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The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 317: How to Disengage from Your Ex and Find Your Power with Virginia GilbertIn this episode, Brook Olsen is joined by licensed therapist and author Virginia Gilbert to explore one of the most challenging yet empowering steps in high-conflict co-parenting: learning to disengage. Drawing from her book Transcending High Conflict Divorce: How to Disengage from Your Ex and Find Your Power, Virginia shares essential tools to stop the cycle of reactivity, regulate your nervous system, and reclaim your peace—regardless of what your ex does. If you're stuck in conflict, feeling triggered, or unsure how to protect your kids from ongoing tension, this episode offers a clear, compassionate path forward. Learn how ra...
2025-12-1953 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 316: Disengaging From The Psychopath with Attorney and Author Kerrie Droban ZhivagoIn this powerful episode, Brook Olsen is joined by attorney and author Kerrie Droban Zhivago to unpack the terrifying yet often hidden reality of dealing with a partner who exhibits psychopathic traits. Drawing from her book Surviving a Psychopath, Kerrie shares hard-earned insights on how to recognize psychological abuse, protect yourself in court, and begin the long road to emotional recovery. They discuss the difference between narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths, how these individuals manipulate the legal system, and why disengagement—both emotionally and legally—is the key to reclaiming your life. If you've ever felt gaslit, emotionally trapped, or unsu...
2025-12-0557 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 315: Children In Between with Dr. Donald GordonIn this episode, Brook Olsen welcomes Dr. Donald Gordon, founder of the Center for Divorce Education and creator of Children in Between, to discuss how parents can reduce conflict and protect their kids during and after divorce. With decades of research and real-world experience, Dr. Gordon shares how even small shifts in communication, emotional regulation, and mindfulness can make a lasting impact on children's well-being. You'll learn how chronic conflict affects kids' brain development, how to model emotional stability, and why co-parents don't need to be perfect—just intentional. If you're navigating high-conflict parenting or want to break generational cy...
2025-11-2145 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 314: Reconnecting to Yourself The Spiritual Journey of Divorce with Tamara RowlesIn this episode, Brook Olsen sits down with attorney, mediator, and DivorceWave founder Tamara Rowles to explore divorce as a spiritual journey and an opportunity for self-reinvention. Together, they dive into how high-conflict separations—while painful—can also become a gateway to growth, self-awareness, and long-term peace. Tamara shares how mindfulness, nervous system regulation, and intentional disengagement can shift the entire divorce dynamic, protect your kids, and help you reclaim your power. Whether you're just entering the process or stuck in cycles of reactivity, this episode offers practical tools, insight, and a powerful reminder: healing starts from within.
2025-11-0753 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 313: Narcissist's Counterpart Echo with Author of Rethinking Narcissism Dr.Craig MalkinIn this episode, Brook Olsen is joined once again by Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, to explore the lesser-known counterpart to narcissism: echoism. Through the lens of Greek mythology and modern psychology, they unpack how those who fear being "too much" often find themselves entangled in toxic dynamics with narcissistic partners. Dr. Malkin explains how echoism—marked by self-silencing, people-pleasing, and a fear of taking up space—is a survival response rooted in early family systems. Together, they discuss how cultivating healthy anger, reclaiming agency, and practicing mindful disengagement can break the cycle of negative intimacy and lead...
2025-10-2454 min
Vininspo! podcastVininspo! Episode 22: Gwyn Olsen, HenschkeI told Gwyn Olsen when I first met her that I somehow expected her to be stern. It wasn’t the first time she’d heard that—apparently, it’s how she’d come across in photographs in the wine press. In reality, she is anything but; sharp, warm and witty, I was intrigued by how her mind worked, and how that feeds into what she creates.I first heard of Gwyn during what seems like her breakthrough year of 2014, when she was named Young Winemaker of the Year in the now-defunct Gourmet Traveller WINE magazine. She was also n...
2025-08-1557 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 312: Unraveling old patterns and reconnecting to self With AnnMarie CheresoIn this episode, Brook talks with conscious relationship coach Annmarie Chereso about how to break free from unconscious patterns that fuel conflict—especially in co-parenting. Annmarie shares her personal journey through divorce and how parts work and nervous system regulation helped her reclaim her power. They explore the role of self-awareness, compassion, and learning to respond from presence rather than fear. A powerful conversation for anyone looking to heal and build healthier relationships with their children—and themselves. Learn more about AnnMarie Chereso at her website: https://annmariechereso.me/ For exclusive membership perks join our membe...
2025-08-0151 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 311: Radical Listening Beatin the Loneliness Epidemic and Building Deeper Human ConnectionsIn this episode of the High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast, Brook Olsen sits down with therapist and author Christian Van Norberg to explore the power of radical listening—a practice that goes beyond active listening to foster deep connection and emotional regulation. They discuss how presence, curiosity, and internal awareness can help you disengage from conflict, stay grounded, and support your children without getting pulled into drama. Whether you're navigating court stress or everyday parenting challenges, this conversation offers practical insight into staying calm and connected. Listen now and discover how radical listening can transform the wa...
2025-06-3053 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 310: Covert Narcissism and Family Court with Kelli AvalloneIn this episode, Brook sits down with family law attorney Kelli Avallone to unpack the tricky dynamics of covert narcissism in custody battles and high-conflict divorces. They explore why labeling a co-parent as a narcissist can backfire, how courts really view psychological evaluations, and why focusing on evidence-based behavior is more effective than diagnosis. Kelli shares what covert narcissistic traits can look like in family court and how parents can respond strategically while keeping children out of the conflict. Learn more about Kelli Avallone at her website: https://atty-avallone.com/ For exclusive membership...
2025-05-231h 06The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 309: Mindsets for Surviving Divorce with Kate AnthonyIn this episode, Brook sits down with divorce coach Kate Anthony to unpack the mindsets that truly help during divorce, especially in high-conflict co-parenting situations. They discuss why emotional reactions can backfire, how to shift from wanting "fairness" to focusing on what's legal and strategic, and the importance of boundaries and radical acceptance. With practical tips and compassionate advice, this episode is a valuable guide for anyone facing the challenges of separation. Learn more about Kate Anthony at her website: https://www.selfloverecovery.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Di...
2025-04-2500 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 320: The Black Hole of High Conflict with Brook OlsenIf you're stuck in endless loops with a high-conflict ex, Brook Olsen wants you to stop expecting them to change, and start changing how you respond. Brook is a Certified Parenting Educator, Divorce Coach, and author of The Black Hole of High Conflict. In this conversation, we get real about what happens when you stop feeding the conflict, why parallel parenting is often the only way forward, and how choosing not to engage isn't weakness, it's clarity. Plus, Brook offers a framework that isn't just theory, it's deeply practical and actionable, especially when the legal s...
2025-04-2444 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 308: Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD) and It's ExpressionsIn this episode, Brook welcomes back Ross Rosenberg, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome and The Codependency Revolution, to dive deeper into the concept of Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD)—a groundbreaking reframing of codependency. Together, they unpack how early attachment trauma shapes relationship dynamics, leading many into repeated cycles of caretaking, emotional depletion, and entanglement with narcissistic partners. Brook and Ross explore the toxic push-pull that arises in high-conflict co-parenting and divorce, where unresolved SLDD patterns often collide with personality disorders. Through the lens of disengagement and strategic self-awareness, they offer insight on how to stop "wrestling wi...
2025-04-0443 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 307: Body Language and Conflict with John RileyIn this episode, Brook speaks with John Riley from Gentle Response about the impact of body language in high-conflict co-parenting. They explore the ACE method—Appearance, Communication, and Engagement—and how small adjustments in posture, tone, and presence can de-escalate tense situations, whether in court, mediation, or daily interactions. Brook and John also discuss the power of self-awareness and emotional regulation in reducing conflict. By staying composed and intentional, parents can shift dynamics, model healthy behavior for their children, and create a more stable environment. Tune in for practical strategies to navigate conflict with confidence. Lear...
2025-03-2053 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 306: Growing Through Conflict with author Dana CaspersenIn this episode, Brook Olsen welcomes conflict engagement specialist and bestselling author Dana Caspersen to discuss how conflict can be an opportunity for growth rather than a problem to avoid. Dana shares insights from her book Conflict Is an Opportunity and explores how our mindset and belief systems shape the way we handle difficult situations. They dive into the power of shifting attention, practical tools for breaking old conflict habits, and an exercise designed to help reframe conflict dynamics. Whether you're navigating co-parenting challenges or everyday disagreements, this episode offers valuable strategies to engage with curiosity and...
2025-03-0646 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 305: Creating Better Outcomes: The Power of Initial Conditions with Karen McNennyIn this episode, Brook welcomes Karen McEnany, The Good Divorce Coach, to discuss how setting the right foundation in divorce can significantly impact long-term outcomes. Divorce inherently carries conflict, but the way we navigate the early stages—our initial conditions—can determine whether the process will be calm, moderately contentious, or high-conflict. Brook and Karen explore how parents can approach divorce not as a battle, but as a transformation—one that prioritizes family over finances, mitigates unnecessary pain, and fosters healthier co-parenting relationships. They discuss the importance of intention, emotional regulation, and recognizing the difference between what truly...
2025-02-2747 min
The Self-Love Recovery PodcastDivorcing a Narcissist? Top Expert Tips to Survive & Thrive in a High-Conflict DivorceRoss Rosenberg, a psychotherapist with 38 years of experience, discusses high-conflict divorces with Brook Olsen, a Certified Parenting Educator, Divorce Mediator, Divorce Coach, and author of The Black Hole of High Conflict. Although Ross and Brook have different backgrounds, their understanding and solutions for achieving positive results in high-conflict divorces with narcissists are similar and complementary. The Self-Love Recovery Institute's Self-Love Mailbag is mentioned in the podcast. To be considered for the question answered at the end of the podcast, email us at help@ selfloverecovery.com In addition, an exclusive discount of a FREE seminar...
2025-02-2138 min
The Good Divorce Show™S3E3 | Navigating High Conflict Divorce: Insights from Brook Olsen, Certified Parenting Educator and Divorce MediatorIn this episode of The Good Divorce Show™, Karen McNenny speaks with Brook Olsen, a Certified Parenting Educator and Divorce Mediator, about navigating high conflict divorces. They discuss the importance of understanding attachment styles, the impact of trauma on parenting, and the dynamics of introducing new relationships post-divorce. Brook shares insights from his personal journey and professional experience, emphasizing the need for emotional regulation and the distinction between co-parenting and parallel parenting strategies.
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2025-02-1340 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 302 Conflict Detox Reducing Emotional Reactivity with Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry from Been There Got OutIn this episode Brook and his guests Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry from the podcast Been There Got Out discuss the notion of High Conflict Detox. This is where a person/parent is stuck deeply in the habitual cycle of conflict and the nervous system maintains a high level of chronic activation. In order to break the cycle one must endure the discomfort of disengagement, develop a self awareness of the cycle in order to break free of the strong impulse to engage in and continue the conflict. This conflict pattern is very much physiological and can be mastered...
2024-12-3008 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 301: The Science and Art of Engagement with Author Rich CarrIn this episode Brook has guest Rich Carr author of Surprised: The Science and Art of Engagement. Rich brings a bright and engaging look at how we as humans respond or react to an outside stimulus and in understanding the workings of the various part of the brain dictate how you will engage in or disengage with that stimulus. In high conflict or for that matter any relational interaction, getting to the solution with the least amount of conflict and the optimal exploration is the goal. Rich goes into how you can install intention and preprogram action to reduce...
2024-12-1314 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastPolyvagal Theory and The Science of Feeling Safe with Dr. Stephen PorgesIn this episode Brook has esteemed guest, researcher, professor and author of the Polyvagal Theory, Dr. Steven Porges. Brook and Dr. Porges have a robust and educational conversation about how the vagus nerve influences the fear response, social connections and emotional regulations. It is important to understand the functional brain response in order to cognitively intervene for self regulation. This is an amazing conversation for anyone caught in high conflict or navigating life in general. Listen, Learn and Enjoy!!! Learn more about Dr. Porges at his website https://www.polyvagalinstitute.org/ For exclusive membership perks j...
2024-12-111h 10The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastSupporting Families with Neurodiverse Children With Elaine TaylorIn this episode Brook has guest Elaine Taylor-Klaus, Author and Co-Founder of Impact Parents. Brook and Elaine have a robust conversation about parenting a child that is neurodivergent and the challenges that go with the behaviors with being ADHD or on the spectrum of Autism. Deep in the discussion the conversation move in the direction of generational repetition and as adults having similar diagnoses as a window into the stigma and judgment of the labels. This is a great conversation regardless of whether or not you are dealing with this issue. You may truly be surprised. Enjoy !!! E...
2024-12-1156 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastConflict Detox_ Reducing Emotional Reactivity with Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry from Been There Got OutIn this episode Brook and his guests Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry from the podcast Been There Got Out discuss the notion of High Conflict Detox. This is where a person/parent is stuck deeply in the habitual cycle of conflict and the nervous system maintains a high level of chronic activation. In order to break the cycle one must endure the discomfort of disengagement, develop a self awareness of the cycle in order to break free of the strong impulse to engage in and continue the conflict. This conflict pattern is very much physiological and can be mastered...
2024-12-1156 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 300: Disasterous Divorce To Priceless Relationship With Your Kids with Derrick ChevalierIn this episode Brook and his guest Derrick Chevalier discuss in depth the interconnection between negotiation in divorce and custody and first understanding what is on the playing field and who the players are first, before setting sail in the process. Getting yourself settled and using your unique knowledge of the situation in order to knit together the solution and the proper delivery system ie: Attorney, Mediator and such. By doing so getting to the center of the issues, such as finances and custody can be a much easier path and resulting in better outcomes become more available and u...
2024-12-1013 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastGetting Ahead of The Holiday Chaos with Michelle Mitchell In this episode Brook and Michelle take another deeper dive into the subject of preparing for and dealing with the stresses of the holidays. When dealing with high conflict co-parentis it is important to have an open mindset of solving the problems out front and deep understanding of how you are stuck trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Challenging your beliefs about what is important vs what solves the problem and takes the children out of the chaos isn't easy. Listen to Brook and Michelle in this episode in order to get some fresh a...
2024-11-0840 min
Been There Got Out PodcastNavigating High-Conflict Co-Parenting with Brook OlsenUnlock the secrets to navigating high-conflict divorces and co-parenting with expert Brook Olsen, founder of the High Conflict Diversion Program. Discover the key distinctions between typical and high-conflict divorces and learn practical strategies to manage emotions and behaviors, keeping the focus on the well-being of your children. Brook shares invaluable insights into maintaining a solution-driven mindset and setting reasonable expectations, all while understanding the legal nuances of custody and divorce proceedings.In another illuminating segment, we explore the detrimental role of negative advocates—those who unintentionally fan the flames of conflict. Brook introduces the concept of parallel pa...
2024-10-2441 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcastrojection, Transference and Countertransference, Making it PersonalIn this episode Brook has special guest Nicola Ranson L.C.S.W. Brook and Nicola discuss the concepts of Transference and Projection as pertain to working with a coach or therapist. These are always taking place in all relationships and unconsciously affect the interaction. When working with a coach or therapist it is important the coach or therapist is trained to consciously identify it and not get entangled with but use it as an informative process to uncover deeper solutions and processes. As a client it is important to find a coach that is seasoned and p...
2024-10-1844 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastClient/Attorney ManagementIn this Episode Brook has as his special guest Attorney Kelli Avallone in to discuss the frustrations that clients have when dealing with their attorneys as well as those frustrations of the attorney with their clients, in high conflict custody cases. The discussion explores the topics that can cause the frustration and how using a qualified coach can go a long way in keeping both the client and the attorney on a productive path that is efficient both financially and emotionally. Enjoy!!! You can contact Kelli at kelli@atty-avallone.com Join our membership site at ht...
2024-09-2054 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastAnxiety and How it Drives ConflictIn this episode Brook and Tony delve into the notion of how anxiety is one of if not the main driver of conflict and at the base understanding this and learning how to navigate the terrain of ones own anxiety is the avenue toward a high threshold of tolerance can make the difference in disengaging. The basis in the defensive response even in those with narcissism and other personality disorders can be found in navigating the internal sensation that comes with the anxiousness. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: ...
2024-09-0636 min
Wet Fly Swing Fly Fishing PodcastInside Fulling Mill with Nick Yardley - Stillwater Flies, Brook Trout, Great LakesShow Notes: https://wetflyswing.com/650 Presented By: Jackson Hole Fly Company, TroutRoutes, Togens Fly Shop, Togiak River Lodge Sponsors: https://wetflyswing.com/sponsors In this episode, we'll chat with Nick Yardley, the president of Fulling Mill. We dive deep into the fascinating story of how Fulling Mill became a leader in the UK and US markets, sharing insights on their top fly patterns and the meticulous process that ensures only the best end up in your fly box. We also explore stillwater fishing, with Nick offering expert tips and his favorite...
2024-08-261h 04
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastFinding Refuge From The Email Carpet BombingIn this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the narcissistic practice of email Carpet Bombing. This is the practice of incessantly sending repeated emails in order to hook you into an argument, to tell you are doing it wrong, to harass and demean you and to cause as much chaos as possible to get you to engage. This is an important concept to understand and to get the tools needed to navigate the barrage. Enjoy!!! You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •dail...
2024-08-2339 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastLegal Abuse and Going it Pro Se With Chris Barry and Lisa Johnson from Been There Got OutIn this episode Brook has special guest Lisa Johnson from Been There Got Out to discuss how High Conflict Personalities can drive legal abuse in the family court system and how to organize yourself to be able to go it with out an attorney. Lisa brings some good information to a scary subject. You can contact Lisa through their website beentheregotout.com or follow them on instagram, Youtube and Facebook. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalize...
2024-08-0958 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastThe Tightrope Act of Keeping The Kids Out of the MiddleIn this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the struggles that come with dealing with a ex that isn't on the same page and exhibits narcissist like behaviors and how to navigate keeping the kids out of the middle of ongoing conflict. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co...
2024-07-2654 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastParallel Parenting and Using Co-Parenting Apps Interview with Talking ParentsIn this episode Brook Olsen and Kelli Avallone Join the Talking Parents team on their Co-Parenting and Coffee webinar to discuss Parallel Parenting and the use of Co-Parenting Apps. During High Conflict Co-Parenting and dealing with Narcissism and other personality disorders the use of Co-Parenting Apps like Talking Parents can be a useful tool in getting the conflict under control and tracking the conversation between parents. The use of such apps can all so help when going to court to show the level of conflict and who is in may ways causing the conflict to continue. This is a...
2024-07-191h 24
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastCompetency vs CapacityIn this episode of the High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast Brook and Tony discuss the difference between Capacity and Competency and that building of the container ( Capacity) has to happen first and then from there Competency can build. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation tod...
2024-04-1933 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastWhere Did It All Go Forensics and Tracing AssetsIn this episode Brook speaks with Attorney Kelli Avallone about the in's and out's, Features and Down sides of teaching for "Hidden Assets". Finding Assets can be difficult and deciding to do so should be a "Return On Investment" inquiry. Enjoy!!!! You can reach Kelli at kelli@atty-avallone.com Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month
2024-04-1239 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastNavigating Kids & Tech Doesn't Have to Be ScaryIn this episode Brook speaks with guest Forest Bronzon from Digital Detox. Forest is the CEO of Digital Detox whose goal and purpose is to educate parents, schools and children in the differing ways to use the digital environment in a healthy and connected manner. During divorce and high conflict custody battles it is often hard to navigate boundaries regarding electronics and rules are often different and opposite in each house. Forest discuss some of the ways to help children and parents navigate the ever evolving landscape of the digital world. Digital Detox offers many resources to help. Enjoy!!! h...
2024-04-0551 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastCyber Security, Keeping Yourself Safe During Divorce and CustodyIn this episode Brook has special guest David Forrestall CEO of SecurIT360 to talk about how to best secure you and you children from the ability of your Ex or for that matter anyone else from being able to track/cyberstalk. Mr. Forrestall give practical and useable information on securing you devices, social media, cloud based storage and applications. Also in the notes below he has provided links to a video he produced with the Cyber help line that will help guide you through many of the processes. Thanks for your continued listenership. You are the reason we continue...
2024-03-1551 min
Doing Divorce Right By Chief PeaceKeeper™ Scott LevinRole of Mediation in High-Conflict Divorce and Custody ExplainedI’m Scott Levin, a seasoned high conflict divorce attorney in California, joined by Brook Olsen, a high-conflict divorce coach, to share our commitment to collaborative divorce solutions. Whether navigating challenges like narcissism or other personality complexities, we believe that a cooperative mediation for divorce process approach to resolution is almost always better than adversarial litigation.In our discussion, we address skepticism surrounding mediation in high-conflict situations. By integrating strategic coaching and fostering a deep understanding of each partner's journey, we illustrate how seemingly insurmountable disputes can evolve into agreements that respect the needs of the entire fa...
2024-02-0854 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastDivorce Financial Planning, This Can't Be Overlooked, With Justin Reckers CFP CDFAIn this episode Brook has special guest Divorce Financial Planner Justin Reckers to discuss the importance of understanding your financial future and having a professional helping you map it out. Enjoy!!! You can contact Justin Reckers at https://wellspringdivorce.com/san-diego/ Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co...
2023-10-2048 min
Journey Beyond Divorce PodcastAll Things Parenting: Parallel Parenting: A Proven Approach to Successful High Conflict Co Parenting with Brook OlsenWelcome to another episode of All Things Parenting. You're post divorce and survived the chaotic, complex, often times hostile and overwhelming divorce process. You thought you would be free, feel better, be less triggered and engaged with your ex. But you have kids together and somedays it feels like nothing has changed except you're living under separate roofs! How can you successfully co parent with a high conflict person when there is so much that continues to trigger you. The answer lies in understanding and evolving YOUR behavior. Today's guest is one of the best experts I...
2023-06-1652 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastOvercoming Power Differentials Costs and Benefits RevisedIn this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the variety of ways we get stuck in power differential when trying to navigate financial and custody fights, both old and new. The stickiness of the battle or the lack of information, outside forces often keeps us from finding off ramps to the fight that keep the children stuck and you from moving on. There or costs and benefits to each approach and the options all need to be investigated early so you can direct the solutions. Enjoy!!!! You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. J...
2023-05-3049 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastAttuning to Your Children During High Conflict Times with Your EXIn this episode Brook and Tony have a deep discussion about the responsibility of parents to take notice of where they get lost in the chaos of the high conflict situations the arise during divorce and custody battles and sometimes simply separation. This chaos leaves the child having to deal with the sense that no one is paying attention to their experience and they have deal with that alone. Parents need to make attuning to the child a priority and noticing where they, the parent get lost in their own chaos and narcissistic needs. Enjoy!!! Join "The...
2023-05-1937 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastThe Reflection PoolIn this episode Brook talks about the need to periodically stop and reflect on where we have been, the journey we have traveled to this point and the mistakes and success we have experienced. This is an important part of our growth that takes us away from our own narcissism and allows us to see the world through the eyes of others and to see ourselves in a clearer light. The reflective process is also about where we have been distracted from our goals and helps us move more effectively into the future. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Z...
2023-05-1219 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastRaising Your Children, Leading While FollowingIn this episode Brook and Tony take another look at parenting and the importance of attainment with your children and the special attention that is essential to building as strong sense of self and self esteem in you kids. This Episode is directed at all parents not just those in High Conflict and not just a parallel parenting model. Please share this one with other parents you know as I think it will help wake up new thoughts in the direction you take in your parenting journey. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access...
2023-04-2846 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastWhen the Path of Least Resistance Creates More ChaosIn this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how the process of conflict as it unfolds as a condition of anxiety and often a want for expediency with one or both parties. Brook and Michelle discuss how using Mind Mapping and the exploration of all aspects of the situation, (although it may take more time) and by using a coach to help get through the weeds can actually be the faster more complete way of staying out of future conflict. You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:
2023-04-2141 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastBlind Spots, Why We Keep Expecting Something Different From Our Exe's and How it Blindsides UsIn this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the Blind Spots that arise from having unrealistic expectations about the other parents reactions to a given situation. These unrealistic expectations often can be expose early, prior to making critical mistakes if there is a sense making process put in place, one that uses past experiences that have been had with that parent that we have either forgotten or dismiss because we want a different outcome. You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails
2023-04-0740 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastBeliefs, The Center of ConflictIn this episode Brook and Tony take another dive into the concepts and traps of belief systems and how they lock us into conflict and are in fact the center of how conflict comes into manifestation. Understanding our own beliefs, where they originated and doing sense making is core to finding our way out of conflict. Also making space for the other persons beliefs, whether or not it makes sense is equally important to finding solutions. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free mas...
2023-03-3149 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 232 The Mind Trap of the Notion of FairIn this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the conflict mind trap the parents find themselves in when they try to look at the parenting conflicts through the lens of Fairness. The differing perspective and the cognitive dissonance of one or both of the parents involved in the conflict creates an arena of conflict because neither one of the parents sees the situation the same. I therefore becomes important to step back and evaluate what is truly important for the child and having as a part of the inquiry the notion that the continuation of the argument has a high...
2023-03-2458 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastSpring and Summer What Will It Be Flowers or Poison OakIn this episode Brook and Tony discuss the need for seasonal preparedness in getting ready for the challenges that come with Spring and Summer travel, not having things in place with a good parenting plan and having a plan in place when things go wrong. Also getting ready to get the kids in place for the next school year because if court is needed you best get started now. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and thera...
2023-03-1057 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpEmotional Blackmail, A Double Bind Conversation Leading From Entitlement to WeaponizationIn this episode Brook and Tony discuss how children often use Emotional Blackmail and put their parents in areas of discomfort to get what the want. This is especially prevalent during parental discourse and conflict. The parent doesn't want to make the child feel uncomfortable during times of change and allow for things they might not normally. This can lead to the Child's sense of Entitlement and the development of strong narcissistic traits later in life. How parents get comfortable with the uncomfortable feelings for both themselves and their children is an important skillset to develop.
2023-03-0346 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastA Wolf in Sheep's Clothing An Exploration of Covert Narcissism and the Chaos it ElicitsIn this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the behaviors and signs that come along with the Covert Narcissists defensive presentations. This is an extensive and interesting discussion that deserves listening to multiple times. As always this information is meant to help our listeners identify behaviors so as not to get caught in the engagement with them and not for the listener you go into judgment but a greater understanding. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists...
2023-02-2437 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastHow To Have Hard Conversations With Your Children with Author Sara OlsherIn this episode Brook has special author Sara Olsher to discuss the importance for parents to have special language to speak with their children about hard subject. When children are caught in the middle of High Conflict parents they need a parent to be able to speak to them in a way that helps them navigate the unconscious behaviors of a parent that has narcissist or borderline tendencies in order to help them settle there nervous systems. For more information you can find Sara's website https://mightyandbright.com/ Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! G...
2023-02-171h 42
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastInitial Conditions A Different Look at the Development of the Conflict TriangleIn this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the initial conditions that create the beliefs and Pseudo-solutions that develop in narcissism and borderline personalities and the codependent behaviors that entangle the high conflict triangle. For more information about our services Please visit our web page at www.highconflict.net You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessio...
2023-02-1042 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastGratitude, Moving Beyond Stuck and Into AgencyIf you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! In this episode Brook and Tony discuss the notion of finding the prospective of replacing gratitude and wonderment from victimization and what is being done to me, in order to get the ball rolling forward toward growth and agency for the future. By doing this one moves toward being the captain of their own ship and takes on a leadership role both internally as well as...
2023-02-0348 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastConnecting With Your Children Through Positive AnticipationIf you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! In this episode Brook and Tony discuss the importance of connecting with you children and creating strong connections and secure attachment. When children experience parents that are narcissistic in nature they need a parent that can meet them and have a settled environment The process that Brook and Tony lay out in this podcast will go a long way In creating just that. Join "...
2023-01-2051 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastParental Expectations and Children's AnxietyIn this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how one parents push and their high and unreasonable exceptions cause great levels of anxiety and long term conditioning for the child. Often Narcissistic personalities have unfinished personal business an overlay on the children to become what they were unable achieve on their own. You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •medita...
2023-01-1306 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastNarcissistic Control and the Chaos Machine Narcissistic Control and the Chaos Machine Take 2If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! In this episode Brook and Tony talk about the crazy making chaos that comes from dealing with narcissistic personalities and how to navigate the fallout that comes with the out of control behavior that shows up. Co-Parenting with these narcissistic and high conflict personalities and the chaos they create is difficult and this podcast helps understand how they work. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership!
2023-01-0610 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastIs It a Preferred Parent, Targeted Parent, Resist and Refuse or Alienation and How to Move ForwardIf you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! In this episode Brook and his guest Patrice Courteau LMFT discuss the various aspects of why a child becomes distant from a parent. Where it ofter starts, progresses and how to navigate the tricky journey if you are the parent on the end of not seeing your children as much as you would like. You can contact Patrice at patricecourteau@yahoo.com Join "T...
2022-12-3013 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastRevenge and The Unconscious and Conscious Weaponizing Of The ChildrenIn this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how some parents are in revenge mode and use the children as weapons both consciously and unconsciously. Brook and Michelle help the listeners identify some of these patterns so they can change them and further get the children out of the middle of the conflict. You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Donate Here
2022-12-1601 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastThe Disengagement DilemmaIf you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how the disengagement process brings up strong emotions of anxiety, fear and confusion and how to begin to be with the process. They give examples of differing situation that can help understand what disengaging means and how to find solutions you might not otherwise discover. You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd Join "The Disengagement...
2022-12-0911 min
Rich in RelationshipAvoiding the Black Hole of High Conflict With Brook OlsenHigh-conflict relationships are the ultimate dead end for kids and their parents. They are characterized by the thought "I'm going to win and you are going to lose" on both sides. They inevitably lead to the continuing destruction and decimation of the relationship.
Not only do both sides lose while they think the other side is wrong and they are winning, but the ultimate losers are the kids! Check out this interview with Brook Olsen while he and Rich talk about the what where and how of high c conflict relationships!
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2022-12-0825 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastHow To Communicate Like a Buddhist Inside and Out With Author Cynthia KaneIn this episode Brook welcomes special guest Cynthia Kane, author of the book Communicate Like.A Buddhist. Brook and Cynthia discuss the principles of Mindfulness and Self Awareness as the pathway to reduce conflict both internally and externally as well as a pathway to better relationships. To contact Cynthia you can email her @ cynthia@intentionalcommunicationinstitute.com and her website is intentionalcommunicationinstitute.com If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Donate...
2022-12-0253 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastDivorce and Bankruptcy With Attorney John VarleyIn this episode Brook has special guest Attorney John Varley to discuss bankruptcy before, during or after divorce as a tool to regain financial stability and to help move forward toward a less stressful future. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Donate Here Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawye...
2022-11-2544 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastThe Ghost of Christmas Past is the Ghost of Christmas Now and the Ghost of Christmas FutureIn this episode Brook and Charlie discuss how the recurring patterns and habits of conflict tend to reappear for both you and your Ex. during times of stress, even though you think they have disappeared. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Donate Here Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyer...
2022-11-1849 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastHelping the Kids Navigate a Boundaried Parenting PlanIn this Episode Brook and Michelle discuss how to help children understand and navigate boundaried parenting plans (Parallel Parenting Plan) with schedules they may not like and how to continue to maintain a healthy and attached relationship with them. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Donate Here Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterc...
2022-11-0452 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastHolding Boundaries, Keeping Aware, Utilizing Timing and Opportunity (Don't Miss It)In this episode Brook and Michelle have a conversation about the importance of staying aware of when important events and occur and boundaries crossed that you are able to take the proper action in a timely manner so you don't loose an important window that could enhances or change the course or overall outcome of your case. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Donate Here Join "The Disengagement...
2022-10-2833 min
Journey Beyond Divorce PodcastHigh Conflict Divorce: Parallel Parenting with A NarcissistToday we speak with a guest who explains that Parallel Parenting IS Co-parenting, it is simply a more effective approach to high conflict co-parenting. The refreshing tone of this conversation acknowledges how unreasonable it is to expect to be able to follow the amicable co-parenting rules when your parenting partner is 'disordered' and has proven incapable of any form of collaboration or joint decision making. Brook Olsen share brilliant strategies to not only successfully, but joyfully parent your children regardless of your co-parent's behavior. Tune in as he shares the importance of self regulating your nervous system...
2022-08-0157 min
Mates and TakesEpisode 15 - Non-Sexual turn onsThe mates are joined by special guest Brook Gibson to discuss the greatest non-sexual turn-ons in human history. Prepare to curl some toes and roll some eyes in the back of your skull for this doozie
2022-02-151h 11
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastThe Great Opening (Start Now)In this episode Brook and Tony talk about the need to start thinking about how to re-readjust to the changing world of Covid-19 as we begin to open up and relook at how our parenting and parenting plan are working and not working. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personali...
2021-03-1241 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 113 Covid HolidaysIn this episode Brook and Tony discuss the extra strains that Covid 19 put on families involved in High Conflict during the holidays and some solutions to help navigate them. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •medita...
2020-11-2040 min
Journey Beyond Divorce PodcastHigh Conflict Divorce: Parallel Parenting with A High Conflict ExToday we speak with a guest who explains that Parallel Parenting IS Co-parenting, it is simply a more effective approach to high conflict co-parenting. The refreshing tone of this conversation acknowledges how unreasonable it is to expect to be able to follow the amicable co-parenting rules when your parenting partner is 'disordered' and has proven incapable of any form of collaboration or joint decision making. Brook Olsen share brilliant strategies to not only successfully, but joyfully parent your children regardless of your co-parent's behavior. Tune in as he shares the importance of self regulating your nervous system...
2020-11-1359 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastThe Step Parent Trap Part 1 Step MomIn this episode Brook and Charlie bring in a guest Step Mom to have a conversation of the perils of being a Step Mom and a look at the different perspectives of being a Step Mom. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A se...
2020-10-0251 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 105 Parallel Parenting IS CO-ParentingIn this episode Brook and Charlie discuss the Parallel Parenting model and discuss the importance of changing the narrative so people understand that Parallel Parenting IS Co-Parenting and is the prefered model when there is moderate to high conflict. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and thera...
2020-09-2550 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastCovid Crazy and the Great Divide, Not just CovidIn this episode Brook and Tony talk about the added intensity and division that the Covid 19 has brought to the families in high conflict as well as the other added events taking place in the world that are eroding the fabric of our nervous systems and our ability to cope with even the easier challenges we face every day. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! ...
2020-09-1856 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastGoing it Alone, Getting Lost In The WoodsIn this episode Brook and Charlie discuss just how easy it is to go astray and get lost in the deep woods of high conflict when you haven't put together a good team at the earliest possible time and if after getting lost having the proper help will help you find your way out. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access t...
2020-08-0742 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastWatch, Wait, Move With Awareness (The magnification of Covid 19)In this episode Brook and Tony discuss how the current circumstances of the Covid virus are magnifying everything. Our fear, our clinging to our belief systems, our anger and grief. And giving some perspective on how to manage and navigate this extremely difficult time. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate...
2020-06-0559 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastRevisiting Sensation Tolorating During Covid 19In this episode Brook and Tony discuss how the current circumstances of the Covid virus are magnifying everything. Our fear, our clinging to our belief systems, our anger and grief. And giving some perspective on how to manage and navigate this extremely difficult time. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •...
2020-05-2937 minThe High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastFear, Freeze, and Opening the Window to Movementn this episode Brook and Charlie discuss how Fear and Freeze keep us stuck and from moving forward with the opportunities presented us and how we can monitor the freeze and begin to melt into movement and agency. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapist...
2020-05-2234 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastThe Manhole Story, Breaking PatternsIn this episode Brook and Charlie talk about the Manhole Story and how as humans we have unconscious blind spot that keep us doing the same thing over and over and how we can become conscious of the Manhole and begin to repattern our thinking to avoid the fall. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podca...
2020-04-1731 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastCovid 19 and Beyond_ Everything Has Changed, Orienting to The New RealitiesIn this episode Brook and Charlie discuss the dramatic changes the cover-19 pandemic have created for everyone, especially those caught in high conflict divorce and custody cases. It is forcing everyone to think and rethink their actions regarding exchanges, travel and communications around containment. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •...
2020-04-0339 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastCovid-19 and Custody Exchanges. Dealing With the Chaos In Uncharted Territory With Attorney Julie MackIn this episode Brook has a discussion with attorney Julie Mack about navigating the uncharted territory we are facing with the Covid 19 outbreak, the closure of the courts and the total lack of direction concerning Shelter At Home orders and the chaos that is created with exchanges and travel. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podca...
2020-03-2746 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 79 Exploring the Internal Conflict In Order to Resolve the External ConflictIn this episode Brook and Charlie explore how looking at the internal components of Conflcit, meaning those sensations and internal beliefs that live within all of us can go a long way to help us disengage and begin to solve the external conflicts in our relationships with others. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episo...
2020-03-2038 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastEpisode 78.5 Covid-19 and Parallel ParentingIn this episode Brook and Charlie discuss some of the struggles and ramifications in making decisions around navigating the Covid-19 situation! I hope this helps. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content...
2020-03-1333 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastHigh Conflict An Epidemic PerspectiveIn this episode Brook and Charlie discuss the epidemic of High Conflict, How to detect it, How to protect from it and how to inoculate your children from it!!! If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •medita...
2020-03-1337 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastPlayers in the Drama Triangle (What is Your Role)In this episode Brook and Charlie discuss the Drama Triangle and how each of us enter the triangle and perpetuate the cycle of conflict. This is a simple model to rap your head around. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today! https://disengage.highconflict.net
2020-02-1436 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastTis The SeasonIn this episode Brook and Charlie discuss the need to anticipate holiday challenges and to be proactive in dealing with them and not waiting for the last minute when it is too late. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions
2019-09-2034 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastWhat's Your Story Morning GloryIn this episode Brook and Charlie discuss the perils of the stories we have and how they have distortions and how those distortions are created. When we get lost in the stories and can't see the distortions of both our story and those of the other parent, we are headed to the abyss of conflict. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:
2019-09-1343 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastRat Tangle with Eric SjobergIn this episode Brook and Charlie are joined again with Eric Sjoberg as they discuss the concept of the Rat Tangle. The Rat tangle has a great deal to do with the unconscious parts of our beliefs and behaviors as it pertains to our ancestry and family of origin. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podca...
2019-08-231h 00
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastDoing The Right Thing All The Time For The Right ReasonIn this episode Brook and Charlie talk about the crucial thought process that goes into managing the conflict, that of always doing the right thing for the right reasons. This is a rich conversation that will be of value to all. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawye...
2019-07-0835 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastDivorce and ConflictIn this episode Brook and Charlie talk about how finances can be a major factor in conflict and some of the ways to get a perspective on how to maximize what you have and strategies to build on for a more secure future. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personali...
2019-06-2146 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastThe Flypaper Effect (Don't Touch It)In this episode Brook and Charlie discuss the Flypaper Effect. How High Conflict Personalities attract us into and get us entangled in conflict, in such a way that it feels like we just can't release ourselves from the flypaper. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and thera...
2019-06-0739 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastWhat is the Fight About (Assessing the Etiology of the Conflict)In this episode Brook and Charlie have a conversation about the structure and components that make up conflict. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to h...
2019-05-3137 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastChoices, Change, ConflictIn this episode Brook and Charlie discuss Choices, Change and Conflict. How when we begin to make choices toward health, the change that is created can engage us in healthy conflict that can propel us toward a future that will bring us to a point of new perspectives. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episo...
2019-05-2532 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastChildren in the Middle (Don't Let It Happen)In this session Brook and Charlie discuss the pitfalls of putting the children in the middle of the conflict and the unconcious ways many parents do it. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions...
2019-05-1735 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastAnxiousness (The Nexus of Conflict)In this episode Brook and Charlie discuss how anxiousness is often the root cause or nexus in the creation of the conflict cycle and how the anxiousness of a parent transfers to that of their children. This is an episode no one should miss. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Please feel free to leave comments and rate this episode. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to: •dai...
2019-04-2646 min
The Divorce Recovery PodcastThe Parenting PlanIt’s a fact that parenting is difficult for any couple, but when the couple is facing divorce, co-parenting can be their greatest challenge. The couple is in divorce for a reason, so coming to terms and in agreement over large issues like the kids can cause unnecessary stress and turmoil for everyone. And if there’s no parenting plan in place to follow, the relationship between the parents can escalate to a high conflict situation, making life miserable for the kids caught in-between.
In today’s episode, I talk to Brook Olsen, a Certified Parenting Educator, a Certified Divorce Mediat...
2019-03-3012 min
The High Conflict Co-Parenting PodcastThe Game of What If (The Practice of Taking Control)In this episode Brook and Charlie discuss the Game of What IF. This is a mental practice of learning how to do things differently in ways that sometime feel counter intutive but are crucial to changing how you think and do things. If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet Join our mailing list:
2019-02-0836 min