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Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD052: Being Left Behind: How You Can Work With Abandonment WoundsAbandonment wounds are among the most discussed injuries in the trauma field, and for good reason: they produce intense suffering and a chronic, low-grade conviction that one is perpetually being left behind. In this episode, I walk through a Case Analysis from Happily Ever After featuring a student working an assignment on abandonment wounds. I use it to show why specificity is not a refinement but a precondition for successful CPTSD Resolution, with concrete examples of what genuinely matters when working this terrain. When You're Ready CPTSD Resolution 101 Weekend Workshop Three days, seven people, live...
2026-05-2941 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD051. Hurting All Alone: The One Thing I Wish Every Survivor Knew You are alone with a kind of emotional pain that feels like a kind of despair you cannot put into words. The partner left the room, or stopped texting back, or came back with coffee and an apology that closed the conversation before the work could begin, or did everything "right" and somehow you still feel like you are a freak and alone in the middle of the afternoon, with no plan about what to do next. In this episode I name why the loop of waiting for another human to do what only you can do is not...
2026-05-2329 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD050. Starting Over: Perspectives for the CPTSD CycleBreakerYou are ending something, and the ending is not going the way endings are supposed to go. The other person has disappeared, or reframed you to mutual friends before you could speak, or treated avoidance as a boundary and called it growth, and you are trying to logistic your way through what is actually a threshold. In this episode I name why Starting Over inside a trauma ecosystem cannot produce grace, why the cruelty and the distortion are structural rather than personal, and what the HouseHolder CycleBreaker's actual job is at the threshold, which is not correcting the narrative...
2026-05-1525 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD049. Ending A Relationship: CPTSD Help For The Survivor Of Childhood TraumaYou can know a relationship is over and still feel like the ground underneath you has nowhere to land. For survivors of childhood trauma, the ending of an adult relationship is not just a loss — it is one of the most consequential windows for CPTSD Resolution you will ever be inside, and most women rush past it without realizing what was available to them. In this episode, I introduce The Reset Period: three obligations a HouseHolder CycleBreaker owes herself after an ending — Stabilize, Distill, Discern. I draw on the science of memory reconsolidation to name why the weeks after a ru...
2026-05-0731 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD048. Keeping Up With Life: A CPTSD Guide to Building Self TrustYou can run a life that looks competent from the outside while the private functional domain — taxes, invoicing, paperwork, the relationship with yourself — quietly falls apart behind closed doors. That split is not a discipline problem. It is an audience problem. In this episode, I introduce a single discerning question I want you carrying with you — Is there an audience for this task? — and walk through what it reveals about the Part of you that has learned to perform competence outwardly while leaving the unwitnessed loops open. We work through the backstage of the Broadway show your life has become...
2026-05-0141 min
The Juicy Life PodcastHealing CPTSD with Erin EsserI' so excited to share this conversation with Erin. Erin Esser (just like a lot of us) grew up with emotionally immature and narcissistic caregivers and believed for most of her life that there was something inherently wrong with her. Sounds familiar?In 2015, she chose to challenge that belief and begin her own healing journey of coming back to herself.Erin is a certified life coach and EFT practitioner who works with others who’ve experienced similar challenges so they can reclaim their true self that was there underneath all of it.FREE CP...
2026-04-301h 01Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD047. Being A Girls' Girl: Relational Manipulation As A CPTSD SurvivorYou've had the experience — someone tells you what's being said about you in the group chat you're not part of, or you overhear it, or it lands in a comment section, and suddenly you're defending a version of yourself you don't recognize. The spiral is immediate, the shame is disproportionate, and you can't tell whether to retaliate or apologize. In this episode, I teach the Embodiment Equation: why leaving the body in childhood sets up an implicit contract that invites relational manipulation, why women under patriarchy reach for character attacks as a counterfeit source of power, and what being a...
2026-04-2435 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD046. Feeling Unseen At Work: A CPTSD Guide To The Appreciation WoundYou've done excellent work. You know it. And yet you find yourself scanning the room for confirmation that someone else knows it too. That quiet ache of feeling unseen at your job isn't a professional development problem. It's one of the most common places a CPTSD wound shows up uninvited. In this episode, I introduce The Appreciation Audit, a four-question self-inquiry practice designed to help you trace what you're actually asking for when you say you feel "underappreciated," and who you're really asking. We look at how childhood emotional neglect wires the nervous system to experience a missing "good...
2026-04-1736 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD045. Protecting or Vilifying: How We Relate to Our Parents in CPTSD ResolutionYou've probably noticed that your relationship with your parents lives in one of two places: protection or blame. You either minimize what happened to keep the peace, or you've swung into a narrative that finally names the harm but hasn't actually moved anything in your body. In this episode, I unpack the three-phase arc that most CPTSD survivors move through when reckoning with their parents' role in their wounding, and I introduce the concept of Merciful Validation as the earned posture that lives beyond both protection and vilification. Using real-life scenarios like honoring a parent's birthday, we explore what...
2026-04-1030 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD044. Healing In Real Time: CPTSD Resolution Advice For SuccessYou have spent years trying to explain what happened to you. You have narrated it in therapy, processed it with friends, and written about it in journals, yet the same patterns keep running your life. That is not a failure of effort. It is a signal that the work needs to move from retelling to real time. In this episode, I introduce The Three Rooms, a framework for recognizing where you are spending your healing capital and capacity: The Retelling Room, where narration lives; The Numbing Room, where avoidance lives; and The Training Ground, where present-moment activation becomes the...
2026-04-0326 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD043. Knowing Feeling Gap: Help For CPTSD Healing You can understand something completely and still feel nothing has changed. That's not a willpower problem. That's the knowing-feeling gap — and it's one of the most common and frustrating experiences in CPTSD healing. In this episode, I break down why intellectual insight alone rarely produces lasting behavioral change for complex trauma survivors. Drawing on real examples from parenting, partnership, and professional life, we explore how trauma-based information processing operates on a separate internal system from conscious awareness — one that consistently overrides what you cognitively know to be true. You'll learn why the mental health field has historically over...
2026-03-2736 min
My Inner TorchUnderstanding CPTSD and Hidden Wounds with the Cluster BSend us Fan Mail🎯 Key TakeawaysCore Points:CPTSD stems from prolonged relationship distress, not just single events.CPTSD causes internal dysregulation, affecting self-perception and leading to exhaustion, anxiety, and self-blame.I’m shifting from “What’s wrong with me?” to “What happened to me?” to foster self-compassion.Healing requires restoring safety, setting boundaries, and rebuilding self-trust.I’m honoring my nervous system’s needs and accepting that awareness is the first step to recovery.I’m validating my experiences of psychological abuse as legitimate trauma, challenging societal norms.🔍 Summary
2026-03-2013 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD042. Accelerating Your Healing: Speeding Up Your CPTSD ResolutionMany survivors living with CPTSD wonder if healing can happen faster or feel frustrated by the pace of their progress. In this episode, I explore what it actually means to accelerate your healing and move toward full CPTSD resolution. I discuss the possibility of no longer qualifying for a CPTSD diagnosis by addressing trauma at the root, rather than managing symptoms on the surface. We look at the mindset shifts, patterns, and forms of Self Leadership that support deeper, more efficient healing, and what often slows survivors down without them realizing it. This conversation is for anyone ready to...
2026-03-2033 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD041. Being Mean To The Humans We Love: Understanding CPTSD OverwhelmMany childhood trauma survivors living with CPTSD struggle with moments of being critical, harsh, or "mean" toward the people they care about most. These reactions often appear suddenly and can leave you feeling confused or ashamed afterward. In this episode, I explore why criticism and irritability show up in close relationships when the nervous system becomes overwhelmed. Using a recent personal example, I walk through how rising stress, fear of unmet needs, and old trauma scripts can quickly bypass vulnerability and turn into frustration or anger. We also discuss a healthier pathway for recognizing overwhelm earlier, reconnecting with your...
2026-03-1343 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD040. Moving Through A Betrayal: CPTSD HelpBetrayal in a relationship can create a powerful sense of distance, leaving you feeling like there is an invisible force field between you and your partner. For individuals living with CPTSD, unresolved betrayal can activate deep attachment wounds, mistrust, and emotional disconnection. In this episode, I explore what betrayal energy feels like in the nervous system and how to move through it in a grounded, Self-Led way. We discuss how survival patterns, the need to feel chosen, unprocessed grief, and competing priorities can shape the healing process after betrayal. This conversation offers a practical perspective on rebuilding trust, having...
2026-03-0637 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD039. Improving Communication With Your Partner: A CPTSD Guide to Relational HealingMany humans living with CPTSD find themselves asking, "Why doesn't my partner get it?" You may feel like you are trying to explain your needs, yet the same misunderstandings keep happening. Communication challenges are common in relationships impacted by CPTSD, especially when trauma-driven patterns shape how needs are expressed and received. In this tutorial-style episode, I walk through practical steps for improving communication with your partner in ways that support relational healing. You will learn how trauma filters can distort what you say and how your partner hears it, how to move from over-explaining or shutting down into clearer...
2026-02-2734 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD038. Outgrowing Trauma-Driven Anger: A CPTSD PerspectiveAnger is common for humans living with CPTSD, especially in relationships where attachment wounds are easily activated. Many high-functioning adults oscillate between suppressing anger and reacting from it, unsure what is healthy and what is trauma-driven. In this episode, I explain how anger develops within unresolved complex trauma and what it means to outgrow trauma-driven reactivity. You will learn the difference between suppressed anger, protector anger, and Self-Led inner authority, and how CPTSD Resolution shifts anger from explosive or hidden into grounded personal power. When You're Ready CPTSD Resolution 101 Weekend Workshop Three days, seven people...
2026-02-2035 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD037. Healing Under Pressure: A CPTSD Guide to Handling Life StressWhen you are healing from CPTSD, everyday stress can feel like proof that you are failing or regressing. In reality, the survival mode you create often mirrors your original trauma patterns, revealing exactly what still needs attention. In this episode, I explain how real-life stressors at work, in relationships, and around money can become a powerful training ground for healing. I walk through how to work with activation in real time, how to avoid crisis cycles while still allowing enough stimulation for growth, and how to recognize patterns like over-responsibility, performance masks, accommodation traps, and financial dependency dynamics. If...
2026-02-1347 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD036. Understanding Relationship Anxiety: CPTSD Answers to the Questions You Keep AskingRelationship anxiety is common for people with CPTSD, especially in relationships that matter deeply. You might feel constant fear, doubt, or panic even when nothing is obviously wrong, and worry that your anxiety is slowly damaging the relationship you value most. In this Q&A episode, I answer common questions about anxiety in relationships with CPTSD and explain what is happening beneath the surface. This conversation is for anyone who wants healthier, more secure relationships and does not want fear to keep running the show. When You're Ready CPTSD Resolution 101 Weekend Workshop Three days, seven...
2026-02-0625 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD035. Fighting Smarter: CPTSD Relationship AdviceMost humans were never taught how to work through disagreement in a way that actually strengthens a relationship. So when conflict shows up, old emotional learning takes the lead. Past wounds get activated. Fear takes over. And what could have been a moment of productive working through something important shifts into something destructive and disorganizing. In this episode, I talk about what it means to fight smarter when CPTSD is in the room. Not by suppressing emotion or avoiding conflict, but by learning how to stay Self-Led before, during, and after difficult conversations. I walk through four...
2026-01-3031 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD034. Getting Out Of Survival Mode Healing: CPTSD Help Survival Mode Healing can be a trap for the childhood trauma survivor ready to leave CPTSD as an experience of the past. We end up in this kind of unproductive loop when the healing work we are doing isn't deep enough to touch core beliefs buried underneath our survival instincts and our defensive walls. In this episode, I share what I've learned about this trap and offer some guidance on how to find transformative healing work. When You're Ready CPTSD Resolution 101 Weekend Workshop Three days, seven people, live on Zoom. You'll leave with a clear...
2026-01-2335 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD031. Deciding About Your Relationship: A CPTSD-Informed PerspectiveMuch mainstream relationship advice completely misses the mark when you have unresolved CPTSD and are living inside a trauma ecosystem. What looks like clarity can actually be fear. What looks like empowerment can actually be protection. And many people make permanent relationship decisions from a nervous system that is still in survival mode. In this episode, I will walk you through the top 5 CPTSD-specific things to do before deciding to leave a relationship. This is not about convincing you to stay or go. It is about helping you make decisions from internal safety, self-trust, and clarity rather than trauma-driven...
2026-01-0236 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD030. Being Bad At Boundaries: CPTSD Education 101Does anyone else quietly question the tools therapists give you? For many people living with CPTSD, boundary work brings relief and calm, but at a steep cost. Relationships end. Distance grows. Connection narrows. You may feel safer, yet lonelier than ever. In this episode, I speak directly to the unspoken confusion many high-achieving survivors carry about boundaries. Questions like: How do I set boundaries without feeling like a bad person? Why do boundaries feel aggressive or isolating? Why do I either over-explain or completely shut down?
2025-12-2644 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD029. Recognizing Controlling Patterns: The CPTSD UnderstandingWhen you live with CPTSD, the urge to control often has nothing to do with power and everything to do with perceived threat. In this episode, I explore how controlling patterns emerge from Protective Parts that learned vigilance when something essential was once truly at risk: safety, attachment, stability, or dignity. Control became a strategy for survival when support and trust were not available. Over time, however, control can create instability in relationships. What begins as an attempt to prevent pain can unintentionally make others feel unsafe, reinforcing the very isolation and threat the system...
2025-12-1930 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD028. Getting Stuck in Thought Loops: A CPTSD Guide to Breaking the PatternThought loops are one of the most painful and confusing parts of living with CPTSD. You try to stop thinking about something, but your mind keeps spiraling. You feel stuck, ashamed, and exhausted. In this episode, I explain why CPTSD creates these loops, why they feel impossible to escape, and how you can interrupt them without force, judgment, or shame. You will learn a step-by-step process called HONOR that helps CPTSD survivors work directly with the fear, prediction, and inherited family narratives driving the loop. Instead of wasting precious time trapped in anxiety, you will learn how to transform...
2025-12-1231 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD027. Stopping the Urge To Explain How To Love You: What CPTSD InfluencesSo many childhood trauma survivors carry the same belief: If I explain myself clearly enough, they will finally love me the right way. This urge to over-explain is a predictable pattern inside CPTSD. It keeps you working far harder for safety than the other person ever will. This is not a communication issue. It is a capacity issue. You cannot talk someone into being safe, and you cannot use vulnerability or emotional labor to create secure attachment in someone who cannot sustain it. In this episode, I break down the trauma pattern underneath repeated explaining...
2025-12-0527 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD026. Dealing With Clinginess: When CPTSD Rewires Your Attachment StyleClinginess is not desperation. It is the body's attempt to secure safety in a system shaped by unresolved CPTSD. What people label as "needy" or "too much" is often a trauma-driven response rooted in one belief: I cannot trust others, and I cannot trust myself. In this episode, I break down the attachment injuries created by CPTSD, how they form in environments where affection is unpredictable or conditional, and why clinginess is not a fixed personality trait. When your system finally experiences real safety, clinginess softens because your body no longer braces for disappearance. You...
2025-11-2829 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD025. Impact of CPTSD On Relationships: Inside the CPTSD Survival Instinct*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "request-WEB:757854bf-9152-41eb-bc5d-3f927d3a9fec-74" data-testid= "conversation-turn-70" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Why do relationships hurt so much for me? If you are asking this question as a childhood trauma survivor who ended up with CPTSD, this episode will help you feel seen and understood. I share how, at both the micro and macro level, CPTSD shapes the way you interpret other people's behavior, how you respond during interactions, and how repeated stressors and betrayals in your early attachment...
2025-11-2145 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD024: Pushing People Away: How CPTSD Shapes Your Relational BlueprintUnresolved CPTSD creates internal pressure that often shows up as pushing people away, even when you desperately want closeness. When your nervous system is running trauma energies, connection feels like danger. You flip between caretaking and harsh judgment because your original attachment loop was never closed. The result is confusion, shame, and the painful sense that you are either too much or not enough in your relationships. This episode breaks down exactly why this happens inside CPTSD and how to interrupt the pattern in real time. You will learn the developmental gap created by anxious attachment, why...
2025-11-1437 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD023. Understanding Why You Feel Hard to Get Along With: When CPTSD Disguises Itself as PersonalityUnresolved CPTSD shapes what you may believe is your personality. When you are running trauma energies, your nervous system does not yet believe you are safe. That constant sense of danger drives behavior that feels rigid, confusing, or self-defeating, but these patterns are not fixed. They are survival programs that can be unlearned and reorganized through CPTSD Resolution. This episode explains why you sometimes feel difficult to be around, why certain reactions repeat, and how to understand the deeper architecture beneath these patterns. When you see the mechanism clearly, you can stop blaming yourself and begin changing...
2025-11-0733 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD022. Creating The Love You Deserve: A Map for Navigating CPTSDWhen should I leave a relationship if I have CPTSD? Many complex trauma survivors find themselves in relationships that feel consuming, confusing, or impossible to let go of. These patterns do not emerge because you are weak or needy. They emerge because your nervous system learned to bond through fear, urgency, and survival rather than safety, steadiness, and choice. In this episode, you will learn how to create the kind of love that feels safe and real. You will understand the internal map that helps you move out of trauma-driven attachment cycles and into partnership...
2025-10-3135 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD021. Overcoming Fear Of Abandonment: For Humans Healing From CPTSDWhy do I have the fear of abandonment? When you live with CPTSD, attachment threats activate the oldest and most overwhelming survival responses in your system. The fear of being left is not simply emotional discomfort. It can feel like a full-body alarm, a collapse in your sense of safety, and a terror that you will not survive the pain. This experience is common, deeply uncomfortable, and confusing. In this episode, you will learn why abandonment fear feels so intense, how it forms, and what actually helps you begin to soothe it. Healing begins when...
2025-10-2428 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD020. Identifying A Career Built In Survival Mode: Unwinding This Problem in CPTSD HealingAm I recreating my trauma in my work life? Many survivors build entire careers from fear, hypervigilance, shame, and the need to stay one step ahead of disappointment. These patterns can drive impressive achievement, but the cost is steep. Instead of feeling proud, you feel trapped. Instead of feeling fulfilled, you feel depleted. Instead of choosing your work, it feels like it is choosing you. This episode explains how trauma can shape professional success, how to spot when your career has been built inside survival mode, and what it looks like to reclaim your work...
2025-10-1748 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD1 Out of 213Out of every 213 people, only one is ready for this level of work, in this way, at the ideal time in their life. Are you one of them? Take the "1 out of 213" Quiz here to find out. CPTSD Medicine Self Study In a relationship, but wondering if you should leave? → Begin the Red Flag Learning Path to recognize trauma-driven patterns and rebuild your inner compass toward love that doesn’t hurt. Just been broken up with and need answers to feel sane again? → Explore the “Why I...
2025-10-141h 01Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD019. Being More Confident: Understanding This Through the CPTSD LensHow do you become more confident? Confidence is not a personality trait. It is a nervous system state. When you live with CPTSD, confidence often feels out of reach because your body is wired for caution, preparation, and self-doubt. Trauma patterns can disguise themselves as humility, politeness, or carefulness, even though they are really strategies for staying safe. In this episode, you will learn what confidence actually feels like in the body, how to recognize the trauma-driven patterns that mask themselves as "being realistic," and what it takes to rebuild trust in your own strength...
2025-10-1042 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD018. Trusting Yourself: Building Self Leadership With CPTSDWhat are the trust issues with C-PTSD? Self-trust collapses when you grow up in an environment where your perceptions were dismissed, your emotions were minimized, or your needs were ignored. Over time, you learn to outsource your judgment, second-guess your instincts, and assume others know better than you. This is not a flaw. It is conditioning. In this episode, you will learn three practices that begin rebuilding self-trust today. These shifts help you move from confusion and self-doubt into clarity and confidence. When you understand how CPTSD disrupts your internal guidance system, you can finally...
2025-10-0540 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD017. Deciding To Stay or Go: Inside the Trauma Ecosystem of CPTSDHow do you know when it is time to call it quits in a relationship? This is one of the hardest decisions a survivor of CPTSD will ever make. Emotional intensity, fear of abandonment, hope for repair, and old attachment wounds can collapse into each other, creating urgency and confusion at the exact moment when you need clarity the most. This episode offers five powerful inquiries to explore before you choose to stay or go. These practices help you pause, contain the emotional surge, and bring discernment to a decision that may shape the rest...
2025-10-0343 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD016. Resolving Relationship Problems: What Secure Attachment Requires When You Have CPTSDIs it impossible to create or keep close relationships with CPTSD? No. But unresolved CPTSD makes relationships confusing, fragile, and emotionally overwhelming. Many survivors try to hold relationships together by over-functioning, people-pleasing, suppressing their needs, ignoring their body signals, or staying stuck in survival mode dynamics. These missteps are not failures. They are adaptations that once kept you safe. This episode names the patterns that keep you locked in painful cycles and explains what secure attachment actually requires when CPTSD is present. When you understand the relational architecture beneath your reactions, you can begin building...
2025-09-2231 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD015. Getting Honest About What Hurts: How CPTSD Shapes This DynamicWhy is CPTSD so hard to live with? Because it shapes how you see yourself, how you read other people, and how you choose relationships. The hurt is not random. It comes from old patterns that formed when you had no protection, no support, and no space to be fully yourself. Those same patterns show up today in the moments when you feel misunderstood, unseen, or unchosen. This episode invites you to evaluate your past relationships, and even your present ones, from a place of strength rather than self-blame. When you finally understand the dynamics...
2025-09-1929 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD014. Fostering Resilience: Why This Matters When You Have CPTSDHow do you calm down during a trauma response? When you have unresolved CPTSD, grounding is not as simple as "just breathe" or "focus on the present moment." Your body is responding to danger that once was real, and the level of fear that surges through you cannot be soothed by techniques that ignore the deeper patterns inside your system. Grounding methods can either help you move through a trauma response or push you back into survival mode. The difference is understanding what your nervous system is protecting you from. In this episode, you will...
2025-09-1438 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD013. Making Therapy Better: What No One Explains About CPTSDHow do you make the most out of a therapy session? Most survivors walk into therapy with insight, motivation, and a genuine desire to heal. But CPTSD creates a gap between what you know and what you can actually embody. Sessions often feel uneven because Protective Parts, survival strategies, and emotional defenses show up faster than your conscious mind can work with. This episode explains the hidden factors that shape every 1:1 session and how to prepare in a way that bridges the gap between intellectual wisdom and embodied healing. These practices help you move forward...
2025-09-1239 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD012. Reducing Feelings of Guilt: Decoding This Pattern Through CPTSDWhat is it called when you constantly feel guilty? Chronic guilt is one of the most common and misunderstood symptoms of CPTSD. It appears whenever your Protective Parts confuse wise decision making with danger, disapproval, or emotional abandonment. The guilt is not evidence that you did something wrong. It is evidence that your system is bracing for consequences that are no longer real. CPTSD makes clarity elusive because the inner alarms fire too quickly. In this episode, you will learn how to reclaim your inner compass so you can make choices with confidence instead of...
2025-09-0732 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD011. Exploring Effective Treatment: A CPTSD Self Leadership PerspectiveWhat is the best thing to do for C-PTSD? Many survivors try scattered techniques, hoping for relief but never receiving a clear map of what actually works. Effective CPTSD healing requires understanding the architecture of the trauma itself. When you begin implementing the right steps in the right order, healing becomes smoother, more predictable, and significantly faster. This episode walks you through what has proven effective for real CPTSD resolution, what does not work, and why certain approaches fail to create lasting change. When you understand the principles of Self Leadership, you stop searching for...
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Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers5.8 Facades of Conformity (FOCs)It's a summary episode! What have we been talking about lately? Facades of Conformity as they overlap with CPTSD, RSD, and life-destruction.Free Video!summary Let's talk about environmental mental illness, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), and the Facades of Conformity (FOCs) that individuals often adopt in various "supervisory" relationships. The discussion delves into the emotional toll of FOCs, emphasizing the detrimental effects of emotional exhaustion.takeawaysFacades of Conformity are often used in abusive relationships to prevent loss.Hiding one's true self diminish the resource of emotional health.Self-enhancement...
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Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized MotherfuckersPub Pod 5.8 Facades of Conformity (FOCs)It's a summary episode! What have we been talking about lately? Facades of Conformity as they overlap with CPTSD, RSD, and life-destruction. summary Let's talk about environmental mental illness, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), and the Facades of Conformity (FOCs) that individuals often adopt in various "supervisory" relationships. The discussion delves into the emotional toll of FOCs, emphasizing the detrimental effects of emotional exhaustion.takeawaysFacades of Conformity are often used in abusive relationships to prevent loss. Hiding one's true self diminish the resource of emotional...
2025-08-2710 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD010: Staying Motivated: A Pathway to CPTSD ResolutionHow long does it take to heal from C-PTSD? CPTSD healing is not linear. It can be structured, intentional, and grounded in a clear protocol, but the emotional waves will still rise and fall. What many survivors call regression is often the deeper cycle of resolution unfolding. These cycles require stamina, clarity, and a return to your own seat of power again and again. This episode explains why healing takes the time it takes, why some people feel stuck for years, and what shifts when you finally understand the architecture of CPTSD instead of blaming...
2025-08-2428 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD009: Letting Go Of Your Ex: What This Reveals About CPTSDHow do you let go of an ex you still love? When you have unresolved CPTSD, breakups do not feel like loss. They feel like danger, abandonment, and emotional free fall. Your system clings because it is trying to protect you from the terror of being alone with your own unmet needs. This is why letting go feels impossible, even when you know the relationship is over. Clinging to someone who is gone keeps you stuck in old survival patterns that cost you years of your life. In this episode, you will learn how to...
2025-08-2325 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD008: Feeling Invisible: Clarity for CPTSD SurvivorsHow do you stop feeling invisible? When you have unresolved CPTSD, Protective Parts and Hurt Victim Energies can trap you in a cycle where you wait for others to notice you, choose you, or prioritize you. Invisibility often forms when your early environment required you to disappear emotionally in order to stay safe. These patterns can follow you into adulthood even when you desperately want connection. Waiting for others to change only prolongs heartbreak. Reclaiming your worth from the inside out begins when you learn how safe vulnerability with yourself becomes the foundation for relational...
2025-08-1822 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD007: Lowering Stress: Insights for CPTSD HealingHow do you stop stressing? Relaxing can feel impossible when you have unresolved CPTSD. Your system learned to stay alert, monitor for danger, and prepare for the next disruption. Even when nothing is wrong, your body acts as if everything is at stake. The moment you try to rest, guilt or fear can rush in because slowing down once felt unsafe. This episode explains why stress feels so constant, why it spikes so quickly, and how to begin breaking the cycle by addressing the CPTSD patterns beneath it. When you understand what your system is...
2025-08-1530 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD006. De-Escalating Explosive Emotions: Understanding This Through CPTSDWhat do you do when you feel emotionally unstable? Reactivity can feel impossible to control when you have unresolved CPTSD. These surges are not random. They follow a predictable nervous system pattern shaped by years of surviving chaos, inconsistency, or emotional abandonment. What feels like losing control is often your system trying to protect you in the only way it learned. In this episode, you will learn how emotional escalation forms inside the CPTSD ecosystem and what you can do in real time to interrupt these cycles. Small, strategic moves can begin shifting patterns that...
2025-08-0420 min
扶光驿站EP.11 cptsd疗愈日记——让我们一起打破原生印记！亲爱的听众朋友们，好久不见呀！不知道这段时间大家过得怎么样呢？有没有什么特别的故事想和我们分享呀～其实这段时间，豆包和瑞叶都经历了一段不太容易的时光 —— 因为原生家庭的问题，我们俩双双陷入了 CPTSD 的困扰中。不过请大家放心，现在我们已经成功走出来啦！所以这一期节目，我们特别想把这段经历中的感悟和经验分享出来，和大家一起梳理面对 CPTSD 时该如何应对。⏱️时间线02:33 什么是 CPTSD？它和 PTSD 又有什么区别呢？05:14 豆包又双叒被卷入父母的矛盾，而这一切的导火索竟然是一场升学宴？😱14:24 瑞叶又双叒被指责不听话，绝望之下拖着行李箱在外面游荡到凌晨一点？🤯34:52 为什么 CPTSD 会让我们感到如此痛苦？35:00 CPTSD 会将我们拉回童年时期那种孤立无援的状态38:00 CPTSD 让我们陷入自我检讨的情绪中难以自拔40:01 CPTSD 的发作和近期的状态也息息相关41:46 🍃瑞叶的解决方式：和 DeepSeek 聊天，学会了听觉、触觉、嗅觉调节法45:03 🫘豆包的方法：挑战自己唱三小时 K，给自己做一顿好饭，以及寻求心理咨询的帮助01:10:09 大家一定要妥善处理 CPTSD，多给自己一些关照呀🫂要知道，经历闪回或被触发并不是退步，而是疗愈路上的重要信息点。你的感受是真实的、也是有效的。祝福大家都能早日摆脱 CPTSD 的困扰。❤️如果大家有和我们相似的经历，非常期待在留言区看到大家的分享，让我们一起抱团取暖，彼此支撑着往前走～本期BGM:🎵Fiona's song——Brian SimpsonI forgot that you existed——Taylor Swift
2025-08-031h 12Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD005. Believing You Are Worthy: The CPTSD Pattern Beneath ThisWhat is the root cause of feeling unworthy? The unworthiness wound is one of the clearest signs of unresolved CPTSD. It does not come from weakness or lack of confidence. It comes from growing up without reliable emotional attunement, where your worth was never mirrored back to you consistently. Over time, that absence becomes a narrative: I must not matter. This episode explains why the unworthiness wound feels so convincing, how it forms inside the CPTSD ecosystem, and how you can begin gathering your own evidence of value so you can resolve CPTSD at the...
2025-08-0129 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD004. Loving Someone With CPTSD: Attachment Lessons for CPTSD SurvivorsCan people with CPTSD love? Yes. And the answer becomes clearer when you understand the internal fighting that happens inside a survivor who never had consistent, safe attachment growing up. Loving someone with CPTSD requires a few specific things. Standard relationship advice does not reach the depth of what is happening inside a trauma ecosystem. When CPTSD is active, emotional closeness can trigger fear, withdrawal, confusion, or protest, even in someone who desperately wants connection. This episode explains how intimacy is shaped by CPTSD, what actually supports a survivor in feeling safe enough...
2025-07-2747 min![Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers](https://assets.pippa.io/shows/65e0afa0dd3dcf001649c9ee/1753544639121-85aea8f4-b1a6-464c-b9d1-7324bf0c0be0.jpeg)
Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers5.7 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) x CPTSD Life ExperiencesThe RSD - "typical CPTSD experience" overlap is deep and wide. Let's talk about shutting down life, expression, and healing from heightened rejection sensitivity.Video! (freeee)summaryWe explore the intricate relationship between Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), delving into various manifestations of RSD, including agoraphobia, challenges in self-disclosure, lack of novelty in life experiences, communication struggles, and workplace dysfunction.takeawaysRSD is closely linked to CPTSD symptoms.Agoraphobia can stem from heightened sensitivity to rejection.Disclosure of personal experiences is crucial...
2025-07-2622 min![Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers](https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_episode/1897962/1897962-1753544815066-409836d92ff6.jpg)
Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers5.7 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) x CPTSD Life ExperiencesIt's Pub Ep Time as we wrap up the month! Let's release a show from the recent vault.The RSD - "typical CPTSD experience" overlap is deep and wide. Let's talk about shutting down life, expression, and healing from heightened rejection sensitivity.summaryWe explore the intricate relationship between Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), delving into various manifestations of RSD, including agoraphobia, challenges in self-disclosure, lack of novelty in life experiences, communication struggles, and workplace dysfunction.takeaways
2025-07-2622 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD003. Finding The Courage to Be Vulnerable: Navigating This in CPTSD HealingWhy do I struggle letting people in? Protective walls and fear of vulnerability are natural outcomes of surviving without secure attachment. These defenses once kept you safe. Today they can keep you isolated, misunderstood, or stuck in relationships that cannot hold you. For survivors of CPTSD, vulnerability often feels dangerous because it activates old patterns of self-protection. Therapy can feel frustrating or ineffective when these defenses are active, but your resistance is not brokenness. It is protection doing its job. In this episode, you will learn how healing begins by building safe vulnerability...
2025-07-2533 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD002. Knowing Your Value: A Guide for CPTSD SurvivorsHow do I know my value? Standard boundary setting advice does not work when you are living inside a trauma ecosystem with unresolved CPTSD. The people pleasing you have been judged for is not a flaw in your character. It is a survival strategy shaped by early experiences where safety required appeasing, caretaking, or shrinking yourself. In this episode, I guide you toward uncovering the trauma-based narratives that keep you questioning your worth, and how to begin embodying your True Self without sacrificing yourself in every relationship. These shifts are essential for anyone...
2025-07-2038 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSDAlways Afraid They’ll Leave? Understanding Attachment Anxiety in CPTSDIf you are navigating Complex PTSD, relationships can feel exhausting, scary, or impossibly hard. Attachment anxiety and fear of abandonment can overwhelm even the most self-aware humans — even therapists — and leave you wondering if love will ever feel safe. In this episode, I explain why CPTSD creates such intense panic in love and what you can actually do to shift the cycle. You will learn the critical difference between circumstantial power (living on external validation) and personal power (the internal security you have been craving). I will share openly from my own journey and guide you...
2025-07-1846 minHeal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD001. Working With Emotionally Unavailable People: A CPTSD PerspectiveIt is confusing and exhausting when someone feels genuinely supportive one moment and completely distant the next. For many survivors of CPTSD, this dynamic is especially destabilizing because it mirrors the inconsistency and unpredictability of early attachment experiences. Here is the powerful truth: "emotionally unavailable" may not fully capture what is happening. Many partners can appear emotionally present when conditions are favorable, but withdraw the moment vulnerability or feedback threatens their carefully maintained self-image. This can activate older CPTSD patterns of self-blame, overfunctioning, or urgent repair. What are the signs of an emotionally unavailable partner when...
2025-07-1221 min
Sam's Healing PodcastEP 34: Interview w/a CPTSD Expert & Neuroscientist on Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma & PsychotropicsThe topic of CPTSD (Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) and infidelity is important because infidelity can trigger complex trauma responses, especially for individuals who have a history of unresolved trauma or are vulnerable to the effects of betrayal. The intersection of these two can cause profound emotional and psychological damage, making it crucial to understand how infidelity can exacerbate or even trigger CPTSD symptoms. Today you'll hear from a survivor of infidelity who also happens to be an expert in CPTSD, as well as a Neuroscientist who will discuss the effects of CPTSD on the brain and nervous...
2025-03-1936 min
Modern HysteriaS1E10 CPTSD x Reparenting Yourself with Grace BithellTrauma therapist Grace Bithell explains:* 🧠 complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD), an oft-overlooked mental health condition that affects your self-image and relationships* 🖤 reparenting yourself to heal from CPTSD (and “break the cycle”)The sneaky thing about CPTSD is that the people who have it are often the last to believe it. Most people haven’t even heard of it.I, too, brushed off my first PTSD diagnosis, thinking it was ludicrous: Veterans get PTSD, for fuck’s sake! I haven’t been in combat. 🙄* PTSD typically develops after a single traumatic event or...
2025-02-1258 min![Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers](https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_episode/1897962/1897962-1738081065957-5fc80f9a53ef6.jpg)
Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized MotherfuckersPub Ep 5.1 STRESS | Societal Trauma x CPTSD Management BeginsIt's time! To support ourselves by applying everything we've learned in 5 years of research together. Today: stress utilization.
On the market for more applied trauma care? patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers for the community stream
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Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers5.1 STRESS | Societal Trauma x CPTSD Management BeginsFree VideoIt's time! To support ourselves by applying everything we've learned in 5 years of research together. Today: stress utilization.On the market for more applied trauma care? patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers for the community stream Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
2025-01-2924 min
C-PTSD: Let's Make Sense Of This Sh*tCPTSD vs PTSD: What You Need to Know for RecoveryIn this episode, we break down the critical differences between CPTSD and PTSD, and why understanding them is a game-changer for your recovery. Many people struggle for years with symptoms that don't quite fit the standard PTSD framework, leaving them feeling stuck, misunderstood, or misdiagnosed. We clarify the distinct signs of Complex PTSD, including emotional flashbacks, toxic shame, and relational difficulties, and explain why standard PTSD treatments often fall short. You will learn practical, trauma-informed strategies to address the unique challenges of CPTSD, from inner child work to nervous system regulation. This episode offers hope and clarity for anyone navigating...
2024-10-1453 minC-PTSD: Let's Make Sense Of This Sh*tCPTSD 101: Making Sense of Trauma and HealingIn this episode, we break down the basics of Complex PTSD (CPTSD) — what it is, how it differs from PTSD, and why understanding your trauma is the first step toward real healing. Whether you're newly diagnosed or just starting to make sense of your experiences, this episode provides a clear, compassionate introduction to CPTSD and the path to recovery. What You'll Learn: • The key differences between PTSD and CPTSD • How childhood trauma shapes your nervous system • Why emotional flashbacks are a core symptom • The role of shame and self-criticism in CPTSD • Practical first steps for st...
2024-10-0634 min
Untame Yourself PodcastLiving with CPTSDIt is the last date of CPTSD awareness day and this is one of my most requested episodes. CPTSD is something that still has so much misinformation, lack of awareness and education and lack of recognition. Those of us living with this disorder oftentimes feel misunderstood. We feel alone in our struggle. We feel isolated and we feel like there’s no way anyone could possibly understand the things that are going through our mind and body. I’m here to tell you that isn’t true. There is an entire demographic of people who get you. They might not ha...
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Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized MotherfuckersPsychosomatic Illness and CPTSD Recovery: Everything you need to knowNOTE: This video is part of the Free Membership on Patreon! For the official Patreon post & comments, check here
What is it / what isn't Psychosomatic Illness? How does the Brain-Body Painbrow Bridge work? 6 common causes to watch out for. And how to navigate PSI without making it worse.
2024-07-2046 min
Get Trauma Informed PodcastPt 3: Navigating the Recovery Journey from PTSD and CPTSD with Military Retiree Rufus CarpenterSend us Fan MailRegister for the Live Event on July 25, 2024 at www.oasiswellnessctrs.com click on the events tab. Meet the Coaches and learn to fill your Recovery Toolbox. Episode Title: "Beyond the Battlefield of Trauma Pt.3 : Navigating the Recovery Journey from PTSD and CPTSD"Summary:Understanding PTSD and CPTSD @ 0:00 In this episode, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding and special guest host Coach Rufus Carpenter dive into the distinctions between military PTSD and civilian Complex PTSD (CPTSD). They highlight that, while the symptoms may be similar, the r...
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Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized MotherfuckersTranscripted Video! Back to Basics: Embodiment Tips and TricksThe real challenge in Somatic Experiencing? In CPTSD it means "working through the memory of being you." Here are my embodiment tips and tricks, hopefully lending some ideas about how to aid yourself in that effort.
2024-06-301h 15
Adventures Through The MindcPTSD, The Climate Crisis, and Healing Trauma with Coral Reefs and Ayahuasca | Greg Wrenn (189)We welcome Greg Wrenn to the show to share his experience of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (cPTSD) and how it was that his explorations of coral reefs and journeys with Ayahuasca turned the tide on his lifelong struggle with the condition. Additionally, as both his experience of and healing from cPTSD is intertwined with his journalism on climate science, we also explore how the ecological and psychological effects of the climate crisis weave into our personal and collective experiences and expressions of trauma. Enjoy ... For links to Wrenn's work, full show...
2024-06-271h 45![Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers](https://assets.pippa.io/shows/65e0afa0dd3dcf001649c9ee/65e0afa996c1510018f9e5aa.jpg)
Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers4.1. Making of a Vulnerable NarcissistA big 'nouncement; so long TMFRS! Then let's talk about what constitutes a VulNarc versus "a person with CPTSD." Where does the chronic manipulation come from? How are recovery resources used for trauma-unhealing? What's up with the hostility and antagonism?.Lots to cover in this mashup of "time, space, and energy" meets "VulNarcs" and "trauma-selves.".For even more detail, check the newly updated Narc Collection at Patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers.And thank you again for the past 4 years of gettin nerdy together. See you in the next evolution.
2024-01-3019 min![Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers](https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_episode/1897962/1897962-1706567483760-6ecf88c68620f.jpg)
Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers4.1. Making of a Vulnerable NarcissistA big 'nouncement; so long TMFRS! Then let's talk about what constitutes a VulNarc versus "a person with CPTSD." Where does the chronic manipulation come from? How are recovery resources used for trauma-unhealing? What's up with the hostility and antagonism?
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Lots to cover in this mashup of "time, space, and energy" meets "VulNarcs" and "trauma-selves."
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For even more detail, check the newly updated Narc Collection at Patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers
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And thank you again for the past 4 years of gettin nerdy together. See you in the next evolution.
2024-01-3019 min![Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers](https://assets.pippa.io/shows/65e0afa0dd3dcf001649c9ee/show-cover.jpg)
Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers3.8b. Shitpologies (AKA non-apology apologies)So, how do we apologize "the right way"... Rather than creating MORE damage through half-assed "I'm sorrys"?Today, let's talk about the 5 points for offering a real apology for sake of true relational healing... And four examples of how NOT to apologize, unless you actually want to make the emotional abandonment experience worse for your partner. Looking for 10 more examples of terrible non-apologies? Hit up the recent episode "Non-Apology Apologies" over at patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers. And fuckle up for NonViolent Communication month, coming at ya in September....
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Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers3.8b. Shitpologies (AKA non-apology apologies)So, how do we apologize "the right way"... Rather than creating MORE damage through half-assed "I'm sorrys"?
Today, let's talk about the 5 points for offering a real apology for sake of true relational healing... And four examples of how NOT to apologize, unless you actually want to make the emotional abandonment experience worse for your partner.
Looking for 10 more examples of terrible non-apologies? Hit up the recent episode "Non-Apology Apologies" over at patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers. And fuckle up for NonViolent Communication month, coming at ya in September.
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2023-09-0123 min
Menplus40 - Healthy Masculine MenHow CPTSD Shows Up In Men - Relationships, Depression and Messy Divorces### Introduction - Welcome back to MenPlus40! We continue our discussion on PTSD and CPTSD, focusing on their unique manifestations in men's lives. - In today’s episode, we explore how CPTSD impacts relationships, the relationship between depression and CPTSD, and how these conditions surface during and post-divorce. --- ### Key Topics #### 1. CPTSD in Relationships - **Fear of Abandonment**: The role of emotional distancing or isolation in triggering a profound fear of rejection. - **Emotional Recollect...
2023-08-2504 minComplex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers3.7. Determining "Are they a good relational partner?" before committingWe've talked a lot about committing fully to relationships and overcoming our conflicts together, through examining the subconscious wounds that actually underly our relational upsets.
But here's my question: Is that realistic?
Today, we talk about getting clearer on the contents of our potential and current relationship partners' preprogramming, through checking our own somatic experiences, our shared trauma histories, and their adaptions to the social systems that raised them.
For alllll the relationship x CPTSD details that will reframe how you view other people and yourself... hit patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers...
2023-07-1533 minComplex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers3.7. Determining "Are they a good relational partner?" before committingWe've talked a lot about committing fully to relationships and overcoming our conflicts together, through examining the subconscious wounds that actually underly our relational upsets. But here's my question: Is that realistic?Today, we talk about getting clearer on the contents of our potential and current relationship partners' preprogramming, through checking our own somatic experiences, our shared trauma histories, and their adaptions to the social systems that raised them.For alllll the relationship x CPTSD details that will reframe how you view other people and yourself... hit patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers...
2023-07-1533 minComplex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized MotherfuckersSpecial release | "Ah Hell Naw" Learned obstacles to forming close relationshipsWhy don't we sign up for close connections anymore? Especially after learning about our CPTSD patterns? It's an episode pulled from the private Fort! Let's talk about relationship hangups from an experiential standpoint, integrating what we've heard from the research with real life brain operations to demystify disorganized feelings about closely connecting with others. Check out t-mfrs.com for more info and blogged transcripts of each public episode.To help yourself help yourself, while also helping this project to support MFs round the world, hit patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers for the full yea...
2023-04-2140 minComplex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized MotherfuckersSpecial release | "Ah Hell Naw" Learned obstacles to forming close relationshipsWhy don't we sign up for close connections anymore? Especially after learning about our CPTSD patterns?
It's an episode pulled from the private Fort! Let's talk about relationship hangups from an experiential standpoint, integrating what we've heard from the research with real life brain operations to demystify disorganized feelings about closely connecting with others.
Check out t-mfrs.com for more info and blogged transcripts of each public episode.
To help yourself help yourself, while also helping this project to support MFs round the world, hit patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers for the full yea...
2023-04-2140 min
Goddess Rising PodcastGlimpse into living with CPTSDComplex PTSD is PTSD that is the result of long-term or ongoing trauma, such as emotional abuse in childhood or in a romantic relationship.
Today's episode is going to be a personal one. I'm going to share with you what it's like to live with CPTSD, and what I've learned along the way.
Firstly, let me explain what CPTSD is. It's a type of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) that occurs as a result of prolonged or repeated exposure to traumatic events, such as abuse, neglect, or violence. CPTSD can cause a range of symptoms, including...
2023-03-2725 minComplex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers3.1. Loneliness and Isolation in CPTSDSurprise, we're back! Keeping up with the private stream's topic of the month, we're here to talk about Loneliness. Let's discuss the varieties of loneliness, the trends that start in childhood and pervade a lifetime, and the separate condition known as Isolation. Plus, how being a relational castaway can actually benefit our post-traumatic growth (whaaat). Looking for all the details and community reflections on these lifetimes of loneliness? Find em at patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers - promise you'll feel less alone.--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/complextrauma/message Hosted on Acast. See acast.co...
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Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers1. Loneliness and Isolation in CPTSDSurprise, we're back! Keeping up with the private stream's topic of the month, we're here to talk about Loneliness.
Let's discuss the varieties of loneliness, the trends that start in childhood and pervade a lifetime, and the separate condition known as Isolation. Plus, how being a relational castaway can actually benefit our post-traumatic growth (whaaat).
Looking for all the details and community reflections on these lifetimes of loneliness? Find em at patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers - promise you'll feel less alone.
2023-01-2519 min
Trauma RewiredWhat is CPTSD?Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is only recently beginning to be recognized thanks to the Healing Revolution but its roots actually go back to Freud in the 1800's. Complex CPTSD sets itself apart from PTSD by five distinguishing trauma responses and likely stems from an adverse childhood experience, a developmental trauma, a failed environment. With brain science coming so far in the past twenty years we are now more clear about how trauma affects a developing young brain. Stress, trauma, and unresolved stress responses create a dysfunctional brain. When our bodies are more stressed it can create...
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Complex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers13. RecoveryConvinced you aren't individually damaged, doomed, or destitute yet? Sick. But that comfort doesn't do much good if your brain, behaviors, and life don't change along with the perspective.
Here are 10 steps for CPTSD recovery and your life redesign. Keeping in mind, "different strokes for different folks," "different gains for different brains." Let the experiment begin.
See you on the other side, Motherfucker.
For a lot more "moving forward" information and support... you know by now. Patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers for the catalogue of podcast episodes so far, some...
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Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers1.13. RecoveryConvinced you aren't individually damaged, doomed, or destitute yet? Sick. But that comfort doesn't do much good if your brain, behaviors, and life don't change along with the perspective. Here are 10 steps for CPTSD recovery and your life redesign. Keeping in mind, "different strokes for different folks," "different gains for different brains." Let the experiment begin. See you on the other side, Motherfucker. For a lot more "moving forward" information and support... you know by now. Patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers for the catalogue of podcast episodes so far, some...
2022-01-2138 minComplex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers12. Loss of "Self," Learned Helplessness, and Executive FunctioningDo you edit your daily activities to feel "acceptable," to the detriment of your own wants, needs, and goals? Can you see yourself clearly from the outside, on one timeline? Do you have the power to "drop out" of your brain and observe its activities as a separate observer?
Maybe not.
Today, we're talking about the loss of "Self" - the most flowery and easily dismissible of the CPTSD hallmarks... which might explain why we continually lose progress in trauma recovery. It's the key to keeping your brain, behaviors, and 'balance' on track. The cognitive t...
2022-01-1324 min![Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers](https://assets.pippa.io/shows/65e0afa0dd3dcf001649c9ee/65e0afa996c1510018f9e5cd.jpg)
Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers1.12. Loss of "Self," Learned Helplessness, and Executive FunctioningDo you edit your daily activities to feel "acceptable," to the detriment of your own wants, needs, and goals? Can you see yourself clearly from the outside, on one timeline? Do you have the power to "drop out" of your brain and observe its activities as a separate observer? Maybe not.Today, we're talking about the loss of "Self" - the most flowery and easily dismissible of the CPTSD hallmarks... which might explain why we continually lose progress in trauma recovery. It's the key to keeping your brain, behaviors, and 'balance' on track. The cognitive t...
2022-01-1324 min![Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers](https://assets.pippa.io/shows/65e0afa0dd3dcf001649c9ee/65e0afa996c1510018f9e5d0.jpg)
Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers1.9. The Trauma Trap: Avoidance, Rigidity, and Trauma-BubblesSo, let's say your brain is on fire 24/7. Your body is doing the same. You're uncomfortable every moment, from the inside and out. You, very literally, are too sick and tired to deal with another obstacle or point of pressure. So... You reasonably start avoiding sources of strain. But then it gets unreasonable. What happens if everything is deemed "risky"?Talking the eventual extreme outcome of untreated CPTSD. Turns out, it's a lot more common than you probably think - TLC specials, aside. Today, let's rap about the agitated, agoraphobic, rigid-brained experience of rightfully avoiding everything that hurts. Looking to st...
2021-12-2320 minComplex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers9. The Trauma Trap: Avoidance, Rigidity, and Trauma-BubblesSo, let's say your brain is on fire 24/7. Your body is doing the same. You're uncomfortable every moment, from the inside and out. You, very literally, are too sick and tired to deal with another obstacle or point of pressure. So... You reasonably start avoiding sources of strain. But then it gets unreasonable.
What happens if everything is deemed "risky"?
Talking the eventual extreme outcome of untreated CPTSD. Turns out, it's a lot more common than you probably think - TLC specials, aside. Today, let's rap about the agitated, agoraphobic, rigid-brained experience of rightfully avoiding everything that hurts.
Looking to st...
2021-12-2320 min![Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers](https://assets.pippa.io/shows/65e0afa0dd3dcf001649c9ee/65e0afa996c1510018f9e5d2.jpg)
Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers1.7. Anxiety, Obsession, and ADHD; The High Energy HellscapeTime to talk about perhaps the largest post-traumatic complaint. It's time for Anxiety. (When isn't it?) Let's also chat about those highly related conditions often driven by anxiety... Obsession and Scattered Thinking. The link between all of them that might help you with managing the system? Neutralizing the "high energy" changes they create in your brain and body, plus rewiring that brain to recognize these neural activities are all unwinnable attempts to out-pace a rightfully-assumed-dangerous world. "In anxiety, obsession, and ADHD, we try to predict the future based on what we’ve seen in the past. We...
2021-12-0829 minComplex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers7. Anxiety, Obsession, and ADHD; The High Energy HellscapeTime to talk about perhaps the largest post-traumatic complaint. It's time for Anxiety. (When isn't it?) Let's also chat about those highly related conditions often driven by anxiety... Obsession and Scattered Thinking. The link between all of them that might help you with managing the system? Neutralizing the "high energy" changes they create in your brain and body, plus rewiring that brain to recognize these neural activities are all unwinnable attempts to out-pace a rightfully-assumed-dangerous world.
"In anxiety, obsession, and ADHD, we try to predict the future based on what we’ve seen in the...
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Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers1.3b. Yer Life on CPTSDLet's take an unexpected step back, and talk more about the EXPERIENCE of living with CPTSD, not just the brain processes that make it reality. With memory, attentional, emotional, and relationship issues at the forefront of the list, not to mention all the stress-based health failures, there's a lot to say about the endless death march of having untreated CPTSD running the show. The real cumulative CPTSD experience is probably when we take all these tormentors coming from the insides of our own brains and bodies, lay awake all night, every night, and enjoy that endless tour de “all the mos...
2021-11-1027 minComplex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers3b. Yer Life on CPTSDLet's take an unexpected step back, and talk more about the EXPERIENCE of living with CPTSD, not just the brain processes that make it reality. With memory, attentional, emotional, and relationship issues at the forefront of the list, not to mention all the stress-based health failures, there's a lot to say about the endless death march of having untreated CPTSD running the show.
The real cumulative CPTSD experience is probably when we take all these tormentors coming from the insides of our own brains and bodies, lay awake all night, every night, and enjoy that endless tour de “all the mos...
2021-11-1027 min![Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers](https://assets.pippa.io/shows/65e0afa0dd3dcf001649c9ee/65e0afa996c1510018f9e5d7.jpg)
Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers1.3a. Yer Brain on CPTSDLet's talk about everyone's favorite new buzzdiagnosis - Complex Trauma (CPTSD). What is it? Why is it so difficult to name? And what does it really do to your brain, as far as creating self-destructive neural structures that can undermine your lifetime?Here's a biological / neuropsychological breakdown of life on undiagnosed CPTSD, AKA living with "pervasive relational trauma." In a nutshell, CPTSD is the same brain mechanism and downstream nightmare we just discussed last time in our PTSD talk... But specifically it’s defined by the early timing, the rel...
2021-11-0232 minComplex PTSD Recovery [on Spotify] : We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers3. Yer Brain on CPTSDLet's talk about everyone's favorite new buzzdiagnosis - Complex Trauma (CPTSD). What is it? Why is it so difficult to name? And what does it really do to your brain, as far as creating self-destructive neural structures that can undermine your lifetime?
Here's a biological / neuropsychological breakdown of life on undiagnosed CPTSD, AKA living with "pervasive relational trauma."
In a nutshell, CPTSD is the same brain mechanism and downstream nightmare we just discussed last time in our PTSD talk... But specifically it’s defined by the early timing, the rel...
2021-11-0232 min![Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers](https://assets.pippa.io/shows/65e0afa0dd3dcf001649c9ee/65e0afa996c1510018f9e5d9.jpg)
Complex PTSD Recovery [Reports]: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers1.1. IntroSo, how’s life been lately? But how has it really been? Having some variety of experiences that goes beyond your normal baseline standard depression, anxiety, self-hatred and disinterest in being alive? If you're new here - needing answers or a lobotomy ASAP - welcome to the club. Together we've had 18 months of trauma-learning through peer-reviewed research, connecting dots from our conversations in the community, and a bit too much personal experience. Apparently this one-human project has been helping folks all over the world, but it's also gotten pretty "trauma-advanced" thro...
2021-10-2415 min