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The Marriage Code PodcastMC 044 : Overcoming HardshipSummary: One of the hosts of the Marriage Code has some life-changing news that boils up tons of emotions. Phillip and Benji tackle the issue head-on in this episode of The Marriage Code.
“Logic and emotion are like oil and water; they don’t mix… it’s like trying to push a rope – good luck with that.” – Phillip Enkey
Links:
Marriage Code Podcast questions – podcast@themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
Send questions to podcast@themarriagecode.org
Life changing news
The Marital effects of financial hardship
Change and transition2021-08-1841 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 043 : Q&A – Relationship InventorySummary: It’s Q&A time at The Marraige Code. Phillip and Benji tackle some of the tough questions about Relationship Inventories.
“The problem is that so many of us have become good at having an average marriage.” – Phillip Enkey
Links:
The Other Guys (2010) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aDJgv1iARPg
Fully Understanding the Tally System – The Marriage Code Episode 4 – https://themarriagecode.heraldsoflife.com/mc-004-fully-understanding-the-tally-system/
Relationship Inventory – The Marriage Code Episode 3 – https://themarriagecode.heraldsoflife.com/mc-005-relationship-inventory/
Marriage Code Podcast questions – podcast@themarriagecode.org
In this episode:2020-10-0845 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 042 : 1 Simple way to work as a teamSummary: What does an M-16 and 2 grenades have to do with washing dishes?
Phillip and Benji actually answer this question along with how to feel connected with your spouse and work as a team.
Links:
Marriage Code Podcast questions – podcast@themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
Introduction…sort of
Benji’s injury
Phillip’s amazing contribution to the armed forces
How you get your spouse to want to help you
The word Phillip can’t seem to say
THE CHALLENGE!!!
Teamwork in a marriage
Ways to feel connected in a team
Games
“If chil...2020-09-1642 min
Unlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 018 : 6 Steps to Turn Desires into GoldSummary: What if I were to tell you that thoughts are things that can literally, when properly utilized, transform into gold? In this episode, Benjamin shares the story of Napoleon Hill and his famous book, Think and Grow Rich, along with the 6 Steps to turn Desires into Gold. “No one was created to be […]
The post UYG 018 : 6 Steps to Turn Desires into Gold appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-07-1700 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 017 : Capturing Unrealized DreamsSummary: Have you ever had a dream that you didn’t take action on? Have you ever wondered what it takes to move forward in taking action? In this episode, Benjamin dissects one the great American story of Sylvester Stallone and his rags-to-riches story. “No one was created to be mediocre.” – Benjamin Boekweg Sylvester Stallone […]
The post UYG 017 : Capturing Unrealized Dreams appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-06-2600 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 041 : Why have this Conversation?Summery: Have you ever known what the other person was going to say and you just didn’t want to hear it, and cut off the conversation short? Or have you ever wanted to talk but the other person doesn’t want to wait for your answer and ends the conversation? Does this happen frequently? Frustrating right? In this Episode, Phillip and Benji dive into the danger of cutting off the conversation and what you can do to fix that – from either side of the experience.
Links:
The Office: S2E22 – Casino Night – https://www.youtube.co...2020-06-2647 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 040 : How it all beganSummary: In this Episode, Phillip and Benji celebrate the 40th episode of the podcast by talking about how The Marriage Code began, and by talking about where it is going. Also an announcement where Phillip and Benji will be speaking on June 30th.
Links:
Hope Cast – https://www.facebook.com/watch/KentsteadMedia/
Zig Ziglar – Courtship after Marriage – https://www.ziglar.com/product/courtship-after-marriage
Marriage Code Podcast questions – podcast@themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
Celebration of Episode #40
The Announcement
How The Marriage Code all began
You don’...2020-06-1543 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 016 : How to Doubt your DoubtsSummary: Do you have great ideas but never feel qualified to do it? In this episode, Benjamin explains why we have a tendency to discount our own abilities and doubt our qualification to achieve our great ideas, while drawing upon the wisdom of John Maxwell, John D. Rockefeller, Robert Collier, Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, Michael […]
The post UYG 016 : How to Doubt your Doubts appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-06-0100 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 015 : What Else Could be TrueSummary: I got a call from the doctor…now I get to practice what I preach! Benjamin recounts how an evening with alarming news started down the road of pessimism and resentment, and just what he did to take control of his thoughts and emotions. Questions: podcast@heraldsoflife.com In this episode: A Surprise call from the Doctor […]
The post UYG 015 : What Else Could be True appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-05-2400 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 039 : 4 Easy Ways to ConnectSummary: Spouse not feeling “connected with you”? In this episode, Phillip and Benji discuss four major ways to emotionally connect with your spouse. And describe easy ways to implement them.
Links:
Night at the Museum 2; guard scene – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EDI-sDCzGZY&t=3s
Marriage Code Podcast – How to Get Spouse Certified – https://themarriagecode.heraldsoflife.com/mc-010-how-to-get-spouse-certified/
In this episode:
Deeper into conversation
4 Ways to Emotionally Connect
1 – Talk to your spouse on purpose with purpose
2 – Fight for your spouse and their dreams
3 – Be on the “same...2020-05-2444 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 038: 3 Biggest Mistakes Couples Make in CommunicatingSummary: What are the biggest three mistakes couples make in talking to each other? In this episode, Phillip Enkey is back from serving his country and is ready to dive right back into discussing marriage and relationships. Phillip and Benji discuss the three biggest mistakes couples make and give examples.
Links:
The Office: S2 E22: Casino Night – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_hhYeMZdiIc
Click – Adam Sandler – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ayG_t8nGuiU
The Male Brain – Louann Brizendine M.D. – https://www.amazon.com/Male-Brain-Breakthrough-Understanding-Think/dp/B003DQVEHG/ref=sr_1_1...2020-05-1450 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 014 : The Problem isn’t the ProblemSummary: The problem isn’t the problem. We all think problems are a sign that something is wrong with us or with what we are trying to do. The answer is actually quite surprising. Benjamin dives into our perspective on what a problem really is and why some people get paralyzed by problems while others seem […]
The post UYG 014 : The Problem isn’t the Problem appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-05-1200 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 013 : Is there an Equation for SuccessSummary: Is there an actual equation for success? Can you simply say this plus this plus this equals success? Benjamin tackles this question while drawing on the wisdom of several successful people and what they attribute their success to, including Arnold Schwarzenegger. Questions: podcast@heraldsoflife.comArnold Schwarzenegger – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7TEc_qyKQ0c In this episode: What is a success equation […]
The post UYG 013 : Is there an Equation for Success appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-05-0600 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 012 : What every Successful Person has in CommonSummary: If I were to tell you that there is something every successfull person has in common, would you want to know what it is? In this episode Benjamin dives into the fundamentals of an AM and PM routine along with the 7 benefits and 3 cautions associated. Questions: podcast@heraldsoflife.com In this episode: What every […]
The post UYG 012 : What every Successful Person has in Common appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-04-2800 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 011 : How to BelieveSummary: How do you beleive in yourself? How do you believe in what you can do? In this episode, Benjamin draws on the wisdom of others to answer this question and goes beyond. Questions: podcast@heraldsoflife.com In this episode: Belief Imagination Make-Believe Our Creative Ability Arnold Schwarzenegger quote The way our brain comprehends What was once […]
The post UYG 011 : How to Believe appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-04-1400 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 010 : How to Stay CalmSummary: How do we stay calm? With all the panic going on with the COVID-19 outbreak, and the social distancing, and store shelves being raided bare, how does one handle the torrential rainfall of emotion involved? Benjamin dives right in, in this episode. Questions: podcast@heraldsoflife.com Coronavirus COVID-19 in the US: https://www.worldometers.info/coronavirus/ In this episode: Coronavirus […]
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Unlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 009 : Unblocking EmotionSummary: How do you get emotionally connected to your goals and dreams? Follow Benjamin as he describes his recent journey to find and remove the emotional blockage that was preventing him from making emotional connections. Questions: podcast@heraldsoflife.com In this episode: Creating stories The emotional impact of stories Storytelling When during sleep your brain draws meaning […]
The post UYG 009 : Unblocking Emotion appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-03-1300 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 008 : Change and TransitionSummary: How do you handle change and transition? How can you get over a major or minor change in your life. Benjamin dives into the psychology of what we hold on to, why we hold onto it, and what steps you can take to successfully move through any change in your life. Questions: podcast@heraldsoflife.com Ecclesiastes […]
The post UYG 008 : Change and Transition appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-03-0500 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 007 : How to Let Go of Negative EmotionSummary: How does one control their emotions? How is it possible to do that? In this episode, Benjamin goes into detail on the necessity of being responsible with how we unload our negative emotions and provides 6 cool ideas to unload in a healthy and responsible manner. Let-Go Technique – Rock Throw – https://www.facebook.com/benjamin.boekweg/videos/10156033002171841/ In […]
The post UYG 007 : How to Let Go of Negative Emotion appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-03-0200 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 006 : What Stops us from Setting GoalsHomeless desire to help – https://youtu.be/xZhzE60s9e8 In this episode: The Desire to Become More S.M.A.R.T. Specific Measurable Actionable Realistic Time-bound Why we chicken-out on setting Goals Action Steps Self Sabotage and Avoidance Common Pitfalls 1- Perpetual Preparation 2- Steps are too big 3- Burn-out The “Garage” Example DO 1- Ask your self if this is […]
The post UYG 006 : What Stops us from Setting Goals appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-02-2400 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 005 : Vision BoardsSummary: What is a Vision Board, how do you make one, and why do I need it? Benjamin Boekweg explains in detail what a vision board is and why it helps the brain focus, what the complication are, and what can stop you. Arnold Schwartzenegger – https://youtu.be/h0ABOGyELN0 Dale Carnegie – How to Win Friends and […]
The post UYG 005 : Vision Boards appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-02-1900 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 004 : Why Self Improvement is hard to keep goingSummary: Why is it so hard to create a good habit? What has science discovered to help us in understanding how to create the good habits and break the bad ones? Join your host Benjamin Boekweg as he explains the how the subconscious mind creates and uses habits. Arnold Schwartzenegger – https://youtu.be/lR_9uj5maUs In this episode: […]
The post UYG 004 : Why Self Improvement is hard to keep going appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-02-0500 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 003 : What is Visualization?Summary: So what is Visualization? From great achievers comes the prospect of visualizing or imagining what you want and having that become a reality. From Arnold Schwarzenegger to Jim Carry, to Kirk Duncan, to Will Smith, and the list goes on – all have talked about having a vision of a goal that motivates you. […]
The post UYG 003 : What is Visualization? appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-02-0100 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 002 : Declarations: “I tried that and it didn’t work”Summary: Welcome to the the first episode of Unlock Your Genius, where personal development is made simple and understandable. Benjamin Boekweg is a Presenter, Mentor, Author and Host of this Podcast who will take you on a journey of discovery about your remarkable mind; how your brain works and how you can better work your […]
The post UYG 002 : Declarations: “I tried that and it didn’t work” appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-01-3100 minUnlock Your Genius: Personal Development made simple and understandableUYG 001 : Why Some People Get AheadSummary: Welcome to the the first episode of Unlock Your Genius, where personal development is made simple and understandable. Benjamin Boekweg is a Presenter, Mentor, Author and Host of this Podcast who will take you on a journey of discovery about your remarkable mind; how your brain works and how you can better work your […]
The post UYG 001 : Why Some People Get Ahead appeared first on Heralds of Life.2020-01-3100 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 037: 30 Days – Part 2MC 031: What’s in your Playbook?
Summary: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Benji and Phillip continue the conversation of “What if you had only 30-days to save your marriage?” and finish explaining their 30-day plans.
In this episode:
Benji’s 30-Day Plan
Week 1: re-Discovery
Day 1: Get a notebook and a yellow pad (yellow notepad that tears off across the top)
Day 2-3: Get my head straight
I will think about (to the best of my memory) and write down in the notebook the following:
When I met my wife...2019-08-3154 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 036: 30 Days – Part 1Summary: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, what if you had 30 days to save your marriage? What would you do? Phillip Enkey and Benji Boekweg dive right in and explore how to save their marriages in 30 days.
Links:
Aladdin – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OczOUJw1Z7k&t=15s
John Gottman – https://www.gottman.com/about/john-julie-gottman/
In this episode:
Another announcement!
Big News about The Marriage Code Podcast!
5 Pillars
Mirroring
Active Listening
Tally System
Emotion Management Techniques
Relationship Inventory
What if you had 30 days to save your...2019-08-2837 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 035: Insights Gained from ChildbirthsMC 035: Insights Gained from Childbirths
Summary: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Someone has an announcement! Also Phillip and Benji discuss the personal insights they have gained while going through the childbirth process with their wives, and how it relates to the human mind and the current paradigm.
“This was one of the most sacred moments in our marriage, one of the most special experiences that Dani and I have had; bringing a little child into this world.” — Phillip Enkey
Links:
Once Upon a Forest – https://www.imdb.com/title/tt...2019-08-1944 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 034: THE LOST EPISODE – ExpectationsSummary: Once thought to be lost forever, this found and remastered episode takes a dive into the root cause of unmet expectations. Expectations – Are you shooting at a moving target? Phillip and Benji share examples and laughs as they draw out a 4-step system to alleviate day-to-day tensions that we all naturally assume are “common sense” to our spouse.
“Tension arises when we are silently pursuing our own assumptions.” – Phillip Enkey
Links:
Austin Powers massage – https://youtu.be/gxTnttLjHiE?t=42
Notebook (parody) – https://youtu.be/IJqocn5KoKk
The Incredibles – https://www.youtube...2019-07-3047 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 033: The Journey Begins, Part 2 – Return and ReportSummary: The journey continues as Benji incorporates a new style of parenting that revolves around teaching children to govern themselves. Now back to report on his progress so far of implementing a family government, the hiccups, and reason why. Time to explore the answers. It may be simpler (and crazier) than you would have thought.
“It was a failure…except I had two wins in it!” – Benjamin Boekweg
“Done is better than perfect.” – Benjamin Boekweg
Links:
A House United by Nicholeen Peck – https://www.amazon.com/House-United-Childrens-Behaviors-Government/dp/1492161578/ref=sr_1_1?hvadid=241913561653&hvdev=c&hvlocphy...2019-07-1838 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 032: The Journey Begins, Part 1 – I was wrongSummary: The journey begins as Benji incorporates a new style of parenting that revolves around teaching children to govern themselves. He refers to the book he is implementing and give a progress report on what he has accomplished so far and also what he hopes to achieve, along with some important insights he received while observing his daughter.
“What we think about most often, we will create.” – Benjamin Boekweg
“Done is better than perfect.” – Benjamin Boekweg
Links:
A House United by Nicholeen Peck – https://www.amazon.com/House-United-Childrens-Behaviors-Government/dp/1492161578/ref=sr_1_1?hvadid=24191356...2019-04-2946 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 031: What’s in your Playbook?Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, from touchdowns to clean kitchens and beyond, Phillip and Benji discuss the importance of your Marriage Playbook. What rules or guidelines have you and your spouse pre-agreed on for when the situation arises, you both will know how to respond?
Links:
Remember who you are – Disney’s The Lion King – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yGQnGQzlAmA
Marriage Code Podcast – episode # 10, How to get Spouse Certified – https://themarriagecode.heraldsoflife.com/mc-010-how-to-get-spouse-certified/
In this episode:
Football plays
Marital Playbook
If this situation...2019-02-1944 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 030: Seeing Our Little HumansSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Benji is joined by his wife, Ann Boekweg, and discuss two interesting questions of “Can the child claim the parent is disobeying them?” and “Can simple words of love actually change a child’s behavior in the moment?”.
Links:
http://themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
Children’s response to structure
Family rules
Emotions of children
Little cups
2019-02-0646 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 029: Marriage Calibration
Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji discuss the importance of “calibration” in a marriage, as well as emotional connection in the phases of marriage.
Links:Metronome Synchronization – https://youtu.be/W1TMZASCR-I
In this episode:
Calibration Techniques:Sway – sway back and forth for a few minutes while listening to a song with words that are meaningful. Kiss at the end.Best effect when looking into each others eyes and no talking.Hand Massage 3 minutes per handonly do what what your spou...2019-01-1547 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 028: Marriage Phases and Sarcasm
Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Benji returns from a 3 day marriage seminar with all the latest tips, tricks, and insights into how to make marriages work better, stronger, and longer.
Links:Metronome Synchronization – https://youtu.be/W1TMZASCR-I
In this episode:
Marriage Phases5 – Thrive in Abundance4 – Calibrate3 – Challenge2 – Connection1 – Bliss
The dangers of sarcasm
2018-12-2740 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 027: Hurt FeelingsSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Benji Dives into the four steps to begin the journey of implementing the Marriage Code principals into your marriage. Discussing the four simple procedures than anyone can do to start upgrading your outlook and start actively mirroring.
“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” – Zig Ziglar
Links:
Hoodwinked – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zVw5a4OjcIE
The Office – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qfnbZOReFYs&t=148s
Gary Thomas reads bad ma...2018-11-2242 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 026: How to Start NowSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Benji Dives into the four steps to begin the journey of implementing the Marriage Code principals into your marriage. Discussing the four simple procedures than anyone can do to start upgrading your outlook and start actively mirroring.
“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” – Zig Ziglar
Links:
Gratitude (with references) – https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201504/7-scientifically-proven-benefits-gratitude
The Strangest Secret – Earl Nightingale – https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_c_1_19?url=sea...2018-11-1351 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 025: Preparing for a Relationship InventorySummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji spend more time fleshing out how to prepare for a Relationship Inventory and share some of the do’s and dont’s they discovered, while also addressing the question of how to best initiate a Relationship Inventory with your spouse even if they are not yet receptive to idea.
Links:
themarriagecode.heraldsoflife.com
Dumb and Dumber – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ppSUnOB4DZw
In this episode:
Hesitations
How to start
Start Small
When to address issues
How to not...2018-11-0248 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 024: Empty Your CupSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Benji shares some of his personal experiences and some of his flaws as he discusses one of the key ingredients in alleviating the emotional tension in the home.
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
What if I am doing all the steps and still not getting a peaceful home?
What is the better question?
Definition of “working”
Emotional release techniques
Write & Burn
Talk to a tree/field
Sing
Sleep
Finishing the conversation
Some final thoughts
2018-10-1546 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 023: A Woman’s Perspective – Part 2Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji continue their exploration into the woman’s perspective from the eyes of their spouses. Today’s podcast features the interview with Phillip’s wife Dani.
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
Exclusive interview with Dani Enkey and her side of the story of how she met Phillip and what her perspective is on their marriage and what they have done to foster the relationship they now have.
2018-09-2549 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 022: A Woman’s Perspective – Part 1Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji dive into the female perspective of how applying Marriage Code principles has affected their marriage. In this part, Phillip and Benji interview Benji’s amazing wife Ann.
“Frustration is caused by a lack of knowing they understand” – Benji Boekweg
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
How Benji and Ann met
What took Benji so long
Active Listening in action
Important roles within Marriage
Ann’s love language
2018-09-0651 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 021: Learning Love LanguagesSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji learn what their love languages are and discuss how this knowledge can improve marriage and family relationships. Phillip and Benji take the 5 Love Languages quiz on the air to find out their love languages.
“The most heartfelt communication is their own love language” – Benji Boekweg
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
A Day with Dani – http://picgrace.com/a.day.with.dani
Brian Regan – Epitome of Hyperbole – https://www.amazon.com/Brian-Regan-Epitome-Hyperbole/dp/B001AXU1FK
5 Love Languages –...2018-08-2847 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 020: Chinks in our Marital ArmorSummery:In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji revisit the tally system in relation to finances and how to shield your marriage from the number one cause of divorce.
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
Dumb and Dumber (1994) – https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0109686/
The Office: I declare BANKRUPTCY! – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C-m3RtoguAQ
In this episode:
Financial Tallies
Ownership vs. Assignment
Chinks in Armor
The language we use
Yours vs. Mine
Relationship Inventory
Preparation
We, Our, Us
Non-accusing language; as “noticed”, not “you did …”
...2018-08-2146 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 019: Heir to my ThroneSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip? and Benji discuss a new child-parent relationship discussed by David Kaslowski’s in his podcast Light the Fight.
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
http://elevatepodcasting.com/light_the_fight/ #016- “The Oldest Child Relationship”
In this episode:
Is there a Phillip in the house?
What is the “Oldest Child” relationship?
Enemies and Friends
Why the oldest child cannot seem to progress
How to fix it
2018-08-0945 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 018: Am I a Creator?Summery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji ask the question: What is realistic?, and explore the meaning of being a creator. Complete with sound bytes of Arnold Schwarzenegger, Jim Carrey, and Will Smith speaking on this topic.
“Other People and cultural precedent is not going to tell me what kind of marriage I’m going to have.” – Phillip Enkey
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
Trout farm in Payson – http://springlaketrout.net/About_Us.php
Tucanos – https://www.tucanos.com/
Colonial Days, the Freedom Festival – h...2018-07-231h 05The Marriage Code PodcastMC 017: Acquiring LeadershipSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji dive deeper into what makes a good leader, and how just what they do that makes people want to follow them.
“We love him, because he first loved us.” – 1 John 4:19
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
How do we gain Influence
The levels of leadership
How leaders build influence
Achieving the highest level of leadership
2018-07-1445 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 016: What I heard vs What they meantSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji revisit the skill of Active Listening as they explore the answer to the question: How I get someone to understand what I’m trying to say?
“How can we assume that what we heard is what they meant, when so often it’s not?” – Benji Boekweg
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
Coco – Remember me – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3iDxU9eNQ_0
Dude, Where’s My Car – Tatoo scene – https://youtu.be/BMuGjeoS3qI
https://www.franklincovey.com/2018-06-2443 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 015: Influence vs. ControlSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji discuss the difference between Influence and Control as they revisit the Mirroring principle and expound on it’s use. They use examples from their own lives and from popular culture.
“We can create the outcome we want, based on what we choose to do.” – Benjamin Boekweg
“We mirror, that’s what we do.” – Phillip Enkey
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
Mighty Ducks – Soft Hands https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymeVW9dwz7k
Night at the Museum Smithsonian...2018-06-1349 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 014: Solving #1 Cause of DivorceSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji dive into the leading cause of divorce: finances. They pick apart the discussion to more effective practices that lead to a happy and healthy, financially functional, marriage.
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University: https://www.daveramsey.com/fpu#in-progress=1
Brian Reagan’s Art skit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-NpLjKVvY28
In this episode:
#1 Cause of divorce
Unified finances
Who’s money is it?
Money Plan: budget
Open communication about the money
Active...2018-05-2540 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 013: Parenting Holy GrailSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Benji goes into detail sharing some of the techniques and tips about parenting children that he had to pay a pretty penny to obtain, which has revolutionized the way he views raising children. “The biggest thing I had to change to fix my kids, was me.” – Benji
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
http://www.dunstanbaby.com
https://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com
In this episode:
The Holy Grail of parenting
Special Time
Calm voice
Make the rule the boss, not you
Rutine
Checkli2018-05-1541 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 012: The Role of MenSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji discuss one of the more controversial topics in marriage: the roles of men and women. They delve deeply into what it means to be a leader in the home as well and identify the do’s and don’t’s of leadership. “If I was meant to call all the shots, I would have been born with twice the brain.” – Benji Boekweg
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
https://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng&old=true
https://www.lds.org/scriptures...2018-04-3040 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 011: ReflectionsSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji continue the discussion from last episode on how to invest in your spouse the way we invest in our hobbies and sports, plus there is an exciting announcement from the Boekweg family! In this classic follow-up episode they outline different ways to learn to love investing in your marriage. “How do you love something you need to be good at?” — Benji Boekweg
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0160862/
In this episode:
Exciting announcement from the Boe...2018-04-2043 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 010: How to Get Spouse CertifiedSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji discuss the question, “What could happen if we spent as much time studying our spouse as we spend studying our favorite sports team?” They outline a “plethora” of everyday thing anyone can do to strengthen your connection to your spouse and liven up your marriage. “Are you investing in your marriage like you are investing in your education, your career, your sports team, and your hobbies?” — Phillip Enkey
Links:
www.themarriagecode.org
A Plethora – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQKbbFeaWJM
In this episo...2018-03-2248 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 009: Emotional ReleaseSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji discuss why some conversations that you use Active Listening on do not completely fixing the problem, and how to correct it.
Links: www.themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
Emotions in conversation
Stored emotions
Emotional release
Viewing the bigger picture
2018-02-1347 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 008: The Marriage ParadigmSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, Phillip and Benji share their marital background and what their marriages look like, the concept of a paradigm shift is explained, a Great Marriage is defined, and the challenge to Walk on Water.
Links: www.themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
Definition of a Great Marriage
What Phillip and Benji’s marriages look like
Paradigm Shift
Walking on Water
2018-01-3139 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 007: Child FactorSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, we dive a little deeper into the dynamic of children in a marriage. With special guest speaker Maria Christensen who is a fellow podcast host and mother of six (ranging from 4 years old to 20 years old), we discuss some of the modern tips and tricks with raising children in a modern world.
Links: www.themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
Children and Discipline
Parental Superpowers
Differences in Nutrition
Are children property or people
2018-01-3032 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 006: Child or PawnSummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, We dive deep into the area of kids in a marriage. Kids change everything; from diapers and homework to mischief and another mouth to feed. They can also unwittingly become the center of a parental power struggle over authority. We’ll discuss the dangers and how to overcome them.
Links: www.themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
The dynamic children play in marriage
The dangers of “Well daddy said I could…”
The power of Executive Council
Always have each other’s back
2018-01-0434 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 005: Relationship InventorySummery: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, we explain the tool that is the culmination of the several principles discussed thus far. All the pieces will come together (Mirroring, Active Listening, Tally System, etc.) into the one tool that empowers you take stalk of your relationship and encourage positive change.
Links: www.themarriagecode.org
In this episode:
Relationship Inventory
What does it look like?
How do we use it?
2018-01-0448 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 004: Fully Understanding the Tally SystemSummary: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, we fully describe the Tally System, how we are all doing whether we know it or not, the proper role of appreciation and the five different styles of apology and what they mean.
Links: www.themarriagecode.org
Magic Coffee Table – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_kXIGvB1uU
In this episode:
The concept of the Tally System and how we are all doing it
How to gain your spouse’s trust
The languages of apology
2017-12-2653 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 003: The Power of Active ListeningSummary: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, we examine the skill of Active Listening through real-life examples and list out the steps to make it work for you.
Links: www.themarriagecode.org
In This Episode:
The levels of conflict
The steps for Active Listening
Real examples of conflict resolution using Active Listening
2017-12-2358 minThe Marriage Code PodcastMC 002: Mirroring – Victim or CommanderSummary: In this episode of the Marriage Code podcast, we explore the concept of Mirroring and how to use it to command the outcome of any conversation and much much more.
Links: www.themarriagecode.org
In This Episode:
We define the concept of Mirroring
We explain the definition of a “fight” in a relationship
The different methods of retaliation are laid out with each of their warning signs
2017-12-221h 06The Marriage Code PodcastMC 001: Marriage is like SpaghettiSummary: Introducing the Marriage Code Podcast, with Benjamin Boekweg and Phillip Enkey who share their experiences and just why they say marriage is like spaghetti.
Links: www.themarriagecode.org
In This Episode:
Why marriage is like a spaghetti recipe
In a nutshell, what the recipe is
What to expect on the next episodes
2017-12-2217 min