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Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 102: Sex and the Heartland pt2 (feat. Lauren Pauls)Somehow Joel and Lauren's relationship survived the Kansas bashing of part one because she's back to finish up the book. This part explores the role psychiatry played in de-stigmatizing queer individuals during this era, the emergence of the Pill, the intersection of drug culture with fights for sexual liberation, the struggles of women throughout these movements, and the eventual emergence of co-ed living in colleges across the country. If you've ever wondered what shaped the discourses on sex and gender in the 20th century, this section should help. Find copies of the book here. This y...
2023-03-271h 05
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 101: Book Club - Sex and the Heartland pt1 (feat. Lauren Pauls)In a continued effort to emmesh Lauren further in the Guy-family media empire (we're basically the Kardashians at this point), Joel brought her back to discuss a book about the Sexual Revolution in America and how it manifested in her hometown of Lawrence, Kansas. This book, another from the author of From Front Porch to Back Seat, explores how the Sexual Revolution was shaped by a variety of economic, political, and social forces during the 20th Century and was not limited by the activities of specific individuals or geographical locations. Part one of this episode discusses how WW2 impacted...
2023-03-201h 04
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 100:100th Episode Super Secret Sibling RevealWe've had our faces on our branding since literally the first episode so bringing on our elusive brother was the only way we could make our 100th episode special. Oh, sure, we could have actually produced some good content people would have enjoyed, but where's the fun in that?The mysterious Max Guy makes an appearance to chat with us about his perspectives on dating, how dating works as a male in San Francisco, and what he's looking for in a partner. Joel also takes advantage of there being two siblings in the room to torment them...
2023-03-131h 07
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 99: Therapy, Self-love, and Dating Trends (feat. Lindsay Luv)Given all the horrible relationship advice we've discussed on this pod, we were concerned professionals might be reticent to come on, but therapist Lindsay Luv was up for the challenge. Lindsay appears on this episode to talk about her work with marginalized individuals, dating and relationship trends she sees in her patients, her frank advice for young men seeking a partner, and her relationship war stories. Find Lindsay online on Facebook, Instagram, and at therapyluv.com. Lindsay expressed support for the Highland Project, a group working to build black generational wealth (and can be found here), and...
2023-03-061h 20
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 98: Discovering Identity (feat. Haley Downing)We have a very special guest in this episode... the wealthy patron who helps finance our podcast... HALEY DOWNING. We talk about dating, living in San Francisco, and a give a sneak peek of our elusive brother. This episode includes a typical Joel game show as well as plenty of juicy gossip. Who knows, maybe Haley will spill secrets on how to become a prime milf hunter? One fun note - we decided to treat Haley like any other friend and gave her a sample of our horrible recording skills. The content is great, the audio that c...
2023-02-271h 33
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 97: The Guy Siblings Critique Anti-Abortion Arguments pt3Just when you thought we'd escaped the event horizon of this prolife zine, it resurfaces, ready once more to be our emotional punching bag. Welcome to 2023, "A Young Gay Femme Leftist Hands You a Prolife Zine." We hope we can be done with you by the end of the year, but we're still less than 20% thru your length so neither Joel nor Naomi are holding their breath. (for those just tuning in, we're discussing anti-abortion arguments and using one of the weirdest ant-abortion pamphlets we've ever seen as a template to work thru.)We return to discuss...
2023-02-2059 minWhy Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 96: Trans Genocide pt2Part 2 of our unfortunately already-dated (WE RECORDED 9 DAYS AGO AND THIS IS NOW ANCIENT HISTORY) discussion of genocidal rhetoric and policy-making is out. Again, awareness of these issues is important, but don't bum yourself out if you don't have to. Eat some cake or play some videogames (not that Potter one) and relax. Good work is being done by lots of people right now, but we may call on you to help throw some stones at some point. In this episode we discuss the strategies governors are employing to undermine queer rights at all levels, what national a...
2023-02-131h 19
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 95: Trans Genocide pt1Joel and Naomi discuss the very real issue of anti-trans legislation and escalating rhetoric in the US and abroad, a problem that anti-genocide think-tanks have deemed genocidal in nature. We give a little bit of background on recent anti-trans legislation and what it entails, why so many politicians are pushing anti-trans and anti-queer legislation, the ramp-up in explicitly anti-queer protests across the US, the rise in the use of the word groomer (as well as the history behind its usage), and why this impacts everyone. This is probably best consumed in conjunction with pt2 (out next week), where we...
2023-02-0659 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 94: Book Club - Love Smart with Dr Phil McGraw pt3Mustachio McGraw returns again to blah blah blah. To offset our desire to not discuss the book we bide time by sampling the worst soda we've ever tasted and reveal our new power mantra for the year, 2023: 20-Rigatoni (It makes more sense in context). There's some sexist statements about how men communicate, some poorly explained filler about male archetypes and how women can use knowledge of them to improve their relationships, some junk about the type of guys women should always avoid, and some stuff about online dating but neither Naomi or Joel are really feeling it. I...
2023-01-3059 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 93: Book Club - Love Smart with Dr Phil McGraw pt2Dr Phil is back to give out more advice, some of it weirdly helpful, some of it horribly sexist. We do our best to differentiate the man and our opinions on him from Steve Harvey, but given the similarities between their content and facial hair we do mess up a few times. Our apologies to Mr McGraw. In these sections Philip tells readers how to work past their trauma from prior relationships, describes how every woman is either nice or sexy, talks about the importance of marketing your good qualities when dating, explains the "fundamental differences" between w...
2023-01-231h 08
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 92: Book Club - Love Smart with Dr Phil McGraw pt1We spent most of 2022 bagging on Steve Harvey so we figured we'd find a new daytime talkshow host enemy for 2023. Enter Dr Phil, America's favorite substitute for proper mental health education and treatment. After making a splash with his advice show in 2002 he dropped this 2005 gem, a comprehensive guide for women to find their happily ever after. Or at least that was the goal.In Part 1 we dig into Phil McGraw's weird controversies and sketchy therapy style, how he suggests women think about dating, and the (actually maybe helpful?) lists he provides for visualizing your future partner. I...
2023-01-161h 09
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 91: 2023 Dating TrendsOh boy, a new year beckons, which means it's time for all you singles to get your resolutions in order and plot your dating strategy for the next 365 days. We've pulled some predictions about new dating trends from Bumble, OK Cupid, Match, and Women's Health, spend a bit too much time digging once more into Match's Singles in America survey, and Joel gives a few predictions of his own for the coming year. If anyone wants to cancel us for bad opinions, come back in 12 months and check how we did. Credit to "Singles in America" for...
2023-01-091h 05
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 90: Another Year Round the Sun (feat. Atomic Habits)Sup, 2023? If you're like us you're probably still recovering from excessive mulled wine and eggnog consumption but it's time to get cracking on goals for the year. This time Joel and Naomi have some new advice for how to not just set goals but to create the processes necessary to achieve them. Joel brings in "Atomic Habits," a guide that explains how to create the processes to achieve your aspirations and break the habits you have that prevent you from being better. If you maybe fell short of where you wanted to get in 2022 as a better person or p...
2023-01-021h 03
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 89: Movie Night - Think Like a Man Too DiscussionHappy Holidays to all who celebrate! Patrons got this present early, back in October; subscribe now to access incredible work like this far in advance of the regular audience. It's here, it's finally here. The end of an unending saga, the final piece of the polyptych that forms the life work of one Broderick Stephen Harvey. It's okay, we guess. Unlike Marry Me it's at least watchable and has the added benefit of being shot far more competently than the first film. That said, it's still not good, and Joel forced Naomi to listen to him rant a...
2022-12-261h 14
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 88 - Phone Apps to Aid RelationshipsJoel and Lauren are back in the studio to discuss the phone apps that their entire relationship relies on. No seriously, we are wholly dependent on these and if the internet ever went down our relationship would collapse like a deck of cards. Keep it up, Al Gore. We discuss the finance and money apps that keep things equitable, the cleaning app Sweepy that keeps our house in order, the relationship app LoveWick which helps us know more about each other, and the imageboard app Pinterest, which we use to get a better understanding of our personal st...
2022-12-1951 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 87- Coffee Talks featuring Len ZuroNaomi and Len sit down in a new series called Coffee Talks and update everyone on what's been going on with them. They touch on intimacy in the bedroom, questions that have come up since Naomi started watching Sex and the City, and so on. This series will include relationship updates as well as advice for individuals in relationships wanting to expand communication in and outside the bedroom. We strongly urge our listeners to support the work of Planned Parenthood by donating here. For the indefinite future all Patreon donations will go to them, NARAL, or other o...
2022-12-1243 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 86 - Difficult Relationship Etiquette 5 (feat. Lauren Pauls)Lauren, everyone's favorite unpaid cohost, is back to render judgement with Joel once more on the thorniest, and weirdest, relationship dilemmas. We start with a few life updates, including the saga of Joel's cat's butt's problems, then discuss abandoning your SO in the hospital, the ethics of firing your pregnant fiancée, mothers who reject your wife's baking, wives who hate your friend's wedding photos, and a couple other juicy predicaments. All credit to Axel F. for use of Crazy Frog.wWe strongly urge our listeners to support the work of Planned Parenthood by don...
2022-12-051h 04
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 85: Book Club - From Front Porch to Back Seat pt4Naomi and Joel get together one last time to wrap up our discussion of dating in the 20th century, digging into how Freud and Darwin (amongst others) helped created an idea of "learned" gender and the impact this had on how people were expected to act in the dating world. We also chat about how one can apply the lessons of this book to dating trends these days and what one might expect moving forward. And you would not believe it, but Steve Harvey stops by to make (hopefully) his last appearance on our program. Find a co...
2022-11-281h 12
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 84: Book Club - From Front Porch to Back Seat pt3Joel and Naomi return for a third time to discuss the book we love (ohmigod, something getting equivalent airtime to a Steve Harvey book). We start by discussing what's been keeping us sane this year, before we wrap up the women as commodities section, talk about fake boobs, and finally get into the forbidden topic, S.E.X., talking about who was having it during the early 20th century, what authority figures thought about it, and how their disapproval helped develop rape culture and the archetypes of male predators. We don't get too explicit, but if you're not a f...
2022-11-211h 12
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 83: Midterms 2022 Discussionwoo. Midterms. Stuff happened related to abortion, trans rights, and the future of the country. We discuss. We strongly urge our listeners to support the work of Planned Parenthood by donating here. For the indefinite future all Patreon donations will go to them, NARAL, or other orgs doing good work across the nation.Interested in starting your own podcast? Check out our Buzzsprout link to get a $20 giftcard for signing up to host through them. If you're interested but not sold on the merits of the platform, give us a holler and we'll ta...
2022-11-1457 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 82: Book Club - From Front Porch to Back Seat pt2Welcome back to part two of maybe four(?) parts of a book exploring date culture in the US in the early twentieth century. Joel and Naomi discuss how WW2 impacted the age people were expected to marry, how authority figures encouraged teens and children to date en-masse to get them married younger, how "going steady" rose in prominence, and how women and men's value in the date economy slowly reduced them to commodities. Thanks, capitalism. Find a copy of the book here.All credit to Scarlet Pleasure for What A Life. We strongly urg...
2022-11-071h 02
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 81: Book Club - From Front Porch to Back Seat pt1Just in time for the spoopiest holiday of the year, Joel and Naomi have something truly horrifying to share with the world...a book they really like. Oh, sure, it lacks the riffability of a Steve Harvey self-help guide or a prolife progressive zine, but it makes up for that with a shockingly well-researched deep dive into the development of American dating culture from the 19th to 20th century. In this first part we discuss how "calling" culture morphed into dating, how this impacted the respective control each sex had in the dating game, and how WW2 changed the d...
2022-10-311h 05
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 80: Movie Night -Think Like a Man, the Movie DiscussionAs continued proof that Steve Harvey leaves rent-free in our minds, we return once more to his work with Think Like a Man, possibly the only movie ever based on a romantic advice bestseller (unless John Carter of Mars was loosely based on Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus). Unlike other media we've reviewed, this one is at least watchable, but Joel takes the opportunity to rant to Naomi about the weirdness of this film, from the strange writing and editorial selections, to Steve Harvey's incessant inclusion, to how the major plotlines fail to even remotely support t...
2022-10-2451 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 79: What's the Deal with Conservative Dating Apps?A new dating app for conservatives ("The Right Stuff") recently launched semi-disastrously so we decided to dig into what makes it bad, whether the concept of specialty dating apps even works, and why Peter Thiel is so interested in investing money into a concept that's already been done a dozen+ times in the last decade. We dig up some weird stuff. If anyone has access to the app itself, please send us an invite. We'd like to test some things. We strongly urge our listeners to support the work of Planned Parenthood by donating here. Fo...
2022-10-171h 09
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 78: The Guy Siblings Critique Anti-Abortion Arguments pt2Boy, the hits keep coming and they don't stop coming, huh? Same day we recorded this the Arizona courts decided that outlawing all abortions was totally fine and good; kind of a kick in the pants, but hey, not totally unexpected. On part two of analyzing "A Young Gay Femme Leftist Hands You a Prolife Zine" we discuss the various abortion initiatives that made it to the ballot in multiple states before jumping back into the text. (for those just tuning in, we're discussing anti-abortion arguments and using one of the weirdest ant-abortion pamphlets we've ever seen a...
2022-10-101h 08Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 77: Talking Politics with Rep. Melody HernandezWe're happy to be joined this week by Arizona State Representative Melody Hernandez, who's running for re-election this November. We chat about her stance on the recent upholding of the (near) total abortion ban in AZ, the bills she's co-sponsored on abortion, sex-ed, and sexual violence prevention in the House, and some of the trials and tribulations she's experienced dating as a public servant. For first-time listeners, this podcast focuses on changes in relationships and dating trends amongst GenZ and Millenials. While a lot of our content covers dating media, we find that discussions about women's rights, t...
2022-10-0356 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 76: Catchup and Guys 3 + Abortion Rights TalkWell our last official catchup episode was back in October of 2021, so we felt we could fill some time and let our listeners know what we've been up to. The ego on some people, right? We discuss what's new in our lives/relationships, some takeaways from recent travel, what's keeping us sane in these dark times, and some information on both the recently proposed 15 week abortion ban and a new push for tradcore lifestyles. More specifically, we dig into why the "compromise" positions being promoted by conservatives as more lenient than European law don't really pass the smell test.
2022-09-261h 22
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 75: TV Watch Party - F-Boy Island ft. Len ZuroThis week, Naomi is joined by her boyfriend, Len Zuro, to explore their new favorite reality TV show, F-boy Island. F-boy Island season 1 is a 10-episode season jam-packed with manipulation and a grand prize of 100 thousand dollars. Will the three girls choose the right guys or will they be devastated as the guy they fall in love with is actually an f-boy? Find out here as we review and make fun of this season of F-boy Island. Interested in starting your own podcast? Check out our Buzzsprout link to get a $20 giftcard for signing up to host...
2022-09-1941 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 74: Difficult Relationship Etiquette 4 (feat. Lauren Pauls)Naomi went out of town again so Joel and Lauren were left to "Risky Business" up the podcast, fun dance scenes, horrible meal choices, and all. This week we're back once more to discuss partners who get mad at their SOs for not making enough food, loveable pranksters who pretend to throw their girlfriend off the Grand Canyon, mean old boyfriends who don't prioritize ER visits for their girlfriends, people who feed their dogs better than their beaus, and so much more. As always, we discuss who in the situation is probably on the moral side and general tips...
2022-09-121h 06Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 73: The Guy Siblings Critique Anti-Abortion Arguments pt1Boy, that's a mouthful. Joel and Naomi found a very strange prolife zine online and want to discuss how it attempts to bridge the gap between progressive and prolife positions. We more generally want to discuss prolife rhetoric and thought this would be a good opportunity to unpack some of their main arguments. Unfortunately, this thing is really really long; we literally get through 3 pages of a 114 page document in this first part. We have no idea how long this will take to get through and we honestly might just give up halfway, but we’ll try to earnestly de...
2022-09-051h 21Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 72: Book Club - Curious History of Dating pt2This week we explore The Curious History of Dating: From Jane Austen to Tinder. This episode talks about dating taboos, how to impress, and what the traditional "appealing" wear of the time was. During this episode, we talk about the end of WW1 to now. Interested in starting your own podcast? Check out our Buzzsprout link to get a $20 giftcard for signing up to host through them. If you're interested but not sold on the merits of the platform, give us a holler and we'll talk about why we chose and continue to use it. S...
2022-08-291h 10Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 71: Book Club - Curious History of Dating pt1This week we explore The Curious History of Dating: From Jane Austen to Tinder. This episode talks about dating taboos, how to impress, and what the traditional "appealing" wear of the time was. During this episode, we talk about the 1700s to the beginning of WW1. Interested in starting your own podcast? Check out our Buzzsprout link to get a $20 giftcard for signing up to host through them. If you're interested but not sold on the merits of the platform, give us a holler and we'll talk about why we chose and continue to use it.
2022-08-221h 01
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 70: Book Club - Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus review pt2And we're back with part 2 of John Grey's guide to gender essentialism, a horribly substantiated and poorly-reasoned guide to communicating with and loving your partner better. Sure, we make fun of it, but we also realize it's had and will continue to have more of an impact on the world than anything we'll ever produce, so maybe we're just jealous?In this part we discuss some actually reasonable advice to how different sexes use language differently, some weirdly sexist advice regarding how men and women deal with stress, and some more horrible advice about people never being a...
2022-08-151h 03
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 69: Book Club - Steve Harvey's Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man pt3This bad boy was formerly sealed away in the vault, just for Patrons, but enough time has passed that we think the public deserves to see the final part of the Steve Harvey epic saga. Thrill and chill as Steve Harvey explains to women how to act to convince men they're worthy of value, using the tortured metaphor of sports fish versus keepers. Don't go anywhere though, as he follows that with his uncomfortable revelation that women should constantly bend over backwards to appeal to the fragile ego of their male partners, even if they're the sole p...
2022-08-0853 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 68: Talking Politics with Julie GunnigleWe're happy to be joined this week by Julie Gunnigle, who's running in the upcoming election for Maricopa County Attorney with a focus on defending women's reproductive rights, We chat with her about how the Roe decision will impact Arizona, what a County Attorney can do to fight for abortion rights, and how she'll approach several Arizona-specific justice issues when elected.For first-time listeners, this podcast focuses on changes in relationships and dating trends amongst GenZ and Millenials. While a lot of our content covers dating media, we find that discussions about women's rights, the economy, and...
2022-08-0127 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 67: Book Club - Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus review pt1When we started this podcast we thought we'd have to dig deep to find some dating books with horrible advice, but after reading a few of them we're convinced just scratching the surface will get us more than enough content for years to come. Case in point - Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, a loving 1990's guide that puportedly bridges the impossible divide between how both sexes love and communicate. We start in this part by discussing the weird background of the author, some weird oversights in his work, and the first few sections which discuss...
2022-07-251h 13
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 66: How Will Dating Change Post-Roe?Okay, we've blown through some whimsical topics in the last few weeks so now it's time to get back to the important stuff, namely how changes in federal and state law concerning women's reproductive rights are impacting the world. We dive into how to express your concerns to your local government (protests, we mean protests), polling on what the real dividing line on abortion is (it's not actually about fetuses), and likely changes to relationships/dating culture as a result of women quickly losing all their rights. As always, super fun stuff, but we keep it lively with Joel's d...
2022-07-181h 14
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 65: Movie Night - Silver Linings Playbook Discussion and CritiqueStraight from the Patreon catacombs comes another movie review! Well, less review so much as Joel ranting to Naomi for an hour about his disdain for David Russell's 2012 film. There's a reason for that though - Naomi could not sit through it and forced her kindly older brother to shoulder the burden. The Guy siblings break down their issues with a highly-regarded and highly-lauded rom-com, ranging from nonsensical plot points to poor representations of mental health to weird casting decisions to a creepy director who needs to be MeToo'd out of the industry. Joel also talks about w...
2022-07-111h 23
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 64: Boundaries in Relationships ft. Len ZuroThis episode explores boundaries in romantic relationships. Naomi and Len describe boundaries that are needed in their relationship as well as boundaries that they have witnessed in other relationships. This conversation also includes advice on how to start conversations that are important to have before moving in with your significant other or just anyone. We strongly urge our listeners to support the work of Planned Parenthood by donating here. Patreon donations are sweet, but there are more important causes to support. Go check out what is going on in the world and support those with a uterus.
2022-07-0446 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 63: Movie Night - 500 Days of Summer Review and Discussion (feat. Rj Amzler)For all the ranting and raving about media they dislike, the Guy siblings have yet to provide some good examples of relationship media they feel is actually good. Joel finally remedied that by bringing in Rj to discuss a shared favorite film, 500 Days of Summer, a romantic comedy/drama that has it all, strong characters, great music, subtle themes, and a well-written script full of positive takeaways for people at all stages in their relationships. Anyway, we get together to rant and rave about it for an hour. Check it out!All credit to Regina Spektor, The P...
2022-06-271h 20
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 62: Catholicism, Identity, and Parenting pt2 (feat Audrey Campbell)Joel and Naomi are joined again by Audrey to discuss influences on her relationship from friends and family, her views on the trials and rewards of parenting, and the anxieties younger people have about having children. We also wrap up with a Kansas-themed round of Way Too Personal, the only personal-ad themed gameshow within a dating podcast.* *this may not be true, but it's our bit and we're sticking with it. We strongly urge our listeners to support the work of Planned Parenthood by donating here. For the indefinite future all Patreon donations will go...
2022-06-201h 22
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 61: Catholicism, Identity, and Parenting pt1 (feat Audrey Campbell)For a slightly different change of pace, Joel and Naomi are joined by Audrey, a longtime friend from highschool, to discuss her family, dark romance, Catholicism, and getting married young. She traces her evolution as a person from highschool to college to present, and explains how she believes her worldview has both changed in some ways while remaining consistent in others. Please be cautioned that this episode covers some dark-than-normal themes; we're not explicit, but the contents may make some viewers uncomfortable.We strongly urge our listeners to support the work of Planned Parenthood by don...
2022-06-131h 03
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 60: Difficult Relationship Etiquette 3 (feat. Lauren Pauls)Lauren's back, and better than ever! She and Joel team up while Naomi's out of town to tackle some more of the internet's most thorny relationship issues, ranging from wives who's husbands won't let them interview for jobs to boyfriends who feel their girlfriend is being unsupportive when they accuse them of crimes. Not only do we render judgement on the toughest questions of the Am I the Asshole subreddit, we also try to give some context for why the behavior of certain individuals is so bad and how we (brilliant couple that we are) would approach each situation.
2022-06-061h 16
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 59: Date Ideas in PhoenixOmigod. No, your eyes aren't deceiving you, here's an actual episode with dating advice from a podcast allegedly about dating culture. Shocking, huh?Joel and Naomi talk about date ideas in the metro-Phoenix area, breaking it down into categories that should be helpful for even non-Phoenicians to plan dates around. Some of these could be good first date suggestions, but most are things you would probably enjoy more with an SO you've been together with for a while. Most of these will probably appeal to our demo, the 20 to 40 crowd - don't complain to us for the...
2022-05-301h 09
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 58: The DTG Year-Anniversary Jam-Packed Episode Spectacular!! (feat Rj, Giselle, and Tazmin)Okay, first things first, we're three days short of our one-year anniversary. Yeah, we get it. No one cares. Put that in your pipe and smoke it. Joel and Naomi get together to catch up with some past guests, revel in their triumphs from the first year, talk about areas we can approve, and strategize about the year ahead. If you're joining us late, we make some recommendations of episodes to listen to in order to absorb the best lessons we've provided over the past year. I mean, you should listen to all of them, just to...
2022-05-231h 18
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 56: TV Watch Party - Netflix's The Ultimatum Discussion and CritiqueNaomi and Len team up to mentally damage Joel with details of Netflix's new hit, The Ultimatum, a 10part gameshow series which permanently destroys any Western notion of the "sanctity of marriage." Apparently couples who are on the rocks find new partners to date for 3 weeks and then try to rebuild their relationship with their partner or move on for greener pastures? This is a terrible idea, but we discuss why Netflix made such a thing and how dating shows created just for drama can improve both their structure and how deeply they impact the participants.All...
2022-05-161h 11
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 57: Supreme Court Leak ReactionHey, y'all. It took us a while to find something useful to say about this recent abortion debacle; our initial thought was just to primal-scream into the mic for an hour, but we think others have done much better jobs doing that than we could hope to. Instead, we spend this episode talking about the potential impacts of the Supreme Court striking down Roe v Wade, who's to blame, and things you should be doing to prepare for the worst. Some raw and unfiltered feelings in this ep; slightly meaner than our usual fare, but still meant to be...
2022-05-161h 24
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 55: Book Club - Steve Harvey's Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man pt2And we're back, blah blah blah, more Steve Harvey, you get the spiel.We go for another dip into the misogynistic and deeply confusing dating advice of Steve Harvey. Joel and Naomi talk about Steve's view that all men need is "Support, Love, and the Cookie," how men hate small talk and women concern themselves far too much with minutia, why women need to understand that all men approaching them only want sex, how men only respect women who set standards, questions Steve thinks will conclusively determine if you should continue dating someone, and the "Ninety Day Ru...
2022-05-091h 01
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 54: Book Club - Steve Harvey's Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man pt1Some people have said we're doing too many book episodes and not enough dating episodes. We pondered that, mulled it over for a few weeks, and decided to take that to heart by combining a book on dating advice with actual conversation about dating standards. And the results were...not good.Steve Harvey makes his first appearance on our podcast, by virtue of his poorly named "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man." In it, he tells women the true secrets of the male mindset and gives them the information he thinks they need to know...
2022-05-021h 08
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 53: Teaching Sex Ed with Joe Russo (pt2)Joel and Naomi continue their discussion with sex educator Joe Russo, pivoting to his prsonal experiences and time in the field. Discussions of funny stories and what not to tell your students as a sexual educator, commence. Sex ed is hard y'all. If you feel you ever need to explain awkward concepts to friends or family, this might be a good one to check out. Danny Devito, we're still waiting for your call. Looking for a place to donate or help out? Joe suggests you check out the Arizona Public Health Association and Arizona Family Hea...
2022-04-251h 06
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 52: Teaching Sex Ed with Joe Russo (pt1)Joel and Naomi bring in a very special guest, Joe Russo, a former Arizona sex educator. In true DTG fashion, we wanted to treat him like any other guest, so we recorded 3 audio tracks and Joel promptly wrote over 2 of them. Good stuff. Joe discusses his past relationships, his journey towards sex education, problems with how sex education is done in America, and specific critiques of Arizona sex ed (looking at you, Doug Ducey). Some really good insights here on public policy and specifically bad curricula. Looking for a place to donate or help out? Joe suggests y...
2022-04-181h 00
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 51: Book Club - Marriage, a History pt2Back for Part 2? Weird. We normally have a dropoff of about a third of our viewers from part 1 of our episodes to part 2. Pat yourself on the back for remaining committed to your intellectual self improvement. No, please, take the time to do so. You've earned it. Joel and Naomi continue discussing marriage, finally emerging from the depths of the Middle Ages to discuss modern times. Purity culture, age of consent, abstinence, counseling, and the birth control pill all rear their heads and help explain how marriage ends up in its modern state. That's not to say we...
2022-04-111h 06
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 50: Book Club - Marriage, A History pt150 episodes in and we're finally answering a question we broached in the first month of our podcast, why exactly do people get married and how have marriage patterns changed from the past to the modern day. What can we say, we're nothing but timely. Speaking of which, is anyone else excited for the last season of Game of Thrones? We're a little behind but excited to see how the showrunners wrap it all up. It would be hard to bungle a media franchise this big and important.Naomi calls Joel in to discuss Marriage, a History, by...
2022-04-041h 05
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 49: Movie Night - Marry Me Discussion and CritiqueHappy Goofday, All! We thought a goofy episode on relationships might go down poorly today, so we decided to drop a formerly Patreon-exclusive episode instead! Patrons got to listen to this in February; you too can listen to our content earlier by heading over to Patreon.com and signing up now!Joel and Naomi dug into Marry Me, the Owen Wilson and Jennifer Lopez "rom-com" that dropped in February. Sure, they mostly spend the episode nitpicking the horrible concept and weird plot points like a lazy Youtube channel, but they also get into an interesting discussion about...
2022-04-0157 minWhy Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 48: Difficult Relationship Etiquette 2 (feat. Len Zuro)Proving once and for all that anything Joel can do, she can do better, Naomi joins her beau Len in the studio to deliver some zesty hot takes on more "Am I the Asshole" posts. They navigate the choppy waters of social graces in relationships to deliver high-quality assessments of people's bad choices. As always, if you have a thorny relationship problem, feel free to send it to datetheseguys@gmail.com. No promises on the quality of our answers, but we'll at least give it a shot.As always, our theme music is “Drop” by the a...
2022-03-281h 10Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 47: 2022 US Anti-Trans Bills - ReactionHey y'all, we're pissed about the newest wave of hateful bills designed to harm trans people, so we did a special episode on it. We know this is slightly outside our wheelhouse, but neither of us think people fully understand all the horrible stuff that's happening in statehouses around the US, it's something we're passionate about, and hey, trans people date too. We keep this mostly light but talk about the most recent Texas anti-trans bill, recent trends around the country, why lawmakers are likely pushing for these bills, and what people in these states should be doing to stay s...
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Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 46: Rules of Engagement (feat. Len Zuro)Welcome back, true believers! It's seemingly that time of the year again, when the Guy siblings debut a new and improved significant other and grill them mercilessly until they either accept their fate at as test subject in our podcast social experiment or break up with us. Fun times either way. Naomi's beau Len appears in a puff of smoke to talk about himself, prior relationships, what it's like being engaged at a young age, why it's difficult to express feelings, emotional abuse, and the problem with relationship labels. Joel also hosts a round of "Way Too Pe...
2022-03-211h 13
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 45: Love and Other Drugs pt2 (feat. Bibiana Princeton)Welcome back to part 2 of our crossover episode with Bibi of the Princeton Cannabis Review. Now that we've exhausted the basic topics we wanted to discuss, we get into the juicy bits, talking about drug use in relationships and what should be acceptable, getting over a divorce, and how dating changes as you age. Our theme music is “Drop” by the artist Ketsa. If you like their music, you can find more of it here.Find Bibi's work at theprincetoncannabisreview.com and on Instagram at /princetoncannabisreview. You can find her podcast on all streaming platforms. Sup...
2022-03-1456 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 44: Love and Other Drugs pt1 (feat. Bibiana Princeton)It's the first ever Guy family podcast crossover episode! We bring in Bibiana Princeton, longterm friend of the show and host of the Princeton Cannabis Review to talk about dating in the 1970's and 1980's, changes she's seen in modern dating culture, the importance of good romantic role models, and trashy romantic tv series. The ending music for this episode is from j^p^n's remix of Kanye West's Love Kanye. Our theme music is “Drop” by the artist Ketsa. If you like their music, you can find more of it here. Find Bibi's...
2022-03-0758 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 43: In The News (with Lauren Pauls)Lauren is back to chat with Joel and Naomi about stuff that's been in the news, including that weird stuff with the US stealing from the Aghani Central Bank, Rasmussen's horrible survey on trans issues, JK Rowling and Joe Rogan bullying people with their platforms, Free Nichelle, the awful Pam and Tommy show, and Valentines Day facts. There was unfortunately not enough time to get into the wonders of crypto dating surveys, but maybe that will make it into its own episode. Current Affairs has an interesting piece on trans individuals in sports that pushes back against man...
2022-02-281h 21
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 42: Book Club - The Gift of Fear pt2 And we're back to finish up "The Gift of Fear," as well as comment at length about the craziest plot twists of that leaked "Batman" movie. Upon reflection, while it was a bold choice to have this set in Twilight universe, we think it was a little chaotic for Robert Pattinson to play both Edward Cullens and Bruce Wayne in the same film. That said, maybe this means such classic villains as "Hemo Goblin" can make an appearance in future DCU projects now. Naomi and Joel discuss useful characteristics for identifying people (with like fifty caveats), potential marke...
2022-02-211h 14
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 41: Book Club - The Gift of Fear pt1Just in time for the most romantic holiday of the year, we have the first part of a two-parter deep dive into "The Gift of Fear," Gavin de Becker's 1997 book on respecting your intuition and identifying dangers to yourself, whether out in public or in relationships. if you've ever wondered if there are ways to semi-accurately detect and deal with threats, this is the episode to listen to. If not, you still may get something out of our discussion on Carrie Fisher, figurative and little minefields, kangaroo fight strategies, and chicken nugget shortages at the grocery store. Yo...
2022-02-141h 14
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 40: Getting to the Heart of Valentines DayWe're getting close to that special time of year, and rather than posting this day-of, we thought we'd give you all a week to internalize some lessons on Valentines Day and use them when enticing your beau next week. Listen to us bicker about how to best show your love to your SO (or friends and family in your life), the problem with single-day occurrences, bad gift ideas, and which holidays (besides the day in question) are the sexiest. Joel was deeply committed to the idea that Oktoberfest is sexier than July 4th; we'll let you decide. Lo...
2022-02-0742 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 39: Difficult Relationship Etiquette (feat. Lauren Pauls)2022 is the year to go all out and try new things (as we discussed a few weeks ago, the two stands for "Too Much Fun"), so Joel and Lauren are back in the studio with a new type of episode. Joel presents a collection of relationship-related posts from Reddit's online etiquette forum "Am I the Asshole," and discusses the intricacies of each question and whether the asker was in the right to act a certain way or totally botched each situation. If you've ever wondered how to handle extremely specific relationship scenarios, we're got some perspectives that may help...
2022-01-311h 15
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 38: Higher Ed Dating (feat, Noah Wuerfel)Welcome back, to the second episode of a sibling-based podcast with only one sibling. Naomi needed to...I dunno...return some videotapes, so Joel was left alone to interview his pal Noah about dating with a background in Speech and Debate and dating in higher education/the Ivy League. Look this isn't a "Bad Faith" podcast situation where the whole premise is two hosts but one has mysteriously disappeared and the other refuses to comment on what happened to them; sometimes just life gets in the way, okay? Joel and Noah talk about their past at a l...
2022-01-241h 59
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 37: Book Club - Abusive Relationships Pt 2 (feat. Why Does He Do That?)And we're back with part 2 of our discussion of Lundy Bancroft's "Why Does He Do That," a book on recognizing abusive patterns in relationships. We continue our discussion by diving into types of abuse, the characteristics of abusers, when the Queen of England is going to die, and the siblings brainstorm writing a Predator-style action film starring only abuser archetypes. This is best appreciated by listening to part one, but we do summarize the content of that at the top of the episode. You can find a copy of "Why Does He Does That?" here. O...
2022-01-171h 08
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 36: Book Club - Abusive Relationships Pt1 (feat. Why Does He Do That?)Opening 2022 with a bang, we've got Naomi finally back in the studio to discuss "Why Does He Do That," a early 2000s book on relationship abuse by Lundy Bancroft (we don't think there's been a more recent edition published, but there really needs to be given all the post-MeToo developments in modern culture). We discuss general stats on abuse in America, abusive relationships in media, and debunk some stats people have about the general profile of abusers. Shockingly, we keep this conversation mostly cheerful; might just be all the holiday cheer reserves we saved up in December. Y...
2022-01-101h 00
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 35: Joel Alone 1 - Discussing Anti-Trans Talking PointsWell it finally happened. Naomi went off on vacation without Joel, leaving him alone to defend the house from comedic intruders. Will he have time in-between fashioning improvised and frighteningly deadly traps to record a podcast episode by himself, or will Christmas (fine, the week of January 3rd) be ruined? Joel chats this week about anti-trans rhetoric, responses to common attacks against trans people, and the media ecosystem surrounding trans rights, all in one take. Look, if Birdman can get Oscar hype for shooting a whole 2 hour movie in one take, doing an hour-long podcast episode in one...
2022-01-031h 08
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 34: Personal and Relationship Self-ImprovementOur tanks are nearly empty as we make a final pass over this year, but we figured we had just enough in us to get out one more episode before the sun finally sets on 2021. No, we're not making any generalizations about how 2022 is going to be; let's just all cross our fingers and hope for the best.This week we discuss the reasons relationships lose their spark over time, techniques to bring that shine back (including the importance of doing new things), and why you should set some SMART goals for 2022. One of ours is going to...
2021-12-271h 16
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 33: Current Events December 2021Say what you will about 2021, but at least it's nearly over, right? Sure, it went on a little past it's best -by date, but in only a week or so it will be confined to the annals of history. That said, it isn't going down easy, and we're here to talk about some of the recent events which may impact 2022 moving forward. This week we're discussing Ghislaine Maxwell (we're not fans), parental leave and sexual misconduct bills in Washington, sexism/harassment in the gaming industry, and the future of abortion in America. So get yourself a cup of cocoa a...
2021-12-201h 17
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 32: Sex-Ed 6 - AbortionGiven that abortion rights in America are going to vanish sometime before the next fiscal year, we figured now was the time to provide some clarity on what the procedure actually entails, misconceptions people have about abortion, and, just for laughs, throw some moral arguments into the pot (apologies to all of our English teachers who told us never to discuss this in public). This is less fun and whimsical than some of our other episodes, but at least Joel doesn't try to provide thoughtful introspection about the state of our modern world (mostly), so we consider it marginally...
2021-12-131h 01
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 31: How has Covid Changed Dating?31 episodes in and we're finally tackling the elephant in the room, the on-going crisis that's been making it difficult to date for years. No, not capitalism, (we understand how you could be confused), but rather the unending covid-19 pandemic and all the roadblocks to dating it's put up. We dig into predictions about how covid would affect dating from early 2020, discuss our own experiences, and then dig into 2021's "Singles in America" survey, which interviewed 5000 American singles to determine what people should be doing to make themselves more eligible in these trying times. Find the "Singles in...
2021-12-061h 06
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 30: Catchup and Guys 2 (feat. Lauren Pauls)It's been 2 months since the Guy siblings caught you up on their wacky and wonderful misadventures in the world of dating, so we're back to fill you in on what we've been up to and how Joel nearly botched his whole Eurotrip. Lauren Pauls, a free and independent woman (who also happens to be Joel's gf), joins us to discuss Joel, dealing with a traveling partner, and her experiences in online dating (all of her own volition). Naomi also talks about the changes she's seen in her life since she turned 21 and how she thinks that'll affect her d...
2021-11-291h 23
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 29: Current Events October/November 2021You ever forget about a jar of something in the back of the fridge and find it again after a few months, maybe the same quality as before, maybe now covered in a thick layer of mold? Unrelated, but we maaayyyyyyy have recorded this in late October and are only releasing it now. Some stuff still is super relevant, some stuff....weeelllll, it may not be as fresh as when we bought it.Joel and Naomi return to talk about topical issues like the Chinese government and abortion policy, new legal penalties for miscarriages, the strikes occurring a...
2021-11-221h 29
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 28: Book Club - Tough Talks pt2 (feat. Crucial Conversations)Part 2 is here, never fear, we’ve got the sweet sweet info you were craving on how to effectively voice concerns and get stuff changed whether in a romantic or professional setting. Our accountant Ted says we should probably start charging for the second part of these and gatekeep the good stuff for that half, but we’re ignoring his advice for now. He has some great advice on corporate tax loopholes though. Do you know that you can write off capital acquisitions on your businesses’ taxes? Well, you can, and we’ll be broadcasting soon, tax-free, from the DTG moon...
2021-11-1554 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 27: Book Club - Tough Talks pt1 (feat. Crucial Conversations)Wow, 27 episodes now. That's like the average length of a season of the Simpsons. Sure, they’re funnier, more culturally iconic, have 33 seasons of content, and are generally better animated, but the comparison just writes itself, right? Right? Welcome to Part 1 of the Crucial Conversations discussion. Joel’s found the principle of this book to be monumentally helpful in his daily life so he’s subjecting Naomi (and by extension, you) to it. The book deals directly with how to handle emotionally trying, relationship-defining conversations with bosses, colleagues, friends, family, and partners; if there’s something...
2021-11-0852 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 26: Sex Ed 5 - STIs and STDs It’s the Guy Sibling 6-month anniversary episode spectacular, featuring a special guest performance, plenty of non-sequiturs, and even more of the hard-hitting information you’ve come to love us for. No, we didn’t put together a greatest hit compilation, but we think there’s plenty of reasons to celebrate with us. Come sit around the campfire and listen to us talk about the coming American STI surge, common ways people acquire STIs, and what you can do to get treated. If you live in the Phoenix area, please consider getting tested; find more information at stdaz.comOur...
2021-11-011h 10
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 25: Hall-no - Building the Best and Worst Halloween CostumesIt’s that spooky season again, and you’re probably wondering what you’re going to wear to the hottest parties in your area. Perhaps you’re going by yourself, or perhaps you’re going with a partner, which makes finding the perfect costume all the more difficult. Never fear, the Guy siblings are here, and we’re going to walk you through the principles of the perfect costume, discuss what makes couple costumes great, and run through a list of some of the hottest ideas in costumes today. Yes, this relates to our podcast, just, y’know, slightly less directly...
2021-10-2553 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 24: Breaking Down Naomi's Break Up (alt. Dirty Laundry Day)Well it's finally come to this. We're rubbing our noses in the sordid dirt of our personal lives rather than pretending we're blemish-free and competent enough to give dating advice. It's whatever. No one was coming for Joel's gameshows, so we had to resort to something to keep the crowds coming in. And besides, this is just Naomi's business, so Joel gets to remain clean and pure in the eyes of y'all. Woot woot. Naomi's friend Beyonca comes and joins us to analyze a longwinded text-message Naomi received from a recent-ex. And we do analyze; all three of...
2021-10-221h 23
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 23: Modern Love and STDs (feat. Trey and Ashley)…did ya miss us? C’mon, I know we’re not best friends or anything but it has been a week since we last saw each other…just wondering if you were thinking about us at all. No reason.Trey and Ashley conclude a marathon recording session in part two of our time with them. This one is not a directly sequel to the topics and heady themes discussed in part one; instead, we tack a different course and discuss Ashley’s knowledge of and experience dating with HSV-2, one of the more common STIs. Don’t fret; we kee...
2021-10-181h 24
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 22: Modern Love and Parenting (feat. Trey and Ashley)Come on, come all, to our funniest, most heart-warmingest, most spectacular episode by far! This 2-parter episode was recorded one balmy afternoon in July 2021, but due to a series of comedic missteps that will one day make their way into an award-winning screenplay, it has not seen the light of day until now. Naomi's good friend Trey and his girlfriend Ashley visit the Guy Siblings studios to talk about modern love in a delightful two-parter. This first part deals with their trials and tribulations in the dating world and Trey's experience as a young parent, part two d...
2021-10-1158 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 21: CatchUp and GuysAhoyhoy! It’s us, the Guy siblings, coming to you live from our floating studio docked on the scenic shores of Tempe Town Lake! At least we were live at the time of recording, not sure if we’ll still be live by the time you read this. I dunno. This is flavor text, right? We can’t be sued for false statements in our flavor text, right? It’s been many moons since we talked out our dating lives, but now Joel and Naomi spend an hour doing just that, catching you up on where we stand and...
2021-10-041h 12
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 20: Sex Ed 4 - Pregnancy and Sex MythsIt's part 4 of our basic Sex-Ed series and we're finally discussing pregnancy, you know, that baby-producing process most millenials and zoomers seem to want to avoid these days. We don't really get why; sure, there's swollen bits and nausea and weird bowel movements and the constantly needing to pee and uncontrollable weight gain and strange pica compulsions and the leaking mammary glands and the weird way society and those closest to you start to treat and all you get out of it is a baby at the end, but it otherwise seems pretty cool. We assume someone somewhere will n...
2021-09-2759 minWhy Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 19.5: Patreon launch episodeHowdy, y'all! We're just stopping by to wish you a happy day and let you know about our big step forward in branding and business. We've launched a Patreon for our podcast to help pay for episode editing and fun little side projects; if you have any spare change each month, we'd greatly appreciate your support. Next week's episode is already up on Patreon as well as some bts photos and polls for future episode content. If you want to shape the next few months of content and see us looking dapper, check it out.!h...
2021-09-2116 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 19: Current Events Catchup September 2021We get it, no one reads the news anymore. Print is dead, digital is dying, the future is viral tiktok journalism, yada yada yada. We’ve all heard the excuses a thousand times, which is why we’re here to summarize everything that’s happening and give you our takes on some recent events from the end of August through mid-September. Yes, we skip over a rousing discussion of Kanye’s Donda album, but that’s only to make room for plenty of talk about the OnlyFans kerfuffle (and reversal), Afghani women, Texas abortion bans, abortion in other countries, Whatsapp privacy co...
2021-09-201h 24
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 18: Sex Ed 3 - Body PartsIt's part 3 of our basic Sex-Ed series and we're finally on to the fun topics of body parts, transgender individuals, and statistics on sexual activity? Want to know the average penis size? What percentage of people are having sex on a consistent basis? A surefire way to tell how much sexual experience someone has? Well, we discuss everything but the last one.This should be one of the last episodes with audio difficulties. As of the time of writing this description, we are back to independent mics, like the consummate professionals we strive to be. Our...
2021-09-131h 11
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 17: Texas Abortion Law - ReactionHowdy, y'all. We figured we'd take a break from our sex-ed series to rustle up some conversation on that there Texas abortion law that the Supreme Court, bless their hearts, decided to let stand. Why dontcha sit down with a glass of sweet tea and a chicken fried steak and listen to us...aw heck. There really aren't a lot of good ways to make this topic fun to talk about, so here's the deal. Texas now has a horrible anti-abortion law that is going to hurt a lot of women. We had some strong feelings on it. so we...
2021-09-0652 min
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 16: Sex Ed Pt 2 - RelationshipsIt's part 2 of our basic sex ed series. Part One was Consent, many moons ago, and now we're getting into healthy relationships and warning signs of abuse. We keep it upbeat but do be warned that there are still some mature themes in this episode (ie abuse: we don't mean taxes and high fiber diets).One other thing to keep in mind; the endless audio difficulties never cease. This was recorded with one omnidirectional microphone due to some hardware problems; the quality is fine, but we're going to get back to independent microphones soon. Our th...
2021-09-011h 32
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 15: How to Talk Right Pretty feat. "Art of Captivating Conversation."Oh man, our fifteen episode milestone. You know what didn't get 15 episodes? Firefly. What a fun tv show. You should watch that. We think that mostly holds up, as long as you kind of "death of the author" the whole thing. You know what else was fun? Dollhouse. Inconsistent messaging and really weak second season, but, hey, same will be said about us when all is said and done, right? Springing right off the success of our current events episode, Joel and Naomi return to discuss how you can master the art of small talk and banter. Unsu...
2021-08-231h 08
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 14: Current Events Catch-Up August 2021Okay, we get it. Long-winded regurgitations of all the boring books Joel’s read are boring. Joel’s boring too. You think we don’t know that? Trust me, we know that. To give you a reprieve, we’re talking about current events, all the hip and cool topics going on at the time of recording. Sound editing takes time though, so if you’re confused by any of our references to American Idol or the Gulf War, know that we got it out as soon as we could.Joel and Naomi tackle a hodge-podge of topics in t...
2021-08-161h 29
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 13: Book Club - Sex Work and Prostitution feat. the book "Revolting Prostitutes."We got a zesty episode for you this week, one that digs right into mankind's oldest profession. No, not stone-masonry, the other one. Joel and Naomi dig into "Revolting Prostitutes," a comprehensive discussion of international sex work that links together the fight for sex worker rights with fights for women's rights, racial equality, and a more equitable future. Tune in to learn more about the history of the profession, why basically every attempt to regulate it fails, why enforcement only makes working conditions worse, and what countries are doing okay and downright terrible jobs at regulating the industry and kee...
2021-08-091h 24
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 12: Getting the Good Dates (feat. Giselle Lee)Joel’s longtime friend Giselle drops by to talk about her dating life, thoughts on dating apps, building a perfect dating bio, and arranged marriage, for some reason. Learn what an experienced dater looks for in men and what you can do (regardless of your sex) to improve your dating profiles. Joel also busts out another round of the “Price is Wrong,” a lovely gameshow beloved by all (spoiler alert: Naomi’s loss streak remains unbroken). Our theme music is “Drop” by the artist Ketsa. If you like their music, you can find more of it here.Support
2021-08-021h 12
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 11: WHO the hell do you think you are?Sup, fam. This episode was recorded a few weeks back before we had some audio issues straightened out. Joel is very proud of the fact that the audio issues this time were all Naomi’s fault. Please make sure all angry emails are directed to her at naomi@definitelyrealwebsiteurl.org.Joel and Naomi get together in this one to talk about WHO’s recent recommendation that women of “child-bearing age” not drink alcohol. This leads into a discussion about the weird way WHO frames the issue of alcoholism, societies’ tendency to infantilize women while also treating them as needing...
2021-07-261h 05
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 10: Book Club - All About Self Care pt2 - feat "Coping Skills"And we're back, with part 2 of our series on destress techniques. Joel actually did some research and found a great resource on actual techniques for coping in stressful situations, a book called... Coping Skills (surprise, surprise...). Written by Faith G Harper, a Phd, LPC-S, ACS, and ACN, this book explains actual techniques that therapists and professionals use to deal with stressful situations. You know, things like bad breakups, separation anxiety, new relationship responsibilities, partners who don't carry their weight, etc. We'd strongly suggest reading the book yourself, but if you want the quick and dirty summary of destressing tips (an...
2021-07-191h 18
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 09: All About Self-Care pt1 (alt. Live and Let Guy)See what we did there? Pretty cool, right? That’s why you’re listening, for all the “Guy” related puns. Maybe “pun” is a little generous, but hey, if something fails, “Guy, Guy, Again.” (See what we did there? Aw, nevermind)There’s a lot to be stressed out in the modern world, which can affect both how you treat yourself and potential partners. Joel and Naomi talk about self-care, including what they do to stay happy and healthy, why you shouldn’t trust all these companies with their silly mental-health programs, and some general principles for remaining mentally w...
2021-07-121h 08
Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 8: What's Going on with Highschool Dating feat. Tazmin SmithMore like “Guy School Dating,” amirite? Sheesh, these are getting old, aren’t they? We’re 8 episodes in and we’ve got to run out soon, right? Right? Right!!!!?!!!! Naomi’s longtime friend Tazmin joins us to talk about dating in HS, Catholic School boys, and working in the wonderful world of ice cream. She also pulls a fast one and debuts her very own gameshow segment, possibly in an attempt to spin off from our series and do her own show. We’re not too concerned; “Date This Taz” doesn’t roll off the tongue nearly as well. Our t...
2021-07-051h 27Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 7: Dating in the Big City feat. Rj AmzlerWarning: Joel screwed up our audio. Like really bad. Like, disabled our microphones and recorded it entirely on his laptop while he ate Taco Bell bad. Our sound guy has done his best, but there’s only so much he could do. That said…we wanted our first guest episode to be with one of our good friends, someone who we could carry on a laugh-a-minute conversation with for an extended period. They wouldn’t pick up their phones, so we got Rj instead. Joel’s college pal Rj comes on to talk about his dating his...
2021-06-2859 minWhy Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 6: Where Have All the Good (Hu)mans Gone?Strap in for a real doozy of an episode, one that actually explores the premise of our podcast! Shocking, we know. Sorry, that horny Tempe episode seemed too time-sensitive to ignore. The Guy siblings discuss how younger Millenials and Zoomers are delaying certain life markers (marriage, children, etc) and how that may not be either their fault or even necessarily bad. Naomi also debuts her first bit , "Venom," and makes Joel squirm by deeply probing his actual knowledge of women's issues. Oof. Our theme music is “Drop” by the artist Ketsa. If you like their music, you can fin...
2021-06-211h 14Why Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 5: Imperial Life in the 9th Horniest CityWe’d like to think we’re on top of all things relationship and dating related, so when we heard that Tempe, AZ had been recently awarded the title of 9th Horniest City in the US, we knew we just had to discuss it. Listen to our dissection of famed-pollster Lawnstarter.com’s incredible survey (spoiler alert, it actually sucks) and our attempts to figure out how one would actually be able to measure a cities’ true horniness. Our theme music is “Drop” by the artist Ketsa. If you like their music, you can find more of it here.S...
2021-06-1458 minWhy Will No One Date These Guys?Episode 4: Sex Ed Pt 1 - ConsentOo boy, we’re starting out strong with an uncomfortably long episode on consent. You know, what it is, why it’s important, and where it applies. This is not the funnest of episodes, but is probably one of the more important we’re going to do. Stick around the whole way through for the first rendition of “The Price is Wrong,” the only ethically-produced, fair-trade podcast gameshow. Seriously though, we may get into some uncomfortable topics like sexual assault. Maybe skip to the end on this one if you feel the content may be triggering. Our theme...
2021-06-071h 28