Becky Farley & Candace Little From Mindful Art Co.

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3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms300: Coping with Illness or Pain as a Mom // Becky and CandaceSeveral years ago, in the midst of kidney stone pain, I reached out to Becky Farley and Candace Little, the founders of Mindful Art Company, and asked for their best tips on using mindfulness to cope with illness. For full show notes, including the 3 Takeaways, please visit https://3in30podcast.com/300-Coping-with-Illness-or-PainEpisode sponsors: Self-Assured Motherhood Program: If you are interested in being notified when my Self-Assured Motherhood program opens for enrollment in the fall, text the word SAM (which stands for self-assured motherhood...2023-06-1936 min

Common Kindness05 - Self-Compassion Stories - AshleyWe dive deep into the Carl Rogers quote “The curious paradox of life is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change." Our guest shares two personal stories about recognizing "what is" in her own life, and also the difficult task to accept that without judgement. We discuss perfectionism, accepting mistakes, the importance of reaching out and also receiving others' help, and so much more. This episode's guest is Ashley Kuchar, PhD. She is our dear friend and has taught and studied with Becky and has such a wise, calming presence, we knew we had...2022-12-0932 min

Common Kindness04 - Self-Compassion Stories - LeahIn this episode, we discover how asking the right question can make all the difference. Our guest, Leah, is a dear friend and adventurous mama. In her story, she tells about a challenging time she faced after the birth of her 5th child. We hope you find yourself in her story. We know we did. And if nothing else, maybe you wondered when was the last time you asked yourself “What do I need right now?” And when did you actually get yourself what you need?? Start right now.2022-09-3013 min

Common Kindness03 - Self-Compassion Stories - MonicaAre there moments, days or even seasons where you have lost yourself? Maybe you're in one right now. What can we do during times like these? Tune in to this third episode of our Self-Compassion Stories mini series where we host our very first guest on the show shares her experience and how transformation lies in the process, not the outcome. Our guest is our teacher, cheerleader, Instagram friend, and real life neighbor: Monica Packer from About Progress, a community focused on growth not perfection. She describes an intense time in her mothering full of overwhelm and sadness and...2022-08-2930 min

Common Kindness02 - Self-Compassion Stories - CandaceIn our second episode of Self-Compassion Stories, Candace shares an experience from childhood. Which got us thinking about the ways we naturally offer ourselves compassion, but as we grow, that instinct can be forgotten and underused. Tune in to this timely end of summer share about sibling rivalry and road trips...have you ever been in the middle of the madness and wanted to just ignore it all? We find out what a little compassion can do for Candace's hard situation, and how accepting ourselves exactly as we are is the true path to change. Is there a...2022-08-2211 min

Common Kindness01 - Self-Compassion Stories - BeckyWelcome to the first episode of our mini series, "Self-Compassion Stories." It's powerful to hear examples from real people about how they have changed by being kind to themselves. Carl Rogers said, "The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I change." In this episode, Becky responds to this quote and shares about a time on a family vacation that she accepted herself with kindness and what changed because of it. There are canceled flights, a sleepless night and some really great details, you're not gonna want to miss. When have you accepted...2022-08-1614 min

Common KindnessMeeting Distraction With Connection And KindnessHave you ever considered that a distraction is simply your inner self showing you a place you are suffering? I hadn’t thought about that either, until Becky and I recorded this episode. In a world full of numbing, reaction, and constant distraction, we offer another way of life—one full of intention, connection and kindness for yourself and others. Take a listen!! “You cannot build a deep connection with someone who is disconnected from themselves.” Yung Pueblo 2022-05-0424 min

Common Kindness10 - Perception & ConnectionWhen you start to learn to pay attention--to wake up to really WHAT IS--your perception becomes more true. And that’s when we can start to change things we want to change and move through emotions/moments/situations that we want to move through. Becky teaches us about inter-connectedness and how we can find the truer perception by expanding what we are connected to. We discuss how Candace has changed her perception about her body by noticing what she was connecting the thoughts about her body to. Once she changed, or expanded that connection, she was able to have a...2022-04-0724 min

Common Kindness9 - Taking Care of AngerIn this episode we talk about how tuning into your voice of compassion is the best way to take care of yourself--and your anger. If you want to change the way you react in high stress or high anger situations, then try meditation--specifically the short one we share in this episode. Scientific studies show that when we meditate we are in effect changing the shape of our brain by flexing the muscle of attention. The same way we go to the gym and do repetitions to increase our muscle, we practice meditation daily to focus the mind and change...2022-03-0225 min

Common Kindness8 - Notice The GoneDo some things (especially moments of pain, fear or shame) seem like they go on and on forever? Do you find yourself asking, "when will this end?" Or thinking "this will never end!" Then this episode is for you. We help you discover the micro pauses in our every day life. Finding this stillness is a way to bring a balance to your life--in the both good times and bad. From extreme fear or shame, to head aches, to stinky dogs, the practice of "noticing the gone" will help. And it's a lot easier than you think. Come join...2022-02-2122 min

Common Kindness7 - Grasping and AversionWe increase our suffering when we hold on to things (grasping) and avoid things (avoid things). So naturally, a great way to ease our suffering is to let go and/or address our feelings or situations head-on. How do we know if we are grasping or averting? And what do we do once we identify that? That's what this episode is for. We give you 3 tips to apply to your personal struggle with grasping and aversion, and lead you through a "letting go" visualization meditation that will bring more peace and ease to your day. Come join us! 2022-02-1529 min

Common Kindness6 - Lessen Your Resistance and Ease Your SufferingWhat happens in your body when you are resisting? Tight shoulders? Tension headaches? Stomach cramps? You can't sleep? Maybe you just can't focus on anything. There are lots of ways resistance shows up in our lives--and those we care for, live with and work with. While it's not always bad, resistance is something that we can lessen if we choose. We talk about "pain x resistance = suffering" and "what you resists persists," and shine a light on the power we have to lessen our suffering by simply sitting with our feelings. It sounds simple, but we know it's hard...2022-01-2726 min

Common Kindness5 - Pleasant Vs. PresentDo you often choose to feel pleasant, rather than to be present?? Yeah, there's a scientific reason for that! But it's actually really good for our brains to be present. In this episode we talk about why zoning out, or working on auto-pilot are great for survival, but not so great for our happiness and general life-satisfaction. Listen to this episode to find out why something as simple as loading the dishwasher in a new way can be beneficial, and some other super practical ways to apply the concept of mindfulness v. default mode network to your life. 2022-01-2022 min

Common Kindness4 - Soles of the FeetIn this episode, we share a new way to anchor yourself to the present moment. Instead of using the breath, we teach you to use the soles of your feet. Learning to ground yourself with walking meditation is a fantastic tool. Listen to find out all you can do with this simple tool. Link for our handbook: https://www.mindfulartco.com/product-page/self-compassion-handbook-early-edition “Be where you are. Otherwise you will miss your life.” --The Buddha “Walk as if you are kissing the earth with your feet” --Thich nhat hanh 2021-11-1721 min

Common Kindness3 - Finding Freedom & The Magic SpaceIn this episode, we discuss the magic space between the in-breath and the out-breath, and the space between feeling an emotion and responding to that emotion. And a lot of other spaces in our lives that make it more meaningful. Music, writing, even seasons have spaces. We teach you a tool you can use any time you'd like to respond instead of reacting, or choose freedom instead of being controlled by your emotions or situation. We learn from the best--Viktor E. Frankl--who said, "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose...2021-10-2813 min

Common Kindness2 - Taking Charge of Your Crappy EmotionsWhen you have a difficult emotion, do you avoid it? Or do you face it head-on? Today we have another parable of the poop. However irreverent it may sound, this is such a great visual for how we can take charge of our own crappy emotions. We introduce a tool to help you out - The acronym RAIN. And Becky leads us in a RAIN meditation so you can address one of your challenges right now. R - Recognize A - Allow I - Investigate N - Nurture 2021-10-1822 min

Common Kindness1 - Arrive and Arise : Mindfulness for BeginnersIn this episode we practice arriving and befriending wherever it is we find ourselves. We define “mindfulness” and share some practical applications of meditation. Have you ever meditated wrong? The answer is no. Because there is no wrong way to meditate! It is simply paying attention to the present moment. Our thoughts are always there. The goal is not to push them away or stop them from coming, but becoming still enough to to allow them to arise.2021-10-0517 min

Common KindnessGet Ready For Season 2: MindfulnessHey, we are back! It's time to dive deep into mindfulness. We are so excited to talk about this lost art and science. We'll bring real ideas and information about mindfulness this season. If you are new here, you might want to go back and listen to the 1st Season, but you certainly don't have to for this season to still have an impact on your life. We just want to say, "great job" for listening--this stuff is important and we're proud of you for being here. Here is a link to the free fall leave meditation a...2021-10-0402 min

Common Kindness12 - Mindfulness 2.0If you've made it this far, congratulations! It's our final episode of Season 1--intorduction to Self-compassion. In this episode, we will go over the three elements of self-compassion that were developed by Kristin Neff, Ph.D. These are Mindfulness vs. Over-Identification, Common Humanity vs. Isolation, and Self-kindness vs. Judgement. At the end, Becky leads us through a loving-kindness meditation and reads a poem (copied below). For more information on our Mindful Self-Compassion Course, please click HERE. TO THE WOMAN WHO IS SLOWLY FADING AWAY To the woman who has lost h...2021-05-1820 min

Common Kindness11 - Self-Compassion Vs. Self-EsteemIn this episode, we teach you about the difference between self-compassion and self-esteem. Is one better than the other? YES. Self-compassion gives a more stable sense of self-worth over time because it is not based on outward appearances, how physically attractive you are, or how successful you are. Unlike self-esteem, self-compassion leads us to connect with others instead of comparing ourselves to them. Can you think of 5 positive truths about yourself that are not based on outward accomplishments or appearance? If you need some guidance, we have the perfect meditation for you at the end of this episode. 2021-05-1123 min

Common KindnessSuffering = Pain x ResistanceThe psychologist Carl Jung said that “What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.” So when you’re trying to avoid, ignore or shove down an experience or emotion, thinking that if you do, it will go away you are actually making it grow. It becomes your reality. This is especially true with pain. Meditation and self compassion help with pain in 5 different ways. 1- It helps you pay attention to your pain--find out what it actually feels like in your body instead of trying NOT to feel it. Once you do that, yo...2021-05-0423 min

Common KindnessTree and sky meditationBecky leads us through a tree and sky meditation. This is a great meditation if you want to feel more gratitude and more balance in your life. Here's the link if you are wanting to sign up for the MSC online course or inquire about scholarships. https://www.mindfulartco.com/product-page/mindful-self-compassion-msc-course-online 2021-04-2716 min

Common Kindness8 - How To Take A Self-Compassion BreakIn this episode, Becky teaches us a brief overview of the three steps and the three pillars of self-compassion (1-Mindfulness, 2-Common Humanity, 3-Self-kindness) and leads us in a self-compassion break meditation. She also discusses the scientifically prove benefits of practicing this exact meditation. A self-compassion break is a great way to deal with stressful situations in a healthy way and to nurture yourself while you are trying to survive all that life throws at you. "We are not the survival of the fittest, we are the survival of the nurtured." attachment scientist, Louis Cozolino T...2021-04-2015 min

Common Kindness7 - Balancing Your DragonIn this episode, Becky tells a Chinese legend about Quan Yin. She is a Buddhist god that rides on the back of a dragon and sprinkles compassion on the entire world. We have a discussion about finding our own dragons - these wild beasts that are preventing us from sprinkling self-compassion on ourselves and others. We can make weak things strong by learning to balance on them instead of letting them eat us up or trying to destroy them. The first step to making friends with our dragons is acknowledging them, so this episode will help you do exactly...2021-04-1319 min

Common Kindness6 - Fight, Flight, Freeze, and FreeIn this episode, Becky and Candace talk about two systems all humans have. The Threat Defense System (often called the fight, flight, or freeze mode of our brains), which is controlled by our amygdala or "lizard brain", and the Mammalian Care System, which is controlled by our prefrontal cortex--the most advanced brain of any living creature. Knowing more about how our brains work in these two ways will guide you to an easier path of self-compassion and even an easier way to anything. We want you to live a life of ease--and this episode teaches you how! 2021-04-0721 min

Common Kindness5 - Becoming RealIn this episode, we talk about what it means to be real. When we practice self-compassion, we create a space of kindness that allows us to become who really are. And who we really want to become. Becky reads an excerpt from the children's book, "The Velveteen Rabbit," and we discuss becoming real through Self-compassion. We also give you a tool to make compassion more real in your life--your self-compassion color. We show you how to find it and how it can be a useful tool. Excerpt from The Velveteen Rabbit by Ma...2021-03-3014 min

Common Kindness4 - The Inner- Critic & The Compassionate VoiceIn this episode, we figure out what our inner critic sounds like and what our compassionate voice sounds like. We also discuss how to write a compassionate letter to yourself. 2021-03-2316 min

Common Kindness3 - Myths & Truths of Self-CompassionWhy don't we all just practice self-compassion naturally? First off, there is an uncomfortable side of self-compassion--the word "compassion" literally means "to suffer with." No one likes to feel uncomfortable, so we will avoid it. The second reason we don't naturally practice self-compassion is that there are a bunch of myths floating around that self-compassion will make us lazy or self-centered. In this episode, we dive into the uncomfortable feelings, the myths, and also the truths of mindful self-compassion. After listening, we would love to hear which myth or truth resonates with you! Continue the conversation at home or...2021-03-1522 min

Common Kindness2 - The Self-Compassion AdventureWhat is the difference between a journey and an adventure? We talk about this and how self-compassion may look more like an adventure for you. There are ups, downs, sometimes it's even boring! But you guys, this adventure is so worth it. Becky leads us in a short meditation at the end and asks the question "Why Am I Here?" After listening, we'd love to hear about your own adventures and why you are here. Why have you chosen self-compassion? Come tell us @MindfulArtCo on Instagram or Facebook. Becky is a trained Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher. Y...2021-03-0812 min

Common Kindness1 - Hello! It's Nice To Meet You.Hi! We are Becky Farley and Candace Little and we're inviting you to spend a few minutes with us each week. Why? Because we have seen mindful self-compassion change lives. Our lives, our friends, family, and the thousands of kids, teens, and adults we have taught self-compassion to. There is truly an art and science of practicing self-compassion and we will share it with you on this podcast a little bit at a time. This allows you to begin exactly where you are at in your own experience with mindfulness or self-compassion. In this first episode, we tell our...2021-03-0116 min

3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms082: How to Use Mindfulness to Cope with Pain or Illness as a Mom // Candace and Becky of Mindful Art CompanySeveral months ago, in the midst of kidney stone pain, I reached out to Becky Farley and Candace Little, the founders of Mindful Art Company, and asked for their best tips on using mindfulness to cope with illness. For full show notes, including the 3 Takeaways and sponsors, please visit https://3in30podcast.com/mindfulness-in-motherhood/***2019-05-2039 min

About ProgressTeaching Emotional Responsibility to Kids (and ourselves!) || with Mindful Art Co.Do you know that children's negative actions (anger, lashing out, tantrums, wailing, etc.) are often just the misplacement of their true emotions? (Think: exhaustion, frustration, disappointment.)It's true! Kids who are reacting in negative ways actually need guidance to understand what is really happening within themselves and, in turn, better cope with what life throws at them.This is called "emotional responsibility," where one truly recognizes their emotions, takes charge of them, and cares for them.Mindful Art Company's founders, Candace Little and Becky Farley, are on the show to teach us how...2018-12-0538 min