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Class with KateEp. 89 | What does a couples therapist enabling abuse look like? Office Hours with Sarah and CeceBoth Sarah and Renee have been unhappily married to their partners for quite some time. When they have sought out couples therapy, they have gotten no meaningful support. Listen to their stories and how Kate helps them advocate for themselves.
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2026-06-301h 04Class with KateEp. 87 | He Thought He Had an Anger Problem. I Think It's Depression | Office HoursContent Warning: Discussion of childhood abuse, neglect, physical punishment, and trauma.
John came into Office Hours worried about his attitude, his relationships, and the growing distance between himself and his children. But as he shares stories from his childhood, a much bigger picture emerges.
Growing up with neglectful, emotionally abandoning parents, living in a hoarded home, and experiencing harsh physical punishment shaped far more than John realized. As we unpack his history together, I challenge the belief that he's simply an angry person and explore whether depression, grief, and unresolved trauma may be at the...
2026-06-231h 03Class with KateEp. 86 | I Had Brain Fog Mid-Class... Then I Used BEND Live to Actually Take Care of MyselfThis class started with an unexpected problem: Kate couldn't think.
What looked like simple brain fog became a live demonstration of what it means to listen to yourself instead of pushing harder. Rather than forcing her way through it, Kate used the BEND framework in real time to understand what her mind and body were trying to communicate.
The result was an unplanned but powerful lesson about emotional awareness, nervous system regulation, parenting, and the kind of self-care that actually creates change.
Because real self-care isn't just getting your nails done. It's learning...
2026-06-2243 minClass with KateEp. 85 | The Missing Piece in Tiffany’s Estrangement With Her Daughter-in-LawIn Part 2 of My DIL Stopped Talking to Me, Kate sits down one-on-one with Tiffany to go deeper into her estrangement from her son and daughter-in-law.
As the conversation unfolds, Tiffany identifies some influence related to what Kate calls the adultosphere—the internet space that believes younger generations are cutting people off for no reason and don't value family. Together, they unpack what may actually be happening beneath that story, explore the missing context, and identify what Tiffany can do next.
This episode is a powerful look at estrangement, grief, motherhood, love and the difference be...
2026-06-171h 05Class with KateEp. 84 | An Estranged MIL Meets Women Who've Been in Her Daughter-in-Law's ShoesWhat happens when an estranged mother-in-law sits down with women who have lived through estrangement from the other side?
In this episode of Office Hours, Tiffany shares her pain as an estranged MIL. Christina reflects on reconnecting with her father after 20 years of estrangement, while Amber offers insight from her healthy relationship with her own mother-in-law.
With Kate facilitating the conversation, the women explore hurt, accountability, family dynamics, and the longing for connection. What emerges is a powerful moment of understanding—and a reminder that love and support can still exist even when relationships are co...
2026-06-161h 01Class with KateEp. 83 | The Shocking Thing Toxic MILs and Their Sons Have in CommonEveryone talks about the manosphere. But what if there's an adultosphere too?
In this episode, Kate explores how childism—the belief that adults deserve more power and respect than children—shapes families and relationships. She also unpacks the surprising similarities between toxic mothers-in-law and entitled men: both expect authority based on status rather than earned trust.
From "because I'm your mother" to "because I'm the man," the message is the same. Kate breaks down how these dynamics start in childhood and why they show up in marriage, parenting, and family conflict. And most importantly, what wome...
2026-06-1552 minClass with KateEp. 82 | Can An Incel Husband REALLY Change? - Office Hours with AllisonTrigger warning: sexual abuse, religious trauma, coercion, emotional abuse.
Allison married young inside a high-control religious culture and spent years believing her husband’s behavior was normal. But after realizing her wedding night was assault and uncovering the deep misogyny driving their marriage, she asks the question so many women are terrified to face: can a toxic incel husband actually change?
Kate breaks down the real psychological pathways of change in men, the levels of treatment required, and why insight alone is never enough. By the end, Allison comes face to face with the truth he...
2026-06-1047 minClass with KateEp. 81 | When Your Marriage Feels Lonely: Grief, In-Laws & Not Knowing Your Place - Office Hours with Iris and TaylorTaylor and Iris come into Office Hours with two different marriage struggles that uncover the same deeper pain: feeling unseen.
Iris is navigating difficult in-law dynamics, unwanted gifts from grandparents, and uncertainty about her place in the family. Taylor opens up about grief and the loneliness of feeling misunderstood by her husband.
Together, they explore boundaries, emotional disconnection, marriage, and what it means to honor your own experience without needing everyone else to understand it first.
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2026-06-0951 minClass with KateEp. 80 | Why You “Check Out” (And Don’t Even Realize It)Ever gone numb during conflict? Forgotten entire conversations? Felt disconnected from yourself, your partner, or your life? You may be dissociating — and most people don’t even realize they’re doing it.
In this episode, Kate breaks down what dissociation actually is, why the nervous system uses it for protection, and how it quietly impacts relationships, communication, intimacy, parenting, and conflict. She explains the signs you’re emotionally leaving before your body does, why shame keeps the cycle going, and what healing actually looks like — both for yourself and with the people you love.
If you’ve eve...
2026-06-0839 min
The Well-Worshipped Man#34: Codependency vs Interdependency: How Healthy Relationships Actually WorkFacing challenges as a couple isn’t about the he-said she-said. It’s about the underlying energy patterns that are present. Today’s episode will show you exactly what we mean, and to learn how to do this work in your relationship, start by watching our free training:Grab it here: https://www.sovereignunion.co/reclamationintroWhat starts as a conversation about codependency and its more mature sibling interdependency, quickly becomes a live masterclass as we work on our relationship in real-time, using the advanced techniques we teach in our summer group course, RECLAMATION. Isaac shares...
2026-06-071h 00Class with KateEp. 79 | Your Family Won’t Change… Now What? | Office Hours with ChuckChuck is estranged from his mom and brother and keeps asking the same painful question: How do I have a relationship with people who won’t change?
But Kate challenges something deeper underneath it all: what if his constant need to help, rescue, explain, and fix them is actually protecting him from grief?
This episode unpacks the exhausting cycle of trying to manage emotionally unavailable family members, why “helping” can become a form of control, and what happens when you finally stop waiting for people to become who you need them to be.
Kate e...
2026-06-0337 minClass with KateEp. 78 | When Your Parents Won’t Heal: Breaking Generational Trauma While Raising Kids | Office Hours with Fay & AmeliaFay and Amelia are two mothers facing the same devastating realization: the pain their parents caused didn’t end in childhood. It followed them into marriage, parenting, and the way they see themselves.
In this Office Hours episode, they unpack what happens when your parents can’t take accountability, can’t emotionally repair, and may never become the people you needed. But the harder question is this: how do you raise emotionally healthy kids while carrying unresolved trauma yourself?
Kate walks Fay and Amelia through processing their internalized trauma, and breaking the cycle through empowering their...
2026-06-0257 minClass with KateEp. 77 | You Recreated Your Childhood in Marriage (Now What?)What happens when you finally realize the emotional neglect and abuse you survived as a child didn’t end… it just became your marriage dynamic?
In this episode, Kate breaks down why emotionally neglected children often unconsciously recreate familiar relationships in adulthood and the first steps to stopping abandoning yourself inside your marriage.
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2026-06-0145 minClass with KateEp. 76 | I Made a “Hate List”... and It Changed Everything - Office Hours with LauraWhat happens when you stop avoiding your feelings and actually process them in real time?
In this episode, Kate gets vulnerable in real time by making a “hate list” — uncovering annoyance, fear, and emotions that are usually buried beneath unwanted behaviors.
Then in Office Hours, Laura shares her fears about parenting her daughter while navigating difficult family dynamics and trying not to repeat unhealthy patterns.
A raw episode about feeling the hard stuff, breaking cycles, and learning what healthy emotional processing actually looks like.
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2026-05-2759 minClass with KateEp. 75 | Marriage, Identity & Decentering Men - Office Hours with Linda & EmilyLinda and Emily are in different stages of marriage, but they’re asking the same question: how do you stop losing yourself while trying to make a relationship work?
This episode explores emotional labor, overfunctioning, resentment, and the pressure women feel to organize their entire lives around men. Kate breaks down what it actually means to “decenter men” without becoming cold, detached, or anti-relationship.
If you’ve ever felt like your needs, identity, friendships, body, or purpose disappeared inside your marriage, this conversation will hit hard.
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2026-05-2643 minClass with KateEp. 74 | How to Deal With a Dismissive Avoidant Without Losing YourselfIn this episode Kate talks about what a dismissive avoidant is, why it’s a problem for you, and how to deal with it once and for all.
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2026-05-2539 minClass with KateEp. 73 | She Exposed Her Dad’s Affair… and Lost Her Entire Family | Office Hours with MiaMia never expected one confrontation to cost her everything. After forcing her father to come clean about an affair with her sister-in-law’s mother, her entire family turned on her — including her sister.
In this Office Hours episode, Kate breaks down what happens when families protect secrets over accountability, why truth-tellers often become the scapegoat, and how estrangement can become the price of refusing to participate in dysfunction.
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2026-05-2045 minClass with KateEp. 72 | He’s Finally Trying. Why Do I Still Feel Stuck?Two women. Two marriages. One frustrating question:
What do you do when he’s trying… but it’s still not enough?
In this Office Hours episode with Diana and Mary, Kate breaks down the gray area—where there’s effort, but no real repair.
You’ll learn:
Why change ≠ trust
How to set boundaries without over-accommodating
What to do when you feel stuck between hope and reality
Because “better” doesn’t always mean safe.
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2026-05-191h 02Class with KateEp. 71 | Can You Come Back From Estrangement? Healing Without Your Parents (And Whether Reconnection Is Even Possible)Estrangement is painful—and for many adult children, it feels completely unfair. Because it is. In fact, IT’S BULLSHIT.
In this episode, we talk about whether reconciliation is actually possible, what real change would require, and that you don’t NEED your parents to heal.
You’ll learn how to process what happened, regulate your emotions, and move forward on your own terms—whether that includes reconnection or not.
Because while you didn’t create this dynamic, you do get to decide what happens next.
Find...
2026-05-1850 minClass with KateEp. 70 | When Trauma Work Feels Like Too Much (What to Do Instead)Amelia is overwhelmed. The trauma work, the awareness, the emotions—it’s all too much, and it’s starting to impact her ability to function.
So what do you do when healing itself becomes the problem?
Kate helps her sort through what’s actually happening—and offers a next step most people don’t expect.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re “doing the work” but getting worse, this episode will challenge what you think healing is supposed to look like.
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2026-05-1344 minClass with KateEp. 69 | Two Marriages, Two Stages: Why Your Next Step Depends Where You AreTwo women. Two marriages. Different stages—and completely different next steps.
In week two of the group format, Kate listens to both Jackie and Tina’s stories and compares what’s actually happening in each relationship—showing why the same advice doesn’t work for everyone.
She helps each woman get clear on what to do next based on where they are, not where they wish they were.
Then she breaks down what detachment and real connection look like at different stages—so you can stop guessing and start responding to your relationship more accurat...
2026-05-121h 05Class with KateEp. 68 | Why You Can’t Stop Crying (or Laughing) And What You Actually NeedEver found yourself crying and laughing at the same time—and then feeling confused or even ashamed?
In this episode, we walk through a real-life example of what looks like “losing control” emotionally… and break down what’s actually happening underneath.
Using my BEND method, you’ll learn how to:
Identify what you’re actually feeling beneath the reaction
Understand the unmet need driving those emotions
Regulate your body without shutting yourself down
Respond instead of spiraling
And for the first time, you’ll see a clear, step-by-step walkthrough of what your needs actually look li...
2026-05-111h 00Class with KateEp. 67 | If Your Daughter Is Leaving an Abuser — Don’t Make This MistakeChris’s daughter is finally leaving an abusive relationship—but Chris is terrified of saying the wrong thing.
When your child is hurting and vulnerable, your response can either build safety… or push them back.
We break down the common mistakes parents make—and how to actually show up in a way that helps.
In the second half, you’ll see what real support looks like in practice—what to say, how to stay grounded, and how to become a place your child can return to.
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2026-05-061h 03Class with KateEp. 66 | I Can’t Leave. How Do I Protect My Kids Anyway?Sarah and Tiah are living in different parts of the world—but asking the same question:
How do you protect your kids when you can’t leave an abusive relationship?
In this first Office Hours episode, we get honest about what survival actually looks like when escape isn’t an option. This isn’t about perfect parenting—it’s about doing what’s possible inside impossible circumstances.
You’ll learn:
What actually helps kids feel safer (even when the environment isn’t)
How to emotionally support your child without overpromising or pretending
The biggest mistake pa...
2026-05-0556 minClass with KateEp. 65 | When Parents Cut Off Their Kids: Is it “Nuanced?”There’s a growing trend of parents “cutting off” their kids in the name of boundaries.
But when a parent fully walks away—it’s abandonment.
This episode breaks down the difference between distance and disappearance, and why parental responsibility doesn’t just expire.
In Office Hours, Leandro shares his struggle to figure out how to engage with his parents after their abuse—what it means to want connection, while also protecting himself.
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2026-05-041h 06Class with KateEp. 64 | Will My Kids Feel Responsible For Me?
You don’t need to hide your emotions—but your kids shouldn’t have to carry them either.
In this episode, I show you how to actually feel your feelings without making your child responsible for them.
Learn how to stay honest, regulated, and grounded in real time using the BEND tool—so your emotions don’t turn into pressure, guilt, or fear for your kids.
This is the difference between modeling emotions… and offloading them.
In the second half of the episode, Office Hours, we meet with Jennifer who is struggling w...
2026-04-281h 12Class with KateEp. 63 | Pseudomutuality: Why Hiding Your Feelings Inhibits Your RelationshipIf your house feels calm… but no one’s really honest, that’s not connection—that’s pseudomutuality.
In this episode, I break down how “keeping the peace” actually shuts kids down—and what to do instead.
Learn the BEND tool so you can regulate yourself in the moment instead of avoiding, snapping, or faking calm.
Real connection requires real emotion. This is how you handle it without losing control.
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2026-04-2756 minClass with KateEp. 62 | Riley’s Story: Stuck, Overwhelmed, and Ready for ChangeRiley is doing everything “right”—marriage, motherhood, showing up. So why does she feel so stuck?
In this episode, we unpack:
-The signs of needing change: irritation and snappiness
-The quiet resentment and disconnection many women don’t say out loud
-What it means to feel trapped without wanting to leave
-Why talk therapy isn’t always enough—and how somatic work can help
-Where to start when you feel disconnected from yourself
In Office Hours, Riley begins to see that the issue isn’t just her circumstances: it’s how disconnect...
2026-04-2430 minClass with KateEp. 61 | How Can Saying Thank You Possibly Be Bad??Saying please and thank you in a relationship SOUNDS good right… but sometimes it can indicate something else: pseudomutuality. This is “fake closeness,” and over time, can erode real intimacy that is only achieved through conflict. Let’s talk about it!
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2026-04-2335 minClass with KateEp. 60 | Why is a Focus On Being “Nice” Actually Abusive?If you’ve ever said “I’m sorry” but nothing really changed… this episode is for you. We’re breaking down the patterns that keep people stuck in harmful relationship cycles—fake niceness, performative apologies, and control disguised as care. These behaviors don’t repair trust—they quietly destroy it.
In the second half of the class, “Office Hours,” we have a call with Judy, a therapist who is struggling to make the call in her marriage.
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2026-04-221h 03Class with KateEp. 59 | How Mocking and “Jokes” Keep Unhealthy Marriage Roles AliveWhy do some marriages normalize sarcasm, teasing, and subtle disrespect? In this episode, Kate explains how “joking” can become a way unhealthy marriage patterns survive for years without being confronted.
Office hours features Ray, who is struggling with distance from his teenage daughter after behavior that caused harm—and the hard truth about rebuilding trust when a child pulls away. Ray has an “aha” moment that anyone can benefit from.
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2026-04-211h 06Class with KateEp. 58 | I Cut Off My Parents. But My Son Wants Grandparents.What happens when your child wants a relationship with the people who hurt you?
This episode answers key questions about pseudohostility, then Pearl shares the painful reality of cutting off her parents while trying to decide whether her son should have access to them. How do you protect without overcontrolling—and when do you let a child learn for themselves?
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2026-04-201h 06Class with KateEp. 57 | Pseudohostility, Fake Harmony, and the Cost of Speaking Up in Family SystemsIs your marriage peaceful—or just emotionally shut down? In this episode, we break down how pseudohostility and pseudomutuality create fake connection while real issues stay buried.
Then Justine shares what happened after standing up to her father and becoming the family scapegoat. Why does speaking the truth create so much self-doubt—and how do you trust yourself when your family treats you like the problem?
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2026-04-171h 32Class with KateEp. 56 | When Love is Present but Safety is MissingTrauma is often created in ordinary family moments—through fear, silence, emotional inconsistency, and lack of repair.
The first half of this episode explores the family habits that protect children, reduce harm, and break generational cycles before they repeat. The second half involves a caller, Sam, who needs help doing this with her kids. And Kate’s advice might surprise you.
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2026-04-161h 22Class with KateEp. 55 | When Betrayal Ends a Long Marriage: Mary’s StoryIn this episode, Mary shares her experience of divorce after 38 years of marriage following betrayal, secrecy, and blackmail involving her husband’s hidden life.
She also talks about the painful distance that developed with her adult children after the divorce, and the grief of feeling caught between her own healing and their loyalty to their father.
We explore long-term betrayal, family fracture, and what it means to rebuild when both marriage and family relationships have been deeply shaken.
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2026-04-1525 minClass with KateEp. 54 | Is She Really Mad at Her DIL, Or is It Something Else?Suppressed anger rarely stays hidden—it often comes out as judgment, criticism, and control. In this episode, we explore why this dynamic shows up so often in family systems, especially between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.
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2026-04-1436 min
Plenty with Kate Northrup154. The Hidden Money Leak: Breaking Free from Financial CodependencyAre you using money to make someone else feel okay… so that you can feel okay?And if so, what might become possible if your financial choices came from clarity instead of emotional obligation?What if one of the biggest drains on your finances isn’t your spending habits—but your relationships?In this episode, I’m talking about something that can feel a little uncomfortable to name, but incredibly liberating once you see it clearly: financial codependency.I share what financial codependency actually is—using money to regulat...
2026-04-1425 minPlenty with Kate Northrup154. The Hidden Money Leak: Breaking Free from Financial CodependencyAre you using money to make someone else feel okay… so that you can feel okay?And if so, what might become possible if your financial choices came from clarity instead of emotional obligation?What if one of the biggest drains on your finances isn’t your spending habits—but your relationships?In this episode, I’m talking about something that can feel a little uncomfortable to name, but incredibly liberating once you see it clearly: financial codependency.I share what financial codependency actually is—using money to regulat...
2026-04-1425 minClass with KateEp. 53 | Does Authoritarian Parenting of Boys Create Abusive Men?
This episode was inspired by recent TikTok videos showing harsh, highly controlling parenting with boys—and it raises a serious question: Does authoritarian parenting create emotionally unsafe men?
We explore how fear-based control, emotional suppression, and rigid power structures in childhood can shape adult anger, attachment, and abuse.
When boys are taught obedience over emotional development, what follows later in relationships?
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2026-04-131h 08Class with KateEp. 52 | Why Healing Can Feel Worse Before It Feels BetterJessica shares what it feels like to begin healing while experiencing painful flashbacks, intense body symptoms, and emotional overwhelm.
We discuss why early healing can activate buried pain, how somatic symptoms often emerge during deeper emotional work, and what it means to stay grounded while the nervous system begins responding differently.
Topics include healing, trauma, flashbacks, somatic symptoms, emotions, and nervous system responses.
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2026-04-101h 02Class with KateEp. 48 | Why Don’t I Feel Angry About It?Beth calls in with a wild scenario. She is newly postpartum, and her husband has been out of work for 2 years. Now she's given him an ultimatum. But where has her anger been the whole time, and what does Kate tell her to do next?? Find out here....
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2026-04-0941 minClass with KateEp. 49 | Why Doesn’t She Feel Anger?Yesterday we had caller Beth who is really stuck in her situation. As a reminder, she is newly postpartum and her husband doesn't have a job. Where did her anger go? Why doesn't she feel it? And what can we learn from her situation?
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2026-04-091h 04Class with KateEp. 50 | Is Nervous System Work Helping Women – Or Controlling Them?There is growing conversation around nervous system regulation, but not all uses of that language lead to deeper freedom. In this video, I discuss how regulation can sometimes be confused with emotional compliance, especially for women who have learned to override what they feel in order to maintain peace.
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2026-04-091h 04Class with KateEp. 51 | What Happens When Sibling Abuse Is Ignored by ParentsRobin shares her story of sibling abuse and the long-term impact of growing up in a family where harm was minimized and protection was missing.
We discuss how sibling abuse is often overlooked, how parental neglect shapes emotional development, and why unaddressed family trauma continues affecting adult relationships.
Topics include sibling abuse, childhood trauma, family systems, neglect, and healing.
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2026-04-0941 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 363: Codependency in Women: Signs, Patterns, and How to Break Free with Michelle FarrisImagine what it would be like to create healthy relationships without sacrificing ourselves as women. That is exactly what Michelle Farris helps women do. Michelle is a psychotherapist and codependency expert, and this conversation goes deep fast. She brings both the clinical knowledge and the lived experience of someone who has done her own recovery work, and honestly, we could not have been more in sync. Codependency is one of those words that gets thrown around a lot, and yet so many women are still walking around not fully recognizing themselves in it. At its core, it...
2026-04-0244 minClass with KateEp. 47 | How to Heal From Being ScapegoatedYesterday Belle called in to discuss her rocky marriage- more specifically her husband using her weight as a way to avoid her issues. The result? Her being scapegoated as the marital issue. Let's talk about how to handle that and what we can learn from Belle...
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2026-03-3154 minClass with KateEp. 46 | How Do I Heal in Verbal Abuse?Belle calls in and asks how to manage her situation. Her husband calls her fat and focuses on her weight as a way to avoid discussing the real issues. And the worst part, he won't go to therapy. Tune in to see what Kate has to say about this!
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2026-03-3053 minClass with KateEp. 45 | What to Understand About TraumaWhat is trauma? How do we understand trauma? And most importantly, how do we heal from it and prevent it from continuing to happen. Kate covers the basics of trauma, how it applies to your relationships, and the next steps of healing.
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2026-03-2439 minClass with KateEp. 44 | My Husband’s Ex-Girlfriends are in His Search HistoryIn the first half of this episode we continue to discuss parental abandonment, and what that can look like day to day. The second half of this episode "office hours" we meet with Vanessa, who is really struggling in her marriage. She is particularly having a hard time with the self-doubt when it comes to boundaries. Watch Kate explore that and see what she has to say!
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2026-03-2352 minClass with KateEp. 43 | Did My Parents Abandon Me As An Adult?In this episode we briefly cover the situation from yesterday's caller, Sarah. Then we get into why walking on eggshells as a parent is really emotionally abandoning your child.
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2026-03-181h 06Class with KateEp. 42 | Authoritarian Parenting | My Husband Believes in a Different Parenting Style Than I DoWhat happens when one parent leads with control and the other leads with gentleness?
In this episode, we break down the tension between an authoritarian husband and a wife who wants a more calm, connected approach—and why this clash creates confusion and instability for kids.
We talk about what each style gets right (and wrong), and how to move toward a united, steady way of parenting that isn’t driven by fear or avoidance.
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2026-03-1740 minClass with KateEp. 41 | Why Do Emotions Matter??Emotions aren’t the problem—they’re information.
In this episode, we cover Emotions 101: what emotions are, why they matter, and how most people misuse or ignore them in relationships. You’ll learn how to stop reacting impulsively or shutting down, and instead use your emotions as signals to communicate clearly and build stronger connections.
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2026-03-1624 minClass with KateEp. 40 | Will Being Authoritarian With My Husband Get Him to Change?Megan calls in asking if being more authoritarian with her husband will finally make him change—but there’s a bigger problem unfolding.
Her son is watching it all… and now he’s starting to use it against her.
In this episode, we break down why trying to dominate or control your partner backfires, how kids mirror power dynamics in the home, and what it actually looks like to lead without becoming authoritarian yourself.
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2026-03-1045 minClass with KateEp. 39 | When Walking On Eggshells Hurts Your Kids | Ep. 39If you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells around your kids to avoid meltdowns or conflict, this episode breaks down why that’s actually making things worse—not better.
We talk about the difference between being emotionally attuned vs. avoiding your child’s reactions, and how fear-based parenting quietly puts kids in charge of the relationship.
You’ll learn how to stop tiptoeing, hold boundaries without being harsh, and become a steady, grounded parent your kids can actually feel safe with.
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2026-03-0927 minClass with KateEp. 38 | Let's Talk About MarieMarie has been in six relationships that she's identified as being toxic. Is it her fault? Let's talk about it.
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2026-03-0344 minClass with KateEp. 37 | This is My Sixth Abusive Relationship. At What Point Is It My Fault?Kate talks with Marie about a string of abusive relationships.
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2026-03-0240 minClass with KateEp. 36 | Let's Talk About KayKate gives you options when Emotionally Focused Therapy isn't working.
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2026-02-241h 16Class with KateEp. 35 | EFT Therapy Isn’t Working, What Now? Kay's storyEmotionally Focused Therapy isn't working for Kay.
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2026-02-2451 minClass with KateEp. 34 | Siblings 101: It's a Parent ProblemDiagnosing your sibling might say more about you than it does about them. Someone commented "I think my sister has borderline personality disorder" and Kate took the whole class to school on it. She breaks down why sibling issues are always a parent problem and what scapegoating actually looks like.
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2026-02-1745 minClass with KateEp. 33 | None Of Us Have Been Taught How To FeelFacts over feelings is sh*t. We need to pay attention to our emotions. So many of us are emotionally neglected, by others and by ourselves. Kate explores how to get in touch with yourself, contact real feelings, learn from them, and walk away like an actual human being.
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2026-02-1648 minClass with KateEp. 32 | Let's Talk About HollyKate breaks down Holly's situation by walking through the difference between sexual abuse, coercion, and harassment. She also unpacks how Holly's family system is creating a second layer of harm by staying silent.
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2026-02-101h 01Class with KateEp. 31 | My Sister's Husband Filmed Me In The Shower—And My Family Blamed MeHolly's sister's husband was arrested for secretly recording women undressed—including Holly. When Holly reported it to police, her family turned on her for "causing drama." Kate gets brutally honest about what happens when a family protects a sexual predator instead of his victims.
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2026-02-0951 minClass with KateEp. 30 | Let's Talk About MonaKate breaks down what actually happened with Mona and John—and why "emotional volatility" is the wrong way to frame it. She introduces her BEND method for understanding your own unwanted behaviors from the bottom up, then draws the line between what's yours to work on and what's his entitlement to own. If you've ever been told to "just leave," this one's for you.
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2026-02-0348 minClass with KateEp. 29 | My Husband Won’t Go to Therapy, Mona's StoryMona calls in about her husband's refusal to engage in therapy after a decade of navigating their daughter's severe medical needs. Kate gets real about tolerating behavior that makes you unsafe.
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2026-02-0246 minClass with KateEp. 28 | What Happens If My Parents Die While We Are No-Contact?In Kate's first call-in show, Kate helps Toni navigate being estranged from parents while they're still alive and wondering what happens when they die. Kate explores the weight of generational pain, the guilt of protecting yourself while everyone else stays stuck, and why the magic might already be happening in the relationships you've chosen to heal.
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2026-01-2636 minClass with KateEp. 27 | How to manage sibling dynamicsThe Sherrone Moore situation, how to repair with adult kids, and managing sibling dynamics- this episode is JAM PACKED with info! This is the last episode of 2025 before I jump into 2026 with streaming, a call-in show, and more class offerings. It's been an amazing year and I'm so excited to see what the new year has in store for all of us! Stay studious people...
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2025-12-2345 minClass with KateEp. 26 | How to REPAIR your relationships- the basicsIf you're struggling to understand repair in your relationships, this episode is for you. It contains all of the 101s of what you need to do this well. You're not alone if you haven't known how to do this before... no one taught you.
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2025-12-1642 minClass with KateEp. 25 | You are allowed to not care about your parents feelingsSHOCKER... I know. But it's developmentally TRUE, and even appropriate sometimes! And sometimes you need to be told. I hope this episode, like all of my other estrangement-related content, empowers you to stand up for yourself and what you need. You might just need some specifics to get there. I'll be talking about this more and more in the coming weeks, especially leading up to my new class in January, "Overcoming your Inner Estranged Parent"!!
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2025-12-0945 minClass with KateEp. 24 | How to actually recover from stress (after Thanksgiving)If you're still super activated post Thanksgiving with the fam... I got you. Here I cover a range of topics to help you through this- attachment, 'name it to tame it,' codependency, BEND, grief.. and so much more!
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2025-12-021h 03
Rewired SoberEP 49: Codependency & Alcohol: Understanding the Fear, Control, and Recovery Cycle with Dr. Sarah MichaudWhy do so many sober women still struggle with people pleasing and codependency, even after years of recovery?In this powerful episode, Kate sits down with Dr. Sarah Michaud, clinical psychologist, author of Co-Crazy, and more than four decades sober, for a brutally honest conversation about the invisible emotional patterns that quietly drive addiction. Together, they explore the fears, childhood wounds, and survival strategies that keep women trapped in the cycle of pleasing, fawning, shutting down, and drinking to cope.Dr. Sarah brings compassion, science, and humor to this massive topic, breaking down why codependency...
2025-11-2545 minClass with KateEp. 23 | How to manage the different family dynamics at ThanksgivingIn this episode I discuss the details of self-regulating and co-regulating.. and the differences with your kids, your spouse, and yes... your parents. Let's talk about how you can heal your trauma responses (and the stuckness you feel in your childhood role!) to make this Thanksgiving one that will definitely be... a new experience :) Tell me how it goes!
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2025-11-2558 minClass with KateEp. 22 | So you think your toddler is being "mean"So a mom made a video that has since gone viral about her toddler "being mean" to her... and here's what I have to say about it.
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2025-11-1853 minClass with KateEp. 21 | How to not emotionally neglect your kidsEmotional neglect is the number one FIXABLE issue affecting families, children, and marriages today. And it is also the cause of estrangement IMO. Defining the problem in this way makes the solution apparent. Listen while I discuss some examples of how NOT to do this in your family to restore your relationships from the inside out.
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2025-11-1140 minClass with KateEp. 20 | "My MIL opened up a credit card in my husband's name..."Ok ok thank you everyone for bearing with me through the evolution of my podcast and now SHOW- Class with Kate! In this first episode I talk with Mary, a married mom of one who just completed a cross-country move... back to her and her husband's hometown. And YES her in-laws live 5 minutes from her.
Here she seeks to answer the question, "ok so my MIL is very toxic.. how do I respect my husband's love for her while protecting my peace?" We go through some of their issues and reach some form of hope... Listen and...
2025-11-0450 minClass with KateEp. 19 | STOP the "nice guy" actWe all know the "nice guy" trope is NOT GOOD. But why and how does being "nice" translate to imploding relationships? And also, how do you handle it if your partner is a "nice guy"... listen and find out.
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2025-10-2858 minClass with KateEp. 18 | Check yourself before you get on social mediaOne thing from this week's videos stood out to me... what is your emotional state BEFORE you get on social media? Do you even know? And the biggest question.. are you aware of HOW that affects the meaning you make from what you see?
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2025-10-1443 minClass with KateEp. 17 | IDK where to start with my emotions (HATE list part 1)Sooo you know that feeling your feelings it the key to changing your behavior, but you don't know where to start. It feels like going into the abyss. I have the solution for you... A HATE LIST. Yes, I said it, a HATE list. In this episode I talk about what it is, why it works, and how you can implement it into your life.
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2025-10-0742 minClass with KateEp. 16 | Stop telling your kids how their behavior makes you feelSo I made a video that said "stop telling your kids how their behavior makes you feel" and it got a lottttttt of pushback. Let's discuss what emotions are and how to handle them in the relationship contexts of parenting, marriage, and with your own parents/estrangement situations.
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2025-09-301h 01Class with KateEp. 15 | How to understand Emotions (BEND part 2)The MOST misunderstood topic IN THE WORLD in my opinion.... emotions. In this episode I'll tell you how to understand them and how to process them.
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2025-09-2349 minClass with KateEp. 14 | How to ACTUALLY emotionally regulate (introduction to BEND)We hear sooooo much about emotion regulation but nobody talks about how to do it in a practical and actually USEFUL way. Introducing... my BEND method. BEND is an acronym that stands for behavior, emotions, needs, and desires.
This is the first episode of a series on BEND, so let me know your questions so I can answer them in the coming episodes! Click to sign up for more info- https://forms.gle/kaqH2qk9sgcrFRMM9
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2025-09-161h 06
Tend HER Wild Podcast174. Codependent No MoreThis is a theme that we have been wanting to explore on the podcast for months, but have been dragging our feet. (Perhaps because we both identify closely with this pattern). We looked for an expert on this, and reached out to Melody Beattie last year, author of the best seller “Codependent No More”. She agreed to come on the podcast but requested we wait until the Fall when she had a new book coming out. Melody passed away this past February at the age of 76. May you Rest In Peace Melody and thank you for opening so many of our eye...
2025-09-1237 minClass with KateEp. 13 | How to respond to Chronic Defensiveness in MarriageTHE MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION... what is the gray area when your partner is exhibiting harmful behavior AND is resistant to change. Hopefully this perspective helps the journey... because it truly is one.
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2025-09-091h 10Class with KateEp.12 | Does the parent-child relationship change when the kid becomes an adult?The million dollar question... plus some BIG NEWS on a personal front. But beware... it's not all fun and games, I talk about the controversial video I posted this week regarding Israel/Palestine and its structural similarities to the parent-child dynamic.
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2025-08-1945 min
Ambitious PodcastEP.84: Breaking Free From Codependency in Love, Life & Business | The Ambitious PodcastIn this episode of Ambitious, I sit down with Alyssa Zander, a codependency expert, top podcast host, and author to uncover the depths of codependency and its impacts on our lives. We define codependency, not just as addiction but placing our worth and value outside of ourselves. Alyssa shares her transformative journey, offering frameworks on identifying codependent patterns in romantic relationships, business, and family dynamics. Discover how to break free from people-pleasing cycles, set boundaries, and practice shadow work and inner child healing. Tune in to understand how acknowledging and addressing your feelings holistically can truly redefine your life...
2025-08-121h 19
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 232: Breaking Free from Codependency with Vanessa BennettVanessa Bennett returns to the show this week! A highly regarded licensed holistic psychotherapist, clinical entrepreneur, mental health content creator, and the author of the best-selling relationship book, "It's Not Me, It's You," Vanessa brings a wealth of expertise. Her unique perspective on fostering healthy relationships and navigating codependency provides valuable insights. In this episode, Vanessa and I delve into the intricacies of codependency and its impact on relationships and self-identity. Vanessa guides us in understanding the concept of codependence and sheds light on how it influences our behaviors and choices. Vanessa's profound wisdom on this subject...
2023-09-0749 minClass with Kate(13) What therapists need to know about Muslim clients with Sister KathrynKate sits down with fellow TikToker Sister Kathryn, a Muslim author and mom of 5. They initially did not have a very pleasant interaction, but wanted to turn it into a learning experience for others. Watch the TikTok that started it all, and then listen in as they discuss what therapists need to know about their Muslim clients.
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2023-01-241h 01Class with Kate(12) How to go from ”coping” to ”being”part 3/3 of the Class with Kate series on "being"
With all the tragedy and loss happening in the world, learning to just "be" kind of doesn't make sense. It doesn't seem useful or helpful.. like, what's the point? Well, I argue that life is about more than productivity and "doing." And "being" does NOT mean escaping to the mountaintop like a monk. Find out what it can mean for you and make sure to listen and give feedback on this episode's insta post.
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2022-11-1620 minClass with Kate(11) Are you an ”empath” or... something else?Do you identify with the term "empath" but are not sure what to make of it? If not "empath," what about highly sensitive person (HSP), codependent, or anxious attachment? If you've REALLY scoured the internet, you might've come up with the term "enmeshed." If any of these apply to you, you might struggle with boundaries and standing up for yourself. But the good news is, this is NOT YOUR FAULT. Listen in as we delve into the practical origins of empaths, and how to evolve if it's not working for you.
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2022-11-1522 minClass with Kate(10) How to understand ”being”Do you not know how to just "be"? Does it feel either overwhelming or empty when you sit down and take a second to relax? If so, you are NOT alone- it is so common for high-functional people to go to therapy after feeling this way. But DON'T WORRY, this is fixable! Let's get you your "sauce" back.
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2022-11-1520 minClass with KateTRAILER: a mid-season glow-upWelcome to all the new listeners!
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