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Bad QueersGetting what I need (w/ Dani Janae from Autostraddle) I Episode 140This week we welcome writer Dani Janae from Autostraddle. We discuss growing up queer in Pittsburgh, the top 5 fictional characters that influenced our queerness and reviewed The White Lotus and The L Word: Generation Q. We broke down whether we felt "the gay voice" was real and representation in writing. Shoutouts:Shana: The San Diego Black LGBTQ Coalition for hosting their first Black LGBTQ Human Book Experience. This will happen February 11th at 3 pm. The Black LGBTQ Human Book Experience is an interactive learning experience where readers can ask our human books...2023-01-161h 15Bad QueersI'm Gay! w/Special Guest Host Shelli Nicole I Episode 127Happy reminder that Kris is on maternity leave! This week we welcome our special guest host, Culture Editor of Autostraddle, Shelli Nicole. We jump right into discussing lesbian bed death, celebrate the WNBA Champions Las Vegas Aces and are queer women dedicated to LGBTQ+ bars that center them?Shoutouts:Shana: Oakland to all - Bay Area Ballroom Scene. Founded by Shireen aka Hype Kitty and Sailor G aka DJ Guardian Guerrilla Bump - Follow @oaklandtoall on IG Shelli: AUTOSTRADDLE DUH for my first shout out! Follow @autostraddle on I...2022-09-261h 13
Wait, Is This A Date?Long Distance CrushesDearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called... a season finale! Yes, it's true, today's episode marks the end of the absolute blockbuster that was S2 of Wait, Is This A Date? To celebrate that ending, who better to come on and discuss the joys and successes of a long distance crush than actor and queer person Elise Bauman? Around these parts, she has another title that is nearly as vaunted: Drew's girlfriend! Yes, that's right, this sparkling twosome was birthed from the great queer tradition: the long distance crush. But what i...2022-09-0751 min
Wait, Is This A Date?BottomingBottom Culture has become quite a Thing™ Online as of late! But what does it really mean to be a bottom? Why has the culture decided bottoming is synonymous with being afraid to ask for what you want? And how does one go about deciding if they like bottoming?! With all these questions rattling around our minds, Drew and I knew there was only one person we could go to for conversation on bottoming: The Gay Chingy AKA Chingy Nea, AKA The Bottom Supreme! Chingy helps us tease out what it means to be a bottom, why sh...2022-08-3145 min
Wait, Is This A Date?When Your Friends Don’t Like Your PartnerBringing someone home to meet your parents is such a trope it’s an entire genre of movie. But for many queer people there are two families to introduce to a partner: given and chosen. And sometimes the chosen family is scarier. That’s why this week on the podcast we have Autostraddle’s own Yashwina Canter to talk about what happens when your friends don’t like your partner or your partner doesn’t like your friends. We get into Yash’s own dating history and how she’s navigated being on every side of this equation. And...2022-08-2453 min
Wait, Is This A Date?A+ Mailbag Minisode!Without our A+ members, there would be no Autostraddle. And without Autostraddle, there would be no Wait, Is This a Date? So this week on the podcast, we’re answering questions sent in by the A+ members who allow us to do what we do! Questions range from how to have a first lesbian experience to how to be horny and demisexual. We give our best advice and if you’re thinking hmm these queers seem to know what they’re talking about then go ahead and send in your own question! We’ll be doing more mailbag...2022-08-1725 min
Wait, Is This A Date?HygieneAh, bodies. The sacks of meat, bones and skin that we must drag our consciousness around in until we come up with a better way to get through life. And if that wasn't embarrassing enough, we have to bring them with us on dates and hook ups! How do we deal with the reality of our human bodies while dating? Does anyone notice the tiny little things we stress out about as much as we do? What does the way we present our bodies to others say about our gender, our sexuality? We knew we needed to...2022-08-1052 min
Wait, Is This A Date?Celebrity CrushesCelebrity crushes mean more to queer people than they do to straight people. They can be our first expressions of queer desire or our first expressions of gender envy. They can be a safe place to try out urges that aren’t ready for the real world. That’s why this week we’re talking with writer and podcaster Jordan Crucchiola all about celebrity crushes. We talk about how celebrity thirsting feels inclusive to Jordan as a panromantic gray asexual person. We talk about how Drew thinks most of her celebrity crushes are kind of attainable. And, of cou...2022-08-031h 02
Wait, Is This A Date?Public RelationshipsBeing in a public relationship isn’t just the joys of ambitious4ambitious. There’s also the matter of boundaries and privacy. Drew and her girlfriend only have a small amount of fame so this week we’ve brought on someone in an even more gaymous power couple: Grace Lavery. You may know Grace from her memoir Please Miss, from her various writings on the internet, or, if you’re really niche, as your former professor at Berkeley. And you may know Grace’s husband Danny Lavery from his books such as Something That May Shock and Discredit You and co-fou...2022-07-2750 min
Wait, Is This A Date?Partners' PetsWhether you’re a dog gay, a cat gay, a snake gay, a ferret gay, or a will I ever find a lesbian who doesn’t have a pet gay, animals likely play a role in your dating life. That’s why this week our topic is Partners’ Pets and we have actor, writer, and friend of Autostraddle’s Brittani Nichols on to talk about her girlfriend’s dog and her girlfriend’s snake. We get into our histories with pets, our boundaries with partners’ pets, and Brittani’s assertion that animals, like people, have their own personalities and...2022-07-2041 min
Wait, Is This A Date?Dating MenWhether you're a lesbian who dated men as a teen or a queer person who dates lots of genders, our community is far too mixed and gender is far too complicated to leave men — cis and trans — out of our discussions. That's why this week our topic is Dating Men and our very special guest is writer, director, podcaster, icon, and Drew’s best friend, Gaby Dunn! For those who don't know them, Gaby has been dating men throughout their entire identity journey. They talk to us about dating men when they thought they were a cis woman...2022-07-131h 06
Wait, Is This A Date?BoundariesThis week’s topic is Boundaries! We all have our own lessons to learn when it comes to boundaries. For some people, the challenge is learning to share less, for others, to share more. Our guest this week, Autostraddle’s editor-in-chief Carmen Phillips, is squarely in the latter group. Christina and Drew get into this with Carmen as we all examine the ways our strengths are our weaknesses and our weaknesses are our strengths. And before that we play our classic game Fuck, U-Haul, Ghost, but a special edition where Christina asks Drew about her favo...2022-07-0655 min
Wait, Is This A Date?Mommi CultureThe year: 2017. The day: the beginning of Pride Month. Big Little Lies and The Good Fight had recently released their first seasons. Rihanna had an album out the previous year. Images from Carol still danced across our feeds with a swooning urgency. The air was hot with the sparkle of new life. June 1, 2017: Mommi was born. Former Autostraddle writer Erin Sullivan and current Autostraddle managing editor Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya co-wrote an article titled, “Mommi Is the New Daddy” and our lives were never the same. I had only come out a couple months prior so it’s...2022-06-2950 min
Wait, Is This A Date?Season 2 Trailer!We're back babyyyy! Season 2 is finally here with a whole new lineup of special guests, hilarious games, and your classic WITAD dating advice! New episodes air every Wednesday! Follow us on Instagram and Twitter at @waitisthisadate SUPPORT INDEPENDENT QUEER MEDIA! Follow @autostraddle and join our membership program, A+! Follow Drew Gregory @draw_gregory Follow Christina Tucker on Twitter @C_GraceT and Instagram @christina_gracet Theme song: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein Logo: Maanya Dhar @maanya_dhar Episode Produced, Edited, Mixed: Lauren Klein @laurentaylorklein2022-06-2804 min
Wait, Is This A Date?2021 Mailbag!Happy holidays! And by "happy" I mean, things sure feel really bad right now?? And most of us have probably had our holiday plans changed once again?? But luckily our gift to you is a virtual one aka our long-awaited mailbag episode! We get into tough feelings surrounding non-monogamy, fictional characters we'd want on the pod, and so much more. Thank you to everyone who sent in questions! Follow us on Instagram and Twitter at @waitisthisadate Thank you all so much for an incredible first season SUPPORT INDEPENDENT QUEER MEDIA! Follow...2021-12-221h 01Bad Queers2021 Circle Back (w/Shelli Nicole) I Episode 91Welcome to our first official Circle Back! Where we review the positives and fuck shit of 2021. To do this, we brought back one of our favorite guests, the Culture Editor of Autostraddle, Shelli Nicole. Starting from the insurrection and wrapping up with Candace Parker's baby announcement, let's review this year of queer. This is an extended episode which also includes our Bad Queer predictions for 2022. Today's episode involves a TW (trigger warning) where we discuss abortion at various points of this podcast. Shelli's Favorite Articles:An Ode to Hilary Banks - The Bougie...2021-12-201h 53