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unenlightened radioep113: marianne does it again'Are our feelings ours? Do we "get into heaven two by two?" Is it actually happening how it's supposed to? These and other thoughts from yours, truly [confused].
www.bekaelle.com/coaching#soul-huddles2024-06-1238 minunenlightened radioep112: "BEKA ELLE, A SINGLE PERSON"More life updates and insights from one cacoon escapist to another.
www.bekaelle.com/contact2024-06-0354 minunenlightened radioep111: it's safe to hate yourselfThis is kind of a life-update episode with recent explorations weaved in.
2024-04-2128 minunenlightened radioep110: return of the dave [with dave fry]Another episode featuring the one-and-only Dave Fry.
In this conversation, we discuss the mind's crafty ways, "doership," art, and creativity.
Find Dave here:
https://dramyjohnson.com/coach/dave-fry/
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www.bekaelle.com2024-04-0153 minunenlightened radioep109: dark night of right and wrongStorytime! About my most recent breakdown (lol).
No but really... here's a story about second guessing myself and the continual learning curve to trust myself and trust life. I hope something in it rings true for you too.
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Soul Huddles2024-03-1745 minunenlightened radioep108: overthinking [with becca gardner]I feel lucky to have Becca Gardner on the podcast! In this episode, we discuss the topic of overthinking: how we all do it, and how we can make peace with it rather than letting it run our lives.
Becca's website: https://www.themissingpeacecotswolds.com/
My website :
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Join SOUL HUDDLES!2024-03-1048 minunenlightened radioep107: fear of gaining weightThis is an excerpt from the February SOUL HUDDLE... my response to a question that was sent anonymously from a member.
The question: What to do about the fear of gaining weight, and fear of uncontrollable eating?
If you have a question, feel free to enter it in the contact form, or the anonymous contact form, on my website:
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Sign up for SOUL HUDDLES! It's freeeee2024-03-0324 minunenlightened radioep106: how to connect to your inner wisdom [with julieanne chazotte and kristina bruce]Welcome back to another roundtable, this time featuring the brilliant Julieanne Chazotte and Kristina Bruce!
We discuss what "wisdom" or "intuition" is, and how to recognize it.
Julie's website
SimpleSHIFT (Julie's platform)
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join SOUL HUDDLES2024-02-2547 minunenlightened radioep105: it's all made up and the points don't matter [with crystal saltrelli]What if goals and desires were pure fun, rather than stressful? How would striving feel if you knew your self worth wasn't on the line?
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Join Soul Huddles2024-02-1852 minunenlightened radioep104: welcoming it all [with missy maiorano and jessica silverman]This roundtable was a complete lovefest. I hope you enjoy it.
Find Jessica here: https://www.parentingwithclarity.com
Find Missy here: https://www.missymaioranocoaching.com
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Join SOUL HUDDLES!2024-02-1153 minunenlightened radioep103: lessons I learned while travelingIn case you missed it, I haven't had a lease since Feb of 2023... I've been traveling, and living nomadically in monthly AirBnB's. I've learned a lot from this experience and thought it might be fun to share some of the lessons- both philosophical and practical ones!
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Join SOUL HUDDLES!2024-02-0438 minunenlightened radioep102: the self illusion [with amanda jones and judi wolinsky]Buckle up for a ride down the rabbit hole with your two magical tour guides, Judi Wolinsky and Amanda Jones!
Find Amanda here: https://www.uncoveryspace.com/
Sign up for The Wonderland Course, hosted by Amanda Jones and Alex Linares.
Reach out to me to get in touch with Judi!
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Join SOUL HUDDLES!2024-01-2849 minunenlightened radioep101: manifestingMy journey with the concept of manifestation/law of attraction.
Our first VIDEO episode! Whhhaaaaaattttt?!!?!
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2024-01-2136 minunenlightened radioep100: understanding the human experience [with Lindsey Elliott and Dave Fry]Welcome, Lindsey Elliott, and welcome back, Dave Fry, for a special roundtable episode!
I have so much respect for these two excellent coaches. Come hang out with us as we discuss how out experience works, and why that is useful for overcoming anxiety and other mental health woes.
Find Lindsey's website here.
Reach out to Dave: dave.fry.tsb@gmail.com
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2024-01-1453 minunenlightened radioep99: head to heartMagic happens when we take our focus out of the head and into the heart (or breath, or bodily sensations).
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2024-01-0727 minunenlightened radioep98: does restriction necessarily lead to binge eating? a f.a.q.We haven't talked about food stuff in a while! Here's a common question that has looked different to me recently. 2023-12-0630 minunenlightened radioep97: is any thought necessary?Do we need any thinking to survive? Is it possible to exist without thought? Can the mind be completely quiet?
www.bekaelle.com2023-11-2938 minunenlightened radioep96: theseus' shipInvestigating Thomas Hobbes' thought experiment: Theseus' Paradox, and tying it back to the question of "who are you?"
Book mentioned: "30 Second Science of Thought," published by New Burlington
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2023-11-2209 minunenlightened radioep95: two beckys and a bill walk into a podcastWelcome to the first ROUNDTABLE!
This one features Becky Anderson (www.pauseitivecoaching.com) and Bill DeKramer (www.amazinghealtheffortlessly.com)
... we talk about making peace with being human.
www.bekaelle.com2023-11-1558 minunenlightened radioep94: love or attachment?Musings about the ways we confuse love with egoic attachment.
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2023-11-1216 minunenlightened radioep93: my ayahuasca experienceLet's talk about drugs.
In this episode, I talk about my overall experience at an ayahuasca retreat, why I decided to do it in the first place, some of the insights I had, and what psychedelics appear to do for/to the brain.
Things I mention in this episode:
Rythmia (The retreat center I went to. I am not affiliated with them or being compensated for this episode.)
How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan
Fantastic Fungi (a Netflix documentary)
Long-term effects of psychedelics study
www...2023-11-081h 16unenlightened radioep92: making peace with being humanInsights from the workshop I held with Becky Anderson, involving a journal prompt where we wrote out a "job description" for one role that we have in our lives (e.g. your role as a parent, sibling, friend, chess player, marathon runner, Netflix enthusiast, or whatever!).
Join the "MAKING PEACE WITH BEING HUMAN" four-week series, which starts Tuesday Nov 7.
If you want to be a "featured participant" and get the course for free, reach out to me: www.bekaelle.com/contact
Join SOUL HUDDLES!2023-11-0626 minunenlightened radioep91: words aren't itWords are making less and less sense lately. They feel less important. So here's me trying to explain that... using words. (*facepalm*)
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Join SOUL HUDDLES.2023-11-0225 minunenlightened radioep90: no-self not debunked? my reaction to an article...These are my musings about an article entitled "Actually, neuroscience suggests 'the self' is real."
I love the discussion around the self-concept, because... well... the self-concept runs our lives. I'm grateful to the author of this article for furthering the discussion!
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Reach out to me: www.bekaelle.com/contact2023-10-2931 minunenlightened radioep89: why we hate the word "coach" [with becky anderson]My lovely friend Becky and I discuss why we don't like calling ourselves "coaches"...
This episode will, I think, be interesting for everyone. Because we really talk about the heart of what we do... the "fundamentals" if you will... and why we think it's helpful.
Find Becky Anderson at www.pausitivecoaching.com
Fine me at www.bekaelle.com
2023-10-251h 23unenlightened radioep88: "other" peopleHow often do you think about other people? ...
...Whether it's what they're thinking about you, or what made them how they are...
What if you are other people? What if your perception of others is actually made of the same thing as the perception you have of yourself?
We explore this concept multiple ways in this episode.
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join soul huddles here2023-10-0740 minunenlightened radioep87: when dance isn't danceRecent realizations I've had about what dance really is, and the dance industry, and kind of everything else, as I've learned about immersing more into feminine energy and balancing it with the masculine.
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Sign up for "WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?" - course starts Thursday!
I also talk about these teachers, in case you want to look them up:
Dana Alexa
Angelo Dilullo and Violet Synergy
Sarah Jenks
Mishka and Maxie (those are my cats)
The spider that Mishka ate after it crawled on my...2023-09-3047 min
unenlightened radioep86: body acceptance [with kristina bruce]This episode features the lovely & brilliant Kristina Bruce!
Kristina is a body acceptance coach. You can find her at her website, www.kristinabruce.com and also @kristinabrucecoach on Instagram.
Sign up for "WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE," the course! Starts Oct 5th.
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unenlightened radioep85: autofocusWhat if zooming out/losing focus every once in a while feels good for a reason?
And what if we can trust life to pull us back in?
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2023-09-1623 minunenlightened radioep84: "who do you think you are?"... the course! [with alex linares]I'm so excited to have Alex on for another episode.
In this episode, we discuss our upcoming course, centered around inquiring into this simple question, "who do I think I am?" ... which often has answers that reveal the layers of belief that we walk around with.
Our identities and self-concepts are often so deep and unquestioned that they run our lives without us even noticing.
By inquiring into these layers of belief, we can allow limitations to fall away, enabling us to live life in a freer, softer, simpler way.
2023-09-0938 minunenlightened radioep83: there's no "happy"What is happiness? What makes us happy? How is happiness different from other emotions?
When you really dissect it, you might be surprised by what you find.
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Join SOUL HUDDLES!2023-09-0228 minunenlightened radioep82: i'm pooped but my mind says i shouldn't beREST IS PRODUCTIVE. Our minds often don't think so, though. What's with that?!
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Join SOUL HUDDLES here.2023-08-2630 minunenlightened radioep81: there's only discomfortAn insight I had recently about how we're either feeling discomfort of the present, or the discomfort of trying to get out of it.
And what if the reliable presence of that thing we call "discomfort" is ... actually comforting?2023-08-1947 minunenlightened radioep80: you don't need to believe in yourselfIf you think your problem is not believing in yourself enough, maybe just let that one go.
You can do things, successfully, without believing you can. Contrary to the manifesting/self-help manifesto.
Don't let a lack of confidence, or a "low-vibration" feeling, stop you from getting started.
Belief in yourself just makes the process a lot more fun. But it's not a requirement.
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unenlightened radioep79: if you DID know, what would it be?Do you catch yourself saying, "I don't know" when you really do know, but you're afraid of admitting it because you think it sounds immature, unwise, petty, or shameful?
Do you not admit what you want, even to yourself, because you're afraid of the disappointment of not getting it?
We do this a lot. And minds can be sneaky about it.
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unenlightened radioep78: "who do you think you are?" [with alex linares]"Who do you think you are?" is a question that gets thrown around, rhetorically, as an insult.
But when we genuinely ask it, it has the potential to shake our entire foundation, enabling us to experience fluidity and freedom beyond our habitual self-concepts.2023-07-2943 min
unenlightened radioep77: sharing your stuff is scary, but worth it! [with becky anderson]I'm honored to have my friend and colleague, Becky Anderson, on the podcast!
Becky is great at noticing and articulating the nuances of how the mind works and how it can make us feel stuck. This makes her a great coach, because so much freedom comes from just getting that high level view of the little innocent games and computations that our minds are making all the time, in a smart-but-not-wise effort to keep us safe.
She opens up in this episode about what it’s been like to put her work out there, and al...2023-07-2257 min
unenlightened radioep76: i'm not bravePeople sometimes call me brave, but that is NOT how I see it. I'm scared sh*tless most of the time.
I do things while terrified because I like gathering evidence that my mind is a silly little liar.
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All the other things are over at www.bekaelle.com2023-07-1527 minunenlightened radioep75: caffeinated in prague [mini-sode]For this bonus minisode, I'm releasing an unfiltered voice note that I recorded while I was walking in Prague, thinking about a common question.
The question is essentially: do we have control of our thoughts?
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unenlightened radioep74: "shift happens" with dave fryDave Fry has moved past something that people don’t usually move past… an intense, 17-year struggle with major depression, anxiety, and bipolar… lots of diagnoses and medications… until… he stumbled on an understanding of life that completely changed all that. He now helps people through similar struggles. As you’ll see in this interview, Dave is caring, hilarious, and a brilliant coach.
Reach out to Dave at dave.fry.tsb@gmail.com
Find me at www.bekaelle.com2023-07-0754 min
unenlightened radioep73: what's "good?"What does "good enough" mean?
Where's the line? Is there one? If so, who drew it? Was it you?
If you're not putting yourself, or your art, out there, because you're afraid of not being good enough, this episode is for you.
www.bekaelle.com2023-06-3025 min
unenlightened radioep72: action without agenda is more funIn this episode, I talk about my recent insights around dance, which led to more insights about our actions in general. What if we can just do things, because we're doing things, and the meaning that our mind innocently puts behind it is less true than we've been believing?
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unenlightened radioep71: creativity f.a.q.In this episode I discuss four concerns that a lot of people have when they are leaning into their creative urges...
#1: "I should improve my technique before I create my own stuff."
#2: "I don't know what to create."
#3: "I'm just not a creative person."
#4: "I don't have time."
sign up for CREATE CLUB here! (starts June 5)
www.bekaelle.com2023-05-2738 minunenlightened radioep70: wtf is going on?In this episode, we really just zoom the f out.
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www.bekaelle.com2023-05-2031 minunenlightened radioep69: this changes everythingWhat if we could truly see that there is nothing to fear in any feeling? It would change everything. There would be no need to cope using our unwanted habits and addictions. There would be no anxiety. There would be no "stuckness."
When we truly look into our feelings, and see that every single one is safe, and that the story we have in our minds has nothing to do with the feeling itself, everything changes.
www.bekaelle.com2023-05-1350 minunenlightened radioep68: anger! (grrr)Let's talk about anger.
We're conditioned to be afraid of feeling angry. But no harm can come from feeling a feeling. It's the resistance and bottling and "I want this feeling to go away, therefore he/she/'the situation' needs to change" that gets us into ickiness. And even "ickiness" is defined by a mind.
www.bekaelle.com2023-05-0727 minunenlightened radioep67: before you call yourself a "sugar addict"... consider thisI used to think I was hopelessly addicted to sugar.
Here's what changed.
www.bekaelle.com2023-04-3034 minunenlightened radioep66: persistent surrenderMy yoga philosophy teacher mentioned something that he called "persistent serenity" and these were my insights that came from it.
www.bekaelle.com2023-04-1616 minunenlightened radioep65: my beef with CarlI don't actually have beef with Carl Rogers. I just remember a time when the following quote of his really pissed me off:
"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I change."
Now I get the quote. Here's me rambling about what changed, and how.
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UnbrokenComing Home to Ourselves with Beka ElleInnocently, when we are struggling with an overeating or binge eating habit, we can come to believe that peace of mind exists outside ourselves. We can believe that ‘if’ or ‘when’ certain scenarios happen – like, when we stop overeating or binge eating – only then we will feel peaceful and begin to love and…
The post Coming Home to Ourselves with Beka Elle appeared first on Alexandra Amor Books & Courses.2023-03-1635 min
unenlightened radioep64: losing weight won't make you feel "more like yourself"I hear this phrase from people who want to lose weight: "I just don't feel like myself at this weight. I want to feel like myself again."
In this episode, we explore how losing weight can't make you feel more like yourself, because you are not your body. You can't not be yourself. It only feels that way when our mind is busy and judgemental.
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Join the free Soul Huddles community2023-03-0311 minunenlightened radioep63: you don't have to willpower your thoughts awayIf you're stuck trying to will your way into new ways of doing things, or if you're fighting your habit urges or thought patterns, this episode is for you!
Your state of mind changes like the weather changes: completely on its own.
www.bekaelle.com2023-02-2710 minunenlightened radioep62: [life update] I'm taking a break from LA!In this episode, I talk about a recent personal decision to leave Los Angeles temporarily or permanently. I also talk about decisions in general, and why I love trusting where life wants to lead us.
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www.bekaelle.com2023-02-1626 minunenlightened radioep61: the "attractiveness" questionA question I've gotten a lot recently is: "Don't I have to lose weight to be attractive?"
Short answer : nope.
If you're stuck in unsustainable diet hell because you think it's the only way you'll find love, this episode is for you!
www.bekaelle.com2023-02-0118 minunenlightened radioep60: you get to say "no"You get to say "no."
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2022-12-0913 minunenlightened radioep58: only you know what you needThe answers are inside you. You may not know the next steps. You may not trust yourself in every moment. But life is here, moving you forward, turning your head in the right directions for right now.
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Reach out to schedule a session2022-12-0714 minunenlightened radioep57: worry isn't necessary, but don't worry about itI hear a lot of people (and sometimes still myself) stuck in the middle between two conflicting thoughts:
"I wish I didn't worry so much."
...and...
"Worry keeps me safe."
Isn't it interesting how they conflict and yet, to a mind, they both look true.
Here's some insights on how worry isn't actually be helpful, but being worried about the fact that you're worried isn't helpful either. Tips on how to break the worry spiral!
www.bekaelle.com2022-12-0608 minunenlightened radioep56: you don't need other people to believe in youIt's common to feel resentment when other people don't believe in you. But here are some fresh ways of thinking about that!
www.bekaelle.com2022-12-0210 minunenlightened radioep55: being open to whatever comesIt’s not about feeling “good” all the time. It’s about being open to whatever comes.
“If the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world.” -Sydney Banks
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2022-12-0111 minunenlightened radioep54: you can't mess it upWhen it comes to following your heart, you can't mess it up. Not really. Not permanently.
Life isn't separated into before and after a single decision. Many decisions matter. Every moment matters. The before and after picture that the mind paints is overly simplistic.
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Reach out to schedule a session 2022-11-3011 minunenlightened radioep53: there's nothing to "undo"Sometimes after the holiday weekend, especially if we're used to dieting and restricting, it's easy to go into the mindset of, "I need to undo all that stuff I ate/drank..."
Ironically, this period of restriction after an overindulgence is actually just more of the same cycle.
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Reach out to schedule a coaching session!2022-11-2909 minunenlightened radioep52: guilt and shame around food only feed the cycleHappy Thanksgiving!!
If you're beating yourself up around food choices or any numbing behaviors this holiday, this episode is for you.
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Holiday Eating With Ease2022-11-2405 minunenlightened radioep51: desires can be pure funWhat would you want if you knew it were not only possible, but even easier than you thought?
www.bekaelle.com2022-11-2420 minunenlightened radioep50: other people are mirrorsIt's not them, it's you. In the best way.
The "it's not them" part has been hitting hard recently.
Listen to hear how the things we see in others- the criticism, kindness, or the annoying features- are reflections of our own internal state.
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Reach out for a coaching session. 2022-11-2317 minunenlightened radioep49: "stuck" is an illusionWe use the term "stuck" a lot to describe our habits or patterns.
"I feel stuck." Since I work with people around unwanted habits and anxiety, I hear this a lot from new clients.
It's so common, but the way I see it now, it's really a misconception.
See how seeing it as "stuck-ness" actually leads to a feeling of more "stuck-ness."
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Reach out to schedule a coaching session!2022-11-2112 minunenlightened radioep48: wisdom looks like common senseWisdom- the wisdom you can trust to guide you through life- feels like common sense.
It looks like the next little right thing to do.
Catch the Holiday Eating With Ease replay! at www.bekaelle.com/events2022-11-1906 minunenlightened radioep47: the gift of bad habitsIn a way, bad habits are a gift, because they help wake us up to the fact that we aren't feeling aligned with who we really are.
Your habit is showing you that you're up in your thoughts and those thoughts aren't true. It's like a thought lie detector.
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Join me for the Holiday Eating With Ease call tonight at 6pmPST! Message me for the zoom link, or to catch the replay.
2022-11-1713 minunenlightened radioep46: just as you aren't the air you breathe, you aren't the thoughts you thinkWe take our thinking so personally.
It's so understandable that we do. After all, it's often our own voice speaking in our heads. Our thoughts can be quite repetitive, so we get used to having them around.
But they're not us. They're just visitors passing through.
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Have you signed up for our Holiday Eating With Ease call Thurs 11/17 at 6pm PST? Reach out for the Zoom link!2022-11-1718 minunenlightened radioep45: the "just one more" mythWe're all familiar with "just one more."
Just one more slice. One more drink. One more episode. One more Amazon purchase. One more hookup. One more closet to organize. One more day off, then I'll start _____.
"This will be the one that will make me feel better, and then I won't need any more after that."
As if the next moment can possibly be more perfect than this one.
It's so innocent. And so not true.
Here's how to see through it.
2022-11-1611 minunenlightened radioep44: you don't have to clear your mindWhen we catch a glimpse of the infinite peace that is beyond our thinking, the mind says to itself, "Oh, that was nice, I want to be there ALL the time!"
The sweet little mind tries and tries and tries to quiet itself. Deep breaths. Perfect posture. The right technique. But it can't quiet itself... because that's not in its nature. Just like teeth can't chew themselves.
When we truly see that our thoughts are just thoughts- that they hold no inherent truth just because they pass through our head- we get some space. As...2022-11-1417 minunenlightened radioep43: when did self-care become a to-do?I was talking to a client who said, "all of the self-care I have to fit in is exhausting me."
We took a moment to sit with that statement.
When so-called "self-care" has become just another to-do that is stressful to even think about, we have to giggle a little bit at the irony.
Peace comes from subtracting, not adding.
You already are self-care. Peaceful, loving energy is your natural state. You just have a lot of stressful thinking clouding things up, telling you that you'll only feel at peace if...2022-11-1122 minunenlightened radioep42: maxie and the closetA strange little metaphor featuring my strange little cat. Enjoy.
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2022-11-1110 minunenlightened radioep41: resistance to resistance is just more resistanceLife wants to flow through you. Sometimes the stories we get used to believing make things feel stagnant and stuck. This is what I call "resistance."
When we start to realize that pain comes less from life itself and more from our thinking that resists feelings and life in general, the mind picks up on it. It starts a new plan to "not have resistance."
But this is just another thought.
Resisting resistance is just more resistance.
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Reach out to schedule a coaching...2022-11-0922 minunenlightened radioep40: concussions, full moons, and the rabbit hole of "why"When something happens, the mind loves to know why.
It's so understandable, because sometimes knowing why can help us avoid things in the future. But sometimes, especially when related to our emotions and unwanted habits, the "why" can be a bit of rabbit hole. It's helpful to process past memories and see how the brain latches onto stories that no longer serve us. But sometimes we can't even remember the memory that caused it, or it could be multiple memories, or we just don't know. Sometimes it's helpful to just feel rather than seek. The feeling just...2022-11-0815 minunenlightened radioep39: gabi fisherToday we have the wonderful and wise Gabi Fisher! Gabi is a friend and fellow Change Coach. We chat over a range of topics, all with a central theme: innate wisdom lives us through all of life’s circumstances.
Check out her instagram, and her beautiful blog:
practical-wisdom.co
and reach out to her to schedule a coaching session or ask a question: coachgabifisher@gmail.com
We hope you enjoy!
My website: www.bekaelle.com2022-11-071h 01unenlightened radioep38: the willpower mythThe more I live, the more I see that willpower is not an effective tool for lasting change.
I used to think that the reason I couldn’t stop binge eating, or stop bingeing and purging, was because of laziness and a lack of willpower. I would beat myself up incessantly for it. Til I finally discovered an easier way. The story that willpower was the answer, and that I was deficient in it, was actually contributing to my “stuckness” rather than remedying it.
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Reach out to schedu...2022-11-0521 minunenlightened radioep37: there's no magic pill (and that's a good thing)I used to wish there were a magic pill I could take that would make me feel better all the time.
The reason we don't need the magic pill is that we have a built-in detector for when we're straying away from our innate peaceful essence. That detector is our feelings.
But we don't want to feel those feelings. Why? The false stories we attach to them make them scary.
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Reach out for a session.2022-11-0318 minunenlightened radioep36: my storyHello, it's me!
I’ve been sharing a lot of bits and pieces of what I’ve seen through the understanding I coach from, but if you’re new to my world, you can see I don’t often talk about the details of my struggles with eating disorders, depression, and anxiety… I just share the insights of what got me out. I think both can be helpful, and I know I learn from hearing and relating to the experiences of others. Even if my past issues aren’t yours, the moral of the story is, we all have min...2022-11-0241 minunenlightened radioep35: it's ALL thought. no really like- ALL of it.It's ALL thought. Every single thing we see, hear, experience, is processed by our thinking. And what do we know about our thinking? It's like a filtering lens. A funhouse mirror warping mechanism, shaped by our past experiences.
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Reach out to schedule a coaching session! 2022-11-0118 minunenlightened radioep34: relief from regretWhat is regret, and how can we move on?
www.bekaelle.com2022-11-0113 minunenlightened radioep33: life is living youWhat if there's something greater pulling you towards what is best for you? What if you are being lived?
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2022-10-3014 minunenlightened radioep32: jessica silvermanI’m so honored to welcome my friend and fellow Change Coach, Jessica Silverman, to the podcast! Jessica is a wise and kind soul. In addition to her work with the Little School of Big Change and being a Change Coach, she’s a parenting coach, Positive Discipline Parent Educator and early intervention speech pathologist. Join us for a rich conversation about our innate “okay-ness”… how we are safe, and how we can trust life and our innate wisdom.
Check out her Positive Parenting Tribe, and her Facebook group, Parenting with Clarity with Jessica Silverman. Her instagram has some f...2022-10-2854 minunenlightened radioep31: you know how to eatYou know how to eat. You knew when you were a baby. If it feels complicated now, it's because there are some learned thought patterns making it look complicated.
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Reach out if you're stuck. Through the end of 2022, the first session is free.2022-10-2724 minunenlightened radioep30: what if it gets to be fun?Sometimes we're so used to fear that we don't even realize how much we're holding all the time. What would it feel like if everything were just.... lighter? What if it gets to be fun?
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Reach out to schedule a coaching session!2022-10-2720 minunenlightened radioep29: your body isn't holding you backYour body isn't holding you back. Your thoughts about your body are.
We tell ourselves stories about how we can't live the life we want because our body doesn't fit the expectation.
You only want to change your body because you think it will make you feel good. But you can feel good now. And feeling good will help your body adjust to whatever ultimately serves you most.
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Reach out to schedule a session! Til the end of 2022, the first one is free, and subsequent ones can be...2022-10-2522 minunenlightened radioep28: who are you NOT to do this?We're used to saying, "who am I to do this?"
What I want to know is, who are you NOT to do it?
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Reach out if you're feeling stuck! Til the end of 2022: the first session is free, and later sessions can be purchased individually!
2022-10-2415 minunenlightened radioep27: are you in your thoughts or in your body?Are you in your thoughts or in your body?
We tend to numb out in order to avoid feelings. But really what we're avoiding is the story we attach to the feeling.
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If you're feeling stuck, reach out! Until the end of the year, I'm offering the first coaching session free.
Thanks for listening!2022-10-2216 minunenlightened radioep26: amanda, the silicon dancer!Amanda, The Silicon Dancer, is a dancer and engineer. Her fascinating story involves her transition from the ballet world to engineering, and then back into commercial dance. She lives, teaches, and performs in the Seattle area, but visits LA often. She happened to be in town for a project we're working on, and I'm so grateful that she was willing to share her story on the podcast! We talk about dance, engineering, body image, anxiety, and forging your own path.
You can find more information about Amanda on her Instagram, @silicondancer
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2022-10-2255 minunenlightened radioep25: get your hopes upWe hear people say all the time, "I don't wanna get my hopes up."
What's behind that, really? Why do we think "hope" is a bad thing?
This episode is about how you can handle disappointment. And when you live life without fear of disappointment, great stuff happens.
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From now until the end of the year, you can get the first session free, and book individual sessions rather than packages! Reach out for details.
2022-10-2122 minunenlightened radioep24: stop believing your thoughtsYou can change this episode title to "stop believing all of your thoughts" if it feels better that way.
Your thoughts paint your world. But they're also largely picked up from other peoples' fear stories. How do we know what thoughts to believe, when our mind is contradicting itself all the time?
There's another place to look from, which is much more peaceful.
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Disclaimer: I'm not a licensed mental he...2022-10-1924 minunenlightened radioep23: welcome to the holidaysHalloween is approaching, which means we're entering the holiday season!
I love this time of year. But it used to come with a lot of pain when I struggled with food and overthinking. What if the holidays could be free from all of that? What if they could actually be... holidays?!
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Special holiday season offer (Oct 18 thru Jan 3): single-session coaching packages, first one free! Contact me for details at the website link above.
Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist, counselor, or other kind of mental health or...2022-10-1822 minunenlightened radioep22: what is a coach?The word "coach" means different things to different people. Here's how I view my role.
Or, you can let me "show" you, by setting up your free first session!
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2022-10-1711 minunenlightened radioep21: seasons and flowGoing with the flow. Easier said than done sometimes.
This episode is about how nature has seasons and cycles, and you are a part of nature, so it's natural that you will have seasons and cycles too. We can trust rather than force.
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Disclaimer: I'm not a licensed therapist or mental health professional.2022-10-1616 minunenlightened radioep20: "what the heck should I eat?"Ah, the food thing. "What the heck should I eat?" is a question that I asked for a long time when I struggled with excessive restriction, binge eating, and bulimia. Here are the key insights around food choices that helped me come back to my innate health.
Mentioned are Dr. Amy Johnson and Josie Spinardi (two people that helped ease my pain in this area).
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Disclaimer: I'm not a therapist or other type of mental health professional and my advice should not be taken as professional mental...2022-10-1439 minunenlightened radioep19: you are safeYou are so safe. Your true nature can't be tarnished or broken. In this episode, we talk about worry... how it used to rule my life, and how I see it differently now.
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Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist, counselor, psychologist, or other type of licensed mental health professional, and my advice should not be taken as such.2022-09-1831 minunenlightened radioep18: the second bloomAn episode about deeper understanding. Continual evolution and seeing things in new ways.
Mentioned in this episode:
The Little School of Big Change by Dr. Amy Johnson
Dana Alexa & Three Six Zero: instagram.com/three6zero_
My website: www.rebeccagagnon.com
Reach out with questions or to schedule a coaching session! I'd love to hear from you.
DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed medical or mental health professional, and my advice should not be taken as such. I am simply a moron with a unique talent for helping people.
2022-09-1226 minunenlightened radioep17: we're back!It's been a bit since I've put out a podcast. This one's theme is: when you think you've cracked open, just wait, cuz you're about to crack open more. I talk about some things I learned on my recent trip to Costa Rica, how our minds are wrong a lot, and also some insights from a book I read about a donkey sanctuary.
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"Sanctuary: The True Story of an Irish Village, a Man Who Lost His Way, and the Rescue Donkeys That Led Him Home", by Patrick Barrett and Susy Flory, 2022
2022-08-2425 minunenlightened radioep16: get out there and suck!If you're like me, the desire to be great at things adds so much pressure that you're too scared to even try. This episode is about sidestepping perfectionism, and viewing mistakes as a good thing, because they're the only way to get better.
This is the first AudioBlog episode! (AudiBlog? idk... still working out the branding). Bottom line: I decided to start reading my blog posts on my podcast, because sometimes listening is easier than reading. The original blog post can be found here:
https://www.rebeccagagnon.com/blog/get-out-there-and-suck
DISCLAIMER: I am...2022-08-0109 minunenlightened radioep15: strategiesIn this episode, I talk about how I see strategies- tools, programs, hacks, self-help, diets- now, vs how I did before.
Sometimes we employ a strategy in an effort to feel better, but the stressing and perfectionism around it actually does the opposite. When we're in touch with the peace underneath our minds, we're not frantically solving to fix an unworthy self; we're naturally exploratory and curious, moving towards what is good for us.
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