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The Devil You Don’t KnowStop Trying To Figure It OutSend us a textEver feel like you’re doing mental gymnastics to “figure it out,” only to wind up more anxious and less present? From a windy couch in Naples, we unpack the modern obsession with certainty and why it keeps us looping instead of living. We draw a clear line between problems to solve and mysteries to live—think broken appliances versus identity, timing, love, and purpose—and share how attachment to outcomes quietly fuels stress.Cleveland shares how leaving a corporate job without a perfect plan led to more freedom than endless planning e...
2026-01-0749 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowThe Uncomfortable Truth: How Modern Life Keeps Us AsleepSend us a textEver feel like life is happening on autopilot while you chase the next tiny hit of relief? We pull back the curtain on how consumer culture, constant comparison, and the productivity trap quietly sedate our attention and sell us a thinner version of happiness. Cleveland and Lindsay share candid stories—from quitting the 9-to-5 to navigating boundaries, from social media’s highlight reel to the wellness industry’s pricey promises—and map a path back to a life you can actually feel.We break down the difference between pleasure and happiness, why perf...
2025-12-1546 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowWendy Correa Author of My Pretty Baby: How One Woman Rewrote Her Story And Broke The CycleSend us a textWhat happens when your family’s secrets become the script your body follows? We invited author Wendy Correa to share the story behind her memoir, My Pretty Baby, and the result is an honest, generous conversation about childhood grief, domestic volatility, and the slow, steady work of healing. From losing her father at seven to navigating a stepfamily shaped by fear and intermittent warmth, Wendy traces how unspoken pain wires our biology—and how breath, therapy, and brave storytelling can rewire it.We dig into narrative therapy and the power of sens...
2025-10-261h 07The Devil You Don’t KnowUndoing the Us vs. Them: The Trap of Toxic OtheringSend us a textLindsay and Cleveland dive into the concept of toxic othering and how it affects our relationships and society at large, exploring practical ways to bridge divides through mindfulness and self-awareness.• The problem of "othering" creates division between groups based on race, religion, politics, and personal beliefs• Why we judge and isolate others: learned behaviors from childhood and society• How othering creates two prisons - one for the "othered" and one for those doing the othering• The damage caused by dehumanizing people with different beliefs or backgrounds• The RAIN techn...
2025-09-2940 min
The Brunswick Group Therapy PodcastE119: Fast and FuriousEpisode 119 is here!Lucas goes at it solo and this week he's got:✅ A mystery donor wipes out $3,550 in Brunswick Schools’ lunch debt 🍎✅ Brunswick High seniors named National Merit semifinalists 🎓✅ Fat Bob’s pizza delivery comes with… maybe a love connection? 🍕❤️✅ Updates on The Secret at Center and the Market 42 parking saga 🚗✅ Tons of local events: hayrides, craft fairs, live music, free festivals & more 🎶🎃Mentions include:Brunswick City School DistrictFat Bobs PizzaSecret at CenterExurb TowingMarket 42H...
2025-09-1817 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowRise Above the Script: Why Your Brain Fights Your Biggest Breakthroughs a Conversation with Albert Bramante PhDSend us a textHave you ever found yourself on the verge of a breakthrough only to sabotage your progress? You're not alone. In this deeply insightful conversation with Dr. Albert Bramante, performance psychologist, talent agent, and author of "Rise Above the Script," we explore the hidden narratives that keep even the most talented individuals stuck.Our brains are hardwired for comfort and safety—evolutionary adaptations that once protected us but now hold us back. Dr. Bramante reveals why we often fear success more than failure: success disrupts our identity, changes our relationships, and brings ne...
2025-08-1855 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowThe Divorce You Don’t Regret: Mediation, Money & Moving On a Conversation with Mediation Expert Joe DillonSend us a textJoe Dillon, co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, shares how couples can navigate divorce with clarity, compassion, and collaboration rather than through costly, emotionally destructive litigation.• Divorce doesn't have to be a disaster or train wreck if couples choose to move forward amicably• Mediation promotes "win-win" scenarios instead of the "win-lose" or "lose-lose" outcomes common in litigation• "Interest-based negotiation" focuses on finding alternatives that satisfy both parties' underlying needs rather than rigid positions• The financial cost of attorney-driven divorces can reach $200,000 – equivalent to paying for a four-year college education• Putt...
2025-08-0955 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowJack Ruins Everything: When Adult Children Hijack Your PeaceSend us a textCleveland and Lindsay explore the problem of adult children controlling their parents' lives, sparked by overhearing a family vacation conversation about how "Jack ruins everything." They examine the balance between loving your adult children and preventing them from disrupting your peace and happiness.• Adult children are guests in your home, not entitled residents• Setting boundaries doesn't mean you don't love your children• Cultural differences in the Caribbean demonstrate greater respect and reduced entitlement• Reciprocity is crucial in all relationships—adult children must contribute to the household• Your peace should...
2025-07-1749 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowThe Alchemy of Acceptance: The Power of Embracing Your PainSend us a textWe explore the concept of emotional acceptance and how confronting rather than avoiding difficult feelings is essential to healing from trauma. Transformation happens when we learn to accept our emotions and reframe our relationship with past pain.• Understanding why "you've got to feel it to heal it"• Exploring how trauma physically lives in the body as "issues in the tissues"• Learning about the destructive impact of shame and negative core beliefs• Recognizing unhelpful coping mechanisms like distraction and substance use• Practicing the RAIN method—Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture...
2025-06-3040 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowThe Window, The Car, and The Dress: Tales from the Parenting TrenchesSend us a textLindsay and Cleveland explore the messy reality of parenting through recent chaotic events in their household, from a crashed car and shattered picture window to prom dress drama and boundary-setting with young adult children.• A car crash in the driveway leads to insurance claims and unexpected Enterprise rental experiences• The Queen Mom's prom dress saga involves ordering twenty dresses and last-minute shoe shopping• A well-intentioned furniture cleaning attempt results in a shattered custom picture window• "Huckleberry Tim" tests boundaries by staying out until early morning and inviting unauthorized house gu...
2025-06-2427 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowWhy Trusting Your Gut Changes EverythingSend us a textMost people don't trust themselves, constantly seeking external validation and living unhappy lives despite trying to please everyone around them.• Self-trust means being comfortable with who you are rather than constantly seeking approval• When you don't trust yourself, you give up command of your life and surrender your agency• Setting boundaries aligns with self-trust and allows you to identify who respects you• Family relationships often challenge our self-trust when we're expected to compromise our needs• Trusting yourself leads to authentic relationships rather than people-pleasing interactions• The Three A's fo...
2025-06-1447 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowThe Gravity of Unspoken Expectations: Why Your Partner Isn't a Mind ReaderSend us a textCleveland and Lindsay return after a long break to tackle the frustrating phenomenon of silent scripts in relationships and why expecting your partner to read your mind sets you both up for failure.• Silent scripts are unspoken expectations we have for our partners but never communicate directly• The absurdity of expecting mind-reading from partners when we'd never expect it in other relationships• Covert contracts create one-sided agreements where we expect something in return without expressing it• Authentic communication about needs and expectations is crucial from the very beginning of relat...
2025-04-1358 minThe Brunswick Group Therapy PodcastE96: Brunswick be hoppin'Mentions include:Rosatis,Brunswick Ohio Police,Brunswick City Hall,Houndstown Cleveland,Grounded Bean,Skyview Lodge,Oakes Family Care,Mapleside,Post Road,Pickled Pineapple,9ers Diner,Hollywood Mafia,Brunswick 80’s guy,Manzo’s Sports & Spirits,Blue Lunch,Brunswick Parks & Recreation,Chic Fil A Brunswick,Hoppy Dudes Brews,NEO Extreme Games,Ohio Explosion Allstars,
2025-04-0324 minThe Brunswick Group Therapy PodcastE94: Just a quickieLike, Share & Subscribe!Mentions this week include:Ohio Pie Co.St Ambrose ParishBrunswick City Schools Oakes Family CareFairTradeHoundstown Cleveland The Breakfast Club Mapleside FarmsIgnite Brewing CompanyHeritage Farm Museum Brunswick Historical Society Grace and Gratitude Yoga Foo FathersManzo's Sports and Spirits Gamers LairNEO Extreme GamesPickled Pineapple LLC9ers DinerAdult Easter Egg HuntGolden Egg Sponsors:Baskets GaloreCool Beans CafeMapleside Farms LumberJaxe AlleyNEO Extreme GamesGamers LairOn The Spot Heating and CoolingBedard Brothers LandscapingUnlock Salon Medina County WeldingMoxies GrilleThank you for watching the show. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, please subscribe on your favorite platform by visiting...
2025-03-1914 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowSeparate and Unequal: America's School Segregation CrisisSend us a textEducational segregation in America has reached crisis levels, with schools more segregated today than in the 1980s, despite Brown v. Board of Education supposedly ending this practice decades ago. We explore how systemic issues including funding disparities, zoning policies, and power structures maintain educational inequality across racial and economic lines.• Shocking statistics reveal non-white school districts receive $23 billion less annually than white districts• The podcast "Nice White Parents" demonstrates how gentrification can lead to school takeovers that further marginalize existing students• Personal stories about navigating school choices in New York C...
2025-03-0954 min
FourPlay - A Game of ConnectionsDrew Buxbaum Game 1This week, Drew Buxbaum joins Carmela to try to start up a winning streak. Listen in and play along! Here are today's clues: 1. brush, canine cure?, American tribal love-rock musical, pin . 2. homebound bunnies?, RWBY element, particulates, jacket. 3. soil, rare metal type, Google, a Kitt? . 4. sentinel, Galaxy resident, recent Cleveland worker?, British news source.
2025-01-1013 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowBuilding Connection Through Chaos: Finding Community in Unexpected PlacesSend us a textWhat happens when you blend the chaos of a kitchen flood with the warmth of a vegan Friendsgiving? Join us as we share our latest escapades, from Cleveland's ponderings of a PhD amidst his return to the office grind to Lindsay's unwavering resolve to steer clear of academia. Our Thanksgiving tales range from serene home-cooked vegan roasts to the bustling camaraderie of Friendsgiving, all while juggling Cleveland's quirky feats of knowledge and his hilarious domestic faux pas. Have you ever wondered how finding your "sangha" could transform your life? We explore t...
2024-12-021h 01The Devil You Don’t Know60% In: The Struggle with Partial Commitments, Investing in Self Worth for Healthier ConnectionsSend us a textEver wondered why partial commitments can feel like a full-time strain? Join us as we crack open the emotional rollercoaster of half-hearted investments in relationships and the unique challenges faced by house husbands. Cleveland shares his candid experiences of maintaining a clean home while Lindsay spills the tea on her binge-worthy obsession with "Gilmore Girls" and her dreamy vacation plans to Nevis. Through humor and heartfelt conversations, we explore how these partial commitments impact mental health, self-esteem, and overall wellness, making a compelling case for the joys of feeling truly appreciated.
2024-09-301h 03The Devil You Don’t KnowEmbracing Self-Awareness: The Power of Looking Inward for True FulfillmentSend us a textEver wondered why some people seem genuinely content while others constantly chase external approval? We kick off this episode reflecting on a quote from a silent retreat: "Who looks inside awakens, who looks outside dreams." This sets the stage for a profound exploration of the importance of internal validation, especially as social media and election year pressures mount. Cleveland shares a touching story about his child's decision to join a church, sparking discussions on how to support loved ones' beliefs while respecting personal boundaries. You'll laugh along as we recount a f...
2024-09-171h 03
Two Zero Q: 20 Questions With Interesting People from the LGBT community and friendsCleveland Oakes - From Brooklyn Marvel Geek to Fatherhood to Major Media CompanyIn this episode of Two Zero Q – 20 Questions With Interesting People, we learn the ‘Origin Story’ of Cutting Edge Media Technology Leader Cleveland Oakes, Brooklyn native, single father to 4 young adults, Sci-Fi/Comic Mastermind and integral to professional event experience is none other than Cleveland Oakes.#twozeroq #theveryhandsometimkirk #pride #lgbt Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
2024-08-2855 minTwo Zero Q: 20 Questions With Interesting People from the LGBT community and friendsCleveland Oakes - From Brooklyn Marvel Geek to Fatherhood to Major Media CompanyIn this episode of Two Zero Q – 20 Questions With Interesting People, we learn the ‘Origin Story’ of Cutting Edge Media Technology Leader Cleveland Oakes, Brooklyn native, single father to 4 young adults, Sci-Fi/Comic Mastermind and integral to professional event experience is none other than Cleveland Oakes.#twozeroq #theveryhandsometimkirk #pride #lgbt Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
2024-08-2855 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowWinding Roads and The Complexities of Growing UpSend us a textImagine navigating the winding, guardrail-less roads of Tortola, the landscape as thrilling as it is breathtaking. In this episode of "The Devil You Do Not Know," we share our exhilarating Caribbean adventure, from Cleveland's keen interest in U.S. politics to Lindsay's delightful exploration of local cuisine and literature. The journey to Lindsay's parents' cottage adds a layer of excitement, comparing the unique driving challenges of Tortola to those of Barbados, turning a relaxing island vacation into an unexpected thrill ride.Transitioning from our island escapades, we tackle the nuanced journey...
2024-07-2348 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowFrom the Ashes: Embracing Failure for GrowthSend us a textWhat if failure wasn't something to fear, but something to celebrate? Discover how embracing failure can be the key to unlocking success in both your personal and professional life. Join us as we share inspiring stories, including Lindsay’s triumphant journey to becoming a licensed psychotherapist and our adventurous escapade in the Catskills, complete with a quirky wood-fired hot tub and an unexpected encounter with a black bear.Dive into the wisdom of Jack Kornfield, a revered meditation teacher and former Buddhist monk, who believes that failure is essential for personal gr...
2024-07-0255 min
Hot Mic with Dom Izzo05/16/2024: John O'Connor, Tyler Oaks and Patrick BathGuests include: - John O'Connor - Richmond TImes-Dispatch - Tyler Oakes - NDSU baseball coach - Patrick Bath - NDSU basketball transfer Show Moments: - The Twins offensive woes continue as the Yankees only allow 4 hits shutting them out 4-0 in game two of this series. The Twins will be back in action today at 12:10 PM with Joe Ryan on the mound. - The Colorado Avalanche keep their playoff run going as they roll into Dallas beating them 5-3 to force a game 6 back in Denver Friday...
2024-05-161h 29The Devil You Don’t KnowBeyond the Horizon: Unpacking the Transformative Power of VacationSend us a textEver wondered how a week of basking under the Barbadian sun could rejuvenate your soul? Cleveland and I, Lindsay, are back from our indulgent escape to the Sugar Cane Club, ready to share how sinking our toes into the sandy beaches and savoring vegan delights helped us unwind and unplug. From the secluded luxury of our resort to the culinary treasures at Tides and Lone Star, we relive every tranquil sunset and mouthwatering meal that left us more connected and content than ever.This episode isn't just about the bliss of...
2024-04-2354 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowIf You Don't Believe It Why Are You Crying?Send us a textEver brushed off a cutting remark with a quick smile, only to feel the sting hours later? This episode peels back the layers of that age-old saying about sticks, stones, and words to reveal the surprising heft words carry in our emotional lives. Cleveland and I dissect why many, especially men, don the armor of indifference against verbal barbs, exploring the societal pressures that coax us into silence and the toll it takes on our health and relationships. We delve into the often invisible battle lines drawn between emotional resilience and vulnerability, sharing...
2024-04-161h 03The Devil You Don’t KnowNavigating the Quagmire: Triumphing Over Toxic Work Cultures and Their Echoes in LifeSend us a textAs Cleveland and I sank our teeth into the spicy gochujang tofu at Archie's, little did we realize this culinary delight would be the perfect segue into our latest podcast episode. With the wisdom of Gabor Maté's Compassionate Inquiry ringing in our ears, our conversation unravels the hidden impact of our childhood 'holes' on professional and personal spheres.Wade through the murky dynamics of unhealthy workplaces alongside us, where similarities to dysfunctional families are too close for comfort. As we recount stories of favoritism and the downfall of poor management, th...
2024-03-261h 07The Devil You Don’t KnowThe Art of Self-Mastery Overcoming the Victimhood MindsetSend us a textHey there, Cleveland and Lindsay, checking in!Ready to pivot from feeling like the world's punching bag to becoming the heavyweight champ of your own life? Do you ever get that nagging feeling that someone's just shirking responsibility and pawning it off as a perpetual victim? We've been there, and we're spilling the tea on how much this mindset can throw a wrench in everything from missed appointments to devouring vegan calamari. Strap on your seatbelts because we're about to get real with some Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy wisdom...
2024-03-0544 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowHeartache and Healing: Embracing Grief, Accepting Death, and Finding Joy After LossSend us a textThe table was set with jackfruit nachos, an unexpected yet delightful twist in our health-conscious journey when the conversation took a profound turn. This week's episode is a heartfelt exploration of grief prompted by the personal story of my father's passing from COVID-19. Together, we traverse the emotional landscape of loss, from the strains of family dynamics to the solace found in accepting the inescapable reality of death, revealing the profoundly varied ways my family and I have navigated our sorrow.Through candid discussions and introspection, this episode serves as a...
2024-02-1348 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowHarmony in Tune: The Art of Nurturing RelationshipsSend us a textHave you ever felt like walking between being a supportive partner and sounding like a broken record? Cleveland and I unpack this problem, sprinkling in our two cents on the importance of affirmation, validation, and the power of backing your significant other without tipping into the nagging zone. Through laughter and earnest reflection, we also address the pressing matter of building trust and extending encouragement, sharing stories of personal compromises and the growth that stems from navigating change with your partner.Please email us at Gettoknowthedevil@gmail.com
2024-02-0655 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowLearning to Let Go: Weathering the Emotional Storms TogetherSend us a textHave you ever been in a heated debate over something inconsequential as dish liquid? Cleveland and I sure have, which led us to a profound understanding of the art of letting go in relationships. Please tune in to our heart-to-heart, where we unpack the everyday irritations that build into destructive habits, the importance of picking our battles, and why mastering mindfulness could be your ticket to a calmer, more respectful partnership.Listen for an episode packed with revelations on personal accountability, constructive communication, and tips on weathering the storm of lifestyle...
2024-01-3056 min