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Grow Yourself: Personal Development School of GrowthThe Road Back to You: Reclaiming Your Identity After Giving It AwayWhat happens when you wake up one day and realize… you’ve lost yourself?In this powerful episode, therapist and author Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT joins Kevin to explore the deep emotional patterns that cause us to disconnect from who we truly are. From codependency and shame to narcissistic relationships and early childhood dynamics, Darlene shares decades of wisdom to help you understand why you may have given your identity away—and how to begin reclaiming it.Whether you’re healing from a toxic relationship, navigating major life transitions, or simply feel stuck, this conversation offers truth, hope, an...
2025-11-141h 04
VIRGIN.BEAUTY.B!TCHVBB 353 Darlene Lancer: Codependency 4 Dummies!Darlene Lancer is an author, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and expert in relationships and codependency. Her bestselling books include Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist, Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You, and Codependency for Dummies. Each reflects her deep understanding of relationships and codependency recovery. Her newest book, Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist: Essential Tools for Improving or Leaving Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships, zeroes in on the core issue that causes victims of abuse so much unhappiness. Darlene’s ability as an emotional intuitive enables her to identify problems at their source and...
2025-11-0936 min
Adult ChildHow To Leave a Toxic Relationship: Trauma Bonds, Codependency, & Narcissistic AbuseLeaving a toxic relationship isn’t just hard — it can feel impossible when trauma bonds, guilt, and confusion are running the show. This episode breaks down exactly why that happens and how to finally break free.Darlene Lancer is a licensed marriage and family therapist and the author of Conquering Shame and Codependency and Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist. After surviving her own painful relationship with a narcissist, Darlene spent decades researching, writing, and guiding others through the complex terrain of codependency and narcissistic abuse.Key Takeaways:🔹 The Trauma Bond Trap: Understand how the...
2025-07-231h 03
Close the Chapter Podcast with Kristen Boice294. How to Conquer Shame and Codependency with Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFTIn this episode, Kristen is joined by Darlene Lancer, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, author, and expert on relationships, to explore the connection between shame and codependency, and how these emotional patterns can influence behavior and contribute to trauma. whatiscodependency.com darlenelancer.com You can buy Darlene's books through the Amazon affiliate links below. Shopping through these links helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you! Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You: https://amzn.to/48MyzBZ Codependency For Dummies: https://amzn.to/3CmR03P Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist: Essential Too...
2024-12-0438 min
VIRGIN.BEAUTY.B!TCHVBB 291 Darlene Lancer: Healing From Codependency!Darlene Lancer is a Marriage and Family Therapist and author with over 30 years of experience working with clients through the complex web of codependency. If relationships, self-worth, and personal growth are important to you, this is what you need to hear. Darlene is a renowned expert in codependency and the author of several books, including Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You. Darlene walks us through the intricate relationship between codependent and narcissistic partners. She reveals the childhood roots around each and the impact of shame central to both. Darlene shared valuable insights li...
2024-05-2836 min
The D SpotShame, Codependency & Narcissism With Darlene Lancer
Join us today as we sit down with Darlene Lancer, walking through the concepts of her significant work Codependency For Dummies. Drawing lines between past and present, Darlene uncovers how childhood behaviors can seep into adult life and generate feelings of shame and codependency. As the discussion deepens, she identifies harmful coping mechanisms we unknowingly incorporate in our relationships.
Delving into 'The Tyranny of The Shoulds', Darlene examines what it means to disconnect from your true self, focusing on external validations. And if you ever wondered what happens once a narcissist feels secure, then this video is for you...
2024-01-1733 min
Toxic Love TransformationHealing from Toxic Relationships with Darlene LancerUnlock the secrets of healing from toxic relationships with renowned expert Darlene Lancer. In this transformative episode:🔍 **Insights:**- 0:00 - Darlene Lancer delves into codependency, narcissism, and the dynamics of toxic relationships.- 8:02 - Explore the stages of leaving abusive relationships and strategies for effective communication with individuals exhibiting challenging behaviors.- 15:39 - Navigate the challenges of decision-making in toxic relationships and uncover exercises to understand and research your relationships.- 19:47 - Stephanie McPhail and Darlene Lancer share personal stories of rediscovering self-love and creating a safe space after lea...
2024-01-0238 min
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Blending Of Narcissists And Codependency, Featuring Darlene LancerDr. C welcomes author and therapist, Darlene Lancer, whose expertise is the exploration of narcissists, codependents, and the problem of shame. She explains how necessary it is to be aware of a narcissist's dominance, especially if you are inclined to lay aside your true self in deference to the controller.
Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships, narcissism, and codependency. She’s counseled individuals and couples for over 30 years and coaches internationally. Her 10 books include Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist, Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You, Codependency fo...
2023-12-1936 min
The Bloom After Baby Podcast7. How to Identify a Toxic Relationship, with Jen & RachelWhat actually defines a toxic relationship? Jen and Rachel unpack this widely (over)-used term and provide insights and tips on setting boundaries to protect your well-being as a mom in tricky family relationships, particularly around the busy holiday season! Links and resources mentioned in the episode:Dr Becky Kennedy's "Good Inside" Approach to Boundary SettingFree Guide to Protecting your Peace with Boundaries During the HolidaysThe Gray Rock Strategy explained, article by Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT via Psychology TodayYou can learn more about Rachel's California-based group th...
2023-12-1833 min
EncouragementologyUntangling Minds: Decoding the Web of Warped Thinking and CodependencySHOW NOTES: On this show…we are untangling our minds as we strive to decode the web of warped thinking and codependency. In the intricate tapestry of human relationships, certain threads can become entangled, creating knots that affect our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Warped thinking, also known as distorted thinking or cognitive distortions, refers to patterns of thought that are irrational, negative, and often contribute to emotional distress. Don’t worry, there are different degrees of warp from slightly askew to extreme torque. But here’s the good news, nothing is broken here and with a little work and a shift...
2023-12-0543 min
Invincible You with Dr. Alex AvilaAre You Sleeping With a Narcissist? Danger Signs and Escape Strategies, with special guest Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT, Expert on the Narcissist MindAre you with a Narcissist? The term “narcissism” has been used a lot lately, but there are some truths and myths about what it really means. A narcissist can be defined as someone who has excessive interest and admiration of themselves, needing constant admiration, and often puts other people down to feel better (lacking empathy). In relationships they can make you suffer. Our guest on Love University Podcast, Darlene Lancer (Santa Monica Counseling, Psychotherapist in Santa Monica, CA - Darlene Lancer, MFT), therapist and author (Codependency for Dummies), shed light on the narcissistic personality and how to protect yourself from them.
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2023-08-2834 min
Love University with Dr. Alexander AvilaAre You Sleeping With a Narcissist? Danger Signs and Escape Strategies, with special guest Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT, Expert on the Narcissist MindAre you with a Narcissist? The term “narcissism” has been used a lot lately, but there are some truths and myths about what it really means. A narcissist can be defined as someone who has excessive interest and admiration of themselves, needing constant admiration, and often puts other people down to feel better (lacking empathy). In relationships they can make you suffer. Our guest on Love University Podcast, Darlene Lancer (Santa Monica Counseling, Psychotherapist in Santa Monica, CA - Darlene Lancer, MFT), therapist and author (Codependency for Dummies), shed light on the narcissistic personality and how to protect yourself from them.
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2023-08-2834 min
The Virtual CouchTeaching Our Kids (and our inner-child) Emotional IntelligenceChildhood abandonment and neglect issues can manifest in seemingly unrelated ways in adulthood. In this episode, Tony helps you identify how they show up and how you can help your kids become more emotionally intelligent and resilient. Tony's muse today is an article by Jonice Webb, a licensed psychologist and author of two books, Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect https://amzn.to/3GewB03 and Running On Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships with Your Partner, Your Parents, and Your Children https://amzn.to/3m9fw0B He discusses the impact of emotional abandonment and neglect on...
2023-07-0839 min
The Jeremiah Show: Pop Culture, Music Icons Food GodsDarlene Lancer | Author on Relationships, Narcissism, and Co-DependencyToday Mariel & Melissa welcome Licensed Family Therapist Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT - Author of "Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist," "Codependency for Dummies," and "Conquering Shame and Codependency." Follow Darlene on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram at www.whatiscodependency.com Hosts - Mariel Hemingway & Melissa Yamaguchi Executive Producer - Jeremiah D. Higgins Senior Sound Engineer - Richard Dugan Producer and Sound Engineer - Slater Smith Click to Donate to the Mariel Hemingway Foundation
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2023-06-3056 min
Out Comes The SunSn 3 Ep 12 With Darlene Lancer LMFTMariel and Melissa welcome licensed marriage and family therapist Darlene Lancer to the show. Darlene has been helping men and women recover from codependency trauma for over 30 years. She has written several books, including “Codependency for Dummies” and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You.
Her latest book “Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist: Essential Tools for Improving or Leaving Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships” will help you take back your power and independence, reclaim yourself and improve your relationship.
You can purchase Darlene’s new book on her website whatiscodependency.com
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2023-06-281h 07
心理大學問我是我你是你 要勇敢堅持自己！Send us a text你知道自己的「界線」嗎？別人三番兩次踩到你底線讓你難以忍受嗎？其實問題或許就在你自己身上！因此本集節目將會帶你…1. 了解阻礙建立界限的五大原因2. 堅持界線需要堅持和努力！3. 成為能自己決定什麼可以進入自己界線的人[本集節目獻給對人際界線感到困擾的你／妳，希望在聽完這集後能學習如何維持界限，以柔軟而堅定的方式與他人相處❤︎]參考文獻：1. Brown,NW (2006). Coping with Infuriating, Mean, Critical People: TheDestructive Narcissistic Pattern: The Destructive Narcissistic Pattern.ABC-CLIO.2. Darlene Lancer.(2015).What Are Personal Boundaries? How Do I Get Some? Psych Central.3. Mark Manson.(2013).The Guide to Strong Boundaries.markmanson.net/boundaries節目回饋表單：https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdNVBmilWcTaq9oyND92Kx7Z-t7oX0wcGr0tsSUN4w_cF-4FA/viewform?usp=sf_link節目主持人：王品潔製作：輔大醫學院臨床心理學系監製：劉同雪贊助：中程校務整合計畫—智慧醫療靈性照護—福心計畫的經費支持
2023-06-2113 min
FULFILLMENT THERAPY - Marriage & Family Therapy, Self Mastery, Self Actualization, Unmet Needs, LDS Parent, Family Connection09 | Assertiveness: What I Learned from a Cultural View Shift & 3 Communication Styles Every Person Needs to Understand in Order to SucceedDo you think you’re pretty assertive and decent at communicating? Do you have a healthy self esteem and are you fairly confident most days? If you’re anything like my clients or myself, after this episode, you’ll likely discover that you have a lot further to go than you might have realized when it comes to communicating assertively. Assertiveness is the one thing that every client I coach tells me that they learned so much about and that this information was pivotal in creating stronger relationships and better communication.
Today, you’ll learn the different characte...
2023-05-1827 minFULFILLMENT THERAPY - Marriage & Family Therapy, Self Mastery, Self Actualization, Unmet Needs, LDS Parent, Family Connection09 | Assertiveness: What I Learned from a Cultural View Shift & 3 Communication Styles Every Person Needs to Understand in Order to SucceedDo you think you’re pretty assertive and decent at communicating? Do you have a healthy self esteem and are you fairly confident most days? If you’re anything like my clients or myself, after this episode, you’ll likely discover that you have a lot further to go than you might have realized when it comes to communicating assertively. Assertiveness is the one thing that every client I coach tells me that they learned so much about and that this information was pivotal in creating stronger relationships and better communication.
Today, you’ll learn the different characte...
2023-05-1827 minThe Virtual Couch10 Predictors of a Bad Romantic Relationship ExplainedTony shares and responds to the article “The 10 Best Predictors of a Bad Romantic Relationship” by Seth Gillihan, PhD https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/think-act-be/202301/the-10-best-predictors-of-a-bad-romantic-relationship Tony also references the article “Attachment Woes Between Anxious and Avoidant Partners,” by Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/202008/attachment-woes-between-anxious-and-avoidant-partners And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel to see a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast “Murder on the Couch,” where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0
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2023-05-0953 min
The Virtual CouchTeaching Our Kids (and our inner-child) Emotional IntelligenceChildhood abandonment and neglect issues can manifest in seemingly unrelated ways in adulthood. In this episode, Tony helps you identify how they show up and how you can help your kids become more emotionally intelligent and resilient. Tony's muse today is an article by Jonice Webb, a licensed psychologist and author of two books, Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect https://amzn.to/3GewB03 and Running On Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships with Your Partner, Your Parents, and Your Children https://amzn.to/3m9fw0B He discusses the impact of emotional abandonment and neglect on...
2023-04-0539 min
Mystical Sisterhood15: Codependency And Soul Alignment Explained With Darlene LancerDarlene Lancer is an incredibly gifted Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT) who specializes in codependency, shame and narcissism. Darlene is a seasoned therapist and prolific author whose book titles include “Codependency for Dummies”, “Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You”, and “Dating, Loving and Leaving a Narcissist”. Darlene’s command of this subject shines through on this episode as she shares a more clinical definition of codependency and adds in real life examples of her own and scenarios that listeners will identify with. Darlene also has a full library of blogs on her website and you will learn so...
2023-04-0549 minThe Virtual Couch10 Predictors of a Bad Romantic Relationship ExplainedTony shares and responds to the article “The 10 Best Predictors of a Bad Romantic Relationship” by Seth Gillihan, PhD https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/think-act-be/202301/the-10-best-predictors-of-a-bad-romantic-relationship Tony also references the article “Attachment Woes Between Anxious and Avoidant Partners,” by Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/202008/attachment-woes-between-anxious-and-avoidant-partners And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel to see a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast “Murder on the Couch,” where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0...
2023-01-1853 min
That's Messed Up: An SVU PodcastDominance w/ Caren BrowningThis week Kara and Liza recap “Dominance” (Season 4, Episode 20), analyze the horrific Wichita Massacre, and chop it up with the delightful Caren Browning aka CSU Captain Judith Siper.SOURCES:The New York TimesOxygenWichita-massacre.comNewsweekUS NewsThe Topeka Capital-JournalLawrence Journal-World 1Lawrence Journal-World 2Wichita State UniversityForgottenvictims.comCNNThe Washington TimesCBS NewsKAKEKansas State University FoundationJason Befort Memorial Tour...
2022-11-292h 00
The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult ChairUnderstanding and Ending Abusive Relationships with Darlene LancerWhen is a relationship worth fighting for and when is the only answer to walk away? Is it possible to work through dysfunctional patterns with a partner and get the outcomes you want? You know that I always say if there is physical abuse, GET OUT! But dysfunction exists on a spectrum, and just because someone has a personality disorder or dysfunctional traits doesn't mean they will always become abusive. In fact, many people in difficult relationships don't want to leave…they want to figure out how to make it work....
2022-10-131h 07
Adult Child80 - Dating, Loving & Leaving a Narcissist w/ Darlene LancerDarlene Lancer is a therapist and author of 10 books, including "Codependency For Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency". In today's episode, we discuss her personal journey of recovery, codependency and her latest book - Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist: Essential Tools for Improving or Leaving Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships.Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist, specializing in relationships, narcissism, and codependency. In her private clinical practice, she has treated individuals and couples for over 30 years and coaches internationally. She’s a sought-after speaker at national conferences, in media, and to professional gr...
2022-09-211h 04Narcissist Abuse SupportCodependency Traits in Narcissists & Their Victims – Darlene LancerSubscribe in a reader
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Today codependency expert Darlene Lancer highlights the overlapping traits of codependency between the narcissist and their victims. to learn more about Darlene’s book – Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist: Essential Tools for Improving or Leaving Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships – Darlene Lancer – https://amzn.to/3IZw3v1 Visit her website for great information on codependency – her blogs are amzing! – https://whatiscodependency.com/
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2022-09-2000 min
High Heels and Heartache PodcastWhat Should I Do If I’m In A Relationship With A Narcissist?Darlene Lancer stops by to chat about what to do if you are in a relationship with a narcissist. Darlene is an internationally sought after relationship expert and media spokesperson on narcissism and codependency, a psychotherapist and author of 9 books, including Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist, Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and Codependency for Dummies. She’s counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her ebooks include: 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How To Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set Limits, Dealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with D...
2022-07-0150 min
Adult Child64 - How Complex Trauma Affects Intimate Relationships w/ Jeremiah & Mallory CampbellToday we are joined by Jeremiah & Mallory Campbell - hosts of the Destin To Be Podcast.We discuss the interplay between codependency and addiction, breaking up with toxic parents, and how to support your partner through the complex trauma/inner child recovery process.Jeremiah Campbell is a recovering heroin addict, serial entrepreneur relationship, and mental wellness Coach helping other addicts rebuild their lives and achieve their true potential.Mallory Campbell is a world fitness champion, and a wellness coach for women. She runs Level Up VIP, a successful group coaching program for women. H...
2022-06-011h 29
Make the Shift92. Codependency, Shame & Narcissism with Darlene LancerCodependency is one of my favorite topics I know firsthand what it’s like to live on the other side of the street and lose all sense of myself. I think so many people suffer from codependency and aren’t even aware. That is why I am committed to talking about it and sharing information about it on this podcast.
Setting boundaries for a codependent person is a terrifying thing-almost impossible because a person who has codependent tendencies puts their value and wholeness in the hands of others. Therefore, boundaries = major risk!!!
My guest today, Darlene L...
2022-06-011h 13
SoulFed PodcastCodependency and NarcissismIn this episode, Darlene Lancer, licensed marriage and family therapist and author of Codependency for Dummies sits with me to discuss the fascinating topic of Narcissism and Codependency. Darlene has been working with healing people for over 30 years on the topic and she's just getting started! Author, therapist, coach and international speaker, this woman really knows her stuff!
For more info on Darlene and the topics discussed in this podcast, you can find her here
https://darlenelancer.com/
2022-05-2759 min
Your Story, Your Health, Your Best LifeGaslighting 101: How to Spot it and How to Stop itGaslighting 101, it is a thing and our guest knows all about it.Darlene Lancer is an author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert in relationships and codependency.
2022-05-2314 min
Relationship AdviceHow To Navigate Narcissism In RelationshipsWhen narcissism rears its ugly head, it can have extremely detrimental effects on your relationship. Listen to today's show for an in depth look at how narcissism can negatively impact your relationship and how to navigate it. In this episode with Darlene Lancer LMFT, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Is there such a thing as 'healthy' narcissism?
The 5 characteristics of narcissism
How to recognize abuse in your relationship
What to do if you feel like your partner has no empathy
How to gain your power back in a relationship
Determining if you should stay or g...
2022-05-1446 min
The Mike Wagner ShowAuthor/therapist Darlene Lancer is my very special guest with “Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist”!Author licensed marriage/family therapist Darlene Lancer talks about her latest book “Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist” as a transformable and relatable guide that’ll help you understand and improve your relationship with a step-by-step guide to discover signs of a narcissist, confront abuse, identify, understand and regain control! Darlene has coached and counseled individuals and couples for over 30 years and also written “Conquering Shame and Co-Dependency: 8 Steps to Freeing The True You” and “Co-Dependency For Dummies” and more! Check out her latest book on Amazon and www.whatiscodependency.com today! #darlenelancer #marriagecounselor #familytherapist #narcissist #narcissism #dating #loving #stepbystepguide #codependency...
2022-05-1047 min
Happily Ever After Is Just The Beginning! - Lesli Doares, LMFTHelp, I Think I Married a Narcissist!
Your relationship started off with such promise. Now nothing you do is enough or right. The more you offer, the more your partner wants. And it never seems to be reciprocated. Is your partner selfish, immature, or a narcissist? If you are caught in a difficult relationship, it really doesn’t matter. You’re hurting and things need to change. But can your relationship improve, or do you just need to get out? Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, codependency and narcissist expert, and author of the new book Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist: Essential Tools for Improving or Leavin...
2022-04-2634 min
Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of AbusePersonality Types That Attract a Narcissist & Is a Narcissist Capable of Love? - Q&A With Darlene LancerBrandon talks with Darlene Lancer (LMFT) about the personality types that attract a narcissist & if a narcissist is capable of love. Plus they discuss codependency, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, narcissist types, getting your needs met, regaining your sense of self after abuse, and much more. *** Please excuse the chimes in the background. It wasn't picked up until much later.*** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com You can find Darlene Lancer at her website https://whatiscodependency.com/ or at https://darlenelancer.com/ and y...
2022-04-1541 minNarcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of AbusePersonality Types That Attract a Narcissist & Is a Narcissist Capable of Love? - Q&A With Darlene LancerBrandon talks with Darlene Lancer (LMFT) about the personality types that attract a narcissist & if a narcissist is capable of love. Plus they discuss codependency, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, narcissist types, getting your needs met, regaining your sense of self after abuse, and much more. *** Please excuse the chimes in the background. It wasn't picked up until much later.*** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com You can find Darlene Lancer at her website https://whatiscodependency.com/ or a...
2022-04-1540 minNarcissist Abuse SupportUnderstanding the balance of power in a narcissistic relationship- Darlene LancerSubscribe in a reader
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2022-04-0400 minHappily Ever After Is Just The Beginning! - Lesli Doares, LMFTDo You Have to Lose Yourself to Have a Great Marriage?
Many marriages suffer due to the inability of spouses to balance their own needs as individuals with the needs of being part of a couple. But is it really a question of remaining independent versus becoming dependent? Can you be married and still hold on to who you are? What would that look like? Dr. Darlene Lancer, marriage and family therapist and the author of Codependency for Dummies, reveals why maintaining who you are and allowing yourself to become part of something bigger is the healthiest path to a successful relationship.
If you struggle with this balance and ar...
2022-03-0831 minThe Virtual CouchHow To Prevent Your Kids From Becoming NarcissistsOriginally Recorded 1/21/22
Tony reads listener emails including one that asks questions about how to avoid passing along narcissistic trauma to your children and he reads an amazing poem submitted by a listener that beautifully describes the process of awakening to the narcissistic traits and tendencies of a partner. He also discusses how avoidant and anxious attachment styles often come from emotionally unavailable/immature parents. He refers to the article "Attachment Woes Between Anxious and Avoidant Partners" by Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/202008/attachment-woes-between-anxious-and-avoidant-partners
With the continuing "sheltering" rules spreading across the country, PLEASE do...
2022-02-2428 min
Food Junkies PodcastEpisode 60: Darlene Lancer, LMFTDarlene Lancer, JD, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist, specializing in relationships, narcissism, and codependency. In her private clinical practice, she has treated individuals and couples for over 30 years and coaches internationally. She's a sought-after speaker at national conferences, in media, and to professional groups and institutions. Darlene's articles have been published widely in professional and popular periodicals. See her Kindle ebooks, "10 Steps to Self-Esteem - The Ultimate Guide to Stop Self-Criticism," "How to Speak Your Mind - Become Assertive and Set Limits," "Dealing with a Narcissist - 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Limits...
2022-02-1545 min
Waking Up to NarcissismHow to Prevent Your Kids From Becoming NarcissistsTony reads listener emails including one that asks questions about how to avoid passing along narcissistic trauma to your children and he reads an amazing poem submitted by a listener that beautifully describes the process of awakening to the narcissistic traits and tendencies of a partner. He also discusses how avoidant and anxious attachment styles often come from emotionally unavailable/immature parents. He refers to the article "Attachment Woes Between Anxious and Avoidant Partners" by Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/202008/attachment-woes-between-anxious-and-avoidant-partnersWith the continuing "sheltering" rules spreading across...
2022-01-2128 minThe Virtual CouchThe Dangerous Dance of the Avoidant/Anxiously Attached CoupleOver time, many couples find themselves in a familiar pursue/withdrawal relationship. One partner may feel like they are doing everything in the relationship only at the expense of getting their own validation or needs met. Still, their partner often becomes more distant when they express their frustration. But there is also a fear that if the partner stops reminding their spouse that they aren't getting their needs met, they will NEVER be satisfied. So goes the all-too-familiar dance of the anxious/avoidant attached couple. Tony shares his experiences as a couples therapist on how these couples arrive on his...
2022-01-1143 minThe Virtual CouchThe Dangerous Dance of the Avoidant/Anxiously Attached CoupleOver time, many couples find themselves in a familiar pursue/withdrawal relationship. One partner may feel like they are doing everything in the relationship only at the expense of getting their own validation or needs met. Still, their partner often becomes more distant when they express their frustration. But there is also a fear that if the partner stops reminding their spouse that they aren't getting their needs met, they will NEVER be satisfied. So goes the all-too-familiar dance of the anxious/avoidant attached couple. Tony shares his experiences as a couples therapist on how these couples arrive on...
2022-01-1143 min
AS THE MASSAGE TABLE TURNSWhat to do when you’re triggered and Trauma DumpingContent provided by: https://psychologytoday.com “What to do when you get triggered” by Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT • https://verywellmind.com “When Oversharing turns into trauma dumping and how to stop” by Cathy Cassata • DDOD by Urban Dictionary
2022-01-0835 min
AS THE MASSAGE TABLE TURNSWhat to do when you’re triggered and Trauma DumpingContent provided by: https://psychologytoday.com “What to do when you get triggered” by Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT • https://verywellmind.com “When Oversharing turns into trauma dumping and how to stop” by Cathy Cassata • DDOD by Urban Dictionary
2022-01-0835 minNarcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of AbuseCodependency vs. Narcissism, Shame vs. Guilt, Self Acceptance, & Intimacy - Q&A With Darlene Lancer, LMFTBrandon talks with Darlene Lancer (LMFT) about codependency vs. narcissism, shame vs. guilt, self acceptance, & intimacy. Plus they discuss, perfectionism, compulsion, core feelings, abandonment, emotional availability, imposter syndrome, and much more. They even have a giggle when Brandon realizes he has more issues than he thought. ***There are a few different types of sounds due to audio changes and a very brief plane noise in the background that we didn't hear while recording. Our apologies.*** You can find Darlene Lancer at her website https://whatiscodependency.com/ or at https://darlenelancer.com/ Here is a link...
2021-10-2245 minNarcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of AbuseCodependency vs. Narcissism, Shame vs. Guilt, Self Acceptance, & Intimacy - Q&A With Darlene Lancer, LMFTBrandon talks with Darlene Lancer (LMFT) about codependency vs. narcissism, shame vs. guilt, self acceptance, & intimacy. Plus they discuss, perfectionism, compulsion, core feelings, abandonment, emotional availability, imposter syndrome, and much more. They even have a giggle when Brandon realizes he has more issues than he thought. ***There are a few different types of sounds due to audio changes and a very brief plane noise in the background that we didn't hear while recording. Our apologies.*** You can find Darlene Lancer at her website https://whatiscodependency.com/ or at https://darlenelancer.com/ Here is a link to all the blogs mentioned...
2021-10-2246 min
BravefullLearning to be Bravefull with NFA-Money expert Dr. AmandaWhether we are aware of it or not, all of us have money blocks; many women think, for instance, that making more money than their partner could cause fights with them. It could be things we picked up when we were kids, or we might think that having money will change who we are. Still, the number one money block is that money causes stress; having money is stressful. What Dr. Amanda Barrientez explains to us in today's episode is that these money blocks run the show from behind the scenes, at an unconscious level. Dr. A...
2021-10-1236 minBravefullGet Bravefull with No Fucking Around Money Expert Dr. AmandaWhether we are aware of it or not, all of us have money blocks; many women think, for instance, that making more money than their partner could cause fights with them. It could be things we picked up when we were kids, or we might think that having money will change who we are. Still, the number one money block is that money causes stress; having money is stressful. What Dr. Amanda Barrientez explains to us in today's episode is that these money blocks run the show from behind the scenes, at an unconscious level. Dr. A...
2021-10-1236 min
Trauma Survivors Unite: Christian Emotional RecoveryEpisode 19: CodependencyEpisode Description:Codependency discusses what codependency is, how it impacts the individual, and how it impacts relationships. It also discusses the symptoms and causes of codependency. In Christian life, codependency and Christian love are often confused, but there are not the same thing. Many people are even raised by well-meaning Christian parents that confuse the two. This podcast differentiates between the two. Additionally, this podcast clarifies how codependency can impact our relationship with God, how childhood trauma can impact codependency, and tools to help you target the symptoms and root causes of codependency so y...
2021-10-1150 min
Exploring Different BrainsUnderstanding Codependency, with Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT | EDB 251Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT returns to discuss codependency.
(VIDEO - 19 mins) Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert on relationships and codependency. She’s the author Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and Codependency for Dummies and six ebooks, including: 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How To Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set Limits, Dealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People and Freedom from Guilt and Blame – Finding Self-Forgiveness, also available on Amazon. Ms. Lancer has counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches intern...
2021-10-0919 min
Les passions de Camille – Canal M, la voix de l'inclusionLes passions de Camille avec Richard Guilmette, Émilie Gingras et Darlène LévesqueCette semaine, Camille Chai reçoit Richard Guilmette, Émilie Gingras et Darlène Lévesque
L’activiste et militant Richard Guilmette a aidé des milliers de personnes en situation de handicap. Il vit lui-même avec l’amyotrophie spinale. Président et fondateur du Mouvement Citoyen Handicap-Québec, il propose, depuis le début de l’année 2021, « Le Balado des 10% ».
Darlène Lévesque et Émilie Gingras dirigent l’agence de rencontre « Rencontre adaptée ». Celle-ci se spécialise auprès d’une clientèle avec ou sans limitations. Avec leur slogan, «Rencontrez sans préjugés», Darlène et Émilie sou...
2021-10-0856 minExploring Different BrainsNarcissistic Personality Disorder, with Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT | EDB 250Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT explains what Narcissistic Personality Disorder really is.
(VIDEO - 21 mins) Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert on relationships and codependency. She’s the author Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and Codependency for Dummies and six ebooks, including: 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How To Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set Limits, Dealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People and Freedom from Guilt and Blame – Finding Self-Forgiveness, also available on Amazon. Ms. Lancer has counseled individuals and couples for 30 years...
2021-09-2521 minThe Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult ChairSummer Series: Unlearning Codependency with Darlene LancerAs you know, codependency is one of my "things." Fortunately, it's less of a thing these days, but I understand firsthand what it's like to spend years so focused on others that we lose our sense of self. That's part of why we talk about this so much on the podcast — so many people suffer for years not knowing about codependency, and I'm passionate about helping you get free...quickly and simply! My guest today, Darlene Lancer, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author and expert on codependency and relationships. She has worked with co...
2021-07-2954 min
Buttrfly Effect podcastEpisode 21: Shame and CodependencyHost Gail Ferguson Jones talks with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Darlene Lancer, author of "Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You." Lancer is author of seven books on the subject, including "Codependency for Dummies." In this episode, she explains how most people grapple with feelings of shame because of various life experiences, and the importance of admitting shame in order to overcome it. You can learn more about Lancer and her work at her website: https://darlenelancer.com/. And you can find her book at: https://www.amazon.com/Conquering-Shame-Codependency-Steps-Freeing-ebook/dp/B...
2021-07-2229 min
Recovery RoadInner Critic: Your Own Worst EnemyIn her book Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You, therapist and author Darlene Lancer offers an in-depth look at shame as a primary cause of codependency and addiction. This excerpt challenges us to examine our childhood - connecting the dots on how lingering past traumas can impact our adult lives. We learn about our inner critic and how we can develop empathy for the child we once were.
2021-05-0310 min
The SelfWork PodcastSelfWork YGTG: How Many Types of Narcissism Are There?Today's "You Get the Gist" explains the four different types of narcissism. All of them share the major features of a constant need for admiration, an unrealistic sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy, and great difficulty forming meaningful relationships. What are they and how are both similar and dissimilar to one another? You'll find out more.. but they are the grandiose narcissist, the covert narcissist, the communal narcissist (I'd never heard of that one..) and the malignant narcissist. I use the excellent work of Darlene Lancer, an attorney and a mental health clinician (link below). However, I do o...
2021-04-1406 minThe SelfWork PodcastSelfWork YGTG: How Many Types of Narcissism Are There?Today's "You Get the Gist" explains the four different types of narcissism. All of them share the major features of a constant need for admiration, an unrealistic sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy, and great difficulty forming meaningful relationships. What are they and how are both similar and dissimilar to one another? You'll find out more.. but they are the grandiose narcissist, the covert narcissist, the communal narcissist (I'd never heard of that one..) and the malignant narcissist. I use the excellent work of Darlene Lancer, an attorney and a mental health clinician (link below). However, I do o...
2021-04-1406 minThe Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult ChairUnlearning Codependency with Darlene LancerAs you know, codependency is one of my "things." Fortunately, it's less of a thing these days, but I understand firsthand what it's like to spend years so focused on others that we lose our sense of self. That's part of why we talk about this so much on the podcast — so many people suffer for years not knowing about codependency, and I'm passionate about helping you get free...quickly and simply! My guest today, Darlene Lancer, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author and expert on codependency and relationships. She has worked with co...
2021-04-0857 min
The Lilli Bewley Podcast | Self love, Self-Compassion, Trauma, Abuse, Codependency, RelationshipsEpisode #61 - Darlene Lancer, LMFT, JD, Author of "Codependency for Dummies"Today, on this episode, I am so so so so massively excited to welcome Darlene Lancer to the podcast. Darlene was such a huge part of the beginning of my healing journey and having to spend time with her in this beautiful, healing container is a major major thing for me.
Darlene brings a wide range of professional and life experience to her practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and relationship and codependency expert.
She wrote Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You.
Over...
2021-04-0255 min
The Anna Nelson ShowHow your strengths might be making you an unnecessary perfectionistI’ve met quite a few entrepreneurs who tell me that they’re a “recovering perfectionist.” I’ll nod my head and say, “I’m one too.” When building something from the ground up it usually doesn’t look like what we envisioned, but you have to start somewhere and starting “somewhere” usually means putting something out there, seeing what happens, then tweaking it and putting it out there again. Perfectionists have an extremely difficult time just putting something out there. They might mull something over for days, weeks, months or even years. It’s not healthy to be a perfe...
2021-03-2922 min
Something Was WrongS7 Ep6: Something Good Comes Out of Everything
*Content warning: familicide, murder, physical, emotional, and sexual violence, sibling abuse, childhood sexual abuse, sibling abuse, murder, distressing themes.
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2021-03-0839 min
容我說什麼是「真愛」？【摘要】
愛情的真假虛實使我們卑微，讓我們失去思考的能力、愛與被愛的勇氣。失去勇氣之後，真愛與虛情假意的差別，到底如何才能變得更為清晰？本集節目，通過「人際界線」（Personal Boundaries）的諮詢觀點，與您一同揭示「真愛」的美麗面貌。
【本集金句】
Barrie Davenport：「如果沒有建立起『健康的』人際界線，我們不可能擁有健康的人際關係。」
【推薦文章】
Darlene Lancer, What Are Personal Boundaries? How Do I Get Some? http://psychcentral.com/lib/what-are-personal-boundaries-how-do-i-get-some/
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2021-02-1830 min
Immerse Yourself In This Ground-Breaking Full Audiobook And Feel The Difference.Conquering Shame and Codependency by Darlene LancerPlease visithttps://thebookvoice.com/podcasts/2/audible/175326to listen full audiobooks.
Title: Conquering Shame and Codependency
Author: Darlene Lancer
Narrator: Carlotta Brentan
Format: mp3
Length: 6 hrs and 40 mins
Release date: 02-02-21
Ratings: 4.5 out of 5 stars, 50 ratings
Genres: Codependency
Publisher's Summary:
In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents' feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. She then provides eight steps to heal from shame, learn to love yourself, and develop healthy relationships.
2021-02-026h 40Embark On Your Ears To A Edge-Of-Your-Seat Full Audiobook.Conquering Shame and Codependency by Darlene LancerPlease visithttps://thebookvoice.com/podcasts/2/audible/175326to listen full audiobooks.
Title: Conquering Shame and Codependency
Author: Darlene Lancer
Narrator: Carlotta Brentan
Format: mp3
Length: 6 hrs and 40 mins
Release date: 02-02-21
Ratings: 4.5 out of 5 stars, 50 ratings
Genres: Codependency
Publisher's Summary:
In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents' feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. She then provides eight steps to heal from shame, learn to love yourself, and develop healthy relationships.
2021-02-026h 40
EncouragementologyFeeling Guilty for Feeling Guilty?SHOW NOTES:On this show….we will be releasing guilt. Are you tired of feeling guilty for feeling guilty? You aren’t alone. We’ve all done something we aren’t very proud of, disappointed someone, and let ourselves down. Carrying shame and guilt can be a full-time job that prevents you from realizing your true potential. I wish we could just let go of what doesn’t serve us in a positive way but let’s be honest, it is not that easy. The first step is awareness, then understanding, and then if you are good and ready...the releasin...
2020-10-0642 min
Bri Books"Insecure" S4, Ep. 5: Lowkey Movin' OnLet's review season 4 episode 5 of HBO's "Insecure": Lowkey Movin' On. Spoiler Alert: There are spoilers. We'll discuss the episode's overarching theme and recap the major moments. At the end of each episode, I'm going to recommend a #BriBooks read for the main character, along with a song of the week and #OOTN--which fit on "Insecure" reigned supreme? 1:00 - 12:20 - "Insecure" season 4 episode 5 recap 12:30 - #OOTN: Issa's vintage 'Waiting to Exhale' sweatshirt/ tee (vintage from eBay) 13:30 - Song of the night: "Wobble" by VIC 14:20 - My #BriBooks recommendation: "Codependency for Dummies" by D...
2020-05-1515 min
The Stuck Stops HereTSSH 21 - Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic-codependency)Heal in place. Fill your still. Codependency. During these very scary times, I am creating mini-podcasts to share the resources I used on my healing journey in a more direct way. Most of us may be sheltering in place –with no distractions and also no escape. If you are like the old erratically busy me…this “stillness” may be torture. If you have woken up and are searching for a path to recovery or already on a healing journey…I truly hope these mini-podcasts resonate. I try to cover a lot of ground in a succinct way so you can heal...
2020-03-2110 min
Between the Worlds PodcastBTW 9: 7 of Cups - The Dating App Card? with guest Sara BenincasaIn this episode we cover the 7 of Cups -- the dating app card. Lol. Really though, it's all about making choices, even when you're dazzled by appearances or afraid of them. We talk about how to see through self-deception, and we throw in a little talk on co-dependency for good measure with our friend, writer and comedienne Sara Benincasa.**********************************Find out more about our special guest, writer and comedian Sara Benincasa...Instagram: Excellent Coats on Irritated Women Instagram: SaraJBenincasa Twitter: SaraJBenincasaAuthor, "Real Artists Have Day Jobs"
2020-03-1259 min
One Broken Mom Hosted by Ameé QuiriconiHow We Sabotage Love with Darlene LancerToday Ameé speaks with Darlene Lancer. Darlene is is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and relationship and codependency expert. She wrote Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You. Over the course of 30 years, has helped men and women recover from codependency and trauma.And just in time for Valentines Day, Ameé and Darlene talk about how some of us our prone to sabotage love and relationships and why we do it. In this episode, you will hear:How do we kn...
2020-02-0951 minThe Stuck Stops HereTSSH 14 - If I Go There Will Be Trouble, And If I Stay It Will Be Double 🎵(The Clash 1982)If you simply detach and remove yourself from your narcissistic parent without doing your own work, you will not heal. You will not learn authenticity. You will not develop inner peace. Your true self will not surface if you take yourself out of the situation without completing your internal growth. If you don’t place responsibility for the hurt where it belongs — with those who hurt you — you will block growth and false guilt will force you to let a narcissistic parent back into your life every single time“What’s more important than initiating a break is learning...
2020-01-2941 min
Authentic ParentingWhat is Codependency? Signs, Symptoms and Recovery with Darlene LancerDo you have a hard time saying to "NO" to people? Do you often sacrifice your own needs to accommodate other people? Do you have a difficulty setting firm boundaries? Are you unhappy in your relationship but unable to leave? Does your marriage or relationship take up your thoughts and energy? Are you the one that is constantly making sacrifices in your relationship? Then you may be in a codependent relationship. The term "codependency" was coined a few decades ago in the context of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) to acknowledge and support partners of...
2019-11-211h 13
Listen To The Award-Winning Full Audiobook Now, Busy Professionals!Codependency for Dummies by Darlene LancerPlease visithttps://thebookvoice.com/podcasts/1/audiobook/385746to listen full audiobooks.
Title: Codependency for Dummies
Author: Darlene Lancer
Narrator: Courtney Patterson
Format: Unabridged Audiobook
Length: 13 hours 5 minutes
Release date: July 2, 2019
Ratings: Ratings of Book: 3 of Total 3
Ratings of Narrator: 3.5 of Total 2
Genres: Relationships & Intimacy
Publisher's Summary:
Codependency For Dummies, 2nd Edition is the most comprehensive book on the topic to date. Written in plain English and packed with sensitive, authoritative information, it describes the history, symptoms, causes, and relationship dynamics of codependency. The majority of the book is devoted to healing and lays out a clear plan for recovery with exercises...
2019-07-021h 05
Dive Into A Binge-Worthy Full Audiobook On Your Commute.Codependency for Dummies, 2nd Edition by Darlene LancerPlease visithttps://thebookvoice.com/podcasts/2/audible/121898to listen full audiobooks.
Title: Codependency for Dummies, 2nd Edition
Author: Darlene Lancer
Narrator: Courtney Patterson
Format: mp3
Length: 13 hrs and 3 mins
Release date: 07-02-19
Ratings: 4.5 out of 5 stars, 86 ratings
Genres: Twelve-Step Programs
Publisher's Summary:
Written in plain English and packed with sensitive, authoritative information, Codependency for Dummies, 2nd Edition describes the history, symptoms, causes, and relationship dynamics of codependency. The majority of the book is devoted to healing and lays out a clear plan for recovery with exercises, practical advice, and daily reminders to help you know, honor, protect, and express yourself...
2019-07-021h 03Get Top Full Audiobooks in Health & Wellness, Relationships & IntimacyCodependency for Dummies by Darlene LancerPlease visithttps://thebookvoice.com/podcasts/1/audiobook/385746to listen full audiobooks.
Title: Codependency for Dummies
Author: Darlene Lancer
Narrator: Courtney Patterson
Format: Unabridged Audiobook
Length: 13 hours 5 minutes
Release date: July 2, 2019
Ratings: Ratings of Book: 3 of Total 3
Ratings of Narrator: 3.5 of Total 2
Genres: Relationships & Intimacy
Publisher's Summary:
Codependency For Dummies, 2nd Edition is the most comprehensive book on the topic to date. Written in plain English and packed with sensitive, authoritative information, it describes the history, symptoms, causes, and relationship dynamics of codependency. The majority of the book is devoted to healing and lays out a clear plan for recovery with exercises...
2019-07-021h 05
Families Navigating Addiction & RecoveryA Peek into the Roots of Codependency and Labels with Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT"It's all about taking action."-Darlene Lancer Just as how a plant withers or thrives by its roots, addiction can blossom or die by its core. However, you could do something about it. A lawyer turned Marriage and Family Therapist shares her experiences and expertise about co-dependency and labelling. Darlene Lancer, digs to the root of two of the ramifications of addiction to help families and individuals attain healing. Conversely though, when things get messed up, it's often hard to let go especially if emotions pull you like magnet. Nevertheless, for yo...
2019-06-2631 min
Happily Ever After is Just the BeginningDo You Have to Lose Yourself to Have a Great Marriage?Many marriages suffer due to the inability of spouses to balance their own needs as individuals with the needs of being part of a couple. But is it really a question of remaining independent versus becoming dependent? Can you be married and still hold on to who you are? What would that look like? Dr. Darlene Lancer, (http://darlenelancer.com) marriage and family therapist and the author of Codependency for Dummies, reveals why maintaining who you are and allowing yourself to become part of something bigger is the healthiest path to a successful relationship.If you struggle with...
2019-05-2731 min
For Our Edification007 | On My Brain: Fyre Fest and Narcissistic LeadershipSocial media was abuzz in early 2019 when two documentaries about the infamous Fyre Festival dropped on Netflix and Hulu. People could not believe how the event got so out of hand and how the festival's creator seemed oblivious to the harm he caused several parties in the process. I believe the reason is McFarland's narcissism.Using my professional experience and information I am gathering for my master's degree research, I lay out the signs of narcissistic leadership using the events surrounding Fyre Fest as portrayed in the documentaries. This isn't about the organizer so much as it...
2019-04-0252 min
High Heels and Heartache PodcastHow Do You Set Boundaries in Relationships?Do you know your boundaries? Do you know how to communicate those boundaries to the people in your life in a healthy manner? Do you worry that setting boundaries will hurt your relationships?
I chat with Darlene Lancer about the importance of setting boundaries and the best way to deliver those boundaries to those around you. Darlene explains the different types of boundaries and the steps necessary to set a boundary. We also discuss what to do with your boundary is ignored or disrespected.
Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships and codependency...
2018-12-1749 minHappily Ever After is Just the BeginningNot Happy in Your Relationship? There’s a Reason for ThatAlmost all relationships start out in a good place. Unfortunately, many of them don’t stay that way. Not much is worse than feeling alone when you’re in a relationship. But staying that way is a choice too many people make. Much of what they try to do to fix it doesn’t work. That’s because the focus is on the wrong person. Dr. Darlene Lancer (https://www.whatiscodependency.com/), Marriage and Family Therapist and author of Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You, explains how relationships get off track and what you can do about it...
2018-08-2731 minHappily Ever After is Just the BeginningSecrets, Lies and the Damage They DoIt’s said that honesty is the best policy. Since intimacy is based on trust and trust is based on honesty, this is a good idea if you want a good relationship. But secrets and lies and the betrayal they cause can bring about the death of a marriage. Sometimes this happens immediately and sometimes it just takes the passion out of it.Marriage and Family Therapist Dr. Darlene Lancer (https://www.whatiscodependency.com/) reveals what you need to know about the importance of honesty in a marriage. Send your comments to Lesli (http://www.foundationscoachingnc.com/contact) an...
2018-05-2834 min
Relationship AdviceProgress Over PerfectionDarlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships and codependency. Shes counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books include Conquering Shame and Codependency, Codependency for Dummies, 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How to Beat Perfectionism and many more. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How unrealistically high standards can hurt your relationship. Why becoming aware of self-talk and beliefs is important in dealing with perfectionism. Learn the type of perfectionist you or your partner are in order to improve the relationship. How to work...
2017-08-3051 min
Mental Health News RadioI’m Not Perfect – I’m Only Human: How to Beat Perfectionism with Darlene LancerDarlene Lancer joins us again on Mental Health News Radio to discuss perfectionism. Her eBook, "“I’M NOT PERFECT––I’M ONLY HUMAN” –– HOW TO BEAT PERFECTIONISM" is available at www.whatiscodependency.com. Darlene discusses overcoming perfectionism – something common among codependents and people with low self-esteem. She discovered in her research that it spans from people with positive perfectionism, where it raises their self-esteem, to narcissists, whose perfectionism is damaging to others.Enjoy the show!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/mental-health-news-radio--3082057/support.
2017-08-0834 min
Inner Work: A Spiritual Growth PodcastPurefield Radio 008: Boundaries Boundaries help us delineate where we end and where we begin in relation to other people and to the external world. Boundaries also help us express who we are, the kinds of behavior we will accept, and the ways in which we wish to be treated. In this episode, we contemplate the usefulness of boundaries in social and personal relationships and even within ourselves (i.e. "internal" boundaries). We discuss some of the symptoms of inadequate boundary-setting and offer advice on creating and following through with healthy, loving, and respectful boundaries. For further resources on this episode's t...
2017-07-1241 min
Awakening Divine WildnessHow to Deal with a Narcissist with Darlene LancerDarlene Lancer is a psychotherapist that specializes in Relationships and Codependency. She enlightens us on the damaging aspects of being attracted to and involved with a real narcissist.
2017-05-2836 min
Restore PodcastRestore-Episode 0011-Same Day, Different Dress: A Spiritual Memoir of Addiction and Redemption - Juliet Van HeerdenSend us a Text Message - include e-mail or phone number in your message to receive a response.Welcome to the Restore Podcast episode 11 where it is our hearts' desire to help restore the vision, restore the mission, and restore the church through God's strength and power.I'm your host, Javier Diaz, and it is hard for me to believe that, at the release of this episode, we are less than two weeks away from the end of 2016 and the start of 2017. Ever since we began this podcast in February, it's been a learning experience...
2016-12-2145 min
Coaching Through Chaos Podcast211 - Darlene Lancer - NarcissismDarlene Lancer teaches us about Narcissism and how to deal with a Narcissist.
2016-07-0537 min
MyNDTALK with Dr. Pamela BrewerMyNDTALK - Freedom from Guilt- Darlene LancerFreedom from Guilt and Blame Guilt and blame does not have to rule your life, impair your joy, lower your self-esteem. Darlene Lancer, MFT talks about the process and the path to healing.
2016-04-121h 00
Coaching Through Chaos PodcastCodependency for Dummies - Darlene LancerThe topic is codependency: what it is and what it is NOT; the difference between normal and codependent behaviors and what a person can do to help themselves.Do you know someone who hasa need to be perfect,low self-esteem,poor boundaries with others,a need to control their environment, andchronic dissatisfaction in relationships ?If those descriptions ring a bell, you probably know someone who may be considered 'codependent'. If you’re into self-help at all, you probably have heard the term codependency- it’s often talked about it in terms...
2015-06-2830 min
MindSet: Mental Health News & InformationAddiction, Co-Dependency, SurvivorsEpisode 19. November 20, 2014. Host James Curtis discusses addiction & co-dependency; Survivor Day events. Contributors: Norma Hollis, Americas Leading Authentic Voice Doctor; Eric Marcus, American Foundation For Suicide Prevention; Darlene Lancer, LMFT; Lorelie Rozzano, jaggedlittleedges.com; Dr. Mel Vincent, Edgewood Treatment Centers.
2014-11-2143 min
The Australia Counselling Podcast058: Codependency: The Myths and Facts of CodependenceWhen it comes to codependency, there are many myths that surround this presentation in clients.
What's more, the definition of codependency has changed over the years and has a different meaning from what it meant 30 years ago.
In this podcast episode, we speak with U.S. marriage and family therapist Darlene Lancer, who has been working in the field of codependency for over 27 years. She brings us up to date with what codependence is today and some of the important clinical presentations to look out for that may indicate codependence.
In this interview...
2014-11-0500 min
Relationship Advice48: Darlene Lancer on Breaking-Up: Should You Leave Or Can You Get the Change You Want?Join us as Darlene Lancer shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Darlene gives relationship advice on breaking up and whether you should leave or try to get the change you want.
Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert on relationships and codependency. She’s the author of two books: Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and two ebooks:10 Steps to Self-Esteem and How To Speak Your Mind - Become Assertive and Set Limits. Ms. Lancer has counseled individuals and couples for...
2014-08-2736 minRelationship Advice48: Darlene Lancer on Breaking-Up: Should You Leave Or Can You Get the Change You Want?Join us as Darlene Lancer shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Darlene gives relationship advice on breaking up and whether you should leave or try to get the change you want.
Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert on relationships and codependency. She’s the author of two books: Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and two ebooks:10 Steps to Self-Esteem and How To Speak Your Mind - Become Assertive and Set Limits. Ms. Lancer has counseled individuals and couples for...
2014-08-2736 min
Happy Healthy You!Waking Up Is Hard To DoGuest: Darlene Lancer, MFT Skipping down that yellow brick road to our destiny without tripping is possible! Author and Marriage and Family Therapist Darlene Lancer is here to help us stay on the path.
2014-08-0800 min
Happy Healthy You!Waking Up Is Hard To DoGuest: Darlene Lancer, MFT Skipping down that yellow brick road to our destiny without tripping is possible! Author and Marriage and Family Therapist Darlene Lancer is here to help us stay on the path.
2014-08-0827 minHappy Healthy You!Waking Up Is Hard To DoGuest: Darlene Lancer, MFT Skipping down that yellow brick road to our destiny without tripping is possible! Author and Marriage and Family Therapist Darlene Lancer is here to help us stay on the path.
2014-08-0827 minHappy Healthy You!Waking Up Is Hard To DoGuest: Darlene Lancer, MFTSkipping down that yellow brick road to our destiny without tripping is possible! Author and Marriage and Family Therapist Darlene Lancer is here to help us stay on the path.
2014-08-0827 min