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Wild Women in PhotographyEpisode 36: The Introvert’s Eye with Beth BuelowEpisode 36:
The Introvert’s Eye with Beth Buelow
In Episode 36, Brie sits down with coach, writer, and abstract architecture photographer Beth Buelow for a heartfelt and honest conversation about introversion, creative intuition, and how photography becomes a bridge—whether it’s to people, to self, or to the world around us.
From solo train rides to the streets of Chicago, to Death Valley workshops that challenge identity, Beth shares how her photography practice is both an artistic outlet and a path toward deeper connection. They explore the ways creative vision evolves, the imp...2025-03-2156 min
Negotiate AnythingHarnessing Introvert Power in Negotiations with Beth BuelowRequest A Customized Workshop For Your CompanyStruggling to negotiate as an introvert? Today you'll discover the pros and cons of negotiating as an introvert and how extroverts can improve their interactions with their introverted colleagues with Beth Buelow, host of the Introvert Entrepreneur.Beth's WebsiteFollow Beth on LinkedInContact ANIRequest A Customized Workshop For Your CompanyFollow Kwame Christian on LinkedInThe Ultimate Negotiation GuideCl...2024-12-2844 min
Landscape Photography WorldEp 173 - Beth Buelow: Heart & Art in Landscape PhotographyBeth Buelow, a passionate landscape and abstract photographer from Michigan, is my guest this week to discuss her philosophy behind her art, business and podcasts.
Beth Buelow has established herself as The Introvert Entrepreneur to a growing tribe of thousands of followers and fans. A professional speaker and certified coach, Beth has coached dozens of introverted clients, trained hundreds, and spoken to thousands, championing introvert strengths and establishing her expertise in entrepreneurship, communication, and leadership. Her extremely popular podcast, "The Introvert Entrepreneur," features interviews with well-known and emerging Introvert Entrepreneurs. Since its launch in August 2010, the 50+ podcast e...2024-11-191h 32
PixelsPracticing Mindfulness to Elevate Your Photography with Beth YoungMindfulness might be something of a buzzword, but when it comes to our photography, it’s worth the effort to make it a practice, and my guest today gives us some useful tips on how to do that. In this episode, I’m speaking with photographer Beth Young. As you might expect when you get two Beths together, we had a great time, talking about embracing slow photography, finding order in chaos, how constraints help us expand our creativity, and making sure social media isn’t the boss of us.Mentioned in this episode:Embrac...2024-10-081h 11
F-Stop Collaborate and Listen369: Beth Buelow - Beyond the Label: Exploring Creative Identity in PhotographyIn this week's episode featuring Beth Buelow, the conversation explores the profound impact of labels on a photographer's creative journey. They discuss the dual nature of labels—how they can serve as useful cognitive shortcuts and create a sense of identity and confidence for photographers, but can also limit creative exploration and growth. By sharing personal experiences and examining the tension between embracing and resisting labels in the face of evolving technology like AI, Matt Payne and Beth Buelow encourage photographers to embrace challenges, adaptability, and failure as tools for creativity. The episode culminates with the introduction of Beth's pl...2024-05-131h 19
PixelsCultivating Creative Curiosity & Releasing Control with Colleen MiniukJoin us on an enlightening journey with Colleen Miniuk as she redefines success and discovers fulfillment beyond societal norms. Colleen shares her transformation from an overachiever to an advocate for living authentically, emphasizing the importance of experiences over achievements.Delve into Colleen's profound connection with water and how it sparked her passion for photography. Her story serves as a poignant reminder to embrace uncertainty and find meaning in life's unexpected moments.Explore Colleen's insights on connecting with nature, conceptual blending in photography, and the power of personal connection in creative expression. Learn valuable...2024-04-271h 19
PixelsFrom Entrepreneur to Full-Time Photographer with Nic StoverBeth Buelow of the Pixels Podcast is joined by Nic Stover in a discussion of the evolution of an artist and the difference between being a photographer and an artist. They explore two pivotal moments in Nic's artistic exploration: his visit to Santorini, Greece, and his experience at Horseshoe Bend. The conversation emphasizes the importance of authenticity in photography and the value of being present in the natural environment.Nic also talks about his transition to full-time photography and what he's learned about capturing meaningful images. He reflects on the impact of social media on creativity...2024-04-2158 minNegotiate AnythingHarnessing Introvert Power in Negotiations with Beth BuelowStruggling to negotiate as an introvert? Today you'll discover the pros and cons of negotiating as an introvert and how extroverts can improve their interactions with their introverted colleagues with Beth Buelow, host of the Introvert Entrepreneur.Beth's Website https://bethbuelow.com/Follow Beth on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/bethbuelow/Contact ANIRequest A Customized Workshop For Your Company: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/services/workshops/Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in...2024-03-0843 minNegotiate AnythingHow to Recognize Your Biases and Strengthen Relationships with Beth Buelow, PCCRequest a Custom Workshop For Your CompanyIn this episode, Beth Buelow, Certified Mentor Coach, President of ICF Michigan, discusses the myth of one-on-one negotiations.Get Free Access to Over 15 Negotiation GuidesBeth's WebsiteFollow Beth on LinkedInFollow Kwame on LinkedInClick here to buy your copy of How To Have Difficult Conversations About Race!Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict...2023-01-0536 min
How Can I Say This...Claiming Space with Eliza VanCortAs the vintage advertising for Virginia Slims cigarettes told women, you’ve come a long way, baby. Women have carved out a bigger seat at the table over the past 70 years. But we still have challenges when it comes to our voices being heard.Our question this episode: How can women claim their space through confident communication that also builds relationship? My guest is Eliza VanCort, author of “A Woman's Guide to Claiming Space: Stand Tall. Raise Your Voice. Be Heard.” This is an episode for women AND men who want to support the wo...2021-05-1443 min
How Can I Say This...Pausing and People Pleasing with Alan HeymannThere are lots of things that get in the way of our ability to successfully handle conflict. They often have to do with a limiting mindset, a leaning towards people pleasing, misidentifying the root cause of the conflict, or not creating a safe environment for feedback or different opinions. The good news is that there’s a lot we can personally do to remove those barriers. Our question this episode: What are some simple but powerful ways we can set ourselves up for better success when we get into conflict?My guest is Al...2021-04-3031 min
How Can I Say This...The Language of DEI with Arlene KothWhether we’re aware of it or not, the past year has introduced most everyone to a new language. Words that we used in one context, such as equality, equity, diversity, belonging, and systems, are now taking on new meaning and are being used in new contexts. It’s not always easy to keep up, but for the sake of courageous conversations, it’s important we try. Our question this episode: how do we talk respectfully and directly about matters of race and privilege when we’re still learning the vocabulary?My guest today is Arlene Koth, Fo...2021-04-1636 min
The Remote Pathways PodcastEP34: How Can I Say This...In The Remote Space | Guest: Beth BuelowIn this episode of Remote Pathways podcast we welcome our guest, Beth Buelow, to explore the various communication challenges we may encounter in our remote experience. Beth is a Professional Certified Coach, author, speaker, mediator, and facilitator with more than a decade of coaching and consulting experience. Prior to starting her own business, she was a nonprofit professional, with roles ranging from fundraising to marketing to grant-making.In this episode we explore:Beth’s remote working storyThe unspoken rules of virtual conversationsNew creative ways we are expressing ourselvesHybrid work connectionsVisible doesn’t equal availableGreat zoom...2021-04-0727 min
How Can I Say This...How to Talk to Strangers (Listener Question)We spend a lot of time thinking about how to have conversations with people we care about. After all, these are the relationships that have the biggest influence in our lives. But what if we spent as much time thinking about the conversations we have with strangers? Could there be new experiences we’re missing out on that would enrich our lives? Our question this episode: how do you start a conversation with a stranger that might serve as a lead-in to friendship?If you enjoy this episode, please share with friends, family an...2021-03-2716 min
How Can I Say This...How are you? as a gateway to connectionIt’s a reflexive question most of us ask when we start a conversation, and it’s one of the easiest and most challenging questions to answer: how are you? Every time it comes up, I find myself hesitating just a little. This is especially true in the past year, when it feels like an extremely loaded question. Our question this episode: how far do you go when you answer, “how are you?”Hosted by Beth L. Buelow. Full episode transcript is available at howcanisaythis.com. Your reviews, ratings, and shares are welcome! If you h...2021-02-2215 min
How Can I Say This...Acknowledging the Good in the BadHow can I say this? When you have a day like January 6, 2021 in the United States, it’s hard to know what to say. It left many of us speechless, then enraged, mortified, and confused. When societal norms are violated in such a violent manner, words often escape us. And then we become unable to see the people we feel have violated us as our fellow human beings. We also can refuse to acknowledge those who do the right thing after long doing what we’ve felt is the wrong thing. Our question this episode: how can...2021-01-0912 min
How Can I Say This...Talking about Race at Work with Kwame ChristianAwkward, emotional, uncomfortable. This is how many of us feel when we try to talk about race. But we need to know how to have these conversations if we’re going to make progress toward a more equitable and high-functioning society. Negotiation expert Kwame Christian joins me to give us some starting points on how to talk about race, particularly in a work environment. This episode is also available on YouTube! Listen AND watch the conversation here: https://youtu.be/1ewGfsSCpVA Kwame Christian: http://americannegotiationinstitute.com Podcast: http://howcanisaythis.com ...2020-08-2832 minHow Can I Say This...Using Reflective Inquiry for Better Conversations with Marcia ReynoldsA coaching client recently reminded me of a truth that’s easy to forget: if you want to have a great conversation with someone, focus on trying to be interested, rather than interesting. And how do we demonstrate interest? We ask questions. But there’s more to it than that, and not all questions are created equal. Our question this episode: how can we use curiosity to make more meaningful connections with others? My guest is Marcia Reynolds, PhD, MCC. Her newest book is "Coach the Person, Not the Problem: A Guide to Using Reflective Inquiry." Your...2020-06-0432 minHow Can I Say This...Couples Communication in Quarantine with Marianne van DijkAs life in the pandemic continues, our capacity for empathy and connection can come and go. Sometimes it’s easy to be present for our loved ones, and other times, we need space and just to be left alone. Asking for what we need and having boundaries can be challenging enough during non-stressful times, but add a pandemic and all that comes with it into the mix? Things get more complicated.Our question this episode: how can we take care of ourselves and our relationships during a time of uncertainty and stress?My gu...2020-05-2237 minHow Can I Say This...Creating a Communication-Friendly Space with Rebecca WestWe all know that our physical surroundings influence our mood and ability to focus. But do we fully appreciate how much they affect our communication? How a room is arranged, what’s in the space, and how welcoming it is all contribute – or detract – from being able to have productive conversations. Our question this episode: what does our physical space have to do with our capacity for connection?My special guest is Rebecca West, founder of Seriously Happy Homes. Thanks for listening! Your reviews, ratings, and shares are greatly appreciated. You can learn more a...2020-05-0931 minHow Can I Say This...Liars and Stonewallers: Listener QuestionsIf you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while, you know that on the surface we talk about communication, but underneath that, we’re really talking about relationships. Caring about another person is why we are thoughtful about how we speak with one another. Today we’re going to hear from two listeners that have very different situations but share some common themes. I'm also pleased to welcome Rebecca West of Seriously Happy Homes to offer her insights on one of the listener questions. Our questions this episode: how do you have a difficult conver...2020-04-2841 minHow Can I Say This...Mori Taheripour Shares How to Bring Yourself to NegotiationsWhen we think of negotiators, we often think of people who are trying to find a bargain, job seekers, or people on the front lines of a hostage situation. Those things might be true some of the time, but there’s so much more to it than that. Life is a negotiation; and right now, it’s showing up in the form of negotiating new structures, working arrangements, and relationships in light of the coronavirus pandemic. We’re all negotiators.Our question this episode: what are the benefits of bringing yourself – your true self – to a negotiatio...2020-04-1430 minHow Can I Say This...A Simple Mantra for a Complex TimeWhen we’re in close quarters with someone for a long time, even the strongest of relationships can be tested. In this episode, I offer you a simple mantra that can help you stay calm and compassionate while we shelter-in-place. #spaceandgraceHosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information and downloadable mantra images at howcanisaythis.com. Your feedback, shares, reviews and ratings are welcome! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2020-04-0217 minHow Can I Say This...Difficult Conversations with Kern BeareIt’s a phrase I’ve heard over and over these past few years: there’s no point in trying to talk to them. Them is always the person with whom we have strong disagreements, or it might represent an entire group of people we’ve decided are unreachable. But there is a point; it’s just not what you might think. Our question this episode: how can we get past our surface differences to find our common humanity? My guest is Kern Beare, founder of The Difficult Conversations Project. More information at howcanisaythis.com. Shar...2020-03-2146 minHow Can I Say This...These 7 Words are Undermining Your EffectivenessWhen we think of forming new habits, our minds go to the obvious – changing what we eat, how much we exercise, what time we go to bed or get up in the morning, deciding to meditate. Those are all good habits to pay attention to, and there’s one more to add that can change your life just as much. Our question this episode: which small word choices make a huge difference in the effectiveness of our communication?You can find past episodes, find out how to leave a review, and learn more about the show at h...2020-02-2214 minHow Can I Say This...Humor: Helpful or Harmful?There are many ways to evaluate the health of a social connection. We know to notice eye contact, body language, tone of voice and balance of listening and talking. But what about laughter? We intuitively know that when we laugh together, there’s a high probability we like one another or have something in common. It can also signal discomfort, a power indifference, or low self-esteem. Our question this episode: what are the ways laughter and humor advance or distract from our communication?Part one of two.Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. Th...2020-02-0917 minHow Can I Say This...Overcoming Public Speaking Anxiety with Michelle Barry FrancoThere’s a widely circulated saying that people fear public speaking more than death. That funny but misguided bit of trivia distracts us from the opportunity we have whenever we’re given the literal or metaphorical microphone and invited to share our thoughts. Our question this episode: what strategies for overcoming public speaking anxiety can help us be better communicators? If you don’t consider yourself a public speaker, I invite you to think again. I can’t remember who planted this idea in my head, but there’s truth to it: we are all pu...2020-01-3131 minHow Can I Say This...Ep61: Words Create Worlds"Almost all words do have color and nothing is more pleasant than to utter a pink word and see someone's eyes light up and know it is a pink word for him or her, too." ~Gladys Taber Our words are paint strokes on the canvas of life – sounds cheesy, but it’s true. We create a certain picture with every word we choose, both in thinking and speaking. Our question this episode: what world are we creating with our words? How Can I Say This… is a podcast focused on building connection and comm...2020-01-2423 minHow Can I Say This...Ep60: Ending the Shame GameYou’ve messed up. You feel embarrassed, you know what you did was a mistake, and you own up to it. You say you’re sorry. And even though you acknowledge it, the other person still wants to chew you out. They want to make sure you know how badly you’ve screwed up. It feels terrible, and you shut down.Our question this episode: what’s the harm with shaming the shameful?This episode was inspired by a post I read over the break with the clickbait headline, "How Should I Tell People a...2020-01-1020 minHow Can I Say This...Ep59: Working with Disrespectful Colleagues (Listener Question)Being successful in our professional lives depends on lots of people agreeing on certain principles. Show up on time. Follow through. Take your responsibilities seriously. Respect your boss and your colleagues. But what do you do if those shared expectations are violated? Our question this episode: How do you behave when your direct report behaves disrespectfully and refuses to acknowledge that you found the behavior disrespectful? This episode features a listener question about working with a disrespectful colleague. The ideas I offer certainly apply in a professional setting, but I hope they also might be useful...2019-12-2226 minHow Can I Say This...Ep58: Making Your Private Beliefs PublicOn February 20, 1954, Albert Einstein said the following during an address to the Chicago Decalogue Society: “…in long intervals I have expressed an opinion on public issues whenever they appeared to me so bad and unfortunate that silence would have made me feel guilty of complicity.” As a public figure with a particular reputation and credibility to maintain, Einstein had to weigh the pros and cons of making his private opinions public. Not everyone feels they have the luxury of making a choice, and you don’t have to be Einstein to know that sharing your positions and views can backfire...2019-12-0721 minHow Can I Say This...Ep57: Avoiding Conflict During ThanksgivingIt’s that time of year, when we look forward to food, drink, and time with people we care about. It’s also when we might dread time with people we care about, because that time is filled with talking, and that talking might go in directions that cause conflict. And no, I’m not talking about debating who will win the big game or which movie you want to watch. While Thanksgiving 2016 was probably the most stressful in recent memory for families and friends with differing political views, the Thanksgiving of 2019 is likely to be a close second....2019-11-2714 minHow Can I Say This...Ep56: Staying Civil on Social MediaOnce upon a time, if we were upset or disagreed with a person, policy or decision, our thoughts on the matter rippled out maybe as far as our second- or third-degree connections, but not much further. Things moved fairly slowly, and we could generally trust our information sources. But now, almost everyone, with a single click on the word “post” or “tweet,” can share their thoughts with friends and strangers alike, and we can unknowingly spread misinformation or rumors that have the potential to harm others. And if we take the bait when others post provocative content, any possibility of civil...2019-11-1622 minHow Can I Say This...Ep55: De-Escalating Internal AngerThere are lots of mantras I live by, including "I’m open to outcome, not attached," and "I can handle whatever happens." I’ve recently adopted a new mantra based on some recent experiences – experiences that have found me angry and upset – and it’s such a good I have to share it. Our question this episode: what can we do when we’re so mad we can hardly see straight?Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More info at www.howcanisaythis.com. You can support this podcast through your ratings, reviews, shares, and subscription. Thanks for listenin...2019-11-0815 minHow Can I Say This...Ep54: Anatomy of an InteractionHow many times have you been in a conversation and the other person says or does something unexpected or hostile, and you think to yourself – where did THAT come from!? In fact, you might have thought that very thing about yourself! We might think that frustration, anger, confusion, or other emotions that block productive conversations “come out of nowhere,” but the truth is that they always come from somewhere. Our question this episode: what influences our capacity for connection with others besides what we say and how we say it?Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More i...2019-10-2619 minHow Can I Say This...Ep53: When It Gets Personal (Listener Question with guest Arden Clise)If we hang around with someone long enough, there are little things that pop up that can distract us from heart of the relationship. It might be the way another person eats, dresses, or even folds the towels. And those might seem trivial – after all, differences or annoyances in those areas aren’t make-or-break issues. But they’re not so trivial when they become distractions that suck up our attention.Our question this episode: how should we approach sensitive topics that have to do with someone’s personal habits?This episode focuses on a listen...2019-10-1825 minHow Can I Say This...Ep52: Disagreeing Without Being DisagreeableWhen we hear someone make a statement that’s not true, or express a personal opinion that cuts us to the core, it’s easy to react by lashing out and attacking that person. It’s not so easy to offer a thoughtful reply that is both respectful and direct. Our question this episode: how can we take the high road while still calling someone out on their harmful actions? I highlight two recent videos - one from James Corden, the other from Annabel (aka @montanaranchwife) - that provide excellent examples of how to express disagreement without being disagreeable. Hosted...2019-10-1216 minHow Can I Say This...Ep51: Surviving Small TalkMost people dread it. Some people avoid it at all costs. We’ll skip the networking events, duck behind a big display in the store, or avoid eye contact in a public place. What am I talking about? Small talk. It’s something we all have to do, but we almost universally despise. Our question this episode: what can we do to make small talk less painful and more productive? The inspiration from this episode comes from a recent presentation I gave at the MIT Media Lab. I was talking about being an introvert in an ex...2019-10-0520 minHow Can I Say This...Ep50: Drama Queens (Listener Question)A listener asks: How do you deal with a drama queen when they are a close friend? How do you know it is someone being a drama queen and not you being sensitive? Those are our questions in this 50th episode of How Can I Say This.... Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More info at howcanisaythis.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2019-09-2132 minHow Can I Say This...Ep49: Expressing Feelings at Work with Melanie KatzmanThere are lots of “F” words that we’re supposed to avoid in the workplace. Fear. Failure. Flirting. Fighting. And of course, the word to end all “F” words, which I won’t say because I like to avoid an explicit rating! But there’s another F word, and this one we avoid at our peril: Feelings. Our question this episode: how can we talk about our feelings at work? My guest today is Melanie Katzman, PhD, author of the forthcoming book, "Connect First: 52 Simple Ways to Ignite Success, Meaning, and Joy at Work" (McGraw-Hill, Oct 22, 2019...2019-09-1324 minHow Can I Say This...Ep48: Two Lessons from The Art of GatheringHow many meetings or events have you attended this past week? Maybe you’ve invited people over for dinner, been to a birthday party, or you’ve gotten together in a favorite park for a hike. Chances are you’ve been in at least one work, client, or school meeting. Perhaps you’ve attended a conference, seminar, training, networking event, city council meeting, church gathering, book group, or Rotary luncheon. And how often have you left those gatherings feeling like it was time well-spent, that something was accomplished? Too often we come together with what we think is clear intentio...2019-08-3124 minHow Can I Say This...Ep47: Cultivating Conversational Intelligence with Michael O'BrienSometimes our journey towards greater self-awareness seems slow and ponderous. And other times, life decides to hit the fast-forward button and give us a can’t-miss catalyst for profound change. No matter which happens to you, both involve conversations. Conversations we have with ourselves, and those we have with others. And the quality of those conversations shapes our life satisfaction. Our question this episode: how can we boost our conversational intelligence, from the inside out? Today we’re going to hear from Michael O'Brien, who experienced that can’t-miss catalyst for change in a wa...2019-08-2332 minHow Can I Say This...Ep46: Cross-Cultural Communication with Susan ShirleyWhen we think of traveling outside our native country, we usually consider the obvious differences we’ll experience: language, food, clothing, architecture. But there’s another layer of difference that’s more subtle and can dramatically affect how well we navigate our new environment. Our question this episode: what’s important to consider when communicating with others in a culture different from your own? Today’s guest caught my eye on LinkedIn with a post about cultural sensitivity when working in countries other than your own. I realized after our conversation that even wi...2019-08-1723 minHow Can I Say This...Ep45: Poetry to Grieve ByToday is Friday, August 9, 2019, and it’s been a rough week. I’ve found that I haven’t had much to say. The news and its tragedies have overwhelmed me, as they have the world. For a podcast about how to say it, whatever “it” is, I’m finding myself at a loss. I’m not even sure I have a key question for this episode, except wondering what we can do when words fail us. This is a rather short episode, because I’m still feeling in shock from the mass shootings that happened in El Paso, Texas...2019-08-1010 minHow Can I Say This...Ep44: Generational and Gender Communication Differences with Lee CaraherWhen I tell you I’m "going to get back to you by the end of the day," what does that mean to you? And what about how you interpret “get back to you?” You might be surprised to hear that what those phrases mean to you depends on your age. And how you respond to a compliment depends on your gender, in addition to context.Our question this episode: how can we best communicate across generational and gender differences? This episode’s topic brings me back to a listener question from episode 6 about ho...2019-08-0237 minHow Can I Say This...Ep43: Deep Listening with Oscar TrimboliWe spend 55% of our time in an average day listening; but what are we really doing? Are we attentive? Fully present? Passive? Distracted? Waiting until the other person stops talking so we can talk? Our questions this episode: what does it mean to really listen, and how can we become better at it? While this podcast is often focused on the words we say, it’s equally important to focus on the way we hear the words of others. My guest today is coach, author, fellow podcaster and deep listening evangelist Oscar Trimboli. In this epi...2019-07-2638 minHow Can I Say This...Ep42: Flipping Failure with Sarah McVanel Part 2Failure. It’s something we avoid as adults, equating it with incompetence, lack of effort or resources, bad ideas, faulty execution, and a sign that we’re on the wrong track. But as little kids, we accepted it. Whether we were conscious of it or not, we knew that we were going to mess up on our way to learning something new. Our question this episode: what would it mean if we could normalize failure and talk more openly about it? This episode is part two of my conversation with Sarah McVanel, who is going to sh...2019-07-1838 minHow Can I Say This...Ep41: Flipping Failure with Sarah McVanel (Part 1)There are things we say we’re okay with, but when the rubber meets the road, we balk. Failure is one such thing. Our society often hands us contradictory messages that failure isn’t an option, while saying it’s important we learn from our mistakes. Yes, context is everything. We don’t want a surgeon operating on us to decide failure is an option they can take. But most of us hold ourselves to a surgeon’s standards, saying we’re okay with failure but then feeling like the world is ending when it actually happens. Our question this episode...2019-07-1236 minHow Can I Say This...Ep40: Freedom of Speech ReflectionsFamily picnics, sparklers, and watermelon seed spitting contests. These are all part of the fourth of July fun here in the United States. While it’s an opportunity to say that funnel cake has no calories because it’s a holiday, it’s also a chance to celebrate the ideals that our country was founded on, especially the first amendment. Our question this episode: what does it mean to exercise our right to free speech effectively and responsibly? In this episode, I offer some brief reflections on the first amendment, specifically about free speech, as a way t...2019-07-0521 minHow Can I Say This...Ep39: Is It Empathy or Hijacking?One of the ways we form connections with one another is by noticing where our experiences overlap. It’s a wonderful moment when that noticing leads to empathy and intimacy. But just like anything wonderful, there’s a flip side. Our question this episode: when does saying, “I know how you feel” shift from empathy to hijacking? A recent coaching session inspired me to share a few words on today’s topic of empathy versus hijacking. When it came up in the session, it reinforced something that I learned early in my coach training: clients will come t...2019-06-2115 minHow Can I Say This...Ep38: Brave Interfaith Conversations in the Workplace with Zahabia Ahmed-Usmani and Kyle KooyersReligion ranks right up there with politics, sex and money as a subject that is mostly off-limits in the workplace. Whether it’s obviously part of someone’s identity or completely invisible to others, our spiritual beliefs inform everything from what we wear or eat, what holidays we do or don’t celebrate, what we name our children, and how we live our lives in general. With it being so pervasive, it’s not reasonable to try to ignore it because we’re uncomfortable with the topic. Our question this episode: how can we bring deeper understanding and respect for a wide...2019-06-1336 minHow Can I Say This...Ep37: Ethics, Criticism and Rivals with Yonason GoldsonWhen we think of how we communicate on a personal level, we don’t naturally think of it in terms of ethics and responsibility. But there’s an ethical component to our relationships that is important to acknowledge and discuss. This is especially true when it comes to conversations that happen in groups or that impact large numbers of people, like they do in our neighborhoods, work, schools, places of worship, and government. Our question this episode: what can ethics teach us about effective communication? My guest today is Yonason Goldson, who will give us some...2019-06-0736 minHow Can I Say This...Ep36: Introverts and Extroverts in ConversationThere are lots of reasons why we get our wires crossed when communicating with others. Some of it might have to do with our mood, our assumptions, our past experiences, the nature of the relationship between us and the person we’re talking to, and even bigger picture reasons such as race, gender, religion and other identities that inform how we relate to one another. One trait that falls on the spectrum of communication obstacles is whether someone is coming from an introvert or extrovert perspective. Our question this episode: how do we honor our own introvert or extrovert st...2019-05-3121 minHow Can I Say This...Ep35: Empathy in Action in Difficult ConversationsWhen it comes to difficult conversations, we’re often focused on what divides us. We are acutely aware of the ways in which we are different from one another. After all, that’s probably what makes the conversation difficult! But if we’re able to balance that difference with commonalities, we’ll have a better chance at easing the conflict. Our question this episode: how does empathy help move us towards a deeper understanding of one another?This is a continuing exploration of the 4 Keys to More Civil Conversations. Last week, we looked at humility. This week, we...2019-05-1018 minHow Can I Say This...Ep34: Humility, Ego, and Civil ConversationsIf we’ve spent a lot of time thinking about our values and beliefs and how those apply to social and cultural issues, then we can become very attached to thinking that we’re right, they’re wrong, and that’s that. But remember: everyone feels that way, and the person you think is wrong thinks they’re right, and you’re wrong, and that’s that. We’re left with an impenetrable wall between us that only becomes taller as we dig in our heels. But there is another way. Our question this episode: what role does humility play in challeng...2019-05-0413 minHow Can I Say This...Ep33: How to Talk with Kids About Tough Topics with Dakota DuncanWhen a challenge is big, scary, or complex, sometimes it feels easiest to bury our heads in the sand and hope that someone else figures it all out. That might work with some things, but it doesn’t work with the stuff that affects us all, like climate change. We have to find a way to talk about it. And that urgency is compounded when we have kids. Our question this episode: how do we talk with kids about a complex, emotional topic such as climate change?My guest today is Dakota Duncan, who will give us...2019-04-2629 minHow Can I Say This...Ep32: How to Ask Better Questions (Part 2)Throughout our education, we’re often so focused on being able to answer questions, we forget to pay attention to how skilled we are at asking them. But our ability to get good information from someone is directly connected to our ability to ask good questions. Our question this episode: what can we do to make our questions more productive and effective? In this episode, I continue an exploration of the art and science of asking good questions. It’s something we do every day – at least, I hope we’re asking questions every day! – but we don’...2019-04-1824 minHow Can I Say This...Ep31: How to Ask Better Questions (Part 1)It’s something that can drive new parents insane, but it’s essential to our development as social creatures: asking questions. As children, we ask questions incessantly as a way to understand the world around us. As we mature, our questions become more nuanced and complex, and our motives are less obvious. Or we hesitate to ask questions for fear of sounding dumb or because we don’t want to challenge someone. We’re encouraged to be curious, but we’re seldom told that curiosity is a skill that we can improve. Our question this episode: How can we ask better...2019-04-1219 minHow Can I Say This...Ep30: What To Do When You're TriggeredYou know when it’s happening: your breathing might become more shallow. Your mind starts racing. You feel like there’s a brick in the pit of your stomach. You might even feel a sense of déjà vu. You’re so irritated, you can’t even hear what the other person is saying. Our question this episode: what can we do when someone’s behavior is triggering us? In this episode, I will offer some thoughts on a relatively new awareness I experienced this past week. It left me in a “how can I say this…” place...2019-04-0617 minHow Can I Say This...Ep29: Getting Past Fine with Matt CrevinIt’s an answer we’ve all given and received multiple times in our lives: “I’m fine.” It could be a polite way to respond to a stranger’s “how are you?” or it might be your partner, colleague, or offspring giving you what feels like the cold shoulder. But if we really care about someone, we care about the real answer, the one underneath the surface. Our question this episode: what can we do to get past “I’m fine”?We’re joined in this episode by Matt Crevin, who will share tips for parents talking to teena...2019-03-2936 minHow Can I Say This...Ep28: Self-Awareness and Authority with Caryn Lee"There are three things extremely hard: Steel, a Diamond, and to know one's self." With those words from the 1750 edition of Poor Richard’s Almanac, Benjamin Franklin shared a maxim that has been around since the ancient Greeks: know thyself. Long before Franklin, Socrates gave us the oft-quoted saying “The unexamined life is not worth living.” In addition to giving life meaning, examining our lives and knowing ourselves helps us to be in relationship with other people. When we know who we are, we can be better communicators. Our question this episode: how do our personality and preferences influence our co...2019-03-2226 minHow Can I Say This...Ep27: The Fragile Bully as Narcissist with Laurie HelgoeWhen a word or phrase rises to prominence in the collective conversation, there’s a danger of it becoming diluted or distorted so much that it strays from its original meaning. That’s happening now with the word “narcissist.” Everyone from the arrogant boss to the selfie-loving teenager becomes a narcissist. The truth is, we all have a touch of narcissist in us, but not everyone deserves that label. Our questions this episode: what’s the true definition, and how do we interact with people who sit at different places on the spectrum? I’m pleased to be...2019-03-1430 minHow Can I Say This...Ep26: Your Questions: Resolving Conflict Within Community with Judy HissongIt’s the rare environment when we’re completely alone with no one else to consider. Whether it’s home, work, school, or social situations, our choices and actions have a ripple effect, even if we aren’t aware of it. Sometimes it’s easy to fit in and our impact is minimal. Other times, our behavior isn’t just a ripple, it’s a tsunami, and that’s when a challenging conversation might be in our future. Our question this episode: how do we diffuse conflict while staying in community with one another? We have a terrific l...2019-03-0833 minHow Can I Say This...Ep25: Communication Lessons from the Animal KingdomI’m all for consulting the experts to learn more about how to be more present, more mindful, more anything that I want to be in my life. They have research and strategies that contribute to making us healthy, wealthy, and wise human beings. But sometimes it helps to absorb lessons from experts that don’t have a single book, podcast, blog, or Facebook page to their name. Our question this episode: what do our pets have to teach us about being better communicators?This episode is a reflection on the communication and relationship lessons we can...2019-03-0119 min
The Bright Shiny Object ProjectEp. 54 - 5 Ways To Speak Your Truth with Beth BuelowHave you noticed that especially over the last few years it seems to be getting harder and harder for people to speak their truth in a way that creates strong relationships? Here’s a simple test to see if you have been withholding your truth: Have you recently held a belief or thought about another person but never told them your feelings directly? These feelings could be good, bad or indifferent. As we wrap up the discussions this month on the Mastermind Principle of Self Confidence I have seen a common need of finding confidence through speaking and honoring your tr...2019-02-2438 minHow Can I Say This...Ep24: Talking to Your Doctor with Tami StackelhouseWhen it comes to challenging communication situations, few match the difficulty of talking to highly trained professionals who have expertise we don’t have. This is especially true when we’re seen by doctors. We’re in a vulnerable position, and it’s not always easy to assert ourselves and make our concerns fully understood. Our question this episode: how can we set ourselves up for successful interactions when there’s an imbalance of power?This episode topic is inspired by a recent experience I had going to the doctor. Over the course of two days, I saw thre...2019-02-2128 minHow Can I Say This...Ep23: Complainers and Energy Drainers with Linda SwindlingThere’s at least one in every office, family, or group: the person who says things like, “Why do we have to do this?” “This is too complicated!” “No one ever helps me.” They seem to be focused on whatever is wrong about a situation but rarely offer up any solutions. And they seem get suck the energy out of the room in the process. Our question this episode: how do we best communicate with the complainers and energy drainers in our lives?This episode features a conversation with author and negotiation expert Linda Swindling. Together, we dig into th...2019-02-1430 minHow Can I Say This...Ep22: Money: Make the Case, Make the Ask with Grace JudsonWhen I was in grad school for arts administration, we learned a basic fact in our fundraising course that I’ve never forgotten: the number one reason people don’t give money to charity is because they aren’t asked. That goes not only for donations, but for raises, for project funds, or any other situation where direct ask has to happen in order for money to change hands. Our question this episode: how do we frame a request for money so that we increase our chances of success? I’m pleased to welcome Grace Judson back to th...2019-02-0736 minHow Can I Say This...Responding When Bad Things Happen to Good PeopleThe phone rings. It’s your friend who says, “I have cancer.” An email pops into your inbox. The subject line? “Bad news.” Your Facebook feed consistently shares stories of pets who have crossed the rainbow bridge, people who unexpectedly lose their jobs, or parents, spouses, or siblings who are having a rough time. Our question this episode: how do you respond to hard situations when you don’t know what to say or are afraid of saying the wrong thing? Hosted by Beth Buelow, PCC. More information and episodes available at howcanisaythis.com 2019-02-0116 minHow Can I Say This...Ep20: Parker J. Palmer on Connection and CommunityHow we talk to one another is directly connected to how we feel about ourselves: our self-worth, our willingness to be open and vulnerable, and our self-compassion. We can show up more fully for others when we show up fully to ourselves. But unhealthy ego, fear of humiliation, and isolation can stop us in our tracks. The antidote is community and connection. Our question this episode: how can we hold conflict creatively in order to build stronger relationships?You’re in for a super big treat today in the form of a wide-ranging discussion with writer, sp...2019-01-241h 04How Can I Say This...Using the Ladder of Inference to Reframe ConflictWe’ve all heard the phrase “jumping to conclusions,” but have we really stopped to think about how that jumping happens? It’s a phenomenon that we’ve all experienced: We see something, our brains quickly search for evidence that supports or refutes what we see, and we draw a conclusion. All of this happens in a split second, without even being conscious of it. The end result is often an assumption, which can lead to misunderstandings, communication breakdowns, or worse. Our question this episode: how can understanding our thought processes help us manage conflict? We look at the Ladder of Inferen...2019-01-1619 minHow Can I Say This...Your Questions: When Someone is Gaslighting YouWe all know people who exaggerate, or take liberty with the facts or know how to bluff their way through a topic they know nothing about. There are times when we might even be that person! After all, our memory isn’t perfect, and we do the best we can to remember things as they happened. But there are some people who don’t have that same desire for truth. They create their own truth, and they’re set on convincing you that you’re the one who’s wrong. There’s a term for it: gaslighting. Our question this episode...2019-01-0216 minHow Can I Say This...Your Questions: How to Rein in a Disruptive ColleagueIt doesn’t matter what kind of group it is. It could be members of a family, office, church, book group, or knitting circle. All of us have at one point experienced the person who sucks the oxygen out of the room by taking over the conversation and basically holding court. Our question this episode: how can we break the spell of the dominant talker without causing conflict?This is the question submitted through the online form by Suky, who wrote:I would consider myself an introvert, especially around colleagues who are not. Cu...2018-12-1916 minHow Can I Say This...Ep16: Busyness and Negative FramingWe all know that the words we choose to describe situations and experiences tell a story about how we see the world. Are you a partly cloudy or partly sunny type of person? Is the glass half-empty, or half-full? Are you "so busy" or "keeping busy"? The words we use might shift depending on our mood, but most of us have a leaning towards either optimism or pessimism. While I don’t want to say one is better than the other, I’m going to say it anyway: healthy optimism, combined with a dose of healthy pessimism – or one might...2018-12-0522 minHow Can I Say This...Charlotte Parsons, Modeling Healthy Conflict for KidsMany years ago, I was chatting with a work colleague when she brought up that she and her husband were separating. The relationship had several challenges, but guess what was an ah-ha moment for her about the root of their problems? Neither of them knew how to argue. Growing up, they rarely, if ever, saw their parents in conflict, so they thought conflict was to be avoided at all costs. Unfortunately, the cost was their marriage. How can we learn to model healthy conflict for the benefit of our family relationships? In this episode, we’re...2018-11-2829 minHow Can I Say This...Barbara McAfee, Using Your Full VoiceWatch your tone… it’s advice we’ve all received at some point, most likely when we were children and saying, “I don’t want to” to a parent, or “give it back,” to a sibling. As adults we still have to watch our tone, as how we say something is as important as what we say. Tone takes on new meaning, not just the attitude, but the pitch and timbre. How can we be powerful communicators by using our words and our tone?How you convey your message is just as important as the message itself. Voice Co...2018-11-1538 minHow Can I Say This...Kwame Christian, Compassionate CuriosityThere are times when we feel stuck in our communications, that no matter what we say or how we plead our case, we make zero headway with the other person. We’re so fixated on what we need and want, we forget to consider the other person and their needs and wants. What are some ways we can turn that around and create a situation where everyone gets what they need? This episode features my lively conversation with guest Kwame Christian, who offers us some awesome insights on how to connect on a meaningful level with...2018-11-0735 minHow Can I Say This...Your Questions: How to Stop RamblingWhen I get nervous, I can talk… and talk and talk and talk. It’s really embarrassing sometimes, and I don’t know how to stop myself once I get going. I’m sure the other person is bored to tears or wishing I’d just shut up already. But I can’t help it. Or can I? Is it possible to gracefully stop our rambling and get the conversation back on track? In this episode, I respond to a listener question about what to do when you find yourself talking too much, as well as start an explo...2018-10-3118 minHow Can I Say This...Derek Pratt, Tips for Neighbor ConflictsIt doesn’t matter if they’re down the hall or across the street: being in community with other people can be hard work. We’ve probably all experienced a noisy neighbor or inconsiderate coworker who doesn’t seem to be aware of how their actions affect others. How do we address those problems with the people we live and work with in a way that doesn’t make things worse? My guest is Derek Pratt, founder of 4ward With Progress Inc. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information at www.howcanisaythis.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/p...2018-10-2335 minHow Can I Say This...Your Questions: Negative People, Protecting ColleaguesThere are times in most relationships when we’re faced with one of two situations: we feel a need to protect ourselves, or we feel a need to protect someone else. Every once in a while, especially when it comes to giving feedback, those two things can happen at the same time! How can we act in a way that establishes boundaries while still being kind? In this episode, we take a look at two listener questions: dealing with negative people and sharing difficult feedback with a colleague who’s having personal issues. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More...2018-10-1721 minHow Can I Say This...Your Questions: Creating Closure from a DistanceIn an ideal world, relationships that end would do so clearly and with no loose ends. Each person would walk away feeling like they’d tied a nice neat bow on the matter. But we don’t live in an ideal world, and endings can be messy and feel incomplete. What do we do when we are left with lots of loose ends and no one to help us tie them up?In this episode, we’re going to do a deep dive into a listener question about how to find relationship closure alone when it’s not po...2018-10-1015 minHow Can I Say This...Ep008: Veronica Cravener, Determining Your Interests and WantsWe’ve all found ourselves in arguments where we reach a stalemate. Neither person seems willing to budge on what they need, and frustration builds instead of goes away. After all, what I want is what I want! Isn’t that what I’m arguing for? Well, it turns out there’s more at stake than what we think. And one way to get past the frustration is to find out what that is. What are some ways we can get at what really matters in a disagreement? In this episode, I’m joined by mediator Veronica Cravener, who provides insights ab...2018-10-0329 minHow Can I Say This...Grace Judson, Empathy in ConversationsThere’s a time and place for everything, and that includes emotion and intimacy. Most of the time it’s clear when we can show emotion and wear our heart on our sleeve. But sometimes, especially in professional environments, it can be more challenging to know how to respond when a clear need for empathy presents itself. We want to connect as human beings while still respecting boundaries. What’s a healthy way to walk that line with people we care about? Leadership Coach Grace Judson joins to me to discuss this and more. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More i...2018-09-2534 minHow Can I Say This...Your Questions: Friendship Challenges, Generational DifferencesHow can we offer our perspective in a thoughtful way that doesn’t put someone on the defensive? In this episode, we’ll be looking at some listener questions about telling it like it is to someone you care about, intergenerational conversations, and lopsided friendships. Submit your question and find more information about this podcast can be found at howcanisaythis.com. Hosted by Beth Buelow, PCC. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2018-09-1827 min
The Successful Bookkeeper PodcastEP106: Beth Buelow – How Introverts Can Flourish In Today's WorldUnderstanding and appreciating what it means to be an introvert in an extrovert-leaning world is hard to do. But, our returning guest, Beth Buelow has mastered it. She helps introverted entrepreneurs amplify their strengths and build sustainable energetically aligned businesses. She is also a professional coach, podcaster, speaker and author of The Introvert Entrepreneur - Amplify Your Strengths & Create Success On Your Own Terms. During this interview, you'll discover... How to create empowered, productive environments where introverts can flourish How to provide services for introverts and those who live and...2018-09-1833 min
Introverts Talking BusinessCreating a Biz with Space and Grace with Beth BuelowBeth Buelow on the changes she's seen in her 8 years of helping introverted business owners, and how she's transitioning into a new line of work. We also talk about how to handle conflict as an introvert, and the best way to handle fear. 2018-09-1849 min