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Adult Child of DysfunctionE 261: Navigating the Chaos: Understanding Trauma Bonds and Narcissistic Relationships: Guest Bre WoltaReturning guest Bre Wolta, relationship clarity coach and EFT practitioner, joins us once again for a powerful and deeply relatable conversation about how growing up in dysfunctional families shapes our adult relationships.In this episode, Bre and I explore how early experiences with addiction, instability, and emotional neglect can impact identity, boundaries, and self-worth. Bre shares how these environments often lead individuals into patterns of codependency, trauma bonding, and repeated attraction to narcissistic or emotionally unavailable partners.We break down the psychological and biochemical dynamics of trauma bonds, explaining why unhealthy relationships can feel addictive...
2026-01-2443 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships91. Why You Can’t Fix Him: The Painful Truth About Loving a Narcissist With Shavaun ScottHave you ever stayed in a relationship far too long because you believed your love, support, or patience could save or fix him?If you’ve felt emotionally trapped in a relationship with a narcissist, convinced that with just the right therapist, one more book, or enough compassion, you could help him change—this episode is for you.In this episode you will discover:The one mindset shift that can finally set you free from trying to “fix” himHow to tell if a narcissistic person is using therapy language and trauma narratives to manipulate youThe em...
2025-08-1332 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships80. How Long Will This Hurt? Why Betrayal Wounds Linger Even When You've Tried Everything To Heal The HeartbreakYou’ve read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Googled everything about narcissists and betrayal. So why does it still hurt so damn much?In this episode, I’m sharing a real story from a client session that cracked something wide open—not just about heartbreak, but about where healing actually begins.In this episode you will:Discover the real reason you’re still crying months later over your ex’s betrayalUnderstand what needs to become your primary focus when healing your heart (and likely whats been missing in your healing process)Hear how one woman not...
2025-05-2816 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships79. Am I Crazy For Going Back? How To Finally Let Go Of Narcissistic Relationships That Hurt With Whitney WalkerIf you've ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of highs and lows with someone who keeps hurting you, you're not weak or crazy—you’re human.This episode will help you understand why your heart keeps reaching for the person who broke it—and how to start untangling from that pull without shame.In this episode, you’ll discover:The real reason narcissistic relationships feel like an addiction, especially when trauma is involvedWhy it’s actually okay that you went back to your exHow to let go and start healing so you can love from...
2025-05-2142 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships78. Emotional Abuse Unmasked: Spotting the 8 Subtle Signs & Manipulation You May Have Missed In Your Narcissistic RelationshipWas that really abuse?If you've ever questioned whether something "counts" as emotional abuse because there were no bruises or screaming matches, this episode will help you finally put words to the invisible wounds.You deserve clarity. You deserve validation. And you deserve relationships where your emotional safety isn't up for debate.In this episode you will:Learn the 8 subtle signs of emotional abuse that often go unrecogizedUnderstand the very real mental and physical impacts of emotional abuseGain a simple, powerful tool to help you set boundaries and spot red flags earlier...
2025-05-1428 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships77. My RAW Truths About Motherhood & Relationships As A New Mom (Bonus Mother's Day Episode!)If you're a new mom, about to become one, or navigating healing from past chaos while building a peaceful life, this episode speaks directly to the raw, unfiltered reality of becoming a parent. Learn how early motherhood can unexpectedly awaken old wounds—and how to hold space for both your child and your inner child without losing yourself.In this episode, you'll discover:How motherhood can reactivate trauma from past toxic relationships and how to process thatWhy the early postpartum weeks can feel like emotional whiplash—even in a loving relationshipHow to tend to your...
2025-05-1026 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships76. The MAJOR Things You Need To Know Before Committing (Post-Narcissistic Heartbreak) With Denise SchonwaldIf you've been burned by a toxic relationship or two (or five—no judgment), dating again can feel like a terrifying endeavor.This episode is here to help you get prepped for what to look out for before you’re deep into another emotional circus.In this episode, you will:Learn the 3 red flags that should have you moonwalking out of your next relationship like MJHear the #1 question to ask yourself if you suspect you’re in an unhealthy relationshipGet the downlow on what you absolutely need to know before you commit to anyone
2025-05-0736 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships75. Why Did I Stay So Long? Moving Beyond Self-Blame To Heal From A Manipulative Narcissistic RelationshipHave you ever looked back and wondered why you stayed so long, giving your ex SO many second chances, despite knowing the relationship was somehow toxic?Breaking free from a narcissistic relationship isn’t just about willpower—this episode will help you make sense of your past choices so you can move forward with self-compassion.In this episode you will:Gain a clear understanding of why you kept giving your ex second chancesFind insight into why narcissistic relationships feel like an addiction you just can’t quitGet a simple exercise you can do today to mov...
2025-04-3022 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships74. Did He Ever Love Me? The #1 Question We Ask After A Manipulative Narcissistic Relationship EndsWas any of it real? Or were you just being used the whole time?If you're stuck replaying memories, trying to figure out whether your narcissistic ex ever truly loved you, you're not alone. The need for answers is REAL. In this episode, we’re breaking down why this question haunts you—and what you can do to finally find closure.By the end of this episode, you will:Understand why you feel desperate for an answer about their loveLearn what love actually means to a narcissist (and why it’s not what yo...
2025-04-2315 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships73. The Shocking Reasons Narcissistic Heartbreak Is Harder Than Other Breakups & How To Heal From The ManipulationWhy does breaking up with a narcissist feel like ripping apart your mind, body and soul, unlike other breakups?Breaking free from a narcissistic relationship isn’t just about letting go of a person, and this episode will help you understand why healing feels so layered.In this episode you will discover:Exactly why a narcissistic breakup hurts deeper, lingers longer, and requires a whole new level of healingThe incredible impact a narcissistic relationship has on your emotional, psychological and physiological well beingClear steps that you can start today to begin healing from this re...
2025-04-1633 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships72. If I Leave, Will He Fall Apart? How To Find Peace In Your Decision When You’re Terrified They Can’t Handle It (client story)Are you paralyzed in your decision to leave a relationship because you’re terrified that they won’t be okay if you go?If you’ve ever found yourself shouldering the responsibility for your partner’s emotions, decisions, or struggles and feel afraid to be seen as the villain in their story, this episode is for you.In this episode you’ll discover:A new perspective on why staying in a rescuing role may be doing more harm than goodTangible ways to overcome your terror that he won’t be okay if you leaveThe life-changin...
2025-04-0944 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships71. When Should I Let Go? 3 Reasons We Hold Onto Narcissistic Relationships & How To Know When To LeaveDo you wonder why it is so hard to let go of a relationship, even when things really aren’t working?If you’re stuck not knowing when or if you should leave, you’re not alone. This episode dives into why we stay in painful relationships and how to find the peaceful inner knowing of what to do.In this episode you’ll discover:3 reasons we hold onto relationships even when we feel unhappy in themPractical ways to know if you’ve tried everything to help the relationshipHow to keep track if progress is being m...
2025-04-0224 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships70. The Exact Steps You Need To Safely Divorce A Manipulative Narcissist When You Have Kids With Sybil CumminAre you navigating a divorce with someone who is narcissistic and wondering how to protect yourself and your kids from manipulation and abuse?The threats, manipulation, and fear of escalation can leave you questioning your every move.In this episode, you will discover:The clear, practical steps you need to take to plan for a safe exit from a narcissistic spouseEffective strategies for documentation to outmaneuver manipulation in family court and keep your kids safeTechniques to maintain your composure and confidence, even when your ex is manipulating those around you to believe his lies
2025-03-2652 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships69. How Narcissistic Relationships Mirror Cult-Like Control & Trap You In A Manipulative Cycle of Addiction With Hilary Buckwalter-WildeWhat if there was a clear reason that your last narcissistic relationship was so hard to leave?In this episode, we uncover the striking parallels between narcissistic relationships, cult dynamics and addiction. These relationships don’t just manipulate your emotions—they hijack your mind, body, and sense of reality which can make leaving (and healing) feel impossible.In this episode you will discover:How narcissistic relationships mirror cult dynamics and trap you in a false realityWhy these toxic bonds feel addictive and how they rewire your brain to keep you dependent on themThe steps to d...
2025-03-1941 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships68. How Can They Be So Cruel? The Real Reasons Behind Narcissistic Manipulation & Motivation In A Relationship With Phoenix GouldHave you found yourself questioning how someone could lie, manipulate, or provoke you without remorse?When you're dealing with someone who seems to thrive on pushing your buttons, it’s easy to feel stuck and confused.In this episode, we unravel the mystery behind their behavior, helping you understand the way their minds work so you can make sense of what feels incomprehensible.In this episode you will:Finally understand if narcissists know that they are hurting you and if they act cruel on purposeLearn their deeper motivation for being in a re...
2025-03-1237 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships67. How Betrayal Trauma Hijacks Your Brain & Nervous System - And How To Break Free With Heidi Dike Kingston (Part 2)Have you ever found yourself trapped in a whirlwind of emotions after betrayal, leaving you torn between the instinct to stay close to someone who has hurt you and the deep knowledge that you deserve better?In this episode, Heidi Dike Kingston and I explore the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma, the effects it has on your nervous system, and the steps to begin healing so you can move toward a life of safety and emotional freedom (this is part 2 to Heidi’s story).By listening to this episode, you will:Understand why betrayal tr...
2025-03-0527 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships66. How Unhealed Attachment Wounds Lead to Addictive Toxic Relationships with Heidi Dike Kingston (Part 1)Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating unhealthy relationship patterns despite your best efforts to move forward?This episode dives deep into the ‘why’ behind our unmanageable cycles of seeking connection or staying in harmful relationships, and how we can make sense of it all.Listen as Heidi Dike Kingston shares her personal journey of love addiction recovery in this part 1 of 2.In this episode you will:Understand the key family dynamics that effect our ability to attach in adult relationships (and how to heal yours)Finally recognize where the core beli...
2025-02-2632 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships65. 8 Signs To Identify Healthy Relationships & Find Real Love When Healing From Manipulative Narcissistic RelationshipsAre you wondering if true, healthy love is even possible for you?This episode dives into the heart of what makes relationships genuinely fulfilling. If you’ve ever found yourself questioning what you should expect from a partner or doubting your ability to experience real love after a toxic relationship, this conversation is for you.In this episode you will:Understand the 8 signs of a healthy relationship so you stop wondering what you can/should expectDiscover the surprising common belief many women have about relationships that keep them stuckLearn why focusing on wha...
2025-02-1927 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships64. Why You NEED To Focus On Self-Love This Valentine's Day If You're Healing From A Manipulative Narcissistic Relationship With Angela SladeDo you want to lose it when people tell you to just “love yourself?”Loving yourself can be a nebulous thing and can feel far away, especially while moving through heartbreak from a narcissistic relationship, period - but definitely around Valentine’s Day.In this episode Angela Slade and I have a powerful conversation that will take the confusion out of self-love and show you exactly how you can get there.In this episode you will:Finally understand what "loving yourself" really means and how you can get thereKnow exactly what to do thi...
2025-02-1238 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships63. The Truth About Healing From The Narcissistic Mindf*ck & Why Loving Yourself Again Feels Hard (my story)Are you wondering if anyone can relate to the self-blame, confusion and heartbreak you’re experiencing since you broke up with your narcissistic ex?This episode shares my story.I give you an explicit view from my ride on the toxic rollercoaster and how I finally got off and healed from the mindf*ck of it all - all while learning what the heck "loving myself" even meant. So when I say, “You are not alone…” I mean it.In this episode you will:Be validated as sh*t that you aren’t alone by...
2025-02-0557 min
I Never Knew (INK) But My Dog Did! By Lifecoach Maureen"Breaking Free from Dysfunctional Relationships" Episode 160 Bre WoltaHi Listeners! Join me in this eye-opening episode as we sit down with Bre Wolta, Relationship Clarity Coach, whose own journey of healing from a toxicm narrcissistic relationship has empowered her to help other women reclaim their lives. If you're ready to find freedom in your relationships, this episode is for you! To contact Bre: www.brewolta.com To reach your host for ideas, suggestions, guesting or just to say hello: www.lifecoachmaureen.comresilience #toxicrelationshiprecovery #goodpods #applepodcasts #listennotes #lifecoachmaureen #brewolta #inspiringpodcasts #ineverknewbutmydogdidpodcastwww.moderniqs.com Become a supporter of this p...
2025-01-291h 04Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships62. How Did I Not See It? Making Sense Of Betrayal In Your Narcissistic Relationship with The MatadorasAre you struggling to comprehend how your ex could be capable of cheating or living an entire double life?Betrayal trauma cuts deeper than most wounds.In this episode Deana and Lizzie from The Matadoras share their emotional journey of discovering they were both entangled in the same man’s manipulative web, how they unraveled his lies and found the strength to move forward.In this episode you will:Understand better how you didn’t see the betrayal and cheating happening while you were in itLearn how to approach the dilemma of tell...
2025-01-2952 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships61. Am I The Toxic One? 3 Simple Questions To Find Out If You're The Narcissist In Your RelationshipHow many times has the question, "Am I the toxic one?" keep you up at night, spiraling you into self-blame and self-doubt?If you’ve found yourself replaying arguments, doubting your worth, and wondering if your reactions are to blame, it’s time to get clarity. In this episode, you will:Finally have an easy way to finally be able to answer the, “Am I the toxic one?” question when you’re lost and dysregulatedBe able to step outside of self-blame and begin to raise your self-esteemShift your mindset from harsh self-judgment to compassionate self-awarenes...
2025-01-2219 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships60. Why Narcissists Manipulate & How To Protect Yourself From Getting Trapped with Narcissism Expert James MarrugoAre you asking, “Why did he do this to me?!” completely bewildered by a narcissists behavior?Making sense of it can sometimes feel like you’re trying to understand someone from another planet, and this episode will shine some light on the seemingly non-sensical mindf*ck.By tuning in, you’ll discover:The why behind the behaviors, patterns, and tactics used by narcissistic individuals that leave you second-guessing your realityHow to identify the key red flags showing someone is a narcissist and the specific things you can do to protect yourself (and your sanity)If it is...
2025-01-1559 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships59. The Narcissist's Lie: Weaponized Sex, Manipulation & The Path to Reclaiming Your Sexuality & Self-Esteem with Hilary Buckwalter-WildeHow do you recognize when intimacy has shifted from connection to control?If you've ever felt that your partner's actions didn't align with their words or found yourself using sex to end a fight, this discussion with Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde will resonate deeply for you.In this episode you will:Gain clarity on how sex can be misused as a tool for control and manipulation, trapping you further into narcissistic cyclesLearn how patriarchal narratives might shape your view of intimacy and self-worth and how to reclaim your genuine sexual powerDiscover the steps to grieve and...
2025-01-0844 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships58. How to Spot a Narcissist: Walk Away From Red Flags & Date Without Fear With Angela DavisWondering how the heck you’re supposed to spot the subtle red flags in your next relationship so you don’t fall into another narcissist’s trap?Dating again after a narcissistic relationship can be downright terrifying, so in this episode, Angela Davis LCSW and I will equip you with what you need to confidently date without fear.In this episode you will:Learn the #1 sign you’re dating someone who is narcissistic or emotionally unavailableUnderstand the 2 most successful ways to navigate your fear of datingGet the tips you need to feel confident walking away fro...
2025-01-0145 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships57. Do I Stay or Leave? Why The New Year Is The Perfect Time To Unlock Your Intuition & Make Relationship DecisionsAre you craving clarity and guidance as you stand at a crossroads, unsure of your next steps in your relationship?The end of the year can feel like a whirlwind—especially if you’re wrestling with life-changing decisions in your relationships.This episode explores how harnessing the reflective energy of the winter season can help you access a sense of peace and purpose, even in the midst of chaos.By listening to this episode, you will:Understand how to use the darkest time of the year to find relief from the uncertainty you...
2024-12-2522 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships56. The Incredible Mindset Change That Helps You Break Free From Manipulative Narcissistic Relationship Cycles With Cheryl BrockieWhat does it take to exit the narcissistic cycle for good?If you've ever felt like your worth depended on someone choosing you, this episode with Cheryl Brockie is for you.We dive into the key components you need to strut into healthy relationships with authentic confidence and leave the toxic ones behind.In this episode you will:Learn the #1 game changer that will shift you out of toxic relationships and help you stop dating people who hurt youHear the unbelievable dating stories that led Cheryl to break the negative cycle of...
2024-12-1852 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships55. How To Embrace Being Single After Heartbreak During The Holiday SeasonAre you navigating the holidays as a newly single woman wondering how to feel joy amidst grief?What if this season could also be an opportunity to reclaim your narrative, honor your healing, and create traditions that reflect who you are becoming?In this empowering episode, you’ll learn:How to redefine your single status into something empoweringPractical steps to design holiday traditions that genuinely light you upTechniques to manage emotional triggers and build a self-soothing toolkit so you can self-regulateHoliday blues don’t have to define your season—press play now an...
2024-12-1123 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships54. How To Cope With Loneliness After Narcissistic Heartbreak During The HolidaysIs the “most magical time of the year” starting to feel more like a rom-com gone wrong?The holidays can hit differently when you’re single—especially after leaving a toxic relationship. The world around you screams joy and togetherness while you may be navigating grief, confusion, and the weight of healing.This episode explores how to embrace both the heartbreak and the hope this season brings, empowering you to find meaning in the duality of your emotions.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why pretending you’re fine at holiday parties when you wer...
2024-12-0417 min
The Self-Intimacy JourneyRebuild Your Self-Trust After an Abusive Relationship with Bre WoltaIn this powerful podcast episode, host Charlene Goa and guest Bre Wolta dive deep into the emotional journey of healing from abusive relationships, offering a compassionate roadmap for rebuilding self-trust. With raw vulnerability, they explore the complex dynamics of manipulation, providing listeners with transformative insights into nervous system regulation, boundary setting, and emotional healing. Their nuanced conversation unveils the path to reclaiming personal power, emphasizing self-compassion and understanding as essential tools for recovery. Don't miss this life-changing episode – tune in now to discover the keys to healing, gain profound insights into your emotional landscape, and ta...
2024-12-0356 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships53. How Narcissistic Relationships Destroy Self-Esteem & Spark Disordered Eating With Kathryn HoltHave you ever wondered how toxic relationships could be influencing your relationship with food and your body?In this episode, we’re diving into how disordered eating often sneaks in as a coping mechanism when emotions get too messy or relationships feel like a rollercoaster you can’t get off.If you’ve felt stuck in patterns of self-criticism or body fixation, this conversation with Kathryn Holt PhD, LCSW offers insight into the deeper emotional dynamics at play—and how to break free.In this episode you will:Learn why “feeling fat” isn’t a feel...
2024-11-2742 min
The Rising Beyond PodcastEp 127: Stuck in Your Head? The Role of Emotions as You Heal from Abuse with Bre WoltaDo you ever feel like you are stuck in your head?It may mean that you need to get out of your thoughts and into your body and emotions.On this week’s episode we do a deep dive with Bre Wolta, a relationship coach and certified EFT practitioner, on her experiences leaving an abusive relationship and the invaluable lessons about boundaries, self-worth, and the illusion of "potential land” she learned on her healing journey. She explains how clinging to hope can keep you anchored in dysfunction, and emphasizes the importance of emotional recognition and proc...
2024-11-2745 min
Trust The Process PodcastEP:038 - Navigating Narcissism & Holiday Family Dynamics with Bre Wolta!Summary
This week we sit down with Relationship clarity coach, Bre Wolta! In this engaging podcast episode, Jess and Sav welcome Bre Wolta, a relationship clarity coach, to discuss the complexities of narcissism in relationships, the impact of generational trauma, and the journey of reparenting oneself.
The conversation delves into identifying red flags in relationships, the importance of self-awareness, and the challenges of navigating healthy partnerships after experiencing emotional abuse. Bre shares her insights on how to break free from unhealthy patterns and create a nurturing environment for future generations.
They delve into th...
2024-11-271h 12Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships52. Handling Narcissistic Family Members During the Holidays: Protect Your Peace & Self-Esteem With Kristin HillAre you the only one noticing a family member’s toxic behavior, while everyone else just tiptoes around it?In this episode, Kristin Hill and I dive into the unique challenges of dealing with a narcissistic family member who isn’t your partner—like a mother-in-law.If you’re struggling with difficult in-laws or close family members, this episode sheds light on maintaining your peace while preserving family ties.In this episode you will:Hear the cringey challenges Kristin experienced in having a narcissistic mother-in-law (and how she didn’t lose her mind)Under...
2024-11-2038 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships51. 3 Ways To Set & Maintain Healthy Boundaries With Narcissistic Or Emotionally Immature People This Holiday SeasonAre you dreading those holiday gatherings with people who constantly cross your boundaries or leave you feeling drained?For many, the holidays are not just a time for joy but also a source of anxiety.But what if you had clear strategies to stay in control and prioritize your well-being?In this episode, you’ll discover:The vital FIRST thing you need to do before setting a boundary with a narcissistic or emotionally immature personUseful ways to stay calm and avoid turning into the Grinch, even when family members are pushing every bu...
2024-11-1323 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships50. SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: The Massive Life Update I Never Thought I'd MakeHave you ever thought you had your life all figured out, only to get hit with a plot twist that leaves you saying, “Wait… what?!”In today’s episode, I’m spilling the beans on a major life update that even I didn’t see coming. Whether you’re feeling stuck, scared to take the next step, or just wondering if things could ever turn around, this episode is your reminder that life’s surprises can be shockingly wonderful.In this episode, you will:Hear my special announcement on this massive life change! Laugh (and maybe cringe...
2024-11-0621 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships49. Am I Codependent? How To Stop Fixing Everyone & Build Self-Esteem So You Can Have Healthier Relationships With Behk & LAHWhere are all my empathetic, loving, codependent ladies at?!Whether you are tangled in someone else’s addiction, trying to “fix” and manage others' lives, or find yourself spewing passive aggressiveness when your partner loads the dishwasher wrong, codependency takes an emotional toll that is a total doozy.This episode with my guests Behk and LAH, co-hosts of Narcissists, Gaslighters, and Cheaters Oh My!, dives into how to recognize those patterns, set healthier boundaries, and stop sacrificing your own well-being to avoid conflict or chaos.In this episode you will:Hear real life e...
2024-10-3059 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships48. How Narcissists Use Sex As Manipulation & Control In Toxic Relationships With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 2)Could the very thing that feels like connection be part of a darker cycle of abuse?This is a continuation of my conversation with Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde from Ep. 47 where we explore the complex dynamics of narcissistic abuse and her experience of having sex used as a powerful tool for manipulation.If you've ever struggled to leave a toxic relationship because of the physical intimacy that kept you hooked thinking, “I can’t leave because the sex is too good,” this conversation will resonate deeply and shed light on the emotional entanglements you may not even realiz...
2024-10-2523 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships47. Was Any Of It Real? Signs You've Been Deceived In A Narcissistic Relationship & How To Finally Understand The Heartbreak With Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 1)Trying to come to terms with knowing that your ex was someone completely opposite of who they presented to be in the beginning?This dives deep into the experience of falling for someone who presents themselves as the perfect person, only to later realize their true nature. You will hear Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde’s story and what she experienced as her ex narcissistic partner’s masks fell off during their relationship.If you are moving through the grief and confusion that surrounds this type of deception, asking yourself “Was any of this real?!” this episode is for you...
2024-10-2342 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships46. Had Another Narcissistic Relationship? How to Heal For Healthy Relationships with Tiffanie RichardsEver find yourself wondering, "Why do I keep dating people who seem to be allergic to basic empathy?" Yeah, you're not alone.In this episode, we dive into why some of us (no judgment) keep choosing partners who make us question our picker. Spoiler: Childhood. If you've ever felt like your love life could double as a reality show, this one’s for you!Here’s what you’ll get from this episode:A-ha moments about how childhood shapes our idea of love (and why it might be broken)Tiffanie’s vulnerable experience being with two...
2024-10-1654 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships45. How Gaslighting Shatters Your Ability to Trust Yourself & How to Rebuild It After A Narcissistic RelationshipHave you ever had a conversation so twisted, you walked away wondering if you’re losing your mind? How about 50 of those convos? How about an entire relationship that had you thinking you were crazy? I’ve been there too—stuck in a relationship that messes with your reality so much, you start doubting your own memory. And it totally sucks. So, buckle up for this episode where I break down gaslighting and show you how to regain the trust you’ve lost in yourself.In this episode you will:Hear real examples o...
2024-10-0927 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships44. Why Do I Keep Holding On? Trauma Bonding & Why It's So Hard To Leave An Abusive Cycle With A Narcissist With Dr. Anthony MazzellaWhy do we stay in painful, confusing narcissistic relationships even when we know they hurt us? If you’ve ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of emotional highs and devastating lows, this episode will shed light on the deeper dynamics at play in trauma-bonded relationships and how early experiences shape these unhealthy attachments.In this episode, you’ll discover:How codependency and love bombing are intertwinedThe link between trauma bonds and unresolved childhood griefHow abusive relationships become falsely associated with safety & why they are so hard to leaveThis thought-provoking discussion is fu...
2024-10-0259 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships43. If I Leave, Will I Be Okay? Finding Strength To Leave A Narcissistic Relationship When You Feel Like You Won’t Be Able To Figure It All Out With Tahj CondraIs staying in your relationship leaving you feeling drained, yet the idea of leaving has you feeling powerless?This episode dives deep into the reality of breaking free from narcissistic and painful relationships, showing how it’s not only possible to heal but how doing so can free up your mental and emotional capacity, helping you feel like yourself again.In this episode you will:Discover how to reclaim your energy, capacity, and resources when you leave a narcissistic relationshipUnderstand how to reset your parasympathetic nervous system for emotional recovery and find compassion for wh...
2024-09-2759 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships42. Why We Don't Walk Away From Red Flags & Continue Cycles of Heartbreak in Narcissistic RelationshipsEver look back on an unhealthy relationship and think, "What was I thinking—was I blind or just a professional red-flag collector?"(I’ve been there, no shame here.)If you’ve ever found yourself cringing at your past choices and wondering why you stuck around longer than a bad Netflix series, this episode dives deep into the real reasons behind those decisions—and how you can finally move on without the guilt trip.In this episode you will:Understand what fuels our dissociation from seeing the red flags are wavingThey key you need in...
2024-09-2015 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships41. Is It Emotional Abuse? Recognizing Unhealthy Behavior & How To Move From Narcissistic To Healthy Relationships With Khryzza KelleyIs it dysfunctional or is it abusive?Sometimes it can be hard to tell what type of relationship we are (or were) in because abuse doesn’t always leave a mark.In this episode Khryzza Kelley shares with us how she realized that the relationship she was in was emotionally abusive and how she found the knowing that it was time to leave. She relays her journey through trauma healing and repatterining her behaviors, and beautifully shares how she and her now husband maintain a healthy relationship - giving you a guide on what to lo...
2024-09-1359 min
Taking Up Space with Cassie KrajewskiHealing from Toxic Relationships and Narcissistic Abuse with Relationship Clarity Coach, Bre WoltaIn this episode, we welcome Bre Wolta, a relationship clarity coach, who shares her profound journey and expertise in helping women understand their relationship patterns, especially after experiencing narcissistic or emotionally manipulative relationships. Bre dives deep into her personal story of overcoming a toxic relationship and how it led her to support others facing similar struggles. She explains the nuances of narcissism, the dynamics of love bombing, and the challenges and importance of achieving self-awareness and contentment in aloneness. With a focus on embodiment and emotional regulation techniques such as EFT tapping, Bre provides valuable insights for those wanting...
2024-09-1156 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships40. Finding Self Love & Trust in Yourself So You Can Heal Heartbreak & Increase Your Self-Esteem With EFT TappingUnsure how to access that self-love thing everyone is talking about? Or are you feeling overwhelming judgement and distrust in yourself? This episode is here to help.We’re diving into the magical (okay, evidence-based) world of EFT tapping. If anxiety, self-doubt, or just a bad case of the “I-can’t-think-straight” blues are your current reality, you’re not alone. We’re exploring how this simple technique can help you regain control, feel like yourself again, and show up healthfully in relationships.In this episode you will:Learn how to deactivate your brain’s “security camera”...
2024-09-0628 min
Narcissists, Gaslighters, and Cheaters, Oh My!EXPERT POV: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships with Bre WoltaIn this special expert POV episode of "NGC, Oh My!", we welcome Bre Wolta, founder of Lucid Living and host of the podcast Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangle the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships. Bre brings her deep expertise and compassionate insights to help us navigate the complex dynamics of narcissistic relationships.Join us as we dive into the tangled web of manipulation, control, and emotional turmoil that defines these toxic connections. Bre shares her personal journey of healing and the powerful tools she developed to reclaim self-worth and find wholeness. This episode is a must-listen for...
2024-09-041h 02
Sol RisingS3E3 How to Spot a Narcissistic Relationship with Bre WoltaAre you wondering if your partner may be a narcissist or has narcissistic tendencies? Have you tried to break away from a toxic relationship only to return again? Are you sick and tired of the merry-go-round that leaves you feeling guilty, shameful, and defeated? Then this episode is for you! Join Amanda and her guest Bre Wolta, EFT and The Clearing Work™ Certified Practitioner and Relationship Clarity Coach as they discuss and explore the 4 stages common in all narcissistic relationships (not only romantic ones!): lovebombing, devaluing, discarding, and hoovering. Understand what it feels like to be in th...
2024-08-3054 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships39. Healing From Sexual Trauma: Reclaiming Safety, Pleasure & Trust In Your Body To Rebuild Self-Esteem with Shanna WiltonSexual trauma is a violation on the body and mind and to heal it, we have to tend to both.This episode dives deep into understanding how unresolved sexual trauma and toxic relationships impact our ability to connect authentically with ourselves and others - and how you can heal.We are honored to hear my friend Shanna Wilton as she shares her journey of finding safety, trust and pleasure again in her body after repeated sexual trauma beginning in childhood. We talk about how the consequences of these traumas led her down a path of...
2024-08-3047 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships38. How Will I Trust Myself or My Decisions Again? Rebuilding Intuition After The Heartbreak Of a Narcissistic RelationshipHas your intuition let you down, leaving you questioning your ability to trust yourself and your decisions in relationships?If you're struggling with self-doubt and finding it hard to trust your inner voice, this episode is for you. We dive deep into understanding how to reconnect with your intuition and rebuild the trust that's essential for making confident decisions, especially after you’ve been burned in a narcissistic or otherwise toxic relationship.In this episode you will:Learn how to prove to yourself your intuition is working (and what you need in order to be...
2024-08-2320 minHeartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships37. Does It Have To Be The End? Deciding if You Should Break Up With Someone You Love In Order to Have a Healthy RelationshipIf you are ping-ponging back and forth, one moment sure you should leave, and the next feeling waves of guilt and pressure to not hurt your partner by leaving them, this episode is here to help you set down the paddle and cut through the noise.This quick 20 minute episode will help you reframe breakups and find the confidence hidden in your deeper knowing.In this episode you will:Be able to clearly identify the signs that a relationship isn’t serving youUnderstand on a higher level why breaking up is really benefiting the bo...
2024-08-1620 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships36. Is He a Narcissist? 3 Questions To Clarify The Mindf*ck So You Can Heal From the HeartbreakIf you’ve been mindf*cked thinking, “IS he a narcissist?”, stuck on not being able to find the answer while second guessing everything, this episode is for you.I’ve been there, and together we will piece together some understanding around the answer that you seek 💡.In this episode, we’ll cover:3 simple yet critical questions to ask yourself to help you piece out narcissismWhat you can do to find clarity and truly heal if you do feel like you’re in (or have been in) a relationship with someone who is narcissisticAn uncommon truth...
2024-08-0919 minAdult Child of DysfunctionEp 89 The Power of Clearing Work and EFT to Heal Past Trauma: Guest Bre WoltaIn this episode, we delve into the complex and often painful journey of healing from toxic relationships and childhood trauma with Bre Wolta, a certified EFT and The Clearing Work™ practitioner, and a Relationship Clarity Coach. Bre specializes in helping women disentangle themselves from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships, guiding them towards becoming the confident and secure women they’ve always wanted to be.Bre’s passion for this work is deeply personal. Having grown up in a household marked by addiction and her parents separating and divorcing several times, Bre took on the roles of peacemak...
2024-08-0846 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships35. Have Your Relationships Been on a Pedestal or Solid Table? Build Your Self-Esteem and Have Healthy RelationshipsReady to ditch those wobbly, one-legged toxic relationships for something that won’t tip over at the first sign of trouble?In this episode, we dive into a a powerful metaphor shared by a client of mine that highlights the stark difference between relationships built on shaky ground and those that offer true stability and balance.In this episode you will:- Hear one client’s life changing metaphor describing how they now view healthy vs unhealthy relationships- Discover the importance of not putting your relationship higher than everything else in y...
2024-08-0213 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships34. Is it Love Bombing or Genuine Love? How to Differentiate Between Healthy & Narcissistic RelationshipsAre you struggling to differentiate between genuine affection and the overwhelming rush of love bombing in your relationships?If you've ever felt swept off your feet by someone who seemed too perfect too soon, you might be dealing with love bombing—a tactic used in narcissistic relationships to manipulate and control. In this episode, we break down how to identify love bombing and distinguish it from a healthy relationship, ensuring you're equipped to recognize and avoid getting sucked into narcissistic relationships.In this episode you will:Learn to spot the red flags 🚩of lo...
2024-07-2627 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships33. Overcoming the Fear of Leaving a Toxic Relationship, Rebuilding Self-Esteem & Learning to Be With Your Inner Child (client story)Is there fear that consumes you when you think about ending your relationship?Going back and forth in your decision because of layers of fear you’re feeling is something my former client Laura Herrmann experienced before she divorced her ex husband. We talk about how she moved through it all and came into her knowing, as well as the inner child healing that allowed her to finally get her light (and her groove) back in her romantic and professional life.In this episode, you will:- Hear how Laura transcended her fear of...
2024-07-1754 min
Shattered to Unbreakable: The Reclaim Podcast77. The Fall: After a Breakup w/ Relationship Coach Bre WoltaHey everyone! In this episode of Shattered to Unbreakable, I had an insightful chat with relationship coach Bre Wolta about navigating life after a breakup. We dive into the whirlwind of emotions and fears that often accompany a breakup, and we touch on the unpredictable nature of grief. Bre and I discuss how crucial it is to regulate your nervous system and rediscover your identity during this time.
Bre shares some fantastic advice on setting boundaries and the importance of clearing out physical and digital reminders of your ex.
We offer practical steps for moving...
2024-07-1639 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships32. How Growing Up in Dysfunction Effects Our Ability to Have Healthy Relationships & How to Heal Attachment WoundsHave you rolled your eyes at the thought of doing inner child work, or avoided looking at your childhood trauma even though you know you’ve been through some sh*t?Studies have shown the consequences that childhood trauma has on our brain structure as well as our attachment abilities in adulthood. Today, Tammy Vincent and I sit down and dive into how a traumatic childhood has shaped both of us, our 12-step work in an Adult Child of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) program, and how we finally learned to reparent our inner parts so that we...
2024-07-1248 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships31. Trauma Bonding: What It Really Is & How to Avoid It So You Can Move Towards Healthy RelationshipsHave you been irresistibly drawn to certain men, even when they’re not good for you?This episode explores the concept of trauma bonding, revealing why we often feel magnetically attracted to people who ultimately cause us pain, and why it is so damn hard to leave them. It sheds light on how past childhood trauma shapes our present relationships, a topic that can resonate deeply if you’ve ever struggled to break free from a toxic relationship bond.In this episode you will:Understand the psychological mechanisms behind trauma bondsLearn the stages of trau...
2024-07-0535 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships30. The REBRAND Episode (Behind the Scenes)!You’re about to get an inside look into why I decided to rebrand this podcast.This episode is vulnerable, you guys! I share many of the fears that I had/have in making this change along with how I realized I was playing small. There are such good parallels here to any sort of change that you are experiencing in your life.It’s one you won’t want to miss ❤️PS. The old podcast name was Lucid Living with Bre: Learn to Live + Love Awake if you hear me reference it in older e...
2024-06-2815 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships29. How to Know if You're Ready to Start Dating Again After Narcissistic RelationshipsDo you feel completely lost on when it's the right time to start dating again after a painful breakup?Maybe you’ve exited a narcissistic relationship, been betrayed, and/or had the rug pulled out from under you — leaving you heartbroken, confused, and unsure when you’ll be “healed enough” to get back out there.In this episode, we'll breakdown the simple things you need to know in order to decide.Tune in to learn:- The 5 key questions to ask yourself to gauge your readiness- The surprising answer to...
2024-06-2123 min
A Level DeeperSigns You Might Be in a Toxic Relationship (and What to Do About It) with Bre WoltaBre Wolta, a relationship clarity coach, dropped by the studio (its virtual) to chat about how to identify toxicity in relationships and more importantly, how to get out of those situations and into healthy ones. We talk about Bre’s story of starting to accept who she is and how we can all use re-parenting and parts work to bring a never level of acceptance towards ourselves. Then, we dive into a toxic relationship that Bre was in, what it looked like, the toll it took, and ultimately how she left and created a new reality for herself and...
2024-06-1859 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships28. What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like? 5 Green Flags to Look For When Dating After Narcissistic AbuseDo you long for real love but aren’t sure what a healthy relationship looks likeIf you're tired of feeling unfulfilled or anxious in your relationships, perhaps attracting narcissistic people over and over again, understanding what makes a relationship healthy can transform your love life and help you break free from toxic rollercoaster vom-fest 🤢.In this episode you will:- Learn the 5 greenest of green flags that signal a strong and healthy relationship- Feel more equipped to date and know what you are looking for so you don’t waste y...
2024-06-1420 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships27. How to Protect Your Child's Mental Health & Save Your Sanity While Co-Parenting with a NarcissistHow do you protect your children (and yourself) from the toxic effects of a narcissistic co-parent?Co-parenting with someone who displays narcissistic traits can feel like navigating a minefield. In this episode, Margeaux Groene MA, LPC and I give you crucial advice to help you manage this tough situation and shield your kids from emotional harm.In this episode, you will:Learn how to spot the 4 major red flags of narcissistic people, so you can recognize what you’re dealing withDiscover strategies to support your children's emotional wellbeing when they’re dealing with a narc...
2024-06-0751 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships26. Why You Went Back to Your Narcissistic Ex (No, You’re Not Crazy) And How To Break the Toxic Cycle To Avoid HeartbreakEver wondered why you keep going back to your narcissistic ex, even when you know it's a bad idea 🤯? You're not alone, and you're definitely not crazy.In this episode, we dive into the mind-f*ckery of narcissistic relationships. We'll uncover why these toxic connections mess with your head and why it's so hard to stop going back. If you're struggling to understand your own behavior or feel stuck in a toxic cycle with a narcissist, this episode is for you.In this episode you’ll learn:- The specific characteristics of a narci...
2024-05-2435 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships25. What To Do After The Breakup: 4 Steps to Help You Move Through The Grief & Heartbreak Of A Narcissistic RelationshipAre you struggling to see a way through the heartbreak 💔 of a recent breakup (especially if that person was narcissistic and you’re an empath)?If you're feeling overwhelmed by pain and unsure how to begin healing or regain your self-esteem, this episode offers 4 practical steps to help you take control and start moving forward.In this episode, you’ll discover:- The top 4 actionable steps to alleviate your immediate pain ❤️🩹- Why these steps are crucial for a healthy grieving process so you can move on- Insights on how to manage...
2024-05-1726 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships24. How Do I Know When It’s Time to Leave My Relationship? How Do I Trust My Decision? With Hailee JohnsonAre you second-guessing yourself on if you should leave your relationship?In a world where empathy often blurs boundaries, discover how to navigate compassion while still honoring your own needs and following your intuitive knowing. This episode is full of tips and inspiration as Hailee Johnson and I talk about her very experience trusting her gut and making the solid choice to leave her relationship.In this episode you will learn:How to trust your gut and know for certain that you want to leaveThe vital lessons she learned from giving her ex the...
2024-05-1052 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships23. Why Can’t I Stop Thinking About My Ex’s Betrayal? The REAL Reason + How To Shift Out Of It To Heal From The HeartbreakEver found yourself stuck in the endless loop of analyzing why your ex cheated on you?In this episode, we delve into why our minds obsessively seek answers to questions like "Why did they cheat?" and explore how to move beyond this so you can actually heal.Gain clarity on:- The top 3 reasons you can’t stop thinking 😵💫 about your ex’s betrayal- The #1 way to break free from the cycle of rumination so you can move through your heartbreak 💔- Why it is SO normal to want answers/ap...
2024-05-0319 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships22. Am I Anxiously Attached or In the Wrong Relationship? How to Move Towards Secure Attachment & Healthy Relationships With Eli HarwoodHave you gone down the attachment style rabbit hole in hopes of becoming more securely attached so you can fix a painful relationship?Whether you’re insecurely or securely attached, the right relationship will help you move toward security. This episode delves into the roots of attachment styles and childhood experiences, offering insights on how to navigate towards healthier connections in adulthood.We explore:The fluidity of attachment styles and how we can shift from anxious, avoidant or secure depending on who we are in relationship withThe attraction we have towards familiar dynamics from ch...
2024-04-2657 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships21. Conscious Uncoupling: Breaking Up on Good Terms & Remaining Friends With Sacha BryceIs it possible to consciously end a relationship on good terms and remain friends?Join us for an enlightening discussion on conscious uncoupling, where Sacha Bryce shares her personal journey and invaluable insights on gracefully transitioning from partners to friends after a 5-year relationship.In this episode, we explore:- The importance of establishing a conscious relationship foundation and why it takes two to tango in the uncoupling dance- Peeling back the layers of letting go consciously and the significance of self-honesty throughout- Flipping the script on...
2024-04-1952 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships20. Empowering Moms: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse & Creating a Healthy Home With Brandi BabinNot sure how to heal from narcissistic and post-separation abuse while also raising healthy kids?Join us as Brandi Babin shares her journey of reclaiming power from her narcissistic ex, not just for herself but to cultivate a healthy environment for her children.If you're navigating post-separation abuse as a mom, this episode is your guide.Discover:- Brandi's approach to helping her kids process emotions, debunking the myth of perpetual happiness- The transformative impact of epigenetics in breaking generational trauma- Recognizing the cycle of...
2024-04-1255 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships19. The Therapy That Can Heal Your Trauma, Increase Self-Esteem & Prepare You For Healthy Relationships With Margeaux Groene LPCEMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) has become a popular tool for trauma healing, and in this episode Margeaux Groene LPC walks us through the ins and outs of what it is and how this somatic therapy can help unlock your trauma.This episode lays out examples of the types of issues that you could bring to an EMDR session so that you can put yourself in an imagination station and see if this therapeutic modality might be right for you.Listen for:✨ An understanding around what trauma actually is and why it ha...
2024-04-0552 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships18. Yes, Healthy Relationships Have Conflict! How to Communicate Effectively & Strengthen Your RelationshipIs a relationship without any conflict healthy 🤔? How do you have conflict without fighting? And how do you get past your fear of using your damn voice in the first place?!Athena McCullough LMFT walks us through her own evolution of being shut off from her emotions and conflict avoidant like “an appliance that just plugged in and ran,” to a woman with a voice, opinions, and a distress tolerance wide enough to share them all with her partner. We talk about how to bring up conflict (step by step) in relationships, and especially what to do to stay...
2024-03-151h 03
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships17. Am I Worthy Even if He Doesn’t Choose Me? Healing From Heartbreak With Deanne VincentAre you worthy even if your partner leaves? What if they don’t want to do the work that they know is necessary for the relationship to work…are you still enough?Deanne Vincent shares with us her journey moving from the powerless place of “choose me” to balancing her internal feminine energy so that she can show up as a more secure self in relationships. We talk about worthiness, belonging, healthy relationship sex, and liberating our grandmothers' relationship stories so that we aren’t starving for a man to save us from ourselves.Listen for:
2024-03-081h 11Shattered to Unbreakable: The Reclaim Podcast56. Nervous System Reset - EFT Tapping w/ Bre WoltaHold onto your hats, folks! I've got Bre Walta in the house with some tips on how to reset your nervous system when you start feeling those Fight or Flight, Freeze or Fawn feelings.
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) tapping – the superhero of anxiety, panic or depression!
Picture this: Your emotions doing the cha-cha with Bre's meridian system wisdom. Yes, it's a dance party, and everyone's invited! She spills the tea on tapping points that act like little secret passages to calm your nervous system. It's like discovering the cheat codes to your emotions. It's like gi...
2024-03-0528 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships16. Oops, I Survived + Forgave Myself After Narcissistic Abuse With Kate Nelson*Trigger warning 🚨! This episode contains information around miscarriage and abuse that may be hard to hear. If this is sensitive for you, please skip past minutes 16-19.How do you meet your past self with compassion as you begin to realize what was really happening in your relationship? How do you stop the narratives that your ex used to say about you from becoming your truth and truly heal?Kate Nelson is a Mental Health Professional and Certified Yoga Instructor and true freaking survivor. She courageously shares with us not only about her journey through mis...
2024-03-0158 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships15. Can I Make My Partner Go To Couples Therapy? The 3 Preconditions For Effective Couples Work That May Save Your RelationshipHow can you get your partner to agree to go to couples therapy? Is it possible to come back from betrayal? Are there any reasons couples work wouldn’t be a good option?Jason and I share tips for women who are navigating couples therapy (especially with a resistant partner) so you can feel empowered and lean into the third party support that can help you set boundaries and move from ambivalence to certainty.This episode will answer many of your frustrating questions and help you see that you, in fact, are not responsible for 100% of...
2024-02-2355 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships14. What it Means to Feel Your Feelings & Increase Self-Esteem With Amanda McKoy FlanaganSpending a good chunk of her life avoiding feelings and actively numbing with alcohol and chaos, Amanda vulnerably shares how she’s finally found comfort in her emotions and has built trust with herself so she doesn’t have to run and hide anymore.We chat about her memoir, Trust Yourself to Be All In: Safe to Love and Let Go and how the principles she outlines there have allowed her to not only find meaning in her suffering, but to create an inseverable love for herself. How…? Hint: By welcoming all of her emotions with patience and se...
2024-02-0257 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships13. When the Toxic Relationship You Have is With Your Body with Sydney Greene Registered Dietitian + NutritionistToxic relationships come in all forms, and whether you NEED abs in order to feel worthy, or you NEED your partner to be happy so you feel okay, or you NEED the bottle of wine to decompress every night, dependence on the external thing can cause toxicity to seep through and through.Sydney shares with us her journey navigating recovery from an eating disorder, substances and codependency. She shares her fears of perfection and how they led her to drastically alter her body and spirit to become someone she was never meant to be, and how finding t...
2024-01-261h 08
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships12. I Don’t Want to Be With Him, But Who Am I Without Him? Healing From The Heartbreak Of Narcissistic Relationships With Silvana Dargel (client story)If you’ve felt yourself slipping away into a version of yourself that you no longer recognize (or even like), but you are scared sh*tless of who you would be without the man you’re with, please listen to Silvana’s story.Silvana is a client of mine who vulnerably shares the strength it has taken her to leave a narcissistic relationship, shift her looping narrative of, “I’m no one without him,” and feel peace around the woman that she is becoming (with or without a man). We also talk about what it is like to date agai...
2024-01-191h 14
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships11. Raising Daughters Who Say, “Mommy is Strong,” Because They Saw You Break the Toxic Relationship Cycle with Jamie MadsenTo me, a woman who leaves an abusive relationship despite her fear of being alone forever, despite her confidence being below level 0 because of the manipulation and gaslighting, despite society’s label that you are a “failure” if you end a relationship…is f*cking strong. Period.It is my hope that this episode can help you redefine strength. Jamie Madsen is an Online Business Coach who not only found the courage to take herself and her daughter out of a harmful relationship, but has actualized her soul’s desire of becoming a successful entrepreneur all while shifting t...
2024-01-121h 11
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships10. Waking Up From a Toxic Relationship Nightmare, Rebuilding My Confidence & Stepping Into Real Love (My Story)When I say, “You are not alone.” I mean it. My passion for this work comes from being there, in the confusion and pain just like you, unsure how I was ever going to find the absolute knowing that leaving my now ex was the right choice, no less find a new man who could redefine what love meant in every way. Through my healing I’ve become the confident, self-assured woman that I’ve always dreamed of being, and on this side I’m able to experience a relationship that the old me would have rolled her eyes at...
2024-01-0656 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships9. Why Dating as a Millennial Feels So Frustrating & The Tips You Need To Keep Going To Find a Healthy RelationshipIf dating has you throwing up your hands like, “I’m f*ckin' done” this episode may just breathe a little life back into you. Marisa Kowalski is a yoga teacher and lover of deep conversations and today she takes us through her depths.She shares how losing her father reframed how important it was to not waste her finite time on people who don’t align, what it is like to date as a millennial (and how Abercrombie screwed us), why yoga is not just rainbows and Lululemon, and what it feels like to turn toward grief in...
2023-12-291h 16
Thriving in Recovery#54 - Thriving in Recovery with Bre WoltaWelcome, dear listeners, to another empowering episode of "Thriving in Recovery”. It's your host, Bryce and I'm here alongside my co-host Justin. Today, we are thrilled to welcome back the incredible Bre Wolta for the second time. Bre's work is nothing short of fantastic, and we are eager to share her empowering message.
Bre specializes in helping women awaken to life, guiding them to consciously step outside of their default patterns. Her mission is to assist individuals in finding alignment and evolving into the incredible beings they are meant to be. In this episode, we delve into Br...
2023-12-291h 16
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships8. Loneliness + Ayahuasca + What it Means to Surrender with Adriana Balentine LCSW, CACIIIf you’ve considered an Ayahuasca experience and are thinking, “Ummm…that seems terrifying,” you aren’t alone. Adriana Balentine is a Licensed Psychotherapist, Space Holder and Owner of Wise Warrior Retreats, and in this episode she takes us on the wild ride that led her to this potent medicine that has changed her life. From suddenly going mostly blind in one eye, to having her life flipped upside down and narrowed from Lyme disease, Adriana shares all the moments that gently invited her to surrender and learn to become her own ally.Towards the end of thi...
2023-12-221h 12
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships7. People Pleasing + Knowing When to Leave A Toxic Relationship + Building Trust Using Breathwork With Amy Jenkins (client story)It can be so frustrating to find yourself people-pleasing to make sure everyone else is okay, and abandoning yourself by doing whatever it takes to not have a relationship end. I know... I’ve been there too. And in this episode, my past client and dear friend Amy Jenkins shares her experience of learning how to choose herself even when that meant leaving a 18 year marriage. She shares how breathwork has been a tool to help her trust herself again and how mindful she is in her now partnership to not fall back into old familiar patterns....
2023-12-151h 12
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships6. How to Set Boundaries (That Work) & Communicate Effectively In Healthy Relationships Without Feeling GuiltyAfraid to set a boundary for fear of hurting the other person? Or have you tried to set boundaries and people just walk all over them?This episode will help to demystify what boundaries are, and show you exactly how to set them (with real life examples) so you don’t feel defeated. You’ll also leave this episode with an understanding of the skill of EFT tapping and how to use it to regulate your nervous system, in real time, when you are freaking the f*ck out and don’t know how to calm your emotio...
2023-12-0852 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships5. Trusting Your Intuition & Using EFT Tapping to Reconnect With Your Emotions & Have Healthy Relationships with Sacha Bryce, EFT Trainer and FacilitatorFeeling disconnected from your intuition? Do you have no idea what people are saying when they tell you to, “Be more in your body?” In this episode, Sacha Bryce one of my beautiful teachers (and the woman who trained me in EFT tapping) shares how she finally trusted to her intuition for guidance as she decided to leave a relationship and ultimately took the actions to find her soul’s purpose. She also explains EFT tapping, and how it is one of the most accessible tools that can help you reconnect your knowing to your heart, and step o...
2023-12-011h 01
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships4. The 5 Things You Need To Heal From The Heartbreak Of A Narcissistic Relationship In Order To Have A Healthy OneAfraid to bring your old patterns into your new relationship? Not sure what a healthy relationship is supposed to feel like? I got you. In this episode we are going to cover the vital elements you need in order to show up as your best damn self with your new (or future) healthy partner. And don’t worry, I love practical tools and examples so there are plenty in here to guide you.Listen for:✨ The 5 vital elements you need to show up healthfully and not fall back into old patterns✨ Practi...
2023-11-2451 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships3. The Psychology of a Narcissist with Narcissism Expert, James Marrugo MA, NCC, LPCCIf you’ve ever been with someone who is narcissistic, you know it feels like a mindf*ck of an experience. Therapist and Narcissism Expert, James Marrugo gives us a look inside the narcissistic mind to help better make sense of everything from love bombing to gaslighting. He shares the vital information that you will want to hear if you think you may be (or have been) in relationship with someone who has narcissistic traits, and tips on how to never fall for someone like that again.Listen for:✨ Signs 🚩 to look for in some...
2023-11-171h 04
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships2. Gaslighting + Love Bombing + All Things Narcissistic Abuse with Brandi BabinBrandi Babin is a Habit & Productivity Strategist and Author of Reclaim: A Journey To Self Discovery, and a strong ass woman who knows all too well the effects of narcissistic and post-separation abuse. She vulnerably shares her experience within the narcissism cycle, why the love bombing felt too euphoric to leave, how gaslighting felt believable, why she kept going back, and finally how she grieved not only her ex, but released and found peace with the woman she was.Listen for:✨ Love bombing vs. falling in love (how to tell the difference)✨ Signs of b...
2023-11-101h 01
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships1. Self-Abandonment + Sobriety + Sitting in Discomfort To Rebuild Self-Esteem With Stacey EmbersStacey Embers is a lightworker who found recovery from drugs, alcohol, sex + love, and codependency addictions, and now experiences living as her most authentic self. Hear how she moved through years of self-abandonment and shame in unhealthy relationships and has now learned how to reconnect to her intuition, build trust back with herself, feel feelings instead of analyzing them, and go inward despite the discomforting process of self-work. Oh, yeah and how being playful keeps her sane.Listen for:✨ How to become discerning so you don't self-abandon✨ Parts work + building trust with your part...
2023-11-031h 19Thriving in Recovery#36 - Thriving in Recovery with Bre WoltaWelcome to the Thriving in Recovery podcast, where recovered individuals share their stories of overcoming adversity to inspire others on their own path to recovery. In this episode, hosts Bryce Givens and Justin Harris sit down with Bre Wolta, a true beacon of light in the community.
Bre is passionately dedicated to guiding women toward freedom from dysfunctional relationship patterns, helping them rediscover their true selves. Having personally experienced the confusion, guilt, and self-doubt that often accompany toxic relationships, Bre brings a deep empathy and understanding to her work. Through her coaching programs, she equips her clients...
2023-06-031h 08Shattered to Unbreakable: The Reclaim Podcast26. Bre Wolta - Why Healthy Relationships Feel Boring Part 2In a toxic relationship, our brains are hooked on the roller coaster ride of chemicals they are subjected to. We are taught to depend on this as the way that it should be. Hopefully, we know by now that's not true, but our chemically-dependent brains are harder to convince. So what happens when we finally find ourselves in a healthy relationship? We get bored! And we find ourselves craving, in one form or another, the excitement we had grown accustomed to.
Are you ready to break that cycle?
Join...
2023-05-2324 minShattered to Unbreakable: The Reclaim Podcast25. Bre Wolta - Why Healthy Relationships Feel Boring Part 1In a toxic relationship, our brains are hooked on the roller coaster ride of chemicals they are subjected to. We are taught to depend on this as the way that it should be. Hopefully, we know by now that's not true, but our chemically-dependent brains are harder to convince. So what happens when we finally find ourselves in a healthy relationship? We get bored! And we find ourselves craving, in one form or another, the excitement we had grown accustomed to.
Are you ready to break that cycle?
Join...
2023-05-1629 min
She Believed She Could™ PodcastHow To Reconnect To Your Intuition with Bre WoltaBre Wolta, EFT and The Clearing Work™ Certified Practitioner, is a Relationship Clarity Coach who is passionate about helping women release dysfunctional relationship patterns and find themselves again. Bre's own impactful healing journey and ability to hold safe space allows her to walk alongside clients while they heal patterns that keep them stuck in unhealthy relationships, learn how to trust themselves again, replenish their energy, tend to their nervous system, and confidently start putting themselves first. As the owner of Lucid Living with Bre, she offers signature group coaching containers and a variety of healing spaces. She gently invites cl...
2023-04-2526 min