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Resiliently Rising PodcastEp29. WYW: How to Survive the Messy Middle After BetrayalIn this What You’re Wondering episode of the Resiliently Rising Podcast, we respond to a listener asking how to survive the “messy middle” of betrayal recovery… when both partners are healing, but neither is fully there yet. We talk honestly about why this phase feels so destabilizing… and why it’s often where the deepest change actually begins.
We unpack what real self-care looks like during this season (hint… it’s more about capacity than bubble baths), how boundaries protect healing rather than punish, how to support kids with age-appropriate honesty, and what to watch for when you’re wond...
2026-02-1734 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp28. Reclaiming Yourself After Infidelity with Tammy GustafsonIn this episode of the Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie Holladay talks with Tammy Gustafson, LPC - trauma-informed therapist, founder of Betrayal Healing / Live Free Counseling, host of the Betrayal Healing Conference, and author of Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal.
Tammy shares her personal betrayal story and what she’s learned from years of helping betrayed partners heal. Together, they unpack why betrayal trauma recovery can’t be rushed, what happens when we try to “forgive and move on” too fast, and why safety… not forced trust… is the true foundation of healing. Tamm...
2026-02-1040 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp27. Repair Doesn’t Happen in SilenceIn this episode, Carrie and David talk about why silence after betrayal doesn’t feel neutral…it feels like being left alone in the wreckage. They explore what’s happening in the nervous system for both the betrayed partner and the betrayer, why avoidance can come from fear and shame, and how “not wanting to make it worse” can actually deepen the disconnect.
You’ll hear what helps instead…how to initiate check-ins without turning them into conflict, how to stay present with discomfort, and what real repair looks like when it’s built on consistency, honesty, and felt safety...
2026-02-0222 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp26. Somatic Safety Session: Come Back Into Your BodyEpisode Summary:
Somatic Safety Session: Come Back Into Your Body | Orienting + Felt Sense
Betrayal trauma can pull you out of your body and into survival mode — hypervigilance, overthinking, numbness, or overwhelm. This gentle, trauma-informed somatic practice is designed to help you slowly and safely come back into the present moment.
✨ In this practice, you’ll experience: • Gentle education on how betrayal trauma affects the nervous system • Orienting to help your body recognize safety in the present moment • Felt Sense guidance to reconnect with your body at your own pace • Slow pacing, pa...
2026-01-2712 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp25. WYW: What If They Relapse During Healing?In this first What You’re Wondering episode, Carrie and David respond to a listener’s question about what happens when there’s a slip or relapse during betrayal healing. They explore why healing isn’t linear, how any return to secrecy or unsafe behavior impacts the nervous system of the betrayed partner, and why arguing over labels matters far less than addressing impact and restoring safety. From both perspectives, they talk honestly about shame, fear, transparency, and repair…and share what actually helps couples navigate these moments with clarity, compassion, and structure. The episode emphasizes that setbacks don’t erase prog...
2026-01-2031 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp24. When Trauma Hits Your Gut with Devon RaganIn this episode, Carrie sits down with licensed clinical nutritionist Devon Ragan to explore what really happens in your gut, hormones, and nervous system when you’ve lived through chronic stress and trauma. Devon shares her own story of burnout and loss, the link between trauma, IBS, autoimmune issues, and “mystery” symptoms, and why so many women are dismissed or misdiagnosed even when their bodies are clearly screaming for help. Together they unpack cortisol, adrenal burnout, cycle syncing, gut health, and how trauma shows up physically... then bring it back to gentle, realistic steps like eating regularly, simple supportive foods...
2026-01-1350 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp23. Communication Issues Are Nervous System IssuesEpisode Summary:
In this episode, Carrie and David unpack why so many communication breakdowns aren’t actually about saying the wrong thing… they’re about what’s happening in the nervous system.
They explain what happens in the brain and body during conflict, why survival responses like fight, flight, shutdown, and fawn take over, and how betrayal trauma adds another layer of sensitivity and fear to communication. You’ll learn why traditional communication tools often fail when safety is missing, how nervous system regulation creates access to empathy and clarity, and what regulated communication actually looks like...
2026-01-0650 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp22. What Your Nervous System Needs to Feel Safe (And How Betrayal Shatters All Of It)If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I calm down? Why can’t I feel safe? Why does my body feel like it’s always bracing?” — this episode will finally give you the answers your nervous system has been trying to tell you. Carrie and David break down the three core things every nervous system needs to feel grounded… and how betrayal shatters each one. You’ll learn why your brain won’t stop spinning, why your sense of choice feels ripped away, why connection feels so complicated after betrayal, and what it really takes to restore safety in your body again.
2025-12-0924 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp21. Post Betrayal Transformation: What's Possible on the Other Side with Debi SilberIn this episode, Carrie sits down with Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute. Together, they explore why betrayal is unlike any other trauma—and what it really takes to move from shock and survival into genuine healing, self-love, and transformation. Debi shares how her own betrayals led to the discovery of the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough, an evidence-based framework now used worldwide.
If you’ve ever wondered, Will I always feel like this?… this conversation offers both language and hope for what’s possible on the other side.
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2025-11-2545 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp20. Safety Isn’t One Thing — It’s the Whole OrchestraIn this episode, Carrie and David dive into what it really means for the body to feel safe after betrayal — and why that sense of safety can’t be forced, faked, or found through willpower alone. Through a powerful metaphor, they explore the unseen ways you subconsciously experience safety or danger.
They share honest stories from their own healing, moments of tension and tenderness, and insights that help you see why sometimes your body reacts even when your mind says, “everything’s fine.” This conversation will help you understand safety in a deeper, more embodied way — one that invites...
2025-11-1136 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp19. When Staying Feels Safer Than KnowingIn this episode, we break down denial and betrayal blindness, two common responses in betrayal trauma that can make it hard to recognize what’s happening even when the signs are there. We explore how the nervous system chooses protection and attachment over awareness, and why both the betrayed partner and the partner acting out can struggle to see the truth clearly. We talk about the role of gaslighting, self-betrayal, and attachment needs in creating confusion and self-doubt. You’ll learn how to begin reconnecting to your body’s signals, rebuilding self-trust, and taking the next steps toward clarity and he...
2025-10-2840 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp18. Felt Sense Polyvagal Approach to Betrayal Trauma and Addiction with Jan WinhallCarrie talks with trauma and addiction psychotherapist Jan Winhall, author of Treating Trauma and Addiction with the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model. They explore how trauma lives in the body, why self-destructive behaviors are survival responses, and how safety—not shame—is the key to healing.
Together, they discuss betrayal as a root wound, rebuilding safety in relationships, and how reconnecting with the body helps restore self-trust and connection.
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2025-10-1446 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp17. When One Partner Feels More Invested Than the OtherIn this episode, we unpack what to do when one partner seems “all in” on healing after betrayal and the other looks hesitant. We explore some of the reasons for this mismatch, and you’ll learn three practical moves to navigate it. Note: this conversation is for couples where both partners genuinely want to rebuild; chronic dismissiveness or defensiveness needs a different approach.
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💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus
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2025-09-3035 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp16. The Three Phases of Rebuilding After Betrayal (And How to Start Them)In this episode of Resiliently Rising, Carrie and David walk through the Gottman Institute’s three-phase Revival Method for healing a relationship after betrayal—Atone, Attune, and Attach. They share how each phase rebuilds trust, emotional connection, and intimacy, weaving in their own lived experience to make the roadmap feel practical and hopeful. Carrie also introduces her new course, Rebuilding Us, which brings these concepts to life with guided somatic practices, partner exercises, and tools for nervous-system-based healing.
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2025-09-1642 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp15. Eyes on Me: Rebuilding Safety in Public SpacesNoticing someone’s attractiveness isn’t betrayal—it’s human biology. In this episode, we unpack the difference between a neutral glance and lingering/objectifying, why the betrayed partner’s nervous system can go on high alert, and how couples can co-regulate in the moment. We share simple tools that rebuild safety through consistent “trust bank” deposits. Hopeful, practical, and research-informed, this conversation shows how repeated safe experiences can rewire fear into trust over time.
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2025-09-0225 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp14. Can A Relationship Survive Betrayal Without Forgiveness?Episode Summary:In this episode of the Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie and David dive into a raw listener question: Can a marriage be repaired without forgiveness or trust returning? Together, they explore the difference between patching a relationship and truly rebuilding, the toll of living in a guarded nervous system state, and why “staying for the kids” may not provide the safety parents hope for. They share personal experiences, research insights, and reflective questions to help you weigh the real cost of staying versus leaving after betrayal. This conversation is both honest and compassionate, offering guidance for anyone sitt...
2025-08-1925 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp13. “Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?” Let’s Talk About ItIn this episode of The Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie and David unpack the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater” and explore why it feels protective—but can actually keep both partners stuck. They share personal insight, the neuroscience behind real change, and a more helpful reframe: “An unhealed cheater will remain an unhealed cheater.” Whether you’ve been betrayed or are working to rebuild trust, this conversation offers hope, honesty, and a grounded path forward.
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2025-08-0537 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp12. When Healing Is Held: The Power of Community Support with Meg SchnetzerEpisode Summary:
In this episode, I’m joined by my friend, former colleague, and Trauma Trained Somatic Practitioner, Meg Schnetzer, to talk about why healing in isolation keeps so many of us stuck. We share personal stories, explore the power of being witnessed without judgment, and talk about how co-regulation helps calm shame and fear. This is exactly why we created our group coaching space—to offer the kind of community we wish we had when we started healing.
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2025-07-2249 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp11. Shame After Betrayal: The Struggle to Receive ForgivenessIn this episode, Carrie and David speak directly to the ones who’ve caused harm—offering an honest, compassionate look at what it means to feel the weight of shame and still choose to grow. They unpack the difference between wanting forgiveness and becoming someone who is ready to receive it, and share personal insights about the quiet, steady work of repair. If you’ve ever wondered how to rebuild trust after betrayal, this conversation is a powerful place to begin.
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2025-07-0835 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp10. Is It My Intuition or My Trauma Response?After betrayal, even moments of calm can feel threatening. In this episode, we explore why it becomes so hard to trust yourself, how protective parts show up to shield you, and what true intuition actually feels like. Using the 8 C’s of Self from Internal Family Systems, we’ll help you begin to tell the difference between fear and knowing—and share practical tools to reconnect with your inner wisdom.
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2025-06-2431 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp9. Rebuilding Self-TrustAfter betrayal, it’s not just trust in your partner that breaks—it’s trust in yourself. In this episode, Carrie and David explore the three core pillars of rebuilding self-trust and why this inner work is essential to healing. They share personal stories, somatic insights, and practical ways to reconnect with your inner knowing after it’s been shattered. Whether you're walking this path alone or alongside a partner, this conversation offers powerful guidance for learning to trust yourself again.
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2025-06-1034 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp8. How Do I Know I Can Trust Them Again?After betrayal, one of the hardest and most haunting questions is: How do I know I can trust them again? In this episode, Carrie and David unpack what trust really means after it’s been broken—beyond just behavior change and apologies. They explore the difference between sobriety and recovery, how the nervous system responds to safety, and the subtle signs that trust might be starting to rebuild. With real-life examples and somatic insight, this conversation offers hope, clarity, and a deeper understanding of what it takes to feel safe again.
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2025-05-2756 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp7. Boundaries Aren't Walls - They're BridgesIn this episode, we unpack one of the most misunderstood parts of healing after betrayal: boundaries. We explore what boundaries really are (and what they’re not), how they help us stay connected to ourselves and each other, and why they often feel so uncomfortable—especially in the aftermath of broken trust. Whether you’re learning to set boundaries, honor them, or receive them with less defensiveness, this conversation will help you see boundaries not as barriers, but as bridges to deeper connection.
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2025-05-1349 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp6. Triggered: Why It Happens and What to Do With ItIn this episode, we’re diving into the world of triggers—what they are, why they feel so intense, and how they’re connected to the body and nervous system, especially after betrayal trauma. We share personal stories of being blindsided by triggers and explain what’s really happening beneath the surface when you suddenly feel like you’re right back in the pain. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of your body’s response and some compassionate tools to help you stay grounded when the past shows up in the present.
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2025-04-2950 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp5 Part 2: Mistakes to Avoid When Rebuilding a Relationship After BetrayalIn Part 2 of this conversation, we’re continuing to explore the common mistakes couples make when trying to rebuild after betrayal—because awareness really is the first step toward doing things differently. We talk about the impact of overpromising and under-delivering, using betrayal as leverage, neglecting your own healing, and why grand gestures don’t rebuild trust—consistent actions do. If you’re in the thick of repair, this episode offers honest insight, personal stories, and gentle reminders that you’re not alone—and that real healing is possible, even when it’s messy.
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2025-04-1531 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp5 Part 1: Mistakes to Avoid When Rebuilding a Relationship After BetrayalPart 1 of 2: Rebuilding a relationship after betrayal is possible, but it’s also incredibly complex. In this episode, we’re sharing four of the most common mistakes couples make during the healing process that can actually slow down or sabotage trust repair. We talk about why acknowledging the betrayal matters, why rushing healing backfires, how avoiding hard conversations creates more disconnection, and the importance of setting clear boundaries.
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2025-04-1538 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp4. Prioritizing My Nervous System Over My Husband’s ComfortIn this episode, we unpack what it really means to prioritize your nervous system in relationships—especially after betrayal trauma. We explore the difference between safety and comfort, self-abandonment vs. healthy compromise, and why true healing and connection require discomfort.
We also talk about people-pleasing, setting boundaries, and the deep fear of being “too much”—and how learning to stay with yourself, even when things feel hard, is one of the most powerful things you can do for your relationship with yourself and your partner.
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2025-04-0140 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp3. Why Betrayal Trauma Healing Has to Include the BodyIn this episode, we dive into why talk therapy alone isn’t always enough—especially when it comes to betrayal trauma. We talk about how the nervous system is the lens through which we see everything, why your body responds before your brain does, and what it really means to be a bottom-up being.
We’ll break down the science in a simple way, share personal stories, and explore how somatic work helps create felt safety—so you can finally shift out of survival mode and into true healing.
If you’ve ever thought, “I know better...
2025-04-0130 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp2. What Constitutes as Betrayal Trauma?In this episode, we break down what betrayal trauma really is—and why it runs so deep. It’s not just about affairs. Betrayal can come through secrecy, emotional disconnection, broken trust, and more.
We’ll talk about how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system, creates an inner tug-of-war, and why healing isn’t just about thinking differently—it’s about feeling safe again in your body.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, confused, or like your reactions don’t make sense, this episode will help you understand why—and give you hope that healing is possible.
2025-04-0139 min
Resiliently Rising PodcastEp1. Our Story: Navigating Betrayal TraumaEpisode Summary: In this first episode, we’re sharing some of our story - where we started, what we’ve been through, and what brought us to this place of healing. We’ll talk about betrayal trauma, disconnection, the impact of unprocessed pain, and our process of rebuilding - both individually and together.
You’ll hear how somatic work, mindfulness, and learning to actually feel and express what was going on inside changed everything for us. And we’ll also talk about what it’s looked like to come home to ourselves, and to each other, one step at a ti...
2025-04-0140 min
Barely NakedHealing Relationship Betrayal and Trauma with Carrie HolladayTrigger warning: This episode contains discussions about mental health challenges, trauma and suicidal ideation.In this episode of Barely Naked, we sit down with Carrie Holladay, a Trauma Trained Somatic Practitioner and survivor of betrayal trauma. Carrie opens up about her personal experiences of betrayal in her marriage – and how these experiences led her to explore somatic modalities. She shares her journey of rebuilding trust after her husband’s betrayal and how reconnecting with her body helped her heal emotionally. Carrie explains the importance of somatic therapy in trauma recovery and how it can guide...
2024-10-2952 min
The Crazy Ex-Wives Divorce ClubHealing Betrayal: Trusting Your Journey to RecoveryOn this episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club, host Erica Bennett welcomes special guest Carrie Holladay to discuss healing from betrayal trauma. Erica shares her own personal experience with betrayal trauma and how somatic healing greatly accelerated her healing process. They emphasize the importance of trusting one's own feelings and experiences and not forcing oneself to move forward before they are ready. Erica and Carrie provide practical tips and techniques, such as tapping and using affirmations, to alleviate anxiety and regain focus. Tune in to this transformative episode of The Crazy Ex-Wives Club to learn how to heal from...
2023-07-2642 min
Your Breakthrough Blueprint with Becky Aste | for the highly ambitious, high-performing wife who is ready to repair connection in her marriage and harmony in her body and lifeHow Betrayal Trauma Impacts the Nervous System with Carrie HolladayBetrayal Trauma & Somatic Mindfulness with Carrie Jean After spending a decade suffering from the impact of betrayal trauma, Carrie found a path to healing using Somatic Mindfulness. She discovered the power of connecting to her body and healing the nervous system in order to truly heal and find herself again. She now has the honor of teaching this work to women all over the world on their own healing journeys.
About Carrie: Carrie is a Trauma-Trained Somatic Practitioner and Betrayal Trauma Coach. She holds certifications in Trauma Sensitive Mindfulness and Meditation, Somatic Attachment Therapy...
2023-04-0738 min
How Not To Suck At DivorceA New Way to Heal from Divorce Trauma with Carrie HolladayAttention: Andrea tried accupunture and she's OBSESSED. Did you know that accupunture can help with anxiety?? It can. I'm not lying. In you're in the Chicago area, PLEASE check out Chicago Family Accupunture in Northbrook, IL. 100% worth, tell them Andrea from How Not Suck at Divorce sent ya! http://www.instagram.com/chicagofamilyacu Okay, raise your hands if you're open to trying a new way of healing!! Apparently, talk therapy doesn't work for everyone who's stuggling with overcoming trauma. Today's guest, Carrie Holladay, is a...
2023-02-1652 min
The Living Truth Podcast - Freedom From Unwanted Sexual Behavior, Hope & Healing For the BetrayedCompassionate Body Awareness For RecoveryDisconnection from the body, gut, & heart is a root issue in all addictions. This disconnection keeps betrayal trauma survivors stuck too. In this episode, Kristin interviews Carrie Holladay, a Somatic Mindfulness Coach specializing in betrayal trauma. She helps us understand WHY we disconnect from ourselves (it's a survival strategy). And, how to use compassionate dual awareness of your body & environment to gently work WITH your nervous system for healing. Somatic mindfulness is a powerful recovery tool to help you process trauma and reset your God given body-mind-heart system. To learn more about Carrie go to sincerelycarriejean.com.The Living Tr...
2022-10-3147 min
Restored 2 MoreHow Betrayed Spouses Compartmentalize the Pain with Carrie HolladayToday we hear from Carrie Holladay as she shares her story of betrayal and how she discovered that her trauma could be used to give others hope. She is a coach, a powerful voice on Instagram and in the LDS community, and an advocate for women's health and healing.She shares with us how devastated she was by her husband's sexual betrayal, and how it intensified her already present battles with eating disorders, depression, and body dysphoria. While discovering his actions, she shares how being in pregnant mode and having four kids under five years put her in...
2022-03-3038 min
Mom is a VerbEmpowering Your Anxious Child with Carrie HOLLAdayDoes your child find it hard to concentrate, have irregular sleep patterns, go from happy, to sad, to mad within seconds or have uncontrolled outbursts of these emotions? Are they constantly worrying, do they fidgets a lot? Do they say my tummy hurts or I don’t feel good? Your child may have anxiety. Carrie is here to talk about her real life experience as a mom who has a child diagnosed with anxiety. In her journey, find out ways she helped her realize her strength not only for her daughter but herself. FIND CARRIE and order her book on: ww...
2021-01-2125 min