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WOMEN WHO ROCK (The World)The Ultimate Guide for Stepmoms: Expert Advice from a Stepmom Coach Claudette ChenevertBeing a stepmom comes with unique challenges—but you don’t have to navigate them alone! In this episode, I sit down with Claudette, a certified stepmom coach with a degree in psychology of communication, to discuss practical strategies for building strong relationships, setting boundaries, and overcoming common struggles in blended families. Whether you’re a new stepmom or have been in the role for years, this episode is packed with expert insights to help you thrive.2025-04-1452 min
How to Trust YourselfEp 58 My Mentor, The Stepmom Coach: Claudette ChenevertWelcome to today’s episode! I’m so excited to introduce you to my personal coach, Claudette Chenevert, who is also known as The Stepmom Coach. Claudette is a Master Stepfamily Relationship Coach with over 35 years of experience helping stepmothers and their partners build stronger, healthier stepfamilies—one STEP at a time.In addition to her coaching work, Claudette holds a degree in the Psychology of Communication and specializes in stepfamily dynamics and conflict resolution. She’s also the host of the annual Stepfamily Summit, which has been running since 2020, creating a much-needed space for stepfamilies to find con...2025-02-211h 09
The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver288: Blended Holidays With Claudette Chenevert and Lori SimsWelcome to another insightful episode of NK Podcast, where we dive into navigating the complex dynamics of stepfamilies during the holiday season. In this episode, Lori sits down with Claudette Chenover, a seasoned stepmom coach, to discuss the common challenges and emotional hurdles that come with gift-giving and family traditions in blended families. Claudette shares personal anecdotes, including a poignant moment when her sister’s exclusionary gift-giving upset her stepdaughters. They talk about the importance of fairness, managing expectations, and how thoughtful, handmade gifts often create lasting memories. You'll hear practical tips on budgeting, balancing family dynamics, and embracing ex...2024-12-061h 10The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver275: Stepfamily ExpectationsWelcome back to another exciting episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! This is Episode 275, and we have a jam-packed show for you today. I'm your host, David, and as always, I'm joined by the wonderful Lori. We have some thrilling updates and announcements and an insightful conversation about expectations in blended families. We'll kick things off with our upcoming events, starting with a meet and greet in Denver, Colorado. If you're in the area, don't miss this chance to connect with us! Plus, we have a podcast review contest running until the end of September, where you...2024-09-0621 minThe Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver274: The Holidays Are ComingWelcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In this enlightening episode, hosts David and Lori dive deep into the complexities of blended family dynamics just in time for the holiday season. Tune in as they share insights on upcoming events like the 5th Annual Step Family Summit with Claudette Chenevert and the release of exciting challenges such as the Nacho Guided "Change Your Stinking Thinking" Challenge, and a special opportunity for our podcast listeners. Lori and David discuss navigating family gatherings, the intricacies of gift-giving, and managing expectations within stepfamilies. They share practical tips on handling holiday s...2024-08-3025 minThe Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver251: Ruminating In The BlendIn this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, and Claudette Chenevert ~ The Stepmom Coach, talk about ruminating. Rumination is something everyone does. It’s natural . But is it healthy? In this episode, we discuss the following: Ruminating Setting Boundaries as a stepmom/stepdad… heck, as a person 7 Sins of Memory How to handle rumination if it is affecting you negatively Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: ***** 100+ STARS ***** This Nacho stuff works guys! I was ready to walk away. I was losing my mind...2024-03-2247 min
The Ultimate Stepfamily SummitHealing Step Family Wounds: Overcoming Rejection and Abandonment for Self-Confidence and Centered IdentityAli Wilks candidly shares how jealousy and competition in her stepfamily stemmed from her own wounds, rather than from the birth mom.
She discusses the clash between her own wounds and that of her stepdaughter's wounds, which became more pronounced after giving birth to her own daughters.
Ali connects her family history, particularly her mother's experiences, to feelings of unworthiness and abandonment within the stepfamily system.
She admits to intentionally exacerbating tensions within her stepfamily but now focus on empowering other mothers through her work.
Listen to the full interview starting...2023-09-0802 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitLetting Go of Control: A Step by Step Guide to Embracing Life's Magical UnfoldingsAnna de Acosta, an intuitive guide for women who care for others, shares her personal journey as a stepmom coach and her transition into a new phase of coaching.
She opens up about her relationship with her husband, their beautiful blended family, and their upcoming move from Canada back to Peru.
Throughout the interview, Anna delves into the importance of navigating uncertainty, the significance of following your intuition, and the magical unfolding of life when we let go of societal fears.
She offers valuable insights on managing transitions, supporting children during change, and...2023-09-0802 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitRecognizing Triggers: Normalizing Stepfamily Challenges for Growth and HealingBrittney Phillips discusses common triggers that stepmoms face in their relationships.
These triggers include feeling excluded or rejected by stepchildren, as well as dealing with jealousy, resentment, and insecurity.
Challenging dynamics, such as co-parenting with an ex-partner, can also be triggering.
Different parenting styles and unresolved emotional issues from previous relationships can further complicate stepfamily dynamics.
Brittney shares her personal experience of finding healing opportunities in her remarriage.
The conversation focuses on the importance of mindfulness and self-awareness when dealing with triggers.
Brittney shares physical sensations she...2023-09-0801 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitReshaping Stepfamilies: How a Growth Mindset Can Transform Your Family DynamicsClaudette begins by sharing how her son didn’t see himself as a family and how this got her to think of different approaches to defining stepfamilies.
She emphasizes the importance of explaining complex concepts in a language that children can understand. The discussion shifts to the challenges of applying a growth mindset in stepfamilies and breaking stereotypes about broken families.
Claudette highlights the importance of seeing stepfamilies as a different kind of family and creating a supportive environment for all members.
They delve into the two types of mindsets, fixed and growth, an...2023-09-0802 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitThe Road Map to Reversing Parental Alienation: Simple Steps for Reuniting FamiliesGinger Gentile, shares her personal journey of overcoming parental alienation and using her experiences to advocate for change.
Motivated to create awareness and provoke discussion, Ginger made a powerful film called "Erasing Dad," which premiered in Argentina in 2014. The film sparked conversations around parental alienation, leading to the passing of joint custody legislation in Argentina.
After returning to the United States, Ginger recognized the importance of social media in spreading awareness and decided to make a follow-up film titled "Erasing Family." This film explores how parental alienation affects children and follows young children as they...2023-09-0801 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitFrom Nitpicking to Nurturing: Learning to Focus on the Big Picture in Blended FamiliesHeidi Farrell emphasizes the importance of prioritizing relationships over small issues, recounting her own journey of letting go of a long-standing driving issue with her stepson and focusing on building a strong connection instead.
Heidi also highlights the importance of having a big-picture mindset, forgiveness, and grace towards oneself and others. She asserts the need for setting boundaries in the home and encourages reflection on personal growth. The episode explores the challenges that stepmoms face, including negative thoughts, fixating on problems, and feeling desperate or bitter.
Heidi invites listeners to shift their mindset to the...2023-09-0802 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitThriving in Parenthood: Clear Roles, Responsibilities, and CommunicationJason Kreidman of Dad University discusses the power of empathy in parenting.
Addressing a common concern among dads, Jason explores the role of fathers as disciplinarians and provides suggestions on fulfilling this role without relying solely on the mom or stepmom.
He shares personal experiences as a recovering yeller and complainer, emphasizing the importance of open communication and setting clear expectations and responsibilities within relationships and households.
Jason also discusses the power of positive affirmations, expressing gratitude, and offering constructive feedback instead of criticism.
He believes that men, in particular, want...2023-09-0801 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitNavigating High Conflict: Cultivating Flexible Thinking for Positive Stepfamily RelationshipsJayna Haney discusses the importance of taking responsibility and owning our own power, rather than placing blame on others. We'll explore the concept that our thoughts create our reality.
Drawing from her experience and expertise, Jayna guides us through the traits of high conflict people and the impact they can have on stepfamily and co-parenting dynamics.
We'll learn how these individuals struggle with all or nothing thinking, unmanaged emotions, extreme behaviors, and their aversion to taking responsibility.
During our interview, Jayna provides practical strategies to combat high conflict by promoting flexibility, managing emotions...2023-09-0802 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitParenting in Blended Families: Successes, Failures, and Lessons LearnedKrista Giovara opens up about making mistakes, learning from them, and how her journey as a stepparent has been a valuable lesson.
Krista delves into the challenges she faced in her blended family, including different expectations, rules, and morals between her and her partner. They sought therapy to address these issues and found new ways to connect, such as engaging in "mocktail hours" to focus on positive things and giving each other long hugs.
Krista also discusses the unique bonding experience her children had when their respective parents and stepparents became friends and started spending...2023-09-0802 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitOvercoming Challenges as a Stepmom: Insights from the "Smart StepmomLaura Petherbridge, also known as the "smart stepmom," discusses the challenges of being a stepmom.
Laura talks about how stepmothers struggle to balance different roles in different stages of the journey and often fear angering their partners or appearing unloving to their stepchildren.
She emphasizes the need to set healthy boundaries and communicate effectively with the biological parents, and dispels the negative stereotype of the stepmom portrayed on social media.
Laura encourages stepmoms to find supportive communities and control their thoughts and mindset and suggests focusing on fulfilling a unique purpose for the...2023-09-0701 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitRedefining Roles and Relationship Dynamics in Stepfamilies: A Journey of GrowthDavid and Lori Sims of the Nacho Kids Academy, discuss the challenges faced by step-parents or non-biological parents in building a relationship with the child, and they share their personal journey of reevaluating their roles and redefining their relationship dynamics. This led to new approaches that worked well for them and inspired Lori to help other stepfamilies facing similar issues.
During the interview we discuss the importance of acknowledging and allowing oneself to feel emotions in order to respond to situations more appropriately and healthily. Taking time to process emotions can create a pause and prevent impulsive...2023-09-0701 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitBuilding a Strong Foundation: Addressing Concerns and Misunderstandings in Blended FamiliesDr. Mary Anne Gunter discusses the challenges and dynamics of blended families.
She delves into the issue of parentifying children and the impact it can have on their well-being.
She emphasizes the importance of not burdening children with adult issues and instead seeking support from healthy adults.
The conversation also coveres the effects of trauma on children and the need for appropriate support and counseling.
Dr. Mary Anne addresses the fears and concerns that children may have in blended families, such as worrying about losing their biological parent or accepting a...2023-09-0702 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitProtecting Your Mental Energy: Techniques to Stop Ruminating on Exes and Focus on Your Current RelationshipMary T. Kelly, a marriage and family therapist dives into the unique challenges faced by stepmoms and how traditional therapy may not always provide adequate guidance.
Mary shares the tendency for stepmoms to feel overlooked and the negative associations that come with the term "stepmom."
During the interview, Mary explores various topics, including the preoccupation with exes, the importance of setting boundaries, the need for respectful communication within relationships, and the complexities of parenting in blended families.
Mary emphasizes the significance of self-care and highlights the struggles that divorced fathers face in their...2023-09-0701 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitEmpowerment and Self-Care: Strategies for Stepmoms to Take Charge of Their LivesMeg Burton Tudman shares her experience of prioritizing external validation over her own desires, leading her to a place of severe depression and anxiety after being fired from her job.
Through introspection and therapy, she discovered the importance of mastering her mindset and finding alignment to live a life she truly loves.
Meg highlights the uniqueness of perception and the power of valuing ourselves and communicating our needs to others.
She encourages moments of pause and shares activities like meditation, journaling, and deep breathing to reset our mindset.
Meg emphasizes the...2023-09-0701 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitNurturing Strengths, Reclaiming Peace: Understanding How Anxiety Hijacks Our PotentialDr. Michaela Bucchianeri, shares valuable insights and strategies for navigating the challenges of stepmotherhood.
Anxiety, Michaela reveals, serves a function by keeping us safe and prepared for the future. However, it can also hijack our strengths and manifest in negative ways such as rumination or excessive checking. The goal is to notice how anxiety hijacks our strengths and find ways to nurture and reclaim them.
Michaela discusses the different manifestations of anxiety, including diagnosable anxiety disorders such as generalized anxiety disorder, specific phobias, OCD, and panic disorder. It is important to note that anxiety is...2023-09-0703 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitHelping Stepdads Understand the Challenges of Blended FamiliesMike Haney shares his expertise and insights on the unique challenges that stepdads face in blended families.
Mike, an experienced stepfather himself, understands the complexities of navigating relationships within a stepfamily and is passionate about helping men understand their roles and improve their blended family dynamics.
Throughout the interview, Mike shares the importance of the man and woman's relationship, building emotional bonds with stepchildren, addressing loyalty conflicts, and so much more.
Whether you're a stepdad seeking guidance or simply interested in learning about stepfamily dynamics, this interview is for you.
Don’t...2023-09-0702 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitBreaking the Cycle: Overcoming Feelings of Outsider Syndrome in Stepfamily RelationshipsMonica Chaney shares her insights and personal journey as a stepmom, offering valuable advice and support to our listeners.
Monica explores the dynamics within a stepfamily and the complicated emotions that can arise when attention shifts from one parent to another. Monica delves into the importance of setting boundaries, communicating expectations, and understanding the root of our beliefs and attitudes.
She also discusses the overwhelming feeling of being an outsider and how it impacts stepmoms. Monica sensitively explores the negative effects of this mindset and offers empowering strategies for self-compassion, self-care, and creating new routines.2023-09-0700 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitNavigating Transitions: Challenges and Strategies for StepfamiliesDr. Sonia Cann-Milland talks about the importance of acknowledging and challenging one's feelings and thoughts during transitions.
It's okay to feel a mix of emotions, including sadness, relief, and guilt, when leaving your step/children. She emphasizes the need to examine the narrative and mindset one is operating on and reflect on what went well and what didn't go so well during the road trip with the kids.
The connection between thoughts, feelings, and bodily reactions in relation to worry and anxiety is explored, and self-care activities such as walking the dog or releasing energy...2023-09-0702 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitStepmom vs. Biomom: The Easy Targets of Stepfamily BlameSusan Haworth discusses stepfamily dynamics and the importance of taking responsibility for one's own emotions and actions.
We explore the common tendency to blame the bio mom for stepchildren's behavior and how both stepmoms and biomoms are often easy targets for blame in stepfamily situations.
The interview highlights the need to own and process emotions to avoid negative impacts on relationships.
Forgiveness is also emphasized as crucial in stepparenting, including forgiving oneself and others for their actions.
The discussion then shifts to handling relationships with ex-partners, emphasizing the importance of setting...2023-09-0702 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitConsidered Listening: The Key to Effective Communication and Growth in RelationshipsSusan Lancaster discusses the importance of consideration and effective communication in relationships.
She highlights how lack of consideration and unhealthy discourse can disrupt relationships and hinder growth.
Susan delves into the impact of thoughts and emotions on our ability to listen and understand, and emphasizes the need for active listening and understanding in a relationship. She suggests putting aside our own emotions and interpretations to fully focus on what the other person is saying.
The ultimate goal is to encourage a shift in mindset towards growth and a shared vision for the future...2023-09-0701 minThe Ultimate Stepfamily SummitTrailer - Loneliness in Stepmotherhood: Finding Identity and Overcoming ComparisonDrawing parallels to a training ground for individuation, Tracy Poizner highlights the importance of owning one's identity without relying on external validation or comparison.
While acknowledging the potential scariness of this concept, Tracy emphasizes the great opportunities that can arise. In the age of social media and societal pressures, detaching from comparison and conformity is crucial.
Listeners are encouraged to create their own rules and give themselves permission to take charge of their own lives.
Loneliness is identified as one of the hardest parts of being a stepmom. Tracy highlights the difficulty of...2023-09-0701 min
In the blendMy Favourite Tip #11 - Meaningful Connections With Grandkids Is What MattersBeing a grandparent in a blended family can generate all sorts of dynamics depending on your situation. Claudette Chenevert, otherwise known as the Stepmom Coach and I discussed many of these at length when we sat down for our chat covering topics relevant for grandparents who find themselves in blended families.One of the tips she shared during that conversation was about the importance of cherishing the time you have with your grandchildren, even if it's not as much as you'd like. She says quality moments together can make a profound impact on their lives, and she...2023-08-0106 min
In the blendGenerations United: The Role of Grandparents in Blended FamiliesIn this episode, we dive deep into the important topic of grandparents in blended families and are fortunate to have Claudette Chenevert, also known as The Stepmom Coach, joining us as our special guest.During our chat we explore the significant role that grandparents play in the dynamic and ever-evolving world of blended families and Claudette shares her vast personal and professional expertise and insights on the subject.We delve into:the crucial role that grandparents can play in supporting the co-parenting relationship between their adult child and their ex-partnerthe delicate balance...2023-06-2827 minIn the blendPREVIEW: Generations United: The Role of Grandparents in Blended FamiliesIn this episode, we dive deep into the important topic of grandparents in blended families and are fortunate to have Claudette Chenevert, also known as The Stepmom Coach, joining us as our special guest.During our chat we explore the significant role that grandparents play in the dynamic and ever-evolving world of blended families and Claudette shares her vast personal and professional expertise and insights on the subject.We delve into:the crucial role that grandparents can play in supporting the co-parenting relationship between their adult child and their ex-partnerthe delicate balance...2023-06-2800 minThe Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver203: Adult Stepkids With Lori Sims & Claudette ChenevertIn this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, chats with Claudette Chenevert - The Stepmom Coach! Claudette and Lori both have bio kids and adult stepkids. Stepparents often think things will magically get better when the stepkid turns 18. This may be the case if the stepparent’s partner, the bio parent, is paying child support. Other than that, at 18, there is no magic wand, the stepkids don’t disappear into adult land, and if the bio parent has guilty parent syndrome, that won’t change either. In this episode, we discuss...2023-04-211h 09
January Jones sharing Success StoriesJanuary Jones - R U a Step-Mom? You're NOT My Mom! with Claudette ChenevertYou're Not My Mom!
R U a Step Mom?
Claudette Chenevert
So many stepmoms hear these words "You're Not My Mom!" and yet 1300 new stepfamilies are formed every day.
Unfortunately, 66% of these marriages will end in divorce in less than 7 years.
The good news is there are ways to merge families together so that they can create a strong relationship.2022-10-0930 min
January Jones sharing Success StoriesJanuary Jones - R U a Step-Mom? You're NOT My Mom! with Claudette ChenevertJanuary Jones - R U a Step-Mom? You're NOT My Mom! with Claudette Chenevert
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So many stepmoms hear these words "You're Not My Mom!" and yet 1300 new stepfamilies are formed every day.
Unfortunately, 66% of these marriages will end in divorce in less than 7 years.
The good news is there are ways to merge families together so that they can create a strong relationship.2022-09-2130 min
"What's Next? Conversations with Boomers"Step-Kids + Step-Grandkids = A Whole Lotta LoveSend us a textJuggling children, step-children and all the challenges that blended families encounter is our guest's forté. This week, Claudette Chenevert, a step-mom veteran of 30+ years and the infamous "Step-mom Coach," joins Barb in this enlightening conversation about how to navigate the world of step-parenting.Find out more about Claudette here:https://stepmomcoach.com/Find Barb on Instagram @barbjanetFind Barb on Instagram @barbjanet .If you like our show, make sure you follow us on your favourite Podcast player. Feel free to rate and review our sh...2022-06-2236 min