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Delay the Binge Podcast | The Moment Before the ReactionWhen You Stop Abandoning Yourself to Keep the Peace with Barb NangleWhat if keeping the peace with everyone else has been costing you peace with yourself?In this episode of Delay the Binge™, Pam Dwyer talks with boundaries coach, speaker, author, and Fragmented to Whole podcast host Barb Nangle about the connection between healthy boundaries, self-trust, and what Barb calls internal safety.After entering recovery at age 52, Barb began recognizing long-standing patterns of people pleasing, over-responsibility, and self-abandonment. She discovered that creating boundaries wasn’t simply about learning how to say no. It was about learning to have her...
2026-08-311h 08
Nervous System Reset for Caregivers - Burnout, Advocacy, Emotional Regulation, Hyper-vigilance, Health CareLet Me Think About It: Boundaries That Protect Caregivers Without Guilt (with Barb Nangle)Just a gentle note before we begin: today we’ll be talking about boundaries, people pleasing, codependent patterns and recovery. Please listen in a way that feels supportive for you. You’re welcome to pause and come back at any time.There’s a moment a lot of caregivers know too well: someone asks for “just one more thing”… and there’s a tone in the room that says, don’t disappoint me. Even if your body is already running on empty, the yes comes out automatically.Not because you’re weak.Not because you don’t...
2026-05-2854 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryWhy Boundaries are the Rules of the Road for Life with 10 Examples | Episode 321Send us Fan MailThe reason we have rules of the road is because they're social boundaries. They exist to prevent harm, to reduce accidents and to create flow. When everyone keeps the focus on themselves, staying in their lane, following the rules, respecting others, boundaries, things run much more smoothly. These rules translate very well to social and emotional boundaries. Today, I'm going to walk you through some of the most common rules of the road and how they map onto the concept of boundaries and life.This week’s episode 314 of the Fragmented to...
2025-08-1115 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryThe Planets Aligned with Guest Kelly Walker | Episode 320Send us Fan MailKelly Walker's story today is a powerful reminder that "the planets align" when we commit to our healing journey, even when it's terrifying.This week’s episode 320of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about when the planets align!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, Kelly Walker shares her experience with a profound spiritual awakening after years of sobriety and emphasizes that sobriety alone isn't enough; spiritual living and untangling past issues are crucial.Some of the talking points Kelly an...
2025-07-2841 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryWhy Mindset Matters More Than You Think: Boundaries, Recovery, and Belief | Episode 319Send us Fan MailWhat we believe is real becomes real in its consequences. And when our beliefs are negative, self-depricating, or otherwise limiting, they can create barriers in our lives. But when we rewire our brains and our beliefs shift, our behavior also shifts. This week’s episode 319 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why mindset matters more than you think: boundaries, recovery, and belief! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of defining our limiting beliefs and actionable steps you can take...
2025-07-1414 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Go From Permeable to Protected- Building an Emotional Force Field | Episode 318Send us Fan MailOne of the most common themes I see in my clients (and something I have experienced myself) is that we literally feel other people’s feelings. We’re permeable to them because we don’t have a boundary. This week’s episode 318 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go from permeable to protected- building an emotional force field. In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how, through setting healthy boundaries, you can create an energetic force field that keeps you from absorbing other peopl...
2025-06-2312 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryWhy Controlling Everything Still Doesn't Make You Feel Better | Episode 317Send us Fan MailMany of us find ourselves in this delusional thinking that the outside world could give us satisfaction, if only things went our way. The truth? There is no external solution to internal pain, and it only brings you deeper into a victim mentality. This week’s episode 317 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why controlling everything still doesn’t make you feel better!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing my insights about the dangerous illusion of external control and its impact...
2025-06-0911 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Backfill the Love You Didn't Get as a Child | Episode 316Send us Fan MailRecovery showed me that I abused and neglected myself physically, psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually. I stayed in relationships and workplaces that were toxic, and I put up with abuse from bosses, colleagues, sweethearts, and others. This was all because I had this internalized belief from my family that you just put up with things like that. It wasn’t until I was reading the ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) Big Red Book and read about backfilling the love you didn’t get as a child that I realized I could make...
2025-05-2615 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryKeep the Focus on Yourself- The #1 Boundary Setting Rule | Episode 315Send us Fan MailPeople tend to hear the motto “keep the docus on yourself” and think it means “be selfish.” That could not be further from the truth. It’s actually about stopping your focus on what other people, places, and things are doing (or not doing) and turning that focus inward. This week’s episode 315 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the number one boundary-setting rule: keep the focus on yourself. In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing what it really means to keep the focus on yourself and...
2025-05-1213 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow I'm Choosing Depth Over Hustle and What That Means for You | Episode 314Send us Fan MailWhen I started this podcast, I had no idea that it would turn into such a meaningful part of my work and my connection to you all. What started as a place for me to share my lessons and experiences through recovery turned into a place for creativity, learning, and service, and for that, I am forever grateful. This podcast has given me the opportunity to take a deeper step into my business and serve people in a much more focused, intentional way. This week’s episode 314 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is...
2025-05-0509 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Go from Victim Mentality to Empowered Living - You Have Choices | Episode 313Send us Fan MailBefore recovery, I had no idea how many areas of my life I didn’t even perceive as having a choice in. I thought, ‘This is just the way it is; this is just how life works.’ But one of the greatest freedoms recovery has given me is learning that I actually do have choices, and the greatest of those freedoms is the freedom to choose what I think and believe. This week’s episode 313 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go from victim mentality to empowered living!
2025-04-2811 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryThe Humbling Truth Behind My Need to Rescue and How I Got Out of It | Episode 312Send us Fan MailFor much of my life, I've known that one of my most hated human characteristics is arrogance. So, imagine my surprise when I learned in recovery that I was arrogant. Recovery also helped me understand that I hated it because it was something in me that I didn't like. And you know what we say in recovery: you spot it, you got it, and often, if you're spotting something regularly in other people, it's because you have it and probably don't like it. This week’s episode 312 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is...
2025-04-2112 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryChoosing Peace Over Panic- Why I Stopped Watching the News | Episode 311Send us Fan MailWhen my homeless friend moved in with me, we often listened to music instead of NPR, which was typical for me at the time. I came to realize that replacing politics with music shifted my mood drastically. When I was no longer filling my ears with the horrible things happening in our world, I noticed how much more at peace I felt and how much of a game changer this was for me. This week’s episode 311 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about choosing peace over panic- why I stopped watching th...
2025-04-1413 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryIt's Hard to Get Off the Ground When Your Wings Are Cut with Mark | Episode 310Send us Fan MailFor some of us who struggle with addiction, we’re using our addiction to fill some type of hole we’re feeling. Today’s guest, Mark, was using his compulsive, addictive behaviors in an attempt to fill a “God-sized hole” in his life. He shares with us how recovery and finding his higher power has helped him fill that hole and soar beyond what he ever believed possible. This week’s episode 310 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about Mark’s story: it’s hard to get off the ground when your wings are cut!
2025-04-0740 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Find Peace: Mastering Acceptance in Difficult Times [Replay] | Episode 309Send us Fan MailBefore recovery, I had heard all about the importance of acceptance, but my question still remained: How do I do it? It wasn’t just one thing that helped me but a series of lessons that helped me change my thinking, reduce emotional suffering, and create inner peace. And I wanted to share those lessons with you. This week’s episode 309 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to find peace: mastering acceptance in difficult times!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m shar...
2025-03-3117 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Go Beyond 'Woe is Me'- Sylvia's Powerful Shift to Self-Ownership | Episode 308Send us Fan MailRegardless of how long I have been working with clients as a boundaries coach, I am still amazed by the mind-blowing revelations my clients have as a result of working with me. Today, I am sharing one of these profound experiences by sharing a story from “Sylvia,” one of my clients who confidently took back ownership of her life. This week’s episode 308 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go beyond ‘woe is me’- Sylvia’s powerful shift to self-ownership. In this episode of the Fragme...
2025-03-2413 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryCompulsive Overeating Recovery- Discovering Unconditional Love After a Food Slip | Episode 307Send us Fan MailOne of the most profound things I have worked on in my recovery journey is showing love to myself even after I make a mistake. So, when I had a recent experience where my unconditional love was tested after a slip-up with food, I had to share it with you. This week’s episode 307 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about discovering unconditional love after a food slip!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a recent food slip I had during a di...
2025-03-1717 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Unpack Emotional Unavailability- My Journey to Feeling My Feelings (and Yours) | Episode 306Send us Fan MailFor years, I thought emotional unavailability happened to me, not something I actively participated in. Spoiler alert: I was dead wrong. Today, I'm pulling back the curtain on my journey from emotional unavailability to emotional availability and how recovery helped me understand and embrace my own feelings and the feelings of others. This week’s episode 306 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to unpack emotional unavailability- my journey to feeling my feelings (and yours).In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m shar...
2025-03-1017 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryFrom Reactor to Responder- How to Break Free from Old Patterns | Episode 305Send us Fan MailOne of the promises of ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) is that we go from being a reactor to an actor in our lives. This means taking a proactive approach to our lives rather than reacting to what is happening. It means that we are being thoughtful, giving conscious consideration to what's going on around us, and making conscious decisions instead of reacting based on habits or patterns from the past. This week’s episode 305 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go from reactor to responder: br...
2025-03-0317 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Handle Life's Demands Without Losing Your Shit | Episode 304Send us Fan MailChanges in medicine, technology, currency, and so much more are happening at an exponential rate, and our ability to adapt is either going to make or break us. If you're able to adapt, you'll be able to thrive instead of just surviving or existing. That’s where the concept of adaptation energy comes into play. This week’s episode 304 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to handle life’s demands without losing your shit!Some of the talking points I go over in this episode includ...
2025-02-2419 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryWhen Love Means Letting Go- How to Break the Cycle of Codependency | Episode 303Send us Fan MailCodependency in relationships can be a complex cycle to break, especially when it comes to family members. We tend to tolerate toxic behaviors for the sake of love and loyalty. That’s why today I wanted to unpack some of the myths around loyalty and tolerance in dysfunctional family dynamics and how true love requires setting healthy boundaries. This week’s episode 303 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about breaking the codependency cycle!Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Love and...
2025-02-1713 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryLessons from a Zen Farmer- The Truth About Luck | Episode 302Send us Fan MailI recently heard a parable about a Zen farmer and how we perceive “good luck” vs. “bad luck.” I wanted to share it on the podcast this week because I think it reflects such an important mindset shift for how we view life’s unexpected twists and turns. This week’s episode 302 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about lessons from a Zen farmer- the truth about luck. In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the parable I read that has such a profound mess...
2025-02-1012 minFragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Reconnect with Your Feelings- A Key Step in Recovery | Episode 301Send us Fan MailIf you’re anything like me, you have used food, substances, or other people to numb your feelings. That’s why reconnecting with your feelings is a crucial step in recovery. Today, I will be reading some excerpts from ACA’s “Loving Parent Guidebook” that offer helpful insights on the importance of understanding and honoring your feelings. This week’s episode 301 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to reconnect with your feelings- a key step in recovery!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m...
2025-02-0319 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery300 Episodes of Recovery: My Journey from Numbing to Freedom | Episode 300Send us Fan MailWe learn in recovery that the reason we continue to carry the message of recovery is that, yes, we want other people to recover. Still, first and foremost, we carry the message to continue recovering ourselves. So, for my 300th podcast episode, I wanted to reflect on my journey from numbing myself to finding freedom through recovery and how continuing to share the message of recovery has been transformative in my life. This week’s episode 300 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about my journey from numbing to freedom!...
2025-01-271h 01
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryWhy I Started Sharing Recovery Wisdom with the World | Episode 299Send us Fan MailAs I am nearing another massive milestone in my podcasting journey (300 episodes!), I wanted to go back and share the origin story of how I grew from a fragmented, lost person in recovery to an entrepreneur, boundaries coach, and podcast host sharing my experiences and lessons with the world. This week’s episode 299 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why I started sharing recovery wisdom with the world. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:The series of events that led...
2025-01-2030 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Go From Chaos to Composure- The Power of Refusal Skills | Episode 298Send us Fan MailAs young people, we are often taught refusal skills as it relates to saying no to drugs, alcohol, or unwanted sexual advances. Recovery has taught me that refusal skills are not just for the realm of substance use or sexual behavior. If we’re learning how to set boundaries, refusal skills are an essential part of it. This week’s episode 298 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go from chaos to composure- the power of refusal skills!Some of the talking points I go over...
2025-01-1316 minFragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow Acceptance Changed My Life: Peace, Resilience, and Self-Love | Episode 297Send us Fan MailLearning how to be accepting of myself and others was one of the most important things I learned in recovery. I have made several episodes on the life-changing impact of this acceptance, and today, I wanted to continue that by sharing the long-term impact of being accepting of the people, places, and circumstances of your life. This week’s episode 297 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how acceptance changed my life: peace, resilience, and self-love!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m shar...
2024-12-3014 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryThe Ripple Effect of Gratitude- How Small Moments Spark Big Changes | Episode 296Send us Fan MailThe practice of keeping a daily gratitude journal has had such a considerable impact on my life that I now make a gratitude list both morning and night. I’ve found that the benefit of creating this list is that you have to search for things to be grateful for. You almost become wired to look for things to be grateful for in every moment, shifting your perspective to focus on the positives. This week’s episode 296 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the ripple effect of gratitude- how small moments spar...
2024-12-2318 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryBoundaries Made Simple- How to Communicate Clearly, Honestly, and Politely | Episode 295Send us Fan MailAs we know, boundaries are essential for our well-being, but communicating them effectively can be a challenge. Last week on the podcast, I shared the importance of mastering communication to create healthy relationships. As a continuation of that, I wanted to share my tips for how to clearly communicate our boundaries with others. This week’s episode 295 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to communicate clearly, honestly, and politelySome of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Boundaries only become mo...
2024-12-1612 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Master Communication, Avoid Conflict, and Create Healthier Relationships | Episode 294Send us Fan MailBefore getting into recovery, I thought that I was a good communicator. While that may have been the case when it came to my work, I came to realize that interpersonally, I was actually a horrible communicator. This week’s episode 294 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to master communication, avoid conflict, and create healthier relationships!Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Examples of how I communicated poorly by speaking indirectly, beating around the bush, and expecting people to...
2024-12-0916 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow Building Boundaries Helps You Achieve Emotional Sobriety | Episode 293Send us Fan MailMost people know that the goal of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is sobriety, but what they don’t know is that the goal of Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) is emotional sobriety. And if you’ve listened to my podcast for some time, you will not be shocked to hear that the way to achieve emotional sobriety is through building healthy boundaries! This week’s episode 293 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how building healthy boundaries helps you achieve emotional sobriety. In this episode of the...
2024-12-0224 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryRediscovering Love for My Father- A Journey Through Resentment and Healing | Episode 292Send us Fan MailI have been following a guy named David Bayer for some time now and have been greatly influenced by him. One of the many pieces of wisdom he shares about limiting beliefs is that when we have a core limiting belief that we can’t seem to let go of, no matter how many tools we use, it’s often because that belief is connected to a person. Specifically, it may be connected to a resentment toward that person. When I heard that, I had the epiphany that my core limiting belief is that...
2024-11-2516 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryReclaiming My Inner Teen's Voice- How to Say No With Inner Strength | Episode 291Send us Fan MailAs part of my ACA recovery journey, I have been making daily conscious contact with my inner family members, one of which includes my inner teenager. Through this inner work and checking in with my inner teen, I have realized that my people-pleasing ways have put me in harm’s way. Since I was often not able to say no, I found myself in situations I didn’t want to be in with feelings I could not handle, so I turned to using substances as a coping mechanism to numb myself. Recovery has sinc...
2024-11-1823 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryConnection, Cold Exposure and Plant Medicine with Jesse Harless | Episode 290Send us Fan MailEveryone is on their unique path to healing. While there are many things we can gain from others’ journeys, every journey is ultimately different, so it is important to find the path that works for you. Jesse Harless came to terms with this realization once he was introduced to what some may view as an unconventional form of healing, cold exposure, and plant medicine. What he didn’t understand at first slowly became the thing to lower his extreme anxiety and keep him going on his path to healing. This week’s episode 290 of the...
2024-11-1130 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Go Beyond Pretending- Build Your Authenticity Through Acting "As If" | Episode 289Send us Fan MailIf you’re not familiar with the term acting “as if”- it's a common saying in 12-step recovery and one of the ways we learn to adopt new ways of being in the world. Acting “as if” is essentially engaging in behaviors toward the goal of achieving something positive in your life by emulating the person you want to be or the life you want to have. But often, I get people questioning how this is different from pretending, something those of us in recovery are tired of doing. That’s what I am here to...
2024-11-0410 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryOvergiving No More- Part 2: How Boundaries Restore Balance and Energize Your Life | Episode 288Send us Fan MailLast week on the podcast, I talked about how setting healthy boundaries was the key to changing the four patterns of overgiving. I want to further that conversation today by providing actionable guidance on understanding yourself better, setting boundaries that reflect your actual wants and needs, and upholding your boundaries once you decide on them. This week’s episode 288 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how boundaries restore balance and energize your life!If you missed part 1 of this episode, you can listen to it here: Overgiving No More...
2024-10-2815 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Set Strong Boundaries: Real-Life Stories of Saying No and Standing Firm | Episode 282Send us Fan MailIt’s no secret that boundaries are the key to reclaiming your power, honoring your needs, and living life on your terms. And me showing up week after week on the podcast to lay the foundation for boundary setting is one thing, but hearing the real-life stories of those of us who are taking action and setting boundaries in our lives is inspiring on a whole new level! This week’s episode 282 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about real-life stories of saying no and standing firm!In t...
2024-09-1625 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryUnderstanding Codependence, Its Origins, and How to Overcome It | Episode 281Send us Fan MailRecognizing and overcoming codependence can be a profound and life-changing journey, but undoing the deeply engrained layers of this behavior is not easy. I found this out the hard way after hitting what I call my “codependence bottom” after inviting my homeless friend to stay with me, leading to feeling trapped in my own home, and coming to the conclusion that I was codependent. This realization was a huge life shift for me and I want to continue sharing my experiences in hopes that other people can learn from my journey and start to u...
2024-09-0928 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery"Living My Truth" with Laurel | Episode 280Send us Fan MailFor those who have a loved one who is an alcoholic, you understand the uphill battle of finding the right words that will finally get through to them. But the reality is, we are just as powerless over alcohol as the alcoholic is and there is nothing we can do or say that will magically change their addiction. Laurel found this out the hard way and joins me on the podcast today as she shares her powerful journey with Al-Anon and how she learned to let go of the belief that saying the “ri...
2024-09-0236 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryThe Blame Game- Recognizing and Releasing the Need to Blame | Episode 279Send us Fan MailContent Warning: This episode has brief mentions of the sexual abuse of a child. One of the things covered in The Solution, a foundational document in ACA is that we will free ourselves from the shame and blame carried over from the past. Shame is just about one of the worst feelings in the world so to avoid it, we can get into the habit of displacing this feeling by blaming others, instead of taking accountability for our part in the situation. As a result, shame and blame go h...
2024-08-2619 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryThe Meaning Behind the Saying “If You’re Hysterical, It’s Historical” | Episode 277Send us Fan MailWhether you’re in recovery or not, you may have heard the saying, “If you’re hysterical, it’s historical.” This phrase refers to the times in our lives when we may have an emotional reaction that felt completely out of proportion to the situation at hand and gives some insight into some unresolved trauma from our past. This week’s episode 277 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the meaning behind the saying, “If you’re hysterical, it’s historical."Some of the talking points I go over in this episode inclu...
2024-08-1217 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryMy Celebration Episode | Episode 200Send us Fan MailAlthough we are celebrating my 200th podcast episode, I have achieved so many other milestones through recovery and have so much in my life to be proud of and celebrate. This week’s episode 200 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is my celebration episode!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m being interviewed by my podcast producer, Alesia Galati, and answering questions from my listeners. Some of the talking points...
2023-02-2041 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryThe Origins and Effects of Adult Child Trauma Part 2 | Episode 186Send us Fan MailWhen we’re little, we don’t know anything different than how we’ve been raised so for a lot of us, until we grow up and get into 12-step recovery programs, we don’t understand that what we endured as children was abusive and dyscuntional. Until we realize this and no longer adhere to the rigid beliefs we were taught as children, we remain stuck in this loop of dysfunction. This week’s episode 186 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is part 2 of the origins and effects of adult child trauma. Suppor...
2022-11-1426 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryThe Origins and Effects of Adult Child Trauma Part 1 | Episode 185Send us Fan MailI often get asked how we all got our adult child attachment and adult child trauma issues and the short answer is from not having our needs met as a child or what I used to think of as the absence of “good things” happening for me in my childhood. This can be anything from emotional invalidation or being gaslighted by our families, pretending things that are happen aren’t happening, or avoiding something big and horrendous happening and acting like everything is fine. The list goes on. This week’s episode 185 of the Frag...
2022-11-0717 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryIf You NEED People to Need YOU, You're Codependent | Episode 184Send us Fan MailCodependency doesn’t always exist as your need for someone else to do something for you, but as you subconsciously needing someone else to need YOU in order to feel worthy and valuable. This week’s episode 184 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I am sharing the realization I had myself that if you need people to need you, you’re codependent!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing my own story...
2022-10-3117 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryStop Gossiping About Yourself | Episode 183Send us Fan MailTypically we think about gossiping as something we do about other people, however, I realized that some of the behaviors I’ve engaged in in the past might be considered gossiping about myself. In this week’s episode 183 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing that means (AND telling you to stop gossiping about yourself!).Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing what thoughts or actions I consider to be gos...
2022-10-2410 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryDenial 3.0 | Episode 182Send us Fan MailDenial is so pervasive and insidious that it takes a long time to come out of it. When you’re recovering from family dysfunction, it’s one of the most important tasks you’ll have to accomplish. This week’s episode 182 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about coming out of denial!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a story from my weekend where I noticed I am still coming...
2022-10-1721 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryMethods for Reparenting Myself- What That Looks Like for Me | Episode 181Send us Fan MailThe need for reparenting comes up when you grow up in a dysfunctional family where the parents weren't able to teach the children healthy tools and coping skills for how to manage life. This week’s episode 181 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about 5 methods for reparenting & what that looks like for me!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of doing inner child work to heal...
2022-10-1021 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryAddiction and Survival Traits with Craig Radix | Episode 180Send us Fan MailMore often than not, addiction and survival traits come with this negative connotation but today’s guest wanted to bring a new perspective to the intelligence that comes with these survival tactics. This week’s episode 180 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about addiction and survival traits!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, my guest Craig Radix shares how his life experiences lead him to adapt for the better and how ackno...
2022-10-0325 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryFreedom from the Lie of Shame- You're Not Inherently Flawed | Episode 179Send us Fan MailMany of us in recovery use drugs or alcohol to temporarily avoid the feeling of shame, but the thing about addiction is it fuels the shame we feel about our behaviors and leads us into a dangerous cycle. That’s why it’s so important to deal with the underlying shame, put a stop to the cycle and avoid potential relapse. This week’s episode 179 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about freedom from the lie of shame- you’re not inherently flawed!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Po...
2022-09-2618 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow Fixed Versus Growth Mindset Affects People in Recovery | Episode 178Send us Fan MailThe difference between fixed mindset and growth mindset is that if you have a fixed mindset, it means you think you are the way you are and there's no possibility of changing. Your personality and abilities are fixed. But if you have a growth mindset, you believe that change is possible, you believe your intelligence can grow, and you believe you have the ability to change your long standing behaviors. This week’s episode 178 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how fixed versus growth mindset affects people in recovery!...
2022-09-1910 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryWhat Balance Really is and How to Get There and Stay There | Episode 177Send us Fan MailOne time I was coaching a client who expressed that every time she got close to finding balance, something would happen and it would throw her off. I replied that balance is not getting to a certain point or a certain set of behaviors and staying there; it’s not a static point but rather a constant adjustment. This week’s episode 177 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about what balance really is, how to get there, and how to stay there!Support the show by becoming a Pa...
2022-09-1210 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryWhat is the Dreaded Drama Triangle and How to Get Out of It | Episode 176Send us Fan MailThe drama triangle is a dysfunctional pattern of interaction that perpetuates dysfunction rather than changing it. This week’s episode 176 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the dreaded drama triangle and how to get out of it!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of recognizing when you're in a drama triangle and what role you’re playing in it, then actionable steps you can take right n...
2022-09-0517 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryDan Made Me Feel Like a Criminal When I Filmed Him Drunk | Episode 175Send us Fan MailThe thing with codependence is we feel this compulsion to get in between other people and the consequences of their behavior. When we do this, we become resentful of THEM and make THEM the entire problem when it is us who was enabling them all along. This week’s episode 175 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I am sharing the story of the time Dan made me feel like a criminal when I filmed him drunk. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In...
2022-08-2915 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryThe Golden Chunk of Time- Using Boundaries to Get Shit Done | Episode 174Send us Fan MailWhen I coach my clients one of the metaphors I use with them is this idea that you can think about your precious resources of love, money, energy, and time as your “property.” I encourage them to put a boundary around that property, much like you’d put a fence around your house. This week’s episode 174 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the golden chunk of time - using boundaries to get shit done!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In t...
2022-08-2225 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryDaily Success Habits to Keep You Happy, Joyous and Free | Episode 173Send us Fan MailI’ve had a number of people ask me what I do on a daily basis for my recovery. After being inspired by a business podcast where the woman talked about daily success habits for successful entrepreneurs, I thought I’d share my foundational daily habits as well. This week’s episode 173 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about my daily success habits that keep me happy, joyous and free!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fra...
2022-08-1516 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoverySeven Steps to Coming Out of Victim Mentality | Episode 172Send us Fan MailIt can be very difficult to recognize when you are in a victim mentality, but it is the most important and the first step in getting out of this mentality. I had no idea I was in a victim mentality. I could identify others who were playing the victim, and yet I couldn’t identify it in myself. It wasn’t until I started doing the steps that I realized that I had this mentality. It didn’t mean I was weak, just that I had this mentality. This week’s episode 172 of the Frag...
2022-08-0819 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryFive Methods for How to Make Decisions for People in Recovery | Episode 171Send us Fan MailI hear often from people in recovery that they have a hard time with making decisions. I have found that having some methods to make decisions makes it so much easier for me. In fact, many of the tools we talk about here on the podcast are methods for making decisions. This week’s episode 171 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about five methods for how to make decisions for people in recovery! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whol...
2022-08-0117 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryI’m More Than Just an Addict with Nicholas Cialdella | Episode 170Send us Fan MailWarning: This episode contains discussions of suicide, sexual assault and trauma, childhood abuse, drug and alcohol abuse, and depression.There are a lot of stigmas around addiction that stop people from getting the help they need for recovery, or even talking about their experiences. Nick knows both sides; being an addict and going through recovery, as well as helping others no matter their financial situation get the help they need through Never Alone Recovery. Nick also knows what it means to help the family unit, not just the addict...
2022-07-2547 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryTop Apps to Keep You Happy Joyous and Free (Revisited) | Episode 169Send us Fan MailIn 2020, I shared my top apps to keep you happy, joyous, and free. Recently, I was asked to share some more of the apps I frequently use to help keep my life and business organized while keeping things simple and fun. So, this week episode 169 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about my top apps to keep you happy, joyous, and free! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! Here are the apps that I use most frequently:Blinkist – allows you...
2022-07-1823 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryWhy Consistency Is So Hard and How To Get Over The Hurdle | Episode 168Send us Fan MailI’ve been thinking a lot about consistency lately. One of the things I’m able to do now that I have been in recovery, and now that I have healthy boundaries, is I’m able to be consistent in my self-care, and I trust myself now. I was incapable of doing things consistently before recovery. This week’s episode 168 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why consistency is so hard and how to get over the hurdle! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member!
2022-07-1111 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryDon't Go To The Hardware Store for Milk | Episode 167Send us Fan MailI was having lunch with a friend recently and she was really agonizing over whether or not she should leave her job. She’s torn because the circumstances she’s under aren’t great but she loves the work. In recovery we have a saying that applied to this situation: “Don’t go to the hardware store for milk.” That is, stop expecting someone or something to give you something they’re not capable of giving! This week’s episode 167 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about accepting things as they are.Support...
2022-07-0408 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHere's What it Looks Like... | Episode 166Send us Fan MailI heard someone ask the other day, “Are you spiritually fit, or are things just going your way?” and this past week things just didn’t go my way. This proved to me that I am far more spiritually fit than I used to be. I’ve learned to live life on life’s terms. This week’s episode 166 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about living life on life’s terms, instead of on Barb’s terms! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In...
2022-06-2717 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryWhat Most People Don't Know About Physical Addiction vs Process Addiction | Episode 165Send us Fan MailI was listening to another recovery podcast the other day and this other person was talking about how they had no idea where to find resources. It occurred to me that it would be beneficial to discuss the 12 step recovery process for those of you who aren’t familiar with it so you can see if it’s right for you or not. I really didn’t “get” addiction until I was in my second recovery program. This week’s episode 165 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about understanding the difference between a physical a...
2022-06-2016 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryWhy People Pleasing is Dishonest and Manipulative and How to Stop | Episode 164Send us Fan MailWhen I first got into recovery, I remember saying that I was confused on where the line was between being helpful and being rescuing. I was asked what my intentions were behind my actions, and that’s how I realized that I was doing things because I was anxious about how people perceived me. Turns out, I was doing it because I was hoping others would think good things about me, and not because I was necessarily trying to be helpful without it being about me. I didn’t want to look bad. This...
2022-06-1313 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryFeelings Aren't Facts But They're Still Real and They Matter | Episode 163Send us Fan MailThere’s a thing that people in recovery like to say, and it really used to piss me off. The saying is, “Feelings aren’t facts,”. While it may be true, I know my feelings are real, and I just didn’t get it when people said this. Usually it was in an accusatory manner, like, “How dare you have those feelings!” I now have a better handle on my feelings, both in recognition and understanding them. This week’s episode 163 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to validate and understand your...
2022-06-0615 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryThe Progressive Nature of My Illness | Episode 162Send us Fan MailOne of the things that we’re told about recovery is that the disease is progressive; meaning, if left untreated, the disease gets worse and worse and worse. My experience is that this progressive nature is also true about codependency. I recently started thinking about how my life would be different if I was never in recovery, given how progressive things got with both my addiction and my codependence at the end there. This week’s episode 162 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the progressive nature of our illnesses! Sup...
2022-05-3019 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Care More What You Think Of Yourself Than What Others Do | Episode 161Send us Fan MailCaring more about what I think of myself than what others do is by far the biggest thing that has enabled me to go from having no boundaries to having really healthy boundaries. Keep in mind, this doesn’t mean I don’t care at all what others think of me, but it has become lower on my list of priorities. Experimentation is required when developing healthy boundaries, and I want to show you what that looks like. It will help you shore up your integrity. This week’s episode 161 of the Fragmented to Who...
2022-05-2313 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryRecovering Shit Show Andrea Ashley | Episode 160Send us Fan MailI’m super excited today to have Andrea Ashley as my guest, she’s the host of the Adult Child podcast. I was in a step study group and somebody messaged me about her podcast. I listened to the trailer and after listening to two episodes, I knew she had to be on the podcast. She shares raw stories of recovery like you rarely hear outside of a meeting and she’s also able to pull concepts together in a way that are really understandable. She's also incredibly vulnerable and authentic with her own pe...
2022-05-1634 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryBoundaries in the Bedroom | Episode 159Send us Fan MailI’m kind of surprised that boundaries in the bedroom is just now touching the podcast; and even more surprised that I just now realized that what I am talking about in this episode is even boundaries at all. Setting healthy boundaries in all aspects of a relationship, including in the bedroom, is so important! This week’s episode 159 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about trusting yourself and setting boundaries for the bedroom! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Who...
2022-05-0922 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others and Make the Most Out of Your Recovery | Episode 158Send us Fan MailStop comparing yourself to others! It’s typically going to either lead you to feeling like shit about yourself, or it’ll make you feel like you’re better than others. Either way - not good. Instead, the power is in keeping the focus and the comparison on former you and where you are now. Most of us have gotten better throughout our lives, but it’s not always linear. This week’s episode 158 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about making the most out of your recovery by not comparing yourself to others...
2022-05-0209 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryTips on How to Find the Right Sponsor in 12-Step Recovery | Episode 157Send us Fan MailI’ve been asked how to find the right sponsor for you in recovery, and as a sponsor myself I thought I would also share how my process for sponsoring. Just like everything in recovery, take what you want and leave the rest. This episode covers information for those new to recovery looking for their first sponsor, as well as those deeper into their journey too. It also helps those looking for a sponsor, as well as sponsors themselves,. This week’s episode 157 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about Tips on How...
2022-04-2521 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryInfo, Not Ammo | Episode 156Send us Fan MailI can’t believe I have never done a podcast on the concept of info, not ammo. When you learn something negative about yourself, instead of using it as *ammunition* for you to beat yourself up, use it as *information* to integrate about yourself. This is so important especially in the 4th step inventory of 12-step recovery. This week’s episode 156 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about learning to use negative information about yourself as info to learn and grow from instead of ammunition to beat yourself up! Support the s...
2022-04-1810 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Stop Lying to Yourself and Make Real Change - You Can Do Hard | Episode 155Send us Fan MailOne comment I hear all the time from people in recovery or who are trying to make big changes in their lives is, “It’s so hard!”. The hard that you’re currently living if you’re still using is actually making things more difficult unless something changes. This week’s episode 155 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to stop lying to yourself about it being “too hard” and get on the path to healing and thus, less hard! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode...
2022-04-1109 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow I Lead My Life on Purpose {Rebroadcast of Reinvention Rebels} | Episode 154Send us Fan MailI am doing something new in this episode that I've never done before; I am resharing a conversation from a year and a half ago on the podcast Reinvention Rebels. This is the first time I was ever on a podcast and you’ll hear how fresh and new I was to my message and my own voice. I relistened recently, and there’s a lot of good information in it! That’s why episode 154 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is a rebroadcast of my discussion with Wendy Battles on the Reinvention Rebels...
2022-04-0456 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryLearning to Have Realistic Expectations and Becoming Able to Let Things Go | Episode 153Send us Fan MailWhen I did the 12 steps in my second program, after I determined my defects of character in steps 4 & 5, I was tasked with picking 4 of my top defects and do some really deep work on each of those for steps 6 & 7. I had to define very specifically what it would look like if God removed these defects. That process came in very handy this week, even years later. That’s why episode 153 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast relates a story about how ordering a product from someone showed me the importance of learning to le...
2022-03-2813 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Stop Taking Things Personally and Come Out of Victim Mentality | Episode 152Send us Fan MailProbably the most important paradigm shift of my entire recovery journey was coming out of victim mentality. I had no idea I had this mentality but I could spot a victim a mile away; I thought I could save them all. When I finally discovered that I had victim mentality, it was a huge awakening; what else did I not know about myself? That’s why episode 152 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about getting out of victim mentality! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member
2022-03-2113 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryWhy Your Motives Matter for You But Not For Other People | Episode 151Send us Fan MailOne of the most important questions I have learned to ask myself when trying to decide what is the right thing for me to do is “What are my motives?”. Your motives really matter when it comes to your own next steps, but other people don’t care about your motives. They care about your actions. That’s why episode 151 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why your motives matter for you, but not for other people! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member!
2022-03-1409 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryAddicted to Comfort with Alex Pierpaoli | Episode 150Send us Fan MailAlex and I met back in 2018, and the way he articulates his story is so inspiring that I knew he had to be on the podcast. Alex is in two different 12-step programs, one for behavior and one for substance, in his case, food. That’s why episode 150 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how Alex was addicted to comfort, and his story through that recognition during recovery.Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fra...
2022-03-0731 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow Surrender Leads to Victory Not LossSend us Fan MailI heard someone talking about their journey to starting recovery and how they didn’t ever want to surrender anything because that would mean that they would lose. I don’t believe that surrender in recovery means you lose, so I wanted to bring it to you this week. That’s why episode 149 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how surrender leads to victory! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m shar...
2022-02-2809 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Stop Being Attached to Outcomes - You Don't Get to Have your Curiosity Satisfied | Episode 148Send us Fan MailI used to believe that if I was curious about something, I deserved to have it satisfied, or I needed to have my curiosity satisfied. Something I learned through recovery is that I don’t have to or need to have it satisfied; I’m able to NOT get closure on things. I think my strong desire to know things comes from my confusing upbringing, but now I don’t NEED to understand things like I used to. That’s why episode 148 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about re...
2022-02-2111 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryYou Are Not Alone - There Are Others Just Like You | Episode 147Send us Fan MailOne of the most powerful lessons you can learn in recovery is that you are not alone. It was recently reinforced after receiving a Postsecret email. Frank’s story of how he created Postsecret and why is incredibly moving. That’s why episode 147 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about understanding that you are not alone! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of community for healing and acti...
2022-02-1411 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryStop F-ing Blaming Other People and Keep the Focus on Yourself | Episode 146Send us Fan MailI titled this episode as if it’s a command, but it’s really an option. You get to choose to stop putting the blame on others. If everyone else really is to blame for everything wrong in your life; you may as well crawl under a rock because you have no options. I don’t believe this at all. That’s why episode 146 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is keeping the focus on yourself instead of blaming other people! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member
2022-02-0711 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow to Stop Worrying About Others' Opinions | Episode 145Send us Fan MailYears before recovery I was part of a spiritual sharing circle. One of the people who was part of that same sharing circle had been in AA for a long time, and one of the things he said all the time was, “It’s none of your business what other people think of you,”. It took me a long time to figure out what that meant. I was so codependent on others that I had no idea how to wrap my head around it. That’s why episode 145 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast...
2022-01-3114 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryYou have Choices - How to End your Suffering by Lowering your Expectations | Episode 144Send us Fan MailI got a message from a long-time listener asking for this topic in a podcast episode because she could really use some guidance on lowering your expectations. Turns out, I have 4 episodes on lowering expectations, and it’s been a huge part of my recovery and a foundational piece to my sobriety. That’s why episode 144 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the choices you have that can end your suffering by lowering your expectations! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! I...
2022-01-2417 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryIf I Am Disturbed, There’s Something Wrong with Me | Episode 143Send us Fan MailThere is a saying in step 10 of "The AA 12 Steps and 12 Traditions" book that I share with clients all the time, which has also been super helpful in my own recovery. A lot of people assume it means that they are always in the wrong, which isn’t true at all. That’s why episode 143 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about if I am disturbed there’s something wrong with me! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode...
2022-01-1711 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow a Dump Truck Taught Me Compassion for My Father | Episode 142Send us Fan MailHave you ever explained that the reason someone acts the way they do is simply because they are a dick? That’s exactly what I said about my father until a dump truck changed my perspective. One day as I was driving home from a recovery meeting, I saw a dump truck with two bumper stickers. Those two bumper stickers would flood my mind with memories that would eventually lead to a breakthrough of compassion I didn’t know I needed to understand. That’s why episode 142 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is abo...
2022-01-1014 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryYou are Responsible TO Your Feelings, Not FOR Your Feelings | Episode 141Send us Fan MailI first heard the phrase, “You are responsible TO your feelings, not FOR your feelings,” from the book by Cheri Huber, There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate. While I didn’t understand what it meant until I went through recovery, I now appreciate this phrase a lot. That’s why episode 141 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how you are responsible TO your feelings, not FOR your feelings! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of the responsibility you have to fee...
2022-01-0311 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryLoving Someone Through Addiction with Jane Macky | Episode 140Send us Fan MailI met Jane Macky professionally through the Innovation to Impact project through Yale. When I heard her story I knew she had to be on the podcast. That’s why episode 140 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about loving someone through addiction! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, Jane and I are sharing the importance of learning how to communicate with your loved ones who are going through addiction and a deepe...
2021-12-2739 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHow You Can Go From Hating Hope to Loving Hope with One Simple Practice | Episode 139Send us Fan MailThe most important thing that I want to give you through this podcast is hope. I want you to have hope because I know from personal experience what it’s like to be without hope. That’s why episode 139 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how you can go from hating hope to loving hope in one simple practice! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of lovin...
2021-12-2012 minFragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoverySetting Boundaries around Family - when they love hiking, and you hate it | Episode 138Send us Fan MailI wanted to share the message I got from a client that I believe that a lot of you will resonate with, and really how this message truly shows how to live your life on purpose. When we have healthy boundaries, we learn to trust ourselves and feel integral. When we are whole, we don’t need things from others and we can be closer to the people in your life. That’s why episode 138 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about Setting Boundaries around family! Support the show by
2021-12-1314 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryLearn to Love Yourself: 16 things I Learned about Self-Love in Recovery, Part 2 | Episode 137Send us Fan MailLast week I shared the first 8 of 16 things I learned about self love through recovery. If you haven’t yet, I want to encourage you to go back and listen to that episode first. Episode 137 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the other 8 of 16 total self love lessons I learned through recovery! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of self love and the lessons I learne...
2021-12-0618 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryLearn to Love Yourself: 16 things I learned about Self-Love in Recovery, Part 1 | Episode 136Send us Fan MailIf I had to boil down the 12 steps to recovery into one thing, I would say it all has to do with learning to love yourself. Now that I’ve grown to love myself, I can look back and see where I have put in that effort. That’s why episode 136 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the first 8 of 16 things I learned about self-love in recovery! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Who...
2021-11-2916 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryGo From Envy to Inspiration With One Simple Mind Shift | Episode 135Send us Fan MailThe idea that we should envy someone rather than be inspired by them is based on the notion that we can’t have what they have because what is possible for them must not be possible for us. That’s why episode 135 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about going from envy to inspiration with one simple mind shift. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of making t...
2021-11-2215 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryYou Spot it, You Got It- Psychological Projection in 12 Step Recovery | Episode 134Send us Fan MailOftentimes, the things that you notice or that bother you in others are a reflection of a trait, habit, or behavior that you have yourself and don’t particularly like. That’s why episode 134 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about psychological projection in 12-step recovery! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of recognizing when you are projecting onto others or when others are projecting onto you and g...
2021-11-1516 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryI Got Over My Fears Because Courage is Contagious | Episode 133Send us Fan MailI always thought courage meant that you had no fear but rather, it’s the ability to take action in the face of fear. That’s why episode 133 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how I got over my fears because courage is contagious! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of being courageous to show yourself it is possible to do it again and actionable steps yo...
2021-11-0808 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryHere's How to Overcome Disappointment So That You Can Have Peace | Episode 132Send us Fan MailPeace is important to me and I have learned that I cannot have that peace if I don’t live in the present moment and accept what is actually happening rather than what I wanted to happen instead. That’s why episode 132 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about overcoming disappointment so that you can have peace! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of accepting what you cann...
2021-11-0110 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryLet Go of Your Expectations of Others and Meet Your Own Needs | Episode 131Send us Fan MailWhat I learned from the process of recovery was that deep down inside, I wanted someone to rescue me. Instead, I’ve learned to show up and take care of myself. That’s why episode 131 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about letting go of your expectations of others and meeting your own needs! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of meeting your own needs instead of looki...
2021-10-2511 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryWhy Keeping the Focus on Yourself is the Antidote to Codependence | Episode 102Send us Fan MailCodependence is a focus outside the self. This happens because when we're in fight or flight mode, we're not able to access the "human" part of our brain. That part of our brain is where our "self" is formed. Setting healthy boundaries is the best way to keep the focus on yourself to get over your codependence. You'll also hear the top two myths about setting boundaries as well as my top five rules for setting boundaries.Here's a link to my calendar for a 30-minute Better Boundaries call: https://calendly...
2021-04-0516 min
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step RecoveryYou Don't Have to Believe Your Thoughts! | Episode 82Send us Fan Mail You don't have to believe the thoughts running through your head! This pertains to thoughts about yourself (like "I'm not enough") as well as thoughts about others and the world. If you're not choosing your thoughts *on purpose,* especially if they're negative - think again! You don't have to believe a thought just because it's in your head (even though it sounds like your voice!).Here are the links mentioned in the podcast:* FREE boundaries webinar, "How to Be Grateful on Thanksgiving by Setting Healthy Boundaries" https://www.eventbrite.c...
2020-11-0915 min