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Feel Better
Feel BetterEp 95: Ask Charlotte - speaking kindly to yourself, recovering from purity culture, and what to do with 'you' time🌿 How do I speak to myself in a kinder way?💭 How do I begin to heal from purity culture?⏳ And what do I do with my precious time away from kids and my spouse?These are the three big (and very real) questions I’m answering in today’s Ask Charlotte episode of the Feel Better podcast — all sent in through my recent question box on your relationship with yourself 💛Together we’ll explore:✨ How to break the habit of negative self‑talk and replace it with real, grounded reassurance✨ What recovery from purity cult...
2025-08-1719 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 93: Ask Charlotte - Betrayal, How to Decide to Stay or Leave, and Getting Through "THE ICK"Welcome to Ask Charlotte - the fortnightly series within the Feel Better Podcast, where I answer listener questions. In this episode, I answer three brave listener questions about love, betrayal, and staying connected in marriage.💔 Question One: Can couples recover from betrayal?❓ Question Two: How do you decide whether to stay or leave?🥀 Question Three: What if I feel so emotionally detached that intimacy gives me the “ick”?I share practical advice, hopeful stories, and compassionate insights — from rebuilding trust after infidelity, to setting clear markers of change, to red...
2025-08-0329 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 92: How to Build a Life that Feels as Good as it LooksEp. 92 – How to Build a Life That Feels as Good as It LooksIt’s easy to chase a life that looks successful — the job, the house, the highlight reel. But what if the outside doesn’t match how you feel on the inside?In this episode, Charlotte explores the success paradox — the gap between outward appearances and our internal wellbeing — and what actually creates lasting happiness. From the science of relationships to the role of authenticity, self-compassion, and everyday moments of joy, this is a must-listen if you’re ready to do a gentle audit of your...
2025-07-2720 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 89: Seven things couples do wrongAre you in a relationship? Come and join me for this episode where I share seven key issues I see in couples who come to me for counselling. This episode will help you reflect on where you might want to bring some focus in your relationship. There's also a free download that goes with this episode, which is designed to support you and your partner to accurately identify and agree on 'What's wrong' in your relationship - the starting point of making anything better!
2025-04-1435 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 88: How to hold realistic expectations for yourselfHolding realistic expectations for ourselves is a very real challenge. Day jobs, side hustles, community commitments, social lives, families, and OURSELVES! It's a lot to juggle. In this episode I offer some advice on how to hold realistic expectations for yourself. Spoiler: this is something I struggle with and so I have a few work arounds for myself that I've refined over the years, that make a huge difference. Come and join me and learn how to protect yourself from unrealistic expectations!
2025-03-2423 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 87: Re-balancing the mental loadThe mental load refers to the cognitive and emotional load of 'holding everything together' in our day to day lives - constantly thinking ahead, managing, planning, balancing needs. This concept names a reality of our lives. But, then what? If you want to move forward with re-balancing the mental load in your life, particularly if you're in a relationship, or you're a parent, then this episode is for you. I explore: - What the mental load actually demands of your brain - How the mental...
2025-03-1923 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 86: What's good about feelings?Something that often becomes apparent in my work with clients is that their relationship with their feelings is a problem. And behind this problematic relationship with their feelings is this - they don't perceive their feelings as GOOD. Feelings get in the way, they're overwhelming, they're a waste of time, or the person worries they might end up like their mother/father/sibling whose response to their feelings caused damage... So, this episode is my effort at shifting how you perceive your feelings. Come and join me to explore...
2025-03-0235 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 85: How to apologiseIn some of my work with clients recently, I've recognise that the art and science of apology has been an area where many people are falling over. You're a human. You're going to make mistakes. Things are going to land for people in a way that creates an impact you never intended at times. You'll offend, hurt, and get people offside. So, how do we best put things right? In this episode I step you through the five Languages of Apology (Dr Gary Chapman's model - the creator of...
2025-02-2029 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 83: Helping your child through bullyingIt's back to school time in New Zealand, and for many kids that means going back to some really tough social challenges in the school environment, including bullying.Parents being equipped to respond confidently when their child is experiencing bullying is super important. There are LOTS of things you can do to support your child. Join me for this episode, and come away feeling empowered that you have some tools to help your child.
2025-02-0827 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 82: Dopamine Addiction - what it is and how to re-setDopamine Addiction is a buzz phrase these days, but it is an important concept to understand when we live in a world filled with notifications, addictive foods, and screens! In this episode I share about the concept of Dopamine Addiction, why it matters, and what you can do if you find yourself needing a re-set.
2025-01-2733 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 81: How to help your child transition back to schoolIt's that time of year when the back to school nerves hit for our children. They're real. They deserve response. And there are lots of ideas in this episode to equip you to set your child up for a smoother transition back to school. It is one of my pet peeves that we just tell children "You've got this" and "It will all be OK" when they are actually really worried. In this episode I talk about how to get to the bottom of what your child is actually afraid will happen, beyond the presenting issues.
2025-01-1934 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 79: The Self Care episodeThe chances are you have a goal to take better care of yourself this year. So, how could you do things differently so you succeed with this goal? I reckon you need some fresh ideas, a broader concept of what self care is, some better ways to identify what you need, and to get rid of the mental barriers that stand in your way. I LOVE this topic, and I can't wait to share with you and support you to do great self care!
2025-01-1230 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 78: The New Year pep talk you needNew Year, New You... Well, what about New Year, Same Awesome Totally Already Enough You? In this episode I share a pep talk on how to strike the balance when setting your goals for the New Year. Sure, it's an opportunity to enjoy the fresh energy of the calendar turning over, but also it's important that your desire to change comes from a place of LOVING yourself towards change, and using this time to align yourself with the things that actually matter to you (not just the world around you!)...
2024-12-2933 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 77: Planning for your mental health needs these holidaysChristmas is coming, and likely some change of pace/routine...   You've planned: where you're going, what you're doing, the Christmas menu, the childcare plans, who is unwrapping what. But, have you planned around your mental health needs?    This is a time of year when many people feel quite shattered, and the holiday season can (in my experience!) tip you over the edge without some intentional focus on your mental health. Well spent holidays can hit the spot, so let me give you a few thoughts in this episode on how to plan for your mental health needs these holidays.
2024-12-0913 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 76: Do you have high functioning anxiety?Join me for this episode where we explore high functioning anxiety - what it is, who gets it, how to heal it. Enjoy!
2024-12-0432 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 75: How to know what you're feelingIf I asked you right now 'How are you feeling?', how do you think I'd rate the depth of your answer?    So many people answer with: "OK", "Alright" or "Busy" and we don't ever go much beyond that.    This episode explores HOW to know what you're feeling. The missing emotional literacy art we are never taught! And, knowing how you're feeling is super foundational when it comes to then being able to regulate your emotions.    Join me for this episode, and learn how to get in tune with yourself.
2024-11-2830 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 74: Silly Season Mental HealthTis the season to be jolly.... And, stressed, overwhelmed, and exhausted! So, how do you get through this time of year without arriving at Christmas collapsing in a heap? Join me for the pep talk you likely need right now!
2024-11-2319 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 73: Mental health in a crisisFor most of us, our life time will included moments of crisis - illness, injury, death, sudden loss, a natural disaster... It's a given that our mental health is going to take a hit when we are facing a crisis. But, there are lots of things you can do to lessen the impact and survive through these times well.  Join me for this episode where I explore some tips for taking take of your mental health when facing a crisis.
2024-11-1933 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 72: Dealing with difficult family membersHaving challenging relationships with family members is far more common than we acknowledge within our society, and can be a source of significant pain and grief for many people. It's also really tough knowing what to do to navigate these relationships - no contact, disappointment, boundaries etc. Come and join me for this (quite chunky!) episode where I share some advice around this topic.
2024-11-0436 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 71: Dealing with parenting guilt (part two)In the last episode, I shared all about the important skill of navigating having time away from your children without that annoying parenting guilt overwhelming you. In this episode, I focus on guilt about your parenting - how do we manage to avoid the trap of berating ourselves around what we did or didn't do... This episode is filled with lots of different insights, and I hope there is something for everyone!
2024-10-2837 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 70: Dealing with parenting guilt (part one)So, you went to antenatal class and they talked about birth and what to dress your baby in, but did they talk about the incredible guilt that most parents battle throughout their journey as parents? I doubt it!  Join me for this episode - part one - where I explore parenting guilt, particularly around time away from your children. Whether this is for work, working out, hobbies, time with friends, or relationship time, being able to respond to your own needs is a pretty important part of being an emotionally regulated parent. Join me for this episode where I share s...
2024-10-1731 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 69: Your workaholism questionsIn this episode, I answer some listener questions in follow up to the recent episode on workaholism as a trauma response.  The questions I respond to are:  - How do you get beyond 'eldest child syndrome' and constantly being the overly responsible one in a work setting?  - What about picking up too many unpaid responsibilities - how does that busyness relate to trauma?  - How do I manage working from home better as a workaholic?  - I work in an industry where workaholism is expected - what do I do in this context?
2024-10-1720 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 68: Your workaholism is a trauma responseIn this episode I explore the links I see as a therapist between workaholism and trauma - whether this is major trauma or ways of being we learn for our own safety. This episode is designed to get you thinking about the potential dynamics driving your workaholism, if this is a challenge you face.
2024-10-1037 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 67: Building good mental health in our kidsI'm a big believer in the power parents have to positively shape their child's mental health over the course of their life. But, where do you start? In this episode I share some key areas you can focus on to teach your child some important mental health fundamentals.
2024-10-0334 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 66: How are you really?Well, my friends, it's time to get WAYYYYYY beyond the answers we give to the supermarket cashier when it comes to "How are you?". When we are asked how we are, we are so conditioned to respond with "Ok" and "Good", no matter how we are really feeling.  So, in this episode I share with you a few key questions to get you reflecting on how you really are.  Also, you can download my free 'How are you really' reflection guide at charlottecummings.nz, which is the perfect companion to this episode :)  This episode is in proud partnership with Natalie, Gal...
2024-09-2018 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 65: Listener Question - Helping your child transition to schoolIn this episode, I share some advice on helping your child transition to school, with a particular focus around reducing anxiety.
2024-09-1926 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 64: Looking after your relationship through the years with young kidsWell, according to you guys, this is going to be a great episode! I know there are people who have been hanging out for this one...  Parenting is essentially a trauma for a relationship. You are never again the same person you were before children + the demands of parenting are high and ongoing. It's tough!  Come and join me for this episode, where I share some ideas on how you can look after your relationship through the years with young kids!
2024-09-1239 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 62: Spilling the tea, about me!This is a bit of a different episode - it's all about me! I share my back story, more about my counselling style, my work as a Private Investigator, my issues - it's all here! haha.. Come join me for a yarn!
2024-09-0437 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 63: How to get your spouse to go to therapyI get asked this question so, so often and I have LOTS of tips to share. It's time to take it away from being a black and white/yes or no question of "Will you come to therapy with me?", and ask way better questions to get you both participating in therapy quick smart!
2024-09-0429 minDown to Earth Conversations
Down to Earth Conversations98. Charlotte Cummings - Church Hurt, The Helping Gang, and How to Feel BetterCharlotte Cummings works in a number of ways to outwork an inner desire to help others, especially people who are finding life tough through mental health, parenting, or because they've been hurt in faith-based spaces.  We talk about her work as an investigator, counsellor, consultant and more. We hear about her experience of supporting those who have been hurt in Christian faith communities, and get her take on the recently released report from the Royal Commission of Enquiry into Abuse in State and Faith-based Care. We also talk about her own podcast, Feel Better, and how she is offering her w...
2024-08-2856 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 61: Boundaries Q & AThis is a follow up episode to Episode 60 on boundaries. In this episode, I respond to a range of listener questions on how to apply boundaries in different contexts - with difficult people, fragile people, in a not for profit work setting, with kids, with in laws, when supporting someone else through a difficult time, and as a grandparent. Phew! There is lots in here, and no doubt there will be something relevant to a challenge you face.
2024-08-2723 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 60: BoundariesJoin me for this episode, all about the important topic of boundaries. I'm a big believer that if you don't have good boundaries, you don't end up living your own life - and, instead, you live the life others construct for you. Boundaries are a really important life skill, yet for many people, the state of their mental health prevents them from even knowing what they want - let alone holding a boundary. I hope you get lots from this episode, and don't forget to check out the following episode (61) where I answer listener questions on boundaries.
2024-08-2631 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 59: Finding YourselfI hear this all of the time from people writing to me seeking to engage in counselling... "I just feel I have lost myself, and I've lost my way".    The good news is that you're not a $20 note in last winter's jacket, and there are actually steps you can take to re-discover, re-invent, or re-connect with who you are.    Join me for this episode where I explore how to go about this process.
2024-08-1833 minStyle for Life
Style for LifeEpisode 20 - How using a stylist and accountability coach can improve your mental health - with special guest Charlotte CummingsIt was an absolute privilege to chat with my friend,  the lovely Charlotte Cummings about her journey with styling and accountability coaching.  Charlotte is a therapist,  private investigator and master podcaster.   She has also shared this episode on her podcast 'Feel Better'  - a podcast about all things mental health.   This episode is about Charlottes journey to improve her health, wellness and we discuss all things parenting,  mental health and the vagus nerve even gets a mention! I am eternally grateful to Charlotte for starting me on the this podcast journey and I am in awe of al...
2024-08-1339 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 58: How a stylist can help your mental healthWell, this is a bit of a different episode today, as I share a conversation I had with my friend Steph over on her podcast Style for Life.    I met Steph in her role as a stylist when she did my colours in a mall. Since then she's shopped with me, taught me to run, shared so much with me about nutrition and exercise, and now she is an ever-inspiring woman in my world.    EVERYONE needs a Steph. Working with her has been a part of my own journey of learning to love and appreciate myself.    We chat about self-esteem, health...
2024-08-1340 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 57: Listener Question - Managing Parenting AnxietyHave you heard the saying, "Parenting is a walk in the park, only it's Jurassic Park"? Anxiety about our children's health, development, and activities can be really challenging.    In this episode I explore some key ideas for managing your experience of anxiety in the context of parenting.
2024-08-1231 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 56: Listener Question - Dealing with Negative PeopleResponding well to people who err towards negativity can be tough - whether these characters in your life are friends, family members or colleagues.    In this episode I respond to a listener question with tips for dealing with negative people - ways to manage the relationship, a challenge around what this pushes for you personally, and how to guard your own precious energy through it all.
2024-08-0524 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 55: Encouraging ChangeFor many of us, there are things we would like to change - perhaps around our health, around our style of relating to others, or personal habits.    But, the process of change can be really hard. In this episode, I share some encouragement and reminders for you if you've got something you're working on right now. This might be the little boost you need :)
2024-08-0518 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 54: Saying NoN.O. Two letters, one tiny word, but sometimes so hard to say! Join me for this episode where I share my advice around learning the art of saying no.
2024-07-2926 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 53: Listener Question - Navigating Parenting DifferencesWoah - this is a big one! In this episode, I respond to a listener question about how to navigate parenting differences. I had a lot to say so it became a full episode really :) There are lots of great tips here for developing a shared vision with your parenting partner, and working to the bigger goal of shaping your children towards the values that are most precious to you as parents.
2024-07-2128 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 52: How to get the most out of therapyPeople invest a lot of precious time and money in engaging with a therapist - whether that is a counsellor, psychologist or some kind of coach.    Join me for this episode where I share how to get the most out of therapy.
2024-07-2117 minThe General Practice Podcast
The General Practice PodcastPodcast – Judy Oliver and Charlotte Cummings – Strategies for Effective Integrated HealthcareJoin us as we welcome Judy Oliver and Charlotte Cummings from Oliver and Company to discuss the fascinating journey and evolution of integrated neighbourhood teams. Judy and Charlotte share invaluable insights on customising the program to bring together community services, social care, general practice, mental health, and the voluntary sector, emphasising the critical importance of strong inter-professional relationships to deliver seamless, patient-centred care.  Finally,  Judy and Charlotte shed light on the role of expert facilitation and coaching in enhancing team dynamics and outcomes, emphasising the importance of continuous improvement in fostering successful integrated teams in general practice. Do...
2024-07-1524 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 51: Listener Question - How to feel better when your kids are strugglingIn this episode I respond to a listener question about the challenge our children's behaviour/struggles/journey can be to our mental health. I share some insights and perspectives that I hope support you in how to feel OK, even when the wheels have well and truly fallen off.
2024-07-1427 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 50: My favourite personality indicatorsIn this episode I share about the three personality indicator tools I find most helpful, and encourage you to consider delving into this learning for yourself.   I also briefly re-introduce myself to new followers, and celebrate reaching 50 episodes on the podcast!
2024-07-1444 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 49: Downregulating your nervous system - my 'how to' tipsFollowing on from my previous episode which explored the benefits of time spent investing in downregulating your nervous system, this episode provides some top tips to help you understand how to integrate more regular downregulating time and activities into your day. Downregulation is so important, yet for many of us we do not have many activities that truly wind us down. If you need to extend your menu of downregulating activities, this episode is for you!    Enjoy!    One of my favourite down regulating tools around my home is my Millo foam lounger! If you'd like your own Millo, you can use...
2024-07-0727 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 48: Downregulating your nervous systemIn this episode I explore the impact that time spent downregulating our nervous system can have on our brain and body. The benefits are profound, and the challenges downregulation can assist us with makes for a long list!    This is the first part of a two part series - so, listen on to the next episode where I explore how to make regular downregulating time a part of your life.    This podcast is brought to you by Millo luxury foam loungers - one of my FAVOURITE downregulation tools. If you would like your own Millo, you can use my discount code...
2024-07-0731 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEp 47: Mental Health when the world is on fireThis is the episode nobody asked for, but I think we all need. Times are challenging locally and globally - crime, war, cost of living, politics, injustice... So, how on earth do we live our lives and maintain some sense of wellness in the face of this context. Join me for this episode where I explore some insights that might help you in navigating the current climate.    Don't forget, my podcast is currently sponsored by Millo - the fabulous foam loungers that are one of my key tools for relaxation. Check them out at millo.co.nz and if you ne...
2024-06-3031 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 46: ProcrastinationJoin me for this episode where I share advice on managing procrastination - in particular, how to understand the beliefs and feelings behind your procrastination so you can choose the best strategies going forward.
2024-06-2431 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 45: Recovering from a bad dayJoin me for this episode where I share some key tips on recovering from a bad day. Bad days happen for all of us, and within our bad days there are often things we have the opportunity to listen to.    Don't forget that this podcast is brought to you by the lovely people at Millo. Check out their luxury foam loungers at millo.co.nz and if you decide you need one, I have a discount code: goingsandcummings20 for 20% off.
2024-06-1634 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 44: Social Media & Mental HealthSocial media brings us opportunities to connect, to be motivated, to engage with social issues, and to learn. But, it can also be a huge challenge to our mental health.   Join me for this episode and where I share some tips on how to manage your social media usage so that it serves and does not hinder your mental health.    Don't forget I have a fabulous discount code thanks to the team at Millo Luxury Foam Loungers. It is: GoingsandCummings20 for 20% off :)
2024-06-0929 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 43: Overcoming PerfectionismPerfectionism plagues many people. We live in a world of high expectations, and can internalise these to the point these can become our own very hard task master. Join me as I present a range of tips and insights to help you overcome perfectionism.    Just a reminder, this episode is brought to you by Millo foam loungers. These luxury loungers are a big invitation to relax! You can get 20% off with my discount code: Goingsandcummings20.
2024-06-0341 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 42: How to look after yourself on a busy dayThis episode addresses a common challenge to our wellbeing - busyness! We all have times where our days are quite 'full' with multiple demands. When the pressure is on, do you know how to care well for yourself, even when time is short? In this episode I share lots of tips to get you thinking about how you care well for yourself through busy days.    Don't forget I have a discount code provided by the team at Millo, who are the sponsor of this podcast. It is: Goingsandcummings20, for 20% off.
2024-05-2717 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 41: How to help a child with anxietyIn this episode, I explore some of the things you can do to support a child with anxiety. Anxiety is a common experience for children and can escalate to a point it has a significant impact on the child and their wider family. This episode provides perspectives and tips to support parents and other key adults.    If you'd like to download a copy of my guide: 'What to do when your child is experiencing anxiety', you can find it here: www.charlottecummings.nz    Don't forget, I have a discount code provided by my podcast sponsor, Millo. It is: Goingsandcummings20 for 20% off.
2024-05-2729 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 40: Unbearable Feelings and RelationshipsJoin me for this episode where I further explore the concept of Unbearable Feelings, looking at how Unbearable Feelings influence our relationships.    Our Unbearable Feeling is usually a key culprit behind the pain and difficulty we experience in our relationships. And, in most relationships there are at least two Unbearable Feelings. This can create what we refer to as a 'cross matching', where we simultaneously push each other's buttons!    I hope you enjoy this episode, and that it encourages your reflection on how Unbearable Feelings are playing out in your relationship, and how you can find a way through.    This episod...
2024-05-2033 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 39: Anxiety - three things I wish people knewJoin me for this episode where I share three things I wish people knew about anxiety.    This has been a long awaited topic on the podcast!    Also, a big welcome to my brand new sponsor for the Feel Better podcast - Millo! Millo make luxury foam loungers which are an absolute dream to rest and relax into. Taking time out to sit down is one of the most important things I do for my mental health, yet it is something I find an ongoing challenge. Our Millos are a constant invitation towards rest, and our whole family loves them! Check them...
2024-05-1342 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 38: Imposter SyndromeJoin me for this episode where we explore the topic of Imposter Syndrome.
2024-05-0530 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 37: Unbearable FeelingsUnbearable Feelings have a huge influence on our lives - causing pain, and preventing us from reaching our goals and potential. Join me for this episode where I share more about this concept, examples, my own story, and how to heal your Unbearable Feeling.
2024-04-2933 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 36: How to thrive through a busy time, and the winter monthsI know that over the next few months I have a particularly busy time, and, it's also winter, where we typically struggle to maintain a focus on our health and our mood can slump.    So, in this episode I'm sharing with you my personal plan for how I'll make sure I'm as well as I can be over the next period of time. I hope this is helpful for you and inspires you to consider your own wellness in periods of busyness, or over the winter.
2024-04-2224 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 35: The Friendship EpisodeBuckle up, this is a biggie! In this episode I talk you through an exercise to review your friendships, which will get you thinking about gaps, where and how energy flows, and the placement of people in your life. I then talk about how to find new friends if you have gaps. And, I have included a section on dealing with conflict/distance in friendships. Enjoy!
2024-04-1546 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 34: Listener Question - how to feel better after the kids have left homeIn this episode, I respond to a listener question about how to feel better once the kids have left home. This period is a huge adjustment for parents and presents some key challenges. I share some questions you can ask of yourself and key tips in this episode.
2024-04-0815 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 33: How to not loose your mind over the school holidaysIn this episode, I share some tips and tricks for planning and surviving the school holidays with your mental health in tact! School holidays can present a big challenge for parents on many fronts, one of which is managing to feel good throughout this time and not just hold our breath until the school routine resumes. Tune in for my top advice on navigating this time well :)
2024-04-0821 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 32: Listener Question - Emotion Regulation for Neurodiverse PeopleIn this episode, I share more about why emotion regulation can be additionally challenging for neurodiverse people, some ideas on emotion regulation for neurodiverse people, and how to support someone you love with emotion regulation if they are neurodiverse.
2024-04-0225 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 31: Fair FightingIn this episode, I share some tips on how to fight fair. I also outline the 'Four Horsemen' concept from the Gottman Institute - a helpful theory around the four patterns which present themselves in many relationships where people are experiencing difficulty, including what to do to avoid these patterns.    There are two free downloadable resources to accompany this episode, available at www.charlottecummings.nz/resources
2024-04-0237 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 30: Listener Question - Ageing WellIn this episode I respond to a listener question about our mindset around ageing and offer some brief thoughts on this topic.
2024-03-2613 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 29: Dealing with RejectionIn this episode I share about how I have coached myself through a couple of recent experiences of rejection, and share some helpful questions to ask when you feel rejected by someone's words or actions.
2024-03-2620 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 28: Listener Question - Health Anxiety
2024-03-1814 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 27: How to de-funk yourself
2024-03-1829 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 26: Listener Question: Talking to Others about your Mental HealthIn this episode, I respond to a listener question about how to share with others around your mental health challenges, and particularly how you can share with them what's helpful and what's not. I also cover the concept of wellness planning, and the WRAP tool.
2024-03-1118 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 25: Managing a Panic Attack & Grounding Through Difficult EmotionsIn this episode I discuss how to respond to a moment where you need to ground yourself - such as a panic attack.
2024-03-1122 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 24: Listener Question - Ideas for Emotion RegulationIn this episode I respond to a listener question: "Can you give some ideas for how to do emotion regulation when you're busy - eg. with young children". This episode is filled with lots of practical ideas to get you thinking!
2024-03-0417 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 23: Dealing with SicknessSickness can be such a challenge to our mental health. In this episode I explore emotion regulation and mindset while you're feeling unwell, and how to reduce your expectations well.
2024-03-0420 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 22: Listener Question - how to help someone struggling with their mental healIn this episode I share some quick tips for supporting someone you know, if they are struggling with their mental health.
2024-02-2614 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 21: The Conflict EpisodeJoin me for this episode where I share some key tips for navigating conflict well. Imagine being able to face conflict with ease - that's what I hope to help you towards with these steps!
2024-02-2626 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 20: Bonus Episode, Listener Question - Dealing with Difficult ParentsIn this shorter bonus episode I respond to a listener question about dealing with a difficult parent relationship.
2024-02-1815 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 19: The Sleep EpisodeSleep is an incredibly important part of our lives as human beings. It is very difficult for us to feel good mentally and emotionally if we are not getting good sleep.    In this episode, I share some practical tips around sleep hygiene, but also some broader perspectives around how to deal with feeling worried and wired - two key barriers to getting to and staying asleep.    Enjoy!
2024-02-1826 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 18: Beginning of the year OverwhelmWoweee - it's all happening... Work expectations are on, social schedules are full again, there's lots of remember, you're back into the fast lane, and your holiday feels like a distant memory. Sound relatable?    Join me for this episode where I offer some tips for how to manage feeling overwhelmed at this time of year.
2024-02-0725 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 17: The Self-Esteem EpisodeIn this episode, I explore HOW to build great self-esteem, and share a ridiculous but memorable analogy about cake ;)
2024-01-2629 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 16: What's wrong with your resolutionsIn this episode I offer some thoughts about New Year's Resolutions and goals. What are you prepared to give up to bring your focus to that goal? What are the plans you're putting in place to bring that intention word to reality? Do you have categories to make sure your goals really reflect your values.    Come and explore GOOD goals with me!
2024-01-1730 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 15: So, you’re super tired. Now what?In this episode I share some advice on what to do if you find yourself extremely tired having hit the end of year holidays. I look at what constitutes burnout, understanding the type of tiredness you are experiencing, and how to plan to get the rest you need even amidst other holiday responsibilities.
2023-12-2928 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 14: Reflecting on Your YearJoin me as I pose some questions to help you consider the year that has been :) What are you proud of yourself for? Where have been your moments of greatest contentment? And more...    Please note: This episode has an accompanying worksheet, should you wish to use it. You can download this at: www.charlottecummings.nz/resources
2023-12-1716 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 13: Listener Q&A. Grief, Boundaries, Family Difficulties and Disability at ChristmasIn this episode I respond to some recently asked listener questions, and cover the following:  - How to journey well with grief over the festive season  - Managing family difficulties including differences in parenting styles, boundaries, and feeling triggered  - Family estrangement challenges  - How to foster inclusiveness in social occasions when your child has a disability.    Enjoy!
2023-12-1041 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 12: Some things you need to hear right now (about tiredness)In this episode I share some thoughts on talking yourself through what can happen in our minds and hearts when we are tired.
2023-12-0328 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 11: Silly Season Mental HealthJoin me as I share four helpful questions you can ask to support you to feel better through this festive season.
2023-11-2423 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode 10: How to Recover from Shouting at Your KidsI had a rough day recently, where I was far from at my finest in my parenting and lost the plot. My kids were on the receiving end. It wasn't pleasant for anyone. These moments happen for all parents, and we need to know how to recover well from them - with our children, and with ourselves. I share what I have done this week to recover from my 'Shouty Mum' moment.
2023-11-1727 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode Nine: The Best Questions to Process a Difficult ExperienceIn this episode I share some questions to help guide you if you're processing a difficult experience.
2023-11-1225 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode Eight: Managing OverwhelmThis episode is a goody, if I may say so myself! In our society we have done really well at better understanding mental health issues like anxiety and depression, but what about the MOODS that follow us around? A common mode state that plagues people is the feeling of being overwhelmed. In this episode I share 20 tips on managing overwhelm, direct out of my own play book. I make no secret of the fact this is an issue I struggle with, but I now have so many hacks for managing overwhelm, and I'm stoked to share them with you!
2023-11-0340 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode Seven: Emotion RegulationIn this episode I take a deep dive into what emotion regulation is and how to do it, and provide some practical examples to aid you in thinking about how to do emotion regulation well in your life. Enjoy!
2023-10-2528 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode Six: Boundaries, Disappointing others and Getting over the fear of RejectionIn this episode I answer a listener question around how to set boundaries, and how to work through a fear of disappointing others and facing rejection. It's a goodie - enjoy!
2023-10-1231 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode Five: Recurrent Depression & Toxic MasculinityIn this episode I answer a question about what causes recurrent depression. I also a question on how to respond to toxic masculinity, as well as providing some thoughts on how to relate to others in an invitational way when we are challenging behaviour we don't appreciate. Enjoy!
2023-10-0535 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode Four: Q & A with Sex Therapist, Jo RobertsonIn this episode, I continue my conversation with Sex Therapist, Jo Robertson, asking questions I received through a mental health support group I facilitated. We cover a range of important topics with what I hope is a refreshing honesty.    Please note that our conversation was focused towards a female audience, given that those who asked the questions were female. However, there is relevance from this content across genders.
2023-10-0132 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode Three: Q & A with Sex Therapist, Jo RobertsonIn this episode, I have a Q & A with Sex Therapist, Jo Robertson. Jo is an expert within her field, and brings incredibly helpful honesty to a topic which often feels taboo - sex! We talk about managing libido differences, how to talk to children about sex and porn, sex aids, how to improve your sex life, and more!    Please note, the questions asked in this episode came from a women's mental health group I facilitated called 'Mind You'. Jo's responses are pitched towards a female audience, but there is certainly content within our discussion which would be relevant to bo...
2023-10-0124 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode Two: Friendships, Dating, and Trusting ChurchesIn this episode we cover:  - Advice for dealing with friendship break down and isolation  - Dating safety  - How to rebuild trust in churches  - Advice for when a child has been exposed to something they shouldn't have
2023-09-2138 minFeel Better
Feel BetterEpisode One: Addiction and BurnoutIn this episode I answer two listener questions:  - How to confront addiction in a loved one, and - How to recover from burnout.  Along the way I also talk about the change process, how to guard your energy, and the important conception of ownership in maintaining enthusiasm.  I hope you enjoy it!
2023-09-2129 minDown to Earth Conversations
Down to Earth Conversations42. Charlotte Cummings Takes Over - Imperfect Parenting, Mental Health, and Finding the GoodCounsellor, mum, and all around good sort Charlotte Cummings takes over the episode putting Andy in the hot seat.  She asks Andy about his journey with redundancy, parenting challenges and joys, his experience of depression and anxiety and subsequent experience of counselling, and where he sees the podcast going in the future.  Connect with Charlotte at charlottecummings.com To give a little to support the podcast head to givealittle.co.nz ___ Connect with me at downtoearthconversations.com or at: Facebook: facebook.com/downtoearth.conversations  Instagram: @downtoearth.conversations Email: downtoearth.conversations@gmail.com   Music by Strahan: Spotify: Strahan Facebook: facebook.com/StrahanMusi...
2021-12-1252 minOur Faith in Writing
Our Faith in WritingEpisode 10: Art and Faith with Chandra White-Cummings Part ThreeShow Notes (More Show Notes available at ourfaithinwriting.com) Our Faith in Writing explores the intersection of writing and faith through conversations about the writing process, the reading life, contemplative practices, and more. Host Charlotte Donlon is a writer and a spiritual director for writers, and she believes writing and reading help us belong to ourselves, others, God, and the world. Subscribe to Our Faith in Writing wherever you listen to podcasts, and don’t forget to rate and review the show letting us know how these conversations are helping you feel less alone in yo...
2021-09-1220 minOur Faith in Writing
Our Faith in WritingEpisode 9: Art and Faith with Chandra White-Cummings Part TwoShow Notes (More Show Notes available at ourfaithinwriting.com) Our Faith in Writing explores the intersection of writing and faith through conversations about the writing process, the reading life, contemplative practices, and more. Host Charlotte Donlon is a writer and a spiritual director for writers, and she believes writing and reading help us belong to ourselves, others, God, and the world. Subscribe to Our Faith in Writing wherever you listen to podcasts, and don’t forget to rate and review the show letting us know how these conversations are helping you feel less alone in yo...
2021-09-1232 minOur Faith in Writing
Our Faith in WritingEpisode 8: Racism in Christian Publishing with Chandra White-CummingsShow Notes (More Show Notes available at ourfaithinwriting.com) Our Faith in Writing explores the intersection of writing and faith through conversations about the writing process, the reading life, contemplative practices, and more. Host Charlotte Donlon is a writer and a spiritual director for writers, and she believes writing and reading help us belong to ourselves, others, God, and the world. Subscribe to Our Faith in Writing wherever you listen to podcasts, and don’t forget to rate and review the show letting us know how these conversations are helping you feel less alone in yo...
2021-09-1242 minThe Charlotte Otremba Show
The Charlotte Otremba ShowEpisode #21: Are Khloe Kardashian & Whitney Cummings Anti-Feminist? Plus How to Handle "Light" Ghosting & Making Friends Post-COVIDThis week, Charlotte talks about her BIG TOE, her thoughts on the Khloe Kardashian drama, Chris D’Elia’s latest development, Summer House, and her conflicted feelings on Whitney Cummings - is she anti-feminist? Am I?? This week's advice GOES IN: how to make friends post-COVID, handle light ghosting, and pesky laundry! Dermaroller: https://bit.ly/3y262pc --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/charlotte-otremba/support
2021-05-0736 minThe Charlotte is Creative Podcast
The Charlotte is Creative PodcastCreative Besties: Kate Micham and Nicole Reyes of Make a Mark, CharlotteHumanitarian organizations here in Charlotte and around the world can always use as much help as they can get. Make a Mark, Charlotte is the local chapter of a global initiative that holds 12-hour design and development marathons pairing creative professionals with the organizations whose talents they often need but can’t always afford. Right now through next Saturday, August 31, both creatives and community organizations of all kinds can apply for this event. The Make a Mark, Charlotte event will be held November 9 at Hygge’s Jay Street location. All interested parties should find more information and appl...
2019-08-2236 minThe Charlotte is Creative Podcast
The Charlotte is Creative PodcastCelebrate Charlotte Arts InitiativeHello, Biscuit Listeners and welcome to freshly baked edition of The Biscuit Podcast, celebrating Charlotte’s creativity every week. I’m your host, Andy Goh. The John S. and James L. Knight Foundation has long been a key supporter of the arts in Charlotte, and right now they’re working on one of their biggest initiatives yet. The Celebrate Charlotte Arts initiative is accepting applications now through June 7 for a share of $200,000 in funding for “arts projects that showcase the spirit of the city.” In this episode of The Biscuit Podcast, Time Miner and myself are talkin...
2019-05-1625 min