries, I share strategies for strengthening communication and setting boundaries in your relationships so you can maintain connections without abandoning yourself. Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for 15% off your first purchase at https://www.elizaandwyld.com
2020-08-1033 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching42: People-Pleasing Part 3 - What's the fear fueling your people-pleasing?In part 3 of our people-pleasing miniseries, I share a strategy for reflecting on and uncovering the fears that are driving the people-pleasing habits and behaviors in your life - and why people-pleasing isn't actually protecting you the way you might think it is.
Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for 15% off your first purchase at https://www.elizaandwyld.com
2020-08-0328 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching41: People-Pleasing Part 2 - Why do we people-please?Part 2 of our people-pleasing miniseries - WHY do we people-please? We'll dig in to 3 big reasons why we engage in patterns of people-pleasing, the needs that people-pleasing is fulfilling, and some strategies for deeper self-reflection.
Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for 15% off your first purchase at https://www.elizaandwyld.com
2020-07-2732 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching40: People-Pleasing Part 1 - Am I a people-pleaser?This week, I'm re-sharing an episode that first aired back in January of this year to set us up for a new series on people-pleasing! This week we answer the question "Am I a people-pleaser?" Whatever your answer to this question, it's a big HELL YES from me. Let's dig into what being a "people-pleaser" actually means, why it might be hurting you, and what steps you can take to move in a healthier direction.
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2020-07-2031 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching39: Your worth and your weight are not related.So many of us have bought in to the toxic belief that our worth is attached to our weight, size, and appearance. This episode contains reflections on body image, weight, and worthiness - along with some strategies for beginning to believe that your weight and your worthiness are completely unrelated.
Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for 15% off your first purchase at https://www.elizaandwyld.com
2020-07-1326 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching38: The three big reasons we self-sabotage.A listener writes about her struggles with self-sabotage as she works toward her personal health goals, and we dive in to three big reasons WHY we self-sabotage and how to better understand how these might be showing up for you.
Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for 15% off your first purchase at https://www.elizaandwyld.com
2020-06-2929 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching37: Healthy conflict is a catalyst for intimacy.We are socialized to believe that conflict is mean, impolite, and leads to disconnection (hello, white supremacy culture). But the reality is that, when approached in a healthy way, conflict doesn’t drive us apart - it actually creates deeper intimacy and more meaningful connection.
THE CHARACTERISTICS OF WHITE SUPREMACY CULTURE - From Dismantling Racism: A Workbook for Social Change Groups, by Kenneth Jones and Tema Okun, ChangeWork, 2001 https://www.showingupforracialjustice.org/white-supremacy-culture-characteristics.html
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2020-06-2227 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching36: Guided Meditation: Creating Warm Space for Difficult Emotions.A guided meditation to cultivate relaxation, calm, and safety to acknowledge your emotions and experiences. Featuring an excerpt from "Principles" by the poet Danez Smith.
Ask Aubree is supported by Eliza & Wyld - all natural, high-potency CBD products designed to give you targeted everyday self care inside and out. Use code AUBREE15 for 15% off your first purchase at https://www.elizaandwyld.com
2020-06-1517 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching35: Why guilt alone is not productive.Guilt is adaptive - we feel bad when we screw up or when we realize that our actions have harmed others. But unless we do something with it, staying in our guilt isn’t useful - and is actually really selfish.
2020-06-0821 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching34: Anti-racism isn't a self-help exercise for white folks.To my fellow white folks in this community: making ourselves feel better by looking away from Black people's pain and pretending that we haven't perpetuated it is not self-care. Anti-racism is a lifelong, at times deeply challenging and uncomfortable, ongoing commitment - not a one-time personal development course or a self-help book we can put down and check off the list. Come on in - we need to talk.
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The below is obviously not an exhaustive list of resources, but some that I have been sharing on an individual basis. There are many many...
2020-06-0131 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching33: What you’re actually afraid of when you think you’re “too much”.Ever felt like you’re “too much”? SO MANY of us carry around a fear of being “too much” of something - and whatever it is for you, I’m so glad you’re listening to this episode, because I think it’s important for us to really dig deeper into this fear that we carry around and identify where it’s REALLY coming from.
2020-05-1825 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching32: Your healing will never be complete.A listener asks: I'm discovering that I'm a people pleaser and am working closely with my therapist to work on some of that. I am also in the process of becoming of foster parent and I'm a little nervous about moving forward in the process because of my people pleasing tendencies. Do you have an episode that touches more on this? I think my biggest fear is that by accepting a child with trauma into my life and home without being 100% healed and operating on all cylinders I might be doing them a disservice if that makes sense. READY TO D...
2020-05-1126 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching31: Walking the tightrope of “too much” and “not enough” (listener question & guided meditation)A listener asks how to get better at balancing the pressure to avoid being “too much” while also worrying about not being enough.
Also, a guided meditation on worthiness & rootedness.
QUESTION: “I saw your most recent instagram post about feeling simultaneously like i’m too much and at the same time like I’m not enough. it hit me like a freight train. I reread it twice.
I have felt this way for my whole life. the constant push and pull - don’t be too affectionate, but be warm enough that people want to keep you around. don’t let people kno...
2020-05-0440 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching30: It’s okay to to be hungry for love.People need other people, babe. Now more than ever. So let’s talk about how our people-pleasing beliefs hold us back from real connection - even when we’re in the process of unlearning and healing from them. Also, a guided meditation to accompany this reflection.
Excerpt from @yumisakugawa on Instagram.
Poem - “The Invitation” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer.
2020-04-2732 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching29: Why you should befriend your inner critic.Most of us have an inner critic - with familiar refrains of “you’ll never be good enough” or “you’re a failure”, these internal voices can be a nuisance at best and deeply painful at worst. I‘ve been asked how to get rid of one’s inner critic - and I don’t believe you can (or should). In fact, I think you should make friends with it.
Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the...
2020-04-2030 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching28: Am I weird for not wanting to have sex during a pandemic?A listener asks: I live with my partner and love being around him 24/7, but right now I feel absolutely no desire to have sex with him. Is this normal?
2020-04-1321 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching27: Guided Meditation for Radical Self-Acceptance and Self-LoveA guided meditation to cultivate self-love and radical acceptance of yourself exactly as you are, and to create a safe home within yourself for whatever emotions you are experiencing.
2020-04-0617 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching26: Tested for COVID-19 & staying sane in the waitingAn interview with a listener who was tested for COVID-19 in New York City, and wanted to share about his experience being tested, isolating in his apartment, awaiting his results, and maintaining his mental health through it all.
2020-04-0636 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching25: Your foster care questions - part 2!My wife, Laura, joins me to answer more listener questions about foster parenting, including:
-What’s it like going from two kids to three?
-How is foster care different right now in a global pandemic?
-What’s the best part of being a foster parent? What’s the hardest?
Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social!
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2020-03-3029 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching24: How do I help my struggling mom while maintaining my own self-worth?A listener asks how to balance supporting a loved one who is struggling with mental health challenges with maintaining their own self-worth. Also, a guided meditation in the last 8ish minutes (inspired by a Self-Love Meditation by Samantha Feller). Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social! You can also submit your question as a VOICE MEMO at anchor.fm/aubreehenderson Love what you...
2020-03-2326 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching23: How do we stay connected, calm, and sane when we’re practicing social distancing?We’re all practicing responsible social distancing - so how do we stay connected and keep ourselves from spiraling into stress? Aubree shares her thoughts, and a relaxing guided visualization for the moments when you need to pretend you’re not stuck inside your apartment. Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social! You can also submit your question as a VOICE MEMO at anch...
2020-03-1623 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching22: Is it ok to set boundaries at work?Listeners share their struggles with setting and maintaining boundaries at work - whether it’s saying “no” to your boss, not letting work be your whole life, or setting boundaries with your coworkers. Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social! You can also submit your question as a VOICE MEMO at anchor.fm/aubreehenderson Love what you hear on the podcast and want some i...
2020-03-0928 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching21: What can I do to be an anti-racist white ally?Aubree shares her personal perspective (as a white woman doing her own work in this realm) on some common questions about what it means to be a white ally to people of color, including:
What are tangible actions I can take to be an ally as a white person?
What if someone tells me they don’t want me to be their ally? What if someone yells at me for expressing anti-racist views?
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ARTICLE: “For Our White Friends Desiring To Be Allies” by Courtney Ariel https://sojo.net/articles/our-white-friends-desiring-be-allies
Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life...
2020-03-0233 min
Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching20: How can I advocate for myself when others violate my boundaries?(CW: references to sexual harassment, violation of physical boundaries). A listener asks for advice about how to advocate for yourself when others are violating your boundaries - I offer strategies for rethinking how we approach consent, accountability, and boundaries. Also, a guided meditation in the last 5ish minutes (because of course there is).
Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social! You can also...
2020-02-2440 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching19: How do I hold it together when shit feels out of control?Ever feel like you're barely keeping your head above water? Juggling a million priorities and afraid at any moment that an important ball is going to drop? Me too, babe. In this episode, I share my strategies for holding it together when life feels out of control. Skip to the last 5 minutes for a guided meditation to ground you in your body and breath.
Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next...
2020-02-1844 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching18: You aren’t selfish for asking for what you need."Asking for what you need doesn't make you selfish." To some, this is a simple statement. To others, it's a radical notion. In this episode, we dig into the people-pleasing patterns and experiences that make us terrified to ask for what we need and how we can break that cycle. A listener writes in about the pain of rejection.
Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or...
2020-02-0332 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching17: Your foster care questions - part 1!My wife, Laura, joins me to share about our journey to becoming foster mamas, including responses to some listener questions about foster care and a critique of a recent NY Times article about foster parenting.
Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social! You can also submit your question as a VOICE MEMO at anchor.fm/aubreehenderson
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2020-01-271h 02Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching16: Dealing with disappointment and the unmet expectations that cause it.Let's talk about disappointment. Do you find yourself consistently disappointed with people or situations in your life? Struggling with disappointment in yourself and even guilt when you don't live up to your own goals or expectations for yourself? Have trouble calibrating your expectations appropriately when others aren't meeting them? This week we'll talk about all of this and more, babe.
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2020-01-2136 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching15: How can I answer more honestly when people ask “how are you?”A listener asks “[When someone asks ‘how are you?’,] I don’t know why I can’t tell the truth about how I’m feeling when I’m in pain or having a hard time... I know it’s normal to go through ups and downs but I can’t help but feel like no one actually wants to hear about that. Is this crazy?”
Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubr...
2020-01-1322 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching14: Am I a people-pleaser?Whatever your answer to this question, it's a big HELL YES from me. Let's dig into what being a "people pleaser" actually means, why it might be hurting you, and what steps you can take to move in a healthier direction.
Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Want to be featured on a future episode? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social! You can also submit your question as a VOICE MEMO at anchor.fm/aubreehenderson
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2020-01-0629 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching13: New Year, same you, new intentions - resolutions, goals, and intention-setting for a new year.In the last episode of 2019, I share thoughts about New Year’s resolutions and practical tips for goal-setting in a more holistic, intentional, and ultimately more impactful way.
Want your own free coaching session with me and a spot on a future episode? Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social!
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2019-12-3038 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching12: Coaching Session - How do I intentionally slow down when I've always had to hustle?In this episode, I coach a client who wants to enjoy a slower, less stressful season of life, but is struggling to slow down her brain and body when she's spent so long being busy and having to hustle to get by.
Want your own free coaching session with me and a spot on a future episode? Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social!
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2019-12-231h 05Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching11: Mindfulness and chasing “enough” with Charisse WilliamsSitting down and talking mindfulness, body image, and more with my dear friend and colleague Charisse M. Williams. Charisse is a Leadership Coach and Yoga Teacher helping individuals and teams harness their strengths so they can achieve their goals and flourish. Find Charisse on LinkedIN | Instagram
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2019-12-1651 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching10: Rapid-Fire Listener Questions - Soulmates, Life Coaching, and the EnneagramQuick responses to a few listener questions from my inbox: Are soulmates real? What exactly is life coaching? Will you ever cover the Enneagram on the podcast?
Want your own free coaching session with me and a spot on a future episode? Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social!
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2019-12-0925 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching9: Bad relationships of reality dating shows with Laura HendersonIn this episode, my wife Laura joins me for a conversation about reality dating shows (aka “love competitions”) like the Bachelor/Bachelorette, Are You the One, Temptation Island, and more - along with the lessons they can teach us about romance and relationships in our actual lives. (This episode does contain spoilers for past seasons of these shows! Beware!)
Want your own free coaching session with me and a spot on a future episode? Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Submit a question to be an...
2019-12-0257 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching8: Is self-care keeping people from getting shit done?In this episode, I respond to a letter writer who is struggling with anger at others around them who are prioritizing self-care at the expense of their work and relational roles and responsibilities, and asks for strategies to reframe their thoughts and interactions around this.
Want your own free coaching session with me and a spot on a future episode? Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social!
2019-11-2529 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching7: Coaching Session - How can I make change as a feminist working in a sexist industry?In this episode, I coach someone who's grappling with the best way to make change in an industry that she loves, but where sexism is prevalent.
Want your own free coaching session with me and a spot on a future episode? Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social!
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2019-11-181h 15Ask Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching6: Coaching Session - How do I stop my looping thoughts from keeping me up at night?In this episode, I coach someone who's struggling to sleep well at night while her mind plays self-judgment, past events, and painful memories on loop.
Want your own free coaching session with me and a spot on a future episode? Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social!
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2019-11-1155 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching5: Guided meditations for self-love (or anytime you need a nice calm pep talk!)This week I share three guided meditations to help you cultivate loving kindness, self love, and a sense of worthiness - perfect to combat those Sunday scaries, or just to bliss out during your commute.
Loving Kindness Meditation: 2:00
Self-Love Meditation by Samantha Feller: 11:48
Worthiness Meditation adapted from Lisa Nichols: 17:28
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2019-10-2833 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching4: How do I get comfy with conflict and confrontation?This week we hear from a listener who struggles with conflict and prefers to avoid it altogether, but wants to know how to approach conflict and confrontation in their relationships with confidence and health.
Want your own free coaching session with me and a spot on a future episode? Struggling with your own dilemma or have an area of your life where you just need a pep talk? Submit a question to be answered on the next podcast at aubreehenderson.com or @ahhhhbree on social!
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2019-10-2125 minAsk Aubree: Advice & Self-Love Coaching3: Mama Sheena drops in for some rapid-fire questions!Y'all - my MOM is here and she's joining me for this week's podcast! We talk about a little bit of everything - from our favorite ASMR to life-altering grief to kissing a lot of people.
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2019-10-1449 min