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No One Told MeGood To Know: Feelings Are Not FactsYou know what complicates? Feelings. Whether it's deciding which job to take, which relationships are healthy or if your heart wants Chick-fil-a or Moe's for dinner - it feels almost impossible to separate the onslaught of emotion from the final decision made. So how do we train our hearts and thoughts to recognize feelings without letting them dictate our everyday? While our host, Callie, is still on baby leave, our friends Sam and Katelyn step in with NOTM mini series, Good To Know, focusing today on what we all need to know: Feelings Are Not Facts.2023-04-1048 min
No One Told MeGood To Know: Feelings Are Not FactsYou know what complicates? Feelings. Whether it's deciding which job to take, which relationships are healthy or if your heart wants Chick-fil-a or Moe's for dinner - it feels almost impossible to separate the onslaught of emotion from the final decision made. So how do we train our hearts and thoughts to recognize feelings without letting them dictate our everyday? While our host, Callie, is still on baby leave, our friends Sam and Katelyn step in with NOTM mini series, Good To Know, focusing today on what we all need to know: Feelings Are Not Facts.
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UN-CAPED HEROES - The Podcast#353/213 with Callie KnappTime to highlight another amazing contributor to our uocoming book, Callie Knapp. If you ask Callie Knapp, mom, wife and LISW for an Equine Therapy Center on the San Felipe Pueblo in New Mexico, a hero walks the walk, shows consistently, and illuminates wisdom. Kick back and relax as Cassey and Stacy visit with Callie about the opportunity she feels she was Given to bridge the gap to true healing by providing the gift of experiential learning utilizing the grace of horsemanship.2022-08-2928 minNo One Told MePurity Culture, the Realities of Intimacy and Why Doesn’t Anyone Tell You About The Wedding NightWe enter marriage with an expectation. An idea. And when that expectation isn’t met, when the idea remains just that...an idea...we’re left with disappointment and apprehension.
The post Purity Culture, the Realities of Intimacy and Why Doesn’t Anyone Tell You About The Wedding Night appeared first on .2021-02-0142 minNo One Told MeDid Anyone Tell You: January 2021I didn't realize until my adult years how often small talk is required of you. Whether it's in the office, on the first day of class, at your kid's baseball game, at the family dinner when your aunt decides to invite her neighbors…small talk is a requirement of adulthood. These Did Anyone Tell You Episodes are here to equip you with some quick pieces of information to keep in your back pocket to use to amaze your acquaintances. Amaze is probably a slight overstatement. But just slightly.
The post Did Anyone Tell You: January 2021 appeared first on...2021-01-2540 minNo One Told MeSaying Yes To Uncertainty, Why We Show Up and What We Need To Put Down To Move ForwardOne of the key parts of going deeper - our intention for 2021 - is showing up. Whether it's for your personal growth or relational growth - going deeper requires you to show up.
The post Saying Yes To Uncertainty, Why We Show Up and What We Need To Put Down To Move Forward appeared first on .2021-01-1841 minNo One Told MeWhy This Year Won’t Be Like The LastWait, wait, wait. This isn't about your new year resolution or your word for 2021. It's more...focused. Intentional. On purpose.
The post Why This Year Won’t Be Like The Last appeared first on .2021-01-1121 minNo One Told MeDid Anyone Tell You: Holiday EditionHere it is. The end of 2020 coming in hot, but I think we can say this year as a whole has continually come in hot. I was hoping we could end the year with the balance of mindful and mindless we’ve all been trying strike. You know, trying to be mindful of the space we’re in, the time we spend, but also needing a break from all the personal growth we, at times, felt pressured to undergo this year.
The post Did Anyone Tell You: Holiday Edition appeared first on .2020-11-3044 minNo One Told MeSaying No, Going Virtual, Why My Bumper Isn’t Attached To My Car…And, Well, A Lot MoreSome weeks, I just need to unload, you know? I need some time to decompress and just talk about life here and now. Not what I want it to be, not what I wish I could do or be - but the current state of affairs. It just feels better to talk it all out, you know? So, here I am with one of No One Told Me's favorites, Brooke, talking about life which includes, but isn't limited to, virtual school, quarantine, home building, raising kids, why we say yes to chaos, the pressures of the car pick up...2020-11-2340 minNo One Told MeThe Impact Of Your Living Space On Your Head SpaceReminder: Moving is the worst. And just like with moving when you discover random baskets filled with a watch battery, a phone from 2008 and sunglass cases for sunglasses you lost three years ago – we all need to be reminded that things deserve to have places in our homes and when they don’t we have to face them eventually. The only exception is junk drawers. You’re allowed three of those within your home. Who am I kidding? You’re allowed as many as it takes to make sure said junk is out of sight. I guess I just think it...2020-11-1637 minNo One Told MeMaking Friends When You’re An Adult and Why It’s Really Okay To Just Be YouThis episode is for anyone who has felt like you’re not __________ enough. Funny, quiet, inviting, loud, happy, empathetic – enough. Holley Gerth is an author and life coach I stumbled on because of her passion for building real, life-shaping relationships by leaning into who you are instead of what you feel like someone expects you to be. This episode is also for those of us who take a minute to figure out how to make friends once you’re out of your college bubble. How do you continue to lean into growing relationships when everything else pulls you away from i...2020-11-0933 minNo One Told MeDid Anyone Tell You: Halloween EditionI like spooky stories. Until I try to go to sleep. Khari and Kaley jump on for our monthly Did Anyone Tell You episode with the perfect stories for your night around the campfire. And an ending that surprised us all. Mainly because the batteries ran out on the recorder. Enjoy.
The post Did Anyone Tell You: Halloween Edition appeared first on .2020-11-0225 minNo One Told MeHow To Try Something New: A Career Change With Olivia MuenterIf you’ve ever thought, “I wonder if I could…” but weren’t sure where to start in even trying something new - this conversation is for you. The fear, the doubt, the rejection - you won’t be or aren’t the only one to face it. I hope this helps.
The post How To Try Something New: A Career Change With Olivia Muenter appeared first on .2020-11-0235 minNo One Told MeWhen Shame Shapes You and Why Your Story MattersA continued conversation on a topic that has inadvertently, or sometimes obviously, woven its way into the canvas of our lives. After releasing Part One, I heard from so many of you, sharing your heart and your thoughts on shame. Whether it was navigating a divorce, the way your body changes, how you care for your family, navigating your marriage or your reaction every time someone asks you about your dating life – shame has shaped a lot of us. But I think the sooner we can learn the warning signs, the repercussions of giving this negative emotion room in ou...2020-10-1941 minNo One Told MeDefining The Shame We Get And Give + The Difference In Shame And GuiltShame has shaped chunks of who I am personally. I think you’ve probably felt it, too. Maybe it’s kept you from looking in the mirror. From walking into a particular building. It could be you can’t find a close connection because you feel the need to keep a piece of you hidden. Or you fear applying for a job because of questions asked.
What do you do with not only the shame you feel, but the shame you give? How do we start changing these patterns? Doing something about the sharp scissors of judgement cuttin...2020-10-1221 minNo One Told MeTalking Politics With Grace and Why Your Participation Really Does Matter In the exhaustion of feeling like it’s all too big to even try to make a difference, while we’re being targeted with more information than we know what to do with and our hearts and brains are honestly just tired - Sarah and Beth occupy a corner of the internet that, in so many ways, makes you feel able. More specifically - capable - of making a difference. I’m calling this our palette cleanser - our reset button in all the chaos.
The post Talking Politics With Grace and Why Your Participation Really Does Matter...2020-10-0532 minNo One Told MeDid Anyone Tell You: September
Making sure we’re all in the know is what led to the creation of our Did Anyone Tell You episodes. Our friends, Kaley and Khari, roll in about once a month to equip us with all we need to make small talk with whoever we find ourselves trapped with for an undesired amount of time.
We’re equipping you with conversation starters, or maybe enders because who really wants to talk about the Emmys? It was weird, okay, and I felt like it was worth talking about.
2020-09-2840 minNo One Told MeThe Things Adults Have Know About Buying/Selling/Moving A HomeIf you ever wondered how our marriage works - this is a pretty accurate picture. Ryan talks through the more complicated side of all things home buying/selling, while I just offer advice on how to pick a house based on how it feels. Yeah, I said it. The house has to feel right.
The post The Things Adults Have Know About Buying/Selling/Moving A Home appeared first on .2020-09-2151 minNo One Told MeBalance Isn’t Real, Striving For More and Healthy Rhythms of Growth
“This is just for now, things will slow down.” -Me, Callie Holland
That’s a direct quote I say to my husband every two months or so when he tells me we have too much going on. It’s a pattern. Every time I do the work to take something away, I add something in. My pastor actually just said it this way, “If you’re going to add, you have to subtract.”
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No One Told MeBalance Isn’t Real, Striving For More and Healthy Rhythms of Growth“This is just for now, things will slow down.” -Me, Callie Holland
That’s a direct quote I say to my husband every two months or so when he tells me we have too much going on. It’s a pattern. Every time I do the work to take something away, I add something in. My pastor actually just said it this way, “If you’re going to add, you have to subtract.”2020-09-1448 minNo One Told MeNot Everyone Will Like YouI do not like the name of this episode. I don’t like even considering this concept. As a fully-realized two on the enneagram – the thought of someone CHOOSING not to like me…well, now, I just convince myself I can surely change that. But, the reality of life is there are times you’ll run into people, beginning all the way back in elementary school, who just simply don’t like you. Sometimes for a reason, sometimes for a season or sometimes just because. And then there are people who won’t be good for you. Relationships that you allow –...2020-09-0744 minNo One Told MeAnswering Listener Questions About Our Hearts, Bodies and MindsLast week felt like the emotional equivalent of pulling on compression leggings while sweating. Is that not the worst? All it does is make you sweat more…it’s a vicious cycle. In the heart of a season full of transitions, I knew some time spent looking back on life with NOTM regular, Brooke, and answering questions based on past experiences would simply remind us that we’re able to handle more than we think. We invited you all to send in your questions and we categorized them with surprising ease because they all centered around a few things: body i...2020-08-3153 minNo One Told MeBeing a mom + pursuing your passions and make-up/skincare Do’s/don’ts*If the motherhood side of life isn't your cup of tea just yet - go ahead and skip to around 33 minutes in for all of the make-up/skincare talk!* This is maybe one of my biggest areas of flat out no one told me and I blame my mother for this hole in my life. But she made up for it by plucking my eyebrows for me in high school. Life has a way of balancing out doesn’t it? But, what I can do is find people who know more about topics than I do and let them le...2020-08-241h 02No One Told MeOnline Dating, Healthy Boundaries and Setting StandardsCreating healthy boundaries with yourself - whether it’s while using an app, in relationships or in everyday life - is essential to knowing the value you carry. You’ll hear some pretty great insight from our friends, Rachel and Caitlin, who have been digging their way through the profiles online dating has to offer for a little while now and have learned a thing or two - or seven. How do you build a profile that hits right? What are the red flags to avoid in your own profile and in the profiles of others? When do you know...2020-08-1743 minNo One Told MeToxic Relationships and How to Shift Your MindsetToday's guest is a semi-old friend (is seven years considered old? no? kind of?) who allowed me to walk through some seasons that leave you unsure about yourself and about what's next. Leah found herself in an unhealthy cycle of relationships, struggling against what she knew she should do and the ability to actually do it. We take a pretty hard look at some topics we Southerners struggle to voice. If you've ever struggled to figure out who you are outside of a relationship, to completely re-make your mindset or allowed someone else to put a value on you...2020-08-1033 minNo One Told MeDid Anyone Tell You: What To Watch, Listen To and How This “Summer” Has Changed Us AllWe’re starting with this surprise episode - a summer recap Did Anyone Tell You, which is just an installment we do every now and then to equip you with information that only proves useful to fill in the uncomfortable silences of a Zoom call or prove to those younger than you that you are still cool even though you’ve really gotten into the art of crochet lately. Okay, that’s me. I’m talking about me. Two of my favorite people, Kaley and Khari, are here to talk about what’s worth watching on one of your 40 streaming...2020-08-0357 minNo One Told Me…I’m Not The One Who Has To FightThe last episode of season two developed about six months ago when I was laying in the middle of the living room floor crying while my kids napped. What I thought would happen...didn’t. What I wanted to happen...didn’t. And I wasn’t sure what forward looked like. My battle to get to the other side was just beginning. You will face a season you didn’t see coming, a time you want to just skip past - what will you do? What did you do? Let’s talk about it.
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The Good News Mama PodcastEpisode 022 Corona Encouragement Day 3: No One Told Me with Callie HollandWho is working from home with little ones running around? Who is actually getting anything done?! Please impart your wisdom...ha!Join me as I talk with Callie Holland about all the good and not so good moments of 'sheltering in place.' This includes fun stories of zoom calls while potty training a toddler, having help from the older siblings, toddlers moisturizing clothes, and episodes of favorite kid shows on repeat...Hey, whatever gets the job done! No judgment here.After some comic relief, we dive in to the inspiration behind Callie's podcast No...2020-05-0457 minNo One Told Me…About Moms And LossThis episode is a story. A story of a lot of pain, loss, uncertainty. And I think it will speak most to what no one tells us about loss as a mom. My friend Melanie speaks with such painful honesty - I know many will relate. So, if you know someone who maybe wants to avoid Mother’s Day, or someone who has felt the loss that is a miscarriage or infertility - share this with them. Let this be how they know they're seen. Here's No One Told Me About Moms and Loss.
The post …About Moms...2020-04-2747 minNo One Told Me…I Can Say I’m Not OkayA conversation about mental health while Staying At Home: What do you do when the world is swaying? There's no shame or guilt in admitting something's wrong. The way you feel right now will not be forever. Take this time to ask: What was I doing because I thought I had to but I really don't? ...And a whole lot more!
The post …I Can Say I’m Not Okay appeared first on .2020-04-2035 minNo One Told MeNOTM: Check InSome of us are just a few weeks in and some are months into this at-home season. We though it was time for a check in. Many of you shared how you're doing and what your life looks like. And then myself and Brooke just go right into quarantine grocery staples, what's normal now and really, how much damage are we going to do to our kids in this season?
The post NOTM: Check In appeared first on .2020-04-1333 minNo One Told Me…An Interview With Phylicia MasonheimerInstead of releasing an episode specific to right now, the chaos of work life led me to pull from the reserves. And what I came out with was an interview with Phylicia Masonheimer. Even though it was recorded at the end of February, it’s almost eerie how relevant it is right now. So much of what we talked about matters even more now. Here’s my conversation with Phylicia Masonheimer.
The post …An Interview With Phylicia Masonheimer appeared first on .2020-04-0636 minNo One Told MeDid Anyone Tell You: At Home EditionWho are we going to be on the other side of all of this? Everyone will have a different story to tell...but our perspective through it will probably help shape our perception after it. I found myself getting a little too lost in the news and stats of it all, so I decided this week, we'd all take a breath. Sit and talk a little bit with some of our No One Told Me favorites, Kaley and Khari. We'll talk about what we're learning about ourselves right now, who we think we'll be on the other side, the...2020-03-3039 minNo One Told Me…We’d All Face A PandemicSo now what? What do we do with all the feelings and uncertainties? Let’s figure it out.
The post …We’d All Face A Pandemic appeared first on .2020-03-2316 minNo One Told Me…Listener QuestionsTwo of NOTM’s originals are back again today. We’ve had some incredible guests over the past few months, but it felt right to bring some NOTM family in to talk about the realities of life. What our 20's feel like vs our 30's aka listening to everyone’s opinion as fact vs learning to comb through what actually applies to you. Then we go into listener questions that, honestly, were just a good time. Here’s No One Told Me: Listener Questions.
The post …Listener Questions appeared first on .2020-03-0946 minNo One Told Me…With Gina McClainToday’s conversation is for anyone who tries hard to prove themselves, for anyone who wants to step toward what God has called them to, for anyone who leads or will lead in the future, for anyone who wants to empower those coming behind you. I hit record with the plan to prep her for the interview but our conversation started rolling immediately. Forget the get-to-know-you part, Gina started speaking encouragement into my heart from the moment the call started. And I think she’ll do the same for you. Here's No One Told Me With Gina McClain.
Th...2020-03-0243 minNo One Told Me…With Erin MoonMy conversation with Erin Moon revolved around actively and intentionally making decisions. We talk about a hard season for her family that required continually trusting the decision they made, we talk boundaries with our screens and, most importantly, Erin talks about Lent. It's probably one of the most intentional seasons we can step into. Here's No One Told Me With Erin Moon.
The post …With Erin Moon appeared first on .2020-02-2446 minNo One Told Me…What Over Thirty Years Of Marriage Teaches YouBefore they moved away, I made a point to sit down and tell this couple the influence they had on my life simply because I was in close proximity to them so regularly. A big part of how I view marriage came from spending time in the home of Mr. David and Mrs. Cheri. Listen...is it weird that I’m grown and still referring to them by a title and their first name? Absolutely. But I can’t shake it. It’s a southern thing and it honestly feels absurd to be on a first name basis with them...2020-02-1748 minNo One Told Me…Love Means Giving Without ExpectationsWe are influencing everyone who engages with us. For good or for bad. Over the next few weeks, you’ll hear from some of the couples who influenced me the most. Who taught me, without really meaning to, what healthy relationships look like. These are people I admire and love. And I think you will, too. First, is a couple who has taught me what generosity and thoughtfulness practically look like. I learned the art of finding middle ground and choosing to keep giving more in seasons you don’t really feel like it. This all came from my frie...2020-02-1051 minNo One Told Me…I’d Marry My Best FriendThe only way to kick off a month of relationships is handing over the mic to my husband Ryan for an episode highlighting the ups and downs of long-distance, if you know you know, and what we wish someone would’ve told us about the married life. Here is No One Told Me I'd Marry Best Friend.
The post …I’d Marry My Best Friend appeared first on .2020-02-0345 minNo One Told MeDid Anyone Tell You? – January EditionI sit before you three TWO HOUR episodes in and I still fully don’t get The Bachelor. I had to dive deeper into the backstory of it all. How are they really making this work? What are the facts that no one is thinking about when they watch this...whatever this is? Which leads me to my next topic...healthy relationships. We’re talking about them all throughout the month of February with couples who played a part in shaping my view of relationships. We’ll start next Monday. But before we get there, let’s finish talking about th...2020-01-2735 minNo One Told Me…with Courtney Cleveland from All The Best DaysCourtney Cleveland hosts a podcast, All The Best Days, where she goes looking for the best day in every city. The goal here is learn how to take smaller bites out of travel. We’re not going for a week at a time; what if we traveled more but for less amounts of time? She highlights her favorite cities for quick trips, the trips to take when you’re broke and the ones to take when you’re doin' alright. The ones to take kids, the ones to go on when you’re single and the ones for just marrieds...2020-01-2057 minNo One Told Me…The Art Of Setting BoundariesI like the word yes way more than I like the word no. Saying no makes my stomach turn and my mind jumps about 10 steps ahead, ending in believing whoever I've just said no to has ex-communicated me from their lives as a whole. The word "boundary" sounds so final, doesn't it? It sounds like a punishment. But I'm getting older - and while the retinol is doing its best to delay those effects physically - I'm comfortable with the effects of it emotionally and mentally. Age has given me perspective. So, as we get into the heart of...2020-01-131h 02No One Told MeDid Anyone Tell You? – December EditionLet’s take a look back at the year with our friends Khari and Kaley in our last Did Anyone Tell You of 2019.
The post Did Anyone Tell You? – December Edition appeared first on .2019-12-1635 minNo One Told Me…Grief Is HealingI don’t understand grief or loss. Pain that is triggered by a song, street, place as a memory you thought you’d stuffed down suddenly shoots to the front of your mind. I don’t think we’ll understand it in this life. But I know we’ll experience it. All of us. And something about the holidays stirs up those memories, subtlety forcing us to live what we just want to forget. I asked my friend Don Wilson to sit down with us again because this subject requires someone who has walked through it and directed others in it. Her...2019-12-0932 minNo One Told Me…How To Stop Believing The LiesWhat lie are you believing? Do you know how to silence it? Do you know how to take Scripture and use it as a shield from the parts of the world aiming to devalue you? I love this conversation with Gretchen Saffles, creator of Well Watered Women. Here’s No One Told Me How To Stop Believing The Lies.
The post …How To Stop Believing The Lies appeared first on .2019-12-0246 minNo One Told Me…I Get To Decide What My Holidays Are LikeThe story of the holiday season: We scroll and see the best and we feel like the worst. So this year, I’m laying down some boundaries. Some standards we Hollands are going to live by. Hopefully. Until I see someone with a well-placed ‘Welcome Santa’ on their front porch and demand we turn our front yard into a poor man’s Dollywood. But, until then, these are the things I will and will not do this holiday season and I’m bringing the person you want along with you on any new venture - our friend Brooke. Here’s No One Tol...2019-11-2534 minNo One Told MeDid Anyone Tell You?We've lost the art of small talk. Our phones have robbed us of the ability to make idle conversation. So, today, we’re going to help with that. Whether it’s storing up information to keep the conversation going at the Thanksgiving dinner table or just having something to talk about at the copier..these Did Anyone Tell You episodes are here to give you some entertainment and some information you didn’t know you wanted. Here’s the rundown on Dolly, the Christmas holidays and Disney+.
The post Did Anyone Tell You? appeared first on .2019-11-1846 minNo One Told Me…I’m Not AloneYour burdens aren't yours alone to carry. Sometimes, we struggle to let loose of the control we're white knuckle gripping in our hands. But Jesus never wanted that for us. Here's No One Told Me I'm Not Alone.
The post …I’m Not Alone appeared first on .2019-11-1118 minNo One Told Me…I Can Change The Way I Think About FoodSome people forget to eat and some people plan every single meal down to the mashed cauliflower with cheese substitute sprinkled on top. I’ve fallen in both categories. Our relationship with food, good or bad, runs over into much of our lives. But what if we stopped looking at food with the mindset of good or bad, healthy or unhealthy. Maybe this topic doesn’t necessarily strike a chord with you but I would be willing to guarantee someone in your life struggles with their view of food and, in turn, their view of themselves. This mindset we’re tal...2019-11-0437 minNo One Told Me…About International AdoptionHave you ever felt like you should definitely do something, made a huge decision, threw yourself into uncertainty because you knew it was the right thing...and then nothing? It didn’t immediately work out. Whatever your expectations were became distant dreams but you still knew it was the right thing. For Michael and Heather, that’s what their journey into international adoption has been. Lots of hope, lots of disappointment, but a confidence along the way that made putting one foot in front of the other always the right thing to do. From closing adoption agencies, to slow pape...2019-10-2839 minNo One Told Me…How To Step Into A CallingWhen I get to record some episodes, I feel almost like I need to write down every word that’s said because I want to remember it. This is one of those episodes. My friend, Heather, put a voice to a lot of the lessons I’ve learned, but need to be reminded of - and a whole lot more that I need to learn. Here’s No One Told Me How To Step Into A Calling.
The post …How To Step Into A Calling appeared first on .2019-10-2140 minNo One Told Me…What Really Matters About WeddingsWhether you’ve been to a wedding, have been in a wedding or you’re the reason the wedding is happening in the first place...this episode is the real deal when it comes to talking through the planning, the juggling and the real or imagined pressure you feel to dance to songs other than the Cupid Shuffle. We talked about it all in No One Told Me What Really Matters About Weddings.
The post …What Really Matters About Weddings appeared first on .2019-10-1449 minNo One Told Me…What To Do When I Don’t Know What To DoMaking decisions only seems to get harder as we get older. The pressures change but the emotions linger...fear and doubt. They give a steady rhythm to our decision making process...or maybe it can be more accurately called our decision-stalling process. How I walk into these seasons of my life has been completely changed by the insight Pastor Don has been pouring into my life over the past year. I think you’ll feel the same after this episode.
The post …What To Do When I Don’t Know What To Do appeared first on .2019-10-0742 minNo One Told MeDid Anyone Tell You?Do you really need to know everything in this episode? That’s debatable. It’s a chance to take a breath, realize there’s room in your day to remember some things you’ve tried to forget - like my “I’m becoming an adult haircut” from my first year out of college - and admit you actually do have strong opinions about what should and should not have the word pumpkin on it. Coming up are just few things to put in your “I don’t know what to say right now so here is some random information” pocket on Did Anyone...2019-09-3033 minNo One Told Me…My Hormones Are The Crazy OnesIn today's episode, we're going to go another round on hormones. Hormones impact us physically and emotionally and in ways I think many of us don't even realize. You'll be surprised when you hear some of the causes of what we just deem as "crazy". Dr. Mariza Snyder is a hormone specialist with loads of information. This episode's goal is to give you a foundation in hormone health, to really learn why they matter, and more specifically, why they matter to your every day life. Here's No One Told Me My Hormones Are The Crazy Ones.
The...2019-09-2341 minNo One Told Me…About Becoming A MomMy friend Lyndsey will be a mom for the first time late this fall and she has some questions. Those questions led to others she didn’t even know to ask. I pulled in my friend, Natalie, a trained labor/delivery nurse and mom of three. We’re just going to mom-splain a few things and pull back the curtain on this whole “I’m going to bring a human being into the world” thing. Here’s No One Told Me About Becoming A Mom.
The post …About Becoming A Mom appeared first on .2019-09-1644 minNo One Told Me…Not To SettleIn our longest and hardest seasons, we forget about the seasons we’ve already walked through that were tough...but worth it. We think, all of a sudden, goodness has run out for us. We are no longer worthy of or willing to wait for the better. We settle in. Settling keeps us from great. It leaves us in the land of just okay. Last year, Caroline jumped on an episode about being Friend Zoned and all the ups and downs of living that single adult life. And here we sit, a year later, with a very different story to...2019-09-0939 minNo One Told Me…I Could Be A Foster ParentDo you know how many children are waiting for homes in your city? The answer will surprise you. It surprised me. Foster care can feel intimidating, but my friend, Amy, and her daughter, Lexy, show us why a home matters.
The post …I Could Be A Foster Parent appeared first on .2019-09-0235 minNo One Told Me…I Don’t Have To Be OverwhelmedWe don’t have to live overwhelmed lives. Our environments feed our hearts and minds more than we realize. The good news? We can actually control a lot of it. No one told me I don’t have to be overwhelmed.
The post …I Don’t Have To Be Overwhelmed appeared first on .2019-08-2645 minNo One Told Me…I Need CommunityWhen we asked what topics to cover this summer, I was honestly surprised by the amount of people who asked about community. In high school and college, friendships generally come pretty easily, in the sense that you're continually around people in the same stage of life as you, mostly dealing with the same things you're dealing with. But then you get older and everything that was so easily lined up gets trickier. Your best friend gets married, and then your other friend gets married and before you know it you're literally a bridesmaid 27 times before you've even met anyone...2019-08-1937 minNo One Told Me…Back To School MemoriesHere we are, spending too much money on our kid's lunch box so it has their name on it and trying to figure out if we actually have to buy everything on the teacher's supply list. If you're in college, you're trying to figure out if you really need the books for class, or if you should've read the assigned reading that, come on professors, you know we're not reading. To celebrate, or commiserate, back to school I've got my teacher friend, Kristin, and old faithful, Brooke, on our first episode of Season Two! I wonder how Brooke's going...2019-08-1240 minNo One Told Me…Season Two IntroWelcome to Season Two of No One Told Me!
The post …Season Two Intro appeared first on .2019-08-1203 minNo One Told Me…The BasicsSo, today, we’re taking it back to the very basics with one person who has helped shape me, my beloved Mrs. Jacque, who talks about how three years of intentional gratitude has changed her life. And another person joins us who is reminding me of the incredible seasons of growth you experience in your 20’s. My friend Sam shares about finding your people when you’ve never had to seek out community before. And I share a little about a topic no one really ever even hinted at...postpartum anxiety. Here’s No One Told Me...The Basics.
Th...2019-05-2748 minNo One Told Me…I Would Need An Organ DonorOn the majority of the episodes up to this point, I’ve had a vague notion of the subject. Nutrition, anxiety, mom-ing - I knew just enough to be a somewhat meaningful part of the conversation. But not now. You’ll hear the phrases “I didn’t even realize that” and “I have never thought of that” a lot of times. My friends Tom and Brooke walked a unique journey for years. They have taught me so much in the time I’ve known them. They’re genuine kindness, consistent thoughtfulness and unwavering faithfulness has been an example I have admired and f...2019-05-2052 minNo One Told Me…How To Make A House A HomeThe process of buying a house, finding a place to live your life, that’s stressful enough. But then you get through that process and you’re left with a house. A big, ideally empty, house. Then what? There’s so much space! So many walls! What goes where?! Our house sat like a blank canvas for several months before I knew I wanted it to be more inviting, more comfortable and a place of rest. So, I called in the professionals, i.e. my friend Amanda, and gave her a budget and like a fairy from Pottery Barn she ca...2019-05-1356 minNo One Told MeDid Anyone Tell You?An episode that will make you relevant at the Mother's Day brunch or your cousin's graduation. Enjoy!
The post Did Anyone Tell You? appeared first on .2019-05-0647 minNo One Told Me…How The Enneagram Can Change MeThis episode will go down as one of my favorites. It’s honest. And my goodness if I didn’t have a personal revelation about halfway through; t’s like you’re going to be sitting in on a therapy session. This is one of the most substantial conversations I’ve had about the power of the Enneagram to help navigate life. I pulled in the reason I even got interested in the Enneagram, Kaley is back with us, and then we pulled in the reason she got interested...Hannah. This is only the second time I’ve gotten to spend tim...2019-04-2948 minNo One Told Me…The Enneagram Can Help MeI have learned an insane amount about myself through the Enneagram. I’ve learned the why behind so much of how I respond, how I act, why my emotions get away from me. And based on the response to our last Enneagram episode, I think a lot of you are figuring yourselves out, too. Over the next two weeks, we’ll go further into the Enneagram - how it applies to our personal and professional lives. Today, we’re talking to my friend Jackie Brewster. She shoots straight. Like real straight. Jackie connects with people so quickly and both her an...2019-04-221h 02No One Told Me…Dating Isn’t Like The MoviesI knew I needed to do some No One Told Me About Dating...but I had no idea where to start. I think the last book I read about dating relationships was I Kissed Dating Goodbye and most of you would say goodbye to this podcast if I used that as my base. So, I started doing some research. I wanted to find someone who could speak on the topic with their feet planted firmly in a relationship with Jesus, but not really someone who says things like “it’ll all work out” and “there are plenty fish in the sea...2019-04-1547 minNo One Told Me…When To Walk AwayIf I'm honest, dating is a world I’m a little lost in. I have the most basic answers to the most complicated questions. I’ve brought in some people who can speak to it with a whole lot more wisdom than I can. Today, we’re hearing from Sarah Cain. She speaks with a whole lot of honesty and is so open about some of the hardest seasons of her life...like how she knew when to walk away from something that was really good because she knew God had something great. Here’s No One Told Me When To...2019-04-0844 minNo One Told MeDid Anyone Tell You?I can’t watch E! News every night and I miss half the headlines in the morning news because I’m trying to get pants on someone so we can leave the house. Since this is a podcast to make sure you’re informed on well, life, I think it’s time we start a new segment called Did Anyone Tell You? Once a month we’ll gather up some of our favorite things we’ve heard about and share them with you. We’ll at least feel relevant when someone asks if we’ve heard Britney Spears is bringing a music...2019-04-0147 minNo One Told MeFitness Isn’t A NumberResearchers are finding one of the biggest reasons we don’t exercise is because we feel like it’s all a big comparison game. We’re intimidated by going to the gym. We know comparison robs us of joy, but now, if we’re not careful, it’ll rob us of our health. I know that seems dramatic. But there’s a reason I prefer a dark cardio room when I run on a treadmill and if, Lord help us, I ever do Zumba, it needs to also happen in a very dark room. Or we bird box it and all wear...2019-03-2548 minNo One Told MeHow To Pursue PurposePurpose didn’t sound so intimidating until I started getting older. It felt more important. Bigger. Checking off a to do list was less satisfying because I didn’t know what those to do’s were really for. I didn’t know the why behind them. Pursuing your passion isn’t about getting it right or wrong. It’s about pursuing Jesus. And knowing any decisions coming out of that pursuit are full of grace. Here is No One Told Me How To Pursue Purpose.
The post How To Pursue Purpose appeared first on .2019-03-1850 minNo One Told MeWhat Dress Casual Actually MeansRetail therapy is a thing. A very real thing. But, there’s a difference in buying just to buy, and moving toward an attitude of intentional purchases - specifically where our clothes are involved. Today, I’m talking to the fashion director of a Nashville based, lifestyle brand focused on empowering women around the world. ABLE creates jobs for women who have overcome extraordinary circumstances while ending the cycle of charity dependency. Jordan Soderholm shares a little about what she does as ABLE’s Fashion Director and then we talk the do’s and maybe don’t do’s of style and...2019-03-1144 minNo One Told MeOrganizing Doesn’t Have To Give Me HivesI kept getting questions about organizing a house. Spring is coming and we’re starting to look around and realize we have a bunch of stuff. Everywhere. And it needs a place to go other than random piles. I am very good at piling things. I should have a show called Piling Up because it takes real skill to stack the way I stack. Anyway, I couldn’t answer any of these questions about organizing. So, I turned to what we lovingly call in my household, Dr. Google. I found a company called Help You Dwell. I reached out to t...2019-03-0447 minNo One Told MeHow To Move Through LifeYou know what’s hard? Transitions. You know what no one really tells you is hard? Transitions. Exciting, yes. But hard. What makes the biggest difference in how you navigate these transitions? Community. I met Julianne in college and have watched her walk through so many different seasons. I’ve seen her figure out that no one really has it all figured out. I’m excited for you to hear from her today in No One Told Me How To Move Through Life.
The post How To Move Through Life appeared first on .2019-02-2535 minNo One Told MeHow To Like MyselfThis episode is based on all the conversations I’ve had with so many women ranging from high school all the way to retirement about the way we see ourselves. And, you know, it’s not just a woman thing. It’s a human thing. The majority of people have a skewed view of who they are. Most people don’t have a positive self-image, but then others have an extremely positive one. So where’s the balance? What’s it rooted in? Why does it seem to get worse as we get older? I don’t know. But I’m trying to...2019-02-1814 minNo One Told MeThoughts & Feelings: Valentine’s Day EditionEverybody has thoughts and feelings about Valentine's Day. More specifically, everybody has thoughts and feelings about everyone else's bad dates. And, as the saying goes, when you post it on social media you are thereby giving everyone the right to share their thoughts and feelings...or something like that. These are some of my favorite bonus episodes. Brooke, Whitney and I take the date stories you submitted and ask a lot of questions. Let's just say I am so thankful I am no longer a part of the dating world. Just so thankful.
The post Thoughts & Feelings...2019-02-1451 minNo One Told MeHow To Be A SpouseThe first years of marriage are a lot of just figuring out the other person. How they fold their underwear, why they won’t load the dishwasher the right way and if I stare at your French fries long enough will you give me one. These are the big questions. But, as your rhythms sync up and your days somehow seem to get shorter and fuller - you change. And, unless you’re incredibly on top of things, you forget to take time to keep getting to know each other. Understand each other. You just let life sweep you alon...2019-02-1142 minNo One Told MeAbout Mom GuiltHonestly, I feel like I’m getting this mom thing wrong more than I’m getting it right. I feel like there’s an unspoken set of expectations that linger out there that everyone else knows how to reach but I don’t. I feel like I’m not being the best for or doing the best for my kids and I’m scarring them for life with my decisions. And the more I talked about it, the more I learned it’s not just me. Whether it’s work or the day-to-day decisions we make for our Littles...we can’t escape...2019-02-0448 minNo One Told MeHow To Take Care Of My FaceMakeup is not something I ever cared about. I mean I threw on some mascara when I wore pants that buttoned and counted that as dressing up. But then I was squarely in my mid-20s and knew I wanted to walk into work or even the grocery store and occasionally look like I had my life together even if that’s also an occasional occurrence. My friend Rachel is ridiculously knowledgeable on all things beauty. Seriously. She’s done a huge amount of research and has compared so many products. And she spills it all for us on No O...2019-01-2848 minNo One Told MeHow To Walk Through InfertilityHere’s the problem with expectations. We develop this mentality that we’ll exceed all of them. They become hard and fast rules. Not necessarily goals - they become facts. And then, when they go unmet, we face the emotional, spiritual and physical toll of what seems like failure. But that’s just not true. Expectations can change. They can be molded...but only if we hold them loosely. Many women expect getting pregnant to be a simple, easy thing. But as I got married, as my best friends got married, we all started approaching this next stage with this e...2019-01-2148 minNo One Told Me…Suffering Can Be SweetCancer. Even saying the word, hearing the word - it makes my stomach drop. But when it’s tied to someone you love - it’s hard not just to say or to hear, all of a sudden, you feel it. When that word comes into your life, it’s a permanent marker. The lens through which you see the world shifts. Places have new meaning. You hear songs differently. Every day moments don’t feel so every day anymore. I didn’t think of any of this. Honestly, I didn’t know any of this, until my friend Jenny was di...2019-01-1442 minNo One Told Me…What The Enneagram Actually MeansAlright, so really, how many times have you heard or read the word enneagram in the past six months? Whether you have a vague knowledge or you’ve researched all there is about your number - this particular episode is for you. I feel like “what’s your number?” is our generation’s replacement for “what’s your sign?”.
My friend Kaley isn’t necessarily an expert in the enneagram but she’s the reason I even heard about it to begin with. And I’ve seen what a huge tool it has been in self-discovery in her own life over the past...2019-01-0757 minNo One Told Me…About WearinessAs we prepped for this final show of 2018, there were lots of topics we thought we could cover. And interviews lined up to talk about them. But, something in me has been unsettled. Have you ever felt that? A restlessness? And here’s some real honesty...I’m just tired. This particular episode is short, mainly because of this weariness in my heart. And the emotions that started welling up. Sometimes, you just don’t need a lot of words simply because you can’t find them. Anyway, I hope you hear this and feel the hope it’s meant to b...2018-12-1713 minNo One Told Me…How To Buy Gifts As An AdultBuying gifts is real hard. I didn’t realize how hard it was until I was old enough to actually start picking and buying gifts out for friends and family. So I got to thinking - how can I can make this easier this year? Option one is to send a family email out saying I’m making a donation in their name to Henley and Hagan's college fund. Option two is perhaps a nice coin counter that was $5 at Kohl’s on Black Friday. And then there’s option three which is...effort. I’m just going to have to tr...2018-12-1031 minNo One Told Me…How Controlling Anxiety Can BeGrowing up, I generally wasn’t an anxious person. I mean, I worried about who was going to ask me to prom and if my turtleneck gave me a double chin - but my life was never really altered by any of it. Until my mid-20s. Until my life started changing in big ways. Whether it was avoiding large groups of people because I didn’t want them to sense something was wrong. Or the times I would be so overcome with worry it was hard to fall asleep. It was varying degrees of just simply feeling overwhelmed with...2018-12-0340 minNo One Told Me…Food Is Our Friend Just Not Our Best FriendWhen I graduated high school, I started thinking a little bit about what I ate. I started intentionally exercising. And, slowly, it became an obsession. The problem was, I was just going off what I read on social media and some unhealthy habits that would help me lose weight - but it wasn’t sustainable. No one ever taught me about food. All I knew was diets and restricted eating. My friend, Megan, is a registered dietician who dispels lots of myths we read about daily and partners with us in learning what it means to feed our bodies we...2018-11-2645 minNo One Told MeThoughts & Feelings: Thanksgiving EditionIn this episode we talk about the best sides (#corncasseroleforlife), "special" family dynamics and some things you maybe shouldn't bring up when you're gathered around the table.
The post Thoughts & Feelings: Thanksgiving Edition appeared first on .2018-11-2244 minNo One Told Me…Hormones Are Not Just For PubertyI didn’t know anything about hormones. Honestly...nothing. I didn’t know they corresponded with menstrual cycles, eating habits, moods...everything. I was at a loss until I got married and went on birth control. And then, literally, my life changed. I share about that time in my life and learn so much, SO MUCH, from Dr. Edie Wadsworth concerning a woman’s health, hormones and overall well-being. This episode is full of so much information. Dr. Edie has an incredible story found in her memoir, All the Pretty Things, listed below, and also on her Lifeingrace website. But li...2018-11-1939 minNo One Told Me…My Mom Won’t Always Buy My GroceriesAlright. We’re getting practical here. I’ve gotten lots of messages about grocery shopping. Personally, I kind of like it. There’s something kind of comforting, soothing even, about walking aisle by aisle. Of course that’s not actually a thing when a one and three year are yelling about getting another cookie from the bakery. We have to park at the lobsters for a little while to get everyone to simmer down. Anyway, there’s not a real rhyme or reason to my shopping. I’m just free wheeling it. And then there are others who hate it. Like rea...2018-11-1240 minNo One Told Me…Parenting Is Super HardAfter lots of convincing...lots of convincing...my husband, Ryan is finally joining me for an episode! Honestly, we took on parenting blind. Like completely blind. We didn’t read a bunch of books or go to any seminars. We actually got kicked out of a birthing class. I mean who knew you actually had to sign up for those things? Be more clear, birthing people. All we went off of was what people told us. In this episode, we talked about the worst advice, how kids changed who we are and we even learned some new things about ea...2018-11-0533 minNo One Told MeNo One Told Me: Halloween EditionThis special Halloween episode was honestly born out of sitting and talking about stories that make your skin crawl. You know the kind. The ones that make your heart rate pick up just a little bit - or actually your heart is lodged in your throat. And your stomach is rolling because just the idea of some of these stories is enough to make you grab your mace. Or wasp spray...that’ll make more sense after you listen to this episode. I gathered up three friends who have some stories of their own to share. And, I’ll warn...2018-10-3134 minNo One Told Me…The Truth About The Friend ZoneI thought I had forgotten what the Friend Zone was like. I haven’t. And it made me want to pull my shirt over my head and just take a minute to get myself together. My friend Caroline has a few of those stories. We shared our worst ones, but then we just honestly talked about those seasons of life where emotions run our lives. When our emotions make us do some...regrettable...things. I grew up with Caroline and good grief has she become a woman with a whole lot of wisdom. It doesn’t matter if the frie...2018-10-2922 minNo One Told Me…Not All Advice Is Good AdviceListen, there is no shortage of advice out there. Everybody has something to say about every something. Including me, apparently. But, just because everyone wants you to know something doesn’t mean it’s something you need to know. Listen carefully doesn’t just apply to the flight attendant’s pre-flight instructions. (As a nervous flyer, you better believe I’ve got pen and paper out every single time. I’m not going down like that.) You can’t always control who shares insight with you, I get it. But, in this episode, we’re going to talk about how you know if...2018-10-2214 minNo One Told Me…Every Mom Is Figuring It OutWhether you’re a first time mom calling the doctor because your little one’s left earlobe seems slightly smaller than the right one and on various Google search results, that’s a marker for the plague or you’re a 2nd, 3rd, 4th time mom (because if you’ve crossed the line to child number five, bless you and may the Lord be with you) who honestly is contemplating the pros and cons of asking that random lady you’ve seen walking the neighborhood a few times if she’ll keep your kids because good gravy you just NEED A MINUTE...2018-10-1539 min