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The Blue Stiley PodcastWhen the Old You Stops Working Build a New One with Cletus CoffeyWhat if true growth isn’t about pushing harder—but about finally being honest with yourself?For Cletus Coffey, that moment of honesty came after life had already knocked him down—career setbacks, divorce, and the painful realization that he was the common denominator of it all.That epiphany didn’t end him. It woke him up to do the internal work most people avoid.A former pro athlete turned high-performance coach, Cletus traded the number on the scoreboard for something deeper: a commitment to live life on his own terms. In this episode, we talk about letting go of what y...
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Modern MasculinityWhy Some Successful Men Still Feel Empty Inside with Cletus CoffeyCletus Coffey, former professional athlete turned men's coach, shares his journey from hiding behind athletic identity to discovering authentic masculinity. After a four-year career in the Canadian Football League and Arena Football League, Cletus faced an identity crisis when his career ended at 28. Through two divorces, single fatherhood with three children, and toxic relationships, he learned that true strength comes from vulnerability, not performance. Cletus discusses the epidemic of men suffering in silence, the importance of morning routines for single fathers, how triggers reveal unhealed wounds, and why most men struggle to answer "who are you?" without mentioning career...
2025-11-0746 min
Be The TorchHow to Tell If You’re Headed for Divorce, Burnout, or a Business BreakdownDude, you don’t need a psychic to predict the future, you just need the balls to look in the mirror. In this episode, Cletus Coffey exposes how your current habits, beliefs, and standards quietly predict whether you’ll face divorce, burnout, or business collapse. You’ll learn how to read the signs, raise your standards, and stop the breakdown before it happens. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you...
2025-10-0633 minBe The TorchYou Mad Bro? Squash Anger Today, Before Your Kids Copy ItYou snap at your kids? Lose it with your partner? Let pressure dictate your decisions? It’s not about them my friend. It’s about you. And if you don’t get this under control, you’ll burn trust, connection, and energy that you can’t afford to lose.In this episode of the Be The Torch Podcast, Cletus Coffey shares the Torch Treatment™A 7-step recalibration tool that helps you regulate your emotions, stop reacting from old patterns, and start leading from power and presence.Discover:How triggers sabo...
2025-09-1923 minBe The TorchYour Kids, Your Business, and YOU… All Getting ScrewedThe Impossible Triangle That’s Screwing You..and Everyone Else If you’re a divorced dad running a business, you’ve been sold a lie that you can give 100% to your business, 100% to your kids, and 100% to yourself. The math doesn't add up. It’s impossible, and it’s killing you.In this episode of Be The Torch, I break down the brutal reality of the “Impossible Triangle” every divorced dad entrepreneur faces—business, kids, and rebuilding yourself—and why trying to “balance” them will burn you out.We’ll walk through:Why “ba...
2025-08-1427 minBe The TorchWhy Focusing On Your Third Leg Matters In Business And LifeAre you struggling to balance business, fatherhood, and your own healing post-divorce or as a single dad?You’re trying to be a great father, a successful business owner, and somehow rebuild your life after divorce. But something keeps breaking down.That something… is you.In this episode breaks down:Why the “balance” myth is a lie keeping men stuckThe dangerous role-playing identities that lead to burnoutHow to stop fighting with your ex and start leading your lifeThe hidden cost of victim thinking and ego-driven decisionsIf you feel like you’re pulled...
2025-07-2435 minBe The TorchThe Legacy Lie: Why Your Money & Business Won't Set Your Kids FreeMost men believe that the best legacy they can leave behind is financial—wealth, inheritance, or handing over the family business. But here's the truth: that mindset might be hurting your children more than helping them.In this episode, I reveal the three powerful shifts every man must make if he truly wants to leave a legacy of freedom, fulfillment, and happiness:Possibility Over WealthCharacter Over ComfortFreedom Over SecurityYour kids didn’t come here to repeat your path. They came to learn their own lessons, through their own struggle, setbacks, and...
2025-06-2632 minBe The TorchDivorced, Distracted, and Drowning in Business? Here's How to Reclaim Your PowerDivorced. Distracted. Drowning in business? If that’s you, and you’re tired of pretending everything’s fine while secretly struggling to keep it all together—this episode is your roadmap back to power.I reveal:- The 3 lies every divorced dad entrepreneur believes- The framework that rebuilt my life after burnout- How to lead from peace, not pressure🔥 Join the FREE 5-Day Master Your Morning Challenge:http://bethetorch.com/challenge Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?
2025-06-1328 minBe The TorchStop Betraying Yourself: For Men Who Suck at Setting BoundariesBrother, if you feel constantly drained, overwhelmed, or pulled in a million directions, this episode is a must listen. I drop the hammer on one of the biggest silent killers of self-respect, productivity, and peace: poor boundaries.Whether it's your ex (co-parent), your clients, your employees, or even your kids—if you can’t hold the line, you’re not leading. You’re leaking energy. You’re betraying yourself. And your business, family, and sanity are paying the price.You’ll learn:The brutal truth about why you feel frustrated and burnt outA simple 3...
2025-06-0524 minBe The TorchYour Business Is Stuck Because You Are (Men Don't Want to Hear This)The success of your business is a direct reflection of YOU. In this episode, I’m calling out the trap most entrepreneurial single dads fall into: building a business at the cost of their health, relationships, and peace of mind.I break down:Why building a business before building yourself is a dead-endHow your current struggles are mirrors—not roadblocksThe 5 areas of self-mastery that drive true growthHow to stop being chained to your business and start leading your lifeThis isn’t about doing more. It’s about becoming the man who can handle more....
2025-05-1028 min
The Ambitious Bookkeeper Podcast196 ⎸ The Comeback Blueprint: What Every Ambitious Man Needs to Hear with Cletus CoffeySend us a textIn this powerful episode of The Ambitious Bookkeeper Podcast, Serena Shoup chats with Cletus Coffey, former pro athlete, single dad, and founder of Torch Training. Cletus shares his remarkable journey from professional sports to entrepreneurial failures to finding his authentic purpose through personal transformation.In this episode you’ll hear:Cletus's journey from pro athlete to struggling entrepreneur to finding true alignmentPractical frameworks for balancing ambition, family, and personal growthHow to break free from achievement addiction and redefine success beyond the "scoreboard"The importance of ma...
2025-04-2340 minBe The Torch#1 Mistake Single Dad Business Owners Will Sadly Make in 2025No really...The #1 Investment in Your Business is You. Most men think if they grind harder and make more money, their business will thrive. The truth? Your business can’t outgrow the man running it.In this episode, I lay down the hard truth: if you’re out of alignment, your business is too. Whether it’s your relationships, your mindset, or your energy—you are the single biggest investment in your company.You’ll learn:Why chasing money first is killing your alignment.How your personal energy sets the to...
2025-04-1831 minBe The TorchThe Leadership Lie That’s Bleeding Your Business DryIn this episode, I break down the 3 hidden power leaks that are silently sabotaging your leadership and business. If you’re a business-owning single father who’s tired of burnout, pressure, and underperformance...this one's for you. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you: Discover what one single dad, who owns...
2025-04-1128 minBe The TorchWhy Happy Wife, Happy Life is Holding Your Business BackWhy Happy Wife, Happy Life is Holding Your Business Back is not for weak men. This is for men who want to feel loved, find happiness, meaning and purpose in their lives. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you: Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful bu...
2025-04-0323 minBe The Torch3 Signs Your Morning Routine Is Killing You (Single Dad Edition)Your morning routine might be the silent killer of your energy, focus, and freedom.You’re just too afraid to admit it.You know damn well that tapping your phone, slurping coffee, and shoveling garbage in your mouth is NOT the way a man who’s on a mission starts his day.Yet your body and mind? It’s addicted. Conditioned.You’ve become a prisoner to your weakness before the sun even comes up.This isn’t about motivation. This is about discipline. And in this episo...
2025-03-2629 minBe The TorchREAL Men Don’t Get Triggered (Are YOU Ready to Quit?)If you clicked on this episode, respect to you. Most men won’t even approach this conversation because they’re afraid of what they’ll find inside themselves.The truth is, when you get triggered, it’s not about THEM. It’s about YOU.Your partner makes a comment, your kids push your buttons, someone at work challenges you...and boom, you react. Are you tired of that experience? Tired of the impact it's making on those you lead?You know you can do better, but don't know how?A man w...
2025-03-1124 minBe The TorchWhy Your Achievements Will Never Make You HappyMen are taught from a young age that success equals happiness. The belief that if they grind harder, make more money, and achieve more, they’ll finally feel fulfilled. But what happens when you check all the boxes—business, money, relationships, status—and still feel empty?In this episode, we’re breaking down the biggest lie about success and why your achievements aren’t making you happy. You’ll learn:✅ Why external accomplishments don’t lead to fulfillment✅ The difference between experiencing and achieving✅ How to shift f...
2025-03-0523 minBe The Torch#1 Challenge Most Men Will Never Have the Courage to Face...Will You?In this powerful episode of the Be The Torch Podcast, I reveal the key to transforming every area of your life: understanding that everything you experience is a reflection of who you are inside. From your relationships with your partner, co-parent, and kids, to your results in business...Everything stems from your thoughts, beliefs, fears, and insecurities. I walk you through the truth that men rarely acknowledge, yet once recognized, it becomes the single most powerful tool for creating lasting success and fulfillment in all areas of life. Learn how to t...
2025-02-2044 minBe The TorchAI vs. Authentic Intelligence: The Real Secret to Standing Out in Marketing#80 AI vs. Authentic Intelligence: The Real Secret to Standing Out in Marketing is a fresh take on the mad rush to adopt AI. Yep, AI is here to stay and while it's a viable tool, it is not the ultimate solution for your business. Learn the power of having a foundation of Authentic Intelligence to attract customer who will stay with you for the long haul. In this episode, I explore:The difference between AI and Authentic Intelligence in marketing.Why showing up authentically is key to building trust, loyalty, and long-term relationships.How embracing your t...
2025-02-1434 minBe The TorchTurning 50: Top 5 Powerful Life Lessons For 50 Year Old Single DadsI'm turning 50! It wasn't easy, however I share the top 5 lessons I've learned in my first 50 years of life that all men, single dads, and entrepreneurs can benefit from. Whether you’re looking to take control of your mornings, build meaningful relationships, or create a thriving business, this episode is packed with valuable insights that can help you level up in every area of life. Thank you for the opportunity to share the powerful lessons I've learned. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?S...
2025-01-3140 minBe The TorchTransformation vs. Change: The Truth Behind Goals Setting That All Men Must LearnMen Need Transformation—Not Just ChangeIn this powerful episode of Be The Torch, I expose the biggest mistake ambitious single dads make: focusing on quick-fix changes instead of deep transformation. If you’re ready to move past superficial, short-term wins and finally experience true freedom, fulfillment, and success in your health, relationships, and business, tune in. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips...
2025-01-1735 minBe The Torch#1 Thing a Woman Should Give a Man (Not What You Think)In this episode of Be The Torch, Cletus Coffey challenges the popular notion that a woman’s top job is to give her man unconditional loyalty. Instead, he reveals why this demand stems from unhealed trauma and misguided masculine posturing—and how true loyalty, respect, and love can be experienced. If you’re a single dad wondering how to build a healthy, fulfilling relationship without the macho BS, this episode is for you. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with C...
2025-01-0324 minBe The Torch3 Types of Single Dads - Which One Are You?In this episode of Be The Torch, I breakdown three common archetypes single dad entrepreneurs fall into—Victim, Fan, and Torchbearer—and how to break free from old outdated broken patterns that are keeping you stuck.I'm a former athlete so I use a powerful sports analogy, to help you learn how to recognize your current state of affairs, shift your mindset, and step into your true authentic role as a leader in your family, business, and life.If you are single dad business owner, hit play now! Looking for more training to unlo...
2024-12-2024 minBe The TorchWhy Men Need to Stop "Taking Care of Their Responsibilities."Is it true that men need to stop "taking care of their responsibilities." In this world where there expectation is that men must take care of their responsibilities, we are losing men. They are losing themselves. Men are lost, broken, exhausted, and in the process of producing, performing, and providing are taking less and less responsibility for themselves. It's time for radical transformation. In this episode of the Be The Torch podcast, I explore the concept of reframing the common phrase 'take care of your responsibilities' to help men lead more fulfilling lives. I d...
2024-12-1318 minBe The TorchDating as a Single Dad: The Game-Changing Path to Finally Finding Your SoulmateWARNING! Do not attempt to go out into the dating world, as a single dad, until you have learned this game-changing strategy for not just finding love, but your soulmate. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you: Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did t...
2024-11-2839 minBe The TorchThe Hustle Trap Most Men and Business Owners Are Stuck In - And How to Break Free!In this episode of Be The Torch, Cletus Coffey calls out entrepreneurs stuck in the hustle and grind, and shows how to step into their power by redefining their role in business—and life. Creatively crafted through the language of sports, discover how to level up from being the overwhelmed, overworked athlete/player to the true owner of your business. 🎙 What You'll Learn:[00:02:45] The surprising connection between sports and entrepreneurship[00:07:30] Why most business owners are stuck thinking like employees[00:13:15] The five roles in the "business-as-sport" framework[00:20:10] How to identify your current role—and what it means...
2024-11-1525 minBe The TorchWhy Your Orgasms and Vacations Are Holding You Back From the Freedom You Actually SeekIn this powerful episode of Be The Torch, Cletus Coffey dives into a topic often reserved for women’s podcasts—orgasms—and explores how they, along with vacations, are meant to release tension and stress, but in the big picture of life are only fleeting moments of relief that are keeping men stuck.. Discover a new approach to living a life of daily freedom, presence, and pleasure beyond these temporary escapes. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus
2024-10-3123 minBe The TorchThe Trap of Prioritizing Everyone Else Over Yourself—How to Break FreeDo you sometimes feel like you’re carrying a heavy load and no one really knows how hard it is?In this episode of the Be The Torch podcast, I dive into the widespread struggle men face when they place all their energy into their relationships, children, and businesses—without nurturing their own purpose. As a single father and entrepreneur, I get it, I too lost myself in my responsibilities and and had to shift my focus inward to unlock a new level of fulfillment and freedom.Tune in to discover:Why making your fami...
2024-10-0722 minBe The TorchThe Hidden Pain of Driven Men: Signs, Struggles, and SolutionsIf you are a man in pain, struggling, feeling broken and need someone to talk with, please do not hesitate to dial 988. An anonymous call to talk it out with someone. In this episode of the Be The Torch Podcast, we dive into the often overlooked struggles of high-performing men. Whether you're a man living this experience, or someone who loves and supports a man, this conversation sheds light on the silent battles men face. From external success to internal turmoil, we'll uncover why men feel broken, disconnected, and lost despite appearing to "win" on the scoreboard o...
2024-09-1229 minBe The Torch3 Keys for Becoming the Best Version of Yourself Today!Ever feel like you don't have enough time to be a parent AND a business owner? Would you believe that if your focus is primarily on your business and your children, you are cheating everyone, including yourself, out of a life worth living. In this episode of the Be The Torch podcast, Cletus Coffey dives deep into what you should REALLY be focused on so that you can live the life you truly desire and lead others in your life and business. If you’re an entrepreneurial dad striving for more freedom, flexibility, and fulfillment in all are...
2024-09-0421 minBe The TorchOlympic Hangover: What the 100 Meter Dash Can Teach Men About Success in Life and BusinessDo you have an Olympic Hangover like I do?In this Olympic edition of the Be The Torch podcast, I dive into the lessons from the track and field events, particularly the men's 100-meter dash. If you’re feeling the Olympic hangover and missing the excitement, this episode will give you a fresh perspective on how the principles of sprinting apply directly to your journey as a man, father, and entrepreneur.I share insights as a former collegiate decathlete and masters world champion, breaking down the four key phases of the 100-meter dash and how th...
2024-08-3041 minBe The TorchHow Attract a Healthy Relationship: A Guide for Single FathersWelcome to the Be The Torch podcast with your host, Cletus Coffey. In this episode, we dive deep into the journey of self-mastery for men, focusing on the power, purpose, passion, and play that lead to true freedom and fulfillment.If you're a single father and an entrepreneur, seeking growth in all areas of life, this episode is for you.We'll explore the importance of healing, building meaningful relationships, and taking ownership of your life to attract and maintain a healthy, fulfilling partnership. Cletus shares his personal story of transformation, offering insights and...
2024-08-2236 minBe The TorchHow to Master Communication for Entrepreneurs, Fathers, and LeadersIn this episode of the Be The Torch podcast, we dive deep into the art of communication—an essential skill for any entrepreneur, father, or leader. Join us as we explore the three core steps that can transform your business, relationships, and personal life. Learn how to communicate authentically, correct effectively, and shift behavior for better outcomes in every area of your life.Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction: Why communication is vital for entrepreneurs and fathers.[02:15] The overlooked importance of investing in communication skills.[04:50] Personal story: How poor communication impacted my...
2024-08-1534 minBe The Torch3 Reasons Why Single Fathers, Who Run a Business, Must Unlock Their True PurposeIn this important episode, we address a segment of men who do not have much support, resources or community to help them grow and evolve. Single Fathers who own and run businesses.We explore the unique challenges single fathers face and outline a roadmap to transform their lives. This episode serves as a bridge, connecting practical strategies with the ultimate goal of achieving a fulfilling life. Join us as we dive deep into why single fathers need specialized support and how they can ignite their inner fire to become the torch in their own lives.
2024-08-0830 minBe The TorchFrom Overwhelmed to Empowered: Mastering the Power of Presence for High-Achieving Men - Power of Personal Culture #5Struggling to balance entrepreneurship, fatherhood, and personal fulfillment? This episode is your game-changer.Episode Highlights:Episode 5 of the "Power of Personal Culture" series, emphasizing the importance of presence in achieving life’s true fulfillment.Insight into Cletus’s personal struggles and how his experiences as a former professional athlete informed his approach to personal culture and presence.The critical shift from focusing on outcomes and achievements to being present and enjoying the process. How the relentless pursuit of success and perfection, inherited from an athlete’s mindset...
2024-05-2036 minBe The TorchEntrepreneurship Redefined: Profit Strategies for Single Fathers - Power of Personal Culture #4Transform your business and life by learning the power of profits. It's time to value your worth!Episode Highlights:Introduction to the fourth element of personal culture: Profits.Common pitfalls business owners face: not paying themselves and undervaluing their worth.Personal insights from Cletus Coffey on transitioning from professional athletics to business.The importance of shifting from a hustle mindset to a profit-focused strategy.Steps to understand your financial truth: assessing income, debts, and spending.Taking ownership and responsibility for your financial situation.Overcoming the challenges of operating from a...
2024-05-2020 minBe The TorchThe Power of Personal Culture #3: PeopleHey it's Cletus Coffey, bringing you the another episode on Personal Culture. In this episode, we're tackling #3 of the Power 5 of Personal Culture and its a crucial aspect: people. Here are the highlights:Leading Yourself to Lead Others: As high achievers and entrepreneurs, we often have a lot of people counting on us – whether it's in business, at home, or in our communities. But here's the kicker: if we're not leading ourselves effectively, we're failing those who rely on us.Authenticity is Key: Being a great boss, partner, or friend isn't just about ticking of...
2024-04-2516 min