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Dads Dating After Divorce23 - Secrets to Cold Approach: How to Leverage Scarcity and Get Her NumberSwiping promises abundance; real life delivers clarity. We’re talking about how divorced dads can ditch the dependency on apps and create warm, natural conversations anywhere—grocery lines, coffee shops, hardware stores—that actually lead to dates. The secret isn’t a magic line. It’s state, presence, and a clear invitation delivered with respect.We start by breaking down why in-person beats online: you and she both get a true read on energy, voice, humor, and ease within seconds. Then we flip the frame from “cold approach” to “warm approach.” Instead of trying to get a number, you create...
2025-11-251h 13
Dads Dating After Divorce22 - Let's Talk About Sex: Leading Her to Intimacy, One Touch at a TimeMost men try to plan their way to great sex and end up killing the spark. We take a different route: build trust with clear statements, create a protected space for intimacy, and then let go of the plan so real desire can surprise you both.We start by resetting the premise. Sex after divorce isn’t a sprint; it’s a craft. Jude Sandvall and Dallas Bluth unpack why safety and mutual benefit are the foundation—especially when kids, schedules, and past relationships are in the picture. You’ll hear how to turn “the talk” into foreplay by...
2025-11-181h 07
Dads Dating After Divorce21 - Let's Get Physical: The Art Of EscalationIf touch has felt confusing after divorce—too fast, too formal, or just plain awkward—this conversation gives you a clear path from grounded presence to real chemistry. Jude and Dallas unpack the missing link many men never learned: how to make physical contact a normal, human bridge to connection long before it turns romantic. You’ll hear why American men often oversexualize touch, how to rebuild it as a confident, everyday skill, and how that foundation makes dates feel safer, smoother, and far more attractive.We dive into the two pillars that change everything: physical certainty and em...
2025-11-111h 07
Dads Dating After Divorce20 - Kids or No Kids: Who Should You Date After Divorce?Dating after divorce can feel like rebuilding a house on old foundations—and that’s exactly why we argue for a full scrape and rebuild. We get real about the question every single dad faces on the apps: her kids, my kids, or no kids? Instead of chasing a replacement for your ex, we lay out a simple, practical framework for designing the next chapter with intention—starting with clear values, vivid invitations, and slow, steady timelines that protect your kids and your peace.We walk through the real tradeoffs of dating women with kids and without. You’ll...
2025-11-041h 10
Dads Dating After Divorce19 - Checklists are Sexy: Lead Her with Clarity, One Step at a TimeNew relationships don’t need a contract; they need direction. We dig into the messy, exciting space after a few dates where interest is real, logistics are heavy, and you’re wondering how to move from casual to committed without killing the spark. As divorced dads, we know the stakes are higher—kids, calendars, and hard-won lessons—so we break down a practical way to lead with clarity while keeping things warm and inviting.We start by flipping the usual script: before negotiating with someone else, navigate yourself. How attracted are you, how much do you enjoy her, and...
2025-10-281h 10
Dads Dating After Divorce18 - From Availability To AttractionEver get a “let me check my schedule” that drifts into silence? We unpack why availability feels confusing, how to read it without taking it personally, and what to do instead of pushing for a plan. Our focus: inviting, not burdening. You’ll learn how to craft vivid, low‑pressure invitations, keep your energy consistent after the first spark, and swap the effort mindset for a cleaner metric—response. If the invitation is clear, authentic, and playful, the yes becomes obvious. If it isn’t, you have your answer.We dive into the difference between busy and disintereste...
2025-10-211h 13
Dads Dating After Divorce17 - From Checklists to Chemistry: Decoding Her Dating ProfileEver stare at a profile and think, What does any of this actually mean? We go straight at the modern maze of dating after divorce—where “active,” “preferably no kids,” and political banners can make or break a match before you’ve said hello. As two dads who’ve lived the post-divorce reboot, we break down how to read between the lines, when to move on, and how to show up with humor and direction instead of treating dates like job interviews.We tackle the illusion of abundance on apps and why chasing algorithms keeps you stuck. You’ll learn a...
2025-10-141h 06
Dads Dating After Divorce16 - Green Flags & Gut Checks: What Makes a Great Partner After DivorceRed flags are easy to spot. What’s harder—and far more useful—is training your eye for the green flags that tell you a relationship can actually work. We dive into the signals that matter most for dads dating after divorce: respect for fatherhood, emotional maturity, and consistency that builds trust instead of anxiety. You’ll hear how to test for these qualities without games, just clear beliefs, grounded vulnerability, and specific requests that lead to real change.We unpack why a woman’s respect for your role as a dad is non-negotiable, and how complementary parenting...
2025-10-071h 01
Dads Dating After Divorce15 - Dating Younger: Fantasy or Fulfillment?The dating world doesn't come with a rulebook, especially for those navigating it after divorce. In this candid conversation, Jude and Dallas tackle the recent controversy surrounding the Golden Bachelor's age preferences and what it reveals about the complex world of dating in midlife.When 66-year-old Mel Owens stated he preferred to date women between 45-60, the backlash was immediate. But does having age preferences make someone shallow, or is it simply an honest acknowledgment of compatibility factors? The hosts explore how our dating preferences develop, why they matter, and when they might need examination....
2025-09-301h 04
Dads Dating After Divorce14 - Dog Hair in the Bed: When Fido Becomes the BoyfriendEver noticed how some women seem more attached to their furry companions than their human partners? That's exactly what we're diving into today – with both humor and psychological insight.The rise of "dog mom" culture represents more than just cute Instagram posts. For many women, dogs fulfill emotional needs that past relationships failed to satisfy: unconditional love without complex demands, loyalty without question, and comfort without judgment. When a woman chooses her dog's company over meaningful human connection, she's often protecting herself from past relationship disappointments.Looking beneath the surface of this dynamic reveals important le...
2025-09-231h 02
The Divorced Dadvocate: Divorce Support For Dads274 - A Dad's Guide to Post-Divorce RomanceNavigating the dating world after divorce presents unique challenges for dads. The landscape has shifted dramatically in recent years, making it essential to approach dating with intentionality and authentic confidence. In a revealing conversation between Jude and dating coach Dallas Bluth, several crucial insights emerged that can help divorced dads find meaningful connections.Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTbJoin The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membership-tiers/How Are You Adjusting To Your Divorce? Find out...
2025-09-221h 00
Black Box Dating#15 - It Doesn't Have To Be A ChoreSend us a textReady to break free from the coffee shop-dinner-movie dating cycle that's putting your romantic life on autopilot? Discover how the most overlooked source of dating opportunities might be hiding in your weekly to-do list.We all have adult responsibilities—grocery shopping, car maintenance, home repairs—that seem to steal time away from our dating lives. But what if these necessary tasks could actually become the foundation for more meaningful connections? This episode reveals how everyday chores create natural "pattern breaks" that keep romance fresh and exciting.Walking down the cere...
2025-09-1714 min
Dads Dating After Divorce13 - Cargo Shorts Won't Get You DatesLooking sharp isn't just about vanity—it's a strategic move that impacts every area of your post-divorce life. In this revealing episode, we unpack why men's style matters more than most divorced dads realize, and how your appearance silently communicates volumes about your character before you say a word.When your self-worth takes a hit after divorce, upgrading your style provides a powerful, accessible way to begin rebuilding confidence from the outside in. As co-host Jude candidly shares his own journey from "cargo shorts guy" to confidently well-dressed, we explore how small changes in presentation can dramatically sh...
2025-09-161h 04
Black Box Dating#14 - Are You A Man Of Many Gifts?Send us a textWhat makes a truly magnetic man? It's not just about having impressive qualities—it's about how and when you reveal them.The most attractive men understand they're not just a list of traits and accomplishments but rather a complex gift that deserves to be unwrapped slowly. This episode explores the powerful concept of being "a man of many gifts" and how this approach transforms dating from mere information exchange into an adventure of discovery.We dive deep into three essential principles: First, you must genuinely cultivate valuable skills and qu...
2025-09-1012 min
Dads Dating After Divorce12 - Blowtorches, Ovens, and Smokers: Understanding Relationship TimingWhat happens when Hollywood tries to depict modern dating? In this eye-opening episode, we dissect "The Materialist" movie starring Dakota Johnson, Pedro Pascal, and Chris Evans to reveal the gap between cinematic romance and the authentic relationship dynamics divorced dads navigate daily.The film portrays a matchmaker torn between a wealthy "unicorn" and her struggling actor ex-boyfriend—a classic Hollywood polarization that misses the nuanced middle ground where real relationships thrive. We explore how the movie both gets right and severely misrepresents the natural desires of men and women in relationships. While women's need for security isn't "ma...
2025-09-0959 min
Black Box Dating#13 - Are You Getting What You're Owed?Send us a textThe quiet resentment that builds when your efforts go unnoticed can poison your relationships before they even begin. This deeply personal exploration reveals why so many men find themselves trapped in a cycle of giving without receiving the appreciation they crave.At the heart of this struggle lies what psychologist Robert Glover identified as the "Nice Guy Syndrome" – the belief in an unspoken contract that promises romantic and sexual interest in exchange for being considerate, making plans, and following societal scripts about courtship. But what happens when that contract proves to be...
2025-09-0616 min
Dads Dating After Divorce11 - Make Invitations, Not Demands: Redefining Leadership in LoveThe world watched as Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner's divorce unfolded across international headlines, with Turner declaring she'd "never return to the US" and Jonas filing to keep his daughters stateside. But beneath this celebrity spectacle lies a powerful lesson for every divorced dad trying to navigate the complex world of dating and co-parenting.This episode dives deep into the art of the invitation—a revolutionary approach to dating that transforms how divorced dads connect with potential partners. We unpack why expressing what you want as an invitation rather than an expectation creates space for genuine connection wh...
2025-09-0254 min
Black Box Dating#12 - Women Don't Want Empathy From YouSend us a textEver found yourself nodding along to a date's endless stories about work drama or family issues, desperately trying to show empathy while secretly wondering why she's telling you all this? The answer might surprise you.Contrary to popular belief, women aren't actually seeking empathy from men when they share their problems. They get plenty of that from their female friends who naturally resonate with their emotions, finishing each other's sentences and feeling each other's feelings. What they're looking for from you is something entirely different – something only masculine energy can provide.
2025-08-3019 min
Black Box Dating#11 - Change The Scene, Change The EnergySend us a textFeeling stuck on dates that start well but fizzle into awkward silence? You're not alone. The real problem isn't running out of clever things to say—it's being physically trapped in a static environment that drains conversational energy.The secret to revitalizing date energy lies in something surprisingly simple: changing the physical scene. When both people are planted in chairs across a table, you're experiencing each other in just one dimension. But stand up, move around, and suddenly everything shifts. Your full height, posture, and movement become part of the interaction. I...
2025-08-2324 min
Dads Dating After Divorce10 - The Man You Choose to Be Shapes Your Dating FutureJude Sandvall and Dallas Bluth delve into the fundamental importance of identifying personal values and beliefs before re-entering the dating world after divorce. They explore how unexamined expectations can derail relationships and provide practical tools for building self-awareness.
2025-08-2259 min
Black Box Dating#10 - Why Is Everyone Confident But Me?Send us a textEver found yourself scanning a room and wondering why everyone else seems to have it all together while you're drowning in self-doubt? That nagging question—"Why is everyone confident but me?"—isn't just common; it's based on a powerful psychological illusion that affects us all.This deep dive explores the three critical misperceptions that fuel our confidence insecurity. First, we discover how confidence naturally commands attention, causing us to notice only the most outwardly assured people while overlooking the quiet majority who might feel exactly as uncertain as we do. Through pers...
2025-08-1619 min
Black Box Dating#9 - Men's Style...It Shouldn't Matter But It Does!Send us a textYour appearance speaks volumes before you ever say a word—and nowhere is this more apparent than in the dating world. We dive deep into the often-overlooked truth that while many men believe style shouldn't matter, the reality is that it profoundly impacts how you're perceived, especially during those crucial first impressions.Through a fascinating comparison of the same man dressed differently, we explore how dramatically clothing choices alter perceptions. The baseball cap and t-shirt version versus the well-dressed version aren't just wearing different clothes—they're perceived as entirely different men with...
2025-08-0920 min
Black Box Dating#8 - Why Women Want a Man Who Can Laugh at HimselfSend us a textEver wonder why she didn't call back after what seemed like a perfectly executed date? The answer might be simpler than you think.When women describe their dating red flags, a man who can't laugh at himself consistently ranks at the top of their list. As men, we're hardwired to execute correctly, to follow procedures, to get things right—especially when we're trying to impress someone we're attracted to. But this natural tendency creates a pressure-cooker vibe that women can sense from a mile away.This episode unpacks the cr...
2025-08-0219 min
Black Box Dating#7 - Can I Make My Move Now?Send us a textThat paralyzing question—"Can I make my move now?"—creates what I call "static energy," a bubble that traps your masculine essence and prevents genuine connection. When hesitation takes over, you're no longer flowing naturally, and everyone around you feels that disruption.Breaking through this hesitation isn't just about getting what you want—it's about reshaping energy in a way that benefits everyone involved. Despite what social media might suggest about approaching women, most people genuinely crave the presence of confident men who allow their energy to flow openly. A woman doesn...
2025-07-2620 min
Black Box Dating#6 - Ever Worry She’ll Think You’re Creepy?Send us a textEver caught yourself frozen with the fear of being labeled "creepy" when considering approaching someone you're interested in? You're not alone. In this deeply insightful exploration of male approach anxiety, we uncover the fascinating paradox that the men who worry most about being perceived as creepy are typically the ones who aren't, while actual creeps rarely concern themselves with how they're coming across.The fear of being creepy often paralyzes good men with overthinking. We dissect this mental spiral—the flood of questions like "What will I say?" and "How will sh...
2025-07-1920 min