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Dads Dating After Divorce36 - Porn-Induced ED: The Elephant in the Room for Divorced DadsIs your scrolling stealing your spark? We take a hard, honest look at how porn and compulsive release drain confidence, flatten energy, and quietly sabotage your dating life as a divorced dad. Without shaming or moralizing, we walk through the real mechanics—why dopamine spikes from endless novelty skew arousal, how tolerance builds into porn-induced ED, and what hypofrontality means for your willpower when the dating road gets bumpy.From there, we get practical. We break down prolactin’s role in that post-release crash, the difference between release and vitality, and why your vibe feels passive when you...
2026-02-2458 min
Dads Dating After Divorce35 - Recreational dating with less guilt and more funDating after divorce doesn’t need to be chaotic, heavy, or ruled by outdated “game” tactics. We dive deep into recreational dating as a clean, honest framework that helps dads decompress, sharpen essential skills, and choose commitment only when it’s truly earned. Starting with a listener email from New Zealand, we outline why this exploratory phase matters and how to navigate it without guilt—or manipulation.We get practical fast: listening more than you talk, resisting the urge to project onto an attractive stranger, and making clear invitations with no strings. We talk about holding frame—your interna...
2026-02-171h 05
Emyrald Dallas DatingWelcome Back to Something New With Emyrald Dallas Dating | Ep. 1Hello, my loves! I am so incredibly happy to be back in your ears. After over 250 episodes of sharing tips and tools for manifesting your dream life, it felt like the perfect time for our community to grow even deeper.Welcome to the very first episode of our new phase: Emyrald Dallas Dating.I’ve been working on something special behind the scenes because I realized what’s been missing from our conversations: the masculine perspective! To help us bridge that gap, I am so excited to introduce you to a dear friend and bril...
2026-02-1305 min
Dads Dating After Divorce34 - Wait...since when do we send voice notes?Dating after divorce shouldn’t feel like decoding a secret menu. We unpack the new rules of communication for 2026—where swipes, voice notes, and five-minute video vibe checks can either waste your energy or quietly fast-track you into a great first date. Our focus is simple: lead with clarity, protect your kids and privacy, and create safety so a real connection can breathe.We start by separating two paths: app-based chats and in-person meets. On apps, silence isn’t personal and pace is everything. Some women want longer message arcs to feel secure; others are desperate to escape...
2026-02-101h 15
The Movies That Made MeFALLOUT star Dallas GoldtoohFALLOUT star Dallas Goldtooth takes hosts Josh Olson and Joe Dante through his favorite animated films.
Show Notes:
Movies Referenced In This Episode
Akira (1988)
Batman: Gotham Knights (2008)
The Dark Knight (2008)
My Neighbor Totoro (1994)
Ghost in the Shell (1995)
Conan the Barbarian (1982)
Hellraiser (1987)
Heavy Metal (1981)
Wolf Children (2012)
The Ugly Stepsister (2025)
Bambi (1941)
Pocahontas (1995)
Princess Mononoke (1997)
Spirited Away (2001)
Ponyo (2008)
The Borrowers (1997)
The...
2026-02-061h 03
Dads Dating After Divorce33 - Certified Pre-Owned: Putting a Premium on FatherhoodDoubt can be loud after a divorce, but what if the truth is that fatherhood is your quiet advantage? We dig into why single dads carry built-in signals of commitment, safety, and competence—qualities women instinctively value—and how to stop hiding them behind apology. From a last-minute cancellation that sparked firmer standards to the mindset reframe that shifts you from “rejected” to “I’ll let myself out,” we unpack practical strategies that turn fear into leadership and scarcity into agency.We talk about projecting your ex’s story onto new dates and how to break the loop, the power...
2026-02-031h 07
Dads Dating After Divorce32 - High Status Dads: What Being a Father Signals in the Dating MarketThe dating world loves loud status symbols, but here’s the twist: the traits that truly move a woman’s heart are quiet, steady, and earned. We dig into why divorced dads often start with a hidden edge—preselection, proven commitment, and hard-won emotional maturity—and how to turn that advantage into real connection. Instead of chasing dominance displays, we map the path to prestige: leadership that calms her nervous system, decisions that build trust, and a presence that lets her relax and feel carefree.We unpack status as a biological shortcut and show how to use it witho...
2026-01-271h 12
Dads Dating After Divorce31 - The Kid Readiness Check: Strategies for Moving from Vetting to BlendingDating after divorce doesn’t come with a manual, especially when your love life intersects with your kids’ lives. We break down a practical, low-drama roadmap for introducing a new partner to your children—starting with the “divorce dust” rule, where stability and finalized paperwork come before any blending. From there, we unpack the six-to-twelve-month guideline that helps you see beyond the honeymoon phase, stress-test values, and decide if your partner’s parenting style complements your own.We get specific about age-appropriate strategies that keep kids safe and emotionally grounded. For younger kids, it’s simple language and short, pla...
2026-01-201h 13
Dads Dating After Divorce30 - Stop Flashing Your Cash: Why High-End Dinners Are False AdvertisingTired of hearing you need $200 dinners to be taken seriously? We flip that script. Jude and Dallas lay out a practical, confident way to date after divorce that prioritizes financial responsibility, creativity, and genuine connection over the social media flex. If you’ve felt the pressure to overspend or “audition” for approval, this conversation gives you a better playbook.We start with a reality check on the click-driven myth that women only want luxury dates, and show how high-quality partners respond to presence, leadership, and smart planning. Then we dig into vibe-first formats—short coffee meets, no-alcohol daytime...
2026-01-131h 02
Dads Dating After Divorce29 - Choosing One Woman: How to Avoid the "Nice Guy" Commitment TrapThe jump from casual dates to a committed relationship after divorce isn’t about perfect timing or a clever script—it’s about self-leadership. We dig into how divorced dads can date with purpose, protect their finite resources, and choose exclusivity for the right reasons: depth, clarity, and real connection. Recreational dating has a place when you’re rebuilding, but it shouldn’t be a cover for avoiding intimacy or postponing your own growth. We talk through a practical one-year guideline—passing through all four seasons post-divorce—to establish a stable baseline with your kids, your work, and your routines so yo...
2026-01-061h 08
Dads Dating After Divorce28 - Profile Purge & Height Embargo: 10 Rules for 2026Ready to swap “new year, new me” for something that actually works? We break down ten real, repeatable resolutions for divorced dads who want to date with confidence, class, and a sense of humor. It starts with the pictures—no fish, no trucks, no bathroom mirrors—and moves into owning your height, improving your posture, and dressing like a man who respects himself. Shoes and watches matter more than you think, and a couple of thoughtful accessories can turn a hello into a conversation.We also tackle the stories you tell. The “crazy ex” opener? Gone. Early dates are fo...
2025-12-3056 min
Dads Dating After Divorce27 - Stocking Stuffers: Diving into Dating App ClichésDating apps can feel like a hall of mirrors—sarcasm, “no drama,” tacos and margs, and endless wanderlust. We decided to have some holiday fun and dig beneath the clichés to find the real signals, the hidden landmines, and the easy wins for divorced dads getting back out there. Jude brings the snark; Dallas brings the strategy. Together we translate what she might be saying and show you how to respond with concrete, playful messages that actually get replies.We start with the big offenders—“fluent in sarcasm,” “I love to laugh,” and “good vibes only”—and explain how to avoi...
2025-12-231h 09
Dads Dating After Divorce26 - Single Mom Tests: Scheduling, the Ex, and Other Relationship KillersThe Brady Bunch made blending look easy; real life demands better tools. We dive straight into the third rail of post-divorce dating: should single dads date single moms, and how do you do it without drowning in scheduling chaos, ex drama, and mismatched parenting styles?We start with time, because chemistry means little if you can’t meet. You’ll hear simple scripts to express desire as a positive invitation—not a demand—and how to read the difference between “I want to” and “I will.” We unpack why calendars are romantic for busy parents, how to spot patterns wh...
2025-12-1658 min
Dads Dating After Divorce25 - Emoting vs. Communicating: Give Her the Release She NeedsDating after divorce can feel like the Wild West—especially when emotions run high and the old rules no longer apply. We dig into one of the most misunderstood dynamics in modern relationships: the difference between emoting and communicating, and why confusing the two keeps couples locked in loops. With Jude Samval of The Divorce Advocate and Dallas Bluth of Black Box Dating, we unpack how men’s instinct to fix isn’t a lack of feeling, it’s a distinctly male emotional response forged by biology and sharpened by responsibility.Across a candid, practical conversation, we map what...
2025-12-0955 min
Dads Dating After Divorce24 - Who Pays on the First Date?The first date “Who pays?” moment can tank chemistry or lift the whole night—and after divorce, the stakes feel even higher. We dig into the chivalry paradox: honoring equality while still creating romance, leading without controlling, and paying without turning the bill into a negotiation. Our goal is simple: help you build experiences that feel generous, safe, and fun, not transactional.We start by rewriting the playbook around compliments and presence. Instead of focusing on looks, notice effort and choices—outfits, accessories, hair, even the care she puts into her space. That shift tells her you see the...
2025-12-021h 13
Dads Dating After Divorce23 - Secrets to Cold Approach: How to Leverage Scarcity and Get Her NumberSwiping promises abundance; real life delivers clarity. We’re talking about how divorced dads can ditch the dependency on apps and create warm, natural conversations anywhere—grocery lines, coffee shops, hardware stores—that actually lead to dates. The secret isn’t a magic line. It’s state, presence, and a clear invitation delivered with respect.We start by breaking down why in-person beats online: you and she both get a true read on energy, voice, humor, and ease within seconds. Then we flip the frame from “cold approach” to “warm approach.” Instead of trying to get a number, you create...
2025-11-251h 13
Dads Dating After Divorce22 - Let's Talk About Sex: Leading Her to Intimacy, One Touch at a TimeMost men try to plan their way to great sex and end up killing the spark. We take a different route: build trust with clear statements, create a protected space for intimacy, and then let go of the plan so real desire can surprise you both.We start by resetting the premise. Sex after divorce isn’t a sprint; it’s a craft. Jude Sandvall and Dallas Bluth unpack why safety and mutual benefit are the foundation—especially when kids, schedules, and past relationships are in the picture. You’ll hear how to turn “the talk” into foreplay by...
2025-11-181h 07
Dads Dating After Divorce21 - Let's Get Physical: The Art Of EscalationIf touch has felt confusing after divorce—too fast, too formal, or just plain awkward—this conversation gives you a clear path from grounded presence to real chemistry. Jude and Dallas unpack the missing link many men never learned: how to make physical contact a normal, human bridge to connection long before it turns romantic. You’ll hear why American men often oversexualize touch, how to rebuild it as a confident, everyday skill, and how that foundation makes dates feel safer, smoother, and far more attractive.We dive into the two pillars that change everything: physical certainty and em...
2025-11-111h 07
Dads Dating After Divorce20 - Kids or No Kids: Who Should You Date After Divorce?Dating after divorce can feel like rebuilding a house on old foundations—and that’s exactly why we argue for a full scrape and rebuild. We get real about the question every single dad faces on the apps: her kids, my kids, or no kids? Instead of chasing a replacement for your ex, we lay out a simple, practical framework for designing the next chapter with intention—starting with clear values, vivid invitations, and slow, steady timelines that protect your kids and your peace.We walk through the real tradeoffs of dating women with kids and without. You’ll...
2025-11-041h 10
Dads Dating After Divorce19 - Checklists are Sexy: Lead Her with Clarity, One Step at a TimeNew relationships don’t need a contract; they need direction. We dig into the messy, exciting space after a few dates where interest is real, logistics are heavy, and you’re wondering how to move from casual to committed without killing the spark. As divorced dads, we know the stakes are higher—kids, calendars, and hard-won lessons—so we break down a practical way to lead with clarity while keeping things warm and inviting.We start by flipping the usual script: before negotiating with someone else, navigate yourself. How attracted are you, how much do you enjoy her, and...
2025-10-281h 10
Dads Dating After Divorce18 - From Availability To AttractionEver get a “let me check my schedule” that drifts into silence? We unpack why availability feels confusing, how to read it without taking it personally, and what to do instead of pushing for a plan. Our focus: inviting, not burdening. You’ll learn how to craft vivid, low‑pressure invitations, keep your energy consistent after the first spark, and swap the effort mindset for a cleaner metric—response. If the invitation is clear, authentic, and playful, the yes becomes obvious. If it isn’t, you have your answer.We dive into the difference between busy and disintereste...
2025-10-211h 13
Dads Dating After Divorce17 - From Checklists to Chemistry: Decoding Her Dating ProfileEver stare at a profile and think, What does any of this actually mean? We go straight at the modern maze of dating after divorce—where “active,” “preferably no kids,” and political banners can make or break a match before you’ve said hello. As two dads who’ve lived the post-divorce reboot, we break down how to read between the lines, when to move on, and how to show up with humor and direction instead of treating dates like job interviews.We tackle the illusion of abundance on apps and why chasing algorithms keeps you stuck. You’ll learn a...
2025-10-141h 06
Dads Dating After Divorce16 - Green Flags & Gut Checks: What Makes a Great Partner After DivorceRed flags are easy to spot. What’s harder—and far more useful—is training your eye for the green flags that tell you a relationship can actually work. We dive into the signals that matter most for dads dating after divorce: respect for fatherhood, emotional maturity, and consistency that builds trust instead of anxiety. You’ll hear how to test for these qualities without games, just clear beliefs, grounded vulnerability, and specific requests that lead to real change.We unpack why a woman’s respect for your role as a dad is non-negotiable, and how complementary parenting...
2025-10-071h 01
Dads Dating After Divorce15 - Dating Younger: Fantasy or Fulfillment?The dating world doesn't come with a rulebook, especially for those navigating it after divorce. In this candid conversation, Jude and Dallas tackle the recent controversy surrounding the Golden Bachelor's age preferences and what it reveals about the complex world of dating in midlife.When 66-year-old Mel Owens stated he preferred to date women between 45-60, the backlash was immediate. But does having age preferences make someone shallow, or is it simply an honest acknowledgment of compatibility factors? The hosts explore how our dating preferences develop, why they matter, and when they might need examination....
2025-09-301h 04
Dads Dating After Divorce14 - Dog Hair in the Bed: When Fido Becomes the BoyfriendEver noticed how some women seem more attached to their furry companions than their human partners? That's exactly what we're diving into today – with both humor and psychological insight.The rise of "dog mom" culture represents more than just cute Instagram posts. For many women, dogs fulfill emotional needs that past relationships failed to satisfy: unconditional love without complex demands, loyalty without question, and comfort without judgment. When a woman chooses her dog's company over meaningful human connection, she's often protecting herself from past relationship disappointments.Looking beneath the surface of this dynamic reveals important le...
2025-09-231h 02
The Divorced Dadvocate: Strategic Defense for Fathers274 - A Dad's Guide to Post-Divorce RomanceNavigating the dating world after divorce presents unique challenges for dads. The landscape has shifted dramatically in recent years, making it essential to approach dating with intentionality and authentic confidence. In a revealing conversation between Jude and dating coach Dallas Bluth, several crucial insights emerged that can help divorced dads find meaningful connections.Join our Signal Channel: https://shorturl.at/8yqTbJoin The Divorce Dadvocate Membership Community - FULL Episodes - Live Meetings – FREE Workshops & Courses – Private Discussion Groups & MORE! - https://thedivorceddadvocate.com/membership-tiers/How Are You Adjusting To Your Divorce? Find out...
2025-09-2259 min