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The Coach Ratner PodcastWhen Pain Outweighs Pleasure: The Reality of DivorceLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Why does divorce feel like a death? Because in many ways, it is—the death of a relationship, of shared dreams, and of a once-cherished connection. But discussing divorce shouldn't be taboo, especially when understanding its warning signs could help save marriages before they reach the breaking point.Marriage researcher John Gottman can predict divorce with 94% accuracy by looking for one critical emotion: contempt. When eye-rolling, dismissiveness, and disrespect infiltrate a relationship, they erode the foundation of love like swimming without sunscreen—the dama...2025-06-1905 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastRed Flags! Dating Someone Who Doesn't Love Themself-Sunscreen Love AudiobookLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Do you ask potential partners if they truly love themselves? This seemingly simple question could reveal everything you need to know about your romantic future. Coach Ratner explores the often-overlooked "research phase" of relationships – that crucial period between initial attraction and serious commitment where we discover who someone really is beneath the surface.Whether you're currently dating, in a relationship, or taking time for yourself, these insights will transform how you approach connecting with potential partners. Share this episode with someone who needs to...2025-05-1504 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastBlind Spots in Dating: Understanding What Others See That You Don't-Sunscreen Love AudiobookLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wonder why some people seem to effortlessly find meaningful relationships while others remain stuck in an endless cycle of first dates? The answer might be hiding in plain sight—or rather, on the back of your metaphorical shirt.Coach Ratner introduces us to a powerful concept borrowed from Mike Zaney's "The Science of Dreams": we all wear shirts with writing on both sides. The front displays our strengths and positive qualities that both we and others can see. But the back—visible only...2025-05-0808 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastYour Ears Are the Gateway to Their Heart-Sunscreen Love AudiobookLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Forget everything you thought you knew about dating. While we often focus on what to say and how to present ourselves, the real secret to building meaningful connections lies in something far more fundamental: listening.The distinction between hearing and listening becomes crystal clear when you understand that one is passive while the other requires active engagement. For men especially, this means fighting the natural urge to solve problems and instead offering validation when partners share their concerns. Most importantly, we o...2025-05-0508 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastYou Don't Know Your Type Until You Actually Meet Your Type-Sunscreen Love AudiobookLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Have you ever passed up on a potential date because they weren't your "type"? That quick dismissal might have cost you a life-changing relationship. This eye-opening exploration reveals how our preconceived notions of an ideal partner often stand in the way of genuine connection.Ready to revolutionize your approach to dating? Stop limiting yourself with imaginary checklists and start opening doors to unexpected possibilities. Your perfect match might look nothing like you imagined – and that's the beautiful secret to finding lasting love. Listen no...2025-05-0106 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastWhy Rigid Criteria Keep You Single-Sunscreen Love AudiobookLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Finding meaningful connection in today's dating landscape often feels like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Whether you're swiping through dating apps or meeting people in person, the frustration can feel all too familiar.Coach Ratner challenges our fundamental approach to finding love by examining how our restrictive criteria might be the very thing keeping us single. Through the metaphor of a child's shape sorter toy, we see how our rigid expectations create unnecessary barriers. Just as the frustrated...2025-04-2804 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastLove Defined-Sunscreen Love AudiobookLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What does it truly mean to love? Drawing a fascinating parallel between marriage and the cooking show "Chopped," we examine how relationships require us to work with unexpected "ingredients" – the quirks and flaws that every partner brings to the table. While infatuation gets relationships started, lasting love requires deliberate focus on the virtues that initially attracted you to your partner.Why do parents rarely fall out of love with their children despite their flaws, yet many are quick to divorce when spo...2025-04-2404 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastFish Love vs. Real Love: Why Most Relationships Fail-Sunscreen Love AudiobookLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What does it truly mean to love someone? Most of us think we know, yet our relationships often falter because we're operating from completely different definitions. Distinguishing genuine love from mere infatuation could be the most important relationship skill you'll ever develop.Love, at its essence, means wanting to give without expectation of return. Infatuation, however, is that intoxicating chemical reaction that clouds judgment and makes us pursue someone primarily for our own satisfaction. Think about those post-divorce moments when people wonder, "What...2025-04-2104 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastThe New Face Factor, Dating Beyond First Impressions & the Dangers of Initial Attraction-Sunscreen Love AudiobookLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Have you ever been completely captivated by someone you just met, only to discover weeks later that they're not at all what you initially thought? The phenomenon I call "the new face factor" explains why we're so vulnerable to making poor dating choices based on first impressions.When surrounded by attractive people in social settings, we're drawn to the flashiest personalities while potentially overlooking genuinely compatible matches who don't immediately command our attention. This sensory overload is precisely why three dates are crucial...2025-04-1706 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastThe Three-Date Rule: Giving Love a Fair Chance-SunScreen Love AudiobookLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Struggling with dating? You're not alone. Most of us have experienced that overwhelming nervousness on first dates—the kind that makes men order plain lettuce salads (no dressing!) just to avoid potential embarrassment. But what if our snap judgments are causing us to miss out on incredible connections?The Three-Date Rule provides a practical framework for more successful dating. Unless there are obvious red flags (they live in a treehouse, talk endlessly about their mother, or laugh like a hyena), commit to three da...2025-04-1504 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastSunscreen Love Audiobook-Clarify Why You Are DatingLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!This episode dives deep into the crucial question we often forget to ask ourselves: Why are we dating in the first place?Dating without purpose leads countless people into relationship limbo. When physical attraction drives our decisions, emotions overpower intellect, making it nearly impossible to evaluate compatibility objectively. Coach Ratner examines why so many couples date for years without commitment, stuck in comfortable arrangements that never reach the "never leaving" milestone. Having a trusted dating coach provides invaluable perspective when i...2025-04-1007 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastSunscreen Love Audiobook: If You Want to Catch the Right Fish, You Need to Put Out the Right Bait--How Your Dating Strategy Shapes Your Relationship SuccessLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting the wrong type of partner? The answer might be simpler than you think: it's all about the bait you're using.Just as different fish are drawn to different types of bait, the way we present ourselves fundamentally shapes who we attract in the dating world. Through a compelling personal story about weightlifting and tight black t-shirts, we explore how deliberately showcasing physical attributes leads to a predictable outcome—relationships based primarily on physical attraction rather th...2025-04-0704 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastSunscreen Love Audiobook : The Intro to Breaking Down the Journey to Lasting Romance.Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if finding lasting love isn't about luck or fate, but rather a systematic journey through four distinct phases? Sunscreen Love reveals the framework that can transform your relationship destiny and dramatically increase your chances of creating a passionate connection that endures a lifetime.The statistics are sobering. With divorce rates hovering around 50-60% and many intact marriages lacking true happiness, your chances of finding fulfilling, lasting love sit at a disheartening 25%. But these odds aren't your destiny—they simply reflect a widespread mi...2025-04-0612 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastHow to Deal with Socially Awkward People in Our LivesLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Have you ever found yourself feeling inexplicably drained after a social event or Shabbat dinner? You're not alone! This episode delves into the complexities of social awkwardness and its impact on our emotional well-being. As we explore the ways in which socially awkward individuals express themselves, we address the emotional toll their interactions can place on us. From the 'know-it-all' types to those who struggle to grasp social cues, every interaction brings its challenges and insights.As we navigate the realities of these...2025-02-2610 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastSunscreen Love: Nurturing Relationships Through Listening and Emotional ConnectionLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Imagine if maintaining love in our relationships was as simple as remembering to reapply sunscreen! In this episode, we explore the concept of "sunscreen love," drawing parallels between relationship care and skincare routines. With personal stories and a catchy tune, we highlight how compliments can act like SPF, protecting the love between partners, while criticism can cause it to burn. As divorce rates climb, we emphasize the need to nurture love and upgrade our relationships to sustain that fiery passion and deep connection. We'll also...2025-01-0344 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastOvercoming Low Self-Esteem with Coach RatnerLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Ever wondered why teenagers today are grappling with low self-esteem more than ever? Join us in a conversation with Coach Ratner as we tackle this pressing issue head-on. You'll hear firsthand about his personal journey through self-esteem challenges, sparked by societal pressures and the perilous cycle of comparison that can dampen one's self-worth. Through anecdotes like his dream of becoming a professional pianist, Ratner sheds light on how to break free and embrace your own unique light. His new book, "Never Feel Loved Again: Symptoms...2024-11-2543 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastAudiobook, Never Feel Unloved Again, Final ChapterLet me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if the key to feeling truly loved lies in how we communicate with the divine? Join us on the Learning and Clarity Podcast as we share stories and insights from our audiobook series, "Never Feel Unloved Again," where we tackle the complex themes of prayer and divine recognition. We recount a personal narrative about the imperfections in organized religion and the essential objectives of prayer—help, guidance, and gratitude. Through captivating storytelling, we illuminate God's role in everyday miracles and emphasize the importance of bu...2024-11-1821 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastAudiobook, Never Feel Unloved Again, Chapter 11Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What happens when love and tragedy intersect with faith? Imagine the unwavering dedication of a babysitter who loves your children as her own—could this mirror the divine love we often seek in times of hardship? Join us on the Living Clarity Podcast as we explore these intriguing parallels and tackle the age-old question of why bad things happen to good people. Through personal anecdotes and profound reflections, we unravel the emotional complexities behind perceived disbelief and anger toward God, using rich examples from Jewish cu...2024-11-1519 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastAudiobook, Never Feel Unloved Again, Chapter 10Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Could exercise be the key to unlocking greater self-esteem and mental clarity? This episode promises to uncover the transformative power of physical activity and spirituality in shaping our mental well-being. We explore how today's sedentary lifestyle starkly contrasts with the physically demanding lives of the past, often leaving us vulnerable to mental health struggles. Examining studies by Dr. David Linden, we discuss how regular aerobic exercise, like running or brisk walking, releases natural chemicals such as dopamine and endocannabinoids. These compounds not only enhance mood...2024-11-1121 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastAudiobook, Never Feel Unloved Again, Chapter 9Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Unlock the keys to living a more fulfilled life with the Living in Clarity Podcast. Ever wonder how setting the right goals could boost your self-esteem and dispel feelings of being unloved? Discover how the SMART goal framework can transform your life, as I share how it enriched my journey from marathon training to enhanced creativity. You'll learn the secret sauce to success: the three Ds—desire, determination, and discipline—and get actionable steps for setting and achieving your goals. Dive into the art of brea...2024-11-0815 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastAudiobook, Never Feel Unloved Again, Chapter 8Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Unlock the keys to bolstering your self-esteem with Coach Ratner on this enlightening episode of the Living in Clarity podcast. Ever wondered why achieving more doesn't always translate to feeling better? Join us as we explore transformative strategies like practicing gratitude and rejection therapy, which can significantly enhance your self-worth. We promise you'll gain a deeper understanding of how recognizing and valuing your inherent attributes, which often go unnoticed, can enrich your life immensely. Discover the powerful impact of making a list of non-material blessings...2024-11-0422 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastAudiobook-Never Feel Unloved Again, Chapter 7Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!What if you could shield yourself from draining influences and truly thrive in your personal and emotional life? Join me, Coach Ratner, on the Living Clarity Podcast as we unlock the secrets to protecting your self-esteem and well-being from emotional vampires and negative external forces. This episode shines a light on the subtle yet profound impact of our surroundings—from the people we keep close to the media we consume. Discover how to recognize and manage the five types of emotional vampires: the victim, the na...2024-11-0119 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastAudiobook-Never Feel Unloved Again, Chapter 6Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Discover how to construct a protective barrier around your personal happiness and self-esteem with insights from Dr. Jane Anderson. We'll uncover the roots of low self-esteem, particularly how family dynamics and parental influence can shape a child's emotional health. Learn the importance of providing unconditional love and understanding the unique motivations of your children to nurture their self-worth. We explore the impact of divorce on children, the pressures of youth sports, and how to support your children in a way that ensures their self-value isn't...2024-10-2818 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastAudiobook-Never Feel Unloved Again, Chapter 5Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Explore the profound influence of our words and actions on self-esteem and social dynamics with us on the Living in Clarity Podcast. What if a simple smile could change someone's day, or a careless comment could linger for years? Join Coach Ratner as we navigate the power of facial expressions, the pitfalls of name-dropping, and the often unnoticed impact of the "you-don't-know-so-and-so" phenomenon. Together, we'll uncover how these seemingly small gestures can ripple through our lives, affecting both our self-worth and the people around us...2024-10-2515 minThe Coach Ratner PodcastAudiobook-Never Feel Unloved Again, Chapter 4Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening!Criticism is often a hidden reflection of one's own self-esteem struggles, a realization I came to with some wise guidance from my wife. Throughout this episode, I open up about my personal journey from being overly critical to adopting a more compassionate approach, underscoring how this transformation improved my relationships, especially within my family. We shed light on the insidious nature of gossip and its roots in personal dissatisfaction, advocating for internal happiness as a defense against these negative behaviors. Join me as we navigate...2024-10-2116 min