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Beat Your Genes Podcast369: Love - The Glue Between Anxious Women and Wandering Men Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 02:25 Q1: When Neuroticism Sees the Breakup Coming Before He Does 11:25 Small Adjustments vs Sudden shifts 20:30 Analyzing key parameters 36:20 Q2: Pair Bonding: Nature's Anti-Chippy Software Update 45:15 Final thoughts Q1: I am a female scoring high on the vulnerability dimension of neuroticism on the Big 5 assessment. I have always left partners first when I felt any kind of instability in the relationship or felt they weren't completely into me. I married my...
2025-11-0647 min
Beat Your Genes Podcast368: Great Romance vs. Great Regret… PLUS: Can the "Least Attractive" Still Be Happy? Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 04:03 Q1: Married for 20 years but never loved him 21:10 Using the written word to express yourself 40:55 Q2: Can the "least attractive" still find sexual satisfaction and happiness? 1:03:25 Final thoughts Q1: I have been married to my husband for 20 years, we are both 45 now. He is a wonderful person, gentle, caring, sweet, intelligent, and an amazing father to our three small children, who all love him deeply. We have been through so much together...
2025-10-011h 04
Beat Your Genes Podcast367: Emotional Affairs: A Modern Problem in an Ancient Brain Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 01:08 Q1: Emotional Affairs – Is there such a thing? Is this a modern phenomenon? 16:20 Human Love instincts 24:10 A modern day problem 46:46 Can you prevent an emotional affair? 1:02:45 Final thoughts Q1: Does Dr. Lisle believe in such a thing as an emotional affair? For instance, if someone in a committed relationship has a friend, coworker, or other acquaintance that they are attracted to and even fantasize about, how do you know where the...
2025-09-191h 04
Beat Your Genes Podcast366: Closing an Open Loop – Friend Disappeared 17 years ago Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 01:40 Q1: My friend went missing 17 years. How can I get closure? 14:14 Getting familiar with different causes of death 33:23 Trying to find out what you're worried about 51:30 Final thoughts Q1: My question is about closing an open loop when it is impossible to get closure and all the information. A good friend of mine went missing 17 years ago. Police did an investigation but never found out what happened to him. He seemingly vanished i...
2025-09-1151 min
Beat Your Genes Podcast363: Too Anxious to Relax, Too Average to Admire? Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 02:00 Q1: Too neurotic to ever feel truly calm? 18:26 Recommending an expert in anxiety & OCD 31:55 Q2: If I think I'm a 7 but men treat me like a 3, who's right—me or evolution? 54:30 Final thoughts Q1: Dear Dr. Lisle, I'm a big fan of yours and have come to understand that a person's personality is defined by their genes. However, I feel like I cannot change my circumstances enough to be happy. I'm highly co...
2025-07-2356 min
Beat Your Genes Podcast362: Esteem, Friendship, and Finding Your People Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 02:48 Q1: Regarding Episode 27 "How to make great friends", Could DDL address more specifically how to make great friends? Similarly he has said we should earn esteem in the right way from the people who matter. How do we know what the right way is, and how do we identify the people who matter? 14:57 Conflicts of interest between friends 23:20. Never make a big decision, when a small decision will do 33:30 How do you earn esteem...
2025-07-1248 min
Beat Your Genes Podcast361: Lingering Loyalties, Distant Intimacies Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 04:25. Q1: Divorced dad entangled with ex 12:28 Genetic commitment calculations 27:14 Q2: Stuck with a closed-off boyfriend 33:53 Hugging an un-huggable friend 42:09 Final thoughts Q1: Any advice for a divorced dad who is still entangled with his ex wife? We have been divorced over five years now, but are still friends and live near one another. I initiated the divorce for a few reasons, mainly her emotional instability and our lack of intimacy...
2025-06-2644 min
Beat Your Genes Podcast358: Pretty Girls, Cold Feet, and Estrogen Dreams Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. 0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 01:35 Q1: I'm pretty but my ugly competitors are getting plastic surgery! 19:05 Q2: My big, expensive wedding is coming up… but I don't want to get married anymore 27:59 Q3: Can I increase my estrogen to get more beautiful? 44:28 Final thoughts Q1: You say that a woman's physical appearance is the most important aspect of her attractiveness when attracting a mate, but we now live in a time when natural beauty has no value an...
2025-05-1645 min
Beat Your Genes Podcast351: What is Transference and Counter-transference in a Psycho-therapeutic relationshiop? Is this Freudian concept out-dated? Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with co-host, Nathan Gershfeld. In today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses a listener's question about transference and counter-transference. 0:00 Intro 0:57 Question #1 2:46 A synopsis of psycho-dynamic thinking 9:36 Psycho-dynamic thinking is naïve and bizarre 11:21 What is a therapeutic relationship 20:10 Attraction can occur in a therapeutic relationship 26:50 'Transference' from therapist's past experiences 33:43 Therapeutic dynamic is usually not a burden or threat 37:36 Warning sign that something is out of line 45:38 What drew Dr. Lisle to be a psychologist X: @BeatYourGenes Web: www.beatyourgenes.org Doug Lisle, PhD ww...
2025-02-0649 min
Beat Your Genes PodcastE349: "Going crazy" after cheating on husband, Are there limitations to Personality or Intelligence tests? Are problematic/disagreeable co-workers less estrogenized? Follow-up question from E347 Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. In today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses the idea of "going crazy", a question about personality and intelligence testing, a question about disagreeable co-workers, and a follow-up from episode 347. 0:00 Teaser Clips 1:23 Question 1: Woman cheats on her husband then snaps 9:57 Can it be induced by psychiatric medications 12:22 Question 2 – Are there errors/biases in personality or intelligence testing? 23:40 What are some limitations to personality or intelligence testing? 30:02 Do personality or intelligence tests change throughout life? 34:58 Wha...
2025-01-091h 11
Beat Your Genes PodcastE346: Our Last Episode, BYG is Moving on...to XEvolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. In today's show, we discuss our last episode 345 being removed for 'medical misinformation' even though we have video proof of what was referenced in the offending episode. After an appeal, our video was re-instated, but the creepy feeling of censorship remains. So we are moving to the X platform. We hope to see you there for our normal BYG content. Follow us: X: @beatyourgenes Web: www.beatyourgenes.org Doug Lisle, PhD www.esteemdynamics.com Nathan Gershfeld, DC www.fastingescape...
2024-11-2814 min
Beat Your Genes Podcast345: Psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD, weights in on the US Election… What is Morality?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. In today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses the US Presidential Election and what to consider if you are distraught or if you are celebrating the results of President Trump being elected. Also, Dr. Lisle discusses the concept of morality – what is it? Is it innate? Is it taught? 1. Dr. Lisle weighs in on what to consider about the US Presidential election 2. If morality requires us to act against our psychology, which is impossible, does morality exist? Teasers 0:00 Intro 1:38 Open...
2024-11-141h 08
Beat Your Genes PodcastE344 (343 Pt 2) How can Gay Genes stay in the population without offspring?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. In today's Part 2 from episode 343, Dr. Lisle discusses a potential explanation for why homosexuality persists in the population despite homosexuals having fewer children. 1. I understand that the very basis of natural selection is transmission and expression of genes - basically we are all evolved to pass as many of our successful genes into the population, and that the characteristics and behavior of the organism is evolved to promote this goal. However, how does that explain the persistent existence of gay people. Their behavior does not wo...
2024-10-3121 min
Beat Your Genes PodcastE343 Pt 1: Can you breed higher Intelligence into society?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. In today's show, Dr. Lisle explains how genes are passed on through generations and just how complex and interdependent they are. However, sometimes this can lead to the mistaken belief that societies can easily breed certain traits into or out of their population. 1. Dr lisle you've often mentioned that we cannot get intelligent people to breed for generations and give rise to a population whose average IQ is higher than the current avg IQ i.e. china/singapore tried to experiment with this idea but th...
2024-10-3155 min
Beat Your Genes Podcast342: The EGO TRAP – when expectations are too high, motivation suffersEvolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. In today's show, Dr. Lisle's discusses a term called The Ego Trap in the context of the following listener question: 1. Do you think Lebron James is ego-trapping his son Bronny? He has tweeted that Bronny is going to do extremely well he just needs a bit of time, but in reality the kid looks like he's not even cut out for the D-League. I know there's something to be said of Lebron's status and influence in the league when it comes to decision-making, but I w...
2024-10-1750 min
Beat Your Genes Podcast340: The TRUTH about Social Anxiety – are extroverts really the outliers?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. In today's show, we discuss different questions on social anxiety and finish with a short question about dating. 1. Is there a social strategy that involves not competing in an effort not to be seen as a threat? I am a woman and believe I notice in myself a tendency to make myself small around other women. I do this in interactions with women who are both more and less attractive than I am. I have lately come to believe the result is often that they...
2024-09-261h 09
Beat Your Genes Podcast339: Disagreeable people blame trauma for their circumstances.Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. Question 1: I had a very traumatic childhood, but I don't blame my experiences with my violent alcoholic mother for any of my stupid adult decisions. I did those all on my own -- with some help from my parents' genes, of course. What Dr. Lisle teaches on this topic makes sense to me. I have a friend who, by any measure, had a much less traumatic childhood. In fact, I don't think it is fair to say that her childhood was traumatic at all...
2024-09-0555 min
Beat Your Genes Podcast338: A MARRIED man tried to KISS me! Wanting to Fall in Love AGAIN – What's my mind telling me?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. Intro 0:00 Question #1: 0:30 I have been with the same man for 13 years (since I was 19) and we have 2 children together. Though we have had our ups and downs and areas of incompatibility I believe our relationship is good, I love our family and want it to continue. However there is a part of me that wishes to fall in love with someone new again and feels regret about committing to someone when I was so young. What I don't understand is...
2024-08-221h 04
Beat Your Genes Podcast337: I'm RICH but I DIDN'T EARN it – Can I EVER be HAPPY? Should I be CONCERNED about all the NEGATIVITY in the news?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. Question 1: How do I get back to being happy with so much violence and negativity swirling around in the news and in the world? No matter what has been going on in my life, I have always tended to be happy and optimistic, but recently it feels like everything seems pretty bleak in the world and it is bringing me down. I truly don't have any reason to be unhappy- I am part of a magic 10% marriage, I have a good job and great friends a...
2024-08-081h 09
Beat Your Genes Podcast336: Having SECOND THOUGHTs about fiancé – Should I marry anyway? Is waiting until MARRIAGE a TRAP?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. In today's show, we discuss staying a virgin until marriage, and what to consider when having second thoughts before marrying. 1. I am a 32 year old female, Catholic and I want to wait until marriage to have sex. Not 10 paid dates, but marriage. However, it seems that nowadays no one is willing to wait. All the religious men I know that are my age are already married or even they didn't wait. I don't know what to do. I am still a virgin even at...
2024-07-2558 min
Beat Your Genes Podcast335: I find ALL MEN my age REPULSIVE, Will 10 paid dates WARD OFF the casual daters?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. In Today's show, we discuss a listener's struggle with being attracted to men her own age, and then Dr. Lisle discusses a question about whether 10 paid dates strategy is outdated. To listen to past episodes that discuss 10 paid dates, check out episodes 18, 22, 35, 96, 151, 164, and 284. Today's questions: 1. I'm a 41 year old female. A combination of good genetics, good diet, exercise, good skincare, staying out of the sun have allowed me to look like I'm in my late 20's even though I am actually 41. I always look...
2024-07-1152 minBeat Your Genes PodcastE334: Some sad news...Remembering Dr. John McDougallA visionary physician and author, beloved husband, father, grandfather, brother, mentor and friend, Dr. McDougall died peacefully in his sleep at his home on Saturday, June 22nd, at the age of 77. Dr. McDougall leaves behind a profound legacy and in today's show, Dr. Lisle shares some stories and memories of Dr. McDougall. Follow us: YT: @beatyourgenes X: @beatyourgenes Insta: @Beatyourgenespodcast Web: www.beatyourgenes.org Doug Lisle, PhD www.esteemdynamics.com Nathan Gershfeld, DC www.fastingescape.com Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones • Fe...
2024-06-271h 12Beat Your Genes Podcast333: Great marriage but romance FADING? How do our traits OVERLAP? Are PSYCH meds EVER worth it?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. In Today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses the overlap of Big Five traits in normal human behavior and how to understand the conceptual framework rather than getting bogged down in formulaic thinking. Our next question has to do with anti-anxiety medications and whether they are ever worth taking. Then we wrap things with a question about being in a great marriage to a best friend but whose romance is fading. 1. The big five traits overlap way too much! for ex is someone nice because they are agre...
2024-06-131h 12Beat Your Genes PodcastOCD relief, Estranged parent-child relationships, Long-term relationship considerationsEvolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. Today's topics are about people who seek and only feel relief if they have deep understanding about certain subjects, a parent who appears worn out from an estranged adult child, and a young man unsure about a long-term relationship. Listener Questions: Throughout my life, I continue to encounter people who have a deep attachment to understanding. They seem to only feel satisfied, secure or at peace if they understand their object of attention, feel they have a concrete plan of action, or believe that...
2024-05-3058 minBeat Your Genes PodcastE331: Do Narcissists Hide their Intentions more than Most? Impact of Upbringing on Future PreferencesEvolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD and social scientist, Jen Howk, PhD, discuss the following listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld. 1. What do you make of the common description that narcissistic/highly disagreeable people "wear a mask." Do high disagreeables go around actively and purposefully fooling people about their true feelings and intentions any more than other people do? We all try to put on a good face for the most part, but is this actually more true for certain personalities types? 2. I discovered your podcast a while ago, and I've been fascinated. However, something sat...
2024-05-1653 minBeat Your Genes Podcast330: Is Life ALL ABOUT making money OR can you Beat Your Genes and feel happier?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses a listener question with host, Nathan Gershfeld. In episode 328 dr lisle answered a questioner who was frustrated about their lower income relative to friends. One aspect of that question was that life isn't always about making money or climbing dominance hierarchies. In fact the very same instincts to keep pursing more can lead you to being unhappy. How then does one navigate when to pursue more and when to beat the genes? Are there any rough approximations for gauging this? Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Watch this...
2024-04-181h 01Beat Your Genes Podcast329: Is there Valid Critique of Twin Studies and Behavioral Genetics?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD and social scientist, Jen Howk, PhD discuss twin studies, behavioral genetics, and the logic of evolutionary psychology with host, Nathan Gershfeld Paper mentioned : https://tinyurl.com/j3c7tbt7 Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Watch this episode on Youtube! @BeatYourGenes Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D. Podcast website: http://www.BeatYourGenes.org True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : http://www.TrueToLife.us Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus - License
2024-04-041h 11Beat Your Genes Podcast328: Frustrated about Lower Income degree, Helping child increase confidenceEvolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discuss the following listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld 1. I'm a 29 year old economics major and I'm frustrated because I see friends who have gone into investment banking, big law or medicine on track to make 5-10x my yearly salary. I'm making a decent living on 60k a year but I feel like an idiot for choosing my major and now it feels too late to change. What would you have to say for someone in my position? It feels like I squandered an opportunity. I know life is not just a...
2024-03-2158 minBeat Your Genes Podcast327: Is Pseudoscience in Psychology CAUSED by Academia?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD and social scientist, Jen Howk, PhD discuss listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld Today's question: Is psychology doomed to remain a pseudoscience based on the crowd of people who self select to go into psychology? Im a university student and it from what i can tell, the vast majority of my peers and lecturers have no interest questions like why are we this way, how did we get here? Could it have happened any other way? Instead they are mainly just interested in having self serving theory that make them f...
2024-03-0756 minBeat Your Genes PodcastE326: Priest broke confession seal and told husband I cheatedEvolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD & social scientist, Jen Howk, PhD discuss the following situation with host, Nathan Gershfeld: I cheated on my husband three years ago while traveling for work. It was a one-night stand and we didn't exchange numbers or keep in contact. I don't even know his last name. Until last month, I've never told anyone about this event. At the time I cheated, I didn't really care because my marriage was rocky and I felt unappreciated. But my huusband and I reconnected during quarantine and I started to feel extremely guilty. Last month, I thought...
2024-02-221h 17Beat Your Genes Podcast325: Prove-'em-wrong Motivation, Managing child's outbursts, Aunt is very disagreeableEvolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD and social scientist, Jen Howk, PhD discuss listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld: 1. Help! My son just turned 8. He has acquired part of his personality from my mother- he can be loud and will overreact or get really angry about things. This includes being told he needs to stop an activity because we are leaving the house, etc. I am trying to help him manage these outbursts because kids are starting to make fun of him at school for them. Do you have any specific strategies that would help or should I...
2024-02-0851 minBeat Your Genes Podcast324: Is Attachment Theory WRONG? Do parents owe you support?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD discusses the following listener questions with host, Nathan Gershfeld: 1. I'm trying to decide whether to go back to work a year after my second child, or to stay home with her till preschool. I have heard you say on your podcast 'it doesn't matter who raises your kids' which I understand to be a reference to twin studies that show that parents have very little influence on how their children turn out (outcomes are about 80% genetic). How do you square this with attachment theory, and psychologists who say that children need one pr...
2024-01-251h 04Beat Your Genes Podcast323: Can everyone be happy? Does online dating change the cost-benefit?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD and social scientist, Jen Howk, PhD discuss the following listener questions: 1. Can all personality types be equally happy if they apply diligent effort to worthwhile goals? ie all other things being equal, would a low conscientiousness individual be as happy as a high conscientiousness individual if they both applied their version of diligent effort and equally felt they hadn't left 'anything on the table' (despite those levels of effort and results being very different) 2. You have previously characterized men as "pair bonders or not." How has on-line dating changed the C...
2024-01-111h 15Beat Your Genes Podcast312: Fraud in Lancet journal, Should I stay in an unhappy or sub-par relationship?Evolutionary psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD and social scientist, Jen Howk, PhD discuss a very misleading graph in a recent paper published in Lancet Journal along with the following listener questions: 1.To what extent would you say children, money and marriage contracts keep sub-par relationships intact today vs. the lesser stickiness of relationships in the stone age. This isn't always a bad thing, right? Parents are raising kids and everyone gets to keep more of their wealth. What's the harm- why bother splitting things up in the hopes of finding a magic 10. Isn't the conservation of energy circuit...
2023-07-271h 09Beat Your Genes Podcast311: Can you screw up a good relationship? Finding the courage to break up.Evolutionary Psychologist, Doug Lisle, PhD, and Harvard social scientist, Jen Howk, PhD. discuss physical attractiveness & general health, whether a relationship can fall apart from a simple misunderstanding, choosing one passion from many, and finding the courage to make hard decisions about a relationship. Study mentioned: "Physical Attractiveness & CardioMetabolic Risk" https://doi.org/10.1002/ajhb.23895 Q1: Do physically attractive people have an easier time developing attractive skills? I'll give an example because I'm having trouble wording this: on shows like American Idol, more often than not when someone can sing, they are physically attractive. I know that that...
2023-07-1344 minBeat Your Genes Podcast310: Do women dangle sex? Maintaining friends when income becomes disparate, Are Modern-day office jobs feminized? Does society prefer sons?In today's episode, Dr. Lisle & Howk discuss: You talk about Tears, Anger, Force, Fraud and Free Trade RA strategies. Why did you exclude sex from this list? And in particular, women dangling sex to get men to do stuff. I guess we can ideally put this in the FREE TRADE category, but sex can be gotten by using any of these other RA strategies too I suppose. Anything more to add here? Do the doctors have any thoughts on the ability of people in different socioeconomic situations to be friends, or maintaining friendships when socioeconomic situations that were s...
2023-06-2948 minBeat Your Genes Podcast309: Resentful of Cheating Dad, Do Men Prefer to Earn More than Spouse, Moving In with Partner but Marriage is Off the TableIn today's episode, Dr. Lisle and Howk discuss the following questions: I listened to your talk discussing whether humans actually have Free Will: If we, as an organism are just doing what we perceive is optimal for the species in survival and reproduction, does that mean that I should not be very angry at my father who cheated on my Mom repeatedly, divorced her, and spent the rest of his life hitting on women whenever one seemed available in front of him? It has bothered me my whole life and as his daughter I hate him for that...
2023-06-1549 minBeat Your Genes Podcast308: Dumped but then he came back, Can't eat healthy unless I live in the woods, Do introverts need to socialize moreIn today's show, Dr. Lisle & Howk review the following questions: How do you reconcile Dr. Jen's potted plant theory with Dr. Lisle's ego trap? As someone that is over 90th percentile introverted and emotionally unstable I find I prefer to keep my world very small and do not have energy for much socializing outside of working full time in an office full of people. Sometimes people encourage me to push myself to socialize more but I'm content spending time at home with my spouse and animals - how would I know if I avoid socializing due to an e...
2023-06-0149 minBeat Your Genes Podcast307: Where Does Evolutionary Psychology Evidence Come From?In today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses in detail "Where does the evidence for evolutionary psychology come from?" Our first question from a listener begins, " I am incredibly fascinated by EP and feel that I have learned so much from the show. I do wonder sometimes though when the questions get answered, what evidence/research is it based on? Assuming the conclusions are inferred... there obviously isn't a set of randomized control trial which provides the answers. I ask for my own interest but also as to provide additional weight to my recommendations to friends/family to learn a...
2023-05-181h 01Beat Your Genes Podcast306: Romance novel villains, Boyfriend admits he kissed an ex, Socially awkward or self-preservation, Is population getting dumber & flakier? Why do women fall in love with villains in romance novels? I was reading through my girlfriend's provocative novels and the men in these books are not noble or kind, they are dark, twisted, cruel, violent criminals, stalkers, vampires, demons or devils. The sex scenes are aggressive and violent. An example I will never forget is the love interest, who is a stalker, violating the woman with a loaded gun and knife. Is there an evolutionary reason why women would like this? If this is what my girlfriend likes, I don't even understand why she's with me. I am exactly...
2023-05-0456 minBeat Your Genes Podcast305: AI Fears, Frustrated Serial monogamist - Am I a whore? Daughter is wasting life living with me, Looking for your hometownIn today's episode, Dr. Lisle & Dr. Howk discuss artifical intelligence and some of their fears for the future. Then at 26:15, the discussion turns to answering these listener questions: 1. I am a frustrated serial monogamist female looking for my magic 10%. For the past six years, I've been in several long-term relationships. I enter every relationship with the hope that he is the one and the desire and dedication to make it last. However, after a year or so, I gradually realize that the person isn't right for me, become disillusioned and fall out of love with him, and th...
2023-04-2059 minBeat Your Genes Podcast304: Information Overload, Do Humans procreate for help later in life?, How much does income/status matter for a woman?In today's show, Dr. Lisle and Howk discuss the following questions: 1. Has the team discussed how information overload impedes progress and making changes to one's health? I'd assume one can overdo information gathering, whether it's from podcasts, books, or blogs. As a clinician, how can we help clients get out of this stagnant, noncommittal place? Also, it seems to cause people a lot of stress and anxiety when they have too many thoughts going on in their heads. I have to imagine it gets to a point where it's harmful? 2. It was recently mentioned on th...
2023-04-061h 00Beat Your Genes Podcast299:Eugenics & EvoPsych, Child threatens suicide, Bad child blaming good parents1. I am curious about an unpopular subject: systematic eugenics. Has "random" selection in the mating market already produced the best possible human genes combinations? Could we generate humans with drastically higher IQ, strength, size, speed, athleticism, beauty, etc? What do you think is the hypothetical limit of human genetic potential for outlier individuals and for the average of a population? This kind of discussion is often obscured by the obvious practical and ethical problems, rather than what it could theoretically achieve. 2.My husband's daughter is extremely disagreeable, low conscientiousness, low IQ, highly introverted, open to drugs and al...
2023-01-2653 minBeat Your Genes Podcast298: Depression in the modern world vs. Stone AgeIn today's episode, Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk discuss the following question: Given that depression is inherently demotivating (because it is failure feedback that tells you to stop what you're doing), how might one 'bootstrap' oneself into more positive, motivated mood states? I wonder what people in the Stone Age village would have done to bounce back from failure feedback; it makes most of us want to curl into a ball and die. How does depression actually end up benefiting and motivating us? Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph...
2023-01-121h 01Beat Your Genes Podcast295: Nothing satisfies, Euthanasia, Tragedies, Adrenaline junkies, HomophobiaIn today's show (episode 295), Dr. Lisle discusses the following questions: I am a 35 year old female and I don't know what to do with my life. I have a bachelors degree in biochemistry and doctorate degree in pharmacy. I worked as a clinical pharmacist for a year but I got bored and I quit. Then I worked as a massage therapist, a real estate agent, and a dental hygienist. I got bored of these as well. They just didn't satisfy me, even though I don't even know what I'm looking for or what I want. My relationships are...
2023-01-051h 03Beat Your Genes Podcast297: It's the End of the... Year 2022In our final show of 2022, Dr. Howk and Dr. Lisle have a discussion about current events and the year to come. For more information on their upcoming "True to Life" Seminar being held live & virtually on Feb 19th , please visit www.TruetoLife.us Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D. Podcast website: www.BeatYourGenes.org True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : www.TrueToLife.us Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus
2022-12-291h 09Beat Your Genes Podcast294: Cultural appropriation/Oppression Olympics, Mate choice, Finding dream jobDr. Lisle & Dr. Howk are having a virtual seminar Sunday Feb 19, 2023. Visit www.TrueToLife.us for details! In today's episode, the Dr's discuss: Could you discuss cultural appropriation? Especially with regards to not sporting wigs etc I for one really admire when people dress up like people from my culture and use the same hair and face accessories even though in the past we were under colonial rule and oppressed. Are men, now, in a world where women also make a lot of money, willing to sleep down if they themselves don't make much money? In epi...
2022-12-221h 01Beat Your Genes Podcast296: Do minorities have low self-esteem, Interrupting, NeuroplasticityAnnouncements: -On Feb 19, 2023, Dr. Lisle & Howk are doing a Live Seminar called the True to Life Series. Registration link: www.TrueToLife.us -Episodes 294 & 295 will be released in the coming weeks. In today's show the dr's discuss: Do people feel disgust for themselves when they are a minority in the village? Like you've said, disgust evolved not just out of a sense of right and wrong, but also out of infection and threat. So, my question is, do (racial, sexual, etc) minorities suffer because their internal audience will be in tune with the majority...
2022-12-1559 minBeat Your Genes Podcast291: Is addiction more likely in sad people, Evo Psych in classroomsIn today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses: Dear doctors, although addiction has been discussed extensively already im still trying to piece it together, thus would like your comments on the following: In a state of anxiety, stress and depression where we are getting negative esteem cues and dopamine levels are low, a substance that boosts dopamine can take one from 20 to say 80 on pleasure scale, whereas if you are content and calm that substance may take you from a 60 to say 70 or 80 which the brain doesnt recognise as a significant increment. does this mean that poeple who are sad...
2022-10-0656 minBeat Your Genes Podcast290: Need to understand, How BYG started, Childless, Bad Childhood & depressionIn today's show, the dr's discuss: How does evolutionary psychology approach the complex human need to understand how/why/when about the workings of the universe hello! i am just curious how this podcast came into being and the aim behind it, as it appears to be an extremely altruistic dissipation of scientifically accurate advice and help. highly grateful for it. thankyou! greetings! i am 23 years old, from a pretty conservative nation and feel i have missed out on many life experiences thus do not want a kid as i want the rest of my life completely for m...
2022-09-2955 minBeat Your Genes Podcast289: Ideal exercise, Resentment, Frustrated with dating, Getting better tips What is the ideal level of exercise for one's health? Five years ago, I was diagnosed with severe OCD. After two years of painstaking efforts, I successfully got off SSRI and recovered without the help of therapy sessions. During the height of OCD, my wife treated me with contempt, frustration, anger, hostility and total lack of compassion and patience. She justified that in the past - when were were still a new couple - that I was harsh, critical and rude towards her. How can I get over my resentments? I feel like I am losing my mind in the...
2022-09-0150 minBeat Your Genes Podcast287: Dr. Howk on Current EventsIn today's show, Dr. Jen Howk discusses some current events. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D. Podcast website: www.BeatYourGenes.org True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : www.TrueToLife.us Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus
2022-08-1847 minBeat Your Genes Podcast286: Pair bond must-haves, Spirituality & EvoPsych, Creating an alter egoIn today's show, the doctor's discuss: If your relationship status is single, would you only look to someone with your diet lifestyle as someone you'd only be interested in dating and possible pair bond? Can spirituality fit into evolutionary psychology? My question is about creating an alter ego - Apparently sports people do it and David Goggins did it. David Goggins was a flake and overweight and had no prospects and by his own admission was a liar. Then he basically turned his life around and became a Navy seal and said he did it by inventing an A...
2022-07-2150 minBeat Your Genes Podcast285: Roe v Wade, Body Positivity in Women, Blank Slate model appealIn today's show, the dr's discuss: Current events re: Roe v Wade There is so much about "body positivity" on the media and women growing their body hair out especially. On social media I read mainly positive comments on this, but especially from women, while some men are making rather jokey comments. I was just wondering what might be the motivation for women who keep saying stuff like "good on her", "if only I was braver, I'd do the same", etc…?? Like they're all claiming that removal of body hair is forced on us by recent culture. Is it...
2022-07-071h 01Beat Your Genes Podcast284: Dropout daughter, Autism, Social connections, Rethinking 10 paid dates?In today's show, the drs discuss I am worried about my daughter. She graduated with a perfect gpa while also modeling. After her degree, she moved to pursue modelling but she soon developed an eating disorder and quit. Subsequently, she attended medical school but dropped out due to an illness caused by stress. She moved back home but she doesn't want to work or go back to school. In fact, she barely leaves the house. Whenever I try to talk to her about it, she starts crying and we never get anywhere. I hate to see her waste h...
2022-06-1656 minBeat Your Genes Podcast282: Do women avoid direct help? Career confusion, Sister needs bone marrowIn today's episode, Dr. Lisle goes over: What would be the stone age benefit for women to seek only compassion and not direct help or solutions? I grew up in a household with parents who successfully left their home countries and "made it" as engineers in the US. I grew up with the expectation that I would follow their trajectory - I completed a bachelors, a masters, and was always "en-route" to medical school. Post-graduate school though, things started to look a little differently for me. I lost academic steam and I fell into mystical, artsy land. Recently, I...
2022-05-2649 minBeat Your Genes Podcast280: Lazy husband, Painful sex, Bf might wander, High T & agreeable?In today's show, the doctors discuss: I have been married for 8 years to a man who is a federal government employee. He is very responsible and reliable. Now, since the pandemic, he has been working from home 4-5x/week. I have notice how lazy he is. I workout, eat clean, do the cooking and all the cleaning. I find myself getting so irritated when I am with him. He is overweight and growing. He literally sits watching TV or reading articles on the computer and eating crap during working hours. I do not understand why my habits ar...
2022-04-2849 minBeat Your Genes Podcast279: BF's career, Women abusing men, Video games, Afraid to talk, gender theoryIn today's show, Dr. Howk discusses: Should I be worried if my boyfriend's career is a higher priority than me and our future family? If I was the love of his life would his career still be more important than me? He is 40 and a financier on wall street. What are the ways women abuse men? Is the silent treatment, inducing jealousy, withholding intimacy, considered abusive? I'm a woman and I found myself doing these things in a toxic relationship in which my partner called me abusive, which made me wonder if I was. You've only briefly touched o...
2022-04-2848 minBeat Your Genes Podcast278: Sexual disgust, Meaningful and authentic esteem dynamic in a pair bondIn today's show, the Dr's discuss: can you illuminate us a bit about the nature of sexual disgust. I am currently seeing a man who is very much in love with me and is a good match for me in general. I like him very much and can imagine him as a future partner. However, I hate being touched by him. I feel so grossed out by it,it doesn't turn me on at all and so I avoid physical intimacy with him. Is there any way to get over this or should I just quit? My ex...
2022-03-311h 03Beat Your Genes Podcast277: Do ppl marry out of necessity, Assessing happiness, Contribution AnxietyIn today's show, the Dr's discuss: My male friend told me he married his wife even though he was in love with an ex-girlfriend because he could trust her to be loyal whereas he couldn't trust his ex. How often do men do this? How good/bad of a situation is this for the wife who wants a reliable husband and father until death does them part(she might be concerned about him having an affair with the ex)? How do I assess how to stimulate/encourage my brain's moods of happiness? I've always been quite anxious but t...
2022-03-1045 minBeat Your Genes Podcast276: Jealousy & Possessive behavior, Crystal Clear, Deception in datingIn this episode, Dr. Lisle discusses: Is jealous and controlling/possessive behavior a sign that a romantic partner loves you or is just a something to do with their personality? Does crystal clear usually only work with honest people? I suppose a dishonest person would lie and manipulate during the crystal clear, therefore the best outcome of the conversation would be finding out the truth despite their dishonesty and/or terminating the relationship because of the realization of their dishonesty and that it carries too many costs. How common is it for men to be successfully deceived about a...
2022-02-2446 minBeat Your Genes Podcast275: Sex frequency issue, Cheating on Horace, Current EventsIn today's show, the doctors discuss: Dear Doctors, my husband and I have been married for 5 1/2 years now, and have an amazing relationship. We agree on most things, enjoy spending time together, have great communication and have very infrequent arguments. One thing (probably the only thing) we do argue about is my sex drive and my husband's penis size. If my husband had it his way, we would have sex twice a day, every day and for me there is about a 10 day window every month where I actually want to have sex and the rest of the m...
2022-02-1155 minBeat Your Genes Podcast274: Can therapy trigger a victim mentality? Impulsive shopping, Lesbian datingIn today's show, Dr. Howk discusses: I grew up facing a lot of turmoil; I had a physically and sexually abusive father, I left home and was homeless from 16 to 18, and dealt with a lot of tumultuous grooming situations at a young age, and so forth. However, I was dealing with it really well up until 20 when I started to take therapy; while simultaneously moving to a tiny city that was very into "woke" culture. I feel as though it may have exasperated my victim mentality, but I am unsure. I want to know, was the victim mentality t...
2022-01-2739 minBeat Your Genes Podcast273: Falling for promiscuous women, Does my BF treat me bad or he just high T?In today's episode, Dr. Lisle discusses: Why do men sometimes pair-bond/fall in love with obviously promiscuous women(promiscuous reputation, clubbing/partying often, always scantily clad)? Maybe I'm having a hard time understanding because I'm a young woman. I would love to hear your thoughts! What pair-bond behavior do highly testeronized men show? My boyfriend of 1 year remembers minute details about me, pays for all our dates, sends me food when he's not with me, and has bought me a new MacBook Pro, iPhone, Tiffany's jewelry, flowers every month, and teddy bears but he is not very verbally...
2022-01-1342 minBeat Your Genes Podcast272: Work evaluation, Abandonment/Rejection issues, Life after psych medsIn today's show, the Dr's discuss: I listened to Dr Howk on pseudo esteem where you say: If you are highly agreeable, highly conscientious and not that emotionally stable - being on social media comes with a high price for you psycolgy. I teach workshops for companies and I get graded every time from each students. I get 5 from 95% of the students but sometimes I get a 2 or 3 and I can tell right away before I get the evaluation who in the crowd will grade me low. How do I stop trying to please the one disagreeable person and no...
2021-12-3050 minBeat Your Genes Podcast271: Raising children, Obese Psych, Sleep, Disagreeable distance, Abortion, ParanoiaIn today's show, the Dr's discuss; How would you raise a child? Specifically for the first year? All that whining and crying, and getting barely any sleep for the first year. Is there anything parents can do? Or if nothing, if someone has the finances to, would you recommend a nanny or something similar? Do obese people have differing psychologies? I would assume obese genes wouldn't survive to reproduction in historic times before agriculture (in terms of extreme obesity), so do you think that has any impact upon psychology today? Also, are there any groups of people that...
2021-12-271h 15Beat Your Genes Podcast270: Polyamory, Unvaxxed dating, Sharing mate with needy sibling, and more..In today's show, the Dr's discuss: How do you explain, in the context of evolutionary psychology, women who pursue polyamory? It seems like they are doing a good job of beating the instructions dealt them by their genes. Alternatively is polyamory is just the new, politically-correct way of cheating on your spouse and potentially ending an unwanted relationship? I am a female from Canada trapped in the country for now.. Currently, with the vaccine mandate, I can't sit inside a restaurant or even join an outdoors sports group. This makes meeting people and dating rather impossible. Should I...
2021-12-0253 minBeat Your Genes Podcast269: Where Do Epiphanies Come From, Acting different w different people, Self-destructive behaviorIn today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses: Why do I often get small epiphanies about various things in my life when I'm half asleep? I've noticed many people act differently around close friends and family than they do around coworkers and strangers. So, how do we know what our true personalities are? For example, I'm the life of the party around people I know very well, but totally shy and quiet around strangers and at work. I'm also quite disagreeable with close friends and family, but highly agreeable with everyone else. Is it my high conscientiousness that causes me...
2021-11-1850 minBeat Your Genes Podcast268: Evo Psych Diet, Retiring Early, Stressed in the Stone Age, Covid TantrumsIn today's episode, Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk discuss: My question is about how evolutionary psychologists can interpret the species-specific human diet differently. Dr. Lisle supports a plant-based, starch-heavy diet. Meanwhile, Dr. Geoffrey Miller supports a paleo diet (heavy in meat and greens). It seems clear that the majority of calories were gathered, not hunted, which lends weight to the plant-based, starch-heavy type of diet being the standard human diet and the correct one to follow. How can researchers have such different interpretations of human diet? I would love to get the doctors' take on the FIRE movement (F...
2021-11-0452 minBeat Your Genes Podcast267: Sentimental objects, Birth control, Getting over the victim mentalityIn today's show, Dr. Howk discusses: My house is lovely, and clutter free - except one attic room which is where I keep a large amount of sentimental objects all neatly packed and stored and kept clean. I have a lot of objects, letters and cards from my own childhood and life. I have a lot of my children's clothes from age 0- 5, and a lot of their toys from the early years. I have their dismantled cot. I have every picture they have ever drawn. Why do I feel I need to keep all these possessions? Is...
2021-10-2142 minBeat Your Genes Podcast266: Getting over small slights in a LTR, Going mad, nervous breakdownsIn today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses: Is there such a thing as going mad? Are similar expressions mostly just used to discredit people? What about mental breakdowns? What would cause a fully-functional, productive member of society to have a "nervous breakdown," and become a total basket case? Conventional diagnoses include PTSD, anxiety, Major Depressive Disorder, and the treatment has, so far, been, treatment with more and more meds, whether in or outpatient. Is this just a function of personality? Is this person running a CB analysis that says it's better to be this way, even though she's miserable...
2021-10-071h 00Beat Your Genes Podcast265: Porn in a relationship, GF has a past, Is a marriage contract natural?In today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses: Is it different when a female partner indulges in the equivalent of but for women, than it is for if a male partner indulges? From what I understand, if the man is still very into his wife, it might not be much of a problem at all. Is it the same when a woman is indulging in shows and books that titillate the female mind? At 24 years old (female) having left a long 4 year relationship I did quite a lot of "market research" and calibration via casual dating/sex which was incredibly i...
2021-09-2351 minBeat Your Genes Podcast264: Current EventsIn today's show, Dr. Howk and Dr. Lisle discuss the current state of affairs in an analysis of human behavior and motivation. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D. Podcast website: www.BeatYourGenes.org True to Life seminars with Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk : www.TrueToLife.us Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus
2021-09-111h 02Beat Your Genes Podcast(Replay) Food vs drugs, Longevity, Dating market while aging, Is Lust a trap?In today's replay of episode 223, the Dr's discuss: How does withdrawal and Tolerance In drug usage compare to eating foods with addictive properties in terms of trying to quit? For instance, Would planning a strict day and time for a specific portioned unhealthy meal once a week then after get straight back on the wagon aid in keeping tolerance low and cravings at bay? or is complete abstinence the key to lifelong success in ending the addiction? I've been trying for about 3 years to be WFPB but I've never made it more than 30 days and when I cave in...
2021-09-0252 minBeat Your Genes Podcast263: Diff views in EP, Does Rooster Settle the Hens? Avoiding Cancel CultureIn today's show, Dr. Howk discusses: I think Jordan Peterson has done a fantastic job of exploring the evolutionary basis for Jungian archetypes. He appears to have a firm grasp on the literature, and he is convinced there is consilience between the two fields. In particular, Peterson's synthesis places institutions such as Christianity in a dramatic new context. But then again, this is an argument I imagine Richard Dawkins would be vehemently opposed to. The debates on religion between Peterson and Sam Harris serve to illustrate this intellectual divide. So where do you stand on this matter, Jen? Is...
2021-08-2644 minBeat Your Genes Podcast262: High ambition but mediocre action, Kid blames mom for low self-esteemIn today's show, Dr. Lisle answers: My daughter was recently informed by her therapist that self esteem is created in the first five years of life. My daughter feels now that I failed her in This regard as I was the primary caregiver. Essentially she feels her unhappy life is now my fault. Why do so many therapists focus so very much on upbringing and early life experiences vs genetics? I have a highly ambitious streak but can't seem to string together any consistent action since I graduated university and settled into a job. My concern is, am I d...
2021-08-121h 00Beat Your Genes Podcast30: Listener questionsEmail any questions to BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in 657-383-0751 Some of the questions we'll go over... From listeners: 1) Why do we see a huge discrepancy between societies empathy towards human needs until it comes to sexual satisfaction. We use tax money to fund basic needs of all kinds but if you're a sexual loser you're basically on your own in every way shape and form. Aren't outcast losers in the sexual realm more likely to become radical, rebellious, dangerous to the group? Are there any "stone age" examples of us quelling these dangers and are there any mo...
2016-09-0158 minBeat Your Genes Podcast28: Listener questions & call-insIf you've listened to an episode and had some questions or comments, now's the show to call in and ask them. Email me with your questions BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in 657-383-0751 live at 8:30pm PST.
2016-08-1855 minBeat Your Genes Podcast24: Keys to a Successful RelationshipWe will discuss: - Why Do Relationships Fail? - What your partner says vs. what they mean - Comment on ways to "Hack Your Relationship" ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Feel free to call with your own story, question, or comment at 657-383-0751. We are live on Wednesdays at 8:30pm PST. Or email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com
2016-07-2157 minBeat Your Genes Podcast22: More real life examples of relationship conflictListen in as we go over a few real examples from our listeners of relationship conflicts. If you have a situation you'd like some help with please email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in to the show live on Wednesdays at 8:30pm PST at 657-383-0751
2016-07-0759 minBeat Your Genes Podcast21: Real life examples of relationship conflictListen in as we go over a few real examples from our listeners of relationship conflicts. If you have a situation you'd like some help with please email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in to the show live at 657-383-0751
2016-06-3057 minBeat Your Genes Podcast20: Common Relationship Problems & how to solve themNate G and Dr. Doug Lisle discuss common dating traps that men and women find themselves in. We will also go over some listener comments/emails. If you'd like some advice from Dr. Lisle, feel free to email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in live at 657-383-0751 at 7:30pm PST on Wednesdays.
2016-06-2359 minBeat Your Genes Podcast19: Common Dating Traps & how to avoid themNate G and Dr. Doug Lisle discuss common dating traps that men and women find themselves in. We will also go over some listener comments/emails. If you'd like some advice from Dr. Lisle, feel free to email us at BeatYourGenes@gmail.com or call in live at 657-383-0751 at 7:30pm PST on Wednesdays.
2016-06-1658 minBeat Your Genes Podcast17: Caller asks Dr. Lisle about polyamoryPyschologist Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD, takes a call from a man looking to learn more about human mating psychology If any listeners would like to call and ask advice from Dr. Lisle for a show, please email BeatYourGenes@gmail.com
2016-06-0255 minBeat Your Genes Podcast16: How much should you spend on first date?Have the dating games changed in 2 million years? Dr. Lisle reacts to a funny clip about why dating is so frustrating for women in the modern world. Why do women complain about men? Why do men complain about women? The next question Dr. Lisle goes over is a GQ article that asks "How much should a man spend on a first date?" Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus
2016-05-2654 minBeat Your Genes Podcast14: The Evolution of Relations in the Human SpeciesIn terms of human history, how did the idea of "locking someone into a relationship" develop? Dr. Lisle discusses the evolution of relations in the human species eventually getting to why are people winding up in a relationship that they feel they have to stay in. There is a brief discussion about the book Sex at Dawn and the argument for polyamory. We find out that the modern world brings modern dilemnas in dating but we still operate under the same psychology as that of our ancient ancestors. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast
2016-05-171h 04Beat Your Genes Podcast14: More on love, sex, dating, and relationshipsWe discuss real life situations to find what we need to do to find happiness. To do this, we have to sometimes go against our instincts. This is called "beating your genes". Listen as I, Nate G, your host, talks with Dr. Doug LIsle, evolutionary psychologist, about life, love, relationships, and most importantly finding happiness in the modern world.
We are live on Wednesdays at 8:30-9:30pm PST. If you have a question or comment, or maybe even a complicated situation that you'd like some advice on, feel free to call us live at 657-383-0751 or email us at BeatYo...
2016-05-171h 05Beat Your Genes Podcast13: Making Yourself More Date-able Part 2Part 2 from last week's episode: You might never become a Brad Pitt or Cindy Crawford, but that shouldn't stop you from trying. Last episode, we went over the right moves to make to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex. This show, we'll get to all the listener comments and questions about how to make yourself more attractive. Join Nathan Gershfeld and Dr. Doug Lisle in a show designed to help you find happiness and navigate the modern world with what you've got. A show where you''ll learn how to outsmart your genes to find true, la...
2016-05-121h 00Beat Your Genes Podcast12: Making Yourself More Date-ableYou might never become a Brad Pitt or Cindy Crawford, but that shouldn't stop you from trying. In tonight's episode, we will go over the right moves to make to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex. Join Nathan Gershfeld and Dr. Doug Lisle in a show designed to help you find happiness and navigate the modren world with what you've got. A show where you'll learn how to outsmart your genes to find true, lasting happiness. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D....
2016-05-0557 minBeat Your Genes Podcast11: Love, Sex, Dating, Relationships Part 3Following up from last week's episode, Dr. Lisle continues to discuss the psychology of behavior through listener questions such as: Why can people get so offended when told that human nature drives their behavior? Can we improve our marketability in dating/relationships? How are men and women different from one another regarding relationships? Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus
2016-04-281h 00Beat Your Genes Podcast10: Biological Clock, Sexual Variety, Settling Down, & Male GroupiesA follow-up to last week's episode, we will be going over more common mistakes that we all make in the mating dance that is dating. If you've ever had a dating experience where you felt you coudn't control yourself or the eventual outcome, that was your genes compelling you to behave in a certain way. This is a double-edged sword. On one hand, you can be optimizing your genes surviving but on the other hand, it may be detrimental to long-term happiness. We have evolved to enjoy the pursuit of love & sex through dating and rela...
2016-04-2159 minBeat Your Genes Podcast09: Love, Sex, Dating, RelationshipsIf you've ever had a dating experience where you felt you coudn't control yourself or the eventual outcome, that was your genes compelling you to behave in a certain way. This is a double-edged sword. On one hand, you can be optimizing your genes surviving but on the other hand, it may be detrimental to long-term happiness. We have evolved to enjoy the pursuit of love & sex through dating and relationships. In this episode Dr. Lisle discusses how we can optimize happiness in this area by beating our genes. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcas...
2016-04-1458 minBeat Your Genes Podcast08: How to Get Along Without Going AlongEver have a pushy friend that's trying to get you to do something you don't want to? It may seem like the only way to get them to understand "no" is to be rude or leave. In this episode, Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD discusses how to get along without going along. For a variety of scenarios it is in our best interest to get along with our friends, family members, and co-workers. However, that does not mean that we have to just do everything they want us to. Learn some unique tips and trick...
2016-04-0757 minBeat Your Genes Podcast07: Understanding your PersonalityDr. Lisle dives into a discussion of personality diffferences and what role they play in different life circumstances. For example, if you ever had to hire an attorney to defend you, you would want them to be a generally argumentative person. If you had to hire an accountant, you'd want them to be very detail-oriented. Similarly, if you are a naturally passionate and highly extraverted person, sitting at a desk job in your own cubicle all day long can be miserable even if it's a great job. How can you meet the challenges of the modern world while staying true...
2016-03-3156 minBeat Your Genes Podcast06: Psychology of Gender Dynamics and DifferencesToday's topic is gender differences. We start the show about a news event that occured with an academic where he stepped into some trouble for discussing gender differences. Dr. Lisle discusses the biological difference between men and women. For example, men can become more explosively angry than women due to a particular hormone that rises quickly in males. On the other hand, women can still be just as competitive as males, but they are slicker and friendlier. How did these differences evolve? Why did certain traits evolve in the different genders? How are men and women different? How do...
2016-03-2453 minBeat Your Genes Podcast05: Stone-Age politics vs. Modern-day politicsWhere do political views come from? Dr Lisle explains that political differences evolved from our basic need to optimize the survival of the stone age village. This results in a natural split of political views that essentially desire to either "share more" or "share less". Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. www.BeatYourGenes.org Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus
2016-03-1757 minBeat Your Genes Podcast04: Staying with a Man Who's Not Right For YouAs Dr. Lisle discusses the purpose of psychology, we begin with a discussion of thoughts, feelings, and behavior. Some philosophers believe that we can think one thing and then feel something completely different but Dr. Lisle explains these seemingly conflicting thoughts & feelings explains how this relates to stress. We discuss different models of psychology and some of the limits of learning theory. For example, do we learn our emotions during childhood? Dr. Lisle discusses an example of a common "beat your genes" trap for women nowadays of staying with a man who's not right for her. We conti...
2016-03-0955 minBeat Your Genes Podcast03: High Cost of High ExpectationsMotivation and expectations are supposed to go hand-in-hand. The idea being - if you're expected to achieve a goal, your motivation kicks in to meet these expectations. In this episode, Dr. Lisle goes over a concept called The Ego Trap. Which is the trap we may find ourselves in if the expectations of our performance exceeds what we think we can reasonably accomplish. Dr. Lisle describes this trap, how this process works, why it works the way it does, and how to effectively overcome it. Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast Host: Nathan Gershfeld Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and...
2016-03-0358 minBeat Your Genes Podcast02: Stepping Stones to Self-EsteemWhat does "self-esteem" actually mean? In this episode, Dr. Lisle goes over the history of the study of self-esteem. Then he explains his own discoveries of esteem processes including self-esteem. As it turns out, nobody can give you "self-esteem". Dr. Lisle explains that self-esteem is quite literally esteem of your self, so it is how you view yourself. So, what's called "low self-esteem" or "high self-esteem" is entirely based on how you view yourself. However, this view is not easily changed, as Dr. Lisle describes a concept called the "internal audience" - a sort of social meter sitting inside your m...
2016-02-2558 min
Beat Your Genes Podcast01: Happiness vs. Pleasure : What is the goal of life?In the very first episode of the Beat Your Genes podcast, Host Nate Gershfeld talks with Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD about the purpose of life, happiness vs. pleasure, and the psychological mechanisms that guide our behavior. Dr. Lisle talks about some important findings namely, that purpose of life (biologically) is quite simple - to spread our own genes and ensure their survival into the next few generations. Because of this, our entire biology, physiology, and psychology is built around this goal. It's been like this for the entire history of our species and we have survived in natu...
2016-02-1859 min