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The Caregiver Cup PodcastPersonal Update: The Pause ButtonSend Cathy a text:)Cathy shares a personal update about her absence from the podcast as she takes time to heal and find stillness after eight years of non-stop caregiving, including Denis's recent stem cell transplant recovery. She explains her decision to pause – not quit – the podcast to reconnect with her body, rediscover joy, and learn what it means to simply be rather than constantly do.• Operating at high speed for almost eight years through caregiving, loss, podcasting, and creating• Realized she had forgotten what stillness felt like and couldn't sit still or pause• Ga...2025-08-1204 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastFinding Your Routine in This Caregiver SeasonSend Cathy a text:)Caregiving seasons constantly shift, and finding your rhythm during these transitions can make all the difference between barely surviving and maintaining your wellbeing. This episode explores how creating meaningful routines becomes your anchor when everything else feels unpredictable.Cathy opens up about her current reality as her husband Denis undergoes a stem cell transplant, sharing how she's had to completely reimagine her daily schedule. From juggling hospital visits to maintaining her own health, she walks through the practical challenges of adapting to a new caregiving landscape. Her vulnerability about feeling emotionally...2025-05-0629 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastThe Hidden Cost of Caregiving: How Stress and Isolation Affect Your Mental HealthSend Cathy a text:)What happens when caregiving becomes too much? The tragic story of Gene Hackman and wife, Betsy serves as a powerful wake-up call for all of us who care for loved ones. Caregiving often appears as an act of pure love and dedication, but behind closed doors, many caregivers struggle with exhaustion, isolation, and overwhelming responsibility that can lead to crisis.This deeply personal episode explores the hidden emotional toll of caregiving and provides a framework for recognizing when you're approaching your breaking point. Through candid conversation and thoughtful questions, Cathy guides...2025-03-1141 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastCaregiver Strong: Cathy’s Personal Updates & Advocacy InsightsSend Cathy a text:)In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing some personal updates on Denis’ treatment journey—including the challenges, frustrations, and lessons learned along the way. From navigating the maze of health insurance approvals to advocating for timely care, I’m diving into the reality of what it takes to ensure our loved ones get the treatment they need. If you’ve ever felt stuck in red tape or frustrated by delays, this episode is for you. Tune in for real talk, advocacy insights, and a reminder that persistence is our greatest t...2025-02-1819 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastA Heartwarming Christmas Eve Tribute to CaregiversSend Cathy a text:)Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the house, the caregivers were stirring, with duties to rouse. Join me, Cathy, on this heartwarming Christmas Eve edition of the Caregiver Cup Podcast as we celebrate the unsung heroes who give their all every day. Through a heartfelt twist on the classic "Twas the Night Before Christmas," I pay tribute to your spirit, dedication, and the warmth you bring to the world. Whether you’re sipping cocoa by the fire or stealing a quiet moment amidst the holiday hustle, remember to take a little ti...2024-12-2404 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastDealing with Narcissism: Insights and Coping Strategies for CaregiversSend Cathy a text:)Join us for an insightful discussion on "Dealing with Narcissism: Insights and Coping Strategies for Caregivers." In this episode, we delve into the challenging realm of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and its impact on caregivers. Host Cathy bravely shares her personal journey of recognizing and navigating her mother's NPD, shedding light on the complexities of caregiving amidst mental health disorders.Discover the signs and symptoms of NPD, gaining valuable knowledge to identify and understand narcissistic behaviors in your loved ones. From manipulation and entitlement to fragile self-esteem and extreme demands, we...2024-03-2643 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastEmbracing the Journey: The Transformative Power of Gratitude Journaling and Self-Care for CaregiversSend Cathy a text:)When I stumbled upon my late father's journals, a 40-year legacy of his thoughts and experiences, it was like finding a hidden doorway to the past and a spark for my future. His perseverance through the blank pages inspired me, Cathy, to embark on my own journaling journey, which I'm thrilled to share with you. As we explore the emotional rollercoaster of starting and maintaining a journal, I dive into the initial challenges and share candidly about the emotions that arise when life tries to crowd out this introspective practice.Discover...2024-03-0536 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastLessons Learned Caring for MomSend Cathy a text:)This was the first Mother's Day without my Mom. Mother’s Day was a hard day for me. Honestly, I felt like I was kicked in the gut. And then when I tried to stand up, it kicked me back down again. My heart and mind was so heavy. I missed my Mom so much and felt that void even bigger yesterday. I caught myself (at first) getting angry at myself for not being strong and pushing through it. I could hear my Mom saying “suck it up, Cathy”. I had to find peace in...2023-05-161h 05The Caregiver Cup PodcastSimple and Easy Ways To Meal Prep With Jess BrooksSend Cathy a text:)In today's podcast episode, I interviewed Jess Brooks who is a recipe developer and pro-trained cook and baker. Jess is on a mission to help busy people cook healthy meals for their families without spending hours in the kitchen. Jess shares her tips and practices on prepping meals simpler and easier so that you, as a caregiver, can get back your time and energy. She shares unique ways to spend less time in the kitchen and more time with your loved one. You can follow Jess and find m...2022-09-2044 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastCourageous Choices As A CaregiverSend Cathy a text:)I woke up this morning and felt like I was walking in mud. Everything seemed to be little struggles slowing me down. One of my shoe laces broke, then couldn’t find my ear buds, having to run around the house looking for them, the dogs were barking in the garage waiting for mom, I walked outside, realizing I needed a sweatshirt and then finally on my walk. Well on my walk, the dogs stop and do their duties. I carry little bags with me to pick up their do do. Guess what, the bag had...2022-09-0621 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow To Overcome Chronic Caregiver StressSend Cathy a text:)In today’s podcast episode, we are tying it together. Last week’s episode 125 was about understanding chronic caregiver stress (the science of why stress happens, how it happens and the impacts it has on our health. Shortly, you will hear some habits/practices you can incorporate to wind back and retrain your vagus nerve and heal. But one of the biggest ahha moments was what I missed. I started incorporating new practices and wasn’t feeling or seeing any change. I went back and did more research and realized I didn’t focu...2022-08-3046 minThe Caregiver Cup Podcast8 Personal Practices That I Incorporated Into My Caregiver LifeSend Cathy a text:)Do you remember the date? The date you became a caregiver for your loved one? It’s not the date you celebrate or the date you really want to remember. But it is the day your life changed. It’s not a profession or career we look forward to or go to school for. As I think back in my youth, I never played house as a caregiver (it was usually mom, doctor and once in a while I played Alice from the Brady Bunch). As a side bar, I think our youth...2022-08-1637 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastYour Personal Respite Space As A CaregiverSend Cathy a text:)What about your personal space or maybe I should say, lack of personal space now that you are a caregiver? When you become a caregiver, your space changes. Does your kitchen cupboard now look like a pharmacy counter?What about your bathroom, do you have durable medical equipment like handrails, bath seats and maybe you have bandages, ointment and creams sitting out?Or maybe the kitchen table or your office desk now has medical bills and paper work?What about your calendar - is it filled with appointments and reminders? So your...2022-08-0937 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastPracticing Caregiver Self-Love Through Healthy BoundariesSend Cathy a text:)Loving yourself is an integral part of establishing healthy boundaries. Yet for women caregivers, we don’t always listen to ourselves and make improvements. If we don’t, it leads to health issues, fatigue, burnout and more. The first step is identifying your healthy boundaries by looking at your challenges and causes. Then ask yourself, if it’s due to unhealthy boundaries. The next is focus on one. Find the one you really feel passionate about. The one that you need the most. For example, If you are exhausted...2022-08-0236 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastSetting Healthy Internal Boundaries Without Caregiver GuiltSend Cathy a text:)When you are trying to set healthy boundaries for yourself sometime those feelings and emotions start creeping in. They can derail you from actually setting those healthy boundaries. In this episode, we break down the what an external and internal healthy boundary is. If you set boundaries with others (like your loved one, family, friends, etc) you are setting external boundaries telling them how you will or won’t interact with them. Internal boundaries dictate how you interact with yourself. When you are setting healthy internal boundaries meaning...2022-07-2629 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastThe Importance of Your Own Health with Lynn MacPhersonSend Cathy a text:)Today, you’re in for a great episode. I’m taking a break from my solo episode and bringing in a guest today. It’s so important to get little nudges and reminders to take care of yourself. Today’s guest is a health coach for women over 50 and my Canadian Instragram friend. Lynn shares the importance of moving your body each day through her coaching and also shares how important it is to fuel your body with the right foods. If you are putting your health on hold or not taking time f...2022-07-1935 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow To Manage Your Time As A CaregiverSend Cathy a text:)Have you said: I have no time. I can't manage it all. My to-do list is never ending. How do I get this all done? In this episode, I'm breaking it all done: What is time management? Why don’t caregivers have enough time? What the root cause is? And most importantly, how do you management your time? Time management is making the most of the time you have. You have 24 hours in the day. These are the times you have to work your job or business, this is the time you h...2022-07-1248 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow To Show Up Energized As A CaregiverSend Cathy a text:)ok, let's get real this week - how are you currently showing up as a caregiver? Do you feel energy and joy? Or do you feel drained and exhausted? You are providing a beautiful gift as a caregiver and you should be proud of yourself. But if it's consuming every ounce of your energy, time and identify, it's time to redirect things. You can't keep going without energy and fun. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be vibrant. You can take care of your loved one with the best...2022-07-0551 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastCaregiver Burnout: How do you show up and not burn out? Part TwoSend Cathy a text:)This is Part 2. Identifying your burnout is key and being aware of your physical and emotional signs (or your lack of thoughts, actions or words). Figuring out the why will help you better understand how to reduce your burnout. In this episode, I'm going through the vital steps to understand why and move you towards your own action:Focus and live in the presentAccepting your situation and circumstancesFinding meaning in your challenges and strugglesWorking on managing your energyStarting with quiet activities to reduce stressStress is inevitable, but...2022-06-2846 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastCaregiver Burnout: How do you show up and not burn out? Part One.Send Cathy a text:)Burnout is easy to identify if you really reflect on your thoughts, actions, and the words you say to yourself or others. Words you say: Things will be ok when my loved one feels betterI just have to get through the next week and I have a day off to catch up.Actions: You feel exhausted, emotional or irritable. A little challenge sets you off - ie: driving the car, or forgetting the keys, or you snappping at your loved one.Your to-do list stresses you out. You try to...2022-06-2135 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastWhat Stories Are You Telling Yourself?Send Cathy a text:)In today's episode, I'm sharing a story where I overcame my biggest fears and the lessons I learned about mindset. These lessons regarding fear, the stories we tell ourselves and reframing your mindset have helped me as a caregiver too. Hope you enjoy it. As a caregiver, I want you to reflect on these questions:what fears stand in your way?what stories are you telling yourself?how could you reframe your thoughts?what does your new normal look like?what shifts do you have to make to feel good abou...2022-06-1444 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastDon't Just SurviveSend Cathy a text:)I was really debating how to start this podcast this week. Meaning should I do the cautious and gentle start or should I just come out and say it. Well since I care so deeply for you and i know you need to hear this, I am not going to sugar coat it. You may disagree with me and that’s ok. Our roles of caregiving are very different and our situations are very different. But what is the same is that we control our mindset and we can choose how we think and fee...2022-06-0735 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastWhy Are You So Hard On Yourself?Send Cathy a text:)In this episode, we're talking about something we don’t normally talk about but it is something we think about more often than necessary. When things don’t go well or when challenges happen, our brain likes to go to that “bad” side. It’s funny how our brains like to think the worst and we spend all that time in our heads with negativity, anxiety, sadness and worry. One of the biggest mistakes I see caregivers make when they are juggling it all and extremely exhausted is that they start giving in to...2022-05-3137 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastThere's Always A Way Or Another Way With Kelly CarthySend Cathy a text:)I had the complete pleasure of interviewing Kelly Carthy. She has over 20 years experience working with influential business leaders and organizations around the world. Kelly is passionate about facilitating and empowering change. By delivering key strategies that support leaders to be more present and discerning so they can drive effective outcomes with less clutter and confusion.In our conversation together, she shared her powerful story of where things were falling apart. It was so bad that she was losing her hair, anxiety and panic attacks and she was in denial. You wil...2022-05-2444 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastMost Important Step To Creating A Caregiver Life You Feel Good AboutSend Cathy a text:)One of the biggest mistakes caregivers make is they go into caregiving with a big heart and know they need to do what it takes to help their loved one. What happens… you’re all in? Care, Care, Care? Give, Give, Give?You get so involved in what you need to do, then you realized it’s a lot. What do you do? You drop or let go of the things that you feel aren’t necessary or you just need the time and pri...2022-05-1746 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastThese 6 Personal Habits Have Allowed Me To Keep My Caregiver Stress DownSend Cathy a text:)I get a lot of questions from clients and caregivers curious about how I manage my caregiver stress, continue to keep going and find moments of joy each day. In today's episode, I'm sharing my 6 personal habits / routines that I do to release my caregiver stress. Before I started implementing these, my stress and anxiety were causing burnout and fatigue which turned into health issues. Grab the show notes and full episode transcript here. ➡️ https://www.cathylvan.com/episode110Listen to these episodes that I reference :➡️ https://www.cathylvan.com...2022-05-1050 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastCaregiver Isolation: What are the negative effects and how you overcome it?Send Cathy a text:)One of the biggest challenges I hear from other caregivers is they feel isolated and lonely. You might even say "I feel like no one gets it". " I feel so disconnected." " I miss my old life." Then you scroll social media feeling more isolated and even jealous of others enjoying life and you are stuck. You find yourself so busy that you don’t have time for anything else. Juggling your job/business, household, family and caregiving is all you can handle. It’s important to be on the lookout for you...2022-05-0330 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastFinding Your Caregiver EnergySend Cathy a text:)In today’s podcast, I talk more about what is caregiver energy, finding your energy, and ways to maintain your energy while you are juggling all you responsibilities What is energy in terms of your personal energy to perform your caregiver responsibilities, your job, household and anything else you need to get done each day. Why is finding your energy so important and to keep a steady flow of energy that keeps you healthy, performing at your best and able to enjoy your new normal. Tips to findin...2022-04-2640 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastLet Yourself Explore Joy As A CaregiverSend Cathy a text:)As caregivers, we make assumptions and let our negative thoughts tell us that we have to be a martyr or stop enjoying life. We convince ourselves that we have to give up happiness and joy. Life is now full of sadness, challenges and difficulties. Some of that is true and the good news is: joy is possible, even in your caregiver season. It’s also one of the most important mindsets and practices you need right now. Joy makes you resilient. Joy makes us resistant. Joy makes you healt...2022-04-1932 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastEmbrace This Year With A New PerspectiveSend Cathy a text:)In the last episode, I shared my opinion of a new years resolution. Although I think setting goals and committing to something is super healthy for you, it may be hard to commit to a resolution right now as a caregiver. That’s why I love the idea of choosing a word or words of the year. Are you ready to hear mine? Can you guess what mine might me? Remember the steps in picking your word from the last episode (reflect, visualize, create a list, review, rev...2022-01-0227 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastWhat Is Your North Star In Your Caregiver Season?Send Cathy a text:)I was feeling a bit wintry this week. Yes, wintery - it’s been really cold for the last couple days, so I couldn’t get outside and walk. And the sunshine is so short here in Wisconsin that I feel blahhh. I’m still getting my exercise on my treadmill and elliptical and doing weights and stretches but for me nothing replaces fresh air and sunshine. So why I am bringing this up…. We all feel this way every so often and as a caregiver, I believe you and I feel blahhh too...2021-12-0911 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastFind Your Spiritual Morning RoutineSend Cathy a text:) Do you have a routine that works for you?A morning ritual, routine or habit can be key in reducing or releasing overwhelm. That stress and anxiety you get in this very difficult caregiving journey. The goal of your morning habit varies depending on you. It varies depending on your caregiving season. But you need to think of the benefits it can do for you. Why mornings? - start your day with intention. No phones, no social media, When you set intention and purpose in...2021-10-0717 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastDo You Have The "If Only" or "What If" Syndrome?Send Cathy a text:)A light bulb moment happened between our my wedding anniversary celebration and today, that I want to share with you. You know I'm all about sharing my challenges, struggles and experiences with you in hopes that it will help you. As you are listening to this and you have more insights, definitely, DM me on Instagram @cathylynnvan or message me on on The Caregiver Cup Facebook Page. Do you catch yourself saying "if only" statements? If only things were different and my loved one wasn’t sick, I would do this. I...2021-10-0517 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastWork To Find The Funny With Published Writer, TJ CondonSend Cathy a text:)I am very excited to share an interview I had recently with TJ Condon who has a remarkable story. She was a caregiver to her in-laws, first, then to her husband through his liver transplant and now to her father with bladder cancer. She also had her own diagnosis of thyroid cancer. During all of this, she continued working full-time and wrote the book, Some Assembly Required, A True Story Of Love And Organ Transplants. I bought the book and immediately found attachment. I have highlighted so many things and tabs everyw...2021-09-3038 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow To Get Through The Hard DaysSend Cathy a text:)Reality is... You are only one person. You are human. You are going through that cancer with your loved one too Or that kidney disease. Or that dementia. Or that - you will in the blank. Your pain may not be seen. You might not have that diagnosis. But you do have your own things going on behind the curtain. Whatever your situation, it is important to remember that you, too, are important. All of your emotions, good and bad, about caregiving are not only allowed, but are valid and importa...2021-09-2850 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastInterview with Kandis Draw: The importance of community and finding resourcesSend Cathy a text:)Kandis Draw became a caregiver suddenly in 2011 when her mom was diagnosed with Stage 4 Ovarian cancer and also had to take care of her younger siblings. She was her mom's primary caregiver for 3.5 years. Through her challenges and struggles she found community, resources and courage. Kandis has learned strength, resilience and how to recover trauma that caregiving can bring. Kandis Draw lives in Chicago, is a classically trained pianist and a lover of philanthropy. She is a member of the Aids Foundation of Chicago Associate Board, Gilda’s Club Chicag...2021-09-2332 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastYou can quit. Yes, you can.Send Cathy a text:)Have you ever wanted to quit? You just want to walk away. You had enough. You know it’s not healthy for you, but you you know you can’t leave.So many of us have these feelings which stop us from having a joyful life. It prevents us from having what can be a beautiful, amazing caregiver life.You feel like you have to stay where you are at and you feel like this hamster on a wheel that never ends and you feel miserable. You have to get over t...2021-09-2117 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow to recharge and rethink your caregivingSend Cathy a text:)I was interviewed by Esther Mzbabazi from The ReThinking Caregiving Podcast. Esther is an oncology nurse, entrepreneur helping caregivers learn more about this world of caregiving and a friend from Norway, I met about a year ago in B School.She introduces her podcast with this intro: A colon cancer diagnosis to a spouse is devastating, facing it without a guide can be overwhelming. With less stress, you will be able to confidently step into the caregiver role. As a caregiver, you have limited control over things like your...2021-09-161h 07The Caregiver Cup PodcastThe Key Findings To Find More Caregiver JoySend Cathy a text:)Listen to the 7 key findings that I used to find more caregiver joy.1. DO - Do what’s best for you. Your loved one’s care and journey is unique and personal. Your situation is your own and you know what’s best for you and your loved one. Do you. Do it the best way you can. Do what’s right. Do what you feel you can do. Do find your team. Do: you fill in the blank. 2. Don’t Do. You don’t have to do everything. I le...2021-09-1423 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastThe Importance Of Recharging Each DaySend Cathy a text:) In today’s episode I want to share a recording of a Live session I did with The Caregiver Cup Community. I shared an article I found in caregiver.com by Mary Damiano As you listen to this episode today, I want you to think about two thingsWhat can you do to put yourself first - carving out just 30 minutes each day can make huge changes in your energy. What motivates you? Not everyone is a runner. Not everyone is a morning morning. You need to find what work...2021-09-0931 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastThe 4 Stages Of Your Caregiver JourneySend Cathy a text:)I'm now 4 years into my caregiving journey. As I look back I see 4 stages I went through and want to share these with you: Stage 1: THE NEW STAGE. The initial news fills you with shock, disbelief and all those emotionsThen you jump in telling yourself I’ll do whatever it takes. I’ll figure it outHere’s where I became obsessed with google - searching anything and everything about your loved one’s condition. You form your team - doctors, nurse navigators, family support, etcYou try to figure out the who advocacy...2021-09-0728 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastWelcome to The Caregiver Cup Podcast, I'm Cathy VandenHeuvel.Send Cathy a text:)Welcome To The Caregiver Cup Podcast. My name is Cathy VandenHeuvel. I’m so glad you found this podcast. As a caregiver myself, I know how important it is to find a community that understands all the challenges of juggling all the caregiving responsibilities, how isolated you can feel, and how stress and burnout can affect your mind and body. But also know how rewarding and what a beautiful gift it is to take care of your loved one.I was months into my caregiving journey where I found myself sitting in my c...2021-09-0508 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow affirmations can help you reduce stress and overwhelmSend Cathy a text:)What do you do when you are in a funk, super overstressed, and are stuck in this bad space? Affirmations are a self-help strategy used to prompt self-confidence and belief in your own abilities. They're positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often, and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes.Affirmation can help you shift your mindset. Help you believe yourself even when you are fearful or have failed. Neuroplasticity, or your brain’...2021-09-0226 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastFinding Your Purpose As A CaregiverSend Cathy a text:)When we are going through change / hard seasons, you need that purpose to get you out of bed on those hard days. Need a reason You need a why. What’s going to motivate you more. It most likely is not work, caregiving and netflix. You need something that’s going to keep you alive There are three phases of our caregiver normal: 1st phase of being a new caregiver - that honeymoon stageEverything is newYou go all in and do whatever it takesYou are totally committed and feel you can d...2021-08-3126 min
The Caregiver Cup PodcastWays To Incorporate Gratitude Practices Into Your Daily RoutineSend Cathy a text:)Gratitude is a gift — and gratitude changes everything. When we allow ourselves to look critically at our lives through the lens of gratitude, and to focus on the many reasons we have to be grateful, life gets better. ... A focus on gratitude reduces stress and increases levels of contentment. It truly is life-changing.Resilient people proactively cultivate positive emotions like humor, gratitude and optimism. You don’t even have to find anything to be grateful for. The simple act of looking for the positive decreases the stress hormone cortisol by 23%. Just look...2021-08-2621 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastDo I Have Superwoman Syndrome?Send Cathy a text:)You're a busy woman caregiver who feels pressured to be able to do it all, juggling your career, family, caregiving, managing the household and more.Superwoman Syndrome is exactly what it says it is - trying to be Superwoman. And more often than not, you're feeling overworked, overwhelmed and overly committed. You're also exhausted, anxious and stressed. But don't worry - you are not alone.According to Dr. Madeline Ann Lewis, co-author of Overcoming the Superwoman Syndrome, some of us wear this imaginary cape because we:Want to be...2021-08-2425 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastDiscovering Your Needs As A Caregiver - Interview with Lisa AllaridSend Cathy a text:)Lisa Allarid was faced with huge adversity and a new normal in December of 2018 when her husband was diagnosed with Stage 4 Chronic Kidney Disease. She's a mom of 4 and works in the finance industry. She had to learn about kidney disease, nutrition, and how the donor system works. Lisa also shares how she stopped taking care of herself, going out with friends and really hitting rock bottom before she realized the importance of her needs. You will find some amazing golden nuggets about half way through the inter...2021-08-1937 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow to overcome your negative thoughtsSend Cathy a text:)When something's bothering you, you know that getting your mind off of it is easier said than done. In fact, research shows that when people are instructed not to think about a specific topic, it makes it even harder to get that topic out of their minds. But rehashing negative thoughts over and over in your head, also known as rumination, can be unpleasant and counterproductiveNegative thinking can contribute to problems such as anxiety, depression, stress, and low self-esteem. The key to changing your negative thoughts is to understand how y...2021-08-1725 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow our past experiences help us be better caregiversSend Cathy a text:)Sharing some conversations about my past and how our past experiences and stories help us be a better caregiver. What are your stories and experiences that you are glad that you have now? Message me on Instagram @cathylynnvan or email me at cathy@cathylvan.comSupport the show💌 Want more inspiration, information, and a deeper connection? Join the Caregiver Cup Community Newsletter for my weekly email filled with support and encouragement. Get my free resource: 17...2021-08-1235 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastWhy don't I have the energy like I used to?Send Cathy a text:)Have you said to yourself : Why don’t I have the energy like I used to have? Or, I am so tired all the time. It’s called caregiver fatigue. This occurs when you feel emotionally and physically exhausted. You are wearing out. You are feeling totally used up due to too many demands. You are burning out.What are your emotional demands? Your loved one is sick and you can’t make them better. They demand an extreme degree of physical and emotional care.What are your conflicting priorities? Who else needs yo...2021-08-1023 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow do you stay motivated and keep you energy level up?Send Cathy a text:)In today’s episode, I am sharing a clip from a live session I did in May with The Caregiver Cup Community Facebook Group. We go live each Wednesday in this group. Some Wednesday are mini trainings, some are just connecting and others are Q&As. In May, I asked the community to submit questions. Here are the questions:How do you stay motivated and keep your energy level up?What are your top 3 self-care tips?I feel ang...2021-08-0522 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow a caregiver is similar to being an olympic athleteSend Cathy a text:)This past week brought lots of news from the girls gymnastics team with Simone Biles pulling herself out of the group and individual round competition due to mental illness. This news story got me thinking about how this story relates to being a caregiver. NY Times Article - Published July 27, 2021Updated July 30, 2021, 7:50 p.m. ET When she twisted fewer times than she had planned in the vault, she knew she was not herself, having lost her usually uncanny sense of where her body is in the air and failing to...2021-08-0322 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastBehind The Scenes of The Caregiver Cup PodcastSend Cathy a text:)I started this podcast back in October 2020 and found a great podcast training course and coach. Krystal Proffitt guided me through how to start a podcast from branding my name to thinking through my content to launch and marketing it. A few months ago, I asked her if she could coach me on sitting in the guest chair which led to me being a guest on The Proffitt PodcastKrystal became more than a coach and mentor to me and you will hear how comfortable and fun she made thi...2021-07-2954 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastWays To Release Unnecessary Caregiver WorrySend Cathy a text:)One of the biggest things caregivers are good at is worry. What if Dad doesn’t take is heart medicine?What if we can’t find a kidney donor for my husband?What if the CT scan shows growth?What if I can’t get refinancing for our home to a lower rate because my partner is not employed?These concerns are legitimate and serious, but constant worry is stressful and will wear you down. Too much worry can create anxiety, stop you from the easiest of problem s...2021-07-2730 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow to find inner strength when faced with your new caregiver realitySend Cathy a text:)Mary Wyatt was faced with huge adversity and a new normal on 11/7/20 when her husband had a seizure and then she heard the words Grade 4 GBM which in layman's terms is an aggressive cancer that starts in the brain. In my interview with Mary she shares her story, her challenges and ways she is dealing with the harsh reality of her husband’s cancer. I know you can relate to Mary’s story of trying to balance work and caring for you loved one as well as trying to work through your em...2021-07-2241 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHave you wished you could get off the caregiver train?Send Cathy a text:)We're talking about the hard days, the days when you want to throw in the towel, those days when you just want to quit being a caregiver. As caregivers, you're navigating unbelievably complex and time-consuming situations. You're faced with the grimmest challenges Your loved one is sick and you can’t fix itYour loved one is not the same person anymore All your focus is on them, their symptoms and painsYou’re the caregiver advocateYou’re holding up the home and family You’re dealing with finances and workThen add your own emot...2021-07-2032 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastExciting news for The Caregiver Cup PodcastSend Cathy a text:)I am excited to share that The Caregiver Cup Podcasts are going to be coming to you on Tuesdays and Thursdays. On Tuesdays, you’ll continue to hear from me as normal sharing motivation, tips, my experiences and insights. Thursdays are going to be special episodes meaning guest interviews, behind the scenes and bonus extras. I am most excited to give other caregivers an opportunity to share their story, their new normal, their challenges, and most importantly how they are figuring it out. How they are being a caregiver advocate. If you want...2021-07-1503 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastReduce caregiver stress with a morning mindsetSend Cathy a text:)Stress and anxiety can feel like carrying around a very heavy backpack. It feels like you can’t turn off your mind whether it’s worry, anger, or the thoughts of everything that has to be done or all the demands on you. Your chest gets tightens when you hear a text alert or a phone ring. As working women caregiving you are stretched and stressed at the highest levels and your body and mind are going to show signs and symptoms of stress and anxiety. If you stay at that higher level, som...2021-07-1318 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastCaregiver Guilt - why do I feel it?Send Cathy a text:)Caregivers often carry around undeserved guilt, believing that they aren’t doing enough for their loved ones. This guilt can make the caregiving role even more stressful than it already is. One might ask why a caregiver feels guilty when they’re doing such a courageous job. Guilt is the feeling we have when we do something wrong. Guilt in caring for our loved one comes in many forms. And sometimes caregivers feel guilty about thinking of their own needs and see that as selfish, especially if they g...2021-07-0626 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow respite care can reduce caregiver burnoutSend Cathy a text:)Have you considered taking a break from Caregiving? Taking time away to recharge? Studies have shown that taking time away can have physical and mental health benefits. People who take vacations have lower stress, less risk of heart disease, a better outlook on life, and more motivation to achieve goals.Taking care of an aging or ill loved one can be enormously rewarding but also exhausting and emotionally draining.Plowing through might feel doable in the short term, but too much time without a break can lead to...2021-06-2926 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastThe 5 lessons my Dad taught meSend Cathy a text:)Father's Day is bittersweet. My Dad lost his battle to pancreatic cancer on April 12, 2018. I was fortunate enough spend the last 17 days before he received his wings. But this podcast is not about the last day. It's about those special memories and the lessons he taught me. Thank you for allowing me to share a bit about him. If you like this episode and want to hear more of The Caregiver Cup podcast, please hit that follow or subscribe button. Can you also help me get my message...2021-06-2222 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow negative and toxic thoughts can affect youSend Cathy a text:)Toxic thinking can affect you more than you know. Negative thoughts rob you of joy and leave you hopeless for any positive outcome. Your pattern of thought influences the quality of your life (and your loved ones). Your thinking can also affect your health, sleep patterns, anxiety levels, and more.When you recognize you're thinking toxic and it’s affecting your well-being, you can start practicing techniques to remove your toxic thoughtsHow Toxic Is Your Thinking?You declare your thoughts through words—sometimes in co...2021-06-1533 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastReleasing caregiver stress with self-soothing techniquesSend Cathy a text:)Self-Soothing is your solution to reducing and releasing overwhelm. That anxiety, stress and pressure you feel each day.What is self-soothing? We learn how to self-soothe from the moment we enter this world. Some of our first acknowledgments of our mental feelings and our physical bodies occur as young as a newborn. Infants learn how to self-soothe through means of thumb-sucking. It is from this early age, that we begin to learn and understand that we are capable of healing ourselves, something that we should acknowledge and remember as we move th...2021-06-0826 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastCaring for a spouse with ulcerative colitis while pursing her passions with Diana WinklerSend Cathy a text:)In this podcast, you have the pleasure of meeting Diana Winkler. She wears many hats including caregiver. You'll hear how crazy, busy she is but also her gifts, talents and passions. Diana works her full-time job, pursues her passions and is the primary caregiver for her husband. She shares her challenges and struggles openly with us. Diana Winkler is a singer songwriter and I'm an abuse advocate. She uses music as one of my healing tools and facilitates Meaning The Soul healing groups. She is also a podcaster of the Wound of the F...2021-06-0129 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastCaregiving is self-development on steroidsSend Cathy a text:)Each morning about 6:30, I put on my walking shoes and grab my ear buds for my 2-3 miles walk. One particular thing this week got me. I kept nodding my head and walking faster and faster. My head was spinning when listening to a new podcast. I couldn’t wait to get home to grab a piece of paper and write down my thoughts. I love podcasts that feed my soul with inspiration, self-help, self-development and ones that are just plain fun too. Podcast listening is my jam when I am walking...2021-05-2514 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastMy Thursday self-care with my accountability partnersSend Cathy a text:)This is a behind-the-scene (fun) episode where I asked my accountability partners record an episode. Each week, I meet with Amy and Naomi. The weekly accountability meetings are for us to share our success, challenges and to ask questions and provide support. Little did I know a year ago that we would become close friends.Thursday nights have become part of my self-care. These amazing ladies listen to my challenges without judgement, cheer me on when I find joy and success and pick me up. I have also been able to give...2021-05-1838 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastBuilding your foundation as a caregiverSend Cathy a text:)Only when you first help yourselves can you effectively help others. Caring for yourself is one of the most important—and one of the most often forgotten—things you can do as a caregiver. When your needs are taken care of, the person you care for will benefit.How do you do this? You have to create the foundation to succeed Creating a foundation to be that effective caregiver. What is foundation / framework?What about your health and vitality?You can’t rely on your own personal di...2021-05-1123 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastWhat is your personal caregiver brand?Send Cathy a text:)What is Your Personal Brand? Your personal brand is how you promote yourself. It's the unique combination of your skills, experience, and personality that you want the world to see you. You use your personal branding to differentiate yourself from other people.You're representing your personal brand in your professional role or business, with your family, friends and now caregiving. Branding is so much more than the way you look (but that’s an important part). It’s also your personality, delivery of your message and more. Today I want...2021-05-0433 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow to deal with sadness, anger, resentment and griefSend Cathy a text:)Feeling sad, angry, resenting life, or grieving the good old days or what you used to do. This episode might be just coming at the right time for you. Sadness You see your sick loved one and can’t do anything about itThe affection is differentYou miss the person of the past You think about your future As a caregiver, you’re at risk for depression. Sometimes you feel hopeless or helpless. You cab't sleep and have trouble facing the day. You're human and it's normal to fee...2021-04-2736 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow to find resilience in your caregiver challengesSend Cathy a text:)You jump in your car and the check engine light goes on. Well you think to yourself, should I just leave it or bring it back into the shop. There obviously is something wrong. How does this relate to caregiving. Today I want to talk about resilienceThings have shifted in your life, as well as mine. Your life is not the same. Change has happened or maybe it’s still happening, like mine is in the caregiver life and caregiver journeyDealing with changes, challenges, barriers and disr...2021-04-2019 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastHow to reduce caregiver anxiety and stressSend Cathy a text:)In today's episode, we're talking about the anxiety, stress and emotions you experience as a caregiver. Just when you think you have it figured out, there is a challenging day, week or urgent situation that happens. Reality is that there are tons and tons of variables which play into your stressors and anxiety: atmosphere, people, your love one (illness, injury, mood), your mood, outside distractions, frustrations and more. Dr Roderick Logan from Arizona Trauma Institute shared a You Tube presentation where he uses a water bottle to demonstrate the need for resili...2021-04-1334 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastWays to find that morning magic as a caregiverSend Cathy a text:)You wake up and are just not ready to take on your day. You’re tired, feel emotional, a bit moody and can't get yourself going. You sit on the toilet with your hands in your head and yawn. You look in the mirror and try to smile at yourself but you catch yourself staring at that person like a zombie. How do you get going? I bet you can relate and even say "shat’s wrong with me?" The true fact is that caregiving adds a whole new amount of ph...2021-04-0624 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastWhat to do when waiting on testing and treatment options?Send Cathy a text:)I never thought I would experience it again. In the past couple weeks, I've been riding the emotional roller coaster of caregiving again. It’s funny how fast you forget about those firsts. The first inkling something isn’t right with your loved one.The initial shock and numbness when you hear the bad news.Then comes all those emotions of sadness, crying, grief, anger, frustration, confusion, worry, and lack of focus. First, let me tell you about my Mom. I’m blessed to have a great mother-daughter relationship. She is an ene...2021-03-3023 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastTake 20 to improve your caregiver day 🚴♀️Send Cathy a text:)Are you burning out? Are you exhausted, fatigued, or just plain tired?What’s your stress level? What about your anxiety level?Are you sad or depressed?How do you feel about your health? Are you taking care of yourself? Are you losing weight? Or are you gaining weight? These are just a few symptoms of caregiver stress and caregiver burnout? I want to talk today about the ONE thing you can do. The ONE thing you can take control of. I'm he...2021-03-2316 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastPruning Your Caregiver Challenges and OverwhelmSend Cathy a text:)This week I started my Spring gardening prep. I can’t clean out the leaves and debris yet until it gets warmer since the bees, butterflies and other little insects are trying to stay warm yet. But it’s time to prune the bushes and trees. My husband just rolls his eyes and goes along with my gardening passion. If it was up to him, we would just leave it. But I want the plants and trees needs just a bit of help to show their beauty. Here’s the definiti...2021-03-1613 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastWhat are the impacts of a Nostalgic Caregiver?Send Cathy a text:)The Nostalgic Caregiver looks at their Loved One remembering those special past experiences and memories. You desire to return to an earlier time in life by wishing things were back the way they were. While few caregivers voice their sentiments for fear of how others will receive it. I believe that most caregivers do have this fleeting thought at some point during their journey. Qualities of a Nostalgic CaregiverNostalgia has a tendency to be like a natural sedative. With each memory it provides an escape...2021-03-0926 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastThe impacts of being a Go-GetterSend Cathy a text:)Go-Getters are active, flexible people who put a great deal of passion and energy into juggling it all and being an effective caregiver. Your ability to adapt and willingly jump in with a positive attitude and enthusiasm provides comfort to your Loved One. You pride yourself in staying motivated and ambitious with your high levels of organization and multitasking. Your mottos are "get it done" or "I'll figure it out". Can you relate? These qualities may be innate or experiences you been taught. Go-Getters are: Disciplined Celebrati...2021-03-0222 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastIdentify your people pleasing tendenciesSend Cathy a text:)Let me get real honest & raw with you. This podcast was hard to prepare for and it’s even harder to share. It's all about people pleasing. Why you say? I'm a people pleaser.Are you saying, Yes. Or are you saying No, I'm not a people pleaser.We all have people pleasing tendenciesPeople pleasing isn’t all bad But, people pleasing can lead to stress and burnout especially if you are a caregiver. Before we deep dive into this topic, I have something really excited to share with you! It’s...2021-02-2335 minThe Caregiver Cup PodcastThe 3 Stages of Caregiver OverwhelmSend Cathy a text:)Today's episode is all about you and your overwhelm. The true facts about how this stress, anxiety, burnout and fatigue creep up on you and before you know it, you are in the thick of it and don’t know what to do. When I first became a caregiver, I let the adrenaline drive me through the overwhelm. When that faded, I let my mind and body do the work. Well looking back, I now see the 3 stages of overwhelm I went through and it’s toll it took on myself, my Loved...2021-02-1631 min