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Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThis Is for the One Who's Still Trying So HardIf you're tired of doing everything "right" and still feeling like it's not enough—this one's for you. In this heart-led solo episode, Chantel opens up about a quiet Monday morning that turned into a deeply healing moment with a younger version of herself—the one who's been carrying the pressure, chasing worth through achievement, and holding it all together for far too long. You'll hear her process in real-time: The hidden beliefs behind hustle and high achievement The grief of unmet expectations and feeling like life should have looked different by n...
2025-04-0311 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThe Hardest Person to Forgive: Yourself Episode Summary: Why is it so hard to forgive ourselves? We can extend grace to others, but when it comes to our own mistakes, we hold onto guilt, shame, and regret like a punishment we think we deserve. In this episode, we're diving deep into self-forgiveness—why it feels so impossible, what gets in the way, and how you can start releasing the weight of past mistakes so you can move forward with peace. We'll also explore: ✅ The difference between shame and responsibility (and why shame keeps you stuck) ✅ Why waiting for someone else to for...
2025-02-2019 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenHow to Recognize Love (Even When You Don't Feel It) Episode Description: Have you ever struggled to feel love, even though you know He loves you? You're not alone. In today's episode, I'm sharing a lesson I originally created for my church group—because I realized this is something we all need. We'll explore: ✅ Why being loved isn't the same as feeling loved ✅ The three biggest reasons we block ourselves from receiving love ✅ How God might be showing you love in ways you're not expecting ✅ The powerful story of elephants (yes, elephants!) and what they teach us about love and loyalty ✅ Sim...
2025-02-1323 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThe Gift in the Gap: Embracing Life's Hard Moments for GrowthEpisode Description: In today's episode, we're diving deep into why life feels so hard sometimes—and why that isn't a problem to fix. If you've been feeling stuck, discouraged, or like no matter how hard you try, nothing seems to be working, this conversation is for you. I'll be sharing personal stories—including a time when my own body forced me to stop—and stories from my clients that show how life's toughest moments are often the greatest invitations for growth. Together, we'll explore how life's challenges reveal the gap between where we are and who we're...
2025-02-0619 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThe Courage to Drift: Why You Don't Need to Know What's Next Show Notes: In this episode, we dive deep into the powerful metaphor of a boat tied to a dock—safe, secure, and familiar, yet missing out on the vast, limitless adventure that lies beyond. What if the very thing holding you back from the life you desire is your need to understand and control every step before moving forward? We explore: Why letting go is the key to discovering new opportunities and growth. How fear and the need to understand are keeping you stuck. The transformative power of surrendering to life's currents and trusting the un...
2025-01-3006 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenLetting Go of Blame: The Hidden Path to Healing In this episode, we're exploring a powerful idea—what if blame is just a distraction from true healing? Whether we blame others or ourselves, it's often a way to avoid deeper emotions like fear and sadness. I share my personal journey of recognizing how blame was keeping me stuck in parenting challenges and how shifting my perspective brought unexpected growth and connection. Join me as we unpack: Why our ego wants us to focus externally and stay in blame. How blame creates a false sense of control and keeps us from healing. A personal story of bl...
2025-01-2315 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenDon't Fix It—Feel It: The Power of Loving Your Pain In this episode, we explore the transformative power of slowing down and holding our pain with love instead of rushing to fix it. Drawing from personal experiences and insights from Cory Mascara's loving-kindness practice, I share how allowing our pain to be acknowledged and held can bring freedom and healing. Whether you're carrying shame, anxiety, or overwhelm, this episode offers practical steps to connect with yourself more deeply and respond to life with compassion. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why starting the year without the pressure to fix can be life-changing. How the practice of...
2025-01-1621 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenYou Don't Need to Fix This Moment Episode Summary: Do you ever feel like you're constantly chasing the next big thing or fixing what feels incomplete? In today's episode, we're exploring why this moment—right here, right now—is already enough. Through personal stories, reflective practices, and actionable tools, I'll show you how to stop running from the present and find peace, joy, and connection exactly where you are. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by holiday busyness, reflecting on the year, or simply craving more ease in your life, this episode will help you anchor to the power of being here now. What...
2024-12-1908 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenIs It Peace or Apathy? How to Stop Chasing Chaos and Find True Stillness Episode Summary: In this episode, we explore the difference between peace and apathy, a question sparked by a powerful listener insight: "Peace kind of feels like apathy. I'm so used to intense emotions that now I wonder if I'm doing enough." If stillness feels unsettling or you're questioning whether peace means stagnation, this episode is for you. We unpack why peace can feel uncomfortable, how to tell the difference between peace and apathy, and how to embrace peace without falling into the chaos of overthinking. I also share practical steps and personal stories to help you...
2024-12-1214 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenSqueezed in Your Head? How to Stop Overthinking and Reconnect to Calm Episode Summary: Are you feeling overwhelmed by your thoughts, stuck in a loop of overthinking and ruminating? In this episode, we explore what it means to feel "squeezed up into your head" and how to break free by reconnecting with your body. Learn how overthinking is often a protective mechanism and discover actionable steps to address the deeper fears your mind is shielding you from. Chantel shares a personal story of uncovering her own money-related fears and how touching these emotions—rather than just knowing about them—led to profound transformation. This episode is packed with insights, prac...
2024-12-0525 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenStop Holiday Chaos Before It Starts: Your Plan for PeaceShow Notes: 🎄 The holidays don't have to leave you feeling burned out and overwhelmed. 🎄 In this episode, we're tackling the holiday chaos head-on with practical tools and powerful mindset shifts to help you create the holiday experience you truly want. You'll learn: ✨ How to stay intentional by deciding who you want to be before the season begins. ✨ Why setting your "rules for success" is the key to avoiding burnout. ✨ The freedom of saying NO—and how it benefits both you and your loved ones. ✨ A new way to navigate family dynamics by show...
2024-11-2116 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThe Power of Holding Space for Ourselves and OthersEpisode Summary: In today's episode, we're diving into the concept of holding space—what it means to be present for others and ourselves in moments of intense emotion without judgment, interruption, or the urge to fix. This is a core element of emotionally strong leadership, and it's foundational for creating authentic, lasting connections. Inspired by a powerful video of a dad holding space for his daughter's big emotions, we'll explore how this simple act can transform relationships and deepen our own emotional resilience. Holding space isn't just for others; it's also a skill we can cultivate to be...
2024-11-1424 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThe Power of Trust: Letting Go to Move ForwardIn today's episode, we're diving into a concept we all want more of but often struggle to fully understand: trust. Trust isn't just a word—it's a way of living that invites us to let go, have faith, and embrace the journey without needing to control every detail. But what does that really look like? Join me as we explore the nuances of trust, faith, and surrender. We'll discuss why trust is so essential to our growth and well-being, and why letting go of the "how" and "when" can actually move us closer to our goals. ...
2024-11-0719 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThe Haunted House Within: Embracing the Ghosts of Our PastEmotion Mastery for Coaches program launch- click here to get on the list. Episode Description: In the spirit of Halloween, we're diving into a topic that's both spooky and deeply transformative. Join Chantel Allen as she explores the "haunted house" within each of us—the place where the "ghosts" of our past live. These aren't ghosts to be feared, but parts of ourselves that show up to be acknowledged and healed. In this episode, Chantel shares why so many of us feel haunted by old stories, limiting beliefs, and past experiences, and how these "ghosts" show...
2024-10-3113 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenWhy Strategies Aren't Working: It's Not the Funnel, It's YouEmotion Mastery for Coaches program launch- click here to get on the list. Episode Summary: In this episode, we dive deep into a common struggle many coaches face: feeling stuck despite implementing all the "right" strategies. You've tried the funnels, the ads, the social media tactics—but something's still not working. The truth? It's not the funnel—it's you. We'll explore how unresolved emotional issues are the real barriers to your success, and I'll share practical tips on how to start addressing them so you can finally break through. Plus, I'll introduce my new progra...
2024-10-2414 min
A Podcast for CoachesGrow Your Practice By Doing the Inner Work -- A Conversation with Chantel AllenMy friend Chantel Allen uses personal practices like "the hour of silence" to calm her mind, heal her pains, and prepare herself to coach her clients in the way that feels right to her. I brought her back on the show today to discuss how coaches can serve their clients better and grow their practices through doing the inner work. To find out how you can with with Chantel, join her waitlist here: https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/waiting-listHere's a GPT-generated outline of the conversation: 1. Coaches Often Focus Too Much on Providing Answers I...
2024-10-2138 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenWhat Happens When You Stop Trying to Control EverythingEmotion Mastery for Coaches program launch- click here to get on the list. In this episode, we explore the powerful transformation that happens when we stop trying to control our lives and instead allow ourselves to surrender and receive. Chantel Allen breaks down the concept of letting go of agendas, stepping into the present moment, and embracing both light and darkness as essential parts of the journey. Through heartfelt analogies like dust illuminated by sunlight and the tension between survival mode and surrender, Chantel guides listeners through the process of unwinding the patterns that keep us...
2024-10-1722 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenReacting vs. Feeling- Learning to Sit With Your EmotionsIn this episode, we dive into the important distinction between feeling your emotions and reacting to them. Often, we think we're processing our emotions, but we're really avoiding them—whether through distraction, busying ourselves, or even clinging to others. I share stories from clients who have transformed their emotional experiences by learning to sit with their feelings, instead of running from them. We'll explore how staying present with your emotions, even the uncomfortable ones, leads to deeper connection, more freedom, and lasting joy. I also provide practical tools you can start using today, including a daily body scan exercise, jou...
2024-10-1021 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenBreaking Free from Emotional Exhaustion: Bonus Guided Meditation to complete your emotionsEpisode Overview: In this episode, we dive deep into emotional exhaustion—what it is, how it affects us, and how to move through it. Whether you're a mom, leader, or coach, emotional exhaustion can creep in when you're constantly carrying the weight of others' emotions. Today, Chantel shares personal stories and real-world examples of how emotional exhaustion shows up, especially when you're supporting others, and offers actionable steps to process and complete your own emotional cycle so you can recharge and show up fully again. Key Takeaways: Emotional exhaustion is when we don't complete the emotional cy...
2024-10-0322 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenHealing the Fixer and Doer Inside Us- with a Bonus Guided MeditationIn today's episode, Chantel dives deep into the concept of the inner fixer and doer—the part of us that's constantly striving to solve problems, take action, and make everything better. While this part of us may have served us in the past, it's not always supporting our growth in the present. Chantel explores why we often default to this "fixer" mindset and how we can begin to heal it by shifting from doing to being. Learn how to recognize when the fixer is active, why it's okay to let it rest, and what lies beyond the constant need to...
2024-09-2621 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenHow Your Thoughts Shape Desire: Unlocking a Fulfilling Sex LifeIn this episode, Chantel interviews Julie Merrill, an experienced sex coach, to explore how the thoughts we have about sex deeply impact our level of desire and fulfillment in our intimate relationships. Together, they dive into key topics around desire, misconceptions about sex, and how women can reclaim their connection to sexual pleasure. Key Takeaways: The Power of Your Thoughts: Julie explains how our mindset and beliefs about sex shape our overall experience and desire, often creating mental blocks we aren't even aware of. Sex is for Women Too: Challenging societal narratives, Julie highlights how women's...
2024-09-1934 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenWhat if Love was the only goal? Episode Summary: In this powerful episode, Chantel Allen dives deep into the transformative question: What if love was the only goal? We explore the profound impact of making love our primary focus, rather than control or external validation. Chantel discusses how love is our true essence and how reconnecting with this truth can simplify and enrich our lives. From self-compassion to surrender, she offers practical insights on shifting from control to love in our relationship with ourselves, others, and even money. Tune in to discover how embracing love can lead to true healing and lasting joy. ...
2024-09-1223 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThe Power of Pain: Unlocking Growth Through Life's Toughest MomentsEpisode Summary: In this episode, Chantel Allen dives into a powerful and often overlooked truth: the cure for the pain is in the pain itself. Whether you're dealing with physical discomfort, emotional turmoil, strained relationships, financial stress, or a crisis of faith, there's a transformative opportunity hidden within the struggle. Chantel explores the different pillars of pain and how each one offers us a chance to grow, learn, and step more fully into the person we're meant to be. What You'll Learn: How physical pain can be an invitation to slow down, listen to...
2024-09-0519 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenSurrender: The Faith-Filled Alternative to Giving UpIn this powerful episode, we explore the transformative concept of surrender and how it can become a vital tool when faced with overwhelming challenges. Whether you're dealing with relationship issues, health problems, financial struggles, or career obstacles, surrendering can open the door to divine guidance and support. Key Takeaways: Understanding Surrender: We discuss what it means to truly surrender, differentiating it from giving up, and how surrender is about opening ourselves to new possibilities and divine support. Recognizing the Signs: Learn how to identify when you are at the point of wanting to...
2024-07-1110 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenUnlocking Freedom: The Power of Agency and LoveIn this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of coaching, focusing on the twin pillars of Agency and Love. Discover how these two elements can help you break free from past traumas, cultivate emotional independence, and foster deeper, more meaningful connections. We will explore how embracing agency leads to freedom, and how this newfound freedom enhances our capacity to love ourselves and others. Through real-life examples, including touching client stories, we learn practical steps to harness the vibrations of love and practice self-compassion. Key Topics Discussed: The Essence of Agency: Understanding agency...
2024-07-0426 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenForget Impressing, Start Blessing: Your Path to Real ConnectionsIn this episode, we explore the transformative power of shifting our focus from impressing others to blessing them. Learn how this simple mindset change can lead to deeper self-discovery, authentic connections, and a more fulfilling life. We'll discuss practical tips and share inspiring stories to help you embrace the blessing mindset. Key Points: Introduction to the Topic: Definition of "impressing" vs. "blessing." The common societal emphasis on impressing others. The benefits of shifting focus to blessing. How It Relates to Life Coaching: Many people feel stuck in their personal growth journey. External...
2024-06-2727 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenHow to be ok with looking at our thoughts- Castle Analogy Tools or Beginners Pt. 2This series it to take us back to the basics and support those who may not be familiar with how to get started with awareness, acceptance and changing that relationship with themselves. In this epsiode we discuss the thing that can stop us from even getting to awareness or acceptance of our brains... which is that fear of us seeing what we're thinking. Join us as we explore the analogy of the castle and how that can help us take a step into our brains and closer to acceptance. Key Discussion Points: Introduction to Beginners:
2024-06-2023 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenAcceptance: The Key to Inner Peace- Tools for the beginner Pt. 1This series it to take us back to the basics and support those who may not be familiar with how to get started with awareness, acceptance and changing that relationship with themselves. In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of acceptance and its role in achieving inner peace. Join us as we explore the foundations of acceptance, its benefits, and practical ways to cultivate it in our daily lives. Key Discussion Points: Introduction to Acceptance: Overview of the concept of acceptance and its importance for mental well-being. How acceptance differs from r...
2024-06-1320 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenEmbrace Your Emotions: Empowering Insights into Near and Far EnemiesIn this episode, guest Kathy Moffat and I, delve into the fascinating world of emotions with a focus on near and far enemy emotions. Our guest, an expert in emotional intelligence, helps us explore how understanding these nuanced emotional states can lead to personal growth, better relationships, and enhanced well-being. Tune in to discover practical strategies for recognizing and managing these emotions in your daily life. Key Topics Discussed: Introduction to Near and Far Enemy Emotions: Definition and examples Importance of distinguishing between them Personal Stories and Anecdotes: Guest shares personal experiences...
2024-05-3027 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThe Anger Epidemic DebateWelcome to the debut episode of The Anger Epidemic Debate! In this episode, we dive deep into the growing issue of anger and disconnection among today's youth. Join us as we explore the causes, consequences, and possible solutions to this pressing societal problem. Key Discussion Points: Introduction to the Anger Epidemic: Overview of the increasing disconnection and anger among children and teenagers. Impact of technology and social media. Influence of family dynamics and societal pressures. Consequences of Disconnection: Effects on academic performance and social relationships. Long-term implications for mental health and well-being...
2024-05-2314 min
Real Life Leadership Podcast#111 Transform Your Passive Income: Rethinking Real Estate Investing! - with Allen LomaxWelcome back to the Real Life Leadership Podcast! Today, we're talking to Dr. Allen Lomax about how to create passive income with real estate investing reimagined? Alex, as the Director of Investor Relations, brings her expertise in investing in apartment buildings to the forefront. With KGI Capital's impressive portfolio of over $30 million focused on distressed properties in the Southwest and Midwest, they are paving the way for investors to gain financial freedom and control over their lives Enjoy! - Order Chantel's Book, One Meal...
2024-03-2520 min
Curious Minds at WorkCM 223: Chantel Prat on How Every Brain Is DifferentYour manager sees it one way. Your colleague sees it another. Both ways are different from yours. Why is that? Well, our brains may have something to do with it.
Today’s brain researchers are studying what makes our brains different. They’re finding that these differences not only impact how we interpret situations, but also how well we’re able to focus, learn new things, and adapt to change. They’re also discovering what motivates us and how well we connect with teammates.
Chantel Prat is a neuroscientist who studies brain differences, and she’s written a book on the subjec...
2022-09-2659 min
Better Than HappyWhat to Do with Emotions with Chantel AllenThis week, I'm chatting with one of our amazing coaches here at Jody Moore Coaching, Chantel Allen. Chantel specializes in helping high achievers break up with busy so they can stop the endless hustle, and she's here this week to offer a practical approach for connecting with your emotions. If you don't identify as someone with anxiety, but often feel overwhelmed, stressed, and busier than you want to be, you're in the right place. Get full show notes and more information here: https://jodymoore.com/368
2022-08-0539 min
MAC Performance Podcast18. Anxiety: The physical effects on the body with Chantel AllenOur emotions and feelings are there for a reason. They help us identify situations as good or bad so that we can act accordingly. However, when our body thinks that we are not acting appropriately, it can ramp up the intensity to the point that we begin having physical reactions to our feelings. In this episode, we will go over some things we can do in order to have a better grasp of our emotions, including what it means to be C.A.L.M. ConfrontAllowLet beMove ForwardPatreon Link...
2020-11-0241 min
It's About Time | Time Management & Productivity for Work Life & BalanceStress is a Beautiful Thing: Taming Anxiety and Choosing CALM with Chantel AllenStress is a beautiful thing. True or False? Life Coach Chantel Allen believes that stress can actually be a good thing, but anxiety is what we need to watch out for as we navigate work, life and balance. In this powerful interview, Chantel dives into the difference between stress and anxiety and shares her CALM Method for taming anxiety in the moment. Listen in to learn what you can do if you're suffering from anxiety and how you can support others experiencing anxiety.
2020-09-2151 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenGetting out of Anxiety Status QuoWe often think anxiety has to be suffered through. We tell ourselves that life is supposed to be hard, and stressful. But I am here to challenge that. Status quo isn't good enough for you. Let me show you what's possible. Show Notes:
2020-09-1021 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenHow to Change Your ThoughtsThoughts create our results. We know this but yet struggle to believe new thoughts at times. Those old thoughts just seem so real. Today I give you 4 steps to changing your thoughts. I help give you a blue print to get you through the 'river of misery' in changing our thoughts. Show Notes:
2020-09-0326 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThoughts on CBD oil, exercise and more for anxietyWith anxiety on a rise, more and more or seeking answers and relief from anxiety. So by request from some listeners, we are covering some of those possible solutions. Again, I am not a doctor or a psychologist, so please listen and use at your discretion. The biggest tool you have is your brain and learning how to manage that will help you ease your anxiety and help you use these other solutions more. Show Notes:
2020-08-2721 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenEnding the CyclesWe often get stuck in cycles in life. Cycles in our relationships, in our money situations, our anxiety. And when we get stuck, we often don't see a way to stop it. Today we are going to discuss how to recognize the cycles, and learn what we can do to end them. Show Notes.
2020-08-2018 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenHandling Online School without AnxietyWith so many going to back to school online- anxiety and frustration can feel out of control. So today, let's discuss how to put ourselves back in control, ease the anxiety, and create the experience we do want to have this upcoming year. When we argue with reality- we lose 100% of the time. So let's learn to accept- and move on. Show Notes:
2020-08-1320 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenCircumstances are NeutralThere are things that happen in our world, and then there are the thoughts we have about them. We want to have negative and positive thoughts, but it's reminding ourselves it isn't determined by our circumstances. Circumstances are the facts. And when we can learn to see them as such, doors open, and choices are ours to make. Learn today how to piece out the circumstances. https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/?p=1760
2020-08-0621 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenGuided Walk through on Allowing EmotionsAre you curious what it actually looks like to process your emotions? Unsure if you're doing it right This podcast was created with these questions in mind. So take 10 minutes, and turn this on, and practice processing your emotions. It will take practice and patience, but so worth it. Show Notes:
2020-07-3018 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenC.A.L.M. Anxiety MethodThis week I'm teaching you my 4 step process to learning the skill of ALLOWING anxiety. This skill is a game changer and I want to give you these steps to start practicing today. Listen in to get the steps. Show Notes: https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/?p=1751
2020-07-2320 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenSTOPP Health AnxietyWhat does my heart racing mean? Could it be a heart attack? What about that cough? Maybe it's something serious? Health Anxiety is a real thing, and the way to combat it is to understand it. Your body has sensations. And your brain wants to create stories about it. Learn today how to STOPP Health Anxiety and heal your physical body as well. Show Notes:
2020-07-1623 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenYour Perspective is Either Your Prison or Your PassportOur minds are so incredibly powerful. They determine our experience. We often forget that we are always in control no matter what the circumstances are going on around us. Learning to be aware of whether we are letting our mind keep us stuck, or open, is so important to do. Listen how we can be aware of the prison or passport that our brain is in. Show Notes:
2020-07-0916 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenStop OverthinkingThe question of how to stop overthinking is one that all perfectionists face. So in this episode, I'm sharing the real reasons we overthink and practical tips to help you stop doing it. This is some of my best advice on how to stop overthinking. Show Notes: https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/?p=1736
2020-07-0220 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenI GET To Have AnxietyHave you ever considered your anxiety a gift? Why not? Is there an upside to thinking your anxiety is a problem? On todays episode- we'll discuss how looking at anxiety as a gift, might make the difference in the solution and how you ultimately experience your life. Show Notes:
2020-06-2515 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenDeciding What You WantAs moms, we often forget to dream. When asked what we want- it might just be in the moment things. But I want to challenge you to start dreaming again and why that is so important. Healing anxiety isn't the destination. That's just an obstacle from getting you there. So what is the destination? Need help knowing what you want? Let's discover it today Show Notes:
2020-06-1815 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenGrowing Through The HardThere is so much going on in the world right now. So many hard things. What can we do in the hard? I think it can be seen as an opportunity to grow We can resist it, but that will only cause more discomfort. Let's learn together how to be more like a lobster during these times, and grow through the discomfort and stress. Show Notes:
2020-06-1112 min
Failing Motherhood6. How to Live with Anxiety with Chantel Allen"6 years ago, I had a series of 24 hour stress seizures. I was told I had to learn new ways to cope with my anxiety or I'd possibly have a heart attack. At the same time, my then 8 year old son started having panic attacks. I felt like a massive failure."Anyone else struggle with anxiety? Chantel Allen, certified life coach, shares her story as well as very tangible explanations, analogies, and strategies that help us harness our thoughts surrounding our anxiety and find new ways to cope with them long term. ***Ever...
2020-06-0942 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenEasing Chronic PainChronic Pain is real. It plagues so many people today in the form of Migraines, auto-immune diseases, back pain, leg pain. But what is often forgotten is how much our brains play a part in the chronic pain. We can actually mitigate and ease the pain by the way we are choosing to think about the chronic pain. Learn today the power of your mind with physical pain and how you can feel relief. Show Notes:
2020-06-0418 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenGetting rid of ANTsDo you feel like you get stuck with thoughts looping in your mind. Maybe they feel intrusive. You feel out of control. You don't know what else to do. Dr. Amen's ANT analogy really helps to understand what your brain is doing in those thought loops. Those loops are called Automatic Negative Thoughts. And when you can recognize them, you have an opportunity to exterminate them. Listen today to learn how to recognize the ANTS and how to squish them. Show Notes:
2020-05-2824 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenLearning To Be CuriousGrowing up, we asked 'why' all the time. We loved to learn and find out how and why things work when we're younger. But as we get older- our skill of curiosity has weakened. Learning to cultivate this skill and use it daily- will be the difference between knowing something and actually get results. Curiosity creates results. Curiosity solves relationships. Curiosity equals change. Listen to learn how to cultivate more curiosity to get the results you are wanting. Show Notes:
2020-05-2119 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenSocial AnxietySocial Anxiety stops people from doing what they want and creating relationships they want. Today we discuss how we can overcome the social anxiety an how we can stop fearing other people because hint **it has nothing to do with them. Show Notes: https://www.chantelallencoaching.com/?p=1694
2020-05-1414 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenIn-Law AnxietyOh the in-laws. We all joke about having crazy in-laws. But they can really cause a source of struggle for us. If only they would change, or maybe I need to stop seeing them all together. Well I want to offer to you that there is a better way...a way that creates an amazing relationship with that difficult in-law if you're open to it. Listen today to learn how to heal your anxiety with your in-laws. Show Notes:
2020-05-0722 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenDealing With UncertaintyWith so much going on in the world- our brains are not liking the amount of uncertainty, unknown and things out of our control. But what if in these times, we are being blinded by the amount of things we can control. In today's episode, I share several exercises and practices to use during uncertainty to give you control and options. Listen in for some relief. Show Notes:
2020-04-3013 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen3 Ways To Practice Mental DistancingDuring this time of social distancing- we are zoomed in so much with our lives. We don't have the usual breaks, and resets that were built into our day before. So when we are feeling anxious, overwhelmed, frustrated, use that as a red flag to mentally distance. Learn how in todays show Show Notes:
2020-04-2319 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenHappiness- A Message for the Silver Creek AZ Stake Relief SocietyHappiness- what is it? How do we get more of it? We think it comes from obtaining something, having kids behave etc. But this quest will result in always chasing the elusive happiness. So today, we discuss what it looks like to obtain happiness TODAY without needing anything else to change. Show Notes:
2020-04-1619 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenOvercoming LonelinessLoneliness seems to be hanging out a lot right now as we go through social distancing. There's many of us experiencing a lot anxiety with loneliness because it feels scary, and unknown. But loneliness is not a state of being. It's a feeling that we create from our thoughts. Learn today how to overcome loneliness by working on your relationship with you Show Notes:
2020-04-0915 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenIt's Ok To Not Be OkThere are times where we just don't feel ok. Instead of resisting it- talking ourselves out of it- let yourself just not feel ok. Show Notes
2020-04-0215 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenAlways a BeginnerWhen we've done something for a period of time- I think we expect ourselves to become experts. But with an expert mind- we shut ourselves down to possibility. We don't allow ourselves to see options. So in this podcast, we are going to discuss why being in a beginners mind is a benefit and how to cultivate that. Show Notes
2020-03-2615 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenFinding Calm in the ChaosLiving in the unknown is sometimes scary We don't like not knowing what could happen or what things mean for us. But we're going to talk today about how that fear impacts us and what to do in these times of uncertainty and chaos. Show Notes.
2020-03-1914 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenStop the judgement thoughtsOur goal is to be aware of our thoughts so we have choices and opportunities to change them. This information is often used against ourselves. We add a layer of judgement to our judgement thoughts or negative thoughts. When we do this- we lose all ability to change. Today we dive into what this looks like and what to do about it. Show notes
2020-03-1220 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenRewriting the Story of Your PastWhat is your past? How would you describe it? Learning the story we are telling ourselves and understanding we have a choice to change that story- is SO powerful. The past no longer exists except in your mind. So what do you want to say about your past now? Learn how to go about rewriting that story in a way that leaves you in control and empowered. Show Notes.
2020-03-0521 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenSaying Yes When You Could Say NoSo many of us find ourselves saying yes to requests, because we don't want to hurt feelings. This is people pleasing. People pleasing has no upside to it. In fact, we aren't controlling someone else's feelings about us no matter how decide to do things. Learning to stop people pleasing is a huge relationship builder. Learn how today. Show Notes
2020-02-2716 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenWhen your anxiety makes you want to eatWhen you are feeling anxious, sad, bored....do you find yourself grabbing for a chip bag, or chocolate? A lot of us use things outside of us (social media, food, netflix) as a way to solve for our emotions we are feeling. But as you know, that doesn't solve it. We tend to feel guilt and shame after we eat or binge on netflix for a period of time. So why do we continue to do it? Well today we are discussing what creates emotional eating and other buffers and how...
2020-02-2016 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenYour Relationship With YourselfThe one relationship we often neglect- is the one that is the most important. When we love yourself, you invariably love others more. We often think building that relationship with ourself as hard to do and foreign- but it's a lie. Did you know that building our relationship with ourself is actually very simple. Let me show you how. Show Notes:
2020-02-1313 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenLimiting BeliefsWe all have limiting beliefs that hold us back from the results we want. Often times, we just don't recognize them as limiting beliefs. Instead we state them as facts. In the podcast today we'll dive into what a limiting belief is, how to recognize them, and ultimately how you can change them. Show Notes
2020-02-0619 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenVictim MentalityThere are moments when we all feel like a victim. And for some of us this brings validation or relief. But for a lot of us, we can get stuck in this mentality which prevents us from seeing other options and opportunities. Learn today what that looks like and what you can do to shift out of it. Show Notes
2020-02-0419 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenLoving What Is- Using The WorkToday we are discussing one of my favorite leaders Byron Katie- and The Work. This process pairs beautifully with The Model by Brooke Castillo and helps to further investigate our thoughts and the results they create. For free worksheets, and more info check Show Notes
2020-01-2318 min
Family Looking UpEp. 117. Peeps Getting On Your Nerves? Life hacks for happier relationships - Guest Chantel AllenA challenge that everyone can relate to is that one person in your life that drives you crazy no matter how much you wish otherwise. All of us have certain personalities in our friend and family sphere that we struggle with. Chantel Allen is with us this week giving us some simple tools we can use to better handle the frustrations we feel in those situations. This is a fantastic interview you won't want to miss!
2020-01-2151 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenMotherhood Isn't HardMotherhood is hard Life is hard School is hard How many times have we thought variation of these statements? But what is hard anyways? We often use these statements like we're just telling the news. Today I want to challenge this thought and offer what if there is no such thing as 'hard'? Listen today to see how that might be so and how this small shift can really change your entire experience in life. Show Notes:
2020-01-1616 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenShame vs. GuiltSo many times we experience shame or guilt for things we have done in our lives. And a lot of the time, we lump guilt and shame together. BUT, I want to discuss how there is a difference between the two and how guilt can serve us, when shame rarely does. Knowing and understanding the differences, can prevent us from remaining stuck or giving up on things. Listen today to learn how to recognize the differences and the antidote for them. Show Notes:
2020-01-0916 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThe Prize is in the ProcessSo many times we set goals for the end result. We want to lose 30 lbs. Stop yelling Write this book And we get discouraged on the journey with how far we have to go, or how long it's taking, or even how many times we are failing. But I truly believe, the goal isn't the prize. It's the person we become not he way to that goal that is the prize. Listen as we discuss the gap from where you are to where you want to go and how t...
2020-01-0211 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenMundane MagicAs moms, there's a lot of little things we want to do on a daily basis but can feel boring and mundane over time. In todays episode we discuss how to create magic in the mundane and make every day more fun instead of wishing for the weekend or some future day. Show Notes:
2019-12-2610 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenLife is Rigged In Your FavorThis is one of my favorite thoughts right now. This thought helps me reframe all situations in my life. This simple tweak can transform the way you see things. On todays podcast we will discuss 2 ways to start to see this idea in everything you do. Show Notes:
2019-12-1920 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenDitching the All or Nothing ThinkingHow many times a day do you use words like "always, never, all the time, none of the time"? These are signs that we are thinking in all or nothing. This thought process keeps us stuck. It's a perfectionistic mind set and it's not realistic. In todays episode we dive into what it looks like and how it can be showing up in subtle ways, and how to drop the all or nothing. We want to learn to fail productively instead of passively in order to achieve anything we want in life and this episode...
2019-12-1222 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenResolving ConflictsWe all experience conflict in relationships. But how we deal with conflicts is another thing. So many of us hate conflicts and are uncomfortable with them so we do everything we can to avoid it- but I want to share another way to handle conflict and one that might change all your relationships. Listen and learn how to resolve conflicts. Show Notes:
2019-12-0521 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenLetting Go ControlIn life- we think letting go control is hard. How can we let go control of a situation? Well this is the secret to it all- we don't have control either way. One way is resisting it, and one is allowing it. The only thing we can control is ourselves. The more we drop the resistance, the easier we can navigate the different situations in our lives. Come learn how Show Notes:
2019-11-2816 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenA Year Of LessonsAfter a year of podcasting- I've learned a lot and I want to share some of those lessons with you. Growth is hard to acknowledge at times, but I truly believe there's a power in seeing your growth. SO join me as we go through this past year. AND be sure to enter the giveaway celebrating the podcast on Instagram at chantelallencoaching Show Notes
2019-11-2117 min
About ProgressAdult Friendships: Goodbye Mean Girls, Hello Girlfriends || with Chantel AllenConfession...I haven't actually seen "Mean Girls" all the way through, but I feel like I lived it and that was enough! Making adult friendships just isn't like it was in preschool, but having those connections is more important than ever. Today we're discussing why that is and what to do about it, including loneliness, expectations, and boundaries.Chantel Allen is a mother and life coach ready to equip you with tools you can use right away to make friends and mend yourself. It's true, friendship with others starts with YOU. She dives right in with advice...
2019-11-2035 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenWhat's Your Story?We often look at our life and think we are telling the facts about our life- "life is just hard" or "things aren't working out like they should" or "I'm failing as a mom". But the truth is, those are all optional thoughts. Our lives are full of circumstances but we choose to make it mean what we want. What story are you telling? And can you look at your circumstances as neutral and choose to tell it a different way. Today we'll discuss exactly how to do that and tell a story that serves y...
2019-11-1420 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenDoubt your doubtsDo you notice that you struggle with doubt as you go for a goal? Maybe you doubt yourself on a daily basis as a mom. Our brain wants us to stay stuck and so it offers up indulgent emotions like fear, confusion, overwhelm. It is normal to experienced indulgent emotions especially when pushing out of our comfort zones. Difference now is what we decide to do in those moments. Today we will discuss how to identify those indulgent emotions and how to overcome them to get your goal.
2019-11-0720 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenYou Are Not Your ThoughtsSo many times we just believe what we think "I'm not enough" "I'm not doing this right" "I'm screwing up my kids" But our brain and our thinking- isn't who we are. We don't have to believe all the thoughts our brain offers. Show Notes:
2019-10-3110 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenValue of Coaching with Holli BrownHave you debated on what coaching might do for you? Wondered if it's worth to you? Well today I have a special guest, my client Holli Brown on the podcast to share the impact of coaching on her life. Listen in as she shares her personal journey and what coaching has done to truly change her life. You could be next Show Notes:
2019-10-2425 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThriving with AnxietyA lot of us deal with anxiety. Some more debilitating than others. I used to experience so much fear around my anxiety. I pushed it away, wanted to fix it, anything to avoid it. Now I can confidently say, I am thriving WITH my anxiety and I want to share how. We don't need to fix anxiety or get rid of it. It's an emotion we all feel and it's OK. Learn today how to start that process of thriving with anxiety. Show Notes:
2019-10-1719 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenMaking DecisionsHow are you with making decisions? Do you find that you want to do lots of research...and you're nervous about making the 'right' decision a lot? Decisions are mini transformations. The way we make decisions is the reason we have the results we have in life. If we can learn to make powerful decisions quickly, and not doubt them, then we can take action and progress faster than we ever have. Learn what that process looks like and change the way you make decisions. Show Notes
2019-10-1020 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenWaiting to feel goodSo many of us think we need motivation, or inspiration FIRST before taking action. This is why so many of get stuck, and feel unfulfilled and continue to procrastinate on our day to day lives. We're supposed to have 50/50 with our emotions, but when we feel the 50% negative, we resist it and do everything we can to fix it. This my friends, is what we discuss today. On the podcast you'll learn how to feel the negative- allow it- AND take action. Yes, you can do both. We don't ne...
2019-10-0322 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenImpossibility is TemporarySo many times we go through our life thinking things are impossible. It's impossible to stop yelling at the kids It's impossible to love my life as it is It's impossible for you to ever change Impossibility seems final But as we discuss in todays podcast- impossibility is temporary. We need to learn to stop using the past as evidence we can't do something- and start living in possibility. Listen as you learn how to do that. Show notes
2019-09-2618 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenFear of FlyingWhat is something you fear? Fear of speaking in public? Fear of failing? Fear of never changing? We all fear things in our lives, but I would ask you to consider the cost of not really evaluating that fear. I used to fear flying. It stopped me from really living in the moment. Stopped me from dreaming. And now, I can truly say, I don't fear flying. This has taken a lot of insight on my part, but it's totally doable and I'm so grateful for this growth.
2019-09-1917 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenThe Manuals in Our LivesJust like instruction manuals for how things work, we have manuals for everyone in our lives. These manuals go unknown and we rarely ever tell anyone about the manuals we have which can cause relationship strains. Learning what our manuals are and what they look like and how to drop them, is a huge key to creating the relationships we want in life. Show Notes:
2019-09-1217 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenGrowing PainsWe can experience growing pains physically. It comes when we're growing super fast. Just like physical growing pains, we can experience mental growing pains. This is us going through the river of misery. It really helps to know this is normal. It helps as we go through uncomfortable situations. Learn how to cope with the growing pains and how to embrace the discomfort to get the results you want in life. Show Notes:
2019-09-0518 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenWorryDo you worry? Worry if everything will be ok? Worry if others will like you? Worry only pretends to be useful and understanding that can help recognize it for what it is. Worry will just keep us stuck. So what do we do to stop worrying? Show Notes:
2019-08-2914 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenLet's Take ActionWe're on to the next part of the CTFAR Model- Actions. Do you know why you yell? Why didn't you go to the gym? What made you send that text? So many times, we think we do things without being aware. But the answer isn't being aware of our actions, it's being aware of the thoughts and feelings that drove those actions. Listen today as we discuss what it takes to be aware and why we do the things we do. Show Notes:
2019-08-2219 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenLet's Do Some Feelings!Today, I'm excited to go deeper into the CTFAR model and explore its second part—feelings. Join me as we uncover how emotions differ from our thoughts and how to process our emotions instead of resisting them. Show Notes
2019-08-1522 min
Marriage and Intimacy Tips for Christian Couples: Secrets of Happily Ever AfterThree Important Principles to Improve Your Marriage with Chantel AllenMy guest on the podcast today is a life and marriage coach who shares with us some of my very favorite and most important principles that have the potential to completely change everything about your marriage. Chantel Allen of www.findyourbeautifulyou.com lays out a few simple ideas that once understood will blow your mind and improve everything about your life.She is a wife, mom of 4, life coach and podcaster. Her podcast, Find Your Beautiful You is available wherever you listen to podcasts. This is actually one of my favorite episodes that deals with some of...
2019-08-1230 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenUnderstanding Your ThoughtsThis week, we begin our deep-dive into the CTFAR model and discuss how it affects everything we do. Learning about this model was the key for me when it came to understanding why I was struggling as much as I was as a mom and why I wasn't getting anywhere on my own. Today we begin with discussing our thoughts. I explain what your thoughts really are, why you are not your thoughts, and why that separation is so crucial to changing your thinking. Tune in to discover this episode's important tips and strategies that w...
2019-08-0827 minLiving and Loving Your Life with Chantel AllenHow To Get Your Kids To ListenI think the reason we as moms feel so frustrated and exhausted is because we have a belief that "They should just do what I say." If we are a good mom, we've taught them who to listen. When they don't- we may feel it's a reflection of us as not being good enough. Today we will discuss how this is actually the cause of our pain- our own thinking- and not what our children do or don't do. We'll also go into how we can give consequences from a place of love rather than a...
2019-08-0116 min
Spiritually Minded Women PodcastSMM 052: How to Really Define Success in Motherhood||Chantel AllenMy guest for episode 52 is Chantel Allen. Chantel is a mom, a wife and also a certified life coach. She is passionate about offering encouragement, to others through her coaching and podcast, Find Your Beautiful You. Through her training and personal experiences, Chantel has learned the true definition of success in motherhood. Listen to hear Chantel’s insights on how you can benefit from changing your thoughts. She gives a great exercise you can use to figure out what is going on inside your brain. Chantel talks about the lessons she learned from experiencing unexplained se...
2019-05-0130 min