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Renovating U & MeAnger the Emotional FuseboxHello again Renovators, thanks for joining with us again! We're back after our short break, thanks so much for checking in with us! A fusebox is one of the integral parts of our home but if it gets out of control or is improperly installed, it can quickly become a nuisance and even a danger. Our anger is a lot like that and in today's podcast, we do do our best to unpack this often high voltage emotion. 2022-11-1737 minRenovating U & MeFoundations: Inspecting Under the HouseHello again renovators! We are back with another episode in our emotional house series. So far we've talked about the front of the house, which is probably the most visible part of us. However what about the stuff hidden beneath the house, even below the basement levels? In today's podcast, we'll be discussing foundations and everything found within them. This part of ourselves might have gone unexplored for many years, but it is more than worth surveying.2022-10-2054 minRenovating U & MeA Basket of Silk FlowersHey ya there Renovators, welcome back to the chapter of our emotional houses series. We will discuss the front of house. The front is the house is the very first thing that we and many of us if we are honest make our judgments of people and what they'll be like based on that front part of the house and for that reason many of us have done our best to use that as a method of changing or altering peoples' perceptions of who or what we'll be like based on the front of the house.Join us today as w...2022-10-0641 min
Renovating U & MeTo Renovate or to Not, That Is A QuestionHello again there Renovators! We're excited to announce that we will be starting a new series: The Emotion House. In the same way that we renovate a house, we can also renovate our emotions. However just like anyone who has ever embarked on a house project knows, it's always as easy as we first think. Many of us also often unsure of where to start and end and the entire processes can often seem overwhelming. In today's podcast, we'll be introducing this new series and talking all about the emotionality of a house. We've been doing this topic since the...2022-09-2234 minRenovating U & MeMasking Cycles and More! ft Mark DeJesHello there Renovators! We had extra time on podcast with Mark! Thankfully we'd only managed to talk about the first part of his book so we decided to be even further into the topic of his rejected mindset. You will enjoy.2022-09-091h 07Renovating U & MeThe Paths of the Rejected ft. Mark DeJesusHello again Renovators, it's great to be back once again! We talked many times about the honestly affects of rejection and how it can warn itself into every corner of our lives even though we know that we have experienced it it can still be a struggle to properly identify rejection's role in our story and to properly appreciate just how strong it's influence can be. Today's special guest Mark DeJesuss is here to take us through his book "Exposing the Rejection Mindset." Mark explains not only what rejection is but how manifesting itself in our lives and how i...2022-08-2552 minRenovating U & MeEntering the Unknowns.. Yikes!Hello again Renovators! Today we are wrapping up our threesome season over transitioning into our best selves. In our last two podcasts, we examined the joys of exiting a season and discussed our period s of examination that comes afterwards. While not always pleasant subjects that people generally feel at least somewhat competent in tackling. However, what happens when we go into the new? It can be overwhelming for some.! In podcast we'll be discussing this new realm of possibility and the four D's that encounter along the way. We know that this entire journey has been helpful to you...2022-08-1132 minRenovating U & MeCaught Up Into the MidairHello again Renovators! Today we continue our series over transitioning In a perfect world,. The moment that we end something, we immediately start a new activity without any hiccups or hesitation . This is the goal but, Unfortunately, life has us in situations where this is the case and many of us find ourselves , us included. It was an extremely easy reasoning process for us in this "in the between a season." It can be a great journey with no regrets so In today's episode we will show you what this season can be like in life and we give some...2022-08-0445 minRenovating U & MeThe Stirring of ChangingsHey Renovators, we are so excited to be back! Things are going to be looking a bit different but we are so very happy to leave and be done with this long, dry season and embrace the change as we uproot and enter a new season. The next few podcasts are going to be all about how we are beginning to transition. Transitioning into new areas for me has been a easy process and today's episode explores the first step, ending a season. Many of us can get stuck in the process of doing this and hopefully you find toda...2022-07-2839 minRenovating U & MeThe Power of Revelation part 2In this episode Beth shares how spending the summer co-writing the RU curriculum brought her a new found PASSION, transformation and hunger to dive deeper into learning even more about her identity as a daughter of God as well as what it really means to be image bearers of God, Imago Dei. Beth’s revelation of who we are created to be coupled with experiencing the personal LOVE of the Father have brought about an even greater desire to help others walk in freedom and TRUTH ! Listen in and be encouraged today and always that you have destiny and pu...2021-09-3033 minRenovating U & MeThe Power of RevelationIn Todays episode we share what The lord has been revealing to us in this season of our lives. When we surrender to the Lords plans rather than ours, that is when revelation is revealed. 2021-09-1629 minRenovating U & MePart 2 It's a Journey not a Destination with Paige ClingenpeelIn today’s episode we continue our conversation with Paige Clingenpeel. Paige is a wife a mom of 4, is currently in the role of Connection Director at Pine Hills Church in Fort Wayne, Indiana. She has her Master’s degree and is also a licensed Mental Health Counselor who has spent 10 years plus working with teens and their parents. Paige has appeared on Ted X Fort Wayne, been on numerous podcasts.2021-09-0329 minRenovating U & MeIt's a Journey not a Destination with Paige ClingenpeelIn today’s episode we have a special guest speaker Paige Clingenpeel . Paige is a wife a mom of 4, is currently in the role of Connection Director at Pine Hills church in Fort Wayne, Indiana. She has her Master’s degree and is also a licensed Mental Health Counselor who has spent 10 years plus working with teens and their parents. Paige has appeared on Ted X Fort Wayne, been on numerous podcasts. In today’s episode we peek into Paige’s life and the journey that the lord has set out for her.2021-08-1937 minRenovating U & MePart 2 Turning Pain Into Purpose With Michelle O'NealIn this podcast we conclude a 2 part episode with our friend and guest speaker, Michelle O’Neal. Listen in as she continues sharing her journey of faith, healing and restorationWe have enjoyed our time with Michelle so much over the past couple years as she has actively participated in the RenovatingU community. As you can see her testimony brings hope to the hurting and healing to the broken-hearted, It is therefore our HONOR and privilege to have her now as part of the Renovating U team at Living Stones Church. She will be very active in sma...2021-08-0551 minRenovating U & MeTurning Pain Into Purpose With Michelle O'NealIn today’s episode we will be interviewing our dear friend, Michelle O’Neal. Michelle has been a part of the Renovating U class and community for the past 2 years and will be sharing her healing journey in a 2 part series with us. Her message is one of healing, hope and redemption as she shares with us her story involving emotional neglect, addiction and the loss of a spouse to name a few. You won’t want to miss listening to this dynamic woman of faith. Her journey is a reminder of the faithfulness of God towards His people. Be sur...2021-07-2243 minRenovating U & MePulling Up The AnchorIn today’s episode we will be sharing how God has been speaking to us and stirring our hearts for more of him! When we take the time to listen and be still we find He meets us in ways we never expected! On today’s podcast, Denise shares what God has been doing and speaking to her personally. When we partner with the Holy Spirit he allows us to conquer what ever is in front of us.Be apart of Renovating U's Exclusive community where you can connect and be guided by like-minded people. JOIN THE C...2021-07-0856 minRenovating U & MeRunning at God's PaceIn today’s episode we will be sharing how God has been speaking to us and stirring our hearts for more of him! When we take the time to listen and be still we find He meets us in ways we never expected! On today’s podcast, Beth shares what God has been doing and speaking to her personally. When we partner with the Holy Spirit he allows us to conquer what ever is in front of us.Be apart of Renovating U's Exclusive community where you can connect and be guided by like-minded people. JOIN THE C...2021-06-2452 minRenovating U & MeThe Rise and Fall of PrideIn this episode we will be sharing how God has been speaking to us and stirring our hearts for more time with him! When we take the time to listen and be still we find He meets us in ways we never expected! On today’s podcast, Bethany shares what God has been doing and speaking to her personally. When we partner with the Holy Spirit he allows us to conquer what ever is in front of us. Be apart of Renovating U's exclusive community where you can connect and be guided by like-minded people. JOIN THE COMM...2021-06-1044 minRenovating U & MeA Peak Inside Renovating U This SummerIn Todays episode we give you all the details about All exciting things that are about to take place this summer.2021-05-2724 minRenovating U & MeWhat we Confront we ConquerHow many of us want to get to the victory lap of our healing so we can joyfully say, “yes I beat it!” I think if we’re honest.. it would be everyone! However, in order to heal, we must confront the lies of the enemy!In this episode, Denise shares with us that the victory comes in realizing you are not your past. It doesn’t define us but it has certainly influenced our choices and behaviors that we face! So how do we go from the confronting phase of healing to the conquering phase of the victo...2021-05-2030 minRenovating U & MeCan I Move on from my Past?Do you find yourself rehearsing these thoughts over and over, I can't seem to get it right? Why do others seem like they're together and I'm not? Why doesn't someone love me? Why don't I feel safe with my parents or caregivers? Why were the people who were there to protect me the ones I ended up needing to protect myself from? These are some of the questions Denise found herself asking. She always kept going and trying her best to keep moving forward. Perhaps you relate to her. You find yourself moving and circling back t...2021-05-1330 minRenovating U & MeI am Only as Good as I PerformIn Today’s episode we finish the conversation with Beth about a lie that she believed about herself. She discusses the steps that she took to conquer the belief that people will love you only if you please them. She learned over time to become a performer to gain approval. The toxic thread of performance has woven itself into almost every fabric of people’s lives. Getting free is possible and life changing, but it takes intentional recognition and desire to change. Listen in and hear how God restored her identity as she partnered with Him in her he...2021-05-0633 minRenovating U & MePushing Past The Performance MindsetDid you know if you Base your self-worth on how well you are performing for the day it is a recipe for disaster. That foundation will crumble underneath you! Performance based living will condition you to be a constant doer. You will only do, without knowing how to just be.The healing and freedom process begins with establishing a new source for affirmation and worth.How do you gain a sense of validation? What gives you your sense of worth?In Today’s episode we talk to Beth about a lie that she...2021-04-2937 minRenovating U & MeFinding Your IdentityPart 2 of our conversation with Bethany. In Today’s episode we finish the conversation with Bethany about a lie that she believed about herself. She discusses the steps that she took to conquer those lies that were in direct opposition to her identity as a believer in Christ. Listen in and hear how God restored her identity as she partnered with Him in her healing.She shares how we don’t have to live insecure lives because it’s God’s will for us to be very secure in Him. We were created to feel safe, sec...2021-04-2231 minRenovating U & MeIs Your Image your Focus?Do the voices in your head say you’re not good enough, smart enough…or just not enough, period? It’s time to stop listening to lies that sabotage your confidence and embrace the truth of who God says you are.In Today’s episode we talk to Bethany about a lie that she believed about herself which is “I am only as good as I look” This false identity left her always striving to do more and be more which left her empty and exhausted! Fortunately the story doesn’t end there. Bethany learned how to identify, confront and co...2021-04-1531 minRenovating U & MeThe Secret to Building HopeHopelessness results from the consequence of an inaccurate belief system. Have you ever believed the lie that tells you “there is no hope!” If you have, you’ve been deceived! Truth is transformational. It has the power to make you free! Lies have an opposite detrimental effect. How do you know that your perception of reality is inaccurate? How do you know that what you believe is not true....because you are not free! It can be just that simple.Accurate believing produces joy and peace and an abundance of hope. Acknowledging the truth is not suf...2021-04-0845 minRenovating U & MeHow to get off The Crazy TrainHave you ever felt powerless because you can’t CONTROL THE OUTCOME OR THE RESULTS of a situation or an event? Have you ever felt stuck in bad circumstances? Perhaps it’s a bad job, financial problems, addictions, unhealthy relationships, or maybe even something as minor as a bad attitude we can't seem to shake! When we’re in the midst of these problems, it can often seem like there’s nothing we can do to pull ourselves out of them. And is there something we could be doing differently to change our lives, even when our ci...2021-03-2540 minRenovating U & MeHow did I end up here?We are doing a 3 part conversation in the upcoming episodes addressing helplessness, powerlessness and hopelessness. This week’s episode is on HELPLESSNESS and it’s impact on our lives and how we can use this emotion as an ally when we turn to Christ. We address these questions: How did I get to the place where I have given up? Was it a process? Was it a choice? Was it really out of my control?What has caused me to feel helpless and what experiences are attached to the emotions that have left me feeling...2021-03-1843 minRenovating U & MeThe Surprising Way to boost your moodIn Todays episode we continue our final episode on Love Languages. Todays focus is all about physical touch. For those of us who believe that they don't need touch may really not be an accurate perception. God created all of us with the same nervous system receptors..Could it be that perhaps you were used to seeing this in your home between your mom and dad? Each of us must daily decide to love our people in their language. It takes getting our eyes off of ourselves and more on others while still keeping healthy boundaries! 2021-03-1142 minRenovating U & MeWhy Wanting Gifts isn't selfish after all!In today’s episode we continue our series on love languages. Today’s focus is Gift giving and Acts of Service. A gift is something that you can hold in your hand that says, I was thinking of you. Dr. Chapman talks about how is is not the thought implanted only in the mind that counts, but the thought expressed in actually securing the gift and giving it as the expression of love.For some of us, we really can’t connect with gift giving because it was done infrequently if at all. So how do you le...2021-03-0446 minRenovating U & MeThe Power of Understanding our Love LanguageIn today’s episode we continue our series on love languages. Today’s focus is Quality Time and Quality Conversation. We talk about practical ways we can display each this particular love language. We continue to discuss Dr. Gary Chapmans book, The 5 Love Languages and learn that to be loved intentionally is a whole hearted connection. It is, therefore, important to know how to reach the hearts of those we love.Be part of Renovating U's exclusive community where you can connect and be guided by like-minded people. JOIN THE COMMUNITY NOW! https://www.r...2021-02-2549 minRenovating U & MeHow’s Your LOVE Tank?Have you ever felt like you’re not worthy to receive love or perhaps you feel like the person you are trying to love has walls up around their heart preventing any sort of emotionally connection? In today’s episode we are going to dive into why we don’t feel loved. It’s as if people are trying to show us love but it doesn’t seem to make a dent in our emotional love tank. The reverse can be true as well when we try to show love to others and it doesn’t seem to make a depo...2021-02-1839 minRenovating U & MeThe Secret to loving men well with Morgan SnyderGod's design, desire, and intention is to empower humans and entrust them to participate in the ongoing creativity of the universe. However, examining our own history and the world around us reveals that the story of most men is being entrusted with power and having that power brings harm to themselves and those under their care. What went wrong? When can you entrust a man with power?In today’s episode we talk to the author of Becoming a King, Morgan Snyder, who comes alongside men (and the women who love and encourage them) to red...2021-02-111h 13Renovating U & MeDo I really matter?We all need connection and relationships in our life that are a safe place to show up “just as you are.” How about a place to go where you are loved and seen in the middle of your pain and in the middle of your progress! Ever wished you had a few people in your corner that spoke the TRUTH to you in LOVE and GRACE because they know you were created for MORE? Well, we thought you might like to know where to find such a group of like-minded women so we invite you to listen and as...2021-02-0430 minRenovating U & MeThe Secret to changing our ActionsWho we believe we are will direct our actions. If what we believe about ourself is not the truth about who God says we are then we will direct our actions based upon a belief system made up of lies. God has given us unique talents and giftings that are specific to each of us. It is, therefore, so important that our beliefs are rooted in the truth about our identity so that our actions and beliefs are congruent! In this way we will boldly walk out the plans and purposes God has for us! ...2021-01-2840 minRenovating U & MeWhy our perceptions aren't realityIn today’s episode we talk about perceptions and how they have shaped our lives!3 powerful questions to ask yourself concerning your perceptions.Where did my perceptions come from?What are my perceptions of myself, others, God?Who do I believe I am?To grasp the truth about how much God loves us, how He is for us and how much healing we need, WE MUST ADDRESS OUR PERCEPTIONS that have BECOME OUR REALITYCome join our thriving FB community group where women can come alongside each other and sup...2021-01-2148 minRenovating U & MeLets unpack your thoughtsTime is moving us forward, ready or not. We don’t get to say wait, “I’m not ready”, or I didn’t take care of business in 2020. Maybe you let fear keep you stuck. Maybe you gave up on 2020 because of COVID, which means you kind of gave up on you…..As we move into 2021, what do we want to pack for our trip into a new year? What do we want to unpack or unload from our backpack or suitcase to make room for new items that we want to have with us for this year’s journe...2021-01-1425 minRenovating U & MeBattle for Your Life: Defeating the Schemes of the Enemy With Pastor Joe WarnerIn this episode we have a special guest speaker, Pastor Joe Warner. He shares from his book, “Battle for your life: defeating the schemes of the enemy” Many times in life, we seem to battle with the same debilitating issues—from negative habits, thoughts, or emotions, to fears, triggered-reactions, and other matters that adversely affect us. We wonder if Is there any way to break free from the patterns that bind us, short-circuit us, or leave us in a place we really don’t want to be? But just as God has a plan for your life and strategie...2021-01-0743 minRenovating U & MeInterview with Beth and DeniseOn today’s podcast the mics were turned as wellness coach and podcast host, Moyra Gorski of Juggling the Chaos of Recovery, interviews Beth and Denise about the mission and work of RenovatingU. They discuss the affects of childhood wounds and offer hope and encouragement for those that are struggling in this season of life.You can find Renovating U on instagram and facebook. You can also find us on our website @www.renovatingu.com. We have some excited online courses and community groups coming up. We would love for you to drop your email on our...2020-12-3157 minRenovating U & MeChristmas TraditionsOn Todays Episode We have Two AMAZING guest speakers , Alex who is Denises son and Brittney who is Beths oldest daughter. During our conversation we share about our Christmas traditions and reminisce about all our past Christmas memories. Come follow our Thriving community on Instagram and Facebook @RenovatingU. We Would love for you to stay connected to all the EXCITING Things that are happening In January 2021!MERRY CHRISTMAS!2020-12-2447 minRenovating U & MeHoliday BoundariesThe holidays for some of us bring up so many unpleasant, fearful, lonely feelings and memories from the past that can bring up deep pain. We can be so wrapped up in the demands of our extended families and others that we often we can’t wait for them to be over.These feelings can be attached to the past that has now become the present and if we aren’t careful can become the future. We wanted to voice some possible challenges that may arise this year or perhaps have every year for as long as you ca...2020-12-1042 minRenovating U & MeChristmas Special with Jackie BrewsterIn this episode Jackie shares all things enneagram and how to have a stress free Christmas holiday. Jackie Brewster is a certified Enneagram coach and a certified Experiential Specialist. She lives in Franklin Tennessee with her husband, Stephen Brewster and their four amazing children. Together they started a consulting company that helps people, teams and organization overcome being overwhelmed. Jackie focuses on helping people, teams and organization uncover and discover who they are and how to grow towards health in their personal lives as well as in their corporate roles through the teachings of the Enneagram and Biblical truths.2020-12-031h 15Renovating U & MeIntentional Gratitude with Kellie HaddockKellie Haddock is a singer, songwriter, wife and mom. A former widow, Kellie has lived through tragedy and found hope and joy on the other side. Her music draws from real-life stories of beauty, heartache, hope and the celebration of life.The Thank You Project, a short film featuring Kellie’s story of gratitude after tragedy, has attracted more than 100 million views and has been featured on The TODAY Show among other national and international media outlets.Her passion for God and others is a gift she brings to this world and is best expressed th...2020-11-191h 01Renovating U & MeThe Growth Ingredient of TimeHow much time is it going to take to heal? When will I be fixed?Have you asked yourselves these questions before? If you have you will want to listen to this episode. In today’s episode we talk about the last ingredient of growth which is TIME!! If we don’t give grace and truth the needed TIME for us to change, then the change process cannot take place. The process of change gives God TIME to work his truth in our thoughts...this feeds into our attitudes, emotions, behaviors and fi...2020-11-1236 minRenovating U & MeThe Growth Ingredient Of TruthTruth is the second ingredient necessary for growing up in the image of God. Truth is what is real; it describes how things really are. Just as grace is the relational aspect of God’s character, truth is the structural aspect of his character. God’s truth leads us to what is real, to what is accurate.In relationships, grace and truth are essential nutrients for growth. One of the ways to understand the relationship between the two is that truth is like a protective framework or a skeleton. Grace is the heart of who you are...2020-11-0532 minRenovating U & MeThe Growth Ingredient Of GraceHow do we grow? Where do we need to grow? What if we just can’t seem to grow? Who can help us grow?I think these questions allow us to pause and examine our lives. It all seems great when we intentionally set out to grow. It feels good that we are putting in the effort, making our lists, getting our accountability partner but MAYBE we have the wrong ingredients, the wrong seeds to grow what we want to produce, harvest and ultimately enjoy.In today’s episode We are going to unpack one of the three in...2020-10-2950 minRenovating U & MeJuggling The Chaos Of RecoveryIn today’s episode we have a special guest speaker, Moyra Gorski. Moyra is a podcaster, wellness expert and business mentor. As a health advocate she has been helping people reclaim their health through education and top-rated wellness products for 20 years.Moyra continues sharing her life message of hope and health today through her podcast “Juggling The Chaos of Recovery.” Moyra and her daughter have both fought an eating disorder and while her daughter is still on her recovery journey, Moyra is standing with her on the other side of victory. Moyra’s message is “You can overcome any...2020-10-2250 minRenovating U & MeBuilding a Secure AttachmentIn today’s episode we wrap up the attachment styles and find hope that that we can develop a Secure Attachment Style as an adult. Certainly what was meant to develop naturally as a child with your caregivers is not as easily attained as an adult but it CAN be done. We discuss 4 steps to take in acquiring the Earned Secure Attachment.Good news is It is never too late to build a secure attachment as we begin the work of rewiring our brain and creating patterns, pathways, memories and relationships that correlate with those changes.2020-10-1540 minRenovating U & MeInsecure Disorganized AttachmentIn Today’s episode we are discussing the last attachment style, the Insecure Disorganized Attachment.Insecure Disorganized Attachment style is built around trauma that has involved our caregivers (parents, coaches, teachers, extended family etc..) who were the source of the trauma.When a caregiver doesn’t attune to the child the child is incredibly conflicted and disorganized in their thinking.Denise shares her personal story about how this lack of attachment early on played out in both her childhood and adult life.To learn more about attachment styles visit THE PLAC...2020-10-0834 minRenovating U & MeInsecure Avoidant AttachmentDo you have a sense of never really needing others?Do you devalue the importance of relating on an emotional level?Do you often put up resistance when someone makes a bid to connect? Do you push people away because you don’t believe you need others?Do you feel a sense of relief on extended periods of time with no connection with those you are in relationships with? If you answered yes to some or all of the above, then you may have what’s called an insecure...2020-10-0140 minRenovating U & MeInsecure Anxious AmbivalentDo you constantly struggle with any of the following?I often don’t trust others.I often believe that people won’t be there for me when I need them.I have a hard time asking for help. I find myself being overly sensitive with those I am closest to.I feel I’m not good enough to get the attention or love of others.It’s hard for me to rest in someone’s love.If you answered yes to some or all of the above...2020-09-2426 minRenovating U & MeTransformation through Integration with Dr. Alison CookYou can turn your shame to joy, your anger to advocacy, and your inner critic into your biggest champion. Do your emotions control you or do you control your emotions? Many people let guilt, anger, or self-criticism dominate their lives and negatively affect their relationships. In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook shows you how to calm the chaos within. This approach will help you:know what to do when you feel overwhelmed, understand your guilt, anxiety, sadness, and fear, welcome God into the troubling parts of your soul, and move from doubt and c...2020-09-1748 minRenovating U & MeInvitation to Integration with Dr. Alison CookFor over 20 years, Alison has helped create transformative results for women, ministry leaders, couples, and families. Alison's Christian adaptation of the fast growing, evidence-based Internal Family System (IFS) model of therapy provides a step-by-step approach to managing emotions while in partnership with God. We talk with Alison about the book she co-authored, Boundaries For Your Soul, and how these boundaries make a huge difference when we are faced with trials. Alison shows us how to face these emotions and actually “befriend” the vulnerable parts of our soul. Developing healthy internal boundaries involves getting to know and care...2020-09-1042 minRenovating U & MeCreated for ConnectionHow is it that we are wired for connection but quite often we don’t feel connected to God, ourselves or others? In today’s episode we dive into attachment styles. God has wired us for connection and the first year of our life lays the foundation for how future attachments with others will be affected. Was there a secure, emotional, attachment bond between you and your Mom? The good news is however you answered that question, you have the ability to actually rewire what may be lacking from childhood. Tune in with an open heart a...2020-09-0352 minRenovating U & MeWhat would you say to your younger self?Do you love the younger part of you? Do you blame the younger parts of you? Do you want to distance yourself from the pain of the younger part of you?In todays episode we are going to help guide you in expressing your understanding, tenderness and comfort towards the younger you.We have so many thoughts and feelings towards our younger selves. We go back in time and remember when a word, a gesture, a look, or a touch towards us that literally stopped us dead in our tracks. It halted our steps only b...2020-08-2041 minRenovating U & MeSteps to begin HealingDid your Father and Mother or caregivers regularly tell you at an early age that you were loved? Did you feel like you were wanted and that your parents or caregivers wanted to spend time with you? Were you encouraged and validated? These can sometimes be hard questions to address. If you say that you came from a happy home where you were loved, ask yourself the following: ➡️Were you given the tools and love that you needed to be in healthy relationships with others?Or did you get a bunch of coping mecha...2020-08-1346 minRenovating U & MeThe Destruction of RejectionWhy is this happening?What’s wrong with me?Why am I like this?Have you ever asked yourself these questions?If you look closely, the wound of REJECTION is right there!The enemy loves to use rejection as a means to keep us stuck. It can be easy to deny its existence and even say it doesn’t exist but the truth of the matter is often rejection is at play in our life.Wherever you are in your life, your ability to RECEIVE love is at the heart of the...2020-08-0637 minRenovating U & MeShielding the SoulHow do we find comfort when we are in a battle and feel the attack of others around us or perhaps the attack we are feeling is from within, own self-condemning thoughts?In today’s episodes we discuss how the Shepard is here to shield us. If scripture says HE will be our shield then that must mean we will need protection throughout the seasons of our life!Our journey in life often leads us through the valley but we should not fear as HE is our protector. He goes before us.Isn’t it...2020-07-3037 minRenovating U & MeDo you trust where He is leading?How hard is it for you to quiet your mind? Can you turn off your inner critic? In today’s episode we discuss the role of the Good Shepherd I’m Psalms 23 and how HE is here to GUIDE us.We don’t have to figure life out on our own. His job is to lead me beside still and quiet waters. He refreshes and restores my soul (my mind, will and emotions). And lastly, He leads me in the paths of righteousness for HIS name’s sake!Notice it doesn’t say he leads me t...2020-07-2342 minRenovating U & MeResting and ReloadingAre you feeling burned out? Are you running on empty? Are you trying to find purpose, peace and assurance? Do you need a soft place to land that you can call home? In Season 2 of the podcast we will share some personal experiences, insights and truths from the Psalms that answers the questions you’ve been searching for regarding walking in peace in uncertain times. This Episode we uncover what is means to allow God to lead us to green pastures and to find Rest in uncertain times.Like always you can find us ins...2020-07-1643 minRenovating U & MeThe Gift of choice in relationshipsEach of us comes into relationships with the ability to choose. We choose whether we show up as our authentic self or if we put on pretenses to keep from being rejected. We choose if we are going to be vulnerable or if we will hide behind a cloak of shame and performance. In this episode we will explore the barriers that prevent us from entering into authentic relationships.As always you can find us on instagram and facebook at Renovating U. We would love to have you be apart of our community. Make sure to check o...2020-07-0940 minRenovating U & MeAll the FeelsIn Todays Episode we talk about our emotions... the good, bad and the ugly! We discuss the need to not only recognize our uncomfortable emotions but to begin to look with curiosity at what they might be telling us. As always you can check us out on Facebook and Instagram at Renovating U. We would love to have you apart of our online community. You can also find us on our website @www.renovatingu.com2020-07-0243 minRenovating U & MeThe Compassionate Stuffer and EmoterIn Todays episode we discuss what it means to show compassion towards others. We all shared if we are a "Stuffer" or an "Emoter". A stuffer is someone who has a hard time feeling much of anything. An Emoter is someone who feels their pain and can sometimes live a feelings based self center life. We all shared are enneagram numbers and how we show compassion towards others who are not like us. As always you can check us out on Facebook and Instagram at Renovating U. We would love to have you apart of our online co...2020-06-1151 minRenovating U & MeAn honest conversation on RacismIn Today's episode we talk openly and honestly about the needed response to racism. We talk about areas where we can have lasting impact and transformational stage. These areas include our personal responsibility, family conversations, church initiative and governmental responsibility. As always you can check us out on Facebook and Instagram at Renovating U. We would love to have you be apart of our community. You can also find us on out website at www.renovatingu.com2020-06-0446 minRenovating U & MeCommunity, Faith and Spiritual Formation with Anita LustreaIn Todays episode we had the Honor to have Anita Lustrea as our guest speaker. She is a broadcast professional with a career in radio spanning 31 years. She is a sought-after conference and retreat speaker and host of the podcast Anita Lustrea Faith Conversations. Anita is also an author with her most recent books including What Women Tell Me: Finding Freedom From the Secrets We Keep and Shades of Mercy, about her beloved Northern Maine.In todays Episode we discuss what it means to practice intentional spiritual growth. We also discussed what it means to have a...2020-05-2859 minRenovating U & MeBuilding communityIn today's Episode we talk about what it means to be in a community. We discuss all the different factors that make up a thriving community. We also discuss how communities can affect our lives. Come check us out on Facebook and Instagram at Renovating U. We would love to have you be apart of our community. You can also find us on our website at www.renovatingu.com2020-05-2153 minRenovating U & MeThe Importance of a routineIn today's episode we discuss the Importance of a morning routine. Whether you have a morning routine or you want to develop a morning routine. We believe that when you develop a routine in the morning everything in life flows better.Come check us out on Facebook and Instagram at RenovatingU. We would love to have you be apart of our community. You can also find us on our website www.renovatingu.com 2020-05-1448 minRenovating U & MeForgiveness part 2 with Pastor Marion JohnsonPart 2 of our interview on Forgiveness with Pastor Marion Johnson. In today's episode we continue our talk about forgiveness, specifically with our spouses and others we are in close relationship with.You can find us at Renovating U on facebook, and Instagram. You can also find us on our website @www.renovatingU.com2020-05-071h 01Renovating U & MeForgiveness part 1 with Pastor Marion JohnsonIn todays episode we talk with our very special friend, Pastor Marion Johnson. Marion is the wife of Pastor Ron Johnson from Living Stones Church in Crown Point, IN. She is the Mom of 8 beautiful children and 5 grandchildren. She is passionate about transforming hearts through the gift of forgiveness that she has received from God. She shares her heart for believers to walk in the freedom that a forgiving heart brings!You can find us on our website www.renovatingu.com and also on Instagram and facebook @renovatingU 2020-04-3048 minRenovating U & MeMoving from the escape room to panic roomIn today’s episode we talk about the challenges we face relationally and emotionally during a quarantine regardless if we identify as either an extrovert or introvert. We discuss how we can come along side our extroverted friends who crave connection. Also how we can best support our introverted friends encouraging them to be present emotionally and physically while being isolated.You can find us on Instagram and Facebook at RenovatingU. You can also find us on our website at www.renovatingu.com2020-04-2328 minRenovating U & MeQuarantined but not isolatedIn today's episode we discuss the importance of how to navigate the "we" in relationships at work situations, in marriage and friendships instead of focusing on "me". We talk about our soul and how we can best take care of our mind, will and emotion during this time. We discuss how to navigate our emotions and how we view soul care as seen through the enneagram. You can find us on Instagram and Facebook at RenovatingU. You can also find us on our website at @www.renovatingu.com2020-04-1633 minRenovating U & MeEasterIn the beginning of today’s episode we discuss our childhood memories and the traditions and memories surrounding Easter. We then transition into some deeper emotional topics regarding sorrow, grief, despair and other dark nights of the soul. We discuss the sorrows that we have had to conquer and how Jesus met us in our darkest hour. There were lots of tears in today’s episode and we ended with how God has brought redemption and healing in each of these circumstances.You can find us on Instagram and Facebook at RenovatingU. You can also find us on o...2020-04-0940 minRenovating U & MeBoundaries in QuarantineIn today’s episode we discuss some boundaries that we can implement during quarantine. We talk about the importance of creating a schedule with good habits that keep us in a healthy mindset. We also discuss the new normal for moms who are now taking on the role of homeschool parent during this time! Even if this was a role you assumed before COVID-19, it’s still a NEW way of working together as a family.You can find us on Instagram and Facebook at RenovatingU. You can also find us on our website @www.RenovatingU.com2020-04-0231 minRenovating U & MeOutbreak of FearIn this episode we talk about the pandemic response of fear to the crisis our country in facing with the COVID 19 outbreak. We all respond differently when restrictions are put on us and this loss of control can quickly spiral in our lives if we don’t confront the root of the cause that is driving us to act and respond from a place of fear. This episode is one of many in the upcoming weeks that will address the emotional responses that we find ourselves experiencing during times of uncertainty. You can find us on Instagram and...2020-03-2628 minRenovating U & MeSubconscious and Conscious Mind part 2Today we continue our conversation about our mind, our will and our emotions. We think that the event (trauma) that happened to us was what brought the emotional damage, but, in fact, It’s not the event that brought the damage to our soul (although the event was traumatic) it’s the narrative we told ourselves about the event. Today we discuss Bethany’s life events that created a false belief about who she was and how she began to dismantle those lies and embrace the truth of who God says she is! You can find us on Inst...2020-03-1937 minRenovating U & MeSubconscious and Conscious part 1 In this episode we are talking about the mind. We will explore the 3 parts of the mind; the non conscious, the subconscious , and the conscious mind. All of our wounds that happen to us from childhood are stored in our subconscious. These wounds include rejection, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, and physical abuse. If we don’t properly process these hurts and traumas, our past experience becomes our current perception which skews our reality. We will also be diving into each of our Enneagram numbers and how we dealt with our own woundings from life through our different lenses. ...2020-03-1142 minRenovating U & MeSoul Wounds Part 2Podcast 2 part 2 of soul wounds Last week we talked about how we are made up by our spirit, soul and our body. In this week’s episode we are going to break down the soul into its 3 parts as follows. The Mind is where consciousness, perception, thinking, memory and judgement reside. The Will is our ability to make our own choices free from force or coercion. The Emotion is, in essence, like the voice of our soul. It expresses what the soul is feeling. You can find us on our website RenovatingU.com ... you can also...2020-03-0535 minRenovating U & MeSoul Wounds Part 1This is part 1 or a 2 part series of soul wounds. In this episode we will discuss what a wounded soul looks like and how we will continue to live in a wounded state until we begin to address the damaged parts of our soul. As defined by Dr. John Tetsola, “Soul wounds are the damage that was inflicted in our soul as a result of the negative experiences, pain, and molestation against our soul that was never dealt with and remains lodged in our soul and produces wounds.” Some hard questions we will be discussing are: Why are we in the...2020-02-2734 min
Renovating U & MeRenovating U the introWelcome to Renovating U podcast where we learn to redesign our emotional blueprint. The hosts of this pod are Denise Recker, Beth Jacobus, Bethany Hahn and Alexander Bodine. This podcast is about breaking the cycles and the belief system of our family of origin, how we got to where we are and more so, what is underneath the decisions we have been making in adulthood that keep us stuck in toxic life cycles. How do we have a different life and not fall back into old ways, how do we move forward in life and how do we become...2020-02-2031 min