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SHIFT Talking™
56: GUEST | Archetypes, Parenting Projections & the Myth of the One True You with Eric Gee
🧠 Personality, Parenting & The Power of Knowing Yourself—with Eric GeeWhat do sharks, dolphins, and fascists have in common? They're all part of Eric Gee's wild and wickedly accurate personality typing system. In this episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina sits down with Eric Gee, author of The Power of Personality and founder of The Youtopia Project, to unpack why self-awareness isn’t optional, how to decode your kids (and yourself), and what your “deviant role” says about your hidden strengths.We talk Game of Thrones characters, parent-child dynamics, school trauma, anger expression, and why your quirks aren...
2025-06-30
1h 14
SHIFT Talking™
55: GUEST | Emotional Literacy, Shape-Shifting & the Actor’s Guide to Self-Mastery with James Rojas Taylor
🔥 Emotional Literacy Isn’t Just for Actors—It’s the Tool You’ve Been MissingIn this mind-bending, soul-stretching episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina sits down with Jim Rojas Taylor—former Marine, actor, author, and emotional literacy evangelist—who flips the script on how we teach regulation, empathy, and confidence. His message is simple but revolutionary: Why are we working so hard to build imaginary people (actors)... and doing so little to build real ones?Jim breaks down how the same emotional and mental tools used in acting (like the Stanislavski system) are powerful, practical frameworks for...
2025-06-30
1h 27
The Lonely Chapter
Mastering the Art of Communication with Davina Hehn: Avoiding Conflict in Parenting
In this insightful episode, trained therapist turned mental health coach and communication expert Davina Hehn joins us to explore the art of effective communication, especially within the parenting context. Discover how to apply SHIFT protocols to improve emotional regulation, avoid conflict, and foster healthier relationships with your children & anyone in your life. Whether you’re struggling with communication breakdowns or want to deepen your understanding of different communication styles, this episode offers practical strategies to transform your parenting experience.What You'll Learn in This Episode:The fundamentals of th...
2025-06-16
1h 13
SHIFT Talking™
54: GUEST | From Breakdown to Breakthrough: Masculinity, Sobriety & The Cost of Becoming Who You Really Are with Alan Lazaros
What happens when you build a life that looks “successful”—but feels like hell?In this raw, real, and soul-punching conversation, Davina sits down with business coach and podcaster Alan Lazaros to talk SHIFT about masculinity, emotional honesty, and what it takes to actually grow without selling your soul. From childhood trauma and identity loss to marriage, sobriety, and the silent suffering men face, this episode is a masterclass in owning your truth—even when the world isn’t ready for it.No predatory sales pitches. No performance bullshit. Just two humans telling the truth.⏱️ In...
2025-06-14
1h 21
SHIFT Talking™
53: SHIFT Rx | Lonely While Healing? Good. You're Doing It Right
You’re doing the work. You’re growing. You’re unlearning. And it’s lonely as fuck.In this week’s SHIFT Rx, Davina gets all the way real about what no one tells you: personal development costs connection—and you have to do it anyway. From losing friendships to questioning your identity, the truth is that becoming who you’re meant to be is a death and a rebirth. And yes, grief is part of the process.This one’s for the people mid-shift: misunderstood, second-guessing, and wondering if it’s worth it. It is. This is your r...
2025-06-10
09 min
SHIFT Talking™
52: The Lonely Road to Growth: Why Personal Development Feels So Isolating
You’re evolving—and it shows. But instead of applause, you're met with distance, side-eyes, or straight-up silence.This solo is for the transitional characters. The ones doing the inner work, setting the boundaries, shifting the cycles—and wondering why it feels so damn lonely. Not everyone wants you to stay stuck… but they were comfortable when you did.In this vulnerable and validating episode, Davina unpacks the painful side of becoming self-aware: the grief of being misunderstood, the frustration of misalignment, and the disorientation that hits when your inner upgrades aren’t mirrored back externally...
2025-06-08
27 min
SHIFT Talking™
51: GUEST | When Men Heal Together: Jason Lange on Embodiment, Brotherhood, and the Shift That Changes Everything
Masculinity is cracking—and that’s a good thing. In this powerful, paradigm-breaking episode, I sit down with Jason Lange, men’s embodiment coach and founder of Evolutionary.Men, to talk about what’s actually holding men back from intimacy, healing, and fully living. Spoiler: it’s not just porn, patriarchy, or pride—it’s disconnection.This isn’t a “man up” conversation—it’s a real one. About vulnerability, emotional sobriety, parenting, partnership, and why every man deserves a space to be held, witnessed, and deeply seen.We go deep into men’s groups, shadow work, fatherhood, n...
2025-06-07
1h 14
SHIFT Talking™
50: SHIFT Rx | You Want Him To Talk? Here's Why He's Not
You say you want him to talk—but when he stays silent, what’s really going on?In this episode of SHIFT Rx, Davina unpacks the hidden wiring behind male emotional shutdown. Spoiler: he’s not emotionally unavailable—he’s emotionally unpracticed. And when you learn what’s happening inside his nervous system, you’ll stop blaming and start understanding.We’re talking conditioning, double standards, emotional safety, and how to stop flinching when softness finally shows up.If you’re loving a man, raising a boy, or trying to reconnect with a partner who won’t...
2025-06-03
08 min
SHIFT Talking™
49: His Tears Made Me Flinch - and I Had To Face Why
We say we want men to open up… But when they do, why do we flinch?In today's solo, Davina unpacks the invisible conditioning that makes male vulnerability feel unsafe, unattractive, or overwhelming to the very people asking for it. From personal stories to societal scripts, she names the tension many women hold: the craving for emotional intimacy and the recoil when it finally arrives.This is for the women raising men, loving men, or grieving the men they've lost—and for the men trying to be something other than stoic and shut down.
2025-06-01
20 min
SHIFT Talking™
48: GUEST | The Sleep Episode Every Parent Needs with Allison Egidi: Bedtime Battles, Wake-ups & Pee ... Where?!
Sleep isn’t just about rest—it’s about regulation. And if your kid’s sleep is all over the place? Chances are, yours is too.In this wide-ranging, nonjudgmental, and surprisingly hilarious conversation with sleep coach Allison Egidi (yes, I pronounced it wrong last time!), we go deep into what’s really messing with your kid’s (and your) sleep—plus what you can do to fix it without flipping your entire life upside down.From nap transitions and circadian rhythms to pee cabinets and co-sleeping debates, this one is packed with real talk, compassionate...
2025-05-30
1h 14
SHIFT Talking™
47: SHIFT Rx | Sleep Isn't a Luxury, It's Our Nervous System's Non-Negotiable
Let’s cut the bullshit: you don’t need another sleep tracker. You need to stop setting tomorrow-you up to fail because tonight-you is avoiding her feelings.This is a spicy, straight-up voice note to the part of you that knows better but still stays up late watching Bravo and housing Sour Patch Kids (hi, same). This isn’t about shame. It’s about regulation, rhythm, and remembering who you are when you’re actually rested.00:02 – Sleep isn’t a luxury—it’s your nervous system’s non-negotiable 00:45 – Why we’re blaming the engine when...
2025-05-29
07 min
SHIFT Talking™
46: Why I Stay Up Late Even Though I Know Better
aka: The Identity Crisis Hiding in Your Sleep ScheduleYou’re not bad at routines. You’re starving for yourself.This episode is a raw, real-time reflection on why we trade sleep for slivers of freedom—and what it costs us as parents, partners, and people trying to feel like ourselves again. We’re talking sleep sabotage, revenge bedtime procrastination, and the emotional tug-of-war between being responsible and being free.00:02 – Why this episode’s late & what that teaches about presence vs. planning01:30 – The truth: I teach regulation but still sabotage my ow...
2025-05-29
15 min
SHIFT Talking™
45: GUEST | Parenting, Pain, and Progress: Rewriting the Rules with Leslie Lindsey Davis
This one’s a mic-drop moment from start to finish.In this soul-stretching conversation, I sit down with Leslie Lindsey Davis—a truth-teller, author, and certified breaker of generational patterns. Together, we talk perfectionism, people-pleasing, imposter syndrome, addiction, emotional literacy, parenting, marriage, and why self-forgiveness isn’t weakness—it’s necessary.We go deep into the practice of written self-conversations, how to build self-trust when the old you wants to run the show, and how to shift without shame—even when the change feels terrifying. Leslie shares the real reason many of us feel stuck, how to respo...
2025-05-23
1h 20
SHIFT Talking™
44: SHIFT Rx | I Didn't Know How to Forgive Myself Until I Learned This
You don’t have to suffer to prove you’ve changed.This week’s SHIFT Rx tackles the emotional toll of self-punishment—and why withholding forgiveness doesn’t make you strong, it just keeps you stuck. We’re flipping the script on what it really means to move forward after a mistake, especially if you’ve been conditioned to believe that grace has to be earned through shame, regret, and emotional isolation.Inside this short but seismic episode, we break down:Why you delay forgiving yourself (and how that’s not your fault)How nervous system r...
2025-05-21
11 min
The Relationship Circle
How Self-Sabotage & Fear of Conflict Sabotage Your Relationships With Davina Hehn
Welcome back, in this episode I sit down with Davina Hehn, a former therapist turned mental health coach, to explore the recurring patterns that often disrupt our relationships. From self-sabotage to the fear of conflict and emotional unavailability, we deep-dive into how these behaviors show up in both personal and romantic connections. Davina opens up about her own journey with her husband, sharing how their relationship transformed through emotional work and sobriety.This week, we explore:The hidden patterns in relationships that often lead to self-sabotage, and how to identify them before they take controlHow fear...
2025-05-20
55 min
SHIFT Talking™
43: The Power of Subconscious Programming & How to Rewire It
You aren’t broken. You’re on autopilot.Up to 97% of your day is driven by subconscious patterns. And guess what? Those patterns didn’t start with you—but they’re absolutely affecting how you parent, how you speak to yourself, and how you show up under pressure.In this episode, we’re naming what’s actually behind your spirals, shutdowns, and snap moments—and why it’s not a lack of love, but a brain that’s been running the same script since you were seven.💥 The good news? That script is editable.This is...
2025-05-19
23 min
SHIFT Talking™
42: GUEST | Attachment Styles Aren't Personality Types - They're Survival Strategies with Bev Mitelman, M.A.
In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with Bev Mitelman, M.A., a therapist who doesn’t just teach attachment theory—she lived it, rewired it, and now helps others do the same.Together, we crack open how our earliest emotional environments shape the way we love, fight, flinch, chase, ghost, people-please, overfunction, or run like hell. We’re talking deep nervous system programming that runs 97% of our choices—and how to finally bring that shit into conscious awareness.This isn’t about labels. It’s about liberation.We go all in: anxious partners, avoi...
2025-05-17
1h 29
SHIFT Talking™
41: SHIFT Rx | You’re Not Stuck with Your Attachment Style
SHIFT Rx: You’re Not Stuck with Your Attachment StyleThink your attachment style defines your relationships forever? Think again.In this week’s SHIFT Rx, I'm breaking down the truth about attachment styles—and how they’re not life sentences, they’re survival strategies. You’ll learn why these patterns formed, how they show up in relationships, and most importantly, how to shift them through nervous system regulation, emotional awareness, and intentional change.Whether you struggle with anxious attachment, avoidant shutdowns, or a constant push-pull cycle, this episode gives you a map to interrupt...
2025-05-14
06 min
SHIFT Talking™
40: What I Wish I Knew About Attachment Style Before I Became A Parent (& Happy Mother's Day!)
You aren't broken. You've been wired—long before you had a choice in the matter. And now? You’re likely parenting from that same wiring, wondering why it feels so damn hard to stay steady.This episode is about naming what actually drives our reactions as parents—and why it’s not a lack of love, but unhealed attachment wounds. If you’ve ever wondered why you spiral, shut down, smother, or second-guess yourself constantly, this one’s going to hit home.It’s not just you. It’s your wiring. And the best news? Patterns are pro...
2025-05-11
24 min
SHIFT Talking™
39: GUEST | Kayce Hodos on Postpartum, Identity Loss, and Giving Moms Permission to Hate the Hard Parts
In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with therapist Kayce Hodos—an expert in perinatal mental health and someone who’s deeply unafraid to tell the truth about motherhood.Together, we dismantle the myths that keep parents isolated: the pressure to feel instant love, the shame of postpartum identity loss, the fantasy that becoming a parent will heal your wounds instead of exposing them. Kayce opens up about her own postpartum experience, what she wishes she had known, and how the system continues to fail parents (especially moms) in their most vulnerable moments.We talk depres...
2025-05-09
1h 02
SHIFT Talking™
38: SHIFT Rx | Motherhood Doesn't Fix You, It Exposes You
This SHIFT Rx is for the parents, especially the moms, feeling like they're drowning in roles they thought would save them.We were sold the story that motherhood would give us purpose. Completion. Healing.But here's the truth: Motherhood doesn’t fix you. It exposes you. It doesn’t patch up your wounds—it peels back the layers and shows you exactly where the work is.This one’s not about judgment. It’s about naming the shift—the identity reckoning, the emotional rawness, the exhaustion, the grief, the guilt—and giving you a map to rebui...
2025-05-06
07 min
AVOID THE MAZE & AVOID THE MAZE UR SPECIAL
UnderstandingAnger&ManagingAnger 5525 #41 #mindfulness#podmatch
Please subscribe to our YouTube page to receive notices on all new podcasts as well helping us grow our audience. https://www.youtube.com/c/NewClevelandRadiohttps://newclevelandradio.net/If you would like to be a podcast host or guest please contact Karen at newclevelandradio@gmail.comAbout Davina Hehn"During my training as a therapist, I realized most of us were never actually how to handle emotions or navigate conflict—especially in our closest relationships. Our only options seems to be to absorb what we grew up with and hope for the best. And when it comes to parenting, that me...
2025-05-05
32 min
SHIFT Talking™
37: Mother's Day Share: When You Love Your Kids But Hate Motherhood
You can love your kids fiercely and still fantasize about disappearing. You can be obsessed with their little faces and still feel like motherhood robbed you of your own. You can be the soft place they land—and still grieve the you who existed before the role took over.This episode isn’t about bashing motherhood. It’s about naming the parts of it no one talks about—so you can stop thinking you’re the only one drowning in love, guilt, rage, and grief all at once.This isn’t a hot take. It’s a love lette...
2025-05-05
14 min
SHIFT Talking™
36: GUEST | Dr. Bruce Chalmer & the "Oh Sh*t" Moment in Healing
In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with Dr. Bruce Chalmer—a seasoned couples therapist with decades of insight. We get into the real stuff: the 'oh shit' moments that wake people up in therapy, the messiness of faith and forgiveness, and why labeling someone a narcissist might be doing more harm than good.Bruce shares how vulnerability, curiosity, and a little discomfort are actually the point in healing work—and why genuine connection can’t be boxed into categories or quick fixes. We talk telehealth (spoiler: it’s not killing therapy), placebo effects, stats vs. soul, and why th...
2025-05-02
1h 40
SHIFT Talking™
35: GUEST | Everything You Need to Know About Therapy & Coaching with Lindsey Paoli
In this episode, I sit down with Lindsey Paoli—licensed therapist (x2 incoming), coach, and founder of the Rewire Mastermind—for a convo about the real differences between therapy and coaching, and how to get help without getting screwed.We unpack everything from licensing and insurance BS to the dangers of toxic positivity and performative wellness. If you’ve ever wondered whether you need a therapist or a coach (or if you’re a provider figuring out your own path) this one’s for you.🎧 Press play. Get steady. Keep shifting.05:42...
2025-05-02
1h 26
Famous Interviews with Joe Dimino
Mental Health Coach & Conflict Specialist Davina Hehn
In this insightful episode of Famous Interviews with Joe Dimino, we talk with Davina Hehn — a trained therapist, mental health coach, anger and conflict specialist, and host of a growing podcast aimed at emotional well-being and personal growth.Davina is redefining how we approach emotions and relationships. Often described as a "professional friend," she helps individuals advocate for themselves without causing collateral damage, regulate their nervous systems, and raise emotionally healthy kids through practical, repeatable strategies.Drawing from her background in therapy, Davina realized a fundamental truth: most of us were never actually taught how to manage em...
2025-05-01
30 min
SHIFT Talking™
34: SHIFT Rx | Why "Doing The Work" Doesn't Always Feel Good (Spoiler Alert: It's Not Supposed to)
This SHIFT Rx hits you with the truth most people don’t want to admit: Healing doesn’t always feel good. In fact, real healing often feels worse before it feels better.Yup. That discomfort you’re feeling? That loneliness? That questioning of everything you thought you knew? That’s not failure. That’s proof you're actually growing.This episode will shift the way you think about personal growth—from something that’s supposed to feel magical all the time to something that's gritty, real, and wildly worth it. We’re not sugarcoating healing around here. We’re givi...
2025-04-29
10 min
SHIFT Talking™
33: SHIFT Rx | Coach vs Therapy: How to Choose the Right Help for You
This SHIFT Rx hits you with the truth most people never get taught: Knowing whether you need a coach or a therapist can change your entire path.Yup. That uncertainty you’re feeling? That’s your intuition telling you: "I’m ready to grow. I just need the right guide."This episode will shift the way you think about getting help—from something shameful to something strategic. We’re not gatekeeping healing around here. We’re clearing the fog so you can move, grow, and finally pick support that actually fits where you're headed.This is fo...
2025-04-29
12 min
SHIFT Talking™
32: Are We Really Healing—or Just Performing Wellness?
Owning your healing journey isn’t about chasing a perfect version of yourself—it’s about getting honest, messy, and radically real about what growth actually feels like. In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the hard truths we rarely talk about: how easy it is to fake progress, perform healing, and unintentionally gaslight ourselves out of real change.If you’ve ever wondered “am I really healing, or just acting like I am?”, this episode will help you gut-check yourself with love—and show you how to get back on a real, sustainable path f...
2025-04-28
32 min
SHIFT Talking™
31: Own Your Path Without Permission: How I'm Building True Self-Trust
Owning your path isn’t about waiting for a permission slip—it’s about choosing yourself loudly and on purpose. In today’s episode, I’m sharing my own real, raw journey from disillusioned therapist-to-be to proud mental health coach. If you’ve ever felt trapped by other people’s expectations, fear of judgment, or your own self-doubt, this episode will show you how to finally reclaim your direction—and your power.I’ll break down:🔥 Why waiting for permission keeps you stuck (and how to build true self-trust)🔥 How owning your career path—even if it looks di...
2025-04-28
30 min
SHIFT Talking™
30: SHIFT Rx | Boundaries, People Pleasing, and the Manipulation You Didn't Mean to Do
Hey friend—here’s your reminder that boundaries aren’t about keeping people out… they’re about keeping you from disappearing.This SHIFT Rx hits you with the boldest truth most people don’t want to admit: People pleasing is manipulation.Yup. That uncomfortable squirm in your gut? That’s your nervous system realizing that playing nice was never the same as being kind.This episode will shift the way you think about boundaries—from something you set to something you live by. We’re going deeper than surface-level scripts. We’re unpacking the real reason boun...
2025-04-11
09 min
LOA Today - Your Daily Dose Of Happy
Heal Your Triggers, Break the Cycle with Davina Hehn
In a powerful conversation that peels back the layers of modern parenting, Davina Hehn shares a brutally honest exploration of personal transformation that wiavina's reality - a trained therapist who discovered that her professional training couldn't shield her from the profound challenges of marriage and parenthood.Her story is a testament to the power of radical self-awareness and the courage to embrace life's messiness.At the brink of separation, Davina and her husband embarked on a journey of radical honesty. They didn't just survive; they rewrote their entire relationship...
2025-04-08
1h 02
SHIFT Talking™
29: SHIFT Rx | They’ll Say You’ve Changed—And They’re Right
Hey friend—your prescription for perspective just got filled.SHIFT Rx is your quick-hit dose of behavior change, nervous system know-how, and communication clarity. Think of it like the voice note your most emotionally steady friend would send—the one that reminds you you’re not crazy, you’re just growing. You’ll get straight answers to the messy questions keeping you stuck—minus the sugarcoat and self-help fluff.Each episode is like a voice note I’d send after your “why TF does this feel so lonely?” spiral—calling you in, not out, with a mix of strategy, s...
2025-04-01
10 min
SHIFT Talking™
28: SHIFT Rx | Tired of Toxic People? Here's How to Break the Pattern for Good
Hey friend—your prescription for perspective just got filled.SHIFT Rx is your quick-hit dose of behavior change, nervous system know-how, and communication clarity. Think of it like the voice note your most emotionally steady friend would send that you didn’t know you needed. You’ll get straight answers to the messy questions keeping you stuck—minus the sugarcoat and the self-help fluff.Each episode is like a voice note I’d send after your 10 p.m. “why TF do I keep doing this” text—calling you in, not out, with a combo of strategy, scienc...
2025-03-24
08 min
SHIFT Talking™
27: No, Your Kid Isn’t 800% Worse for You—Here’s What’s Actually Going On
We’ve all been there: confidently repeating something we thought was true… only to find out later it’s not. This episode? That’s me. Owning it. Because I got got—and it matters.So why not just stay quiet and move on? Because accountability matters—and I’m modeling the SHIFT.In this episode, I’ll walk you through:🔥 The real reason it’s so hard to admit we’re wrong (and what it does to our nervous system) 🔥 How confirmation bias and cognitive dissonance sneak into our parenting and beliefs 🔥 What I di...
2025-03-21
16 min
Personal Development Trailblazers Podcast
Do You Actually Understand Your Emotions? Let’s Find Out With Davina Hehn
Welcome to the Personal Development Trailblazers Podcast! In today’s episode, we’ll help you understand, express, and manage emotions in a way that transforms your relationships, career, and overall well-being. Davina Hehn is the founder of A Steady Space, host of the SHIFT Talking Podcast, and the creator of The Parental SHIFT, a groundbreaking community for parents who want to raise kids who don’t need to recover from their childhoods. With a master’s in forensic and counseling psychology, certifications in anger management, conflict resolution, and mediation, and twelve years of experi...
2025-03-20
19 min
Emotionally Unavailable
Episode 138: The Truth About Anger (Part 2)
Happy Friday and Happy Full Moon Lunar Eclipse! We are back with part two of the beautiful conversation with Davina Hehn! Just as a reminder, Davina coaches individuals and couples through anger management, partnership, parent and life's general fu*kery! She has a podcast called Shift Talking, where she helps others gain insight into their truest selves. You can find Davina's insta here and her other links here. Don't miss this!
2025-03-14
1h 25
Emotionally Unavailable
Episode 137: The Truth About Anger (Part 1)
Today's show is actually going to be the first of two episodes with this powerhouse guest, Davina Hehn. Davina coaches inividuals and couples through anger management, partnership, parenting and life's general fu*kery, as she puts it. She has also has a podcast called Shift Talking where she helps others gain insight into their truest selves. Sounds up our alley, eh? She is real and raw like the rest of us lumenaries and I'm so excited for you to hear this conversation as it touches on so many of the things that keep us stuck in our human nature...
2025-03-12
1h 02
SHIFT Talking™
26: Fixing Yourself First: The Parenting SHIFT That Changes Everything
Parenting advice is everywhere, but most of it skips the biggest factor—you. In this episode, we’re flipping the script on traditional parenting strategies and focusing on what really changes the game: your emotional state, your regulation, your healing. If you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and wondering why no tactic seems to work, this is for you.I’ll break down: 🔥 Why parenting isn’t about controlling your kid—it’s about steadying yourself 🔥 The 10-second check-in that will change how you react (and prevent meltdowns—for both of you) 🔥 How unhealed childhood wounds...
2025-03-11
22 min
SHIFT Talking™
25: Forget Breakthroughs—Here’s How to Heal in 10 Minutes a Day with Carl Dietz (Part 2)
Welcome back to Shift Talking! In Part 2 of my conversation with Carl Dietz, we dive into how microdosing healing through small, daily actions can create real, lasting change—without the overwhelm.Carl shares the science behind behavioral microshifts, the power of shallow healing, and how Nubellum’s app is designed to help you find what works for you in under two minutes a day. If you’ve ever struggled to stick with meditation, breathwork, or habit-building, this episode will change the way you think about mental health and self-improvement.🔹 Didn’t catch Part 1? Listen here!
2025-03-04
37 min
SHIFT Talking™
24: The Placebo Effect & Brain Chemistry Hacks with Carl Dietz (Part 1)
Can you really heal your mind and body without medication? In this episode of Shift Talking, I sit down with Carl Dietz, co-founder of Nubellum, to dive into the placebo effect, brain chemistry, and how our minds can trigger real physiological healing—without pharmaceuticals.Carl shares fascinating insights into how the brain naturally produces neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine, why some medications work primarily due to belief, and what New Bellum is doing to revolutionize self-directed healing.This is Part 1 of our conversation—stay tuned for Part 2, where we break down their innovative new app and...
2025-02-25
39 min
SHIFT Talking™
23: What to Do After the Fight: Repairing, Reconnecting, and Getting Real
In this episode, Davina discusses strategies for managing conflict effectively, focusing on recognizing escalation signals, utilizing the power of pauses, and employing grounding techniques. She emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, disarming statements, and setting boundaries during conflicts. The conversation highlights the need for self-awareness and resilience in navigating emotional challenges, ultimately aiming for personal transformation and healthier relationships.01:01 Understanding Conflict in Relationships07:07 Barriers to Effective Conflict Resolution10:04 The Shift Framework for Repairing Relationships18:12 Repairing Conflict with Children26:39 Modeling Repair for Emotional Intelligence38:02 Transforming Conflict into...
2025-02-17
44 min
SHIFT Talking™
22: How to Argue Smarter: Stay Calm, Get Heard, and Keep Your Relationships Strong
In this episode, Davina discusses strategies for managing conflict effectively, focusing on recognizing escalation signals, utilizing the power of pauses, and employing grounding techniques. She emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, disarming statements, and setting boundaries during conflicts. The conversation highlights the need for self-awareness and resilience in navigating emotional challenges, ultimately aiming for personal transformation and healthier relationships.01:05 Introduction to Conflict Management04:28 The 3 Stages of Escalation 05:40 The Power of the Pause09:30 Grounding Techniques During Conflict14:51 Disarming Statements and Vulnerability21:20 Challenging the Win/Lose Narratives
2025-02-10
30 min
SHIFT Talking™
21: How to Speak Up Without Starting a Fight (Even If You Hate Conflict)
In this episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina explores the nuances of assertive communication, emphasizing its importance in preventing and addressing conflicts. She reflects on her previous episode's shortcomings and introduces a structured approach to initiating difficult conversations. The discussion covers various communication styles, the significance of nonverbal cues, and practical strategies for effective dialogue. Davina also introduces the SHIFT framework, encouraging listeners to practice assertiveness in their daily interactions and prepare for future episodes focused on conflict resolution.TakeawaysAssertive communication is essential for effective dialogue.It's important to differentiate between assertiveness and...
2025-02-04
36 min
SHIFT Talking™
20: How to Stop Fights Before They Start: Emotional Regulation & Parenting Tools That Actually Work
In this episode, Davina discusses the importance of preventing conflicts and managing anger through self-awareness and emotional regulation. She introduces the SHIFT framework, which emphasizes self-awareness, healing, innovation, fortitude, and transformation. The conversation covers recognizing triggers, understanding emotional responses, and the significance of communication in preventing conflicts. Davina shares personal experiences and practical strategies for parents to navigate their emotions and improve relationships with their children.02:02 Understanding Triggers and Self-Awareness10:39 The Shift Framework: Healing and Innovation19:00 Fortitude and Transformation in Anger Management24:05 Innovative Communication and Proactive Engagement30:27 Building Emotional...
2025-01-27
40 min
SHIFT Talking™
19: The Holistic Dolly on Empowerment, Gratitude, and Getting Out of Survival Mode (Part 3)
In Part 3 of their enlightening conversation, Dolly and Davina explore the multifaceted journey of self-love and healing. They discuss the importance of self-empowerment, the depth of self-care, and the logical approach to emotional work. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of accepting one's shortcomings, the role of anger as a messenger, and the transformative power of writing. They also touch on the impact of medication in healing, the necessity of building nurturing connections, and the continuous journey of self-discovery through gratitude and community support.00:00 The Essence of Self-Love Languages05:00 Understanding Self-Empowerment14:50 Navigating...
2025-01-20
43 min
SHIFT Talking™
18: The Holistic Dolly on the Steps to Self-Love (Part 2)
In Part 2 of this three-part series, Davina and The Holistic Dolly explore the profound journey of self-love, emphasizing the importance of self-attunement, self-compassion, self-forgiveness, and self-parenting. They discuss how these elements contribute to emotional healing and personal growth, while also addressing the challenges of resistance and the need to reconnect with one's body and emotions. The conversation highlights the significance of nurturing all parts of oneself and the transformative power of understanding and accepting one's past experiences.00:18 Welcome to SHIFT Talking01:15 Self-Attunement Explained 03:00 The Second Self-Love Language: Self-Compassion03:28 The Third Self-Love...
2025-01-13
27 min
SHIFT Talking™
17: The Holistic Dolly on Finding the Roots of Healing (Part 1)
In the first episode of SHIFT Talking in 2025, Davina kicks off the year with an inspiring and thought-provoking conversation with The Holistic Dolly—an experienced Trauma Recovery Registered Nurse, licensed in California, and Holistic Mental Health Life Coach. Specializing in childhood trauma recovery and codependency healing, Dolly shares her unique, holistic approach to rebuilding self-love and mental health through her concept of the five self-love languages.In Part 1 of this three-part series, Davina and Dolly explore profound themes of trauma recovery, self-love, and the cultural influences that shape mental health practices. Dolly reflects on her personal journey, th...
2025-01-06
21 min
SHIFT Talking™
16: 2024 Recap: Transformative SHIFTs in Life, Love, and Leadership
In the final episode of 2024, Davina reflects on the journey of 'SHIFT Talking' and her business, A Steady Space, highlighting personal and professional milestones, challenges, and growth. After expressing gratitude to supporters, Davina recounts overcoming fears, imposter syndrome, and launching new programs like Shift Me, Shift Us, and Keep Anger. She celebrates the transformative impact of the podcast and collaborations with brands like Seeking Health and Vital Apparel. Looking forward, she shares plans for 2025 including guest interviews, launching the Parental Shift program, and transitioning to a virtual coaching platform. On a personal note, Davina discusses her mental health journey...
2024-12-30
36 min
SHIFT Talking™
15: The Hidden Cost of Cancel Culture & Strategies to SHIFT It
In this episode of Shift Talking, Davina delves into the nuanced topic of cancel culture, exploring its impact on individuals and society. The discussion covers the positive aspects such as social accountability and community empowerment while highlighting the negative consequences including psychological harm, social ostracism, and empathy erosion. By sharing a personal story and applying the SHIFT framework, Davina advocates for a balanced approach to accountability that fosters growth and understanding. Practical strategies for promoting constructive dialogue and emotional regulation are provided, aiming to replace punitive measures with compassionate conversations. The episode concludes with a challenge for listeners to...
2024-12-23
26 min
SHIFT Talking™
14: New Year, Same Struggle: Why Resolutions Don't Work - And What Does
In this episode of Shift Talking, the Davina delves into the pervasive topic of New Year's resolutions and their true impact on personal growth. Debunking the myth of overnight transformation, Davina discusses the societal pressures that lead to setting unrealistic goals, and why such resolutions often result in disappointment. Highlighting research that shows only 8% of people achieve their resolutions, the episode emphasizes the importance of intrinsic motivation over external pressures. Davina introduces the SHIFT framework to replace traditional resolution-setting, focusing on self-awareness, innovation through SMART goals, and fostering resilience. The episode also announces the upcoming 'Parental Shift' community for...
2024-12-16
24 min
SHIFT Talking™
13: How Unmet Expectations Sabotage Your Joy and What to Do About It
In episode 13 of Shift Talking, the Davina dives deep into the crucial but underrated topic of expectation management and its significant impact on personal relationships, parenting, and self-perception. The episode delineates how unrealistic expectations, when unmet, lead to conflict, disappointment, and emotional distress. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, Davina illustrates practical ways to set realistic expectations, communicate needs effectively, and adjust perspectives using the SHIFT framework of self-awareness, healing, innovation, fortitude, and transformation. Listeners will also learn the importance of explicit communication in romantic relationships, parenting, and daily interactions to foster emotional regulation and satisfaction.00:00 Introduction...
2024-12-09
35 min
SHIFT Talking™
12: Understanding Emotional Literacy: Why We Don't Always "Act Our Age"
Episode Summary: In this insightful episode of Shift Talking, host Davina Hehn explores the fascinating concept of emotional age and how it shapes our behaviors and responses in ways that might not align with our chronological age. Davina dives deep into why many of us feel “stuck” emotionally, the impact of trauma on emotional development, and how to recognize the signs of being emotionally out of sync.Drawing on her expertise and personal reflections, Davina discusses:The critical role of emotional literacy and how it compares to learning a new skill, like reading.Why shame and judg...
2024-12-02
20 min
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11: Born to Parent or Partner? Introducing a New Way to Understand Relationships
Have you ever felt like your role in relationships is naturally wired in a certain way? Maybe you find yourself stepping up as the caregiver, protector, or the one keeping things steady. Or perhaps your instincts lean toward partnership, connection, and equal collaboration. In this thought-provoking episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina Hehn introduces her "Born to Be Parent vs. Born to Be Partner" theory—an anecdotal framework that helps explain the natural inclinations we bring into our relationships.Here’s what we’re unpacking in this episode:The Parent vs. Partner Theory: What it is, how it wor...
2024-11-25
32 min
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10: Devillainizing Anger: What Your Brain is Really Doing When You’re Mad (Part 2)
In the follow-up to our deep dive on anger, we’re taking a scientific turn to explore the neurochemistry behind this fiery emotion. What happens in your brain when you feel triggered? Why does anger sometimes feel uncontrollable, and what can we do about it? In this episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina Hehn unpacks the fascinating interplay between brain regions, hormones, and neurotransmitters that shape your experience of anger.Here’s what we’re covering in this mind-expanding episode:Anger on the Brain: A breakdown of the amygdala, prefrontal cortex, and their roles in managing emotional respon...
2024-11-18
35 min
SHIFT Talking™
9: Devillainizing Anger: Why Your Anger Isn't the Enemy (Part 1)
In this powerful episode of SHIFT Talking, we dive deep into one of the most misunderstood human emotions: anger. Why do we villainize an emotion that's actually trying to protect us? Discover why anger isn't your enemy, but rather your internal armor - a signal that something needs your attention. Learn why your "anger management" might be missing the point entirely, and why the goal isn't to stop feeling angry, but to understand what your anger is trying to tell you. Through real-life examples, from road rage to relationship conflicts, we explore how anger serves as a secondary emotion...
2024-11-11
53 min
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7: Transformation of Self: A Step-by-Step Guide to Personal Growth
In this episode of Shift Talking, Davina Hehn dives deep into the powerful concept of self-transformation. She explores what it truly means to transform, not just on the surface, but in our core values, behaviors, and mindset. Transformation isn’t about becoming someone new but aligning with our most authentic selves. Davina outlines actionable steps to embrace change, set realistic goals, and navigate the challenges of personal growth with resilience and fortitude. Tune in to understand how you can harness your inner power to evolve and thrive.Connect with Davina:Website: asteadyspace.comSocial Media: Follow Davina on...
2024-11-04
17 min
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6: Talking to Kids About Death: Honest Conversations without the Sugarcoat
Trigger Warning: This episode includes detailed descriptions of death, the dying process, and imagery regarding a body nearing death. Listener discretion is advised.Episode Overview: In this heartfelt episode, host Davina Hehn shares her recent experience with the passing of her grandmother. Davina opens up about how she guided her children through the process of understanding and witnessing death for the first time. This episode serves as an example of how one might approach demystifying the concept of death and funerals for children, while acknowledging that this is just one approach and not a standard to replicate.
2024-10-28
23 min
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5: The Other "F" Word: Fortitude
In Episode 5 of SHIFT 1Talking, Davina Hehn explores the “F” in SHIFT—Fortitude. This episode centers on building and maintaining mental strength, resilience, and the ability to face life’s challenges with courage and determination. Davina discusses how fortitude plays a crucial role in personal growth and behavior change, providing actionable strategies for listeners to cultivate this powerful trait in their own lives.Connect with Davina:Website: asteadyspace.comSocial Media: Follow Davina on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, X, and YouTube @asteadyspace and @yoursteadyspace.Community: Join the SHIFT Talking community to access exclusive content, Q&A sessions, and more....
2024-10-21
20 min
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4: Innovation: Communication Strategies for Stronger Relationships
In Episode 4 of SHIFT Talking, host Davina Hehn explores the “I” in SHIFT—Innovation in Communication. This episode delves into how we can revolutionize the way we connect with others, whether in personal relationships, professional settings, or within our communities. Davina shares actionable strategies for breaking old communication patterns and embracing new, more effective ways to interact and build relationships.Connect with Davina:Website: asteadyspace.comSocial Media: Follow Davina on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, X, and YouTube @asteadyspace and @yoursteadyspace.Community: Join the SHIFT Talking community to access exclusive content, Q&A sessions, and more.If you en...
2024-10-14
17 min
SHIFT Talking™
3: Healing from the Bullsh*t: Moving Forward Begins Here
In Episode 3 of SHIFT Talking, host Davina Hehn dives into the “H” in SHIFT—Healing. This episode is all about the journey of healing from past wounds, whether they’re emotional, mental, or even physical. Davina shares insights into how healing is an ongoing process that requires time, self-compassion, and the right tools. Whether you’re recovering from trauma, dealing with loss, or simply looking to improve your well-being, this episode offers guidance on how to rebuild and move forward with resilience.Connect with Davina:Website: asteadyspace.comSocial Media: Follow Davina on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, X, and YouTub...
2024-10-07
20 min
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BONUS: Holiday Survival Guide: How to Navigate Stress and Stay Steady
The holiday season can be a joyful time, but it can also bring unique challenges that test our emotional resilience. In this episode of SHIFT Talking, host Davina Hehn delves into practical strategies for navigating holiday stress using the SHIFT framework. Whether it’s dealing with family dynamics, managing expectations, or simply trying to keep your cool amid the chaos, this episode provides actionable advice to help you stay steady and maintain your mental well-being during the holidays.Connect with Davina:Website: asteadyspace.comSocial Media: Follow Davina on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, X, and YouTube @asteadyspace and @yo...
2024-10-03
33 min
SHIFT Talking™
2: Self Awareness: The Best Practice for Lasting Behavior Change
In this episode of SHIFT Talking, host Davina Hehn delves into the concept of self-awareness and its crucial role in personal transformation. Davina explores how understanding our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors can serve as a powerful catalyst for change. She breaks down the importance of differentiating between our core values and our behavior, shedding light on how aligning the two can lead to authentic growth. This episode offers practical tips on cultivating self-awareness and highlights the benefits of this practice in everyday life.In the next episode, Davina will dive into the “H” in SHIFT—Healing. She’ll explo...
2024-09-30
39 min
SHIFT Talking™
1: Let's Talk Some SHIFT: How to Create Lasting Change in Your Life
In this inaugural episode of SHIFT Talking, host Davina Hehn introduces herself and the concept behind SHIFT Talking. Get to know Davina’s journey from traditional therapy to becoming a mental health coach, and discover what inspired her to create A Steady Space and this podcast. Davina outlines the vision for SHIFT Talking, sharing how it aims to provide actionable insights, inspiring stories, and expert guidance to help you make lasting changes in your life.Connect with Davina:Website: asteadyspace.comSocial Media: Follow Davina on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, X, and YouTube @asteadyspace and @yoursteadyspace.Community: Join th...
2024-09-30
15 min