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Virtuosa SocietyEpisode 7: The Ghosts of Tin Pan AlleyEpisode 7 is a ghost tale!
The mystery of a name that was only known to paper… and a woman who wrote hundreds of Tin Pan Alley tunes in the shadow of a pseudonym. Host Katie Harman unfolds the story of composer Irene Higginbotham, and how she - along with three other legendary women of Tin Pan Alley - helped shape American popular music in the 1930s-1950s. The episode also features a portion of Katie’s interview with Broadway and cabaret star Natalie Douglas, as she shares her thoughts on the influence of Irene Higginbotham. Catch their full...
2023-11-0638 min
The Ten-Things PodcastYou Are God’s Special Gift To Me/UsCONTACT DAVID FOR QUESTION AND COMMENTS-
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You Are God's Gift To Me/Us
We are responsible for being the best parents we can be
Will you pray for us that we will become the best parents we can be?
I want to be the best Dad/Mom I can be…
2023-07-3119 minThe Ten-Things PodcastI Don’t Have A Plan For Your Life But I Want To Help You Discover Your Dream For Your LifeContact David for any Questions or Comments
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I don't have a plan for your life, but I want to help you
discover your dream for your life.
I'm more concerned about the kind of person you become than the job/career you choose.
It’s your life…it’s your choice!
You don’t have to decide right now…dream a little.
Dream WITH your child…Let them discover their dream not some version of yours.
It's important for a parent to not shoot down something their child says as...
2023-07-2429 minThe Ten-Things PodcastIf You’re Ever Worried, Concerned, or Scared, You Can Always Talk About It With Me-Contact David for Questions and Comments
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If you're ever worried, concerned, or scared, you can always talk about it with me.
It’s important to communicate this to children before they are worried, concerned, or scared, as well as when they have these feelings.
Dads must work to NOT be in “fix-it mode” when listening to a child’s concern or problem.
Making sure that you resolve conflicts between yourself and your child is essential for deeper levels of communication.
Look for opportunities that allow your child to open up about things that may be bothering them...
2023-07-1728 minThe Ten-Things PodcastWhen I’m Not With You I Still Think About You!Contact David for Comments and Questions-
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When I'm not with you, I still think about you.
I always carry your picture with me when I go away.
I have your picture on the wallpaper on my phone.
Call home-"I was thinking about you today and was reminded of ____________ and how proud I am of you.”
“I was thinking about you this morning and praying for you about…”
When out of town make it a priority to talk to them every day.
Even when we are apart, our family is still...
2023-07-1115 minThe Ten-Things PodcastWhen I Make Mistakes I’ll Always Apologize And Try To Make Things Right With You-Contact David for any comments and questions:
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When I make mistakes I will always apologize and
try to make things right with you.
I am going to make mistakes and so are you. It’s part of being human.
We have to learn to forgive one another for our mistakes and make things right with one another.
It takes practice...and humility.
When you admit you are wrong and apologize, you teach your child to do that with others.
"I was wrong to do/say/act the way...
2023-07-0517 minThe Ten-Things PodcastI’m Proud Of You Because You Are Mine, And I Get To Be Your Parent!Contact David for Comments and Questions-
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I’m Proud of You Because You Are Mine And I Get To Be Your Parent!
There is a difference between being proud of what your child accomplishes and being proud of them for who they are. Both are good but need to be communicated differently.
It is important to tell them how proud you are of them when they do the right thing. This reinforces their actions with your approval. However, if they only hear that you are proud of them when they ac...
2023-06-2616 minThe Ten-Things PodcastSpending Time With You Is One Of My Favorite Things To DoContact David For Questions and/or Comments
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. Spending Time With You Is One Of My Favorite Things To Do-
Going to Mcdonald's for ice cream and play area with you.
Going to the park to play with you.
Sitting and reading a book with you.
Watching a Lassie movie with you…
Doing things special to your child, not you, are essential activities.
Going to Sonic and taking drives during high school…
Birthday breakfasts
You will have to carve out special time to spend with your child
2023-06-2018 minThe Ten-Things PodcastYou’re Going To Make Mistakes, And That’s OK.Contact David for any questions and/or comments-
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I don’t expect you to be perfect, you are going to make mistakes, and that’s ok.
I’m not perfect & no one else is either-
I do expect you to try your best all of the time.
I do expect you to find a good attitude when you have a bad attitude.
When I am correcting your behavior, it is because I love you and want what is best for your life.
Your being happy right now is not my biggest...
2023-06-1425 minThe Ten-Things PodcastThere Is A Special Place In My Heart For You!Contact David for comments and/or questions:
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There is a special place in my heart that is only for you, and no one can take your place!
Do you have a special place for Tato (my brother) too?
And for Mommy? For Grandma?
God has a special place in His heart for you too.
Knowing that they have a special place in their parent(s) heart(s) allows a child to feel secure and cared for at a deep level.
This security gives a child a sense of belonging and that there is a saf...
2023-06-0523 minThe Ten-Things PodcastI Love You All of The Time!Contact David with Questions & Comments: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
10 Things Every Child Needs To Hear From Their Parents
No kid has perfect parents, and no parent has perfect kids
1. I love you all of the time
Even when you act in ways that I don’t want you to.
I don’t love you more when you obey or less when you disobey.
I love you when I feel good and when I feel ill.
I love you even when I’m disciplining you.
I love you when you’re sleepin...
2023-05-3022 min
What the Riff Next Gen1965 - March: Ike & Tina Turner “Live! The Ike & Tina Turner Show”Although Ike & Tina Turner had been performing since 1960 and were well known for the energy of their performances, it wasn't until 1965 and the release of Live! The Ike & Tina Turner Show that they received national recognition. This album featured the best live performances of the previous year.
Tina Turner was born Martha Nell Bullock (aka Anna Mae Bullock), and was given the name Tina Turner as a stage name when she toured as a feature with Ike Turner in 1960. They were not married at the time, and Ike Turner had the name "Tina Turner" trademarked, so that he...
2023-05-0128 minWhat the Riff Next Gen1965 - March: Ike & Tina Turner “Live! The Ike & Tina Turner Show”Although Ike & Tina Turner had been performing since 1960 and were well known for the energy of their performances, it wasn't until 1965 and the release of Live! The Ike & Tina Turner Show that they received national recognition. This album featured the best live performances of the previous year.
Tina Turner was born Martha Nell Bullock (aka Anna Mae Bullock), and was given the name Tina Turner as a stage name when she toured as a feature with Ike Turner in 1960. They were not married at the time, and Ike Turner had the name "Tina Turner" trademarked, so that he...
2023-05-0128 minThe Ten-Things PodcastBonus: Dealing With An Abusive RelationshipFeel free to contact Anna at anna.collier16@gmail.com
Bonus Episode Notes: Dealing with an abusive relationship.
This is not an “I’m just not happy in my marriage” situation.
Our working definitions of abuse:
Verbal abuse: Harsh and insulting language directed at a person
Emotional abuse: Emotional abuse includes non-physical behaviors that are meant to control, isolate, or frighten you.
Physical abuse is self-explanatory
If there has been physical violence once, you need to expect it will happen again.
If there is no active violence going on we are not telling you that you...
2023-03-1337 minThe Ten-Things PodcastDon’t Expect Him To Relate To You Like Your Best GirlfriendsContact David For Comments or Questions: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
Don't Expect Him to Relate to You Like Your Best Girlfriends
Your friendship with your man can, and should, grow and mature to a place of deep love and companionship.
However, it will not be like your friendships with your girlfriends. It will be different in virtually every way.
Remember that we have talked in several episodes about the fundamental difference between men and women. Friendships are another area where men and women differ.
Generally speaking, men develop friendships through shared activity. They relate to o...
2023-02-0730 minThe Ten-Things PodcastHe Needs To Decompress On A Regular BasesCONTACT DAVID FOR COMMENTS & QUESTIONS: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
He Needs To Decompress On A Regular Basis
When we use the term “decompress” we're talking about “changing gears” or transitioning from one focus to another.
Men will do this at different speeds and thoroughness.
When a guy has been focused on work, or a project, all day, he will need to change gears before being free to engage with his family without distractions.
It’s not uncommon for a guy to carry work home with him, either in an active way (front of mind) or in a passive wa...
2023-01-3029 minThe Ten-Things PodcastHe’s Probably More Insecure Than He AppearsContact David For Comments & Questions davidhiggtx@gmail.com
He's Probably More Insecure Than He Appears-
He has been trained since childhood through social/cultural and perhaps family conditioning to act in a particular way. That “way” may not be authentic to who he organically is.
He is the collection of personality/temperament, biological factors, family history, and tendencies.
Posturing, or putting forth an expression that presents him as “a guy who has his stuff together” is a requirement, at several levels, for survival in his world.
This is an illusion, of course, but he is highly...
2023-01-2334 minThe Ten-Things PodcastHe Will Probably View The World Very Differently Than You-Contact David for comments & questions: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
He’s probably going to view the world very differently than you do-
Men and women generally view and interpret the world around us differently.
This might translate into differences in your approach to many aspects of life- politics, parenting, finances, education, family traditions, etc.
Remember: neither of you is the standard that defines balance.
Learning to be ok with the fact that the other person sees things differently and disagrees with you can be a challenge but is necessary for long-term harmony and growth in you...
2023-01-1631 minThe Ten-Things PodcastHe Is Not A Stereo TypeContact David for questions or comments- davidhiggtx@gmail.com
He is not a stereotype-
We all fall into some general categories, and tendencies, but we are all individuals. None of us can be fully defined by a stereotype.
Look for the positive qualities and characteristics that make him unique. (Talents, abilities, priorities, character, etc.)
DO NOT COMPARE HIM TO OTHER MEN. "Why can't you be like..."
You wouldn't like being compared to other women, would you?
Men will tend to respond better to positive feedback than negative. Isn't this also true about women?
The more you...
2023-01-0919 minThe Ten-Things PodcastHe Needs A Safe Place...And That Safe Place Is You.Contact David for Questions and Comments: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
He needs a safe place where he knows he is accepted and protected and that place is you.
In the same way that you need to feel like opening up with him is a safe place, he needs to feel like opening up with you is a safe place too.
A Safe Place is a place where you feel accepted, protected
Forgiveness is a learned skill and at the core of acceptance
He will often feel like he has to perform for acceptance in his j...
2023-01-0317 minThe Ten-Things PodcastHe’s Probably A FixerContact David for Questions or Comments: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
He's probably a fixer-
Women need to understand that this is not a bad thing. This is how he wired.
He is going to want to fix your problems because he cares about you. He is not saying “you need to be fixed”
It will help him learn how to respond if you can help him know when you are "just venting" about a situation, rather than asking him for his help to fix a problem. "I don’t need you to fix anything here, I just need y...
2022-12-2620 minThe Ten-Things PodcastHe Expresses And Deals With Emotions Differently Than YouContact David for questions or comments at: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
He expresses & deals with emotions differently than you
This is true with the vast majority of men.
He probably is not in tune with his emotions like you are. You've had a lot more practice!
Most expressions of emotion he is familiar with involve a ball of sorts or some other form of competition.
He probably has bought into the myth that a Real Man keeps his emotions locked up inside and only takes them out on rare occasions.
He will probably not feel c...
2022-12-1922 minThe Ten-Things PodcastHe Expresses And Deals With Emotions Differently Than YouContact David for questions or comments at: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
He expresses & deals with emotions differently than you
This is true with the vast majority of men.
He probably is not in tune with his emotions like you are. You've had a lot more practice!
Most expressions of emotion he is familiar with involve a ball of sorts or some other form of competition.
He probably has bought into the myth that a Real Man keeps his emotions locked up inside and only takes them out on rare occasions.
He will probably not feel c...
2022-12-1922 minThe Ten-Things PodcastHe Is Not A Mind ReaderContact David at: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
He Is Not A Mind Reader...He's Going To Need Some Help!
Many women think that telling him what they want will take away from the romance but that’s not true.
Where does that idea come from? ROM COM, Hollywood
We want you to show us love and we just expect you know how!
He will typically take his cues from you about what it takes to win with you because he needs to learn how to win with you. (Brenda & jewelry)
He isn't typically going to kno...
2022-12-1218 minThe Ten-Things PodcastThe Thing He Desires Most From You Is Respect-The thing he desires most from you is respect -
Respect is the fuel that drives his engine. He wants to be respected by his peers and people in general, but respect from you is most important.
A man desires respect the same way women desire love
This is so vitally important to men because this is how God created men!
This is why men are so often driven to succeed. (Money, success in business, knowledge/education, sports, winning at video games) All of these are a means to gain respect.
He will gravitate toward the things that he believes...
2022-12-0620 minThe Ten-Things PodcastShe Wants Tp Be Your Partner In LifeContact David with your questions and/or comments
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She wants to be your partner in life
Women want to be involved in the details of your life.
They want to be participants in leading your family and not just window dressing or a functionary.
Partnership implies joint leadership, ownership, and responsibility
Partners make decisions together regarding holidays, finances, parenting, family involvement, Etc.
She’s not your maid, cook, or children’s nanny.
You both live there…you both need to take responsibility for taking care of it.
Split duties are fin...
2022-09-1418 minThe Ten-Things PodcastLittle Things Go A Long Way!Contact David with Questions & Comments at: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
The little things go a long way- Developing an attitude of Servanthood
Purposefully embracing the role of a servant toward her needs to be a regular attitude.
Expressions of thoughtfulness (little unexpected gifts)
The unexpected gift, text, letter, email, or other communication makes her feel special.
The unexpected acts of service- helping with housework, taking kids for the afternoon, ETC.
The unexpected says you were thinking about her and took time to do something special.
Don’t look for a parade because you pitch in and...
2022-09-0618 minThe Ten-Things PodcastLittle Things Go A Long Way!Contact David with Questions & Comments at: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
The little things go a long way- Developing an attitude of Servanthood
Purposefully embracing the role of a servant toward her needs to be a regular attitude.
Expressions of thoughtfulness (little unexpected gifts)
The unexpected gift, text, letter, email, or other communication makes her feel special.
The unexpected acts of service- helping with housework, taking kids for the afternoon, ETC.
The unexpected says you were thinking about her and took time to do something special.
Don’t look for a parade because you pitch in and...
2022-09-0618 minThe Ten-Things PodcastWhat’s Inside Matters MostFor any questions or comments contact David at:
davidhiggtx@gmail.com
Women are going to think your most important qualities
are your heart and character.
There are some men a woman may be willing to date, but not willing to marry.
When looking for a long-term relationship most women are looking for a “good man”, not a “perfect man.”
How you treat other people matters!
How you treat & interact with her family & your family matters.
How you treat and interact with her friends and your friends matters.
The direction you are heade...
2022-08-2914 minThe Ten-Things PodcastShe Needs To Hear This RegularlyHave Questions? Contact David at davidhiggtx@gmail.com
She needs to regularly hear that you love her
and are there for her!
Don’t think that she knows she is loved because you’ve told her in the past.
She longs to be cherished & valued!
Knowing and hearing that she is loved and cherished feeds her soul.
Men need to be supportive, despite any inconveniences to me.
Men, communicating your love and appreciation for your woman is investing in her emotional well-being and your relationship.
It is easy, after a while, to take each o...
2022-08-2317 minThe Ten-Things PodcastSometimes She Just Needs To VentSend questions or comments to davidhiggtx@gmail.com
Sometimes she needs to vent and is not looking for you to fix things
Venting can be a means of releasing emotion and/or frustration.
Sometimes she might need to "get it out" and be heard, “I just want you to listen, not do anything.” (This can be so hard for a man to do because men are often hardwired to fix things)
Sometimes it is about her own feelings and other times it might be about her friend’s situation or her feelings about someone else’s life. ( See episode...
2022-08-1513 minThe Ten-Things PodcastWomen Tend To Be More Emotional Than Men, And That’s Not A Bad Thing!Contact David at davidhiggtx@gmail.com
Women tend to be more in tune with their emotions than men…and that’s not bad.
Women tend to think with their emotions and men tend to think with their logic.
When she is acting in an emotional way, it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you or even her world. She may just be emoting about something entirely apart from her relationship with you. Or…it might be about you. :>)
(Difference between feelings and emotions) during our discussion, we think feelings and emotions are like 2 sides of the same...
2022-08-0815 minThe Ten-Things PodcastHer Nurturing Tendency Is A Good ThingContact David at davidhiggtx@gmail.com
Her being nurturing is not a bad thing (caring for those she loves)
She is not saying you are weak when she is nurturing toward you. She is simply acting out of the overflow of her heart. It is innately within her to nurture and care for the ones she loves.
When she expresses concern for you, she is showing her love & care for you, not being critical.
Mom vs Dad approach to parenting. (Nurture differently)
She probably has a deeper well for nurturing than you do.
It’s important for her to...
2022-08-0115 minThe Ten-Things PodcastShe Has Different Strengths Than YouContact David with your comments and questions at:
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Women tend to have different strengths than men…and that can be
complimentary or cause conflict.
Have babies- more to it than giving birth
Women tend to focus more on the family and home than men do and that is a good thing. Support and encourage that.
She may handle money and/or money management better than you. This is a great asset and is not a threat, but a compliment.
“What can I do today that will help you o...
2022-07-2516 minThe Ten-Things PodcastYou Will Tend To Communicate Differently-REACH DAVID AT: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
You will tend to communicate completely differently-
Men are from Mars & Women are from Venus (check out this book. It will give you some fascinating insight into the general differences that exist in the way men and women communicate)
Enjoy the ride vs landing the plane (different communication styles)
Invest the time to learn how to communicate with your partner and learn how to honor them in that.
It’s important to NOT see your partner’s communication style as wrong and yours as right.
Remember: You are NOT the standard that dete...
2022-07-1816 minThe Ten-Things PodcastShe Is Completely Different Than You!Reach us at davidhiggtx@gmail.com
10 Things Every Man Needs to Know About Women
She Is Completely Different Than You! - (spaghetti brain-vs-waffle brain, YouTube video Mark Gungor on YouTube- A Tale of Two Brains)
For her, everything is connected- issues in the present and experiences from the past can also affect how she views the issues in the present. (Job, finances, family, etc.)
Expectations create their own issue- how we expect the other to respond is generally based on how we would react. We only see things from our perspective and develop expectations from our...
2022-07-1117 minThe Ten-Things PodcastIntroducing The Ten-Things PodcastWe are happy to introduce The Ten-Things Podcast! Each season we will take 1 topic and break it down into 10 segments that David & Anna, a father & daughter podcast team, discuss. You will find this podcast informative and, perhaps, thought-provoking. Come along for the ride. It will be fun!
2022-06-3007 min