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SOUL FOOD#94 WHY ARE YOU SO DIFFICULT?ARE YOU A DIFFICULT PERSON? or do you find someone you love tough to handle?
Oh man, this is a hard pill to swallow when it comes to our self-evaluation and finding out that we are so fixated on what we think is right and hold others victim to our views and opinions.
What hurts? When we hear that we are different from the people we love.
In this episode, Caroline and I talked about handling the frustrations, learning how to confront and the...
2023-10-1321 minSOUL FOOD#93 RED FLAG ALERTIs there a RED FLAG that would make you say NO to the most good-looking, perfectly pleasing, well-behaved person?
I mean, what dictates the success between two individuals who are in love: Body odor? Wearing sandals? Playing games?
In this episode, Caroline and I got sincere with our experience, identifying what should be the actual RED FLAGS and saying YES to the person of your dream without immaturely dismissing them!
2023-08-2333 minSOUL FOOD#92 SHOULD I BLOCK YOU ON SOCIAL MEDIA?Is it right or a mature thing to do when you block someone on social media?
You find yourself in an unhealthy competition leading to comparisons, drowning in the toxicity of comments, or someone you know using your story against you without understanding the context.
Worst, you might be stalked by a stalker!
In this episode, Caroline and I talked about how if we are not aware, we might allow our social media to ruin our day by reacting emotionally and what are some of the essential...
2023-07-2724 minSOUL FOOD#91 LOVE LANGUAGE"But I gave her my best! Why is she saying that I don't love her?"
Have your heard this before, or maybe you said it yourself?
It's frustrating!
In this episode, Caroline and I talked about how some couples fall into this argument when all they have to do is learn each other's love language.
2023-05-1140 minSOUL FOOD#90 COFFEE, GAMES OR ME?"Bro... My girl doesn't let me play games tonight!"
Is this phrase familiar to you? Well, I think boyfriends today out there might also tell their partner that gaming night is off!
Are games bad? Are games good? So many people rage while they play, is that ok?
In this episode, things got open and honest real quick as Caleb Lee and Daren Hee, my 2 favorite top gamers (in my opinion) share their views on healthy and toxic gaming.
2023-04-1354 minSOUL FOOD#89 I'm sorry, it's over! PT2Do we ever forget the pain from our past relationship?
It's pretty crazy how people can experience a wave of emotions after ending a relationship years back!
In this episode, Caroline and I got a little vulnerable and talked about the danger of not grieving properly after a breakup and how to deal with those feelings today.
2023-03-1529 minSOUL FOOD#88 NICE GIRLS = DOORMAT?It is sad to hear that someone ends a relationship due to the "feeling" they have about their partner, that they're "just too nice!"
So, is being too nice a weakness?
In this episode, Caroline and I discuss this peculiar behavior and how it affects the health of relationships!
2023-03-0831 minSOUL FOOD#87 HIGHSCHOOL ROMANCEDo you remember that defining moment in your teens when you realize your friend (that's a girl) isn't your "bro" buddy?
There's something magical about high school romance!
In this episode, I had a fun conversation with Derrick and Julian discussing what it's like in the high school dating scene. They were gracious and kind enough to have me share my thoughts about the thrill, the boundaries, and the beauty of falling in love young.
2023-02-242h 17SOUL FOOD#86 RIZZ TIPSSomeone somewhere is looking for love, out of the friend zone and to the endzone.
I remember when magazines were my guide in getting the girl. And oh boy! There were good tips, and some were just blatantly wrong.
In this episode, Caroline and I shared our views of how dangerous it is when we are not intentional about the information we are consuming and what it's like to prepare before getting into a relationship.
2023-02-1542 min
SOUL FOOD#85 WHY SHOULD I STAY?We live in a world where the possibility of packing up and leaving is attainable. A new job, new relationship, new opportunities!
The grass is always greener on the other side, as many might say. But what is the fine line between quitting and pressing on?
In this episode, Keith Tay and I talk about the reality and beauty of opportunities and the importance of having the right mindset and attitude wherever we are.
2023-01-1426 min
Wavers Podcast(PART 3) Are High-School Romance Worth It? w/Soul Food Podcast | Wavers Podcast Ep.13In this episode, Derrick the host and Jaden Julian the co-host of Wavers Podcast , welcomes local podcast 'Soul Food''s host Daniel Kuilan where they talk about certain habits and behaviours that occurs in our Malaysian culture. Besides being a host of a podcast, Daniel is also pastor for his very own church in Alor Setar named 'Soul'. Today the boys got the opportunity to listen to what Daniel whose a married adult with two kids, point of view on youth relationship as well as discussing about the cons, pros and even stories Daniel shared about his past experiences. Derrick...
2022-12-132h 24SOUL FOOD#84 SACRIFICE.. Ugh!Frequently I would hear couples talk about how relationships would only work if it's split 50/50. If that's the case, is SACRIFICE necessary?
I tried to find a synonymous, kinder word to describe SACRIFICE.
But no word captures the realness and authenticity when we SACRIFICE for someone we love.
In this episode, Keith Tay and I talk about toxic behaviors and the simple yet forgotten equation of giving and not taking!
2022-11-2632 minSOUL FOOD#83 THE HONEYMOON IS OVER?"Hi, babe!" "sayaaaaang!" "LOVE!"
Does it give you goosebumps when you hear couples call each other like this?
I'm sure you've heard it before and or still doing it, which is fine! But some who have been dating for years might say, "wait till the honeymoon period is over, and you won't be this sweet anymore!"
Do you agree?
In this episode, Caroline and I shared our love language and why couples need to be intentionally sweet with one anot...
2022-11-0327 minSOUL FOOD#82 SHE'S A 10, BUT...We can't help to wonder;
If there are so many BUTS for a relationship to start, will anyone be dating at all?
We agree that it's crucial to find the right person, and please do not jump into a relationship right away cause we only live life once.
But come on! She's a 10, but what if there's a better one out there?
Or he's a ten, but he lives far away.
Caroline and I had a conversation on the reality o...
2022-10-2227 minSOUL FOOD#81 BOUNDARIESBOUNDARIES... Ugh!
Carrying a rebel personality, I find this word restrictive. I tried to find synonymous words to replace and bring comfort, but it still limits and confines!
But I learned over the years a borderless relationship invites chaos and confusion very quickly!
This episode was recorded live at SOUL! Caroline and I shared our troubles and stories of how to set a boundary, not as a label but by being intentional with our words, thoughts, and actions.
2022-10-0533 minSOUL FOOD#80 WHY YOU SO LIKE THAT?Some might say, falling in love is the easy part!
There is some truth in it. After a couple of months, you discover another side of each other!
Some beautiful, some ugly, and some left you wondering why you dated that person in the first place!
In this episode, Caroline and I shared how your culture and behavior could break or build your relationship.
2022-09-1533 minSOUL FOOD#79 THE YOUTH WILL ALWAYS WINI believe that building the future starts today!
But I am also left confused and hurt when I hear someone elder say: "all you young people don't know what you're doing!" or "I've eaten more salt than you've eaten rice."
I am certain that with the experience of the past and the knowledge of the now collaborate, beautiful things take place!
In this episode, Andy Yeoh and I tackled the idea of honoring blindly, and what we should do as adults and youths together in building a sustainable healthy community!
2022-08-1831 minSOUL FOOD#78 SO YOU CHEATED ON ME WITH MY BEST FRIENDYes! mistakes have been made, and now you are left in this complex situation. Do I forgive? Can I hurt that person back?
They are your best friend. How could they betray you like this?
All of you are in the same community left confused and hurt!
In this episode, Andy Yeoh was honest and raw about his journey as we talked about this sensitive topic. How do we move on? What happens when the blaming is over and what's next?
2022-08-0325 minSOUL FOOD#77 DON'T BLUE TICK METhe frustration when you check your message, only to find out that person has "seen" the message or blue ticked you!
Is this a new bad habit of the 21st century? We know a couple of relationships that have ended badly.
In this episode, Caroline and I dive into the gray area of the current ethics of messaging and leaving others hanging, who's to blame and how to navigate them.
2022-07-1423 min
SOUL FOOD#76 CAN WE TALK ABOUT THIS LATER?Remember when you would pick up the phone, call your friend and not feel bad about it?
But today, it feels almost unethical not to message someone before you call.
Has time changed? Are we overthinking?
In this episode, Caroline and I dive into the gray area of the current ethics of messaging or calling inappropriately, who's to blame and how to navigate them.
2022-06-2925 minSOUL FOOD#75 THE PEOPLE YOU MUST HAVE IN YOUR LIFEWe firmly believe that the people around you will define your success or failures!
It is crucial to talk about the kind of relationships we intentionally curate to lessen our hard knocks and pull us out of bad breakups.
In this episode, Keith Tay and I talk about the types of people we need and are we making it easy for people to love us.
2022-05-1829 minSOUL FOOD#74 RITUALS FOR SUCCESSIs there a secret potion I can acquire to be successful in life? Cause I would love to avoid failures! Is there a shortcut?
If only life was that easy...
What I've come to learn, is there are rituals we can commit ourselves to, and success will be around the corner!
In this episode, it's so good to have Keith Tay back again, and we dove into a conversation about avoiding shortcuts and mastering our disciplines.
2022-05-1134 minSOUL FOOD#73 HELP! I'M FEELING HORNY!OH MY! WHY DO I FEEL THIS WAY?
Is it disgusting or sinful to feel horny? That's what many would jump to conclusions about but never really converse about why humans have this complex feeling.
In this episode, Caroline and I dive into a conversation about what triggers a person to feel so. With so many questions about this, what we decide to do next is significant!
2022-04-2732 minSOUL FOOD#72 HELP! My mommy and daddy are getting a divorce.Divorce is never fun, period! Especially when we witness a family fall apart.
What can we do? Is there a way out of this pain? Will this happen to me in the future?
In this episode, Caroline and I share the impact it will have on your mental and emotional health. With so many questions to answer, how we choose to respond is crucial to the healing process!
2022-04-1721 minSOUL FOOD#71 ONE TIGHT SLAPWHY WILL WHY!
Yes, that was my thoughts when I saw what happened. How could Will Smith cross the line?
Was there more than just a slap? Are there consequences that he will face?
Ok, but Chris Rock was wrong, no?
When it comes to a complex situation like this, I just had to get my buddy Bryan Chin into this conversation. In this episode, what we talk about is real and raw, purely our observations on what could have been better. Als...
2022-04-0935 minSOUL FOOD#70 Am I the bully in our the relationship?So you considered yourself a good person, never had any ill intention, especially to your partner.
But during arguments, do you find yourself always wanting to win at all costs? Even sleeping on the couch or not talking to each other for a few days?
In this episode, Caroline and I talk about our personal experience and identify some of the ways that might make your significant another feel like you're a bully.
2022-03-0525 minSOUL FOOD#69 When my family says no!So you have found someone to love, and now the next big step is to introduce them to your family.
"Dad and mom, meet Daniel."
*awkward silence*
"I don't think the both of you shouldn't date."
Caroline and I have heard so many heartbreaking stories like this, and it is sad to see so many unnecessary heartbreaks.
In this episode, Caroline and I have a conversation on ways to handle this situation when your family says no to the person you...
2022-02-2625 minSOUL FOOD#68 FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS"But we never had sex..."
You come home from work or school and can't wait to talk or hang out, sharing in detail about all that has happened with intensity.
It's been happening for a long while now.
There are so many emotions involved that you've got to wonder if this is a relationship, only to find out:
"Hey! we're more than friends, right?"
"Um, no."
So many have been left confused and hurt.
In this episod...
2022-02-1929 minSOUL FOOD#67 LESSONS FROM YOUOH MY GOODNESS!
Have you watched the series on Netflix yet? It is exciting and twisted!
So many things wrong with it, but we realize; there are so many things to uncover and debunk from the infamous world of Joe Goldberg.
Most of their actions in the series are questionable, but also many lessons to take away and build good lasting relationships.
In this episode, Caroline and I talk about, "if only joe and love did this, things would be better." Also, how stalking should be done decently!
2022-01-1533 minSOUL FOOD#66 KAMI ANAK MALAYSIAWe just celebrated Deepavali, and it was so good to meet grandma again.
"Thank you Jesus for murukus and mutton varuval!"
As we're celebrating, we can't help but remember how some of our Indian friends still face discrimination. It also hurts that not too long ago, an incident happened over an inconsiderate Facebook post.
In this episode, I got into a conversation with my brother and sister. We talked about what we can do to educate people around us and recognize that some things shouldn't be brushed off as a joke!
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2021-11-0948 minSOUL FOOD#65 Is Christian dating weird?" Hi Pastor, can I date this girl?"
Oh my! it is a weird conversation when someone asks this question, and they might add, "I've prayed, and God told me she's the one!"
I love it when people involve God in their planning, but to have a mentality on dating like this: it's misguided!
In this episode, Caroline and I talk about our pre-dating phase and the need for the right mindset when it comes to the big moment of seeking a relationship.
...
2021-09-2838 minSOUL FOOD#64 You know I love you right?We have explored the understanding of each other's blind spots, and the knowledge of it is to build, not weapons to prove your point or future fights.
So we talked about the importance of celebrating one another. But how do we do it?
In this episode, Caroline and I share what we intentionally recognize and celebrate. Tears were involved, but they're good ones!
2021-09-2133 minSOUL FOOD#63 THINGS I HATE ABOUT YOUHave you got frustrated with your partner that it has driven you mad!
Well, I do!
Of course, I've driven my wife mad before, and I have to admit: I'm guilty!
In this episode, Caroline and I candidly expose some of the frustrations we have towards one another and the lessons that come from it.
We recognize for any relationship to work, we need to have crucial conversations to avoid unnecessary high emotion-filled fights that turn sour, and I end up sleeping on the couch.
2021-09-1435 minSOUL FOOD#62 How to win your in laws?It's a whole new world with your upgrade from a boyfriend/girlfriend status to husband/wife!
There seem to be a whole new bunch of expectations and directions from our in-laws, and if not communicated, it will lead to a lifetime of struggle, hence the famous title: Monster-In-Law!
But it doesn't have to be that way! You can have a healthy and happy relationship with your in-laws as you explore this episode with Caroline and me to hear our stories, experiences, and mindset!
2021-09-0737 minSOUL FOOD#61 How to win your girlfriend's parents?"So... young man, what is your intention wanting to date my daughter?"
Or, "Hi dear, why do you love my son?"
These questions would be one of the scariest and but also most sacred ever. It comes with intimidating energy but also the protective nature and love of a parent. Yes, it is complex!
But worry not, as we learn in this episode how to tackle and handle this part of the relationship.
Caroline and I talk about our own experience and highlight some of the...
2021-08-2343 minSOUL FOOD#60 Should I sacrifice for love?The future is so hard to understand at times. We can be faith-driven, but the fear of losing out can get unbearable, in fact causing you the possibility of hating yourself and your partner.
It was all for love. You sacrificed your career, part of your dreams, and maybe even the ideal life!
Then as years go by, you ask yourself, is this all worth the sacrifice?
In this episode, we had a conversation with Esther, our pastor. She is an honors student in the field of eng...
2021-08-1530 minSOUL FOOD#59 LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPWe’ve heard too many, “if only we were not far apart, things could work out.“
Or,
“I’m sorry, but the distance is killing me!”
How many relationships could turn out well, if and only if we were to understand the dynamics and secrets to LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS!
In this episode, we had a conversation with Kevin Loo and Esther, our pastors. A couple We know that has gone through it, married with kids, and most importantly, a healthy relationship today.
2021-08-0844 minSOUL FOOD#58 Why should I tolerate you?We have been taught from a young age to tolerate, and that tolerance is a foundation to peace and harmony. But what if it’s hard to tolerate? And now people are talking about acceptance? When do we learn to apply tolerance? How far should we be accepting?
Rojak Culture is a social enterprise aimed at uniting Malaysians. Their vision is to spark a movement through play, leading to the birth of The Lepak Game.
In this episode, Stephen and Trixie Hanlon talk about the importance of building a personal relationship instead of changing a poli...
2021-07-3134 minSOUL FOOD#57 The art of Equality and EquityAre you sure? Can we live a life where everything is treated the same for everyone?
Maybe each person or group has different needs, and how can we solve them to achieve an equal outcome?
Are these all even possible?
Rojak Culture is a social enterprise aimed at uniting Malaysians. Their vision is to spark a movement through play, leading to the birth of The Lepak Game.
In this episode, Stephen and Trixie Hanlon shares the importance to find the balance of these two values and a healthy change in our cult...
2021-07-1738 minSOUL FOOD#56 Can i talk about my ex?Our human mind is so complex and beautiful, capable of astounding ideas, and yet we can’t help but ask our significant other, “how was your ex like?”
“Really? Do you want to talk about it? Is it right to even talk about it?”
Caroline and I believe that this question should not be avoided but discussed healthily. In this episode, we talked about the boundaries needed to avoid making dangerous mistakes.
2021-07-1031 minSOUL FOOD#55 I'm sorry, it's over!You saw each other, had a crush and fell in love. But now you realize something. Maybe that person might not be the one for you, and ghosting is not an option!
Is it time to call it quits? Can we call it quits? How to know if I am making the right decision?
In this episode, Caroline and I talked about the reality of a breakup when it's needed, especially in a toxic relationship!
2021-06-2641 minSOUL FOOD#54 Dear Lord, is she the one?Is there a method or equation that will answer this simple question:
Is she the one? Is he the one?
So many carry the fear of meeting mister wrong. What if I give my all to her and she breaks my heart? Some might even be afraid before, "Hi, how are you?"
In this episode, Caroline and I shared our journey on how we discovered we're the one for each other and the secret potion needed for a long-lasting and healthy relationship.
2021-06-1938 minSOUL FOOD#53 Can I say NO?We all want to have good mental health. I've noticed a trend where many articles encourage the word "NO" for a pathway of building a healthier self. Maybe that might be the case, but I was worried if this would turn out to be a blanket statement for everything tough we might encounter. In this conversation with my good friend Lynnette Chai, a licensed counselor, she helps us understand the necessity and correct use of the word and what is proper is self-care!
2021-06-0634 minSOUL FOOD#52 What is the best way to grieve?Is there a proper way for someone to grieve? Can we ever move on? We know the people around us are thoughtful and loving, but why does it feel like an offense when they encourage us? But that doesn't mean we don't want them around.
In this episode, Caroline shared her experience of losing her mom and how hard it is to manage the wave of emotions. We are grateful for this conversation with our good friend Lynnette Chai, a licensed counselor, to help us understand the pain, loss, and when we should not say anything!
2021-05-291h 17SOUL FOOD#51 How to be a vegan?More than just learning and understanding a vegan, the reality is that many would make fun than understand the reason of someone making this choice.
Kristin Tan is a fun and bubbly Tik Tok star, educating all of us about vegan food. What captures my attention is how this bold 17-year-old makes this decision without forcing it on others but instead educating! In this episode's conversation, I've learned from her how taking the effort in communicating the right way is more effective than just shoving information down someone's throat.
2021-05-2222 minSOUL FOOD#50 STOP PROCRASTINATING START POSTINGSocial media is a great way to tell our stories. So we record ourselves singing, dancing, making a craft, even teaching but only finding ourselves filled with unnecessary fears of what others might think, and it ends taking up storage space in our phones with no one ever seeing it!
Kristin Tan is a fun and bubbly Tik Tok star, educating all of us about vegan food. Throughout our conversation in this episode, we talked about how bold she is at 17 to put up her content and why we need the right people to around us.
2021-05-1629 minSOUL FOOD#49 A tribute to Raditya Oloan: Oops! Honey, I'm pregnant...I love life-changing stories! This couple has got my attention and respect as they are relentless in loving people and making sure they experience the love of God. It is not an easy journey dealing with pregnancy before marriage. But how do we cope with people and emotions during the process? In memory of Raditya Oloan, I’ve decided to reshare this episode as it captures his heart! I got into a mind-expanding conversation with him and his wife Joanna Alexandra. I love how they are building a community called MUDA, that is encouraging people to craft and live an...
2021-05-0827 minSOUL FOOD#48 How to ghost someone?"Are you going to ever reply to me?" How should someone feel when they are ghosted? We all know it's hard to break up or call it quits when we realize that maybe we're not meant to be, but is disappearing away from someone the way to go? Some say ghosting is an art but is it?
I love having this conversation with Caroline as we talk about our experience and how more responsibility is needed especially meeting someone online.
2021-04-2444 minSOUL FOOD#47 Will bullying make me tougher?I've always wondered if bullying makes us resilient. I'm sure many of us have experienced a person or incident that has scared us, but also it made us stronger. I'm curious if that is the only way to build resilience?
This week together with Racheal Kwacz, a child and family development specialist, we talked about how our childhood experience can alter our perceptions today and the power of having a safe space that will empower us to take on the world!
2021-04-1845 minSOUL FOOD#46 Can you speak to me properly?The moment we think our communication is at its best, we lose! Communication is a never-ending learning process, and no matter how old we are, every human being deserves our best attention.
I met Racheal Kwacz, a child and family development specialist on a social media platform, and was motivated by her energy and passion for communicating effectively. In this episode, we talked about how the prehistoric mentality of "I've eaten more salt than you've eaten rice" has hurt many relationships from growing and the crucial process of listening.
2021-04-1036 minSOUL FOOD#45 So, you still want to argue about it?There is a tonne of "how to make your relationship work" books and podcasts out there. But nothing will ever work if we are not intentional about it.
A continuation from the previous episode, the art of biting our tongue is such a meticulous skill that requires years to master. The first part of it is to hold back what we want to say when we're drowning in our anger.
In this conversation with my wife, we got personal and shared our journey on the battles we had and how we learn to fight fair a...
2021-04-0334 minSOUL FOOD#44 Is it normal to fight with my partner?Is it even normal for couples to fight? Shouldn't it be butterflies in the tummy and constant smiles and laughter? Is it a sign to call it quits when there are constant quarrels? Oh, so many questions!
In this conversation with my wife, we got personal and shared our journey on the battles we had and how we learn to fight fair as we build this relationship.
2021-03-2738 minSOUL FOOD#43 Babe... Do you love me?Ahh... The famous question that most of us have asked. We've seen endless memes of individuals who are sweating when this tricky question pops up. For any relationship to work, how well do we need to know each other? Is there a depth-of-love meter that has to be purchased? You've heard me talking about her or quoting her, and finally, CAROLINE IS ON THE PODCAST! In this episode, we talked about why does she frequently asks me about this rocket science equation.
2021-03-2042 minSOUL FOOD#42 Is it important to look good?This podcast was put together and dedicated to all the boys out there!
There is a fine line when we say: "This is who I am, deal with it!" and the actual need to groom and look presentable.
In this conversation with Kevin Tan, we talked about crafting a ritual of getting ourselves ready. That will influence our day and mental health. Guys, it's not just to get out of bed and straight to work.
2021-03-1441 minSOUL FOOD#41 Follow Your Dreams? ft Kevin TanIt is so easy to admire people who are at the top of their industry. We hardly want to dive into their life stories to discover and learn crucial moments that make or break them. It is never easy to run the business of your dreams. Kevin Tan is a barber, musician, pomade connoisseur, and an all-time fun guy to hang out and chill! The moment he left his 'sifu" Lex Low, it was a brand new world. What caught my attention is his discipline and craft that makes you stop and wonder in amazement, "we could do that?"
2021-03-0631 minSOUL FOOD#40 How to smell good?Have you ever entered an elevator and got smacked in your face with a strong scent? Or have you got so nervous on a first date that you end up using too many scents or not at all? I believe it is important to smell good, not just for others but for your well-being. In this episode with Adrian Cheong, we address the importance of choosing the right scent and discovered how it makes you remember better than sight or hearing.
2021-02-2731 minSOUL FOOD#39 Follow Your Dreams? ft Adrian CheongIt is so easy to admire people who are at the top of their industry, but we hardly want to dive into their life stories to discover and learn crucial moments that make or break them. But there’s a twist that I’ve discovered about Adrian Cheong. More than just a dreamer but being an opportunist brought him to a focused position, and he created a product that many are carrying in their pockets today. How did he do it? Research!
2021-02-2030 minSOUL FOOD#38 How to forgive someone who cheated on me?"I'm sorry, it won't happen again..."
To part with one of our most precious commodities: TRUST.
Seeing that transaction of vulnerability not upheld and tainted in the most sacred covenant between a couple, how can someone ever forgive?
In this episode, Keith Tay and I explore the vow, "for better or for worse." Does that include infidelity? Should I consider a divorce? How should we move forward and see a relationship mended and healed?
2021-02-1429 minSOUL FOOD#37 How to stop watching porn?Throughout 2020 till now, most of us have been in lockdown mode, cooped up in our own homes. The last gathering with friends felt like a lifetime ago. Increased stress levels caused directly or indirectly by the pandemic, many have turned to consume pornography as a temporary escape. Pornography can be incredibly addictive, and it can harm us in the long run. In this episode, Keith Tay and I talk about shifting our mindset and dealing with the big question, how do we stop?
2021-02-0633 minSOUL FOOD#36 How to get 6 pack abs?Is that the only reason we workout? Many have looked at working out as a method to improve the aesthetics, but have we recognize the idea of it conditioning our body to last longer? In this episode, we learn from the Senior Coach at Chi Fitness and an aspiring CrossFit competitor Ashkan Daneshavr, who shares that life is not an "ala carte" but a "combo meal" we have to deal with.
2020-12-1934 minSOUL FOOD#35 The Mental GamePlan, plan, plan, and more planning... Are we stuck there? The more I talk to Lynnette Chai about this, the scary realization that many don’t dare to take the next step, which is action! In this episode, we talked about a healthier mindset moving into the new year and also about the importance of psychological flexibility!
2020-12-1227 minSOUL FOOD#34 Did we waste 2020?Don’t you wish you could turn back time and made sure that you washed your hands properly, sanitize like it’s a ritual, avoid unnecessary diets, and life could have been better? In this episode with our relationship guru Keith Tay, we explored the possibilities of planning through uncertainties, more importantly, how we should approach the new year!
2020-12-0533 minSOUL FOOD#33 Mindfulness?“Breathe in, breathe out… Time to relax your mind…” Is this what you think when mindfulness comes to mind? I’ve heard a few podcasters and articles written about it, and it feels like something is missing when it comes to this topic of mindfulness. Some might say yoga, some might say meditation, but what is mindfulness? Well, in this episode with Lynnette Chai, I’ve learned so much! We dive in and discover that it’s more than just a practice; it is a mindset!
2020-11-2833 minSOUL FOOD#32 It's not ok to be not okDepression! It’s such a common word we hear today. We have to wonder if this term is loosely uttered or people are suffering from it. So many questions: How do we identify it? How can we help? Am I suffering from it? Am I labeling someone? In this episode with Lynnette Chai, a licensed counselor, and a dear friend. She will help us identify the threshold of someone falling into depression and the dangers of labeling.
2020-11-2130 minSOUL FOOD#31 Conversational CurrencyWords matter! Sometimes we take for granted this form of communicating, diving into conversations thinking we are good at it. More often than not, we find ourselves in an awkward position, with no vocabularies left in our word bank. It’s not just about stating facts, but how do we carry the conversation. In this episode with Gary Chong, we learn why it is vital to have a robust conversational currency to build and sustain healthy relationships.
2020-11-1428 minSOUL FOOD#30 Follow Your Dreams? ft Gary ChongIt is so easy to admire people who are at the top of their industry, but we hardly want to dive into their life stories to discover and learn the crucial moments that make or break them. Gary Chong is an award-winning filmmaker, storyteller, entrepreneur, lecturer, industry advisor, Ah Wah Hokkien Mee, and deep-fried chicken wing companion. We hear his story of the moment when things clicked and the exploration of it that has brought him to where he is today.
2020-11-0729 minSOUL FOOD#29 It's more than just a haircutThe funny thing about human beings is that we can fall into this weird way of working. Is a job about clocking-in and clocking-out every day for the sake of a paycheck? Could there be something more than that? In this episode with Lex Low, we will hear stories of real-life transformation, his included, and when work becomes more than a job, or else we could see our dreams becoming a nightmare!
2020-10-3116 minSOUL FOOD#28 Follow Your Dreams? ft Lex LowIt is so easy to admire people who are at the top of their industry or organization, but we hardly want to dive into their life stories to discover and learn the crucial moments that make or break them. I’ve known Lex Low for a long time! What motivates me is how he has been consistent with the dream of changing the world with a pair of scissors. In this episode, we have the privilege of having a conversation with the founder of a barber school called Othrs.
2020-10-2427 minSOUL FOOD#27 Worship Gone WildChristians around the world enjoy using music as a medium to worship. The songwriting, choosing the right song to sing every weekend, practices to make sure every note is almost perfect and then singing together with the congregation. Then came the pandemic, all of a sudden it didn’t feel the same anymore, it felt weird and different. In this episode, I am together with my buddies Johnston Wang, a sought after music producer, and Kysern Lim, the creative director and guitar hero of Collective. I’ve had the pleasure of serving together with them on the worship ministry for...
2020-10-1752 minSOUL FOOD#26 I Feel Like Quitting!All of us are on a journey to pursue what is dear to us. But there are days, the conversations and imaginations we have in our heads tell us to sell everything we have, move to an island, and sip Pina Coladas. The reality of giving up is real. The conversation with Heidy Quah on this episode is honest and raw. We talked about how we can get emotional with so many things that we don’t process what has happened and miss out on moments that matter.
2020-10-1017 minSOUL FOOD#25 Follow Your Dreams? ft Heidy QuahIt is so easy to admire people who are at the top of their industry or organization, but we hardly want to dive into their life stories to discover and learn the crucial moments that make or break them. Heidy Quah is a passion packed human being on a mission to make someone know that they are somebody. More than all her achievements, Oh yea! One is awarded by Her Majesty The Queen! We talked about how she has remained grounded and consistent with her why, her convictions, bringing awareness, and building Refuge for the Refugees.
2020-10-0420 minSOUL FOOD#24 Toxic Buddies“Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future!” This saying is so true! But have you found yourself in a group of friends that are just toxic and you want out? But the question is, how do we get out of a toxic relationship when they are all the buddies you’ve got? In this conversation with Andy Yeoh, we talked about not taking the easy way out!
2020-09-2620 minSOUL FOOD#23 Dating 101: Highschool“But mom, I love her!” Have you been in this situation before when you were in high school? During this period, it does feel as if the whole world is against you. Is there a right way to date during high school? Is it merely a simple "yes" or "no"?
In this episode, the conversation with Andy Yeoh is about teenagers learning to handle more responsibility, understanding maturity, and also for the senior ones to guide them through this process.
2020-09-1923 minSOUL FOOD#22 Can I date someone older?“Are you sure he can support you?” A common question you will encounter if you’re dating someone older. It is a pretty troublesome topic to talk about, especially in our Asian culture. Maybe it could be our family’s judgmental comments or friends who doubt and not support us. So, we rather keep silent than talk about it. In this episode, my good friends Ju En and Angelica, talk about their journey, struggles, and understanding triggers!
2020-09-1232 minSOUL FOOD#21 How to not "SHOW OFF"Humility is a big subject! If we say we’re not good at something we’re good at, does that make us humble or annoying? Working with different people in the industry, Bryan Chin shares his experience and thoughts in this episode, on how we should learn to be the best version of ourselves without being stuck up!
2020-09-0533 minSOUL FOOD#20 Follow Your Dreams?It is so easy to admire people who are at the top of their industry, but we hardly want to dive into their life stories to discover and learn the crucial moments that make or break them. Bryan “Botak” Chin is a well-known sneakerhead, founder of Masses magazine and Sneakerlah, Malaysia’s biggest sneaker event! Oh! And a DOTA player… We talked about his life and the unorthodox way of realizing and pursuing his dreams. Our conversation is a little more chill, but there are many gems in between that will motivate and push you to pursue your dreams.
2020-08-2935 minSOUL FOOD#19 It's ok to be not okMental health is real and social media is a great platform to spread positivity and encouragement! All of us play a part, but what should we say, how do we craft the content for it? Isn’t this something capable that celebrities or people with a high number of followers do? Will, my content make any difference in someone’s life? Well, in this episode with Hannah Tan, I came to her with a list of questions for the practical steps to craft inspirational contents, but left challenged to do something more!
2020-08-2228 minSOUL FOOD#18 So you want to be famous?Everyone knows about fame and probably wants to be famous. It’s not wrong aspiring to be well known, but do we know what it takes to get there? We are in for a treat! She has been in the modeling and acting industry for over 20 years and a successful social media influencer. In this episode, Hannah Tan took us on a journey in her personal life and how she overcame the obstacles.
2020-08-1533 minSOUL FOOD#17 Swipe Right Swipe LeftYou know what this is! But could we trust the use of online dating? There is such a negative perspective on this, but with the advancement of technology and with the pandemic happening, there are just so many questions. In this episode, it was such a great conversation with Joel Burden, one of my favorite communicators, and we discussed: can this be a healthy, possible option?
2020-08-0824 minSOUL FOOD#16 It ain't that easy!“Redefine your friendships!” Yes! You know certain friends in your circle have been causing more harm than good. But you are held back by all the what if’s and years of experience together. Really? Do we need to take the time to look into our friendships? In this episode with Joel Burden, we talk about the influence of a friend and why possibly finding a new one matters.
2020-08-0122 minSOUL FOOD#15 I am right, You are right!“Maybe it’s time to renegotiate the terms of our friendship…” Have you ever been in a spot where you were defending your case, your buddy was doing the same thing? You ended the argument with no conclusion, sad, and possibly confused. What’s unfortunate, you lose a friend in that process. In this episode, I am excited to have this honest and open conversation with my friend Joel Burden, senior pastor and community leader of Hope City KL.
2020-07-2524 minSOUL FOOD#14 Once a cheater, always a cheater?"HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME!"
To have your trust system demolished when your partner has cheated on you. It's like a chunk of your heart ripped apart! Should we move on? Could we possibly forgive? How do we cope in a situation like this? In this episode, the conversation with Keith Tay got a little serious as we began to talk about the approach to help kick start the healing process of this excruciating situation.
2020-07-1825 minSOUL FOOD#13 But she said he's just a friendCome on babe… Can you please don’t be jealous! A couple of episodes in, I’ve got a couple of DM asking on an interesting question: Can I still be friends with my ex. Some might think it’s a taboo, no questions needed, and some might feel that there’s nothing wrong with it. I enjoy having this conversation with Keith Tay, as we navigate through the complexities of this issue.
2020-07-1122 minSOUL FOOD#12 Rules After BreakupI think... Let’s remain friends? It’s neither a question nor statement, a grey area that many of us fall into. Many might believe in an ideal to have a clean breakup... could it be done? In this episode, we have Keith Tay back again, and our conversation explored what is necessary during this painful process.
2020-07-0422 minSOUL FOOD#11 Can we watch porn?So now we’re married… it’s our first night together… should we watch it to learn and get some experience? It’s our 10th year anniversary, should we spice things up? After all, watching it together when we’re married shouldn’t be an issue right? In this episode, I just love how open and honest the conversation was with Raditya and Joanna, as we begin to debunk the myth about this topic.
2020-06-2718 minSOUL FOOD#10 Oops! Honey, I'm Pregnant...What started as a night of fun, became a living hell for months… should it be that way? It is not an easy journey dealing with pregnancy before marriage. But how do we cope with people and emotions during the process? In this episode, I got into a mind-expanding conversation with an amazing couple, senior leaders of MUDA, Raditya Oloan, and his wife Joanna Alexandra. I love how they are building a community that is encouraging people to craft and live an authentic life.
2020-06-2027 minSOUL FOOD#9 Second ChanceMost people would commonly agree that everyone deserves a second chance. But individuals who had committed a crime, been in prison and now they are out, are they worth thinking about? It is not easy. This episode is a little special and I’m glad my dad, S.Kuilan shares his journey, how together as a family we are a part of this outreach program that enables ex-convicts to recognize and realize their lives matter.
2020-06-1332 minSOUL FOOD#8 Woi! Orang India!Growing up, this has been a sentence that I’ve grown used to. It translates: Hey! You Indian! It is a derogatory term that I was taught to just brush it off as a joke. With all that is happening in America, I begin to learn… I can’t ignore it! I can’t stay silent! I have to recognize that statement is wrong, and I shouldn’t be accustomed to it. In this episode, my sister Rachel and I open up and talk about our childhood and what we must do moving forward.
2020-06-0644 minSOUL FOOD#7 It's just an incense.We live in a multi-cultural society, as beautiful as it is, we would encounter traditions that are deemed as taboos. In this episode, we ask Andrew Lau, a teaching pastor at collective and my go-to theologian: can we as Christians still pay our respect to our ancestors? Is it right or wrong or there’s nothing to worry about?
2020-05-3023 minSOUL FOOD#6 Can we work this out?Why is he such a good kisser? I’m sure she’s had better lovers than me! We don’t talk about it out loud, but these are the voices of insecurity that are amplified in our heads. In this episode with Keith Tay, we got really deep with the question: Can we have a healthy and successful relationship after we’ve lost our virginity?
2020-05-2328 minSOUL FOOD#5 Girl gets the BoyWHO RUN THE WORLD? GIRLS! A line from a famous song. But the question remains, can a girl pursue a guy? Is it strange, if a girl gets the chocolate or flowers for the guy she likes? Or that it’s chivalrous and it is only natural for a guy to start the whole process? In this episode, I had fun talking to Keith Tay about this role reversal.
2020-05-1618 minSOUL FOOD#4 Tattoos, Cigarettes, Alcohol & ChurchCan we have tattoos? An age-old topic but there is a huge curiosity about this art till today, especially with Christians. The whole idea for this episode started with that question. In this conversation with Kevin Loo, senior leader and the founder of Collective, we discussed and journeyed into different areas of community taboos and church norms.
2020-05-0926 minSOUL FOOD#3 The Dating GameCan we date 2 or more people during the same period? A question that I feel many tend to avoid. Is it confusion caused by the many fishes that are capable, available and fresh? Or is it for the thrill? I got curious and had a conversation with Keith Tay to try and understand why some people would go through this and create a conundrum for themselves. In this episode we asked: So, is it ok?
2020-05-0221 minSOUL FOOD#2 Can I watch Porn?Everyone seems to be doing it. It is available anytime! Doesn’t seem like any harm. We have heard how people reason with it, but should we? In this episode, we had a great conversation with Andy Yeoh, an associate pastor from Acts Church who shares his wisdom and personal journey.
2020-04-2540 min
SOUL FOOD#1 But she's my friend..."Trench Buddies", who is your trench buddy, the person that deals and help you with all the issues in your life. This was the WOW moment in the conversation. In this episode we ask: Can we still be good friends with an opposite gender, now that we have a partner? We have seen movies about this, we have heard couples argued over this. Let’s see how we should handle this area.
2020-04-1819 min