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Sex Help for Smart PeopleHow To Stop Avoiding Your Own Desires & Figure Out What You Really Want"Send me a text"Are you secretly scared of your own desires? I see this all the time in my practice – we avoid knowing what we truly want because we're terrified of disappointment. But here's the thing: your desires are there whether you acknowledge them or not, and avoiding them is just quitting in advance (there's no benefit). In this episode, I'm walking you through a powerful exercise that will help you uncover what you actually want (not what you think you should want). We're going to dig past those surface-level desires – like wanting the perfe...2025-07-2819 minSex Help for Smart PeopleWhen Touch Feels Off: Why It Happens & How to Fix It"Send me a text"Have you ever been with someone you love, but their touch just felt... wrong? Or maybe your partner has told you that YOUR touch feels off, and you have no idea what you're doing wrong?I'm diving deep into this incredibly common issue that so many couples face but rarely talk about. First, I want you to know: you're not broken, and neither is your partner. This happens to normal humans with normal senses, and it's actually important information your body is giving you.I'm breaking down the four...2025-07-2124 minSex Help for Smart PeopleSpontaneous vs. Scheduled Sex: How Do We Find The (Right) Time?"Send me a text"It can be hard for couples to find good times to connect sexually. Busy lives or different sleep schedules are just some contributing factors that make finding time for sex especially challenging. Add to that an expectation that sex is "supposed to be spontaneous" and we have a recipe for frustration. Join me for an exploration of where the whole "thing" around spontaneity comes from, why you might like to de-bunk the myth that spontaneous = passionate, and how you can find more time and better times to get it on. ...2025-07-1413 minSex Help for Smart PeopleAre We Just Too Sexually Incompatible? How to Know."Send me a text"If you're asking yourself whether you and your partner are just too sexually incompatible for your relationship to work, this episode is for you. (Tip: It's also for people you know who seem to be asking themselves this all the time. Please share it and you could save someone a lot of angst). Join me as we dive into the hidden issues underneath this question. If you or someone you know is asking this question, you know that it can take a lot of energy and really sap your joy. So l...2025-07-0725 minSex Help for Smart PeopleWhat Really Turns Me On? With Danielle Harel, PhD"Send me a text"Don't miss this important (and fun) conversation with Danielle Harel, PhD, co-founder of the Somatica Institute. We talk all about discovering your deep turn-ons, how to know and ask for what you like, and why everyone's arousal pathway is different. We also flirt and laugh a lot while we demonstrate a mini-conversation to have with your partner. Grab the Somatica Institute's guide to Finding Your Hottest Sexual Movie (what turns you on) with this special link for podcast listeners: https://learn.somatica.com/link/6emf31?url=https%3A%2F%2F...2025-06-3045 minSex Help for Smart PeopleHow Do I Stop Faking Orgasms?"Send me a text"Join me today as I walk through what's really underneath the tendency and temptation to fake orgasms, and how to stop. You'll learn the hidden costs of this habit to you and your relationship. You'll learn what it is actually all about and how to start creating the safety you need in order to have authentic pleasure, connection and communication. Get my free email newsletter with helpful tips, plus a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, and learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com. 2025-06-2317 minSex Help for Smart PeopleHelping Men Last Longer with Caitlin V"Send me a text"Premature ejaculation or "PE" is one of the most widespread challenges for men and couples that include men. There's no special pill being sold on TV. And while it's not quite that easy to find good help -- we got you! There ARE solutions that work way better than trying to think about baseball or frantically masturbating before a date. Join me for a fun and important conversation with Caitlin V, fellow sex coach, YouTube sensation and host of Good Sex on MAX and Discovery+. Our conversation focuses on the best pa...2025-06-1635 minSex Help for Smart PeopleThe Connection Between Self-Compassion & Great Intimacy (Plus How To Boost Yours)"Send me a text"It may be surprising, but how we treat ourselves is irrevocably linked to how happy we are in our connections with others. Tune in to this heartfelt episode for shortcuts on how to have a better relationship with yourself, first and foremost. You'll be amazed at how that will transform your relationships with everyone else (and your sex life!)Lit & Luscious Women's Retreat in Hawaii January 2026 is open for registration and early-bird discount! Come to Hawaii with me & co-host Kama Hagar for The Most Fun Retreat Ever Made -- just for...2025-06-0919 minSex Help for Smart PeoplePitfalls of "Polarity:" 5 Rules to Avoid Harming Your Sex Life"Send me a text"Applying the idea of "polarity" without full knowledge can actually undermine you and harm your sexual connection. So it's best to be informed. Some people act like the idea of "polarity" applied to relationships is some sort of universal truth, but the reality is that it's just a made-up concept that is really only helpful in. I’m going to break down what polarity actually is and the facts beneath the hype, so you can apply your brilliant critical-thinking mind to decide if you want to play with this idea yourself or not. I’...2025-06-0226 minSex Help for Smart PeopleKind Boundaries & Building Secure Attachment: A Guide"Send me a text"This episode will walk you through how to have boundaries that feel great. Good boundaries feel like a big hug for you, rather than a barbed-wire fence to control others. We'll also cover why kind boundaries are critical to creating secure attachment. Don't miss this one!Lit & Luscious Women's Retreat in Hawaii January 2026 is open for registration and early-bird discount! Come to Hawaii with me & co-host Kama Hagar for The Most Fun Retreat Ever Made -- just for you. Go to https://www.kamahagar.com/retreat-page/ to register now a...2025-05-2626 minSex Help for Smart PeopleGiving and Receiving Oral & Troubleshooting (Plus: Why People Often Dislike 69)"Send me a text"Today we're talking about common challenges & solutions for giving and receiving oral sex. Plus, since this is episode 69, I'm celebrating with some cautionary tales around 69, and I'll cover why so many people just don't like it (plus what to do instead). Get my free email newsletter with helpful tips, plus a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, and learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com. 2025-05-1919 minSex Help for Smart PeopleClaim Your Agency or Create Helplessness: You Choose"Send me a text"If you're feeling like change is impossible, you may be falling into a sneaky self-undermining habit. Instead of imagining your worst beliefs are true, take a listen to this empowering episode. Get my free email newsletter with helpful tips, plus a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, and learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com. 2025-05-1215 minSex Help for Smart PeopleIs It So Bad To Be A Tease? Redefining & Reclaiming Play"Send me a text"Ever wish you had more make out sessions with your partner(s)? Ever wish you felt 100% allowed to just flirt or kiss and then . . . stop? Do you ever wish you could get physical affection without feeling like you're on the hook for getting your partner to orgasm? If so, this episode is for you! It's also for anyone who notices their partner avoiding sex. And anyone who, on reflection, notices that they take flirtation and making out as a signal that their partner wants sex, but...2025-05-0521 minSex Help for Smart PeopleMonogamy, Non-Monogamy & Choosing Your Relationship Structure on Purpose"Send me a text"Both monogamy and non-monogamy are valid choices, but a lot of people default into the modern-day societal norm without even fully discussing it or considering the options that best align with us. This episode provides an introduction to the different choices for relationship structures available. Whatever you choose, I encourage you to make it an intentional decision for you and your partner or partner. I also provide direct you to some resources that can really help. As a coach who has helped many couples navigate changes in their relationship structures, I highly recommend h...2025-04-2827 minSex Help for Smart PeopleBig Picture Know-How For Great Sex & Relationships"Send me a text"This episode gives you the bird's-eye view of what we all need to know and understand in order to have our best sex life and best relationships. You might want a pencil and paper for this one!Lit & Luscious Women's Retreat in Hawaii January 2026 is open for registration and early-bird discount! Come to Hawaii with me & co-host Kama Hagar for The Most Fun Retreat Ever Made -- just for you. Go to https://www.kamahagar.com/retreat-page/ to register now and give your future self the best gift ever. 2025-04-2127 min
Coach Business190: [Live Coaching] Email Marketing Strategy with Laura JurgensAnother special live coaching episode on effectively using your email list and developing an email marketing strategy that works."I feel like I'm shouting into the void right now.""I don't want to intrude and feel like my content has to be extra valuable and speak to everyone.""I've gotten hung up on how other people do it and feel unclear about what I should do."If you have ever had any of these thoughts or simply want to know more about growing and nurturing your list your way, this episode is for you!2025-04-1624 minSex Help for Smart PeopleHidden Intimacy Challenges for Over-Achievers & What to Do About Them"Send me a text"I'm breaking down the special challenges that over-achievers tend to have with intimacy, sex, and relationships today. I'm also going to tell you exactly how to overcome those challenges. If you're a person who's afraid of failing in relationships and intimacy, or frustrated that other humans and our own bodies don't come with better manuals -- I've got you. Lit & Luscious Women's Retreat in Hawaii January 2026 is open for registration and early-bird discount! Come to Hawaii with me & co-host Kama Hagar for The Most Fun Retreat Ever Made -- just for y...2025-04-1426 minSex Help for Smart PeopleWant Better Sex & Relationships? Practice This."Send me a text"A lot of people want great relationships and sex lives. Not a lot of people are doing anything useful to get there. Today's episode will walk you through a super common trap most people are stuck in -- and show you how to get out of it. I will explain exactly what you need to start practicing to get what you want. Lit & Luscious Women's Retreat in Hawaii January 2026 is open for registration and early-bird discount! Come to Hawaii with me & co-host Kama Hagar for The Most Fun Retreat Ever Made...2025-04-0727 min
Grief On PurposeWhen Grief Comes Again and Again. And Again. with Jessica JurgensWelcome to the first episode of Grief On Purpose – The Podcast! Host Laura sits down with Jessica Jurgens, who shares her journey through multiple losses and the many faces and experiences of grief. Jess shares the story of the death of her close friend at age 16, the death of her brother on 9/11, the death of her grandfather, and the death of a close adult friend. Jess reveals how she transformed her pain into purpose, using her experiences to serve and heal others. This raw, heartfelt conversation explores resilience, growth, and connection. Tune in for a powerful reminder that even in gr...2025-03-311h 04Sex Help for Smart PeopleWhich Comes First for You: Physical or Emotional Connection?"Send me a text"People have different ways of getting to connection. Some people find emotional connection necessary before they feel safe to connect physically. Some people want physical intimacy in order to access emotional connection. If you are different than your partner in this, it can cause a lot of strife. This episode unpacks this common issue and helps you understand how to start solving it. Get my free email newsletter with helpful tips, plus a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, and learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com. 2025-03-3113 minSex Help for Smart PeopleSaying No Without Guilt in Relationships & Sex...and everywhere else too"Send me a text"Saying yes to things you don't want to do is not helping your relationships. It's not being "nice" either. Today's episode will help free you from guilt that keeps you from showing up authentically and saying no when you want to. Learn how and why your "no" can be a gift to others, and why it can really liberate your relationship from hidden...or not so hidden...resentments. Get my free email newsletter with helpful tips, plus a free guide to Finding Your De...2025-03-2417 minSex Help for Smart PeopleKissing: Challenges, Explorations & Tips"Send me a text"This episode dives into all things Kissing. We'll cover basic Do's and Don'ts, and unpack common concerns about this very common activity. Many couples communicate pretty poorly if at all about their desires and preferences around kissing, which makes it very hard to get what you want. I'll help you get free of that and understand how to improve your kissing situation, whether you want more kissing, less kissing, or different kissing. Get my free email newsletter with helpful tips, plus a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, and learn h...2025-03-1720 minSex Help for Smart PeopleChristina & Brooke Share Wisdom from the Middle of the Change Process"Send me a text"Sometimes at the end of the journey it can be hard to even remember what it was like to be in the middle. Listen in to my interview with a wonderful couple of humans, Christina and Brooke, who are currently working with me. They openly share how they started out disconnected with lots of resentment. They discuss what they've learned so far and how they feel now mid-way through the process of transforming their relationship. Anyone seeking better, more authentic, and stress-free intimacy will benefit from their perspective. Lit & Luscious Women's R...2025-03-1037 minSex Help for Smart PeopleHow People-Pleasing Kills Intimacy & What to Do About It"Send me a text"There are 3 things I really want you to know about people-pleasing and intimacy. When you're a people-pleaser, you'll often feel like you're doing things to make others happy or doing things out of obligation. You'll also often feel like you're not getting the appreciation you want, like you don't have space and time for yourself, and/or like you are just tired of people wanting stuff from you. There's often an underlying current of resentment you may or may not acknowledge. Here's the truth: people-pleasing is hell on intimacy and relationships. T...2025-03-0315 minSex Help for Smart PeopleThree-somes & Group Sex: Fantasy, Reality & Avoiding Pitfalls"Send me a text"Lots of folks fantasize about threesomes or group sex, and some of us decide to try it for real. Both can be fun. This episode will guide you through how to have more fun with fantasy and how to make real-life group sex a good experience for everyone. Plus, I'll give you my best tips on how to find other partners and deal with the logistics of setting it up so everyone has a good time. If you're interested in threesomes, don't miss this one!Lit & Luscious Women's Retreat i...2025-02-2430 minSex Help for Smart PeoplePaths to Sexual Confidence: Real vs. Fake Confidence or Arrogance"Send me a text"A lot of people want more confidence but are afraid of fake confidence and arrogance. You’re right to be wary of that. It’s not helpful to be falsely confident or arrogant in intimate relationships and sexuality. Today we're going to talk about why, how to avoid fake confidence or arrogance, and how to build real confidence and empowerment instead. We'll talk about why it's the opposite of selfish. I'll also share the path to creating a deep, all-encompassing sense of worth and love-ability. I'll even give you a quick exercise to get...2025-02-1735 minSex Help for Smart PeopleCuring the Libido Mismatch Blues"Send me a text"If Libidio Mismatch is something you struggle with – you know it can be super hard on relationships. It is very stressful and disconnecting. If it feels like a big deal, it is. Research shows that most of our happiness is tied to how we feel about our relationships – so stress in a primary partnership is devastating to quality of life. It's smart to prioritize solving rifts like this above a lot of other things in your life, because it’s going to make the biggest difference to happiness and enable everything else to feel e...2025-02-1039 minSex Help for Smart PeopleBusting 7 Myths That Make It Hard to Ask for What You Want in Bed"Send me a text"Today we're making it easier for you to ask for what you want in your intimate relationships by busting common myths that hold us back. Make your life easier by listening in. Special Event Links: Libido Mismatch Clarity Hour: walk away feeling better about your capacity to reconcile a libido mismatch in your relationshipFree 1-hour FAQ and Ask the Expert February 18, 2025 5-6pm Eastern US time (Zoom option): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1232092474759?aff=oddtdtcreatorFebruary 19, 2025 6-7pm...2025-02-0324 minSex Help for Smart PeopleSexual Confidence: A Success Story in Overcoming Shame"Send me a text"This episode takes you inside a transformative conversation about sexual confidence and body trust. My former client Kama shares her raw experience of moving from sexual shame and orgasm challenges to deep embodied wisdom. This conversation goes beyond typical success stories, diving deep into how sexual healing catalyzes growth in all areas of life—from business decisions to personal relationships. Kama's story powerfully demonstrates how learning to trust your body's signals and treat yourself with compassion can lead to unprecedented personal freedom.Whether you're struggling with intimacy issues or sim...2025-01-2736 minSex Help for Smart People4 Steps to Confidence & Comfort in Intimacy"Send me a text"These are the steps to confidence and comfort that work. Tune in to learn the 4 key steps that will take you from anxious and underconfident to a true, deep, felt sense of comfort and capability in sex and intimacy. Frankly, they are not all easy, though some are surprisingly fun. These steps are what my practice is based on and why it's been so effective for my clients. That's why I'm sharing them with you today. Lit & Luscious Women's Retreat in Hawaii January 2026 is open for registration and early-bird discount! Come t...2025-01-2027 minSex Help for Smart PeopleThe Biggest Thing You Can Do To Feel More Sexual Empowerment This Year (and it's FREE)"Send me a text"This episode will explain the best, biggest thing you can do to improve your relationship with your own sexuality this year AND your intimacy with a partner. This is the one thing most people are NOT doing – and it is FREE. That’s right, people will spend loads of money this year trying to spice things up by buying stuff: lingerie, sex toys, vacations, and even sex rooms. But most people will fail to do this one, totally FREE thing that is the biggest game changer of them all, and the most e...2025-01-1324 minSex Help for Smart PeopleThe Most Powerful Step"Send me a text"Today I’m going to tell you a really personal story of how I almost quit on my marriage. I’m also going to share one of the most powerful ideas in the world for changing your life and your relationships. That sounds like a giant claim, and it is, but it is also really simple. If you look at the most joyful people who are living the lives they want – you will see this idea at work all the time. It is their defining approach to life, and it’s what enabled me to re...2025-01-0624 minSex Help for Smart PeopleLiberation from Religious Shame & Repression: an interview with Lisa"Send me a text"So many people feel disconnected from their authentic sexuality due to a history of religious repression and shaming. In an ideal world, religion would be universally supportive and comforting. Unfortunately, so many people have had the opposite experience, and wound up with decades of harmful ideas about themselves and their sexuality that they struggle to overcome. In this episode, I interview Lisa, a former client, who emerged from many years of religious shame and repression to discover her own authentic sexuality and access her own capacity for pleasure. Tune in and listen to...2024-12-3039 minSex Help for Smart PeopleRethinking Conflict: How Conflict Avoidance Undermines Relationships & What To Do Instead"Send me a text"Conflict is inevitable in close relationships. Doing it well is key to feeling confident, connected, seen, and safe. Many people avoid conflict, or let their default strategies overwhelm them in unhelpful ways. This episode will help you learn to stop avoding necessary conflict and instead use it to get closer and solve problems together. Conflict isn’t bad in itself – in fact, it’s really important for intimacy. It is doing conflict badly that is a problem. I was absolutely terrible at conflict, but I learned and it totally changed my life. Yo...2024-12-2335 min
Sex Help for Smart PeopleGetting the Right Help for Pelvic & Sexual Pain: Interview with Dr. Susie Gronski"Send me a text"Pelvic and sexual pain is absolutely treatable, even though it can be hard to admit and challenging to find the right help. Join me to hear from pelvic health expert Dr. Susie Gronski. This episode will help you release shame or stigma about pelvic pain, which is very common. Dr. Gronski also explains common struggles with sexual and pelvic pain for both penis and vagina-owners, and helps you navigate the challenges in finding the right professionals to support you.Meet my guest: With over a decade of expertise in...2024-12-1640 minSex Help for Smart PeopleWhen You're Bummed That You Have to ASK..."Send me a text"It's common for people to feel upset and disappointed about having to ask for what you want. This is especially true if you believe you shouldn’t have to ask, and that your partner should "just know" what to do for you (whether that's in bed, in flirting, foreplay communication, or romantic gestures). After all, we see that played out in movies and TV all the time: the magic intuiting of the partner's needs. But while it's common to think "they should just know," it also tends to make you feel awf...2024-12-0918 minSex Help for Smart PeoplePleasure & Connection Self-Assessment & Making Pleasure Goals"Send me a text"Ready to be one of the brave, joyful souls who wrings the most pleasure out of this life? I'm going to help you get there. It's December and that means it's the perfect time for some guided reflection: where are you at with your experience of pleasure and connection in your life? Where do you want to be? This episode will walk you through a self-assessment and help you figure out how to set yourself up for a beautiful new year with more pleasure and connection than ever before. Get my f...2024-12-0221 min