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Stuff You Should Contemplate#32 Random TalkBoundaries in relationships, telling it like it is, connecting with family members who have passed away.... And more stuff you stuff you should contemplate that will continue to better yourself and your relationships.2021-05-131h 33Stuff You Should ContemplateRandom TalkSo I’ll be completely honest here. We completed this episode with just random talk and letting our conversation go wherever it went and I didn’t take any notes as to what we talked about. But I guarantee that you’ll learn something that you can apply in your life. Enjoy!!!2021-05-131h 19Stuff You Should ContemplateWant to be happy? Do this one thing...In this episode Nola and I talk about epic birthday stories, including my 20th birthday celebration when I lived in Las Vegas. We also talk about the one thing to do that will create happiness for you. It’s simple really. Are you up for it???2021-05-131h 37Stuff You Should ContemplateAll Things Relationship #5 - Are You Communicating Your Truth or Being Rude?In this episode we talk about acknowledging your strengths and weaknesses, knowing your audience/who you’re dealing with. What did you learn from those around you in your childhood, directly or indirectly? Did your parent(s) teach you about things/people you would encounter in life? Also, the new book I started reading to help in relationships...communication.2021-04-231h 39Stuff You Should Contemplate7 Things Mentally Strong People Always DoThe 8th thing...take ownership of our emotions, how we feel in any given moment. Every day we should be personally growing, learning, and striving to connect to our happiness. When we ‘couple’ with our Self in new ways, we access a personal strength within us that will guide us to a greater sense of peace and knowing...serenity. Our topic begins 20 min in 💜2021-04-151h 37Stuff You Should Contemplate5 Things that Show if You’re Dealing with an Emotionally Mature High-Quality PersonIn this episode Nola and I discuss five things to be aware of when getting to know new people or when you’re assessing your current relationships. When you’re aware of the level of emotional maturity, then it can take a lot of frustration out of the situation, meaning that you will have an understanding of any limitations they may have in a given conversation or expectation you may have in a given situation. As always, our mission is to empower you in your life. Have a great day!2021-04-141h 15Stuff You Should ContemplateAll Things Relationship #4 - Common Things that Kill Relationships #8-14In this episode Nola and I finish up the list of things people have shared that kill relationships. Many times it’s the little things we do that slowly put out the flames of desire we once had in our relationship. Avoid these remaining 7 things on the list and allow the energy that brought the two of you together in the first place to grow again.2021-04-071h 35Stuff You Should ContemplateAll Things Relationship #3 - Common Things that Kill Relationships #1-7We talk about the first 7 out of a list of 14 things people have shared that kill relationships. Don’t miss out, this list is a good one!2021-03-241h 26Stuff You Should ContemplateBothered by People’s Eating Habits and more Relationship StuffToday Nola and I found ourselves talking about eating habits and how some people are bothered by what other people eat or don’t eat. Oh brother. Do they not have more important things to focus on in their life? And as usual we work relationship talk in there as well...how my current dating situation is much different than I’ve ever experienced, good and not so good.2021-03-241h 23Stuff You Should ContemplateYou’re ‘uncool’ If You Do This....According to Gen Z there’s a list of things that are considered ‘uncool’ if you do these.... Well, Nola and I might differ but then again we’re Gen X so what do we know anyway?? Lol. Join us for our take on the list of uncool things.2021-03-231h 41Stuff You Should ContemplateDo you have the ability to check yourself before you wreck yourself?Do you have the ability to check yourself, or do you insist that you’re ‘on point’ only to have things go wrong, and then you cast blame for your lack of success or whatever else goes wrong? Whether you’re a parent, a spouse or partner, an employee, a manager, or a business owner, do you have the mindset to step back emotionally from any situation and evaluate yourself FIRST, then the situation and the other people and components or do you find yourself getting defensive or blameful first? Join us for our talk about what we’ve experienced in the are...2021-03-231h 30Stuff You Should ContemplateDo You (unknowingly) Allow Others to Influence/Control the Way You Feel?As seen on FB: Don’t Let Wack Ass People Fuck with Your Dope Ass Energy. Do you take personal accountability for how you feel in any given part of your day or do you allow the moment to determine how you feel? When you’re not ‘feeling’ well emotionally, do you find yourself needing outside validation...thru kudos, food or drink, shopping, etc? Are you able to have a difference of opinion without getting into an argument? Or do you know of someone whose mood is all over the place at any given time? Join us for a chat about th...2021-02-031h 32Stuff You Should ContemplateAre You in Control of Your Mood? Or Do You Allow Others to Control How You Feel?Do you wake up and decide it’s going to be a good day only to experience other people seemingly make it impossible not to lose your shit? What if it was possible to be the one who determines your mood and that nobody else has the ability to mess up your ‘good-feeling day’? I promise you, it’s a thing. Also, what level of crazy are you???2021-02-021h 35Stuff You Should ContemplateFeeling Blah. Who Do You Rant To? Accountability Partners.Today I woke up feeling super ‘blah’ and wanted to skip the podcast for the week but within a quick text to Nola my blah feeling went away and I found inspiration to do the talk. Who can you rely on when you’re feeling blah and want to crawl back in bed? Who do you rant to when you want to release some steam? Or do you rant to anyone and everyone you come across??2021-02-021h 24Stuff You Should ContemplateIs It Right For You To Choose What Feels Best For You?This questions definitely has lots of variables that can accompany which answer you are tempted to blurt out. Join Nola and I for a discussion in the new year of 2021. We’ll give you some things to think about and apply to many areas of your life.2021-02-021h 13Stuff You Should ContemplateHow Are You Keeping Yourself ‘Sane’???(Recorded Jan 5, 2021) With 2020 and all that came with it, how are you keeping yourself sane in a sea of questionable times? Do you get on social media and go down rabbit holes? Do you check in on yourself and how you’re feeling? Do you check in with your beliefs (aka- what you’re thinking and focusing on daily)?2021-02-021h 08Stuff You Should ContemplateDo NOT Set a New Year’s Resolution (recorded Dec 29, 2020)Nola and I catch up on our Christmas and how gift-giving is easier when you pay attention to these things..., teens and driving. At 30 minutes in we talk about why setting New Year resolutions is not recommended, the 108/36 Challenge, accountability for yourself and owning your shit.2021-02-021h 12Stuff You Should ContemplateMore Holiday Stuff (and other shit related to Christmas)In this episode we answer the vague and unappealing (to me) phrase, “Are you ready for Christmas?”. Amazon vs Facebook when purchasing things. I asked my daughter, “How do you feel about Santa?”. And finally, we talk about the gifts that people buy and give, and how we feel about receiving ‘well-intentioned’ gifts from people. Oh oh and last but not least Nola shares her new champagne concoction that I will be trying this year. Happy Holidays!!! Darlenealisa.com2020-12-221h 10Stuff You Should ContemplateDating and Longterm Relationships. Putting yourself out there...possible rejection.We start this episode on a few different rants about navigating 2020, limiting beliefs holding us back, and I share my story of the guy I’m currently dating and being willing to have enough respect for myself to ask honest questions about where he’s at regarding dating other people, being intimate, and being exclusive. Did I get rejected in my needing to know where he was at with all these things or did it pan out in my favor?2020-12-162h 20Stuff You Should ContemplateHow my Thanksgiving went with the guy I’m (newly) dating, his ex-wife, their 3 sons, and....In this episode I catch Nola up on my Thanksgiving spent with the guy I’m dating for just a week and a half along with his ex-wife, their 3 sons, and his longtime friend who happens to be a female. It was my most interesting Thanksgiving to date. Plus we talk about snooping for Christmas gifts, the joy or pressure to buy gifts for people, smart watches, holiday attire, and my 108/36 Personal Challenge.2020-12-161h 04Stuff You Should ContemplateIs music a deal breaker in your potential relationship ship? How important is music to you?We talked about the upcoming Thanksgiving and we ended up going into music and how it can definitely be therapeutic, and how do you decide if you like a song, do you listen to the lyrics first or the music and flow of the song? Do you think the lyrics have an effect on children or even adults for that matter. Do you and your significant other like the same music? And what if you and your person don’t agree on liking the same music? Is that a deal breaker?2020-12-151h 14Stuff You Should ContemplatePermission to Enjoy the Holidays and the show ‘Love is Blind’We talk about the upcoming Thanksgiving 2020, what we will be doing, and how many people seem to dread the holidays for one reason or another due to expectations from themselves or others. Will I stay at home this year with my daughter and create our own tradition or will I venture out of the house to find new things to do and new people to spend time with? We also talk about the show that I just watched, Love is Blind. Can you fall in love without ever seeing the person?2020-12-091h 01Stuff You Should ContemplateRandom Topics - What’s Your Super Power, Introvert w/extrovert Tendencies, Cannabis in MississippiToday we let our conversation go wherever it wanted to and in the end we came to the point of Being Accountable for Yourself and Not Holding Others Responsible for Your Lack of Happiness.2020-11-131h 11Stuff You Should ContemplateWhen Your Kid Chooses to Live with the Other Parent (your ex)This episode we find out how a mom handles it when her 16 year old son chooses to live with his sperm donor, who has really never taken stepped up to the plate to be there in his son’s life. Is he really just there to antagonize the mom or is he genuine in this newfound interest of his son?2020-11-061h 09Stuff You Should ContemplateRandom Topics - stereotyping, driving habits, Matthew McConaughey...In addition, we talk about when you start dating someone, do you know when you’ve met the real person vs still dealing with their ‘representative’ who is putting on their best behavior. Plus a few more topics that I can’t even remember lol. And as always, if you’ve come to a place in life where you’ve lost your ‘happy’ and don’t know how to get it back then check out my site for more info... Darlenealisa.com2020-10-291h 31Stuff You Should ContemplateAll Things Relationship #2 - Are You A Relationship Addict?When you end one relationship, do you jump right into the next one? Are you automatically looking for the next person to be with? Or do you have the ability and desire to appreciate the space between relationships where you come back to learning more about who you are? Can you appreciate alone time without feeling lonely? Join us for our talk about Being Alone vs Jumping into a New Relationship. If you do realize that you have a pattern of jumping from relationship to relationship and are still not finding happiness then there may be something preventing you from...2020-10-221h 09Stuff You Should ContemplateMinimalism #1B - Things & PeopleDo we really need all the ‘shit’ we keep in our lives? Is having lots of things and people in our life a status marker or is all that we have weighing us down unnecessarily, creating more unhappiness and frustration?2020-10-161h 11Stuff You Should ContemplateMinimalism #1A - Things & FriendsDo we really need all the ‘shit’ we keep in our lives? Is having lots of things and people in our life a status marker or is all that we have weighing us down unnecessarily, creating more unhappiness and frustration?2020-10-1609 minStuff You Should ContemplateAll Things Relationship #1 - DatingIn this first episode on relationships we talk about dating, from being young to what it’s like to date again after marriage and in your 40’s. We welcome your questions and comments about topics relating to relationships. Contact us at Darlenealisa.com2020-10-081h 16Stuff You Should ContemplateRandom Topics - pets, annoying things people do....Today we just let the conversation go wherever it flowed. We laughed about people and their pets, and ended up talking about the annoying things people do and say. People are fascinating with the stuff they do and say. Do people actually ‘think’ before they operate out in the World? Hmmm2020-09-291h 01Stuff You Should ContemplateUnapologetically Authentic-part 2We continue our talk about what being authentic means, where we learn to be or not to be authentic, and what are the repercussions of expressing our authenticity or holding back2020-09-221h 00Stuff You Should ContemplateUnapologetically AuthenticWhat does being authentic even mean? How does what we experienced in our childhood contribute to either our authenticity or inauthenticity? Does being authentic hinder or help us in life? In our relationships? With our children? Join us for a talk about why we are the way we are and how do we know if we’re being authentic as an individual and if we’re ok with it or if we just want to blend in and be a people pleaser...the benefits and drawbacks.2020-09-2228 minStuff You Should ContemplateGetting Out of the Uncomfortable Comfort ZoneAre you stuck in an uncomfortable comfort zone? And what is that anyway? Are we afraid of failure or just plain afraid of change? We’ll talk about why we chose to get out of our comfort zones and what we experienced by doing it, as well as did we experience any benefits from trying something new. Are you stuck in your comfort zone even though you’re experiencing some aspect of not being comfortable and happy? Join us as we share our experiences and takeaway ‘aha’ moments from our adventures.2020-09-151h 01Stuff You Should ContemplateQuestioning authority figuresAs children we were taught not to question authority (ie-parents, teachers, doctors, etc.) as it was seen as disrespectful. But this has crippled most of us as we age in life. How do you get to know someone without asking questions? Why should we follow rules if we don’t question them and understand why they are in effect? How can we understand why people do and say what they do if we don’t ask questions? We don’t have to agree with what others think but it helps to understand why they think that way. And it also helps...2020-09-0957 minStuff You Should ContemplateStuff You Should Contemplate (Trailer)2020-09-0900 min