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Three Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 16 – The Case for Justice: When the System Believes the Wrong Person🩸 “I was the victim. I called 911. They believed her.”On October 1, 2004, Bruce Whealton was violently assaulted in his own home. He called 911, bleeding, terrified, and disoriented. First responders treated his injuries, documented the scene, and began interviewing witnesses. While officers were still investigating, the woman who attacked him—Ana—walked into the police station and claimed to be the victim.The system believed her.Despite Bruce’s visible injuries, corroborating witnesses, and evidence at the scene, detectives sided with the attacker. Bruce was arrested, charged, and coerced into a guilty...2025-05-1110 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 16 – The Case for Justice: When the System Believes the Wrong Person🩸 “I was the victim. I called 911. They believed her.”On October 1, 2004, Bruce Whealton was violently assaulted in his own home. He called 911, bleeding, terrified, and disoriented. First responders treated his injuries, documented the scene, and began interviewing witnesses. While officers were still investigating, the woman who attacked him—Ana—walked into the police station and claimed to be the victim.The system believed her.Despite Bruce’s visible injuries, corroborating witnesses, and evidence at the scene, detectives sided with the attacker. Bruce was arrested, charged, and...2025-05-1110 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 15 – I Never Broke Trust: Reclaiming My Life After Retraumatization🗣️ “I don’t have to win back trust. I never broke it.”In this powerful final chapter of Three Times A Victim, Bruce finds purpose again—working in mental health, helping others heal. But even as he steps into a role of compassion and advocacy, the past claws back.A background check dredges up the false narrative. Internal suspicion replaces support. Once again, Bruce is retraumatized—not by guilt, but by a system unable—or unwilling—to see the truth.💔 This episode is not about redemption. It’s...2025-05-1110 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 15 – I Never Broke Trust: Reclaiming My Life After Retraumatization🗣️ “I don’t have to win back trust. I never broke it.”In this powerful final chapter of Three Times A Victim, Bruce finds purpose again—working in mental health, helping others heal. But even as he steps into a role of compassion and advocacy, the past claws back.A background check dredges up the false narrative. Internal suspicion replaces support. Once again, Bruce is retraumatized—not by guilt, but by a system unable—or unwilling—to see the truth.💔 This episode is not about redemption. It’s...2025-05-1110 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 14 – Reclaiming My Voice: A Life After Silence🎙️ “All that silence had done was bury me deeper in shame—shame that wasn’t mine to carry.”In this redemptive chapter of Three Times A Victim, Bruce begins the slow, courageous journey of reclaiming his voice after years of silence, toxic shame, and systemic betrayal.Emerging from the suicidal breaking point of Episode 13, Bruce’s healing begins in the unlikeliest of places: a hospital, where a fellow patient offers something that had long been missing—compassion and belief. From there, a quiet transformation unfolds.🕊️ What You’ll...2025-05-1117 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 14 – Reclaiming My Voice: A Life After Silence🎙️ “All that silence had done was bury me deeper in shame—shame that wasn’t mine to carry.”In this redemptive chapter of Three Times A Victim, Bruce begins the slow, courageous journey of reclaiming his voice after years of silence, toxic shame, and systemic betrayal.Emerging from the suicidal breaking point of Episode 13, Bruce’s healing begins in the unlikeliest of places: a hospital, where a fellow patient offers something that had long been missing—compassion and belief. From there, a quiet transformation unfolds.🕊️ What You’ll...2025-05-1117 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 13 – The Breaking Point: When Silence Becomes Too Much to Bear🕳️ “Justice wasn’t going to happen—not ever. And the truth about who I really was... didn’t matter.”After years of false accusations, wrongful conviction, and the slow erosion of hope, Bruce reaches a devastating breaking point. This episode of Three Times A Victim reveals what happens when a person is silenced for too long—and when the system not only fails, but forgets.💔 In This Episode:✔️ The unbearable cost of injustice: isolation, despair, and suicidal thoughts✔️ Toxic shame as a living wound that distorts identity and self-w...2025-05-1110 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 13 – The Breaking Point: When Silence Becomes Too Much to Bear🕳️ “Justice wasn’t going to happen—not ever. And the truth about who I really was... didn’t matter.”After years of false accusations, wrongful conviction, and the slow erosion of hope, Bruce reaches a devastating breaking point. This episode of Three Times A Victim reveals what happens when a person is silenced for too long—and when the system not only fails, but forgets.💔 In This Episode:✔️ The unbearable cost of injustice: isolation, despair, and suicidal thoughts✔️ Toxic shame as a living wound that distorts identity and self-w...2025-05-1110 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 12 – Rebuilding a Life: Belonging, Stigma, and the Search for Truth🌫️ “Even when comfort returned, shame lingered like a ghost.”After years of betrayal, false conviction, and silence, Bruce returns to Wilmington—not for justice, but for healing. In this tender chapter, we explore what it means to rebuild a life while still carrying the weight of a shattered past.🌀 In This Episode:✔️ Fleeting moments of reconnection and comfort✔️ Poetry as both sanctuary and reminder of lost voice✔️ The stigma of returning home with a criminal record✔️ Co-authoring, creative community, and cautious belonging✔️ Lingering s...2025-05-1113 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 12 – Rebuilding a Life: Belonging, Stigma, and the Search for Truth🌫️ “Even when comfort returned, shame lingered like a ghost.”After years of betrayal, false conviction, and silence, Bruce returns to Wilmington—not for justice, but for healing. In this tender chapter, we explore what it means to rebuild a life while still carrying the weight of a shattered past.🌀 In This Episode:✔️ Fleeting moments of reconnection and comfort✔️ Poetry as both sanctuary and reminder of lost voice✔️ The stigma of returning home with a criminal record✔️ Co-authoring, creative community, and cautious belonging✔️ Lingering s...2025-05-1113 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 11 – Moments of Comfort, Shadows of Shame🌫️ “Even when comfort returned, shame lingered like a ghost.”After years of betrayal, false conviction, and silence, Bruce returns to Wilmington—not for justice, but for healing. In this tender chapter, we explore what it means to rebuild a life while still carrying the weight of a shattered past.🌀 In This Episode:✔️ Fleeting moments of reconnection and comfort✔️ Poetry as both sanctuary and reminder of lost voice✔️ The stigma of returning home with a criminal record✔️ Co-authoring, creative community, and cautious belonging✔️ Lingering s...2025-05-1012 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 11 – Moments of Comfort, Shadows of Shame🌫️ “Even when comfort returned, shame lingered like a ghost.”After years of betrayal, false conviction, and silence, Bruce returns to Wilmington—not for justice, but for healing. In this tender chapter, we explore what it means to rebuild a life while still carrying the weight of a shattered past.🌀 In This Episode:✔️ Fleeting moments of reconnection and comfort✔️ Poetry as both sanctuary and reminder of lost voice✔️ The stigma of returning home with a criminal record✔️ Co-authoring, creative community, and cautious belonging✔️ Lingering s...2025-05-1012 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 10 – Living with the Lie: Surviving Betrayal, Shame, and Silence💥 “The crime I never committed is now etched into my record. The truth—my truth—remains unheard.”In this powerful episode of Three Times A Victim, Bruce reflects on life after being coerced into a guilty plea. What follows is not healing—but exile. Branded by a false conviction, Bruce drifts through thirteen years of homelessness, toxic shame, and rejection.🏚️ What You’ll Hear in This Episode: ✔️ Life after plea—where justice never came ✔️ The emotional weight of a criminal record for a crime not committed ✔️ Toxic shame and internalized isolation ✔️ B...2025-05-1011 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 10 – Living with the Lie: Surviving Betrayal, Shame, and Silence💥 “The crime I never committed is now etched into my record. The truth—my truth—remains unheard.”In this powerful episode of Three Times A Victim, Bruce reflects on life after being coerced into a guilty plea. What follows is not healing—but exile. Branded by a false conviction, Bruce drifts through thirteen years of homelessness, toxic shame, and rejection.🏚️ What You’ll Hear in This Episode:✔️ Life after plea—where justice never came✔️ The emotional weight of a criminal record for a crime not committed✔️ Toxic shame...2025-05-1011 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 9 – Coerced into Silence: The Plea Deal That Stole the Truth💥 “I told the truth… but no one wanted to hear it. So they made me lie.”After months of trauma, incarceration, and betrayal, Bruce is summoned to court expecting justice. What happens instead is a silent ambush—a plea deal forced upon him in a matter of minutes.⚖️ What You'll Hear in This Episode: ✔️ A surprise court appearance with no preparation or support ✔️ A public defender who flips—from believing Bruce to pressuring him to plead ✔️ A guilty plea to second-degree kidnapping—despite no trial, no evidence, no justice ✔️ The dissociation and “...2025-05-1011 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 9 – Coerced into Silence: The Plea Deal That Stole the Truth💥 “I told the truth… but no one wanted to hear it. So they made me lie.”After months of trauma, incarceration, and betrayal, Bruce is summoned to court expecting justice. What happens instead is a silent ambush—a plea deal forced upon him in a matter of minutes.⚖️ What You'll Hear in This Episode:✔️ A surprise court appearance with no preparation or support✔️ A public defender who flips—from believing Bruce to pressuring him to plead✔️ A guilty plea to second-degree kidnapping—despite no trial, no evidence, no justice✔️ The dissociation and “freeze” response as Bruce says...2025-05-1011 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 8 – Kidnapped by the State: Abandoned, Humiliated, and Erased💥 “The truth was all I had—but it wasn’t enough.”After surviving a brutal assault, Bruce is imprisoned—without conviction, without support, and without justice. In this heartbreaking chapter of Three Times A Victim, he describes being “kidnapped by the state,” stripped of dignity, and left to suffer in silence.🔒 What You’ll Hear in This Episode: ✔️ Pre-trial incarceration treated as guilt ✔️ The suicide smock as a symbol of shame and erasure ✔️ Family betrayal—refusing to pay bail, offer help, or believe him ✔️ Media distortion—portraying the perpetrator as a “girl” and Bruce as a...2025-05-1021 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 8 – Kidnapped by the State: Abandoned, Humiliated, and Erased💥 “The truth was all I had—but it wasn’t enough.”After surviving a brutal assault, Bruce is imprisoned—without conviction, without support, and without justice. In this heartbreaking chapter of Three Times A Victim, he describes being “kidnapped by the state,” stripped of dignity, and left to suffer in silence.🔒 What You’ll Hear in This Episode:✔️ Pre-trial incarceration treated as guilt✔️ The suicide smock as a symbol of shame and erasure✔️ Family betrayal—refusing to pay bail, offer help, or believe him✔️ Media distortion—portraying the perpetrator as a “girl” and Bruce as a monster✔️ Public de...2025-05-1021 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 7 – The Interrogation: From Victim to Suspect🔍 “Imagine surviving a violent assault—only to become the prime suspect.”In this gripping episode of Three Times A Victim, Bruce shares the devastating aftermath of his attack. What begins with a flicker of hope—police arriving, evidence found—soon spirals into a psychological and legal nightmare.🚨 Key Moments in This Episode: ✔️ The initial police response that seemed to promise justice ✔️ The derealization and dissociation that numbed Bruce’s grasp on reality ✔️ The twist of accusation—as Bruce is treated like a criminal, not a survivor ✔️ A false confession, coerced through hu...2025-05-1020 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 6 – The Assault: Trapped, Bleeding, and Betrayed💥 “One moment, I was minding my own business. The next, I was locked in my own room… bleeding, terrified, and fighting for my life.”In this haunting episode of Three Times A Victim, Bruce recounts the brutal attack that changed everything.🏚️ Living in a crime-ridden boarding house with no locks and no safety, Bruce had already endured robbery and harassment. But nothing could prepare him for what happened on October 1, 2004.🚨 A total stranger—a white woman Bruce had never met—called out his name, forced her way into h...2025-05-1020 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 7 – The Interrogation: From Victim to Suspect🔍 “Imagine surviving a violent assault—only to become the prime suspect.”In this gripping episode of Three Times A Victim, Bruce shares the devastating aftermath of his attack. What begins with a flicker of hope—police arriving, evidence found—soon spirals into a psychological and legal nightmare.🚨 Key Moments in This Episode:✔️ The initial police response that seemed to promise justice✔️ The derealization and dissociation that numbed Bruce’s grasp on reality✔️ The twist of accusation—as Bruce is treated like a criminal, not a survivor✔️ A false confession, coerced through humiliation and psychological pressu...2025-05-1010 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 5 – Injustice Unfolds: A Life Shattered by Betrayal and the System💥 “I had built a life, a career, a home. And then, in an instant, I lost everything.”In this harrowing chapter of Three Times A Victim, Bruce’s world implodes. His career as a respected therapist, his home, and his relationship with Lynn—all are stripped away by a chain of betrayals and systemic failures.🚨 What You'll Hear in This Episode:✔️ A Life Torn Apart – How success and love unraveled overnight✔️ John F.’s Betrayal – A manipulative fraud targets Bruce and a vulnerable client✔️ The System’s Failure –...2025-05-1013 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 6 – The Assault: Trapped, Bleeding, and Betrayed💥 “One moment, I was minding my own business. The next, I was locked in my own room… bleeding, terrified, and fighting for my life.”In this haunting episode of Three Times A Victim, Bruce recounts the brutal attack that changed everything.🏚️ Living in a crime-ridden boarding house with no locks and no safety, Bruce had already endured robbery and harassment. But nothing could prepare him for what happened on October 1, 2004.🚨 A total stranger—a white woman Bruce had never met—called out his name, forced her way into h...2025-05-1020 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 5 – Injustice Unfolds: A Life Shattered by Betrayal and the System💥 “I had built a life, a career, a home. And then, in an instant, I lost everything.”In this harrowing chapter of Three Times A Victim, Bruce’s world implodes. His career as a respected therapist, his home, and his relationship with Lynn—all are stripped away by a chain of betrayals and systemic failures.🚨 What You'll Hear in This Episode:✔️ A Life Torn Apart – How success and love unraveled overnight✔️ John F.’s Betrayal – A manipulative fraud targets Bruce and a vulnerable client✔️ The System’s Failure –...2025-05-1013 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 4 – Love, Purpose, and the Storm Ahead💔 “Just when life seemed to fall into place, everything was about to be taken away…”In this pivotal chapter of Three Times A Victim, Bruce finds love again—this time with Lynn, whose gentle presence brings a sense of peace he never believed possible after Celta’s death. As their bond deepens, Bruce leaves engineering behind to follow a new calling: helping others heal.🌟 With Lynn’s support, Bruce thrives in graduate school, becomes a therapist, and begins to feel whole for the first time. But behind this season of joy, a darker t...2025-05-1016 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 4 – Love, Purpose, and the Storm Ahead💔 “Just when life seemed to fall into place, everything was about to be taken away…” In this pivotal chapter of Three Times A Victim, Bruce finds love again—this time with Lynn, whose gentle presence brings a sense of peace he never believed possible after Celta’s death. As their bond deepens, Bruce leaves engineering behind to follow a new calling: helping others heal.🌟 With Lynn’s support, Bruce thrives in graduate school, becomes a therapist, and begins to feel whole for the first time. But behind this season of joy, a darker thread begins to unravel—a man named John F...2025-05-1016 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 3 – When Love First Found Me: Celta, Purpose, and the Pain of Sudden Loss💔 “In Celta’s eyes, I finally saw my worth. But at home, I was nothing.”After graduating from Georgia Tech, Bruce returns home hoping for support—only to find criticism, indifference, and deep emotional neglect. In this pivotal chapter of Three Times A Victim, Bruce shares how volunteering at a state hospital sparks his path toward mental health work—and how a young woman named Celta transforms his sense of self.🌱 For the first time, Bruce is truly seen, loved, and chosen. In Celta’s presence, he feels like more than the sham...2025-05-1007 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 2 – The Weight of Silence: Shame, Family, and the Search for IdentityBefore injustice shattered his life, Bruce lived under the heavy shadow of silence, fear, and emotional neglect.In this second episode of Three Times A Victim, we go back to Bruce’s childhood—where selective mutism, toxic shame, and a need to protect others shaped his quiet resilience. In a home ruled by fear, he vowed never to be a source of it. His gentleness became a form of defiance.College brought psychology courses and therapy, offering language for his pain—but the scars of not being chosen, not being...2025-05-0710 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 1 – The Night Everything Changed EverythingWhat happens when a therapist devoted to healing others becomes the victim—and the system refuses to see the truth?This is Three Times A Victim: Living Under the Shadow of Toxic Shame — a memoir podcast of violence, betrayal, and survival.I spent my life becoming a therapist—treating everything from shyness to schizophrenia, and listening to trauma survivors speak truths no one else would hear. They were rape survivors. Abuse survivors. Alone in the room with me, they told their stories. I helped them feel safe. I told them...2025-05-0713 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 3 – When Love First Found Me: Celta, Purpose, and the Pain of Sudden Loss💔 “In Celta’s eyes, I finally saw my worth. But at home, I was nothing.”After graduating from Georgia Tech, Bruce returns home hoping for support—only to find criticism, indifference, and deep emotional neglect. In this pivotal chapter of Three Times A Victim, Bruce shares how volunteering at a state hospital sparks his path toward mental health work—and how a young woman named Celta transforms his sense of self.🌱 For the first time, Bruce is truly seen, loved, and chosen. In Celta’s presence, he feels like more than the shame and silence he grew up with—he...2025-05-0707 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 2 – The Weight of Silence: Shame, Family, and the Search for IdentityBefore injustice shattered his life, Bruce lived under the heavy shadow of silence, fear, and emotional neglect.In this second episode of Three Times A Victim, we go back to Bruce’s childhood—where selective mutism, toxic shame, and a need to protect others shaped his quiet resilience. In a home ruled by fear, he vowed never to be a source of it. His gentleness became a form of defiance.College brought psychology courses and therapy, offering language for his pain—but the scars of not being chosen, not being seen, lingered. Moments of warmth with cousins clashed with a moth...2025-05-0510 minThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameThree Times A Victim – Living Under the Shadow of Toxic ShameEp 1 – The Night Everything Changed Everything🎙️ What happens when a therapist devoted to healing others becomes the victim—and the system refuses to see the truth?This is Three Times A Victim: Living Under the Shadow of Toxic Shame — a memoir podcast of violence, betrayal, and survival.I spent my life becoming a therapist—treating everything from shyness to schizophrenia, and listening to trauma survivors speak truths no one else would hear. They were rape survivors. Abuse survivors. Alone in the room with me, they told their stories. I helped them feel safe. I told them, “my voice will go with you.”But one lie… ended everything...2025-04-2410 min