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The Grounded Union PodcastMy Wife Forced Me to Come Clean About My AddictionThis week on The Grounded Union Podcast, we dive deep into the most vulnerable season finale yet with Jake and Ashley, a couple healing from ten years of hidden pornography addiction. Jake shares his journey from early confession and biblical counseling that didn't stick, to years of deception, to the traumatic revelation that nearly ended their marriage in 2023. Through two separations, Pure Desire recovery, recent relapses, and now daily vulnerability practices, they're discovering what true intimacy actually means. Brandon and Caitlyn unpack the neuroscience of addiction recovery, introduce the powerful Four R's framework (Recognize, Receive, Release, Replace), and explain...
2026-02-061h 00
The Grounded Union PodcastWe Loved Each Other… but We Weren’t Telling the TruthIn this episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, we dive deep into the messy, real, and sometimes painful truth behind connection, honesty, and intimacy in marriage. Brandon and Caitlyn sit down with Robert and Bri, a couple grappling with betrayal, disconnection, and the challenge of rebuilding trust while staying present. They explore how distractions, shame, and unmet needs can quietly erode love, and what it takes to bring curiosity, humor, and joy back into everyday life. Listeners hear raw reflections on navigating shame, reclaiming presence, and defining the “best version” of themselves and their marriages. With actionable guidance on alig...
2026-01-301h 09
The Grounded Union PodcastConfronting My Husband’s P*rn Use…In this episode of the Grounded Union Podcast, Brandon and Caitlyn meet with Nathan and Danielle, a couple married for seven and a half years who are just one month into discovering Nathan's pornography addiction and pattern of inappropriate communication with other women. What makes this episode particularly poignant is how the truth came to light—Danielle had a dream about Nathan watching porn, texted him about it, and he finally came clean after hiding it their entire relationship. The hosts explore Nathan's journey of numbing out since childhood through weed, alcohol, and porn, connecting his fear of weakness to...
2026-01-2353 min
The Grounded Union PodcastShaking My Husband for Connection: A Man’s Journey of Waking Up EmotionallyIn this episode of the Grounded Union Podcast, Brandon and Caitlyn sit down with Jeff and Korinne, a couple married for nearly 27 years, to explore what happens when emotional growth finally arrives years after it was needed, unpacking how unresolved grief, emotional shutdown, and missed connection quietly shape a marriage over decades, while sharing how childhood emotional neglect, long-term resentment, embodiment work, the validation flow (listen, reflect, ask), and the 4R’s framework can help couples move through regret and resentment without shame, offering hope that healing doesn’t require a do-over, only presence, responsibility, and the courage to feel...
2026-01-161h 00
The Grounded Union PodcastI’ve Had 8 Physical AffairsIn this conversation of the Grounded Union Podcast, Brandon and Caitlyn sit down with Russell and Kim, a couple married for 32 years facing the devastating aftermath of eight physical affairs. Russell reveals his pattern of infidelity spanning decades, including one affair lasting over two years, while Kim shares her experience of steadfast commitment despite repeated betrayal. The hosts guide Russell through the crucial realization that he's been lying to himself, not just his wife, identifying missing pieces in his story that keep him trapped in denial. Caitlyn powerfully confronts the incomplete narrative Russell presents, explaining how his "iceberg" of...
2026-01-0947 min
The Grounded Union PodcastLying About My Addiction for Decades Then Getting CaughtIn this episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, we dive deep into the raw realities of addiction, deception, and recovery as Brandon and Caitlyn sit with Chris and Jessica just weeks after the revelation of Chris’s decades-long pornography addiction. Chris shares his journey through early exposure, secrecy, and lifelong patterns of lying, while Jessica opens up about the heartbreak of discovering hidden truths in their marriage. The conversation highlights how addiction feeds on avoidance, distraction, and unmet emotional needs, not just behaviors. Brandon and Caitlyn provide compassionate, actionable guidance, including screen detox, journaling, and the 4R’s framework, offe...
2026-01-0246 min
The Grounded Union PodcastWhen Recovery Work Falls Short: Facing Denial, Objectification, and the Process of ChangeIn this episode of the Grounded Union Podcast, Evan and Kelsey share their raw journey through sex addiction recovery in their first year of marriage. Evan courageously unpacks his 20-year porn addiction history, revealing how denial structures kept him trapped even while attending 12-step meetings. After becoming complacent during their engagement, Evan's "gaslighting himself" about Instagram porn spiraled into deeper patterns—including objectifying his postpartum wife. What makes this conversation remarkable is Evan's radical transparency: he's already dismantling denial structures monthly, admitting to objectifying women everywhere, and facing the most painful truth—he's been judging Kelsey's body. Brandon and Cait...
2025-12-2652 min
The Grounded Union PodcastIs There Hope After My Husband’s 16-Year Porn Addiction?In today’s episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, discover how true healing after long-term porn addiction requires going far deeper than behavior change. Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen walk alongside Dave and Katie as they unpack the decades of pain beneath Dave’s 16-year addiction, pain rooted in childhood sexual trauma, religious shame, and a lifelong belief that he was “defective.” The conversation shifts powerfully as Katie reveals that the deepest trauma is no longer the pornography itself, but the cycle of partial honesty, shame spirals, and having to heal alone. Brandon and Caitlyn challenge Dave’s patterns of self-loath...
2025-12-191h 12
The Grounded Union PodcastWhy is my husband STILL lying to me?In this episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, Brandon and Caitlyn coach Drew and Chelsea through a three-year journey of porn addiction recovery that's been overshadowed by persistent lying. In this live call-in session, Chelsea vulnerably shares her heartbreak: despite Drew's initial confession and stopping pornography, she has "literally zero trust" as small lies continue to surface. Brandon and Caitlyn trace Drew's compulsive dishonesty back to childhood shame and his first exposure to pornography at age eight, revealing why traditional one-time disclosures fail. They challenge Drew to embrace daily radical transparency, explaining that "silly lies" signal deeper hidden truths...
2025-12-121h 00
The Grounded Union PodcastWhy You Should Stop Everything to Save Your MarriageIn this episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen dive deep into why pausing everything else might be the most important decision you ever make for your marriage. They get raw about the hidden costs of busyness, distractions, and avoidance, sharing personal stories from their own journey, including Brandon stepping down from ministry and Caitlyn reclaiming hours in her day, to illustrate how chronic exhaustion and misaligned priorities quietly erode intimacy. This podcast explains why facing pain head-on, regulating your nervous system, and creating space for transformative conversations are essential for rebuilding trust and connection. Packed...
2025-12-0641 min
The CLIMB with Teko Bailey: For Men Ready to Rise in PurposeBrian Doerksen: JUNO & Dove Award Winner on Faith, Family, and Writing Worship for the WorldBrian Doerksen’s journey is one of faith, resilience, and love. Known worldwide for timeless worship anthems like Come Now Is the Time to Worship, Faithful One, and Hope of the Nations, Brian has spent over 35 years writing songs that carry people through both joy and grief. Behind the awards and global recognition lies a deeper story of brokenness, family, and learning to worship through pain.
In this conversation with host Michael Wildes, Brian shares how songs like Hope of the Nations were birthed in the shadow of 9/11, and how Come Now Is the Ti...
2025-10-0253 min
The Grounded Union PodcastHow We Handle ConflictIn this episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, we touched on the fundamental misunderstanding most couples have about conflict - it's not about communication styles, it's about unhealed pain. Brandon and Caitlyn dismantle the myth that arguing stems from everyday disagreements like where to go to dinner, revealing instead how betrayal trauma, broken trust, and prolonged disconnection create explosive emotional reactions. They share their personal transformation from a cycle where Brandon's porn addiction triggered defensive responses and Caitlyn's pain was met with minimization. The breakthrough came when Brandon learned to lean into her pain rather than run from it...
2025-09-2644 min
The Grounded Union PodcastIs Anxiety Plaguing Your Marriage?In today’s episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, discover how anxiety can silently sabotage your marriage and the small daily habits that can set you free. Brandon opens up about his years of crippling anxiety and the coping mechanisms that masked the problem: endless scrolling, gaming, and withdrawing from family life. A breaking point came with a 40-day fast and a panic attack that forced him to face the truth. Caitlyn brings a powerful perspective on why so many couples lack the emotional vocabulary to navigate these struggles, and how that gap fuels disconnection. Together, they share practical st...
2025-09-1930 min
The Grounded Union PodcastThe Secrets to a Peaceful and Connected MarriageThis week on The Grounded Union Podcast, hosts Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen expose the myth that dates are the key to a healthy marriage. Through their own story, they reveal that while they went on many dates during the most tumultuous years of their marriage, their deepest connection was forged in the last five years, a period with very few dates. The episode offers a new perspective on what it means to be truly connected, emphasizing that intentionality in everyday moments is far more powerful than a weekly dinner out. Brandon and Caitlyn provide actionable advice, such as confronting...
2025-09-1234 min
Let’s Go for a Walk (And Talk)This is My Life with Brian DoerksenLet’s Go for a Walk (And Talk) is a slow, honest podcast where I walk with people and ask them real questions about life, creativity, presence, and what it means to be human. No scripts, no rush—just thoughtful conversations out in nature. Sometimes we talk about how the beauty of nature can be overwhelming.Join Brian Doerksen on a reflective walk through nature as he shares how the phrase “This is my life, I want no other” shapes his gratitude, creativity, and faith. A heartfelt conversation about acceptance, beauty, and finding peace in the life we’ve be...
2025-09-0839 min
The Grounded Union PodcastWhy Relapse to Addiction Is So CommonIn this episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, we dive deep into why addiction relapse is so devastatingly common and how couples can break free from this destructive cycle forever. Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen share their raw journey through five years of repeated relapse before discovering the root-level healing that changed everything. They reveal why surface-level solutions fail and introduce their "roots and rewiring" approach - examining childhood trauma, spiritual beliefs, and life paradigms that keep people trapped. The hosts emphasize getting to the core wounds rather than just managing symptoms, challenging listeners to treat addiction recovery not as...
2025-09-0541 min
The Grounded Union PodcastDoes My Spouse Really Want to Change?In today’s episode of Grounded Union Podcast, discover how to distinguish between surface-level apologies and genuine transformation. Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen tackle one of the hardest questions couples face: “Does my spouse truly want to change?” Through raw personal stories of repeated betrayals, false starts, and painful honesty, they highlight the subtle yet powerful signs of authentic change. From nervous system regulation to the hard work of transparency, this episode sheds light on both red flags and green lights for anyone navigating broken trust.Dates and locations for our 2025 Grounded Union workshops & intensives:🏝️Maui, Hawaii – 3-Day Intensiv...
2025-08-2936 min
The Grounded Union PodcastWhy Christian Disciplines Aren’t Saving Your MarriageThis week on The Grounded Union Podcast, discover how Christian disciplines like prayer, fasting, and Bible reading—despite being foundational practices—sometimes fall short in saving marriages. Hosts Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen bravely share their journey from passionate missionaries with an impeccable "spiritual resume" to facing severe marital struggles, exposing the dangerous gap between spiritual disciplines and emotional maturity. Despite daily Bible reading, prayer, fasting, multiple church services, and even Brandon's 40-day fast, their marriage was crumbling with addiction, betrayal, and disconnection. They reveal how Western Christianity's segmented approach creates fragmented lives where spiritual practices become escape mechanisms rather than...
2025-08-2236 min
The Grounded Union PodcastHealing From Betrayal and Creating SafetyIn this episode of Grounded Union Podcast, Caitlyn and Brandon Doerksen honestly navigate the difficult experience of betrayal and the long journey toward restoring safety and trust in their marriage. Season 2 opens with the couple addressing their most requested topic: how to heal when trust is shattered. Caitlyn shares her vulnerable story as the betrayed spouse, including years of repeated deception and the critical moment she established firm boundaries. Brandon explores the difference between passive and active betrayal and emphasizes that good intentions are not enough without true inner transformation. Together, they explain why wounded partners shouldn’t be ex...
2025-08-1546 min
The Grounded Union PodcastWhat to Do When You're Attracted to Somebody Other Than Your SpouseIn this episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, hosts Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen dive deep into a widely debated and often shame-filled topic: being attracted to people other than your spouse. The conversation is sparked by a viral social media post that drew thousands of comments and opposing viewpoints, which the hosts read and respond to throughout the episode. They challenge the common narrative that men are "biologically wired" to be attracted to other people, arguing instead that this is a learned belief system. The discussion gets to the core of why this is such a painful topic for...
2025-08-0858 min
The Grounded Union PodcastHow to Get Your Husband to ChangeIn this episode of Grounded Union Podcast, we dive deep into the real story behind how lasting change happens in marriage—and why you can’t force your husband to change. Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen share raw, vulnerable insights from the darkest seasons of their relationship, when betrayal, denial, and disconnection ruled their home. Caitlyn unpacks the painful truth that no ultimatum or strategy could transform Brandon—he had to choose healing for himself. Together, they explore how patterns of shame, hidden behaviors, and avoidance sabotage intimacy and what it really takes for a man to reclaim emotional presence, empath...
2025-05-0238 min
The Grounded Union PodcastWhy Your Relationship Feels Flat and DisconnectedIn this episode of Grounded Union Podcast, we dive deep into why your relationship might feel emotionally dry, disconnected, or just… flat. Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen unpack the hidden layers behind emotional distance in marriage, including avoidance, passivity, self-protection, and performance. They get vulnerable about the moments their own relationship hit rock bottom—and what it took to rebuild true connection. From understanding the impact of unresolved stress to small, intentional steps like eye contact and getting out into nature, they offer practical shifts that can reignite emotional presence and intimacy. With powerful personal insights and grounded, relatable guidance, this...
2025-04-2547 min
The Practice Brave Podcast190: Coaching Through the Seasons: Community, Confidence, and Creating Impact with P&PA Coaches Katie Doerksen & Julie ChutterIn this powerful and heartwarming episode, I sit down with two incredible P&PA (Pregnancy and Postpartum Athleticism) coaches — Katie Doerksen and Julie Chutter — to highlight how they've each built meaningful coaching practices while honoring their roles as mothers and leaders in their communities. Katie, a mom of three from rural Alberta, opens up about her transition from kindergarten teacher to strength coach and co-founder of Girls Who Lead — a program blending leadership development and physical literacy for young girls. She shares how she's helping the next generation understand their bodies and embrace movement in a way t...
2025-04-231h 11
The Grounded Union PodcastThe Shortcut to Healing Your RelationshipIn this episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, we dive deep into the often-overlooked but truly transformative shortcut to healing your relationship: your emotions. Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen share how tapping into your emotional world—through bodily awareness, movement, and vulnerability—can radically accelerate trust, connection, and intimacy. They dismantle the idea that men are “wired” to be emotionally detached and instead show how emotional numbness is learned (and can be unlearned). With personal stories, practical guidance, and gentle truth-telling, they walk you through what it looks like to feel again, on purpose. If you're tired of repeating the same pat...
2025-04-1857 min
The Grounded Union PodcastNavigating Sexual Brokenness in Your Relationship (Part Two)In this episode of the Grounded Union Podcast, we dive deep into part two of Navigating Sexual Brokenness in Your Relationship, where Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen explore how to move beyond surface-level struggles toward true healing and intimacy. From overcoming shame and addiction to rebuilding trust and emotional connection, this episode is packed with raw truths and hard-earned insights. The Doerksens challenge common narratives around sexuality, break down where addictive behaviors come from, and share how they rewired their relationship from the inside out. Whether you're in the thick of healing or ready to take your relationship to the...
2025-04-1252 min
The Grounded Union PodcastNavigating Sexual Brokenness in Your Relationship (Part One)In this episode of the Grounded Union Podcast, we dive deep into navigating sexual brokenness in your relationship. Hosts Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen openly discuss their personal journey from sexual brokenness and hidden struggles to complete freedom and intimacy. They challenge common narratives about sexuality—particularly the idea that attraction outside marriage is inevitable—and share how rewiring the brain through honest communication and intentional practices can lead to profound healing. Brandon reveals the surprising clarity he's found after overcoming his compulsions, while Caitlyn provides powerful encouragement and practical advice for navigating pain and finding deeper connection. Listen in for...
2025-04-051h 01
The Danville Discussion - A Dwampyverse Podcast21. Hamster & Gretel Ep.10 - "U.F. UH-OH!" + Phineas & Ferb REVIVAL NEWS!Viva the Vegas! Don't be confused, "las" means "the" in Spanish. It's one of Hamster & Gretel's biggest adventures yet as Caleb talks about the 10th episode (and the first double-length episode) of the show, right here on The Danville Discussion! "U.F. UH-OH!": During a trip to Las Vegas, Gretel and Kevin are on the search for the aliens who gave Hamster and Gretel their powers yet didn't give Kevin his. However, the U.F.O. begins attacking and Gretel gets abducted by what turns out to be two familiar sibling foes who stole that spacecraft...
2025-03-2954 min
The Grounded Union PodcastHow Spiritual Bypassing Is Ruining Your MarriageIn this episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, Brandon and Caitlyn dive into a topic that many couples struggle with but rarely talk about—spiritual bypassing. They break down how faith can sometimes be used as a shield to avoid addressing deeper relationship problems, leading to emotional disconnection and unresolved conflicts. They share personal stories of navigating addiction, faith, and marital struggles, offering both hard-earned lessons and practical steps for couples looking to build a stronger foundation. If you've ever been told to "just pray about it" when facing real relationship challenges, this episode is a must-listen. Ou...
2025-03-2952 min