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Divorce Rich with Jacki Roessler, CDFAHidden Money In Divorce with Michele Laws, CDFA, CVA, MAFFSend us Fan MailThe scariest moment in divorce is realizing you might not even know what you’re negotiating. When accounts “disappear,” income suddenly looks smaller, or the lifestyle never matched the paycheck, the problem isn’t just stress, it’s missing data. We want you to have a way to get your footing back.We’re joined by Michele Laws, a highly specialized CDFA and forensic professional who works with divorce cases involving businesses, complex records, and serious red flags. Michele breaks down what a forensic analyst actually does in a divorce and how that rol...
2026-09-0326 min
Align Your RetirementThe New Roth Catch-Up Rule: Earning $150K+? Your 401(k) Just ChangedSend us Fan MailIf you're over 50 and earned more than $150,000 last year, a SECURE 2.0 rule that took effect this January changed your 401(k): your catch-up contributions must now go into the Roth side, after tax and with no deduction. Most high earners are discovering this through a slightly lighter paycheck and assuming it's a payroll error. It isn't.In this episode, Hazel Secco, CFP®, CDFA® breaks down exactly who the rule catches (it's your wages from one employer, not household income), what it really costs (~$2,800/year at a 35% marginal rate), and why, for women wi...
2026-08-1211 minAlign Your RetirementThe Cheapest Tax Years of Your Life: Roth Conversions Before Social Security StartsSend us Fan MailThere's a short stretch in early retirement when your paycheck has stopped, Social Security hasn't started, and required withdrawals haven't begun. Your taxable income may be the lowest it will ever be, which makes it the cheapest time to move pre-tax money into a Roth.That room doesn't carry forward. Each year you don't use it, it's gone, and once required withdrawals start, your income goes up for good.In this episode:Why the years between your last paycheck and your RMD age (73 or 75, depending on...
2026-07-1706 min
Divorce Rich with Jacki Roessler, CDFAPrenups and Divorce: What a CDFA Actually Looks ForSend us Fan MailEveryone assumes a prenup is a legal document you sign once and forget about. But when a marriage ends — five years later, or twenty — someone has to go back and figure out what that agreement actually means in today's dollars, today's assets, today's reality. That's where a CDFA comes in.In this solo episode, Jacki breaks down what's really inside a prenuptial or post-nuptial agreement from a financial (not legal) point of view — separate property schedules, appreciation clauses, income allocation, spousal support waivers — and walks through a real-world case where a business...
2026-07-1626 minAlign Your RetirementThe Widow’s Penalty: Why Taxes Rise After a Spouse Dies and How Roth Conversions Can HelpSend us Fan MailHazel Secco explains the “widow’s penalty,” where a surviving spouse, usually the wife, often pays more tax after a husband’s death despite similar income because she shifts from married filing jointly to single brackets with a smaller standard deduction. Income frequently stays high due to pensions, required minimum distributions from traditional retirement accounts, and the larger Social Security benefit, and higher taxable income can also raise Medicare premiums. Using a hypothetical couple, Diane (59) and Paul (62), with $2.1M saved (about $1.45M in traditional accounts), she shows how the survivor can face six figures...
2026-07-0706 minAlign Your RetirementInheriting an IRA? The 10-Year Rule That Can Quietly Cost Your Kids Six FiguresSend us Fan MailYou just inherited an IRA. Somewhere in the grief and the paperwork, a clock started, and almost no one tells you it's running.Since the SECURE Act, most people who inherit an IRA from someone other than a spouse have just 10 years to empty the entire account, and every dollar that comes out is taxable income. The old "stretch IRA," where you could spread withdrawals over your lifetime, is mostly gone. Handle it on autopilot and you can stack a six-figure tax bill on top of your highest-earning years. Handle it...
2026-06-2315 minAlign Your RetirementWhere You Hold Investments Changes What You Keep (Asset Location)Send us Fan MailYour investment allocation might be fine, but your account structure could be quietly shaving thousands off your retirement over time. I’m talking about the gap between what your portfolio earns and what you actually keep after taxes, and the simple lever that can shrink that tax drag year after year: asset location.We get specific about how different account types change your after-tax returns even when you hold the exact same investment. Traditional 401(k)s and IRAs defer taxes now but turn future withdrawals into ordinary income. Roth accounts lock in...
2026-06-1614 minAlign Your RetirementSequence of Returns Risk: Same $2 Million, One Runs Out at 82Send us Fan MailTwo women retire at 62 with the same $2 million, the same index funds, the same 7% average return, and the same $80,000 a year. One dies at 92 with more than she started with. The other runs out of money at 82. The only difference is the year they retired.That's sequence of returns risk, and if you're 5 to 15 years from retiring, it's one of the biggest risks to your retirement date.In this episode:Why the first 5 years of retirement matter more than the next 25How a bucket strategy, a...
2026-06-0217 minAlign Your RetirementWhen to Claim Social Security: Why the Math Is Different for WomenSend us Fan MailMost Social Security break-even calculators give women the wrong answer, because the life expectancy table they use isn't yours. In this episode, Hazel walks through why the claiming math is different for women, the survivor's one-check reality that costs married women the most, and how a larger portfolio changes the claiming decision.In this episode:Why the standard break-even math undervalues delaying for womenThe survivor's one-check reality, and why the higher earner's claiming age shapes the survivor's income for lifeHow your other retirement assets interact with Social Security...
2026-05-1914 minAlign Your RetirementRoth Conversions With $1.5 Million in Pre-Tax Accounts: When the Window Opens and ClosesSend us Fan MailIf you have $1.5 million or more in pre-tax retirement accounts, the years between your last paycheck and your first required minimum distribution may be your best chance to lower your lifetime tax bill. What you do in that window can decide whether your retirement income is taxed in the 22% to 24% brackets or at 32% and above.In this episode:Why the years between retirement and RMDs (which start at 73 or 75, depending on your birth year) can be the lowest tax years of your adult life3 questions that tell you...
2026-05-1214 min
Intentional Money PodcastIntentional Money Moves Live with Leah Hadley, AFC, CDFA, MAFFThe #1 NYT bestselling memoir Strangers has the whole country talking about financial risk in marriage and divorce. As a CDFA and financial planner who works with women every day, I have a lot to say about it.Join me live this Tuesday at noon as I walk through the real financial lessons inside this book, the five questions every woman should be asking herself right now, and what financial self-protection actually looks like at every stage of life. Whether you are married, divorcing, or somewhere in between, this conversation is for you.Plus: stay until the end for details...
2026-05-0536 minAlign Your RetirementWhen Should You Hire a Financial Advisor? A 3-Part TestSend us Fan MailIs it finally time to hire a financial advisor? The answer usually has less to do with your net worth and more to do with how much complexity you're carrying and how close you are to retirement.In this episode, I walk through a 3-part test for deciding:The retirement runway threshold. How complexity and time to retirement add up, and the 4 triggers that show you've crossed itThe cost of decision fatigue. What the decisions you keep putting off may be costing youTaking...
2026-04-2815 minAlign Your RetirementYou Know What to Do With Your Money. Why Aren't You Doing It?Send us Fan MailYou know what you should be doing with your money, and you're still not doing it. That gap between knowing and doing is one of the most common reasons a financial plan doesn't work.In this episode, I walk through four money patterns (the Protector, the Avoider, the Regulator, and the Sacrificer), where they tend to come from, and the actions that help change them. I also share two examples and my own story.In this episode:The four money patterns and how to spot yoursWhy $500,000...
2026-04-1418 minAlign Your RetirementFee-Only vs. Fee-Based Financial Advisor: What's the Difference?Send us Fan MailFinancial advisors aren't all paid the same way, and how your advisor is paid can shape the advice you get.In this episode, I explain what fee-only means, how it differs from fee-based and commission-based, and what to ask before you hire anyone.In this episode:Fee-only vs. fee-based vs. commission-based, and why the difference mattersWhy an advisor should be a fiduciary 100% of the time, not just for some accountsHow commissions can create conflicts you'd never seeThe ways fee-only advisors are typically paid5 questions to ask...
2026-04-0117 minAlign Your RetirementWhy Financial Plans Fail When They're Built on Someone Else's ValuesSend us Fan MailMost financial plans don't fall apart because the math was wrong. They fall apart because they were built around what you thought you should want, what your family expected, or what the industry calls success. A few months in, you stop following the plan, because it was never really yours.In this episode, I share my own story of burnout early in my career, how it shaped the way I built Align, and how to build a plan around the life you actually want.In this episode:
2026-03-1016 minAlign Your RetirementWhy You Still Worry About Money When You Earn PlentySend us Fan MailEarning more doesn't always make money stress go away. If you feel guilty spending money you can afford, save far more than you need, or worry about the future no matter what your balance says, the cause may be your money mindset rather than your income.In this episode:How early experiences shape a scarcity mindsetWhy spending can feel wrong even when the numbers say it's fineHow to balance saving for later with enjoying your life nowPractical steps to build a calmer relationship with your money📝 Free Ret...
2026-03-0315 min
Align Your RetirementHow Much Is Enough to Retire? Finding Your Enough NumberSend us Fan MailHow much is enough? Your enough number is the amount that lets you stop chasing someone else's idea of success and build a retirement that fits your own life.In this episode, I walk through how to estimate yours and why the answer is different for every woman.In this episode:What an enough number is and why it isn't the same for everyoneHow to estimate yours with the rule of 25How to separate your own goals from comparison and social pressureWhy reaching a milestone doesn't...
2026-02-1714 min
Align Your RetirementWhat Your Money Is Really For: Building a Life With OptionsSend us Fan MailWhat is your money actually for? In this short episode, I talk about why a plan built around options, the freedom to choose how much and whether you work, can matter more than reaching a bigger number.This is the first episode of Season 2, which looks at building a life where work is a choice.📝 Free Retirement Readiness Assessment → https://alignfinancialsolutions.com/retirement-readiness-assessment📞 Book a free Align Call → https://calendly.com/alignfinancialsolutions/align-call?utm_source=podcastFollow the Conversation:LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/hazel-secc...
2026-02-0307 min
Divorce Rich with Jacki Roessler, CDFAAre You Ready for Your First Meeting with Your Divorce Attorney with Family Law Attorney, Jorin Rubin, Esq.Send us Fan MailDivorce feels like someone shuffled your entire life and told you to play the next hand perfectly. We walk you through the first moves that matter most: which documents to gather, how to build a simple but powerful budget, and how to choose an attorney whose strengths match your case and county. Family law attorney Joran Rubin joins us to share what impresses counsel in the first meeting, why three years of tax returns reveal more than you think, and how a budget becomes the backbone of support discussions and housing decisions.
2026-01-3030 min
Intentional Divorce InsightsDouble the Insight: Divorce Financial Planners Tackle Tough QuestionsIn this insightful episode, Leah Hadley is joined by fellow CDFA, Jacki Roessler, for a deep-dive into some of the most common and costly financial mistakes made during divorce. Drawing from decades of experience, Leah and Jacki share a wealth of knowledge relating to the financial aspect of divorce.
Whether you’re beginning the divorce process, in the thick of negotiations, or advocating for someone you care about, this episode is packed with tips and stories to help you approach financial decisions with clarity and confidence.
Key Topics Covered:
- Biggest Financial Mistakes in...
2025-08-2631 min
Disrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 212: Disney Dad Exposed: How to Protect Your Kids and Your Finances During Divorce [Solo Episode]In this solo episode, Rhonda Noordyk, CDFA®, unpacks the psychology behind the "Disney Dad" and why his extravagant gestures aren't really about the kids. If you've ever felt frustrated, exhausted, or even questioned your worth as a parent while your ex showers the kids with trips, gifts, and treats—this episode is for you. Rhonda reveals how Disney Dad tactics often mask deeper issues like guilt, ego, or financial manipulation, and how those behaviors can quietly erode your financial future if left unchecked. She shares the tools and mindset shifts you need to reclaim your power, protect you...
2025-08-2215 min
Disrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode #207: Breaking the Trauma Bond with Lisa HappIn this powerful and deeply insightful episode of Breaking the Trauma Bond with Lisa Happ , Rhonda Noordyk, CDFA®, sits down with divorce coach and survivor Lisa Happ to unpack the layered realities of high-conflict divorce—especially when narcissistic abuse, coercive control, and parental alienation are in play. Together, they offer transformational strategies for women navigating these emotionally charged separations, empowering them to recognize abuse, reclaim their voice, and create a safe, healing home environment for themselves and their children. Whether you're in the midst of a difficult divorce or supporting someone who is, this episode she...
2025-05-0228 min
Divorce Rich with Jacki Roessler, CDFAInvesting Myths Busted, with Melissa Fradenburg, Wealth AdvisorSend us Fan MailCan investing outside of a bank account or CD be safe for those navigating a divorce? Tune in as we shatter the myth of high investment risk with my special guest, Melissa Fradenburg, CDFA, AIF, a seasoned wealth advisor with Antonelli Financial in Grosse Pointe, Michigan. Together, we unpack the essential strategies for maintaining your purchasing power and combating inflation through long-term investments. Learn how balancing financial safety with diversified investments can set you on the path to financial security. Let Melissa's practical advice guide you through this transformative period, ensuring your financial de...
2024-10-0327 min
Divorce Rich with Jacki Roessler, CDFAPrenup Lessons from J.Lo and Ben with Family Law Attorney, Max EmmerSend us Fan MailIn this mini-episode, host and certified divorce financial analyst, Jacki Roessler, CDFA invites family law attorney, Max Emmer to dissect the recent buzz around high-profile divorces, such as Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck, and discuss the surprising fact that they lacked a prenup. The discussion goes beyond the celebrity world, offering practical advice for everyday people contemplating marriage. If you're thinking about tying the knot and want to make informed financial decisions, this episode is a must-listen!https://www.emmerlawplc.com/ Click here to learn more about family law attorney, Max Emmer...
2024-08-2214 min
Align Your RetirementHer journey to becoming a mission-driven financial advisorSend us Fan MailJoin Hazel on "Her Honest Money Talk" as she goes into her journey of becoming a financial advisor. She shares how it has shaped her into the passionate advocate for women's financial independence she is today. Through her candid storytelling, she talks about her personal upbringing and how it fuels her drive to help women take control of their finances. Tune in for such an inspiring episode that resonates with women everywhere! 📝 Free Retirement Readiness Assessment → https://alignfinancialsolutions.com/retirement-readiness-assessment📞 Book a free Align Call → https://calendly.c...
2024-03-2236 min
Divorce Rich with Jacki Roessler, CDFAUnderstanding your Budget and Divorce with Jacki Roessler, CDFASend us Fan MailJoin Jacki Roessler, CDFA in this keystone episode about the importance of creating a current and post-divorce anticipated budget. Although often forgotten or overlooked, getting on paper what you spend every month is a powerful tool that helps clients make decisions. It's one thing to say you want to keep the house and another to put that idea into concrete numbers.Resources:Click here to download Jacki's budget worksheetClick here to book a complimentary 30-minute Zoom meeting with Jacki to review your budget! https://calendly.com/roessler-jacki/30min
2024-03-0210 min
Align Your RetirementEP 06. Finding Your Financial Wellness: Tips for Choosing the Right Financial PlannerSend us Fan MailIn today's episode of "Her Honest Money Talk," we're diving into the critical process of selecting a financial planner or advisor. The episode features a conversational style between Hazel, the founder and CEO of Align Financial Solutions LLC, and Hannah, who serves as the client wizard at Align Financial Solutions LLC. Join us as we explore key tips for finding the right match to navigate your financial future. From considering compatibility with your unique financial and life circumstances to exploring vetted professionals on trustworthy websites, we'll provide valuable insights for navigating this important...
2024-02-2625 min
Align Your RetirementHer Honest Money Talk with Hazel Secco TrailerSend us Fan MailIntroducing "Her Honest Money Talk" with Hazel Secco, CFP, CDFA, where financial clarity meets candid conversation. Join Hazel as she demystifies the world of personal finance with honesty and insight. In this trailer, get a glimpse of what's to come as Hazel explores the most frequently asked questions from women, all delivered with her signature honest approach. Tune in for practical advice, real-life stories, and empowering discussions about women and money, and beyond. Subscribe now for your bi-weekly dose of financial wisdom.Subscribe to us @AlignFinancialSolutions ...
2024-02-1601 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawUsing a Financial Specialist to Unpack Your Divorce MediationDiscover how to navigate the complexities of divorce with financial savvy and emotional intelligence as we chat with financial divorce consultant Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, therapist Pete Roussos, MFT, and attorney Shawn Weber. This revealing conversation is packed with expert advice on the crucial role of financial specialists during divorce mediation. You'll gain an understanding of the emotional weight of assets, how to balance power dynamics, and the subtleties of informed decision-making. Our guests strip back the layers of financial negotiations, providing a clear path to a fair settlement that respects both the past and future financial health of...
2024-02-0738 min
Align Your RetirementEP 05. Barbie Unboxed: Financial Advocate and Feminist ViewsSend us Fan MailJoin us in this candid episode of Her Honest Money Talk as we dissect the movie 'Barbie' from the unique vantage points of a financial advocate for women and feminist ideals. Delve into our honest exploration of this empowering film, as we discuss its strides, missed opportunities, and the intersection of finance and feminism. Tune in for an insightful conversation on the portrayal of women's empowerment and financial themes within the world of Barbie.📝 Free Retirement Readiness Assessment → https://alignfinancialsolutions.com/retirement-readiness-assessment📞 Book a free Align Call → https://calendly.com/alignf...
2023-11-1721 min
Align Your RetirementEP 04. Financial Advisor vs. Financial PlannerSend us Fan MailIn this episode of "Honest Money Talk," host Hazel Secco, founder of Align Financial Solutions, delves into the crucial question of finding the right financial advisor or consultant. She highlights the common misconception between financial planners and advisors, emphasizing that these terms aren't regulated, allowing anyone to adopt them. Hazel underscores the prevalence of insurance agents using these titles, sometimes leading to a focus on meeting quotas through product sales rather than prioritizing clients' needs.📝 Free Retirement Readiness Assessment → https://alignfinancialsolutions.com/retirement-readiness-assessment📞 Book a free Align Call → https://calendly.c...
2023-11-0209 min
Align Your RetirementEP 3: Emotions and Financial DecisionsSend us Fan MailIn this episode of "Her Honest Money Talk," we delve deep into the significance of comprehending the intricate connection between emotions and financial decision-making. When we take the time to recognize our own tendencies and biases, it becomes considerably easier to make well-informed decisions with a heightened level of awareness. This newfound consciousness paves the way for more sound and rational choices, ultimately steering us towards achieving our financial goals with confidence and clarity. Stay tuned for a discussion that could revolutionize the way you approach your finances!📝 Free Retirement Readiness Ass...
2023-10-0504 min
Divorce for Wealthy WomenDeconstructing Divorce: Insights from a Certified Divorce Financial AnalystIntroduction
In this episode, we delve into the often-overlooked world of divorce and the crucial role of divorce professionals. Join us as Jonathan Satovsky, CEO and Chief Behavioral Coach of SAM, shares insights into his work with divorcing clients, focusing on supporting women through this challenging process.
1. The Importance of Attorneys in Divorce
Some people underestimate the role of attorneys in divorce proceedings.
Attorneys are vital because they have a deep understanding of the unique nuances within each state's divorce laws.
2. Guest Introduction: Jonathan Satovsky
Jonathan's impressive array of...
2023-09-1215 min
Align Your RetirementEP 2: Financial Advisor Compensation DemystifiedSend us Fan MailIn this episode of "Her Honest Money Talk," we take a deep dive into the intriguing world of financial advisor compensation. Join us as we uncover the various ways financial advisors get paid, from fee-only and fee-based models to commission-based and bonus-driven structures. Discover the pros and cons of each approach and learn how to navigate the complexities of advisor compensation to make informed choices that align with your financial goals. Whether you're seeking financial advice or simply curious about the mechanics behind the industry, this episode will shed light on the crucial...
2023-09-0503 min
Align Your RetirementEP 1. Navigating Market Realities: Unveiling the Unspoken TruthsSend us Fan MailJoin Hazel Secco, founder of Align Financial Solutions, in this eye-opening episode of "Honest Money Talk." In a world where financial advisors often paint a rosy picture, Hazel brings you the unspoken truths that can transform your perspective on investing. Discover the powerful insight that most advisors keep behind the scenes: no one controls the market's twists and turns. Learn why it's crucial to embrace this reality and focus on what truly matters – crafting a robust financial plan. Hazel's wisdom will empower you to weather the market's ups and downs with confidence and eq...
2023-08-2903 min
Disrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 158: Is keeping the house worth it?Don't miss this episode if you're contemplating keeping your house in your divorce. Join Rhonda and Jeff Landers for this in depth conversation on keeping the house - is it a good idea? What factors should you consider? Learn what the 6-36 rule is and how it plays a pivotal part in planning for your future. Gather all of the information. Evaluate your particular situation (things are not black and white!). Get to a place where you can move forward. Do not fall for a false sense of financial security!
2023-04-1334 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawDivorce During a Financial CrisisOn this episode of The Three Wisemen of Divorce, our experts tackle a difficult but important topic: divorce during a financial crisis. Drawing on their extensive experience working with clients during periods of economic upheaval, the Wisemen share valuable insights and practical tips for navigating divorce decisions when finances are at their most precarious. From the lessons learned from the failure of Silicon Bank to strategies for protecting your assets during inflation, this episode is a must-listen for anyone going through a divorce during a financial crisis. Join us and learn from the divorce experts: Mark C. Hill, CFP®, C...
2023-04-1148 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & Law"Should Old Acquaintance be forgot": Divorce and the New YearWith the New Year come new resolutions and plans for the upcoming year. But what if your New Year's resolution is to get a divorce? Believe it or not, January is known as "divorce season" in the family law business because so many people decide to call it quits after the holidays.Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, talk about divorce in the New Year and things to think about before you take the plunge.*Cert...
2022-12-2740 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawSurviving the First Holidays After DivorceThe first holidays after a divorce can be tough. We call it the "Year of Firsts." It's the first Christmas, Passover, Birthday, Fourth of July, and even Super Bowl Sunday while separated. Questions abound such as:How are the holidays split in a divorce?What will Christmas after divorce be like?Should divorced parents spend holidays together?Surviving the holidays after divorce can be challenging. Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss legal, financial, and emotional aspects of the...
2022-11-0834 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawThe Most Dangerous Time of the Divorce In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, M.A., MFT, CST, Psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss why the first two weeks of any divorce is the most dangerous time. Learn what kinds of situations can make this the most dangerous time and learn strategies for setting boundaries and minimizing conflict.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney.
2022-09-2047 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawHow to Tell the Kids About the Divorce (and How NOT to Tell the Kids!)What should we tell the kids? How much information should we share? How do we have this conversation? In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss what should and should not be shared with your children about the divorce.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney.
2022-08-1633 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & Law"Why can't you be happy for me?": When straying spouses can't understand the pain they causeWe've seen it time and again in divorce cases. When adultery happens, sometimes the adulterer has no clue what kind of pain they are causing. It's almost like folks have blinders. While most states have "no-fault" divorce, the pain of an affair can adversely affect agreement readiness during divorce negations whether courts recognizes fault or not. In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss the psychology and emotional ramifications of adultery on divorce negotiations.The Three...
2021-10-2042 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 121: Benefits of Mediation and Communication During the Divorce Process with Amanda SingerIn this episode, Rhonda welcomes Amanda Singer. Amanda is Co-Owner of West Coast Family Mediation Center. She is a Licensed Attorney, Certified Mediator, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. Amanda's key area of practice is mediation. According to Amanda, mediation is not going to work in all situations, but it does in a lot more than people realize. Some couples might agree on everything and they just might need more help with getting things done correctly. And there are those that agree on nothing. At least they have to both agree on mediation. Communication is not easy. Make...
2021-10-1521 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawI can't believe you asked for that! Reacting to insulting proposals in divorce negotiationsSometimes during a divorce mediation someone makes a proposal that is so off-base it is insulting. The temptation is to get angry, yell or even storm out of the room. But maybe there is a better approach. In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss what happens when someone makes a crazy or even insulting proposal during a divorce negotiation.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consult...
2021-10-1442 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 119 :Things to Consider When Selling Your Home in A Divorce with Bridget PottertIn today's episode, Rhonda is joined by Bridget Potterton. Bridget is a Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert in the state of California. Today they discuss the things you should be considering before selling your home during your divorce. Selling your home could be a tough decision due to various reasons such as emotional attachment, but you must consider everything when making this big decision in your life. Bridget reminds today's listeners to be careful and consider everything in making your decision. Here are some of the key points to the discussion that make this a...
2021-10-0129 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 118:Debunking Divorce Myths With David IancuIn today's episode, I sat down with David Iancu of Karp & Iancu, S.C. law firm in the state of Wisconsin, to debunk some of the myths surrounding divorce. Disclaimer! The discussion that we had pertains specifically to the laws on divorce in the State of Wisconsin. What we discussed may not apply to you as each state has its own laws pertaining to this matter. Nevertheless, I am encouraging you to listen to our discussion because there might be things that you didn't initially consider that could be touched upon here. Right off the...
2021-09-2430 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 117:Other Ways to Get a Divorce with Nicole Cheri OdenFor today's episode, Rhonda is joined by Nicole Cheri Oden. Nicole is an attorney licensed in the State of California for almost 10 years with her own virtual law practice. Today they will discuss the various options when going through a divorce. Litigation divorce isn't the only way and being aware of these options can help families minimize the emotional stress and costs during a difficult time. Taking a step back to review the emotional climate between the two parties can eventually help smoothen the journey through divorce. Nicole sternly reminds today's listeners that divorces don't necessarily need...
2021-09-1739 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawDivorce and Real EstateThe Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the strange COVID influenced real estate market and how it impacts the decisions people in their divorce. Wisemen, financial divorce advisor Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, psychologist Scott Weiner, J.D., Ph.D. and attorney Shawn Weber, CLS-F chat with realtor and Weber Dispute Resolution mediator Robert Flynn, J.D., SRES. For more information about Robert Flynn's real estate business, visit https://fairwayresidential.com/agents/robert-flynn/. To inquire about his mediation practice work with Weber Dispute Resolution, visit https://weberdisputeresolution.com/our-mediators/.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hil...
2021-09-0829 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 116: Women, Money and the Mindset Around it with Ariel KopacIn this episode, Rhonda welcomes Ariel Kopac, the founder and owner of Harness Your Hindrance. They talk about money and the mindsets that keep us stuck. We all experience fears around money, and that fear is heightened when there is a significant life change, especially divorce. Knowing that you can call out the fear, face it, and not be manipulated by it, you embrace the power you have. We can be manipulated by fear, or we can manipulate our fear. The choice is ours. Women going through divorce need to know that they have the power to choose.
2021-08-0632 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 114: Financial Independence with Amee QuiriconiIn this episode, Rhonda welcomes Amee Quiriconi. Amee is an advocate, business consultant, speaker, author, and the owner of Activity Girl, LLC. Amee has been divorced twice and has learned valuable lessons from each experience. According to Amee, divorce is emotional. We have to find space in our divorce process to breathe, to calm down, and to come back to the really hard decisions that we have to make when we are not amplified, and elevated, stressed down, and depressed. Here are some of her thoughts and recommendations: Support system is invaluable. It is...
2021-07-2343 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 109: Listen to Your Body with Jasmin CaviezelIn this episode Rhonda welcomes Jasmin Caviezel, Personal Trainer and Menstrual Cycle Coach. They talk about the four cycle phases and what happens during the phases with hormones and energy changes. Jasmin's message for you today is: Listening to your body is always the best thing to do. Keep track your changes. Journaling is great way to start for anyone that is new to this. The My Flow App may help you track your cycle and gives you some useful tips. Here are some of Jasmin's tips: Women in menopause still can feel those...
2021-05-2121 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 108: Parenting Aspect of the Divorce Process with Kristin BelkoferIn this episode Rhonda welcomes Kristin Belkofer, a mental health professional, and a Founder and Clinical Director of CLARA Healing Institute. They talk about the parenting aspect of the divorce process and therapeutic strategies for working with children. According to Kristin, if communication and healthy confrontation is a problem in marriage, it is going to be a problem in the coparenting relationship. Her message to you today is: This is just a chapter of not only your story but of your family's story. And remember that kids are extremely resilient. Here are some of Kristin's...
2021-05-1446 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawGood Remarriage: How not to make the same mistakes you made in your last marriage.So, you survived the process of divorcing your ex. Now you want to remarry. How do you avoid repeating same mistakes you made the first time around? In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how to start the next relationship on the right foot. The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce...
2021-05-1236 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 107: Answering Questions and Starting Over with Jess CoenenIn this episode Rhonda welcomes Jessica Coenen, Founder and CEO of La Belle Creative. Jess shares her story of being divorced twice, left almost homeless, without an income, and full of questions like: Who am I? And then starting over, answering those questions and building the new story for herself. Here are some of her encouragements: This is you new life and fresh start. And that is scary as hell because you don't know what's around the corner. What do you fantasize about? What are your biggest dreams? Even if you have to go to...
2021-05-0720 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawFinancial DisclosuresFinancial Disclosures are necessary in every divorce. While the process can be tedious, divorcing parties need to do the financial disclosures truthfully and thoroughly. We know that money can mean a lot of different things to different people. In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, chat about the importance of the financial disclosures and the emotional and legal challenges they raise.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce...
2021-05-0434 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawDivorce Negotiation and Thinking Outside the BoxIt's very easy to get stuck in a certain way of approaching things, especially during the challenges of a divorce negotiation. In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how creative thinking by "thinking outside the box" can lead to better and happier outcomes.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attor...
2021-04-3033 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawThe Multi-dimensional Aspects of the Marital HomeOriginally recorded on March 8, 2023, the Three Wisemen sit down with Massachusetts Attorney and Mediator Beth Aarons, JD, MSW to discuss the multi-dimensional aspects of the marital home and how it hits the emotional, legal and financial aspects of a divorce. The Three Wisemen of Divorce are Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F...
2021-04-2732 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 105: Authenticity and Balance with Jessica Lucchesi MoylanIn this episode Rhonda welcomes her friend Jessica Lucchesi Moylan, health and wellness expert, a mom of three daughters and recently divorced after 25 years of marriage. Jessica shares her insight and encouragement with you, and her message for you today is: Tack your head, your heart and your gut in the alignment. According to Jessica, divorce is like a bad dream, but she'd rather be alone than lonely with somebody else. Here are some of Jessica's suggestions for those women contemplating divorce: Start to journal – What do I want? What do I want out of...
2021-04-2334 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 104: You Can Have a Great Life on the Other Side with Lisa MackIn this episode Rhonda talks to Lisa Mack, an independent senior sales director, and a Cadillac driver. Lisa shares about her experience when she was going through divorce after four years of marriage, starting her business and building credit ratings. For a long time, she found comfort in her favorite Bible verse from Jeremiah 29:11, and it proved true in her life. According to Lisa, the overall thing is: You can do it. You can make it through. You really can come through on the other side even better than you could've even imagine. Here are...
2021-04-1635 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawPrenups, Postnups and Pillow TalkNeed to get a prenup? What about a postnuptial agreement after your already married? Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss why formal marital agreements can be good and why pillow talk agreements don't count. The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney.
2021-04-1443 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 103: Find Your Value and Set Your Goals with Leslie VanDorfIn this special episode Rhonda welcomes her friend Leslie who shares her own experience with divorce. ____________________ Our host of Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI, CDFA® Rhonda Noordyk's relentless pursuit of financial justice for women going through divorce drove her to leave the financial industry in 2014 to open The Women's Financial Wellness Center. She was in search of a better way. She used her knowledge, passion, and experience to build a leading-edge business model. The intention was to create a business that provided a safe place for women - especially tho...
2021-04-0936 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 102: Special Episode with Kim RuefIn this special episode Rhonda welcomes Kim Ruef, the owner of TRUE Tax & Accounting. Rhonda and Kim discuss Tax concerns issues, such as the extended filing date, child tax credits, the filing married versus single, how to handle an uncooperative spouse and claiming Head of household. According to Kim, the key is to be educated. Contact Information Kim Ruef Website | LinkedIn | (608) 218-6547 kim@trueconsultingllc.net ____________________ Our host of Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI, CDFA® Rhonda Noordyk's relentless pursuit of fin...
2021-04-0729 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 100: Resistance to Change with Barbara HusonIn this episode Rhonda welcomes Barbara Huson. Barbara is the leading authority on women, wealth and power. Barbara shares several tips on how to change our mindset and deal with that resistance that keeps us from making that change. The ideal way to work with resistance is to explore it – to ask yourself some really deep questions and think it through: what am I afraid of; why am I afraid…. When you look at your resistance and you explore it, it is amazing what happens. It's quite simple to rewire for wealth. It's only three steps: reco...
2021-03-2620 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 099: Asking the Right Questions with Kimberly WarnerIn this episode Rhonda welcomes her friend and a fellow podcaster Kimberly Warner. Kimberly shares about her experience of going through divorce after 19 years of marriage, dealing with attorneys and the importance of asking the right questions, even if your process is amicable. Here are some of Kimberly's thoughts on the subject: It does take time, and I think you have to do something for yourself. Pick up a new hobby, or a new habit, or something that you really want to do to start healing. You have to be authentic and honest with yourself and...
2021-03-1925 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 098: Financial Therapy with Nathan AstleOn this episode Rhonda introduces Nathan Astle, the founder of Relational Money LLC. Rhonda and Nathan talk about financial therapy, the goal of which is to change the way people think, feel, and behave with money. Through several examples and exercises, Nathan shares where and how financial therapy can make that change and increase the person's wellbeing. According to Nathan, money is emotional. If financial wellness is difficult for you in the process of a divorce there are reasons behind it, and it can be a lot of different things, like your family, or your relationship with...
2021-03-1227 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawFinding Fault in the "No-Fault" DivorceMost jurisdictions in the United States embrace the concept of so-called "no-fault divorce". It makes sense for the Court. No Judge wants to involve themselves in deciding who is a fault when a marriage fails. It's a recipe for a soap opera reality TV proceeding. So the divorce for "irreconcilable differences" often makes the most sense. But some folks can't walk away from the idea of blaming someone for the demise of the marriage. This week, the Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss what to do when a party to a divorce insists on assigning blame even in the no-fault divorce...
2021-03-0340 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 095: Divorce and Taxes with Jason JendrachIn this episode Rhonda talks to Jason Jendrach, a CPA and owner of Jendrach Dobogai Lindseth inc., about the importance of having right information regarding finances, especially while going through divorce. Our guest shared some important information about debts, bad tax issues, MSA, innocent spouse, how to get copies from IRS, tax refund splitting, tax table changes and business valuation. Here are some of his recommendations: Do not be afraid to ask questions. Do not hesitate and reach out, it is to your benefit. The more planning and the more you can put in on the...
2021-02-1936 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawThe Flowers are Dead: When Valentine's Day Leads to DivorceSometimes Valentine's Day, a day supposedly to express love, can be the very catalyst that leads to the final decision to divorce. Sometimes these annual celebrations become triggering to people. The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the post-Valentine's Day divorce surge and the relationship psychology that seem to attend such important days. Is it the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back? The final break in the dike? Divorce Wisemen Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, talk it out.The Thre...
2021-02-1530 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawWhat to do if one spouse wants a divorce and the other doesn'tIt is rare that both spouses mutually agreed that a divorce should happen. Usually, there is a "leavor" and a "leavee". What do you do if you want a divorce and the other person doesn't want to "grant" the divorce? This week, Divorce Wisemen Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss letting the myriad of issues that occur when one spouse wants out and the other won't leave.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, C...
2021-02-0349 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 092: Be Your Best Self with Shannon VickIn this episode Rhonda talks to Shannon Vick, Personal Trainer and the Owner of Iron Fist Fitness, about fitness and taking care of your body in order to stay healthy and ready for the challenges throughout the stressful period of divorce. Shannon points out that working out and taking care of your body is no longer an option, it is an absolute must, just like eating, drinking water or taking a shower. His recommendations for women are: Find your reason and find out your why – Figure out what you want to do and why you want to...
2021-01-2919 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 089: Staying On Course with Lisa ZeidermanIn this episode Rhonda talks to Lisa Zeiderman, a Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP. They are discussing some of the less obvious financial issues you should consider when looking at your and your spouse's financial assets in a divorce. Key takeaways from this conversations are: Staying on course through the litigation process is important. Divorce process is a marathon. Aim for the long run, and make sure to get to the end that works for you and your children. What you say to your therapist is not necessarily private during the child custody dispute. ...
2021-01-0832 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawNew Year's Dispute ResolutionsIt's that time of the year for New Year's Resolutions. When folks are facing marital problems, they often include a divorce in their plans for the New Year. In this time of rebooting, how can people approach these changes? From a menu ranging from better co-parenting, setting boundaries and new financial choices, what other resolutions might the newly separated consider ? Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss letting go of the old and ringing in the New Year with a new outlook...
2020-12-3140 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawWhen There's No Place Like Home for the Holidays (After the Divorce)Divorce can wreak havoc on family holiday traditions. But divorcing parents have the ability to make holidays less painful and a nice memory for their children. While the experience may not be a Norman Rockwell postcard, it can be positive if co-parents take the right steps. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how separated parents can arrange their co-parenting and custody arrangements during the holidays in a way that can make the holidays a good experience for the kids.The...
2020-12-1845 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 086: Variable Expenses Challenges with Marco MunozIn this episode, Rhonda talks to Marco Munoz, Co-Founder of DComply, about making your post-divorce life simpler with an amazing tool that provides a better process for working with an ex on shared parenting expenses. Marco recommends: To have a process when it comes to finances Stay out of court The biggest challenge around variable expenses is communication followed by administration. DComply App will help you with both of those challenges so you can avoid paying more for expenses than you should. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was...
2020-12-1827 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 084: You're a Goddess with Elizabeth Ann AtkinsOn this episode Rhonda talks to Elizabeth Ann Atkins, a best-selling author, actress, TV host and award-winning journalist. Elizabeth shares her terrible divorce story and how she endured through vicious verbal abuse, to finally forgive herself and her ex, and find peace after 16 years of conflict for the sake of their son. Elizabeth's message to other women going through a divorce focuses on: Forgiveness Living bigger, better and bolder Find your inner Goddess Use your divorce experience to create the best version of yourself Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was...
2020-12-0432 minDisrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 083: Tools for Better Communication with Ashley E. LillesandOn this episode, Rhonda talks to Ashley E. Lillesand, a Managing Partner at Lillesand Law LLC, about estate planning women should do right after a divorce. Ashley shares tips on how to get through a divorce and estate planning: It gets better The guardian and money handler for the children can be, but they don't need to be one and the same person Do not be scared of the process Estate Planning Basics: - Writing a Will - Naming Beneficiaries & Guardians - Financial Power of Attorney ...
2020-11-2720 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawAn Attitude of GratitudeDivorce is heartbreaking and emotionally tough. During this Thanksgiving holiday, it may be difficult to think about being thankful during such a challenging time. But we have learned that an attitude of gratitude in spite of the challenges can make a big difference. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, tackle this wisdom of finding a silver lining even when there are dark storm clouds.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychoth...
2020-11-2631 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawJuggling Holidays and Telling the Kids about the DivorceTwo topics this week. First, what is the best approach to talking to your kids about the breakup? We talk about how to get through that difficult conversation. Next, and surprisingly related, we talk about how to juggle the holidays during and after the divorce. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, talk it out.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, F...
2020-11-2546 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawPolitics, Pandemics and Paranoia During DivorceIt's elections season. We are in the middle of some of the most stressful times of a generation. Between politics, pandemics, and general paranoia, there is a lot on people's minds. What do folks do when divorce happens in these troubled times. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how current events are affecting families grappling with the challenging transitions of divorce.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos...
2020-11-1442 min
Disrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode 081: Journey To Worthy with Candy LeighIn this episode, Rhonda sits down to talk with Candy Leigh, the owner of Candy Leigh Coaching about the journey to worthy. Candy shares 3 Key Takeaways to help women find their way back from divorce: Reclaim your self-worth Declutter your space Take action by journaling Candy also gives a bonus tip about building a "team" around you to support you on your journey! Contact Information and Other Resources Our guests today was Candy Leigh, Owner of Candy Leigh Coaching, LLC; Author, Finding Life In Between; certified: mediator, coach, trainer, change management...
2020-11-1333 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawPersonality and Divorce with Personality Expert Dr. Richard LevakLike dog breeds, people have different personality types. Some are more easy going than others. Some struggle to get along with others. The personality types in the marriage has a huge impact on how the divorce will go. The Three Wisemen of Divorce, Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, welcome nationally recognized personality expert Dr. Richard Levak to discuss the profound effect personality type has on the divorce along with helpful tips for how to manage different and sometimes difficult personalities.
2020-11-0344 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawAnger and DivorceWho's angry? It seems that in divorce, anger is very prevalent. But anger is a secondary emotion following hurt. While anger is natural, it can get in the way of thinking clearly and making good decisions. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss the effect rage can have on a divorce case and strategies people can use to control it.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST...
2020-10-1037 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawThe Power of the Collaborative Divorce Coach with Special Guest Nancy J. Ross, LCSWThis week we have an enriching discussion with Collaborative Divorce icon Nancy J. Ross, LCSW. Nancy pioneered the concept of the Collaborative Divorce Coach in California at the beginning of the Collaborative Divorce movement. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, chat with Nancy about how a divorce coach can help with the difficult emotions of divorce and how the current events such as Covid-19 and increased societal polarization make the Collaborative Divorce Coach a crucial party of your divorce team.Th...
2020-10-0241 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & Law50 Ways to Leave Your Lover (or something like that)There's more than one way to end a marriage. The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the different legal ways to end a relationship to include divorce, legal separation, nullity, post-marital agreements and Marvin actions. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney talk over the pros and cons of each.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorn...
2020-09-2638 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawDifficult Times Difficult DivorceDivorce rates are higher since the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic. Politics are causing polarization in communities and within families. Times are crazy these days. How do difficult times affect divorce? Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how stress from current events are affecting families struggling with divorce.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce...
2020-09-1940 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawCollaborative Divorce or Mediation? Which is the Right Choice for You?The decision of HOW you divorce is almost as important as the decision TO divorce. Sometimes it can be very confusing to decide between the many out-of-court processes available. Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss the differences between Divorce Mediation and Collaborative Divorce and what factors a person should consider when deciding between the two options.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Sh...
2020-09-0540 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawTips for a Miserable DivorceWe've talked a lot about how to make your divorce more smooth and peaceful. But this week, the Three Wisemen of Divorce share with you the guaranteed ways to have a completely miserable divorce. Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, Scott Weiner, Ph.D., J.D., and Shawn Weber, JD, CLS-F.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney.
2020-08-2842 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawBack to School Co-parenting in the Age of CornavirusDivorce, Custody and Visitation during the COVID-19 pandemic present new challenges for parents when the kids go back to school. What if parents can't agree on what is safe social distancing? What if the parents can't agree on the school or extracurricular activities? This week The Three Wisemen of Divorce tackle these and other difficult conversations.Presented by Financial Divorce Consultant Mark Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Psychologist Scott Weiner, Ph.D., J.D. and Attorney and Mediator Shawn Weber, CLS-F.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter...
2020-08-0439 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & Law"Good fences make good neighbors" - Setting Boundaries during your DivorceThis week, the Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the Robert Frost poem, "Mending Wall," and apply an interpretation to a divorce. Frost writes, "Good fences make good neighbors." What kinds of boundaries are important in your divorce? What sort of "fences" and "walls" are important to maintain when dealing with separation, child custody, visitation, division of finances, alimony or child support? Sit down with a nice cup of tea, and let's talk about it.Presented by Financial Divorce Consultant Mark Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Psychologist Scott Weiner, Ph.D., J.D. and Attorney and Mediator Shawn Weber, CLS-F.T...
2020-07-2834 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawA New Way of Listening During Your Divorce with Special Guest Jaye-Jo Portonova, M.D.Jaye-Jo Portanova, M.D. joins the Three Wisemen of Divorce as a special guest this week to discuss how finding a new way to listen and to communicate during your divorce is essential for life during and after your divorce. Jaye-Jo shares her personal story finding new ways to hear and listen as she raised a deaf child who has now grown to be a successful medical student. As an experienced adult and child psychiatrist specializing in mediation, co-parenting counseling, collaborative law, attorney/client consultation, and family therapy, Jaye-Jo brings a lot to the table for families in the mi...
2020-07-2240 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawDefining Victory in DivorceWhat does a "victory" in divorce look like? Is it the person who gets the kids? the money? Can you even define victory in divorce? The Three Wisemen of Divorce, Shawn Weber, CLS-F, Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA and Scott Weiner, J.D., Ph.D take a crack at it. Give it a listen and tell us what you think.Presented by Financial Divorce Consultant Mark Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Psychologist Scott Weiner, Ph.D., J.D. and Attorney and Mediator Shawn Weber, CLS-F.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial...
2020-07-1437 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawCustody, Coparenting, COVID-19 and the Cruel Hot SummerCustody and coparenting during the summer can be challenging enough. Add COVID-19 to the mix and it gets really hard. What happens if the co-parents disagree about coronavirus safety precautions? Do parents agree on whether camps or sports are safe? Is a co-parent, a child or a new significant other in a high-risk group and how will that impact visitation? Sit down with Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, Scott Weiner, JD, Ph.D. and Shawn Weber, Attorney and Mediator as they discuss the complexities of custody and visitation during the COVID-19 pandemic.Presented by Financial Divorce Consultant Mark Hill...
2020-07-0737 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawIs it the best time or the worst time for a divorce?We're in uncertain times. In a time of a shaky economy, housing prices, coronavirus, stay-at-home orders, unemployment and political unrest (to name a few), it can be a difficult time to decide whether the timing is right for a divorce. The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss different factors people should consider when deciding whether it is the best time or the worst time to file for divorce.Presented by Financial Divorce Consultant Mark Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Psychologist Scott Weiner, Ph.D., J.D. and Attorney and Mediator Shawn Weber, CLS-F.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are...
2020-06-3034 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawMaking It Through Without Making It WorsePeople get divorced for a reason. It's not because things are all butterflies, rainbows and fairy dust. There's anger, hurt, pain, fear, and betrayal just to name a few of the difficult emotions associated with a separation. The temptation is to stay angry, hold a grudge and even to seek vengeance. But we've learned that taking the high road can make the experience better. While it's not so easy to just snap your fingers and make the pain go away, you can make it through your divorce journey without making it worse.Presented by Financial Divorce Consultant Mark...
2020-06-2337 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawDivorce, Well-intentioned Friends, and the Well-paved Road to HellWord gets out that there is a divorce in the works. Well-intentioned friends and family come out of the woodwork to offer advice. What could go wrong? The road to hell is well-paved with good intentions. So be careful where you get your advice and how much you involve your friends. Financial Divorce Consultant Mark Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Psychologist Scott Weiner, Ph.D., J.D. and Attorney and Mediator Shawn Weber, CLS-F discuss how to handle the firehose of unsolicited advice.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Rou...
2020-06-1526 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawYour Family Is Not Ending!Think the divorce means the end of your family? Think again. Relationships and duties to children, ex-spouses, and even in-laws go on for the rest of your life. This week we discuss the various aspects of your family relationships that will continue after divorce and how those relationships are affected by money, psych and law. Presented by Financial Divorce Consultant Mark Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Psychologist Scott Weiner, Ph.D., J.D. and Attorney and Mediator Shawn Weber, CLS-F.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST...
2020-06-0330 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawThe Divorce EscalatorAre you stuck on the Divorce Escalator? So many people get caught up in a litigated process for their divorce. But what happens when the attorneys and the "system" takes control of your case? You become a passenger and lose all control. Tune in with Financial Divorce Consultant Mark Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Psychologist Scott Weiner, Ph.D., J.D. and Attorney and Mediator Shawn Weber, CLS-F for a discussion about the horrors of the divorce escalator and how to get off by taking control of your case.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill...
2020-05-2633 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawCourts Closed! How to keep your case moving when the courts are closed.The Courts are totally clogged! In San Diego County alone, there are 9,042 cases that will need to be rescheduled. If you are stuck in continuance hell because of COVID-19, consider no-court options to keep your case moving.Presented by Financial Divorce Consultant Mark Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Psychologist Scott Weiner, Ph.D., J.D. and Attorney and Mediator Shawn Weber, CLS-F.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney.
2020-05-1937 min
The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & LawCovid-19 and Divorce - 3-25-2020Sit back and enjoy an informal and informative conversation with Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, Scott Weiner, Ph.D., JD, and Shawn Weber, JD, CLS-F as they discuss the Cornoavirus pandemic's effect on divorce.The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney.
2020-03-2631 min
We Make Money FunA Certified Divorce Financial AnalystWhat is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and why do I need one?Today, Shanna Tingom explains what it means to be a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, and why it's so important to have one when you enter the divorce process. She explains her experience and why she got this certification. We also cover how a CDFA can work with other professionals, such as attorneys and mediators. Resources:Second Saturday Divorce Resource WorkshopsWomen's Institute for Financial Education - wife.orgHeritage Financial WebsiteCall Heritage Financi...
2019-12-0412 min