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Overcoming Sexual Abuse035: 7 Love & Boundary Myths That Ruin RelationshipsThere are common misconceptions about love and boundaries that are meant to protect relationships but actually sabotage them. I'll clear up the confusion and share the truths so you can care for yourself and others for deeper love and connection. Thanks to my producer, David Ruck.Send me a textWebsite2025-07-2330 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse034: The 3 Stages of Self CareIf you're a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and neglect, chances are, you've developed habits and a lifestyle that perpetuate mistreatment. Based on the 3 Stages of Self Care, I'll help you identify which stage you're in and your top needs and strategies to support you. You'll be empowered to reverse unloving patterns and create a life where you're well cared for. Thank you to my producer, David Ruck.Send me a textWebsite2025-07-0127 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse033: Why You’re Still Controlled By Your Family of OriginEven if you've developed boundaries in other relationships, it can be especially difficult to set boundaries with your family. They may still see you as a child and might even feel entitled to have a say in your life. Though it can feel frustrating and even shameful to revert to childhood roles, I share powerful tools for finally asserting yourself so you're free to live on your own terms. Thank you to my wonderful producer, David Ruck.Send me a textWebsite2025-05-2923 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse032: Grieving the Losses of Childhood Sexual AbuseWhen you’ve experienced childhood sexual abuse, you’ve suffered profound losses. Until you acknowledge and grieve the losses, a part of you remains shut off and shut down. I’ll share the 5 stages of grief you experience as part of healing from abuse and the mistakes to avoid at each stage.Thank you to my wonderful producer, David Ruck.Send me a textWebsite2025-04-2221 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse031: Leaning into Discomfort to Create Your New LifeAvoiding discomfort is wired into your brain as survival but it keeps you trapped in survival. To flourish in life, you have to experience discomfort. I’ll give you a new perspective when it comes to avoidance and share the empowering keys you can use to escape the comfort addiction and create your new life.Thank you to my wonderful producer, David Ruck. Send me a textWebsite2025-04-1531 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse030: What Will Healing Do For You?I’m joined by Andrea Tokheim and she shares where she started in her healing journey, the challenges, the milestones, and the twists and turns along the way. You’ll be inspired and encouraged and take away some very helpful insights for your own healing journey.Thanks to my wonderful producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website2025-04-081h 09Overcoming Sexual AbuseBonus: Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse Part 3Taken from my recent masterclass, this is part 3. The real damage of abuse goes beyond the traumatic events. I'll show you exactly what needs to be repaired with the step-by-step recovery and repair plan using The Five Pillars of Healing, so you can live powerfully with a future designed and created by you! To get your masterclass workbook, join here: overcomingsexualabuse.com/masterclassSend me a textWebsite2025-04-051h 15Overcoming Sexual AbuseBonus: Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse part 4Taken from my recent masterclass, this is part 4. The real damage of abuse goes beyond the traumatic events. I'll show you exactly what needs to be repaired with the step-by-step recovery and repair plan using The Five Pillars of Healing, so you can live powerfully with a future designed and created by you! To get your masterclass workbook, join here: overcomingsexualabuse.com/masterclassSend me a textWebsite2025-04-0557 minOvercoming Sexual AbuseBonus: Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse part 2Taken from my recent masterclass, this is part two. You'll identify the specific origins of your own traumatic experiences to get to the root of your painful and dysfunctional patterns. Using The Empowerment Model, you'll finally have the tools to experience real healing, not just relying on coping methods and managing symptoms.To get your masterclass workbook, join here: overcomingsexualabuse.com/masterclassSend me a textWebsite2025-04-031h 34Overcoming Sexual AbuseBonus: Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse part 1Taken from my recent masterclass, this is part one. You'll learn exactly how and why unprocessed trauma keeps you in pain (It's not what you think!) and repeating the past. You'll gain a new perspective about those frustrating and defeating coping methods so you can finally have compassion for yourself instead of feeling self loathing and judgment.To get your masterclass workbook, join here: overcomingsexualabuse.com/masterclassSend me a textWebsite2025-04-011h 52Overcoming Sexual Abuse029: Healing Versus Learning About HealingThere’s never been more information about healing from trauma. Information might equip you for healing or it might distract you from healing. Learn the hidden traps of more information and how to recognize if it’s actually a coping method and the steps to make your quest for knowledge empowering and fruitful.Thank you to my talented producer, David Ruck.Send me a textWebsite2025-03-2520 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse028: The Secret Shame of Wanting to be RescuedWhen your needs aren’t met in childhood, you may still crave to be rescued now. Whether you’re hyper-independent or still feel powerless, there’s a secret shame in wanting to be taken care of. I’ll show you where that comes from and how you can heal the original wound and use that desire in a way that actually empowers you.Thank you to my wonderful producer, David RuckSend me a textWebsite2025-03-1819 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse027: The Healing Power of Processing AngerProcessing anger is a vital part of healing from abuse. The sad fact is, abuse also sets us up to suppress our anger, where we turn it inward or we lash out indiscriminately. I’ll show you how you can use anger as your ally and to heal your past and present wounds. There’s no doubt anger will be expressed, but will it hurt you or protect you?Thanks to my wonderful producer, David Ruck.Send me a text Website2025-03-1333 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse026: Being There For YourselfGrowing up in abuse and neglect likely means nobody was there for you. You learn to abandon yourself the way that you were abandoned. If you’re there for everyone else while you still feel alone, I share how you can learn to be there for yourself so you can guarantee you’ll never be neglected again.Thank you to my amazing producer, David Ruck.Send me a textWebsite2024-03-0914 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse025: Overcoming Your Fear of ConflictIn a dysfunctional family, rupture and repair, disconnection and reconnection isn’t modeled to you. Conflict is threatening so you betray yourself and work to keep the peace so you can avoid being abandoned. I share from my own life how I’ve overcome this and give you the specific steps for not only engaging in healthy conflict but using it for deeper connection.Thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website2024-03-0528 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse024: Controlled By People’s ExpectationsWhen you’re raised in abuse and neglect, you become very aware of other people’s feelings and needs to keep yourself safer and to get your needs met. You become sensitive to disappointing people or losing their approval or acceptance and that can lead to exhausting yourself trying to meet their expectations. I’ll share the powerful keys for working through that so you’re in control of your own life and can finally care for yourself.Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a textWebsite2024-02-2619 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse023: Learned Helplessness & Taking Back Your LifeChildhood is supposed to prepare you to be an empowered adult but childhood abuse leaves you feeling not only powerless and helpless as a child but throughout your life. The learned helplessness can impact everything from the relationships you settle for to the risks you’re unwilling to take. I’ll share the indications you’re still in learned helplessness and how to own your power and take back control of your life.Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a textWebsite2024-01-2417 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse022: How Childhood Neglect Impacts Your RelationshipsEmotional neglect in childhood has far reaching effects in your life. In fact, most relationship troubles are rooted in the ways you coped with not getting your needs met and the way you learned to attach to people or detach from people. You’ll learn your particular attachment style, not only to transform your relationships, but to heal from the wounds of neglect. To get the masterclass, go to the show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/022Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website2024-01-1639 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse021: 7 Hidden Ways Abuse Teaches You Self-NeglectWith childhood sexual abuse, your needs for protection and nurturing weren’t met. And chances are, the neglect didn’t end in childhood because the way you were treated becomes the way you treat yourself. I’ll share the 7 hidden ways you’re likely perpetuating the cycle of neglect and how to reverse the effects of neglect and abuse. To get the masterclass, go to the show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/021Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website2024-01-0929 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse020: Boundaries With Your Dysfunctional FamilyIf you grew up in dysfunction, it can be very difficult to develop boundaries with your family in adulthood. I’ll share how to overcome the pressures to go along with the way things have been. Then I’ll give you a simple formula for expressing boundaries and some practical tips for thriving during family events. To get the boundaries formula I shared and the boundaries preparation checklist, go to the show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/020Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website2023-12-1429 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse019: Saying Yes When You Mean NoChildhood sexual abuse can lead to perpetual people pleasing even after the abuse ends. I’ll share the damage it causes to yourself and to your relationships and why it’s vital to treat your yes as sacred. I’ll show you the best way to own your no and take back control of your life. For a list of gracious ways to say no, go to the show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/019Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website2023-12-1226 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse018: Deciding to Go No-Contact With FamilyThe relationship with your family of origin is for your survival and well-being. But what if the relationship is actually harmful? At what point is estrangement a good option? I'll share the pros and cons of staying and leaving, the specific ways you can gain more clarity, and the hidden signs that the relationship is actually already over. Show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/018Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a textWebsite2023-12-0520 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse017: Family Loyalty & BetrayalIt can be excruciating to really see the level of betrayal you’ve experienced with childhood sexual abuse. The betrayal wound creates a chasm in all your relationships until you face and heal it. I share my family’s betrayal and how I navigated that as well as how you can heal the wounds in your own life. Show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/017Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website2023-11-2828 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse016: Exposing Your Abuser Part 2In the last episode, I shared the truths behind those internal and external pressures that keep us locked up with the secrets. I ended with my parents hearing about me speaking out and the certified letter from my mother demanding that I stop. We’ll continue with how I processed her threats, the subsequent lawsuit and how you can better protect yourself from the social and legal consequences of exposing your abuser. Show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/016Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website2023-11-1428 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse015: Exposing Your Abuser Part 1There are internal and external pressures to protect your abuser and keep the secret of sexual abuse and speaking out sometimes comes with very real social and legal consequences. I uncover the hidden attitudes and beliefs that position us as protectors of the secrets and lies as I share my process of speaking out. Then I share how to process those things so you’re free to decide if speaking out is best for you. Show notes page: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/015Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text 2023-11-0432 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse014: Finding Your Voice After Being Silenced By AbuseNeglect and abuse make it a matter of survival to not only silence your speaking voice but your internal voice. I share the specific reasons it was survival to shut down your voice, the hidden effects of that now, and how to work through the fear of using your voice so you can regain your power. Go to the show notes page for the free healing resource that accompanies this episode: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/014Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website2023-10-3030 minOvercoming Sexual AbuseBonus: Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse Part 3This bonus episode is a recording from my annual three -day virtual event, Healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse. Today's part three where I'll show you the step-by-step recovery plan using the five pillars of healing so you can live powerfully with the future designed and created by you. To get the workbook, go to: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/masterclass/ Website2023-10-201h 32Overcoming Sexual AbuseBonus: Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse Part 2This bonus episode is a recording from my annual three -day virtual event Healing From childhood Sexual Abuse. Today is part 2 where you'll understand how to identify those hidden beliefs that keep you stuck and learn to use the Empowerment Model to process your painful past and take back control of your life. To get the workbook, go to: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/masterclass/ Website2023-10-191h 01Overcoming Sexual AbuseBonus: Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse Part 1This bonus episode is recording from my annual three -day virtual event, "Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse." Today is part one where you'll gain a new compassion for yourself about those frustrating and defeating coping methods. You'll learn exactly how and why and past trauma keeps you in pain and repeating the past. Because until you know the actual problem, you can't solve it. To get the workbook, go to: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/masterclass/ Website2023-10-161h 02Overcoming Sexual Abuse013: 3 Vital Ways to Care for Yourself As You HealHealing from abuse requires extra time and energy. While we can’t stop regular life to make room for healing, we can make adjustments to create the space that we deserve. I’ll share the 3 most important ways you can care for yourself as you heal so you’re empowered to move forward. Go to the show notes page for the free healing resource that accompanies this episode: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/013Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website2023-09-3029 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse012: How Abuse and Healing Impacted My MarriageThe effects of abuse are particularly felt in an intimate relationship. I’m joined by my husband, Don Enevoldsen, and we share the specific ways abuse affected our marriage and the healing process, and the insights we gained as we navigated through to create stability and true partnership. Go to the show notes page for the free healing resource that accompanies this episode: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/012Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website2023-09-3055 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse011: Taking Back Your Story After AbuseChildhood abuse forces us into a role and story that isn’t our own. If you feel that someone else or some outside force has control over your life, this is how to take back control. You can rewrite your story and create the ending YOU want. Go to the show notes page for the free healing resource that accompanies this episode: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/011Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a textWebsite2023-09-2916 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse010: Soothing the Pain While You HealIf you've started to face your past, you already know that it's very painful. So many survivors think they have to choose between the extremes of being overwhelmed by pain or else avoiding it. I show you how to instantly feel better without relying on unhealthy coping methods so you can follow through with your commitment to heal. Go to the show notes page for the free healing resource that accompanies this episode: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/010Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a textWebsite2023-09-2419 minOvercoming Sexual Abuse009: Reconnecting to Your Inner VoiceIn childhood abuse, shutting down your inner voice is survival, but in adulthood, it's dangerous. I share how you silenced your voice in the first place, why it feels so threatening to hear yourself, and how to work through that fear so you can learn to listen to yourself so you're able to keep yourself safe. Go to the show notes page for the free healing resource that accompanies this episode: https://overcomingsexualabuse.com/009Special thanks to my amazing producer, David Ruck. Send me a text Website2023-09-1829 min