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DishusbandmataAfter Valentine's Day 2So Gracilis continues today on how to approach Valentine and what self-love can do for us and our relationships
2024-02-2305 minDishusbandmataAfter Valentine's DaySo Valentine's day has come and gone and some relationships have taken a new turn .But what if the turn was not what you expected ? Join Gracilis as she shares
2024-02-1604 minDishusbandmataConvictions & ConvincingSome people can be so convinced you are their spouse and go to all lengths to prove the point, but at what point should we go with our convictions , considering the fact we cannot force other people to love us /Gracilis shares some stories again that cause us to ponder ...
2023-09-2207 minDishusbandmataSeeing the other sideWe are best in our relationships when we learn to see things from the eyes of ither people .It helps our emotional intelligence and improves our relationships .
2023-09-1505 minDishusbandmataWeird Proposals 3Sometimes the way and manner a proposal goes determines its outcome , and some proposals can actually end the relationship
2023-09-0803 minDishusbandmataWeird Proposals 2Taking the time to propose in a manner that conveys respect and love can sometimes be what can make or mar a relationship .
2023-09-0102 minDishusbandmataWeird ProposalsSome people can propose in a way that makes you wonder, in this series, we consider weird proposals ,,,enjoy
2023-08-2503 min2023-07-2804 min2023-07-2102 minDishusbandmataWhat Men want 4Men usually say that they are simple but we would need to hear more from them
2023-07-1402 minDishusbandmataWhat Men want 3Keisha continues her interviews and shares yet another interesting point
2023-07-0702 min2023-06-3002 minDishusbandmataWorking with in-laws 4As we conclude this series, a wife writes and shares her experience dealing with her in-laws indirectly but putting her foot down
2023-04-2806 minDishusbandmataWorking with in-laws 3Our narrative continues but this time , a husband shares how he has been able to work with both his wife and his mother-in-law.
2023-04-2108 minDishusbandmataWorking with in-laws 2In-laws can sometimes be the bane of relationships, understandably many people dread their in-laws. But this relationship is one that we cannot but keep in such a way that we are comfortable in the relationship. Frank shares some insight to in this piece. Enjoy .
2023-04-1406 minDishusbandmataWorking with in-lawsAfter marriage, we have to deal with the new relationships the institution has created. Not many people have been able to navigate the waters of un-law relationship properly , sometimes wrecking their marriage. Joke shares her experience with us today .
2023-04-0706 minDishusbandmataCutting your coatWe used to think it was wise to cut our coat according to our size, however this size might sometimes not be fully accommodated for with the material we actually have and someone has jokingly said , we should cut it according to our cloth. However we understand this, there is a need to live within our means . Enjoy
2023-03-3106 minDishusbandmataChronicles of BorrowingSometimes it is necessary to borrow, but how do we go about it ensuring that it does not take away our peace of mind and cause health problems. Join our guest as she recounts her story. Enjoy
2023-03-2406 minDishusbandmataThe Contentment StruggleContentment is something most of us struggle with and the desire for more can sometimes bring us to a place where we begin to borrow. We need to understand what true contentment means so we an enjoy where we are on our way to where we are going .
2023-03-1705 min2023-03-1006 minDishusbandmataTake a momentThe busyness of the year can set in , making us feel overwhelmed . But we need to take a moment to enjoy and fully live as the moments make our lives .
2023-03-0304 minDishusbandmataA new startHow has your new year started ? It is the last friday of the first month and we can all learn from today's post
2023-01-2706 minDishusbandmataRemember "Hakuna Matata"We all may remember the Lion King and one of the most loved songs in that video. Our guest today shares from that perspective .
2023-01-2008 minDishusbandmataHappy New MeStarting the New Year may be daunting , but we can all start understanding .Our writers begin to share their experiences and as usual there is a lot to learn and glean from
2023-01-0604 minDishusbandmataContinuing Forever 2Gracilis continues from where Uche stopped last week, bringing in true life experiences of when the constant changes and another reason we can all be grateful
2022-12-3003 minDishusbandmataContinuing ForeverWe all need constants in life amidst all the ups and downs but what if what we considered as "constant" suddenly changes the game? Does our whole world crumble and most importantly,can we still be grateful ?Join Uche in this story as she shares from a personal experience. Enjoy
2022-12-2305 minDishusbandmataThe listEvery year we seem to have a list by which sometimes determines how grateful we are at the end of the year but what if we make another kind of list of the things we want to complain about and see how we are faring as that might indeed be an eye opener and would help us be more grateful
2022-12-1604 minDishusbandmataI choose Gratitude 2One of the surprising things we get to learn is that Gratitude does not come mnaturally to us. It is an attitude we must choose consciously and live by consciously.It has indeed been scientifically proven to boost better mental and physical health and once again using true life stories, this article highlights why it must be our choice in this season
2022-12-0904 minDishusbandmataChoose wiselyAs the year comes to an end, it is important that we adopt the right attitude , being grateful rather than complaining and throughout the onth of December, we will be looking at true stories that revolve around Gratitude as a relationship enhancer and the wise choice
2022-12-0205 minDishusbandmataShe hurts,we hurtAs we celebrate the International Day for Eliminating Violence against Women and Girls ,Gracilis shares lessons from practical situations and what we can all do to ensure we are all acting responsibly to ensure that women and girls are safe
2022-11-2504 minDishusbandmataCelebrating Manhood.This post is specially dedicated to all the men in our lives and to celebrate the International Men's Day.Why is it so difficult sometimes for men to celebrate themselves or accept celebration by others?
2022-11-1840 minDishusbandmataLying LoveLove is usually shown by actions and when our actions on a consistent basis do not show love and consideration for our partners, abuse is inevitable. Gracilis shares insights from true stories when people found out that the professed love to them was a lie.
2022-11-1108 minDishusbandmataAs you like itWe all have different expectations in our relationships but not communicating them usually causes some trouble .Understanding how to do this can either mar or make our relationships .Gracilis shares insights using a true story from her god daughter on learning to comunicate our desires
2022-11-0408 minDishusbandmataTrue FriendsFriendship is a gift we all can give and receive . It is also one of those relationships that we at Dishusbandmata care about
2022-10-2806 minDishusbandmataJourney to the altarThe journey to the altar is different for different people and for various reasons. In our post today. our writer shares her surprisingly interesting story with so many lessoms for us to glean
2022-10-2110 minDishusbandmataPregnancy-induced MarriagesThe way you start a marriage will definitely impact the marriage. There are several wrong reasons why people marry and becoming pregnant seems to be one of them. Gracilis looks at this reason and whyit should not be the reason for contracting a marriage using many pratical live examples . Enjoy
2022-10-0709 minDishusbandmataOne home, two houses Our marriages sometimes take a different turn from what we initially envisaged and Benny continues her story today sharing with us how she navigated living apart from her spouse. Enjoy
2022-09-3006 minDishusbandmataCelebrating YouSometimes we have to look inwards and enjoy who we are and what we are becoming and not allow our joy to be stolen by woulda, coulda . and when. If we are ever going to enjoy our lives and relationships, we must learnto celebrate and relish in the present . Our writer for today shares her story. Enjoy
2022-09-2308 minDishusbandmataI am your husbandSometimes people make some phrases that can affect us . Our writer for today shares how she heard this phrase from so many a gentleman when she was single and the impact this phrase eventually had on her when she got married . Enjoy
2022-09-1603 minDishusbandmataMy Hidden PregnancyHave you ever met those women who did not know they were pregnant till they gotinto labput? Sometimes we wonder how that happens and today, although she didnt discover in the labour room, Benny shares her true life story on discovering she was pregnant until 24 weeks. Enjoy
2022-09-0909 minDishusbandmataLetting GoOur children can teach us things if we only pay attention. In this LOT series, Unyeme shares again with us lessons she learnt from her children and the need for us not to hold on to what might be sabotaging us in thee long run. Enjoy
2022-09-0203 minDishusbandmataThe Hearing EarAnother place that could bring drama in the church is the phrase "God said". It has caused a lot of drama, heartaches most times and if only , we could actually hear for ourselves. Joke shares her practical lessons she learnt using her story. Enjoy
2022-08-2606 minDishusbandmataChurch Drama 3Food is another thing that can easily generate drama in the church. It is the one thing that could serve both as a sign of acceptance or rejection and sometimes cause unnecessary malice. Enjoy
2022-08-1907 minDishusbandmataChurch Drama 2Wecontinue our series on Church Drama and Gracilis relishes on some memories and lessons learnt while grouing up and being part of a church .
2022-08-1207 minDishusbandmataChurch DramaWe are excited to begin this series in a setting we have never really done officially. Most of us beleieve in God and attend church . And with attendance, we have certain expexctations. How can we manage ourrelationships at church, maximize them , ensuring that the drama does not totally rob us of the benefits of the place and the people.
2022-08-0508 minDishusbandmataA Friend in DeedKeisha decides to round up pur series on Frenemies by looking at who a true friend is.and sharing from her own experience how true friendship has affected her life positively. She celebrates her friends and says that the gains of friendship cannot be fully quantified.
2022-07-2908 minDishusbandmataFrenemies 2Having enemies as friends can be tough and the relationship most times , ends up being toxic .When it comes to frenemies, we will never really be able to enjoy the friendship as it is usually one-sided. Gracilis continues this week as she shares about frenemies and sheds some more light on them . Enjoy
2022-07-2206 minDishusbandmataFrenemiesA card once read, "God knew mothers could not be everywhere and he created friends." The blessing of good friends is so precious but what do we do with some pretend friends who are actually enemies . Interestingly, a word has been coined for them and in this post, Gracilis shares what she has learnt about frenemies .
2022-07-1506 min
2022-07-1115 minDishusbandmataKeep at ITLittle Ones Teaching - There is so much we can learn by just observing children around us and Unyinme once again shows us practical lessons she learnt from observing her set of twins in this post. Enjoy .
2022-07-0803 minDishusbandmataEnough LightSometimes a single person can be faced with the challenge of knowing who to settle down with .Our writer for today shares her personal experience and why she decided on her current husband as the one. She has been married for almost 9 years and hopes to mark her 10th year wedding anniversary next year.
2022-07-0104 minDishusbandmataVoices from the villageOur fathers are usually the symbol of discipline in the homes although mothers usually are apportioned the blame when a child does not turn out right . But beyond what parents can do, there is still the collective responsibility of the community to buffer what is taking place in the home . Our writer looks at this concept with practical examples as she shares her own story.Enjoy
2022-06-3009 minDishusbandmataDads & DaughtersOn this last friday , we round up the theme of the month as we look at the unique relationship between fathers and their daughters . This relationship can be nurtured in a way that will help the little girls develop healthy relationships further in their adult life
2022-06-2406 minDishusbandmataThe Search for "Y"Society seems to place a greater value on children of a particular gender and the pressure to have a male child is unnecessarily placed on a woman . Although this might come from the larger family, some husbands add to the pressure irrespective of the scientific evidence that they are the ones responsible .Our writer today shares her experience and how she has dealt with this situation in her home citing her last pregnancy. Enjoy
2022-06-1906 minDishusbandmataA dad writesOur guest writer shares his story of what it meant for him the first time he became a dad. He shares the joys, challenges and everything inbetween that he experiences being a father to his only child, a daughter
2022-06-1706 minDishusbandmataFor you, DaddyAlthough it is over a decade he died, Zippy remembers her dad and decides to remember him in a unique way .She decides to appreciate him by writing a letter. She recounts the many lessons he taught and the legacy he left as she shares the wonderful relationship she had with him.
2022-06-1005 minDishusbandmataMe, a Daddy's girl?As we celebrate Father's Day this month, we examine the relationships between fathers and daughters and our guest writer starts by writing about the difficult relationship she has had with her father, filled with lessons for us all. Enjoy
2022-06-0306 minDishusbandmataFirst Class LoveOur earliest experiences of love usually start from home and most times, it beginsfrom the womb of our mothers . As Mother's day was celebrated this month in North America,this post is a tribute to step-mothers who refuse to treat their step-children with a second class citizen status in their homes . Even in blended families, all children can receive first class love.Enjoy
2022-05-3007 minDishusbandmataPornography-a bedroom enemyGracilis continues the discussion and discusses how beyond making friendship a solid rock for all we do , there is a need to keep out enemies from our bedroom and discusses Pornography as one of the enemies to avoid. Gracilis has also had live sessions on Instagram &Facebook on CADA Matters on the issue of Domestic abuse &Pornography . We are passionate about your relationships being healthy. Enjoy
2022-05-2705 minDishusbandmataKeep TalkingLittle Ones Teaching -We also learn from our children and in this post, our guest writer Unyinme shares an important lesson she learns from her set of twins. Insightful and written with wit &humour. Enjoy
2022-05-2002 minDishusbandmataBedtoom FriendsThe value of friendship in a relationship will greatly help the sex. Gracilis continues with the theme of the month and the need for friendship to be on the table long before the sex begins as the oil of friendship is what colours the sex . In her practical and down to earth manner with practical examples, this is a post you are sure to enjoy. Enjoy and please leave a feedback.
2022-05-1308 minDishusbandmataIs Sex Overated?In this post, Dr Loretta Ogboro-Okor starts our discussion on the theme of the month centered on sex and our relationships. She shares candidly with true life examples, urging us to break the stereotype. Enjoy
2022-05-0609 minDishusbandmataThe Other SideThe ability to place ourselves in the position of others is one thing that will greatly help our relationships, improve our emotional intelligence as well as enable us to communicate better. In this post, Gracoilis discusses from true life experiences of interacting with people on social media , helping with the dos and donts.Enjoy
2022-04-3007 min
DishusbandmataI messed upThe good thing about mistakes is that they help you to get better . But we do not always feel that way when they happen and do not always want to make mistakes when it comes to the love thing. Our writer today shares hers with lots of practical wisdom.Enjoy
2022-04-2906 minDishusbandmataWhen it endsSometimes it lasts for long , but sometimes it hurts inside. With every potential love , there is the potential of a heartbreak and our theme continues as we look at some more stories in this post . Enjoy
2022-04-2209 minDishusbandmataHonourable ExesAfter love goes sour. we cannot let it define our attitudes or the way we treat our former sweethearts. Rather than being dramatic, we can all learn to be honourable in such a way that we do not shatter the remaining self-esteem o f those we once loved. Gracilis shares several insights with practical stories in this post .Enjoy
2022-04-1508 minDishusbandmataDramatic ExesHaving a heartbreak can be bad enough but worse still is when you meet an Ex who is a drama queen/king. How do you get out of the situation and what can one do to ensure that meeting up with Ex=es especially unexpectedy does not turn to a nightmare.? Frank writes candidly from his practical experience . Enjoy
2022-04-0806 minDishusbandmataGIST with DishusbandmataIn this Live Session , some of our writers look behind the scene on the theme of March to discuss generally the subject of "Neighbours. Frank discussion as usual with lots of practial tips and lessons learnt over the month;s articles. Enjoy
2022-04-0315 minDishusbandmataFriends as NeighboursFamiliarity they say breeds contempt and it is sometimes best not to have friends as neighbours .It sometimes puts a strain on the relationship that makes close friendshi no longer an option. How does one guide against this? Our writer draws wisdom from her personal experience
2022-04-0206 minDishusbandmataPeaceful NeighboursMoving to a new neighbourhood and finding good neighbours can be daunting. Worse still is having a neighbour whose name is Peace and their actions are far from peaceful.Our guest writer today shares her experience with a neighbour called “Peace”
2022-03-2608 minDishusbandmataRomantic NeigboursSometimes some neighbours do not know where to draw the line and begin to take friendly gestures as signals for romantic involvement/What are the rules of engagement or disengagement when our neighbours want something more. Gracilis shares a personal story and how she managed the situation.
2022-03-1907 minDishusbandmataNeighbourly TipsWe all have neighbours and must learn how to live with them in the most civil way . Our writer todays draws from her experience of living and being a neighbour. She furnishes us with some useful tips drawing from her personal story
2022-03-1207 minDishusbandmataDigressive NeighboursNeighbours come in all shapes and colours. The good, the bad and the Ugly. Sometimes, the really bad ones might appear quiet but are really sheep in wolves clothing and may be out to groom your children .Gracilis shares her experience as a child with one of such Digressive Neighbours in this post.
2022-03-0506 min
DishusbandmataGist with Dishusbandmata- Feb, 2022 Edition In this maiden edition of "Gist with Dishusbandmata" ,join some of our writers examine the articles for the month, bringing in their own perspectives, what they learnt, liked and could relate to. It gives you a better insight behind the scenes and it is an opportunity to interact with the writes and their stories.Gist with Dishusbandmata is done on a monthly basis and will soon be available on our Instagram handle
2022-02-2714 minDishusbandmataTick, tickLove and being in love must go beyond wishing. We must each take our responsibility to keep our relationship fire hot. Our writer today shares how her dull bedroom became the opposite when she analysed her situation and took responsibility. It sure is something to read and comes highly recommended by the Gist ladies
2022-02-2508 minDishusbandmataKeeping Love freshIt may be made in heaven but it has to be maintained here on earth. Love is like a garden , it has to be tendered and when we don't do the work, it does not always go well . Our writer today gives us useful tips to keep our love afresh
2022-02-1804 minDishusbandmataMust have been loveLove can sometimes go wrong and turn sour, leaving us hurt. How can something that was so good suddenly turn the other way and how do we cope , especially in this month where we see love being celebrated ? Our writer today shares her story
2022-02-1107 minDishusbandmataIs this love?We are in the month of love and begin a series where our focus is love , what is love ? is it the feeling you feel when you feel a feeling you have never felt before ?Does our definition change over time, let us understand love so we can truly celebrate it
2022-02-0406 min