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Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 6 Episode 5: Coercive Control and Children 2025: Conference Insights from MelbourneSend us a textDavid Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel share highlights from the 2025 Safe & Together Asia Pacific Coercive Control and Children's Conference in Melbourne, Australia. Listen in as they reflect on key moments and the impact of bringing together over 400 practitioners from across the region. Here are some of the highlights: • Commitment to equity through a hybrid format that allowed participation from remote locations despite the technical and financial challenges• First-ever family law track showcasing four years of work with the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia• Launch of e-learning resources for ind...2025-04-0929 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 6 Episode 4: The Paradox of Proximity: Understanding Domestic Abuse in Rural and Remote CommunitiesSend us a textIn this episode, David and Ruth speak with Dr. Annie Donaldson about her groundbreaking research examining domestic abuse in Scotland's rural, remote and island communities. Dr. Donaldson, an honorary research fellow at the University of Strathclyde and longtime expert in gender-based violence, shares insights from interviews with survivors and professionals about the unique dynamics of domestic abuse in small, interconnected communities.Key topics include:The "paradox of proximity" - how physical isolation combines with close social connections to create unique challenges for survivors in rural areasHow community connections can be...2025-02-101h 15Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 6 Episode 3: Rethinking Gender-Based Violence Prevention: A Call to Action with Jess Hill and Michael SalterSend us a text"Single mothers are essentially the unofficial reserve army of prevention agents in this country and around the world." - Jess HillIn this episode, David and Ruth speak with Australian experts Jess Hill and Professor Michael Salter about their groundbreaking paper challenging current approaches to preventing gender-based violence. With Australia's commitment to end gender-based violence within a generation, yet concerning increases in sexual violence and domestic homicides, this timely discussion explores why traditional prevention strategies focused on changing social norms and attitudes have fallen short.Key points discussed include:2025-01-311h 06Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 6 Episode 2: Coercive Control and ChildrenSend us a textIn this episode, David and Ruth explore why coercive control must be at the center of how we understand the impact of domestic abuse on children. Moving beyond just focusing on physical violence or whether children "witnessed" abuse, they discuss how perpetrators' patterns of behavior can devastate children's wellbeing in multiple ways.David and Ruth examine how coercive control by perpetrators can rob children of vital resources including economic stability, healthcare, education, family connections, and safety. They discuss how these patterns intersect with systemic oppression and vulnerabilities, creating additional layers of...2025-01-2643 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 6 Episode 1: "Just Leave": Examining Displacement-Based Responses to Domestic ViolenceSend us a textIn this thought-provoking first episode of 2025, David and Ruth explore how displacement-based responses to domestic violence reflect and reinforce gender double standards while often creating additional vulnerabilities for survivors and their children. Recording from the Azores, they examine how the expectation that victims must leave their homes to find safety places unfair burdens on survivors while failing to hold perpetrators accountable.Key discussion points include:How displacement-based responses arose historically when women had limited legal and economic rightsWhy forcing survivors to leave their homes, financial assets, and support networks creates...2025-01-0234 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 5 Episode 13: Coercive Control & Children Conference Podcast: The Role of Language in Global Responses to Domestic AbuseSend us a textWhat if understanding power dynamics could transform the way we approach domestic abuse and trauma? Join us for this special live recording of the "Partner with a Survivor" podcast, where we invite you to explore the delicate intricacies of relationships alongside hosts David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo from the Safe and Together Institute. Ruth, known for her "Cranky Survivor" persona, opens up about how this unique character serves as both a personal expression and a strategic response to the challenges faced by victim survivors when dealing with institutional behaviors & professional biases. T...2024-12-1941 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 5 Episode 12: Challenging the Gospel of Sacrifice: Faith, Domestic Abuse, and Institutional TransformationSend us a textWhat if the institutions we turn to for solace are also be the ones trapping us in cycles of harm? That's the challenging reality we confront in our latest episode featuring Reverend Geneece Goertzen, affectionately known as Rev. Gen. A survivor of domestic violence herself, Rev. Gen brings a deeply personal perspective to the table, sharing insights from her book "Taking it Seriously: A Faith Leader's Guide to Domestic Violence." Her story is not just one of survival but also of transformation, as she navigates the complex role of religious institutions in both...2024-12-1956 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 5, Episode 10: Beyond Presence: Redefining Responsible Fatherhood in a Domestic Abuse-Informed WorldSend us a text📝 In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the nuanced intersection of father engagement and domestic abuse-informed practice with Chris Brown, President of the National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI). Our conversation examines how we can thoughtfully promote father involvement while maintaining high standards for men as parents, disrupting gender double standards and keeping the safety and long term wellbeing of children at the center.🎯 **Key Topics:**• The historical context behind NFI's founding and evolution of fatherhood programs• Examining father absence through a domestic abuse-informed lens• Balancing father engagement with survivor safety and well-bei...2024-10-231h 02Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 5 Episode 8: The Myth of the Domestic Violence IncidentSend us a textIn this episode, David & Ruth speak about the Myth of the Domestic Violence Incident chapter David's recently published book: "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to Transform The Way We Keep Children Safe From Domestic Violence." They discuss how an isolated incident lens:Focuses systems interventions & professional responses on isolated acts of physical violence rather than on patterns of violence & coercive control which blinds professionals and systems to the wider dangers created to adult & child survivors by a perpetrator Makes it harder to see the loss of libe...2024-07-2935 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 5 Episode 7: Childhood Domestic Violence Exposure is “Pivotal”: An interview with Professor Higgins, an Australian Childhood Maltreatment Study (ACMS) chief investigatorSend us a textThe recently published groundbreaking, population-based study of child maltreatment in Australia found exposure to domestic violence is the most common form of maltreatment (39.6%). In this interview with Professor Daryl Higgins, one of the studies’ chief investigators, David and Ruth discuss the domestic violence specific results including how they intersect with other forms of maltreatments and other adverse experiences to produce health and other challenges in adults. Some of the key results discussed include:What was learned about childhood maltreatment, and its connection to health outcomes in adults, in this study of 8500 Australians How d...2024-07-231h 14Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 5 Episode 6: This Work is Sacred: An interview with Beth Ann MorhardtSend us a textPartnering with survivors is a sacred act. Listening to survivors, hearing their stories, and working with them as equals is uplifting for practitioners and their clients. In this episode of Partnered With a Survivor, David and Ruth speak with Beth Ann Morhardt, one of the first domestic violence consultants trained in the Safe & Together Model, about the spiritual aspects of the work with families. The interview starts with discussion of Beth Ann and David's long history of professional collaboration, starting with her work using the Safe & Together Model with child protection. Drawing...2024-06-051h 02Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 5 Episode 5: A Trauma History is Not An Excuse for Acting AbusivelySend us a textIn this episode of Partnered with A Survivor, David & Ruth have an intimate discussion about how we can be emotionally & behaviorally responsible even when we have been trained into fear & reactivity through violence & abuse. David and Ruth discuss:How we need to drop binary definitions in order to prevent abusers from using their history of trauma as an excuse for current behaviors of coercive control & violence. The importance of unlearning reactive behaviors that we came by 'honestly' through traumaThe importance of considering context, patterns of behavior and impacts on functioning as part of the...2024-05-2037 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 5 Episode 4: Unveiling the Impact of Domestic Violence on Children: Beyond the Myth of the Child WitnessSend us a textDiscover the hard truths about the impact of domestic violence on children, as we, David and Ruth Reymundo Mandel, discuss the "Myth of the Child Witness" chapter from David's book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." We promise you'll come away with a deeper understanding and a sense of urgency to shift the way society responds to young survivors. Listen as we pull back the curtain on the often-invisible effects of witnessing abuse and how these experiences shape the lives of c...2024-04-1650 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 5 Episode 3: An Introduction to the David Mandel's Book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence"Send us a textIn this episode, Ruth and David start with a round up of their March 2024 Safe & Together trip to Australia and New Zealand with highlights from the 7th annual Safe & Together Asia Pacific conference with it's focus on work with First Nation peoples, feedback from podcast listeners, and an update on how the Model is transforming the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia. Then Ruth and David pivot to discuss the ideas behind David's first book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe " from Legitimus...2024-04-0246 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 5 Episode 2: Women’s Use of Force in Intimate Relationships: An Interview with Lisa Young LaranceSend us a textBoth men and women can be violent and controlling. In this episode of Partnered with a Survivor, Ruth and David speak with international expert Lisa Young Larance about her research and clinical practice related to women’s use of force in intimate relationships. In the conversation, Lisa highlights the importance of context and intersectionalities in any analysis of women’s use of force in intimate relationships.In recounting her work, Lisa shares about:The importance of a behavioral and life span lens when understanding the use of force in intimate rela...2024-02-1859 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 5 Episode 1: Sexual and Domestic Violence In the Military: An Interview with Never Alone AdvocacySend us a textSexual and domestic violence in the military challenges recruitment, retention, team cohesion, operational readiness, security and organizational health. Yet, most militaries around the world are still struggling to effectively address these problems. Gaps in the response harm military families, and allow the destruction of the careers and health of survivors. The Safe & Together Institute, through its work with the UK Ministry of Defence, has seen the positive impact of domestic violence-informed practice in this area.In this episode, David & Ruth speak with Amy Braley Frank, founder of Never Alone Soldiers, and...2024-02-1156 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 4 Episode 12: Research That Puts Survivors at the CenterSend us a textHistorically research hasn’t always involved or benefited the population being studied. Dr. Elizabeth Dalgarno, the Director, and Founder of the SHERA Research Group is staunch advocate of research that is undertaken by and with the people it concerns rather than “on” them. In this far-ranging interview, Ruth, David, and Dr Dalgarno discuss: SHERA’s research into health effects on survivors of their family court involvement in Brazil and England (Spoiler Alert: The negative health effects of family court involvement for domestic abuse survivors is significant!) What practitioners can do differently within the current...2023-12-0949 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 4 Episode 11: Human Resources Policy & Domestic Violence: Creating A Domestic Violence-Informed OrganizationSend us a textDomestic violence represent 27% of workplace violent events 1 in 5 victims take time off from work due to abuse 20% of victims of domestic abuse had taken off month or more in prior year 56% arrived late at least 5x/month53% missed at least 3 days of work/month 65% of companies do not have domestic violence policy (SHRM)These statistics only represent a fraction of the picture of how domestic violence perpetrators impact their partner's employment, but also how they impact employers and the overall workplace envir...2023-12-0553 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 4 Episode 10: Ensuring the Voice of the Child is Heard, and Child’s Best Interests are Considered in Domestic Abuse Cases: How the Safe & Together Model Helps Promote the Rights of ChildrenSend us a textAre children domestic violence victims in their own right? Are they co-victims with the adult survivor? What is the relationship between the child and the adult survivors’ experiencesHow do we hold domestic violence perpetrators accountable in their role as parents? How do we consider the child’s relationship to the perpetrator in decisions related to them? How do we make sure both adult and child survivors receive the support they need and deserve? How do we consider the best interests of child survivors as we craft our policy and practice response to domestic violence? How do we...2023-11-1852 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 4 Episode 9: The Last Drop Film: A revolutionary new tool for professionals working with young people around Coercive ControlSend us a textThe problem of dating violence and coercive control among young people has been sorely overlooked, and educational resources are hard to find...until now! In order make coercive control visible to youth & to fill a gap in professional education materials & intervention strategies for young people, we have partnered with the revolutionary new abuse prevention film, The Last Drop . In this Podcast interview, Ruth & David interview Adam Joel, the Writer & Director of the Last Drop Film. In this interview we speak about how this film came to be, how a dive...2023-11-0135 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 4 Episode 8: “Heart Healing”: An interview with Mibbinbah’s Lisa and Jack BulmanSend us a textIn this episode, Ruth & David speak with Lisa & Jack Bulman of Mibbinbah Spirit Healing about their work in community to facilitate healing from intergenerational trauma, support healthy relationship connections and strengthen the wellbeing of Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander men and families. Mibbinbah uses a “whole of communities” approach which brings men & women together to heal in community. (From the Mibbinbah website: “The two words Mibbin meaning Men or Eagle and Bah meaning place come from the Eastern Yugambeh Language of South Eastern Queensland. Therefore placing the two words together gives...2023-10-1859 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 4 Episode 7: Survivors Are Better Parents Than Most People Think (even survivors themselves)Send us a textIn this episode, David & Ruth talk about why the Safe & Together Institute focuses on survivor protective capacities and some of the research behind this approach. While assessments of harm and risk, and trauma frameworks are important, these approaches highlight danger and pathologies. But these approaches, while necessary, are not sufficient enough for true collaboration and partnering with survivors. In a world where there are gender double standards related to parenting, e.g. higher standards for women as parents than for men, it is essential that we don’t just focus on harms but...2023-07-0653 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 4 Episode 6: “The Professional Part of Me is Not Separated from the Personal:” An interview with Nneka MacGregorSend us a textSurvivors, who are professionals, can live in fear that if they share their experience in the workplace, they will be dismissed and disregarded. In this episode, Ruth & David speak with Nneka Mcgregor, founder & Executive Director of WomenattheentrE, about the need to transform our systems so that professionals who are survivors, can safely share their experience to strengthen the response of systems to gender-based violence. Nneka shares her journey as a survivor and a professional including how attempts by those in the domestic violence field to silence her made her even more c...2023-06-261h 16Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 4 Episode 5: An interview with Caring Dads co-creator Dr. Katreena ScottSend us a textThere are few intervention programs for fathers who use violence as part of their parenting. In this episode, David & Ruth take a deep dive into the work that needs to happen with violent fathers with Dr. Katreena Scott, the co-creator of the Caring Dads program. In this interview, David Ruth and Katreena speak aboutThe importance of intervening with violent fathers What makes Caring Dads different than a traditional men’s behavior change programmingHow Caring Dads is different than traditional parenting programs How Car...2023-06-201h 07Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 4 Episode 4: Being abused by a partner while advocating for others: An interview with Leah Vejzovic, the Safe & Together Institute North American Regional ManagerSend us a textProfessionals working in domestic violence and related fields are not immune from being abused by their partner. In fact, their role as a domestic violence or related professional can create some unique vulnerabilities that perpetrators are willing and able to exploit as part of their efforts at control. In another episode in the series about practitioners who identify as survivors, Ruth and David interview one of their own colleagues at the Safe & Together Institute – Leah Vejzović the North American Safe & Together Regional Manager. In this intimate interview, Leah shares her journey of experiencing abuse...2023-05-231h 00Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 4 Episode 3: The silent effects of non-fatal strangulation: A conversation with international & lived experience expert, Nneka MacGregorSend us a textStrangulation attempts are a common element of domestic violence perpetrators’ patterns of behaviors. Non-fatal strangulation has long been identified as a risk factor for domestic violence homicide. Less attention has been paid to the short, medium and long term effects of non-fatal strangulation on survivor functioning and well-being. In this interview with Nneka MacGregor, Ruth and David discuss her research into the injuries, impact and experiences of survivors who have experienced non-fatal strangulation. This co-written study is entitled “A fresh breath: Examining the experience of strangulation among women abuse by an intimate partner.”In...2023-05-051h 05Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 4 Episode 2: Coming “Out” As A Survivor in a Professional Setting: A Practitioner’s JourneySend us a textListening to the voice of lived experience experts, AKA survivors of all forms of abuse and neglect, is becoming more and more a part of the domestic violence-informed professional landscape. At the same time, self-disclosure, in professional spaces, of being an abuse survivor can be a fraught for some practitioners. It can be associated with fears of judgment and marginalization. Even though those survivor experiences can positively inform direct work with families, enrich organizational culture and help guide policy, safety and support for practitioner survivors is often not the articulated norm in many...2023-04-271h 04Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 4 Episode 1: Using the Concept of Partnering with Survivors to Promote Worker Health and Well-BeingSend us a textWorking with domestic violence means professionals come into contact daily with complex & challenging trauma. Beyond the complexity involved with working toward the safety of the family, working with domestic violence survivors often confronts professionals with their own prior experiences of abuse and trauma. Partnering with survivors using the Safe & Together Model is powerful, efficient and effective. This very same process may reveal to practitioner where they were blamed for the abuse they suffered, where their own strengths or needs were not acknowledged and can even trigger their own memories of trauma. In this P...2023-02-2749 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 13: What Domestic Violence Perpetrators Steal From SurvivorsSend us a textWhen we think about domestic violence only in terms of what is added - violence and danger - instead of what is taken away (safety, self determination, quality of life), we fail at naming some of the most profound effects of domestic violence perpetrators’ behaviors on survivors. In this episode, David & Ruth talk about what survivors' often "lose" at the hands of domestic violence perpetrators.In this episode: Stories of recent successes of the Safe & Together Model from around the globe The importance of Perpetrator Pattern mapping to accurate documentation of h...2022-12-2037 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 12 Weaponize & Fabricate: How Domestic Violence Perpetrators’ Behaviors Intersect with Survivors’ Mental Health and Substance Misuse IssuesSend us a textToxic Trio. Triple Play. Trifecta.All over the globe, professionals working with families have shorthand jargon that reflects the prevalence of the complex mixture of issues that many families experience. Unfortunately these phrases do not usually enhance the ability to partner with survivors or intervene with perpetrators. In this episode of Partner With A Survivor, David & Ruth take a deep dive into the Safe & Together Model’s intersections offers a more powerful and accurate way to discuss the rel...2022-11-201h 01Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 11: Pivoting to The Perpetrator: An essential tool for interrupting victim blamingSend us a textConversations about domestic violence often start from a victim blaming perspective: “Why doesn’t she leave?” or “Why does she keep choosing him over children?” or “I can’t trust her to understand the impact on children. She has a trauma history.” These victim blaming statements interfere with partnering with survivors and holding perpetrators accountable as parents. They also prevent accurate assessments and increase worker frustration with survivors. In this episode of Partnered With a Survivor, Ruth & David discuss the Safe & Together Model practice of 'Pivoting to the...2022-11-111h 12Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 10: “Slow Motion Murder:” Widening the understanding of the link between domestic violence and child deathsSend us a textWith upsetting frequency, the news will report a story of a child murdered by their mother’s partner. Sometimes this murder happens in the context of separation. Other times it is part of perpetrators' overall pattern of violence toward multiple family members. Unfortunately, dramatic homicides only tell part of the story. There are strong correlations between domestic violence and neglect deaths. Child suicides also appear to happen in the context of domestic violence. In this episode Ruth and David explore the connection between domestic violence and...2022-10-141h 07Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 9: Coercive Control in Children's and Mother's Lives: An interview with author and academic Dr. Emma KatzSend us a textIn this episode, David & Ruth discuss with Dr. Emma Katz in her new book, “Coercive Control in Children’s and Mother’s Lives.” Dr. Katz shares the story behind the development of this groundbreaking book, where she shares her learnings from interviews with 15 groups of mothers and their children. In this far ranging conversation, David, Ruth and Dr. Katz discuss: How she was inspired to write the book by identifying how the literature was ignoring the experience of children in homes impacted by coercive controlThe “magic” question that unlocked the stories of adult and chil...2022-09-221h 32Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 8: Understanding Reproductive Coercion: An Interview with Dr. Heather McCauleySend us a textIn this episode, David & Ruth continue their series on reproductive coercion as part of the cycle of intimate partner violence with an interview with Dr. Heather McCauley from the Michigan Consortium on Gender Based Violence MSU. Dr. McCauley discusses the newest research on reproductive coercion, the correlations to intimate partner violence, unwanted pregnancy, STI & health issues. Reproductive coercion is a common part of perpetrator's patterns of coercive control, violence & abuse. Condom manipulation & pregnancy coercion are two common ways perpetrators entrap victims in relationships. Survivors who share children with a perp...2022-08-181h 06Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 7: Understanding and Validating Survivors' Acts of ResistanceSend us a textToo often conversations about domestic violence define survivors as passive trauma survivors with the emphasis on the negative mental health and addiction consequences of the perpetrators' patterns of behavior. And while these impacts are real they only tell part of the story. On a daily basis, survivors engage in small and large acts of resistance to coercive control & domestic violence. Based in their knowledge of the perpetrator, their assessment of the system and available supports, survivors engage in targeted strategic actions that are important to their own safety and the safety and well being...2022-06-0549 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 6: 7 Myths about the Safe & Together ModelSend us a textIn this episode David & Ruth go 'myth busting!" Like any effort to promote change, there can be misconceptions of what the Safe & Together Model does or is about. The Safe & Together Model is not immune to this mischaracterizations. In their conversations, David & Ruth tackle the following 7 mistaken perceptions of the Safe & Together Model and discuss how each myth plays into our current siloed thinking around survivors and perpetrators;Myth #1: The Safe & Together Model is a perpetrator engagement model.Myth #2: It only applies to men’s use of violence against women...2022-06-0356 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Special Minisode: Interview with Celine Donovan, a New Zealand Safe & Together Model Certified TrainerSend us a textIn this short, special bonus episode, Ruth interviews Celine Donovan, a Safe & Together Model Certified Trainer, working for Tatauko Mai, the only Safe & Together Institute Partner Agency in Aotearoa (New Zealand). Ruth caught up with Celine in coffee shop in Christchurch. They spoke about about how the Model has changed her practice. Celine, who also works for Aviva in Christchurch, talks about the Model has transformed her practice, and the practice of those around her. She shares a story about how the Model helped transform practice in case where the survivor would've been lab...2022-05-2706 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 5 Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: Managing Your Own Fears About the Safety of the FamilySend us a textIn this final installment of the minisode series on worker safety and well-being, Ruth and David discuss the importance best practice around the question of practitioners own fears about the safety of the family. Anyone who has worked with domestic violence cases has felt fear and worry for the safety of the adult and child survivors. Sometimes these fears are directly related to the facts of the perpetrator's pattern. In other instances they are artifacts of prior cases, overwhelm from crushing workloads, or lack of training working with perpetrators. In this minisode, Ruth and Da...2022-05-1521 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 4: Reproductive CoercionSend us a textReproductive coercion is part of a perpetrator's pattern of coercive control and is a common and powerful tool that is used to entrap & control victims using pregnancy & children. Forcing women to become pregnant & maintain a pregnancy has long term implications for women & children's lives. Not only do adult survivors suffer the consequences, but children are used as pawns . In this way, reproductive control can be thought of as a form of child abuse and neglect. In many instances, domestic violence perpetrators do not become abusive until their partner is pregnant and unable...2022-05-1053 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 3: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: When Workers Have Their Own Histories of AbuseSend us a textIn this fifth installment of the minisode series on worker safety and well-being, Ruth and David discuss the prevalence of histories of abuse amongst professionals and how agencies can proactively shape their human resources, training and supervision to this reality. One of the main takeaways from this episode is that having staff who have abuse histories can be a real asset for an agency that addresses domestic violence in the families they serve. Research shows that a variety of professionals include health and child welfare have significant prevalence rates for histories of...2022-02-0621 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 2: Perpetrators' Weaponization of Mental Health and Addiction Against SurvivorsSend us a textHave you ever seen survivors’ mental health or substance use issues turned against them by a domestic violence perpetrator? Have you been concerned about a domestic violence survivor’s treatment being sabotaged by an abusive partner? In this podcast, David Mandel, Executive Director and Founder of the Safe & Together Institute and Ruth Stearns Mandel explore these questions. They also talk about how a perpetrator pattern-based approach can help protect survivors against these behaviors. The show is broken down into three major themes: What is weaponization of mental health and...2022-01-171h 02Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 1: "This is a collective male problem:" An interview with international journalist Grant WyethSend us a text(Apologies the sound quality of this episode is slightly less than we'd like.) In their opening episode of Season 3, Partnered with a Survivor co-hosts , David Mandel & Ruth Stearns Mandel, interview international journalist Grant Wyeth. Grant Wyeth is a researcher at the Asia Institute, University of Melbourne, and a columnist for the Diplomat. He has written extensively about men's violence against women. In this interview, Grant offers an international perspective on: The backlash against the advancements of women Male supremacist groups and their influence on politics how Richard Gardener's "ideology" of pare...2022-01-1050 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 2 Episode 24: From Police Inspector to “Moral Rebel”: An interview with Graham GouldenSend us a textAsk Graham Goulden about the Bystander Approach to violence prevention, he’ll talk to you about being a “moral rebel.” “Moral rebels” intervene to stop violence when others standby. “Moral rebels” act when others walk away. Graham, a former Scottish police officer and Chief Investigator specializing in criminal investigation, drug investigation, training and crime prevention, is a passionate advocate of the bystander approach. Graham focuses on teaching concrete behavioral strategies to safely intervene in the attitudes which promote abuse & sexual violence well before violence occurs. He speaks about concrete ways we can train our brain to inter...2021-12-241h 01Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 2 Episode 23: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: When Workers Are Survivors ThemselvesSend us a textIn this fourth installment of the multi-part minisode series on worker safety and well-being, Ruth and David explore when workers are being targeted by their own perpetrator, and the implications for the workplace. In a just over 20 minutes , David & Ruth discuss: David's history with worker personal disclosures about their own victimization How workers going through the Safe & Together Model training are seeing their own experience reflected in the materialHow agencies are using the Safe & Together Model to identify employees whose performance is suffering due to abuse and provide them with greater support In...2021-11-2722 min