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Broken for BetterLess Chaos, More Peace: 3 Rhythms That Change the Temperature of Your HomeDoes your home feel too loud emotionally, mentally, or relationally? In this episode, marriage coaches Kurt and Denette Schaer talk about the hidden “crazy cycle” many couples live in: two ships passing in the night, running a household but not building a marriage… and calling it “just a season.”You’ll learn how to stop the slow erosion that drains intimacy over time and replace reactive rhythms with intentional rhythms that bring peace back into your marriage.In this episode, we cover:✅ How to know when you’re mentally/emotionally exhausted (not just “vacation tired”)
2026-02-2623 minBroken for BetterStop the Spiral: 1 Shift That Turns Conflict Into ConnectionIf you’re tired of the same arguments, the same tone, the same shutdown… you’re not alone.In this episode of Broken for Better, Kurt & Denette Schaer share the simple communication reset that helps couples stop reacting fast, create emotional safety, and build new rhythms that turn chaos into calm.You’ll learn:✅ Why conflict keeps repeating✅ The “I’m overwhelmed” phrase that changes everything✅ How to create safe space (even when you disagree)✅ Why scheduled repair time protects your marriage💬 Comment: When you feel overwhelmed, do you shut down, blow up, or go sarcastic?💛 Want more information about personal marriage coac...
2026-02-1226 min
The Nothing Is Wasted PodcastEpisode 415 - Discovering Hope in the Shadows of Grief with Kurt and Denette SchaerHow can you believe you are highly favored when you experience great loss? What does it look like to trust that God still loves you when tragedy strikes your family?Kurt and Denette Schaer had already seen how God can redeem suffering—having walked through Kurt’s infidelity and experiencing radical healing in their marriage. But even that couldn’t fully prepare them for the heartbreak they would face years later with the loss of their teenage son, Logan. The grief they endured was unimaginable, and yet God sustained them through it. Their journey also led Denette to wrestl...
2026-02-051h 25Broken for BetterFrom Surviving to Thriving: An Inside Look Inside Marriage Coaching | Kurt and Denette SchaerIn this episode, Kurt and Denette Schaer discusses the power of marriage coaching, sharing personal experiences and insights into how coaching can help couples navigate various stages of their relationship. From addressing fears and misconceptions about coaching to exploring the benefits of having a supportive guide, Kurt and Denette chat about the importance of investing in relationships before reaching a crisis point. The conversation also touches on the challenges of vulnerability, the role of coaches in empowering couples, and the journey towards achieving a thriving partnership.Takeaways:Coaching can help individuals and...
2025-11-1327 minBroken for BetterHealing After Betrayal: Our Journey to Redemption | Kurt and Denette SchaerJoin Kurt and Denette as they share their deeply personal journey through infidelity, broken trust, emotional healing and what it looked like to get there. Discover how they navigated one the darkest chapters of their marriage before child loss, to find hope and redemption. This candid conversation offers insights and tools for couples facing similar challenges.All the links - stay in touch:https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVoWant to give financially?https://deka.gives/broken-for-betterTimestamps:Infidelity and Broken Trust: 00:44
2025-10-231h 02
Hope For The Journey with Monica SchmelterFinding Hope in the Shadows of Grief: A Mom's Story of Loss and Finding Purpose beyond GriefWhen Denette Schaer lost her 17-year-old son in a tragic accident, her world was shattered. What followed was a journey through the deepest valleys of grief—a place where time stood still, and the future felt unimaginable. In this powerful episode, Denette shares her story with raw honesty and quiet strength, recounting the pain of unimaginable loss and the slow, sacred process of healing. Through the shadows of sorrow, Denette discovered glimmers of hope—moments of connection, faith, and unexpected grace that helped her begin to breathe again. Her story is not just about loss, but about love...
2025-09-0947 min
LIFE Today LIVEBuilding In The Broken - Denette and Kurt SchaerThe founders of Broken For Better share how God worked miracles in their marriage after a tragic loss and how that equipped them to help others in difficult circumstances.
2025-08-1940 minLIFE Today LIVEBuilding In The Broken - Denette and Kurt SchaerThe founders of Broken For Better share how God worked miracles in their marriage after a tragic loss and how that equipped them to help others in difficult circumstances.
2025-08-1940 minBroken for Better10 Marriage Game-Changers That Made Us Stronger | Broken for Better PodcastIn this episode of the Broken for Better Podcast, Kurt and Denette Schaer share 10 powerful, practical ways that transformed and strengthened their marriage over their 28 years together. 💍Whether you're newly married, facing challenges, or simply wanting to deepen your connection, these game-changing tips will equip you with real, everyday tools to love and serve your spouse better.Marriage is a journey — and small intentional shifts can create a lifetime of lasting love.👉 Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a comment with your favorite takeaway!
2025-05-0122 min
2025-03-0940 min2025-03-0940 minBroken for BetterHighly Favored Pt 4 | Kurt and Denette SchaerHighly Favored? What does living a highly favored life really mean? What does that look like "when bad things happen to good people"? How do we grapple with our faith on the other side of loss? This month leading up to the launch of the new book: "Highly Favored? Discovering Hope in the Shadows of Grief" (Available on all platforms 2/6/25) we will be releasing new episodes packed with stories, insights, and powerful discussions to help us be ready for the journey ahead. Join us we talk more about the mindset, the mission and the heart behind this book.
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2025-01-3044 min
While We're Waiting® - Hope After Child Loss240 | Broken for Better (Part Two) with Kurt and Denette SchaerLast Wednesday, I introduced you to Kurt and Denette Schaer, parents of Logan, a remarkable young man with a knack for making others feel “seen” and a deep desire to point people to Jesus. In May of 2022, just a few days after his high school graduation, Logan and a passenger died after he drove his car into a pond. In today’s conversation, we delve deeper into the aftermath of that incident and how God continues to walk them through their grief. We cover a wide range of topics including how their grief journey continues to evolve, how God...
2025-01-2944 minBroken for BetterHighly Favored Pt 3 | Denette Schaer & Sharon McFeronHighly Favored? What does living a highly favored life really mean? What does that look like "when bad things happen to good people"? How do we grapple with our faith on the other side of loss? This month leading up to the launch of the new book: "Highly Favored? Discovering Hope in the Shadows of Grief" (Available on all platforms 2/6/25) we will be releasing new episodes packed with stories, insights, and powerful discussions to help us be ready for the journey ahead. Join us we talk more about the mindset, the mission and the heart behind this book.
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2025-01-2344 min
While We're Waiting® - Hope After Child Loss239 | Broken for Better (Part One) with Kurt and Denette SchaerKurt and Denette Schaer are the parents of three sons, including Logan, a young man with a knack for making others feel “seen” and a deep desire to point people to Jesus. In May of 2022, just a few days after his high school graduation, Logan and a passenger died after he drove his car into a pond, leaving the Schaers with a multitude of unanswered questions. Central to their journey has been their deep faith in God, which has enabled them to come to peace with not having all the answers. Lean in and be encouraged. Click HERE to...
2025-01-2241 minBroken for BetterHighly Favored Pt 2 | Denette Schaer & Jill NashHighly Favored? What does living a highly favored life really mean? What does that look like "when bad things happen to good people"? How do we grapple with our faith on the other side of loss? This month leading up to the launch of the new book: "Highly Favored? Discovering Hope in the Shadows of Grief" (Available on all platforms 2/6/25) we will be releasing new episodes packed with stories, insights, and powerful discussions to help us be ready for the journey ahead. Join us we talk more about the mindset, the mission and the heart behind this book.
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2025-01-1645 minBroken for BetterHighly Favored? Pt 1 | Denette Schaer & Nikki LangstonHighly Favored? What does living a highly favored life really mean? What does that look like "when bad things happen to good people"? How do we grapple with our faith on the other side of loss? This month leading up to the launch of the new book: "Highly Favored? Discovering Hope in the Shadows of Grief" (Available on all platforms 2/6/25) we will be releasing new episodes packed with stories, insights, and powerful discussions to help us be ready for the journey ahead. Join us we talk more about the mindset, the mission and the heart behind this book.
2025-01-0946 minBroken for BetterThe Holidays & Marriage | Kurt and Denette SchaerIs it hard to manage the holidays? Does it take a toll on your marriage or enhance your marriage? What are some of the things you would change if you could when it comes to one of the busiest times of the year? Join Kurt and Denette as they talk about how the HOLIDAYS and how to face them in a healthy way.
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2024-11-1436 minBroken for BetterWhy Pre-marital Counseling? | Kurt and Denette Schaer
Is it really beneficial? We love each other and don't see the point. What does pre-marital counseling/coaching actually look like? Join Kurt and Denette they talk about the why behind the process and what they have seen work (and not work).
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2024-10-1743 minBroken for BetterExpectations vs. Reality | Kurt and Denette Schaer
What are healthy expectations? What do we do when our expectations and our reality don't line up? Join Kurt and Denette as they give some real time tools on the hard topic of "expectations in marriage".
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2024-09-1230 minBroken for BetterWhat is Marriage Coaching | Kurt and Denette SchaerWhat is marriage coaching? Is it helpful? Is it only for couples that are really struggling? Join Kurt and Denette as they talk all things marriage coaching. (What it is, how it works and what to expect.)
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2024-08-2235 minBroken for BetterBig Wins & What's Next - Mid Year Check In | Kurt and Denette SchaerThe first half of the year has flown by and we've had people asking how things have been going, what we've been up to and what's coming. This pod we will reflect on the our journey so far, and give you a sneak peek into some exciting plans we have for the months ahead. Thank you for being a part of helping build stronger marriages and families. If you are interested in joining us at the Grounded Relationship Conference Aug. 23-24, get more info here: https://www.relevantchurch.com/grounded-conference/
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2024-08-0843 minBroken for BetterNavigating Marriage Through Seasons of Grief and Loss | Kurt and Denette Schaer | Andy and Deanna Cowdery
How do you balance it all? Do you find it hard to find a healthy balance navigating the good and the hard things? The next few weeks we are going to be taking a deeper look with the help of some other amazing couples that are walking out very real and authentic scenarios that many marriages face.
This week Andy and Deanna Cowdery join us to co-host this very important topic on grief and loss. Walking through the loss of youngest son was the hardest thing we have (and hopefully ever will have) to...
2024-05-161h 23Broken for BetterNavigating Marriage and Blended Families | Kurt and Denette Schaer with Laila and Dave ArmstrongHow do you balance it all? Do you find it hard to find a healthy balance navigating the good and the hard things? The next few weeks we are going to be taking a deeper look with the help of some other amazing couples that are walking out very real and authentic scenarios that many marriages face.
This week Laila and Dave Armstrong join Kurt and Denette for a vulnerable discussion on navigating how they not only blended their families but did it in a healthy way. What are the obstacles? What are the...
2024-05-0259 min
Broken for BetterLet's Talk Family
Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they continue this series on expectations. This week they discuss the topic of family. How do we handle tough conversations in front of the kids? How do we make sure our family feels like a priority? And what do we do when facing trauma/mental health/or difficult seasons?
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2023-09-2852 min
Broken for BetterLet's Talk CareerJoin Kurt and Denette Schaer as they continue this series on expectations. This week they discuss the topic of how our careers can impact our marriages and families. Do we make our spouse a priority? Do we constantly bring work issues home? What about if your work is ministry related? How do we keep the main thing, the main thing?
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2023-09-1448 min
Broken for BetterLet's Talk Friends
Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they continue this series on expectations. This week they discuss the topic of friends. Do they matter? What if we don't like our spouses friends?
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2023-08-3046 min
Broken for BetterLet's Talk Dreams
Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they continue this series on expectations. This week they tackle the importance of dreaming in your marriage. Why it is important and how it can benefit or hurt your marriage.
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2023-08-1539 min
Broken for BetterLet's Talk Money
Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they continue this series on expectations. This week they tackle a subject every marriage will have to figure out how to navigate - Money!
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2023-07-2544 min
Broken for BetterLet's Talk About SexJoin Kurt and Denette Schaer as they begin a new series on expectations. This week they tackle a very intimate and important subject for a healthy thriving marriage - Sex.
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2023-07-1144 min
Broken for BetterParenting - The Good, The Bad, and the Lessons Learned
Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they dig into different parenting styles, wins and losses they experienced as a couple and how they learned some good lessons and hard lessons along the way.
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2023-06-2842 min
West Ridge StudentsRECKLESS "Student Discussion Podcast Episode 54" - Is it possible for God to be good and allow suffering?In this week's Student Discussion episode, Avery, Charlie, and Caleb discuss one of the most critical questions of life and faith...why does God allow suffering? They discuss the interview with Kurt and Denette Schaer and talk about how they reconcile in their own lives about the goodness of God in spite of pain and suffering.They also discuss their favorite sport and their favorite teams. Unfortunately, the Mets were not mentioned.
2023-04-2741 min
West Ridge StudentsRECKLESS "WHY?" Series: Why is there suffering? - Todd Hampton w/ Kurt and Denette SchaerThis week, we look at a huge question...why is there suffering? Why do we experience moments of pain and brokenness? Todd gives us a few answers and then interviews Kurt and Denette Schaer of Broken for Better Ministries. They talk about the suffering they've experienced over the past year and how they have chosen to trust in God's goodness through it all.
2023-04-2456 min
Broken for BetterShould You Have to Work for It?Join Kurt and Denette Schaer as they discuss real life relationship issues like keeping score and whether it can hurt or help in the long run.
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2023-03-2226 minBroken for BetterBreaking BoundariesJoin Kurt and Denette Schaer as they break down how openly discussing boundaries can help build relationships.
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2023-03-0838 minBroken for BetterBreaking HabitsJoin Kurt and Denette Schaer as they break down how habits can impact our marriages and family life.
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2023-02-2236 minBroken for BetterBreaking the ClockJoin Kurt and Denette Schaer as they discuss the topic of breaking the clock regarding the time restraints we tend to put on ourselves in dealing with mental health, grief, trauma and marriage struggles.
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2023-02-0835 minBroken for BetterBreaking Bad - Breaking namesJoin Kurt and Denette Schaer as they discuss real life topics on family life, marriage, grief and trauma. This episode they dive into the topic of names and labels we give ourselves and how they work on redefining those in their own lives.
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2023-01-2415 minBroken for BetterBreaking Bad - Breaking the "crazy" cycleJoin Kurt and Denette Schaer as they discuss real life topics about family life, marriage, grief and loss. In today's topic they talk about the crazy cycle, how they worked together to stop it, get out of it, and just make it through it.
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2023-01-1023 minBroken for BetterWhen Reality Doesn't Meet our ExpectationsJoin Kurt and Denette Schaer as they discuss the subject of grief this first holiday season after the loss of their son.
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2022-12-0735 minBroken for BetterWhen love languages won't workJoin Kurt and Denette Schaer as they dive into real talk about seasons of life and marriage where love languages may feel impossible. Seasons of great trial, grief, loss can all multiply family dynamics, join them as they openly relay how they are trying to fight to keep hope alive.
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2022-10-2527 min
Broken for BetterWho is Broken for Better?Broken for Better is a marriage podcast for couples who want more than “fine.” Hosted by marriage coaches Kurt and Denette Schaer, each episode is honest, practical, and hope-filled—real conversations about real relationships.If you’re tired of surface-level advice, stuck in the same arguments, healing from hard seasons, or simply craving deeper connection, you’re in the right place. We talk communication, conflict, rebuilding trust, emotional intimacy, and the small rhythms that create lasting change.Whether your marriage needs a tune-up or a comeback, Broken for Better is here to help you fight for each o...
2022-09-0101 min