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Why Does My PartnerWith Full Hearts: Capacity, Growth, and Our Final EpisodeDear WDMP Community,What an incredible journey it’s been. We feel so lucky to have been in connection with you over the years as we’ve explored your burning Why Does My Partner… questions. With over 100 episodes across 7 seasons, this podcast has been a labor of love—and we could not have done it without your thoughtful engagement, deep curiosity, and ongoing support.It’s with heavy hearts (and full ones) that we’ve decided to end production of the podcast. This decision wasn’t easy, and the reasons vary for each of us. Like many of y...2025-06-0337 minWhy Does My PartnerAsk Questions About Me?Humans have a deep need for closeness, to feel known and that those around us care and want to know us deeply. And that can feel really, really vulnerable. In this episode we answer a question all about tangling with different ways of showing and asking for deeper knowing in a relationship. In turn, we offer some questions you may want to ask yourself, and then a few more for you and your partner to open up together. .In today’s episode we mention Gina Senarighi’s fantastic book, One Question a Day To Stay Close and Curi...2024-07-1615 min
Why Does My PartnerNeed Sex to Feel Connected While I Need to Feel Connected to Have SexWelcome back to the WDMP Podcast. Today’s question leads us into exploring what we each understand sexual intimacy to mean, and what we can do if that understanding doesn't seem to line up with our partner’s. We’re encouraging you, dear listeners, to start to learn about and understand your own sexual templates: what are your likes and dislikes, what are some of the beliefs you have about what those preferences mean, and what in your history has led you there? When you and your partner each engage in that personal work, then there’s an opportunity to talk...2023-04-1819 min
Why Does My PartnerInterracial RelationshipsWelcome back to the WDMP Podcast. Instead of a regular question, today we're answering a listener's request to talk about the dynamics between interracial couples and the conflicts that arise from their cultural differences.We take it as an opportunity to slow down and acknowledge that there's so much that comes with this big, heavy topic. There's the weight of inherited hurt and oppression, the weight of silenced voices and marginalized bodies. Of trying to do things differently - maybe even better - than those who came before us. We discuss how this situation can be ripe...2023-03-0723 min
Connectfulness PracticeWhat Does It Mean To Grow Up? with Julie Lythcott-HaimsFor this final episode of the season, I talk to Julie Lythcott-Haims, who is asking the question “what does it mean to grow up?” For her, it’s about lovingly letting go of your past burdens so that you can be true to yourself – while not trampling on anybody else. Our conversation flows naturally from topic to topic as we learn about how learning mindfulness took her from being a lawyer and dean of a university to becoming a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and activist focused on helping humans find their true north. Later, we bring these themes i...2022-10-141h 03
Connectfulness PracticeThe Impact of Racism on Relationships with Akilah Riley RichardsonI'm excited to share this podcast conversation with one of my dearest friends Akilah Riley-Richardson. Akilah has been in clinical practice for 16 years, is based in Trinidad and Tobago, and specializes in work with sexual and racial minorities. In this conversation, Akilah and I talk about relational privilege and the impact historical and race based trauma has on relationships. Akilah teaches to pivot, rumble and imagine to help gain a sense of where the hurt is, what the body needs, and how these needs connect back to the behaviors expressed is relationship…and what is needed now. And we ru...2022-09-221h 05
Connectfulness PracticeShow Up In Your Complete Identity with Moraya Seeger DeGeareMoraya Seeger DeGeare is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, consultant, writer, activist, and mom. We recorded this conversation in-person, meandering in our discussion around moving within a world that tries to adhere to dominant culture all the time. Here’s what we hope you get out of this conversation: if you are someone who’s not walking around in a dominant culture body, we hope you can simply listen and not have to do extra work to find resonance. And if you are someone that's walking around in a dominant culture body (white, cis, heterosexual, able-bodied, neurotypical, etc), we h...2022-09-0652 min
Connectfulness PracticeRecontextualizing Healing In Community & On Social with Dr. Han RenDr. Han Ren (she/they) is deeply rooted in Liberation-oriented, anti-oppressive, culturally informed therapy. In this time of global upheaval and collective trauma many people have experienced increasing amounts of isolation. Social media is one of the places people turn when they feel alone. Han's widely viewed content on social media centers on liberating the idea that healing has to look a certain way, especially for often historically overlooked people and communities. Normalization goes a long way in undoing our collective experience of aloneness. In this gentle yet confronting conversation, Han guides us towards 3 moment to moment healing practices...2022-07-1442 min
Better Relationships, Better LifeEpisode 025: Navigating Relationship Ecosystems with Radical Self-AwarenessRebecca WongBetter Relationships, Better Life with Judy HermanEpisode 025: Navigating Relationship Ecosystems With Radical Self-AwarenessAs a licensed clinical social worker, Rebecca Wong is certified in Relational Life therapy (RTL) and Developmental and Relational Trauma Therapy (DARTT). She loves helping people get real and reconnected in their relationships. Rebecca hosts the Connectfulness Practice podcast and co-hosts the Why Does My Partner podcast. She resides in New York's Hudson Valley with her husband, daughters, and a handful of four-legged furry mischief-makers. Here is what to expect on this week’s show:•How to see relationships as an ecosystem while considering that we either pollu...2022-06-2839 min
Better Relationships, Better LifeNavigating Relationship Ecosystems with Radical Self-AwarenessRebecca WongBetter Relationships, Better Life with Judy HermanEpisode 025: Navigating Relationship Ecosystems With Radical Self-AwarenessAs a licensed clinical social worker, Rebecca Wong is certified in Relational Life therapy (RTL) and Developmental and Relational Trauma Therapy (DARTT). She loves helping people get real and reconnected in their relationships. Rebecca hosts the Connectfulness Practice podcast and co-hosts the Why Does My Partner podcast. She resides in New York's Hudson Valley with her husband, daughters, and a handful of four-legged furry mischief-makers. Here is what to expect on this w...2022-06-2839 min
Connectfulness PracticeShifting From Me vs You to Us Consciousness with Terry RealPatriarchy, supremacy, and toxic individualism are cultural values that really are at the root of so many social and political problems we face today. Systemic change can seem overwhelming, if not nearly impossible. But changing the power structure within our most intimate relationships? That’s something we can definitely do–starting today. How? By shifting from Me vs. You consciousness to Us consciousness and learning to act from our wise adult rather than our adaptive child as we work through hard things with our partners. When we do this, we spark a cultural butterfly effect that ripples outward into the world...2022-06-1055 min
Connectfulness PracticeThe Truth About Mismatched Libido & Desire with Cyndi DarnellWhat our culture teaches us about sex isn’t very useful. Many of us have absorbed the message that sex is a means to some kind of end–orgasm, connection, a baby. We’ve learned that there’s a right and a wrong way to do it. We’ve even learned that sex is natural. It’s no wonder then that when our libido doesn’t match our partner’s or our desires don’t match our politics, we assume there must be something wrong with us. Here’s the real truth: There is nothing wrong with you. Or your partner. So many of...2022-05-131h 13
Connectfulness PracticeThe Paradoxes of Healing with Dr. Lissa RankinIn Lissa Rankin’s book, Sacred Medicine, she writes, "We live in a disembodied culture because trauma causes us to leave our bodies. It is a defense mechanism and in extreme cases, a survival skill that can save you. Yet you can't heal the body without being in it." Our culture encourages dissociation: Buy this product to feel better, drink this to escape, distract yourself with social media. Numb out, stay busy, look outside yourself. And yet, science has enough data to say with certainty that trauma causes pain and illness in the body. This is no longer a woo-woo...2022-04-261h 19
Connectfulness PracticeLean Into the Awkwardness: An Interview with RebeccaDear listeners, for this month’s episode, we decided to do something a little different. Instead of interviewing a special guest, we’ve turned the tables and your host has become the guest! Out of curiosity and a sense of play (two things we adore here at Connectfulness), Rebecca agreed to be interviewed by our podcast editor, Al Hoberman, who is also a fabulous music therapist. Together, they let the conversation meander where it will, delving into topics like why we can never be “healed and ready” for a relationship before entering into it, the importance of knowing oneself (and why it...2022-03-3057 min
Connectfulness PracticeStepping into Your Wise Adult Self with Terri Delaney“I can’t adult today” makes for great social media fodder. But as with all humor, there’s a nugget of truth in there. How many models do we have for adulting that is healthy, balanced, secure and relational? Our culture has sold us quite a bill of goods: Independence and “rugged individualism” as an indication that we’ve become successful adults. Perfection or mastery as the ultimate goal. Self-care has become “treat yourself”. The pop psychology idea that having boundaries means you get to tell someone else what they can and can’t do. Even the idea that objective reality not on...2022-02-201h 34
Connectfulness PracticeTaking Responsibility for Your Feelings with Shane BirkelSo often, many of us are still just waiting on our parents to show up for us in the way we needed them to when we were little. Sometimes we’re consciously aware of this, oftentimes we’re not. And it can continue long after our parents have passed, if we haven’t made the unconscious conscious and learned to reparent ourselves. Otherwise, we often unintentionally seek this fulfillment from our most intimate relationships. In this episode, I chat with fellow Certified Relational Life Therapist, Shane Birkel, who is able to take these big concepts and ground them in very clear...2022-01-1954 min
Connectfulness PracticeWe Are Going To Have DiscomfortLife gets bumpy at times. We as humans make mistakes, we cause harm, things can get awkward or uncomfortable. This doesn’t change when you learn new relational skills. We never stop having those moments in our intimate relationships. We just get better at sitting with the awkward and imperfect. In this episode, I chat with Gina Senarighi about what happens when we bring the observational self onboard and practice being in the awkward with our partners. We discuss perfectionism, creativity, pleasure and play, shifting from judgment to curiosity, and making the most of things versus going into a su...2021-12-171h 07
Connectfulness PracticeTeach Your Friends This LanguageWhen conflict arises in our relationships, what does it mean to shift from 1st consciousness to 2nd consciousness? It has a lot to do with shifting from a preoccupation of the self into self-awareness of our own “going up” and “going down” as well as curiosity about other perspectives. This alone is a complex conversation, but believe it or not, it’s one that can be grasped and practiced quicker than you’d think. And once you have an understanding of it, it’s like someone’s turned a light on and you realize there’s so much more you can see clearly...2021-11-0657 min
Connectfulness PracticeBetter Boundaries with Sharon MartinSo often, we tend to think of boundaries in a punitive way, a way to protect us after something has happened. They often show up as consequences, even sometimes creating a continuous cycle of retaliation and defensiveness. But what if there was a way of thinking about them as a protection that helps us understand how to be relational—A protective layer for your relationships to ensure needs are met while preventing resentment or hurt? It’s not only possible, it’s so necessary. There’s a catch though: As my latest guest, Sharon Martin. MSW, LCSW, will tell you...2021-10-1443 minWhy Does My PartnerExpect Sex In The MorningWhat is sex about? What is it for? Many things, of course—pleasure and connection just being two of them. So what happens when there is an expectation or a mismatch in preferences? Can we talk about it with openness and curiosity? Or do we get pouty, irritable or retaliatory? It is inevitable that there will be times when our partners want sex when we are not in the mood or vice versa. When that happens, it is important to make the distinction that this rejection is not a rejection of the person. It’s just not what feels right in th...2021-10-0725 min
Connectfulness PracticeBaby Bomb with Stan Tatkin & Kara HoppeDr. Stan Tatkin and Kara Hoppe, psychotherapists and co-authors of Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents, join the podcast to share their wisdom on creating secure, purposeful relationships in a world that is indifferent to us. They explain why this relationship is so imperative, especially when it comes to raising healthy, happy children.Stan and Kara both bring a wealth of understanding of neurobiology and personal relational experience to this conversation. We talk about the importance of humor, how suffering can motivate us toward change, and how we can shift from being feeling-centered to p...2021-09-221h 05
Connectfulness PracticeHow Has The Pandemic Changed Us? with Paola BaileyThe pandemic isn’t over yet, but life is opening back up again. For some of us reopening can feel like whiplash just as much as it did when everything suddenly shut down. This comes as a surprise for so many because who of us didn’t dream about what we were most looking forward to doing when the world reopened again? It turns out it’s not so simple.With everything opening up so rapidly, it takes slowing down to reflect and notice what is bubbling up for us. In this episode, we explore windows of tolerance...2021-06-291h 02
Connectfulness PracticeBoundaries Are An Invitation with Esther BoykinNo matter where you are on your healing journey, this episode has much to offer about therapy and setting boundaries. It highlights a gentle way to approach long term healing and reinforces the value of discerning and setting boundaries that keep our selves safe and deepen our relationships.Relationships are foundational to our individual and collective wellbeing. Generation after generation of intergenerational trauma have imparted messages that tell us it's selfish/unsafe to focus on our selves. In this episode, we explore how compassionate self inquiry helps expand our understanding of boundaries beyond protection and walls towards...2021-06-1253 min
Connectfulness PracticeMother Hunger with Kelly McDanielKelly McDaniel, LPC returns to the podcast (she joined us on episode 28: The Legacy of Chronic Loneliness) to explore the legacy of maternal deprivation. Her upcoming book, Mother Hunger, soothes the legacy of shame that accompanies being under-mothered. Mother Hunger addresses the constant search for love —nurturance, protection, and guidance— that may lead to a lifelong quest for what was missing. It’s not about critiquing how you were raised, rather it’s about learning how to heal and re-parent the hungry parts inside. Healing begins with knowing and naming what we are missing.If you’re one...2021-05-0643 min
Connectfulness PracticeEmbodying Anti-Racism in Interracial Relationships with Francesca MaximéOur society is constructed to benefit White people, whether they're conscious of it or not. The “norm” we’ve inherited centers an oppressive and privileging system when it comes to equity and power. And it plays out in relationships...In this episode, Francesca Maximé joins us to explore how interracial partners can embody anti-racism in their relationship. We explore how blind spots and racial misattunements affect interracial relationships. And we discuss how to build more equitable partnerships.White Partners: You may have to practice sitting with discomfort, be honest about what you don't know, educate yoursel...2021-04-2251 min
The Erotic PhilosopherHow To Create Deeper Connections with Rebecca WongIn this final episode of Season 2, Rebecca Wong shows us what's at the root of our struggles in connection and what we can do when our partners are getting on our nerves, over and over and over again. After years of witnessing clients & having deep conversations about life, love, and legacy work as the host of the Connectfulness® Practice podcast and the (archived) Practice Of Being Seen podcast, Rebecca realized that all the big things we struggle with — fear, imposter syndrome, not-enoughness, you name it — come back to the same thing: disconnection. And, there’s something we can do about i...2021-03-2243 min
Connectfulness PracticeIntroducing the "Why Does(n't) My Partner ...?" PodcastMy colleagues Jules and Vickey and I just launched a new podcast and I am super excited to share it with you, so I'm sharing it here!!In this trailer, we're sharing the story of how we met, how we've come to work together, how this podcast came to be, and what you can expect in future episodes. We're calling this podcast Why Does My Partner (or Why Doesn't My Partner, it's interchangeable) because these are the questions we hear over and over again in our offices. We believe these questions lead to the GOLD of relational...2021-03-1614 min
Connectfulness PracticeCreating A Sense of Your (Imperfect) Self with Rick ButtsToday’s guest, Dr. Rick Butts, cofounded the Healing Our Core Issues Institute (HOCII). We discuss how the nature of the child —to be imperfect and human— is linked to how we humans come to know ourselves as we mature. We explore the woundings, teachings and adaptations that shape us in our formative years and become how we present in the world. And we examine the tasks of recovering our sense of self which comes when we can see and accept ourselves as human in all areas of our life. These teaching have opened many inroads to my own healin...2021-03-031h 25
Connectfulness PracticeThe Legacy of Chronic Loneliness with Kelly McDanielWe need relationship in order to survive. If you were raised without a secure base you likely learned early on to modify yourself. In this episode I am talking with Kelly McDaniel, LPC, NCC, CSAT, author and psychotherapist, about the complex trauma of chronic loneliness and how to heal from the toxic stress of disconnection.Kelly McDaniel’s first book Ready to Heal (2008) was written for women healing from addictive love and sex. Her new book Mother Hunger arrives July 2021 from Hay House. For full show notes click here....2021-02-061h 16
Connectfulness PracticeInto The Deep Creative Process with Chris ZydelSo often in the journey of relational healing we discover parts of our Selves have been disowned — the parts of one's spirit which allow spontaneity and imperfection and cultivate abundance and joy. In this episode we explore the creative process as a way to bear witness to these parts of Self.My guest, Chris Zydel, The Wild Heart Queen, works with people using creativity and artistic expression as a way to get in touch with the deeper aspects of who they are. Chris says the ‘creative juice’ is our ability to meet the mystery of what we don’t...2020-12-301h 16
Connectfulness PracticeHow Sex Education (Or Lack Of) Impacts Us All with Elizabeth GreenblattSexuality is a part of who we are and we all deserve to learn about it in a way that is safe, comfortable, and judgement-free. Learning about positive sexuality is transformative for individuals and society overall. My guest, Elizabeth Greenblatt, strives to support young people develop the skills to navigate their sexuality in a healthy and fulfilling way and believes young people must be at the center of this work.Elizabeth says “we must understand that young people are the experts on their lives and listen to them. We must be willing to listen without judgement and pr...2020-11-231h 09
The Labors of Love PodcastEpisode 40: Parenting with ConnectfulnessOn this episode, La Shanda and her guest, Rebecca Wong, discuss the importance of repairing relational ruptures in breaking generational trauma cycles.
Books Mentioned This Episode: The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust by Claudia Gold and Edward Tronick
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Connectfulness PracticeThe Science Behind How Your Relationship Can Help You Heal with Juliane Taylor ShoreWe’re excited to bring Juliane Taylor Shore, LPC, LMFT, SEP (AKA Jules) back to the podcast — last time she joined us, on episode 18, Jules introduced us to the brain science around how to stay relational when our protective systems are activated during times of chaos, like these. In this episode we’re talking about how your relationship can help you heal…and the brain science behind why and how it works. Expect lots of delicious neurobiological explanations around how healing occurs in the subcortical system. Jules says that healing trauma means what was, is not what a...2020-09-151h 20
Connectfulness PracticeGenerational Healing with La Shanda Sugg, LPCIn this episode, La Shanda Sugg and I talk about a generational healing, a topic that truly affects us all. And if there is one message we want you to walk away from this episode with, it’s that generational healing is possible! Trauma can be caused, and passed down generation by generation, in many ways. Often we didn't even notice because it became woven into the fabric of who we think we are and what is our ”normal.” When something triggered a lack of safety — could be a physical, emotional, social, or moral trigger — we do what we’re...2020-08-311h 01
Connectfulness PracticeBreaking the Cycle of Unavailable Relationships & Love Addiction with Shena TubbsShena Tubbs, Relational Trauma and Love Addiction Expert, Coach, and LPC joins us to talk about how early trauma manifests in our adult relationships, recreating a cycle from childhood. As Shena shares, healing begins with getting the language and words around family trauma and what did/didn’t happen. Persistent love addiction/love avoidant adult relationships are often a recreation of early trauma, of seeking out people that would do the same, in hopes that it will turn out differently.Shena is the host of the Black Girls Heal podcast and the founder of Black Girls Heal, an...2020-08-071h 02
Connectfulness PracticeOn Self Acceptance with Jane Tornatore, Ph.D.This episode highlights helpful ways to tend to our selves, reclaim power, and perhaps help us soothe our selves when we don’t have the power to change our situation. My guest, Dr. Jane Tornatore is a Therapist & Speaker Seattle, WA. A recovering perfectionist, she knows the pain of being bogged down by old beliefs and never quite measuring up to expectations. She supports people in converting outdated patterns and stress into more freedom, joy, and authenticity that come from being gentler with the self and living more from the heart. We recorded this episode in February 2020. I’ve...2020-07-0749 min
Connectfulness PracticeAntiracist Responsibility with Robin Mallison AlpernSystemic racism is real and deeply rooted in society. When we center our society around whiteness but don’t discuss it we’re ignoring the problem of racism. Distancing ourselves from the problem of racism is to perpetuate it by allowing countless more injustices to be committed. When we become conscious we can take responsibility and change course. The opposite of being a racist is not being not-racist. The opposite of being racist is being antiracist.In this episode, Robin Mallison Alpern, the Director of Training at the Center for the Study of White American Culture (CSWAC), join...2020-06-161h 01
Connectfulness PracticeHow Stress Affects Sex with Emily NagoskiIn this episode relationship therapist and host, Rebecca Wong, talked with Emily Nagoski, New York Times bestselling author of Come As You Are & Burnout. It goes without saying that we’re all living in a deepened state of stress in this pandemic time. Emily helps us to understand how stress affects sex and learn more about what we can do to reclaim confidence and joy and transform our sex lives.Resources:Emily Nagoski’s mission in life is to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. Learn more about her work at...2020-05-101h 01
Connectfulness PracticeStorytelling, Connection, & Resilience with Eva TenutoI'd like to introduce you to TMI Project, a nonprofit near and dear to my heart, that uses writing and true storytelling for social justice movement building, to ignite human connection and as a healing modality for personal transformation. I have gone through the workshop as a participant and became a trained facilitator of their methodology. I recently sat down with Eva Tenuto, the co-founder and executive director of TMI Project, to talk about how storytelling can enhance connection and resilience during times of social isolation. Resources: Eva Tenuto is the co-founder and exe...2020-05-0241 min
Connectfulness PracticeWelcoming our Protective Systems in a Disorienting World with Juliane Taylor ShoreJuliane Taylor Shore, LPC, LMFT, SEP (AKA Jules) joins Rebecca to discuss the impact of being quarantined at home, experiencing isolation, fear and grief. How these experiences work in tandem with our implicit memory systems, and the effect it all has on our relationships. It's such a quick process, we can’t preempt it. Instead the focus shifts towards slowing down and coming into enough relationship with ourselves that our brains hook back on. In order hold this level of fear and grief, we need to practice a lot of grace around how often we al...2020-04-171h 17
Mindful Mama: Raising Kind, Confident Kids Without Losing Your Cool | Parenting Strategies For Big Emotions & MoreEmotional Resilience in Chaotic Times - Rebecca WongGet Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! It has been over a month since schools were canceled and normal life ended due to the coronavirus outbreak, and it’s hard on everyone. What attitudes and approaches can we take to hold ourselves and our children with wisdom and compassion? How do we come out of this more resilient than before? Therapist Rebecca Wong comes back on the Mindful Mama podcast to help us through these chaotic times. Takeaways: We are all in a shared trauma reality rig...2020-04-1753 min
Connectfulness PracticeEmbodying Resilience During COVID19 with Dr. Shideh LennonDr. Shideh Lennon, a clinical psychologist and Somatic Experiencing practitioner, joins us to discuss how to embody resilience during the current COVID-19 pandemic. We're talking about simple practices that we can use to bring ourselves back into our bodies. We’re still going to feel it all, but these tools may help increase our capacity by being our biggest, best selves so that we may bear and be with all that's arising.Resources:Dr. Lennon’s website: slennonphd.comLearn more about Rebecca’s practice at connectfulness.com and explore her upc...2020-04-1051 min
Connectfulness PracticeSecure Relationships with Dr. Rebecca Jorgenson Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen, or Becca, joins me to discuss how to avoid common pitfalls and achieve more secure relationships. Becca shares from the EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) perspective that, being human, we all need to feel secure. Our initial insecurities often develop into defensive, protective strategies born from the pain of trying to be seen and heard. The thing is, these strategies makes it difficult for people to come close to us, or for us to maintain connection. When we feel sensitive and insecure, we automatically put up our guard up, go behind a wall, or get critical of o...2020-02-1457 min
Connectfulness PracticeJourney To Discover The Self with Jan Bergstrom, LMHCThe family system is the first filter children experience the world through, it informs the senses and creates the meaning from which each of us understand the “me”, our unique “who I am.” It’s up to parents to reach in and help the growing child navigate their reality —but that‘s not what usually happens— usually parents try to make the child become what the parent needs the child to be so that the parent is comfortable. In this episode, my teacher, Jan Bergstrom, LMHC will help us understand how the Self exists in relation to our own perception...2020-01-2054 min
Connectfulness PracticePeeling Back the Layers of Multicultural Competence with Sonya Lott, PhDThis is a powerful discussion about the ways each of us dances with power and privilege. How the very ways we are oppressed have possibly become how we oppress others, and also ourselves. And the liberation that begins when we remove the blinders and really see ourselves in each other. I’m talking with Dr. Sonya Lott, a licensed psychologist in private practice with a specialization in complicated grief, the host of the Reflections on Multicultural Competence podcast, and the founder of CEMPSYCH, LLC, (Continuing Education in Multicultural Psychology). She's on a mission to transform the narratives cr...2019-12-181h 05
Sidewalk TalkRebecca Wong Interviewing Traci Ruble on What She Has Learned Listening On the SidewalkStandout Quotes:
They see my whole mess and they love me anyway. (Traci Ruble)
My heart is never wrong. It's just getting in there that is the challenge. (Traci Ruble)
Boundaries are about finding that balance between connection and protection. (Rebecca Wong)
Rebecca Wong's spirit and her way of being are so audible in the way she speaks, breaths, takes long pauses to take in an interaction fully, and to let connection drive how she relates. I am thrilled you get to meet her here. I hope you will join me i...2019-12-1749 min
Connectfulness PracticeUnraveling The Survival Knot, Part 2 with Hedy SchleiferThis is part 2 of Unraveling The Survival Knot with Hedy Schleifer. If you haven’t already tuned into part 1 of this series, we recommend you begin there. We’re diving even deeper into the process of being a host/visitor and opening ourselves to each others deepest truths, to our own deepest truths, on a level where we may not have exposed ourselves to that in the past. Hedy Schleifer is an internationally renowned relationship builder and motivational speaker who guides, counsels and teaches couples, partners, business associates, therapists and families about relational maturity. Hedy is t...2019-11-181h 09
Mindful Mama: Raising Kind, Confident Kids Without Losing Your Cool | Parenting Strategies For Big Emotions & MoreHow To Take Care Of Fear - Rebecca WongHunter talks to Rebecca Wong about How To Take Care Of Fear.What do we do with our fears? They tend to creep up on us, leading to experiences of anxiety that keep us from being present. In this podcast episode, Rebecca Wong, LCSWR, teaches us that fear can be our friend and our teacher, showing us where to tend and heal.Some big takeaways from this episode include: 1. Our parents and ancestors can pass down wounds, but also calluses, and resilience 2. As we heal, we also heal backwards and forwards in generations 3. We can...2019-10-291h 06
Connectfulness PracticeUnraveling The Survival Knot, Part 1 with Hedy SchleiferI’m joined by Hedy Schleifer, an internationally renowned relationship builder and motivational speaker who guides, counsels and teaches couples, partners, business associates, therapists and families about relational maturity. Hedy is the founder of the Encounter-centered Couples Transformation approach (EcCT). An integrative and interdisciplinary model that lies at the intersection of philosophy, clinical theory, organizational methodology, and relational neurobiology and memory reconsolidation. Hedy guides partners through what she calls the “Art of Connection,” teaching them how to turn their relationship into a living laboratory for the development of relational intelligence: how to fill their partnership with cr...2019-10-191h 17
Connectfulness PracticeRiding The Feminine Current with Maya LunaIn this month's episode I'm joined by Maya Luna, a Feminine Mystic and a Poet exploring the Tantric Path and Feminine Embodiment. We muse about our collective hunger for deep acceptance of who we really are. Our fear of letting go, of surrendering, and of softening into the moment. The masculine conditioning that’s taught us we have to keep doing, and controlling, and making life happen, and if we don't we're going to die.The deep feminine is the soulful nourishment of being we are craving. All our doing is an attempt to experience fulfillment. And the...2019-09-161h 21
Connectfulness PracticeMending Racialized Trauma: A Body Centered Approach with Resmaa Menakem“Healing from white-body supremacy begins with the body — your body. But it does not end there. In order to heal the collective body that is America, we also need social activism that is body centered. We cannot individualize our way out of white-body supremacy. Nor can we merely strategize our way out. We need collective action — action that heals.”— Resmaa Menakem, My Grandmother’s HandsRebecca is joined by healer, author, and trauma specialist, Resmaa Menakem. Resmaa helps people, communities, and organizations find strength and healing that’s both holistic and resilient. He’s authored 3 books and today’...2019-08-091h 36
Connectfulness PracticeContemplating Life Through Grief with John Eric Baugher, PhDRebecca is joined by John Eric Baugher, a scholar, writer and teacher exploring the transformative possibilities of contemplative end of life care. His book, Contemplative Caregiving offers encouragement to show up in the fullness of life. This is an in-person (one microphone) interview and it’s a long one. Resources:Find out more about John’s work at https://johnericbaugher.com/John’s Book: Contemplative Caregiving: Finding Healing, Compassion, and Spiritual Growth through End-of-Life CareLearn more about Rebecca’s relationship therapy practice and intensive couples retreat experiences in NY at connectful...2019-07-191h 57
Connectfulness PracticeBecoming Parents: A Roundtable Discussion with Elly Taylor and Barb Buckner SuárezIn this episode we’re reframing how to prepare parents for parenthood and dispelling the myth that you can't prepare for parenthood. Our last few episodes have been about why relationships are difficult and inherited family trauma and as we dive into this content, we keep coming back to how significant the first 3-5 years of a child’s life and if we’re not preparing parents, it’s rippling … and so, we’re talking about creating a movement, a seed planting movement that literally prepares people to become parents.Rebecca is joined by Elly T...2019-06-121h 20
Connectfulness PracticeInherited Family Trauma with Mark WolynnHave you ever said something like “I’m just wired this way” in response to someone asking why you can’t just relax and go with the flow more? Maybe you’re scared of certain smells, places, uniforms, noises and other common things found in everyday life without knowing where you developed that particular aversion. As we discussed in our last episode, our brains hold onto the negative experiences for survival -- they become a reference guide to navigating life. But what if we don’t know why we’re reacting negatively towards the mere thought of these scenarios?Recently...2019-05-141h 09
Connectfulness PracticeWhy Are Relationships Difficult? with Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFTIf you've ever wondered "why are relationships difficult?" you'll want to catch this episode with Dr. Stan Tatkin. We start with an exploration of how our species’ survival relies on an inborn negativity bias and how this same mechanism makes relationships difficult and more challenging to sustain under stress. Everyone’s experienced some form of relational loss and developmental trauma. And so, with this in mind, we’re also discussing how early development shapes each of us and our ability to self-regulate and foster safe, secure, adult romantic relationships.Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, teacher, and de...2019-04-1946 min
Connectfulness PracticePleasure and the Body's Wisdom with Cyndi DarnellCyndi Darnell is an internationally renowned sex and relationship therapist. Her approach spans the clinical to the esoteric. She’s spearheading progressive sex & relationships seminars and workshops for adults and clinicians that deeply change people’s lives. Cyndi’s on a mission to eliminate stigma from discussions around sex, erotisim and pleasure and changing our fears and transform it into freedom.In this episode, Cyndi and I discuss:How the sexual revolution missed the boat to discuss pleasure (especially womxn’s pleasure) that center on what each individual’s motivation is. Permission to own your motivation.Understand...2019-03-1355 min
i want what SHE has#58 Coaching Women (Blair Glaser / Rebecca Wong / Lauree Ostrofsky) "Leadership, Connection and Holding Space for Growth"Hello Listeners and thank you for joining us today. In "Girl Talk" we talk about white supremacy. Links for discussion: "Me and White Supremacy Workbook" by Layla Saad and "NY Times The Daily"
Blair Glaser, describes herself as a soul spelunker, she helps mostly women in executive positions grow, and is also a leadership mentor and relationship coach. "Authority is Attractive" what does that mean... confidence plus creativity! In addition to her coaching business, she is working on a memoir about living in an Ashram in her 20's, her work in theater and healing work. Blair co-hosting a...2019-02-271h 58
Practice of Being SeenCHECK OUT THE NEW PODCAST!Hello Friends! I've archived this show and have started a new podcast that I wanted to make sure you knew about. I'd love for you to check out the Connectfulness Practice podcast, now available on your favorite podcast platform. After you listen to a few episodes, I’d be grateful if you could leave an honest rating and review in iTunes of how the podcast supports your journey. Join the Connectfulness® Community for deeper discussions. And follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. GRATITUDES: Christy Haussler and my behind the scen...2019-02-2600 min
Connectfulness PracticeParenting and Reckoning with Your Identity with Mercedes Samudio, LCSWMercedes Samudio, LCSW is a parent coach, speaker, bestselling author, and founder of the Diversity in Parenting conference who helps parents and children communicate with each other, manage emotional trauma, navigate social media and technology together, and develop healthy parent-child relationships. She started the #EndParentShaming movement and coined the term Shame-Proof Parenting — using both to bring awareness to ending parent shame. Mercedes is on a mission to empower parents in believing in their innate ability to guide and raise healthy, happy children. In this episode, Mercedes Samudio and I discuss:Mercedes' message and passion and how it’...2019-02-1341 min
Connectfulness PracticeErotic Simmering and Lasting Love with Stephen Snyder MDDr. Stephen Snyder is a sex and relationship therapist, Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City, and the author of the acclaimed sex and relationship book, LOVE WORTH MAKING: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship.In this episode, Dr Snyder and I discuss: The nature of desire and why you don’t need it. Why we make ourselves crazy trying to cultivate desire instead of a-tuning ourselves to our long term partners through mindful moments of inspiration. Why frustration is a good t...2019-02-121h 07
Connectfulness PracticeBuddhist Wisdom for Relationship Discomfort with Susan PiverSusan Piver is a New York Times bestselling author of 9 books including her latest, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships, and a renowned Buddhist teacher. Susan joins me to talk about how to survive the inevitable discomfort of relationships and how she discovered what she’s called the Four Noble Truths of Love during a rough patch in her own marriage while thinking they might be through and not knowing where to begin. Which is when a voice whispered to Susan “begin at the beginning, at the beginning are four noble truths.” 2019-02-1147 min
Connectfulness PracticeWelcome. Start Here.Welcome to the Connectfulness Practice Podcast. Here we settle in to the murky, tangled, and freaking hard parts of life to restore our relationship with the self, so it can ripple out to the people we love, the work we do, and the world around us.We can’t fix what’s wrong if we can’t talk about it. We can’t move the conversation forward if we’re not willing to be real about where we are now. And unless we push the edges of what it means to connect, nothing will ever change. I’m your host...2019-02-1110 min
Rebel TherapistBig Changes With Rebecca WongThis is a special conversation about making a pivot in your business in order to get closer to what you’re meant to do. Rebecca and I each get personal about the pivots we’re each moving through and we talk about the retreat we’re hosting in 2019 for YOU. Topics Discussed In This Episode: Owning the work you’re best at Revisioning your business Thinking about your body of work and what legacy you’re creating Mindset issues that come up when you push the boundaries of your business The Signature Heart And Soul Busine...2018-11-2739 minPractice of Being SeenFINALE: Getting Closer to What You’re Meant To Do With Annie SchuesslerThis is a special conversation about making a pivot in your business in order to get closer to what you’re meant to do. Annie and I each get personal about the pivots we’re each moving through and we talk about the retreat we’re hosting in 2019 for YOU. Topics Discussed In This Episode: Owning the work you’re best at Revisioning your business Thinking about your body of work and what legacy you’re creating Mindset issues is that come up when you push the boundaries of your business The Signature He...2018-11-2700 min
The Couples Therapist Couch065: Connectfulness with Rebecca WongFor so many of us we don't have a strong sense of what we want in our lives. We spend a lot of time doing what we think will make us happy or what we think others want. Connectfulness is the process of defining what we really want for ourselves so that we can show up in our lives and relationships in a more authentic way. Rebecca Wong is a couples therapist who works with couples in a deep way. She also works with therapists through one on one coaching, her mentorship program, and the signature retreat. 2018-10-1641 minPractice of Being SeenLessons & Layers of Sensitivity with April Snow
HSP Series part 4There is something for all of us to take away and learn from this conversation. Every single one of us gets to pause and learn who we are in relationships with ourselves and who we are and how we show up in relationships with others and we also have to pause and learn our partners and loved ones. April Snow is an Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in downtown San Francisco. She believes thriving as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) a matter of knowing yourself and making adjustments to care for your unique temperament. If you’ve b...2018-08-1500 min
Therapy Chat143: Attachment, Trust + Being SeenWelcome back to Therapy Chat! In today’s episode host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C re-visits her interview with Rebecca Wong, LCSW-R. Rebecca Wong, LCSW-R, a relationship therapist in New Paltz, NY, the creator of Connectfulness, and co-host of the upcoming Practice Of Being Seen podcast.Rebecca talks about using play in her couples work, as well as how our attachment relates to our ability to trust our partners. Rebecca explains that needing attention is not a bad thing – it’s normal. She talks about the concept of being seen, in relationships and in our work with clients...2018-07-2037 minPractice of Being SeenSupporting Transgender People And The People Who Love Them with Sarah GilbertWhat kind of support exists for people who question their gender identity and the people who love them? Fortunately, there are therapists who specialize in offering support and safe spaces for the discussions and self-discovery in the face of the intense societal pressure trans folk experience. Today’s show tackles these issues and more. Sarah Gilbert, LCSW, is the owner of Transitions Therapy, LLC, a private practice in Manchester, Connecticut. Her mission is to help people author their unique identities. She specializes in working with teens and adults who identify as transgender, as well as those who lo...2018-07-1800 minPractice of Being SeenYour Relationship with Money with Joanne LeffeldHow do you feel about money? Is it a subject you’re comfortable talking about? Most of us know money is necessary in today’s world, but we may not realize the sensitivity we carry around talking about this topic. And how many relationship issues are related to our views of money. Today’s show explores the psychology of our relationship with money. My guest Joanne Leffeld began her career as a Certified Financial Planner in the NY metropolitan area. Now in the Hudson Valley she’s created a unique business working with clients one-on-one and with couples...2018-06-1300 minPractice of Being SeenTending To Our Selves with Dave ConleyWhen is it time to turn inward? When we show up for the people that we love, our attention is diverted from other things. There’s so much in this world that is competing for our time and attention. The result of this attention-grabbing is that our inner center is often left unattended. When we focus outwardly, especially in a helping profession, we tend to ignore the important inner work that needs to happen in order to take care of ourselves. My guest today has done extensive work with how we show up in the wor...2018-06-0600 minPractice of Being SeenCreative Spirituality and Sustainable Wellness with Lanie SmithWe are humans, we create. Treat your soul to some self-care today and join Lanie Smith and I as we explore creativity, self-knowledge, and how art and nature combine. We’re talking about the evolution of Lanie’s signature approach to wellness and self-care as a sustainable lifestyle, EcoArt Wellness. Sustainable is the key word here because for Lanie, creating art and communing with nature are as natural as living her life. Lanie is an art therapist, coach and consultant with a passion for supporting other helping professionals tune in as an antidote to burnou...2018-05-3000 minPractice of Being SeenVicarious Resilience through StorytellingI had the deep joy of chatting with my friends Eva Tenuto and Hayley Downs to discuss the transformative power of sharing your story. I’m honored to share this episode with you. You may recall Eva, co-founder of the TMI Project, was a guest on our Where Storytelling Meets Activism episode on season one. I connect deeply with TMI Project's mission of “changing the world…one story at a time,” so much so, that I moonlight as a TMI Project workshop facilitator. Since 2012, twice a year, TMI Project has offered 10-week memoir writing and true sto...2018-05-2300 minPractice of Being SeenFacing Fear and Enjoying the Crap Outta Life: A conversation with Lauree OstrofskyWe often think fear is designed to keep us safe. When you shift focus you may find it’s that very fear that keeps each of us from living out our dreams. Perhaps we misunderstand fear’s purpose and message. It’s uncomfortable to be in relationship with fear so we tend towards making choices that allow us to avoid fear altogether, that keep us safe (and playing small). The thing is, that our fears cloud our ability to enjoy the crap out of our lives. Fear and joy coexists simultaneously, constant companions. We don’t eventually become unscared. Instead, we...2018-02-2100 minPractice of Being SeenOwning your Shit in Love: A conversation with Shane BirkelCouples come to therapy for a myriad of reasons. But often, the real reason why they’re showing up is the thing hidden underneath their reasons. The solution is nearly always found in holding a magnifying lens up in those moments of conflict and, as this week’s guest Shake Birkel says, “owning our shit”. Suddenly, “Why is he/she doing this to me?” shifts into an opportunity to sit with our emotions and recalibrate our connections. Shane Birkel, a therapist and fellow podcaster, is no stranger to these magnifying glass moments. Together, we discuss the ways raising kids c...2018-02-1400 minPractice of Being SeenAm I Normal? Talking about Sex: A conversation with Megan Torrey-PayneSex is a difficult topic for most of us to discuss. What we like, what we don’t like, where the edges of our boundaries are, what is normal and what isn’t, what our children need to know and when… And yet, it is such an all-encompassing thing in what it means to be human, it has roots and ties in nearly every facet of our existence. Ultimately, what we all secretly want to know is, “Am I normal?” Our fears, discomfort and shame around sex aren’t entirely our faults. Had we all been raised receiving diffe...2018-02-0700 min
Beyond the Couch with Dr. Sally NazariBuilding Unshakeable ConnectionsWelcome to Beyond the Couch, a show devoted to celebrating you in your amazing life. Thank you for tuning in. You can also Subscribe to auto-download new podcast episodes to your Apple or Android device. After you listen to a few episodes, please consider leaving an honest rating and review of how the podcast has helped your transformation journey. This helps the information reach more of the people who are going through the same journey. Be sure to get an intro to Mindfulness with my cheat sheet and bonus audio sample here: http://www.subscribepage.c...2018-02-0114 minPractice of Being SeenIntensive Restructuring: A conversation with Adam SmitheyWhat could you accomplish with your clients in just one weekend? This week’s guest, Adam Smithey, dares us to dream “outside the box” into what is possible: how we can make the most impact, what our clients are really asking us for, and how we can better integrate our work into our everyday lives. For him, that means being a stay-at-home dad during the week and running couples intensives on the weekends. Adam finds that he is able to complete six months of work with his couples in just two days. In this episode, Adam tells Rebecca h...2018-01-3100 minPractice of Being SeenCarefrontation In The Present Moment: A conversation with Tom Murray“Our thoughts create our suffering” is not an uncommon idea. But what does that really mean for our relationships, our past traumas, or the present realities? In this episode, Rebecca talks with Tom Murray, a sex and couples therapist in Greensboro, NC, about the significance of the present moment, and what it proves about truth and endurance. Tom tells Rebecca about his “carefrontational” approach with clients and how he helps them to see where they’re creating their own suffering. They discuss the difference between post-traumatic stress and post-traumatic growth, moving with the flow of life versus living in res...2018-01-2400 minPractice of Being SeenCultural Competency for Helpers: A conversation with Natalie OvertonWhen we are working to make a positive impact in a community, who is being left out of the conversation? Who isn’t being seen? Empathy starts with relationships and the mirrors those relationships hold up for us. When we are interested in joining in the conversation of diversity and inclusivity, it can be challenging to know where to start, how to jump in, or who to ask for support. It feels scary. No one wants to do it wrong. But what relational work teaches us is that by looking at ourselves, with curiosity and self-compassion, we begin to expand...2018-01-1700 minPractice of Being SeenAmerican Collective Consciousness: A Conversation with Molly MersonThis conversation undulates between the current state and issues within our collective consciousness as Americans living in today’s social and political climate to the individual in how we deal with self-reflection, trauma, and loss--beautifully illustrating the now proverbial rally cry, “The personal is political.” Rebecca and Berkeley-based therapist Molly Merson, MFT cover it all, from our political “parents” to our collective infancy on the internet, to grief and loss and metabolizing trauma, capitalism and gift-giving culture, community mindset and collaboration, to technology, parenting, psychoanalytic theory, and the choices we have in suicide versus end-of-life. It all comes down...2018-01-1000 minPractice of Being SeenIntentions and New Pathways: A conversation with Benjamin ReistererIn our ever increasingly more technology-driven world, it is becoming even more imperative that we drop down into our physical bodies to understand what we feel and notice how it shows up for us in our bodies. There is so much information to be had in our sensory and intuitive experiences, if we’ll only take the time to notice it. And this information can show us not only how we react or respond to others, but also how we can shift cultural paradigms. So, it is only fitting that this week’s guest, Benjamin Reisterer, created a rema...2018-01-0300 minPractice of Being SeenHoliday Special: Relationship Rumble Strips The Practice of Being Seen podcast offers a collection of curated discussions to therapists and anyone interested in deep restorative transformation, through relationship. Relationship Therapist and host, Rebecca Wong, believes that when you truly see yourself you create a ripple effect that allows you to be the change you wish to see in the world -- and that invites everyone around you to do the same. This is the basis of her signature method, Connectfulness®. On this special holiday episode, Rebecca muses about Relationship Rumblestrips. These are reminders that help you come back into consciousness in your r...2017-12-2700 minPractice of Being SeenWhat Men Need in Therapy: A Conversation with John HarrisonIn a field where, more often than not, women tend to be the ones more often drawn to our therapy practices, working with male clients in a therapy practice can pose unique challenges. Men generally aren’t equipped to talk about their feelings in the same ways that women are and they can often feel like their sense of self is under attack while under the clinical microscope. Today’s guest, John Harrison, knows quite a bit about this as a certified Relational Life Therapist, a facilitator for men’s therapy groups, an Army veteran, husband and father...2017-11-2200 minPractice of Being SeenBeing in Integrity with Your Finances: A conversation with Tiffany McLainMoney as a conversation piece is as taboo as sex. It’s as difficult to discuss as racism. We simply just don’t go there very well. And, it’s not really our fault. We generally aren’t taught how to have a healthy relationship with money. We don’t have good (or any) mentorship around it in our careers and we certainly don’t bring money into conversations within the clinical space. There’s something about money that brings up all the shame and fear. And yet, it is as necessary to our modern day survival as water and shelter. ...2017-11-1500 minPractice of Being SeenThe Mentorship ProgramI've had some realizations about my mentorship program that I wanted to share with you. I may not be doing what is recommended, but I am doing what feels right for me. I hope you will also give yourself permission to also do what feels right for you. Learn more about and join the Connectfulness® Method Mentorship Program here. 2017-11-1300 minPractice of Being SeenReleasing Your Inner Badass: A Conversation with Laura LongWhen we first start out in private practice, when we launch that new offering--anytime we do something new--uncertainty always plays a role. We prepare and plan as much as we can, of course, but the real clarity comes from doing. Still, that doesn’t stop the fears, the risk of failure, the shame feelings from presenting themselves, does it? Laura Long, LMFT wants us all to undo all of those fears by unleashing our inner badass. Today she chats with me about how her coaching business, Your Badass Therapy Practice, came to be. She talks about th...2017-11-0800 minPractice of Being SeenDr. Matt Hersh: Seeds of Sustainable Self CareWhat is your relationship to self-care? Self-care is quite the buzzword these days, both within our chosen field of work but also in mainstream media and culture. As therapists, we know it is a vital part of our practices to avoid burnout, compassion fatigue, and vicarious traumatization. In other words, it helps us to do the work better, to show up more fully for our clients and for our families outside of work. But, for all we know about self-care, and for all the tips and tricks available to us, many of us still struggle to feel like we are...2017-11-0100 minPractice of Being SeenDr. Joy Harden Bradford: On Allyship & Cultural CompetencyPeople of color--black women in particular--have always been an underserved population when it comes to therapy. Though there are many factors, one important one that we therapists can work on changing is a matter of trust and safety. A lot of black women want a black therapist because of fear of being misunderstood by a therapist who can’t relate to (or worse, disbelieves) their experiences. In this present social climate, this is a conversation we all need to have with ourselves and our colleagues. It starts with seeing ourselves. This is what Dr. Joy Harden...2017-10-2500 minPractice of Being SeenReframing Imposter Syndrome: A Conversation with Melody WildingFraud feelings and overwhelm. Squelched desires and jealousy. How do you differentiate between fears designed to keep you safe and fears beckoning you to toward your potential? The friction of change during growth periods in our lives is never very comfortable, but for all our fears, we rarely meet our utter demise on the other side. So, why is it so hard to break through it? And what can we learn about ourselves from it? Episode 38 of the #POBScast puts Imposter Syndrome under the lens. I’m chatting with Melody Wilding, an entrep...2017-10-1800 minPractice of Being SeenBrave Gathering: A conversation with Lizzy RussinkoSomething magical happens when people gather together in the same space. Something that can’t happen in online gathering spaces in quite the same way. Gatherings take many forms: Retreats, workshops, conferences. Walk-outs, protests, sit-ins. Tea parties, play groups, picnics. But the one unifier is that buzz, the energy, that each person feels when they’re there. A buzz they’ll each carry with them long after. That’s what I’m talking about with this week’s guest, Lizzy Russinko of The Brave Gatherers and A Life Unscripted. Lizzy is a bold change maker. A hand lettering arti...2017-10-1100 minPractice of Being SeenThe Mess and the Message: A Conversation with John ClarkeIn Episode 36 of the #POBScast, John Clarke and I thread connections between imposter syndrome, niching down and generating enough income in our practices as therapists, to making the space for reflection on the relationship we have with ourselves and how this informs our marketing message and confidence in the room with our clients. This conversation comes full circle as we talk about our fears of “making it” in our businesses and in seeing ourselves clearly--it forms a dance between beginner’s mind and owning our expertise. I love how generous he is in sharing his own current struggles in business...2017-10-0400 minPractice of Being SeenTracking for Business Artists: A conversation with Jeffrey DavisThis week on the #POBScast, Rebecca speaks with Jeffrey Davis, a writer, speaker, consultant and founder of Tracking Wonder, a consultancy and community that helps creative innovators, entrepreneurs, and social psychologists flourish through challenge and change. Jeffrey says that we often defer our sense of wonder to our children and give ourselves other tasks. But, what if wonder is grown-up work? Jeffrey and I both share a common interest in the integration of our creativity, our money-making endeavors, our sensory experiences, and our relationships into one life that is full of meaning. And actually, who we w...2017-09-2700 minPractice of Being SeenThe Next Brave Step: Daring to See YourselfThis episode is equal parts stream-of-consciousness musing and a call-to-action. Throughout, I am redefining the meaning and intention of the Practice of Being Seen in both micro and macro levels: as a podcast, in branding, as a way of knowing ourselves, as a means of serving others. I want to know what you want from the #POBScast as well. I believe that everything stems from how we see ourselves. In daring to look at my own shadows, I invite you to do the same. As we do this hard work together, we shine a light on who we r...2017-09-2000 minPractice of Being SeenRebecca & Marisa: From the Periphery to the CenterWhat does it take to claim your personal truths? What does that process look like when you’re trying to find the intersection between your passion, and the work you’re meant to do in the world, and the work you’re already doing every day? For the first time in many months, Marisa and Rebecca recorded a “Just Us” episode. In part, it’s a chance to dive deep into the project that’s front of mind at POBS: the (Re)Vision Retreat for Therapist-Healers that’s coming up this August. It’s also a chance to talk ab...2017-05-2400 minPractice of Being SeenHappy Couples Fight In this conversation, relationship therapist Rebecca Wong guides us through an essential truth about relationships: Happy couples fight. Fighting actually enables people to show one another that they matter. You can learn how to fight well and how to create a container of belonging in your partnership. In the face of disagreements, you can create a practice of commitment that enables you to tolerate occasional divisions. Much of this conversation is about marriage and romantic relationships, but it will shed some light on all of your relationships as we discuss mirror ne...2017-02-0800 minPractice of Being SeenMeeting the Divine Feminine NOTE: For the best listening experience, please use both earbuds! We're still mastering the recording process and, in this episode only, you'll hear Rebecca in one ear and Marisa in another. In this episode, we explore what the divine feminine is and why it matters to all people today. We begin to cover this vast topic with discussions about: the complementary dance of sacred masculine and the divine feminine when we can equate divine feminine with the goddess and when those concepts are distinct symbols of the divine feminine including water and the moon the power of the w...2017-02-0100 min
Practice of Being SeenAn Intro the Practice of Being Seen with Robert CoxSometimes, the best way to see yourself is to see yourself reflected in someone else’s eyes. When you launch a new podcast, sometimes the best way to explain your vision is to have a friend come on air to ask you about it.
We invited our friend and colleague Robert Cox to interview us about our mission and our vision for the Practice of Being Seen. Robert is a therapist in the Kansas City area specializing in trauma, addictions and autism. Having been through his own trauma work and addictions, he has spent the past several decades learning to li...2017-01-2431 min
The iPad Show (audio)Episode 12 with Rebecca Wong on ConnectfulnessIn this episode I am interviewing Rebecca Wong, LCSW in New York, who specializes in couples therapy, building relationships, and consultation. She is also doing Equine Retreats for therapist with Kay Trotter, who you might recognize from podcast episode 10. Rebecca’s Podcast: Practice of Being Seen Find out more about the 2017 Equine + Eco Healing Retreat for Therapists: https://connectfulness.com/retreats-for-therapists EquineTherapyPodcast.com JoshSchubertLPC.com2017-01-1916 min
Therapy Chat59: Trust, Play, Attachment & Being SeenWelcome back! In Episode 59, # 2 in the series on Trauma and Attachment, Therapy Chat host Laura Reagan, LCSW-C interviews Rebecca Wong, LCSW-R, a relationship therapist in New Paltz, NY, the creator of Connectfulness, and co-host of the upcoming Practice Of Being Seen podcast. Rebecca talks about using play in her couples work, as well as how our attachment relates to our ability to trust our partners. Rebecca explains that needing attention is not a bad thing – it’s normal. She talks about the concept of being seen, in relationships and in our work with clients. She and L...2016-11-1147 min
Launching Your Daughter10: Why it is important for parent couples to playWelcome! My guest today is Rebecca Wong LCSW. Rebecca is a relationship therapist and professional consultant in private practice in New York's Hudson Valley where she lives with her husband, two children, and a few four legged mischief makers. She is the creator of Connectfulness, a relationship practice that she uses to help her clients and colleagues understand, manage, and value their own humanity as a tool to connect to themselves and all of the important people in their lives. She believes that our relationships are reflections of who we really are and every interaction is an opportunity for...2016-07-0532 min