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Model ParentingThats a WrapScripture Joshua 24:15.The kids return as special guests to share their thoughts on setting hearts on course for God. They have not listened to the podcast because this is a way we can study and evaluate if what we are saying to the microphone lines up with what we live at home. It shows developmental levels and where we still need to focus and also gives us feedback on where we need to align with God and then tweak our systems with the kids. How much do our systems return us to God, to dependence on Grace...2022-06-3035 min
Model ParentingBalance is a MythIn this episode we discuss 'balance' not being the best goal. We talk about places we have been unbalanced and some consequences that come from that. Philippians 4:12 and Romans 8:31-39 are focus scriptures.Connection Activity: This particular activity has biggest result if done individually. Time spent building the thankful muscle on and individual level compounds connections to other people. Thankful people more easily connect to others but thankful people don't just exist, God forms them through the discipline of thankfulness. Write down at least things that bring thanks each day. If it is difficult at first, use "...2022-06-1028 minModel ParentingSense of placeThis discusses parental effort and prayer in helping children orient to their place in the family, in the world, and most importantly, in relation to God. Physical place is an important part of foundation and benefits from attention, but efforts beyond just physical space pay huge dividends long term in the individual and the relationship.Psalm 78 is a great place to begin in story-telling and then add in what God has done personally in the more recent history of you. Retell the stories of their children. Journal them so you remember and go back and read them...2022-06-1034 min
Model ParentingDreams to ChaseDream together! Share and shoulder-to-shoulder pour effort, time, and maybe money into dreams. Watch God shape dreams as He sets them in hearts. Our culture and a lot of positive thinking and self-help mentalities can tug in the direction of self, but self-denial is crucial in chasing dreams!Connection Activity: share some "wishes" (things that would be awesome but could happen with just the right circumstances) and "impossibles" (things that could only be done with God) with family members. Write them down and save; regularly pray over them and ask God "how"? See what happens!...2022-05-2135 min
Model ParentingMoney MattersMoney is a tool, not a goal. Having a healthy view and relationship with money is foundational for helping to train kids with money. This episode includes some practical tips like "junk budget" and some spiritual encouragement like May 16th entry in My Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers.Connection Activity: Play Act Your Wage from https://www.ramseysolutions.com/store/youth/dave-ramseys-act-your-wage-gameor MonopolyResource: the Envelope System connected to your family's Valueshttps://www.ramseysolutions.com/store/digital-products/everydollar-budget-apphttps://www.ramseysolutions.com/store/products/starter-envelope-system2022-05-2135 min
Model ParentingOutgrowing your KidsThis episode describes how maturity curves can affect family relationships and how parents are the primary pursuers.Awareness of maturity curves and where gaps arise in development between siblings and even between parents and kids can help multiply grace in relationships. Finding ways to connect despite the gaps can lessen their impact.Realizing our imitation of pursuit following God's model helps in being a "long-haul pursuer" of our children. This echoes and supports what we discussed earlier about attachment and repair in the parent-child relationship.Scripture informing this episode: Luke 15:11-32...2022-05-1233 min
Model ParentingG.R.E.A.T.How can you tell if something is "great" for your family? Use the "G.R.E.A.T." acronym to prioritize what receives most family resources of time, energy, and money. This can be used before having values fully defined and named. However, it is most beneficial throughout the years after values are in place to determine if opportunities are best for certain seasons of life or if they should be allowed to move onto someone else. Some practical examples for this include assessing moves, transitions, promotions, extra-curricular activities, etc. This can also be a useful tool for parents...2022-05-1233 min
Model ParentingBaby StepsThis episode looks at Behavior Circle. We hope to show how targeting Values helps efficiency in behaviors in training ourselves and our kids.Connection Activity: prayerfully play darts with your spouse. Then play darts with teens or bean bag target game with youngers. During play, ask God to help you see some values you tend toward easily and some in which you would like to strengthen your aim. Consider them in setting shared values. If you have set values already, ask Him to help you see any behaviors that clump together in a value that if you...2022-04-3035 minModel ParentingSharing is CaringMerge together to have prioritized shared values that the entire family team can target.Connection activity: An activity that has guardrails, like a marble track or go-carts that push the items back toward the center.Resource: You Version has a Family ID: 31 Days of Building Your Family's Values which is a great list of values from which to choose with Scriptures. Can you find your top 5?2nd month: examine time to determine current default values. Prune activities that don't align with intended values.discuss with your own parents, top things they...2022-04-2044 minModel ParentingAll You Need Is Love....and other stuffWhat are values and why do they matter? How do misaligned values feed conflict? How do coordinating shared values help relationships? What happens to your consistency and integrity when your deliberate values don't line up with your default values?Connecting activity: list personal values, define them, talk about them, can any merge or coordinate or compliment or nest under a combined value? Include kids over 7 in the fun!Resource: You Version has a Family ID: 31 Days of Building Your Family's Values which is a great list of values from which to choose with Scriptures. Can...2022-03-1533 min
Model ParentingRight/Wrong, Reality, PurposeIn the last episode we covered first two of 5 specific worldview questions (Authority, Humanity); this covers the last 3 (Right/Wrong, Reality, Purpose). Values driven model building can be used without examining worldview, but it is so much smoother when worldview perspectives are considered beforehand and throughout the process.Show Notes:Right/Wrong: Matthew 4:1-11Real: 1 Corinthians 2Purpose: John 15:1-17; 2 Corinthians 12:7-10Connection Activity: Read The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery WilliamsResource: Think Like Jesus by George Barna2022-03-0837 min
Model ParentingAuthority and HumanityThis episode gives an overview of the first two of five foundational worldviews. If you are wanting to go straight to values workshop information, you can skip this episode and the next and move on to episode 11.SHOW NOTES:References: Matthew 7;21-29' Luke 23:39-43; Matthew 28:18; Genesis 1:26; Genesis 2:7; Ephesians 2:1-10; Isaiah 55:8-9; 1 Timothy 4 :8-10Connection Activity: Pray first and use this as fun with your own Heavenly Father! Take the kids along but focus on Him for some of it! Resist the urge to teach the kids anything. Let Him bring into conversation...2022-02-2236 min
Model ParentingIt all starts hereSynopsis: Ep 1-3 how targeting a model is beneficial and effort involvedEp4-7 some practices that inform the process of defining values to move you closer to targetEp 8: Review and reminders before worldview discussionsConnection Activity: watch a movie from your childhood with your kids (age appropriate) and ask what was their favorite part. Ask if they want to know your's before you just volunteer the information. If they say "no", don't be offended, just make a note that they is where they are currently in development.2022-02-0825 min
Model ParentingStudying kidsThis episode is mostly about studying the kids, but it is beneficial to study yourself and your spouse to the degree they will agree to share. It is simply from a heart of interest; not to manipulate. Perspectives cannot be "right" or "wrong". Every perspective is from a certain angle and therefore is missing some information to see the whole. Two or more perspectives can multiply the beauty of something and optimize the view of a problem or conflict.SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES:Connection Activity : For couples, the date at the bottom of this blog...2022-02-0846 min
Model ParentingFoundations of Sibling Relationship CORRECTION: We hold Scripture in high regard and in this episode, we got a little confused on some details so we want to address that here. The account to which we refer of Cain and Abel is found in Genesis 4. Abel actually kept flocks, and Cain worked with fruit of the soil. Scripture says Cain brought "some of fruits" to God; Abel brought select "fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock." Can you see the difference in detail and the forethought? the heart behind the behavior?In this episode we discuss choosing to bring...2022-02-0145 minModel ParentingFoundations of Parent-Child Relationship - Pt. 2Episode 4 and 5 are connected. Respect is currency within the parent-child relationship. Choices and obedience work to increase flow & exchange of that currency. Episode 5 discusses clarifying the definition of obedience & how to train obedience.2022-01-2432 minModel ParentingFoundations for Parent-Child Relationship Pt.1Episode 4 & 5 work together to cover this concept of foundations. Respect is currency within the parent-child relationship. Choices and obedience work to increase the flow and exchange of that currency. Episode 4 discusses the benefits of choices, some ways to use them in the daily and mundane, and some spiritual hindsight to how God used them to show us more of Himself.SHOW NOTES;Resource: Don't Push the Button by Bill CotterImage to help clarify: Google a meme that shows “Religion is ‘I messed up; Dad is going to kill me, ‘ / Relationship is, ‘I messed u...2022-01-2439 min
Model ParentingBehind the CurtainSpecial guests Dax, Cole, and Korwyn join David and Farah to answer questions from a kids' perspective. They help give a broader view of model parenting from other perspectives.SHOW NOTES:Connection Activity: Movie nightResource Goal: Family night jar with ideas that every family member contributes. "Your input into our family matters!" **Each family's kids should be the primary source for family fun ideas for this container. The following are just brainstorming cues to get you started: Go to a playground, have a picnic supper, go window viewing at some stores that...2022-01-1839 min
Model Parenting 10 YearsThis "disclaimer episode" acknowledges the effort and the time that model parenting entails! It lists the work but highlights the commitment and how it is so worth it, especially when keeping the end goal in mind!SHOW NOTES:Connection Activity: Aluminum Foil riverResource:2022-01-1638 minModel ParentingEpisode 2- 10 years!This "disclaimer episode" acknowledges the effort and the time that model parenting entails! It lists the work but highlights the commitment and how it is so worth it, especially when keeping the end goal in mind!2022-01-1500 min
Model ParentingWhat's a Model (sound improves in ep.3)Build relational momentum and enjoy each other more by choosing a model for parenting! Models for this are NOT any people! Model parenting is a process! Pressure to "be" model parents or try to exactly copy others can dampen the parenting experience. There is a wondrous momentum that builds as one generation chooses to keep certain things to piece together for their family and release other things. These are not all the same for every family. This podcast will provide resources, questions, and concepts, with stories of success and failure to engage conversations for targeting and chasing a family's...2022-01-1427 min