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Parenting Doctors PodcastThere Are Four Characters in Each of our Life Stories: Victim, Villain, Hero, & GuideDr. Dan presents his recent show on the Dr. van Ingen Clinical Psychology and Parenting Show with a feature on his upcoming webinar on the Top Ten Best-Ever Anxiety Treatment Techniques. He references a book by Donald Miller who identifies four characters in each of our life story: victim, villain, Hero, & Guide. There are some good and rich ideas that can be discussed with families on when these characters emerge in our lives.
Dr. Dan is a clinical psychologist who works as an anxiety specialist, a parenting author, a national speaker on anxiety and neuroscience [for 10 years], an...2022-05-2709 minParenting Doctors PodcastInterview with Ariel Faulkner, on female athletesWe interviewed Ariel Faulkner on the Dr. van Ingen Clinical Psychology & Parenting Show. Today's theme was on female athletes. If you parent a daughter who is an athlete, this is the podcast for you. Ariel is a nationally renown expert and she provides specific information to help with the nutrition of your female basketball players, track athletes, soccer players, cross country runners, softball players and any other female adolescent athletes.
Dr. Dan is a clinical psychologist who works as an anxiety specialist, a parenting author, a national speaker on anxiety and neuroscience [for 10 years], and one w...2021-12-0640 minParenting Doctors PodcastThe Grudge SchemaSome people hold onto grudges for years. They allow bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness to keep them trapped. This podcast goes into the unresolved emotional pain and a thorough breakdown of how hurt people hurt people. An additional layer unpacked in this podcast is the reality that not only do hurt people hurt people, but hurt people control people.
Included is a five-point plan to helping your teenagers deal with grudges and bitterness held against them.
See Dr. Dan's books at Amazon. Dr. Dan is a clinical and sport psychologist who specializes in anxiety disorde...2021-05-2213 minParenting Doctors PodcastHow To Work With Difficult PeopleSome people are very difficult to work with. Naturally, we try to move our children around these people. This is impossible. It is better to equip ourselves and our teenagers with the ability to work with difficult people.
See Dr. Dan's series of books available at Amazon.
https://www.amazon.com/Daniel-J.-van-Ingen-PsyD/e/B00LERCTP2%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share
2021-05-1406 minParenting Doctors PodcastLiving a Fearless Life & Pursuing Defining MomentsLiving a fearless life involves going after fears in your life. In this podcast, Dr. van Ingen discusses phobic fears (i.e. dogs and enclosed spaces), nasty fears and the fear-control sequence (i.e. acting out of that fear with pay back, grudges, bitterness and resentment), and cognitive fears (i.e. irrational thoughts). Pursuing a defining moment is also discussed including a 4-R Approach.
For more information on Dr. Dan's work in anxiety, see his book Anxiety Disorders Made Simple., available on kindle and paperback. Also, for those who want an in-depth study on neuroscience and anxiety, see...2021-04-1614 minParenting Doctors PodcastGaslighting in Your Parenting?"Gaslighting" is the latest term in pop culture psychology. I've actually heard the term for 40 people (yes, I took a tally) over the last 3 weeks. Is this going on in your parenting or is this yet another psychological concept that is being overly used like everything else.
Dr. Dan van Ingen is a clinical and sport psychologist in Sarasota, FL. He is an author, national speaker, anxiety specialist and parenting doctor. He started a sky diving therapy and resilience group for those who want to apply radical change to fears and anxiety. He's been featured on ABC and is...2021-03-1915 minParenting Doctors PodcastPeople Change Part 3: What Will I Leave When I Jump Off the Plane on Sunday?People Change
Dr. van Ingen presents changes in his own life and in the lives of others showing clear evidence of people changing. "I constantly hear it. People believe that people don't change."
1) People change.
2) We all have to change.
3) Self affirmation is the answer to outward affirmation when it comes to change.
4) Long-lasting change requires intrinsic motivation, it can't be for external reasons.
2021-02-2613 minParenting Doctors PodcastTeaching Children Good Body ImageToday's interview with Parenting Doctor, Clinical psychologist, and expert on eating disorders, Dr. Patricia Price, was dynamic. We focused on a much needed topic of teaching our kids about having a good body image. How does it work? What do we emphasize? How we communicate this sensitive topic with a pediatrician?
See Dr. Price's book at Amazon https://www.amazon.com/More-Screen-Time-Patti-Price/dp/1504918606
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2020-08-0137 minParenting Doctors PodcastEliminating Emotional Bombs in our ParentingOur kids need critical thinking, problem solving, sound perspective, and healthy attachment. We provide perspective and clear thinking. We also have to grow up as parents and eliminate some of the anxious fears, manipulation, and other emotional bombs that accompany parenting.
2020-07-2405 minParenting Doctors PodcastKnowing Our Hot ButtonsThe flourishing parenting life is the life of self-reflection. We want to respond with poise and maturity in tight spots. And we want to know our hot buttons so we can dial things down.
The self-reflective life is the successful parenting life.
See Dr. Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20
2020-07-1006 minParenting Doctors PodcastInterview with Jedd Hafer on Emotional Intelligence, De-escalation & Preventing Anger from Turning into ViolenceOur Parenting Doctors Interview Series Continues with long-time Comedian, national speaker, and author Jedd Hafer. Jedd is an expert on emotional intelligence, de-escalation, and preventing anger from turning into Violence.
Jedd is a long time renown comedian. He has worked with troubled youth and in a variety of parenting and family situations. He has been a long time national speaker and worked for many years with Love & Logic.
Jedd has some great resources including Love & Logic in Tough Situations Audio
and one of his 11 books titled Soulitude: Finding Peace for the Stressed Out Soul...2020-06-251h 12Parenting Doctors PodcastCovid-19 Prevention & Panic PreventionThe following podcast is on some news and notes re: Covid-19 prevention and Panic prevention.
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2020-03-2011 minParenting Doctors PodcastTeaching Our Kids About Anxiety In This Culture of FearWe need to teach our kids about anxiety. This is a perfect time to teach our kids about anxiety as we face mass hysteria and anxietizing, catastrophizing, and overwhelming emotional reasoning.
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2020-03-1309 minParenting Doctors PodcastOne of the Challenges of Single ParentingOne of the Challenges of Single Parenting
I have a colleague who believes that wounds result in three outcomes: (1) Healing, (2) Healing with a scar, (3) Continued Bitterness.
Experiencing healing and attending to the kids is one of the challenges of single parenting.
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2020-03-0609 minParenting Doctors PodcastThere is a Time to Confront & a Time to Let PassThere is a Time to Confront & a Time to Let Pass
When we parent oppositional children, those kids who have tendencies to be more defiant, we have to show a level of flexibility. These are kids who tend to be more defiant. These are kids who tend to be more difficult. We are more likely going to discuss issues "later" and come back to moments at a later time. There is a time to let pass, particularly during negative episodes.
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2020-02-2806 minParenting Doctors PodcastPerspective BroadeningParents recognize that kids have a hard time taking perspective. What are those perspective broadening reflection exercises that can help kids, tweens, and teens grow in perspective broadening?
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2020-02-2106 minParenting Doctors PodcastPart 2 of Interview with Nutritional Expert Dr. CareyThis is part 2 of my interview with Dr Dallas Carey, clinical psychologist and nutritional expert. Dr. Carey is a premier clinical expert on nutrition, health management, psychological wellness, and superfoods. For more information on her clinical practice, visit her website at https://dallascarey.com
Thank you for listening to the Parenting Doctors Interview Series, a new series of interviews where we interview the nations' best in key and unique areas relevant for families.
For more information, go to www.parentingdoctors.com and see Dr. Dan van Ingen's parenting book--: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medro...2020-02-0638 minParenting Doctors PodcastKobe Bryant: Whatever It TakesKobe Bryant was a legendary basketball player. He became a legendary father. There are so many lessons we can take from his life. He's a GIRLDAD!
His last moments: Going to church with his 13-year old daughter. Holding her as they died together.
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2020-01-3109 minParenting Doctors Podcast4 Rules of DisagreementIt is helpful for a family to encourage disagreement. Strong families are not negatively affected or impacted by minor disagreements. Raising secure individuals includes encouraging differing viewpoints.
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2020-01-2406 minParenting Doctors PodcastInterview with Nutritional Expert Dr. Carey, Part 1This is part 1 of my interview with Dr Dallas Carey, clinical psychologist and nutritional expert. Dr. Carey is a premier clinical expert on nutrition, health management, psychological wellness, and superfoods. For more information on her clinical practice, visit her website at https://dallascarey.com
Thank you for listening to the Parenting Doctors Interview Series, a new series of interview where we interview the nations' best in key and unique areas relevant for families. For more information, go to www.parentingdoctors.com and see Dr. Dan van Ingen's parenting book--: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20
2020-01-0932 minParenting Doctors PodcastLanguage Lessons from Mr. Rogers: 9 Amazing Steps of PatienceMr. Rogers went to extraordinary lengths to assure parents that the language spoken on his show would reach children in ways that would keep them connected. He knew children would interpret literally, so every word was carefully scripted. As parents, he provided language lessons that we can incorporate in unique and different ways.
If you haven't seen the movie, see it's a Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood! What a blessing the movie will be to you and your family. And after you see it, take the time to talk about it as a family!
Language Lesson...2019-12-2508 minParenting Doctors PodcastHappiness Is A ChoiceHappiness is a choice. What about health? Absolutely, research shows there is a correlation between poor health and unhappiness. However, I show an example of a man I met recently with a lot of physical problems but still maintained that happiness is a choice.
Check out this week's parenting podcast on how happiness is a choice.
See Dr. Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20
2019-12-2011 minParenting Doctors PodcastA Beautiful Day In The NeighborhoodThere are so many lessons to learn from Mr. Rogers. This movie is outstanding and I recommend it for all families. There is so much to talk about. While the late Mr. Rogers was no saint (as pointed out by his wife), he has left us with so many life lessons.
See Dr. Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20
2019-12-0605 minParenting Doctors PodcastReflection Tips on Diffusing TantrumsWe need strategies to diffuse tantrums. I provide a number of acronyms that can help give us tools and perspective to maintain poise in the middle of chaos, noncompliance, defiance, tantrums, anger, and refusals to name a few of the emotional reactions and teen behavior.
Maintain your poise parents!
Love with all you've got despite the hormones and emotionality.
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2019-11-2208 minParenting Doctors PodcastFailure Reflection ExerciseHave you ever taken the time to reflect on your failures? Have you ever taken the time to go down the road of your life and identify failures at different times in your life.
I know, in my life, I have failed often. I failed during an important spelling contest when I was young. I failed trying out for my eighth grade baseball team. My dream of playing college basketball was crushed with two failures. I failed in two personal relationships in college. I failed at different aspects of my career. I laugh talking to colleagues about a study...2019-11-0105 minParenting Doctors PodcastIs Parenting a Happy Endeavor?Are parents more happy? Put another way, is parenting a happy endeavor? Certainly, parents experience less pleasurable moments. Parents are inconvenienced more.
But parents experience more meaning. Check out this week's parenting podcast on happiness and parenting.
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2019-10-1105 minParenting Doctors PodcastInterview with Eating Disorders Expert Patricia PriceOn this week's parenting doctors show, our parenting doctors podcast is an interview with Dr. Patricia Price. She is an expert on eating disorders. She provides some of the keys that parents can be aware of related to disordered eating, treatment, family changes, and nutrition. Dr. Price is a Parenting Doctor and renown for the treatment of eating disorders. She is author of No More Screen Time. Check out this book at Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/More-Screen-Time-Patti-Price/dp/1504918606
For More information on Dr. Price, treatment in Minnesota on eating disorders, or for follow up questions, she can be...2019-10-0144 minParenting Doctors PodcastWhat Is Your Parenting Style?Today's parenting podcast is more of a reflection podcast. What is your parenting style? It is helpful to take a step back, push pause, and take perspective on our type of parenting. What is your parenting style?
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2019-09-2707 minParenting Doctors PodcastDivorced Parenting: To Hurt or to be Vulnerable (Express preference)During and after divorces, secure parents don’t take anything personally. Kids are allowed to express their preferences. Parents validate feelings, encourage expressions, and provide a two-step process to help kids navigate the difficult changes.
What is your motivation?
Are you trying to hurt or are you trying to be vulnerable? Or in other words, are you trying to hurt or are you trying to express your preference?
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2019-08-3007 minParenting Doctors PodcastOvercoming, Overlooking, & Defeating Negativity Thrown at YouHave you ever dealt with tremendous negativity? Have you ever been cursed with the most vile hate and nastiness? Have you been told how toxic you are and repeatedly had negativity and nasty statements said about you over and over and over again?
Friends, this is the kind of the thing that young people will face via cyberbullying, nastiness at school, or the junk at home. We need to prepare young people not only for the emotions (grief, sadness) but for the messages. We can help them overcome, overlook, and defeat so that they can stand on their...2019-08-1611 minParenting Doctors PodcastToken Economy: Personal Responsibility, Affection, & InterestsFamilies establish token economies with reward charts, star charts, and a system of rewarding desired behaviors. These reward systems can provide structure and consistency. Some issues to consider at home life include the value of encouraging personal responsibility (i.e. rewarding all work takes away from the value of being a family contributor), the problem of using affection as a reward, and the problem of undermining intrinsic motivation when parents reward interests.
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2019-08-1107 minParenting Doctors PodcastTime to Comfort, Time to Instruct, Time to CorrectThere is a time to comfort. There is a time to Instruct. There is a time to Correct. The distinctions are important for healthy parenting, on this week's parenting podcast.
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2019-07-1908 minParenting Doctors PodcastFamily Conversations at Summer DinnersWelcome to the Summer! It's summertime!
Successful families average a minimum of FOUR family dinners per week during the summer.
Instead of, "How was the day?" "Fine."
Let's engage in meaningful dialogue. 3 P's: Positive parents prepare!
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2019-05-3104 minParenting Doctors PodcastWhat Are The Stressors Young People Face Nowadays?Kids, preteens, and teens face all kinds of stressors nowadays. Safety from violence, getting enough to eat, single parent households, domestic violence and so many others are some of the real stressors American children face.
Then there are those stressors that have changed over the last 10 years. Trends show that stressors have taken on an entirely new look that previous generations never faced. This podcast highlights major stressors that are new to this generation and we identify key tools that families need to equip their young people with in order to adequately cope with today's stressors.
See...2019-05-2411 minParenting Doctors PodcastSeparation AnxietyThere are several aspects to separation anxiety. Sometimes finding a child psychologist or a counselor who specializes in anxiety and attachment issues can be of great help for a family.
This podcast focuses on one unique angle. After talking with over 100 mental health practitioners in El Paso, Texas and Albuquerque and Santa Fe, New Mexico this week, one of the things that comes up frequently is how parents may reinforce some particular anxieties.
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2019-05-1706 minParenting Doctors PodcastHumility, Rules & Principles to Live by, & The Beauty of Motherhood: Happy Mother's Day!Humility, Rules & Principles to Live by, & The Beauty of Motherhood: Happy Mother's Day!
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2019-05-1007 minParenting Doctors PodcastShifting AttentionShifting attention is another pillar of happiness. I provide a number of interesting research ideas on how allocating attention is more critical than actually experiencing positive events. Two major areas can be discussed for parents and families: allocating attention and being in the present.
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2019-04-2611 minParenting Doctors PodcastIs There Meaning In Video Games?Is there meaning in video games? Kids using video games excessively end up with quick analytical skills and reflexes, but lack communication skills, have few bonds with people, exhibit little empathy, and show minimal self-control.
A metaphor for managing video games is considering the effects of high fructose corn syrup (HSFS), which has shown to be more addictive than cocaine. Like the food industry, billions of $ have been spent on everything from music in the games to specific types of reinforcement, all to make players want to spend as much time playing the game. Education of how GTA...2019-04-2305 minParenting Doctors PodcastBuilding Optimism In TeenagersBuilding Optimism in Teenagers requires 5 steps. The goal is to learn how to deal with setbacks with optimism. Some of my greatest failures helped me to reinterpret and view setbacks optimistically. I share some of those at the end of today's podcast.
The main focus of today's podcast is to help teens see setbacks and disappointments not as permanent, but temporary, not as pervasive, but specific, and not as personal (or pathological - "this is an imminent catastrophe"), but as empowering. Building optimism is a very important cognitive skill. So, I describe in detail the kinds of explor...2019-04-0514 minParenting Doctors PodcastMindfulness Skills For TeenagersI'm back from a trip through Illinois speaking to psychologists, counselors, social workers, marriage & family therapists, teachers, speech pathologists, and occupational therapists.
Today's podcast focuses on building mindfulness skills for teenagers. Research shows that our attention is on something other than what we are doing 1/2 of our awake time. We live in a culture that reinforces rushing, restlessness, multi-tasking, speedy information, quick fix instagram, snapchat quick drops, and sleep deprivation. One of the things young people (and all of us) need is mindfulness. Mindful attention, mindfulness grounding, mindful eating, and taking time.
See Dr. Dan’s new b...2019-03-2910 minParenting Doctors PodcastThe Specific Not Terrific TechniqueSpecific, Not Terrific Technique
Kids don’t have to be perfect. Parents don’t have to be perfect. We all make mistakes, we all come up short. It’s helpful to communicate directly to kids that they don’t have to be terrific. We just want them to be specific. If you use the phrase, “You are a terrific kid!” Great. Absolutely use that phrase. What I am talking about is communication. Communication is specific, doesn’t have to necessarily be terrific. The goal is to be specific, not terrific. There are several goals when it comes to be disagreeing - the k...2019-03-1507 minParenting Doctors PodcastThe Negotiation StrategyParents need strategies to dismantle power struggles. Today's podcast focuses on The Negotiation Strategy. We can assert obedience. However, choice helps children (and especially preteens and even more so, teens) to find their own individuality while they learn to follow directions and learn to take responsibility within their own boundaries. The next and more advanced step is teaching negotiation. When teens master negotiation, they learn skills that will last a life time.
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2019-03-0805 minParenting Doctors PodcastPetty Versus Purposeful StrategyKids need a strategy for arguments. Parents can give their kids a strategy by having them classify arguments into petty and purposeful arguments. This podcast looks at a strategy that when applied, can make a difference in developing the skill of perspective taking - which is the ultimate goal.
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2019-03-0104 minParenting Doctors PodcastThe Oven Timer StrategyThe Oven Timer Strategy is a great solution for putting an end to manipulation. "Start engaging in problem solving or you will lose a minute toward your allotted time with your iPhone." For more, see You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist.
The use of this strategy is great for bed time ritual, homework problems (i.e. procrastination), video game limits (or lack thereof).
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2019-02-1504 minParenting Doctors PodcastI Make A Lot Of MistakesHow do we teach children humility? It starts with us. Check out this week's parenting podcast. There are lots of things to apply from the latest research on parenting including addressing manipulation and the keys to allowing disagreement in the home while maintaining respect for authority.
Then there are things that make life better for the family like turning off the TV.
One of the things that is most needed is HUMILITY. "I make a lot of mistakes" is about us, as parents.
See Dr. Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/193557...2019-02-0807 minParenting Doctors PodcastHow To Form A Support Group for Parents of TeenagersParents of Teenagers have a lot in common. It's time to get together and form support groups. Many of you do this informally through friendships via sporting events, church get togethers, community gatherings, etc. We provide some key things to think about in putting together the parameters of a formal support group.
Themes, facilitator roles, key books and websites, and group rules.
Time to form a group! We are in this together!
Dr. Dan’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20
2019-02-0122 minParenting Doctors PodcastAnger Solutions For Your KidsWe need strategies for our kids' anger. Of course, parents need to work on their own stuff. The more parents are calm, cool, and collected, and can self-soothe and handle stress with poise, the more are kids will respond well. Our stuff is for another day.
This podcast is about key strategies for our kids. This podcast presents anger scaling, helping kids with categories, and the use of visualizations and role plays for handling future scenarios.
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2019-01-2510 minParenting Doctors PodcastThe Triple D Strategy for Manipulation When Attempting to Problem SolveIt is common to deal with manipulation when you are attempting to address another problem. It is common to see eye roles or receive back talk when addressing aggression between siblings. First of all, address everything and assume nothing. Second, you need a strategy. The following podcast is a Triple D Strategy when you are dealing with a second level of nonsense.
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2019-01-1808 minParenting Doctors PodcastFlourishing Families Have Vulnerable Relationships: Vulnerability VS FearIn today's podcast, I provide an example where a Dad made a mistake by communicating a negative assumption about his kid. The kid went on to speak out of her hurt by being passive aggressive. The answer in this scenario is vulnerability. We walk through the steps on how family members can express how they feel and others can receive those expressions.
2019-01-1110 minParenting Doctors PodcastCognitive Flexibility During Holiday StressHoliday Stress? We can all relate. There are numerous holiday challenges. Inconveniences are endless in family situations. Inconveniences double and triple and stress multiples during holidays. Cognitive Flexibility helps with the flow that is needed during holiday stress.
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2018-12-0711 minParenting Doctors PodcastPreparing Our Children For AdversityNobody wants to think about our children's future problems. The reality is that adversity is right around the corner. Listen to this parenting podcast as I give an extreme example of trauma and why one young man ended up with post-trauma resilience rather than a debilitating condition. He attributed his resilience to his strong family support.
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2018-11-3006 minParenting Doctors PodcastTemperament & Reinforcement Are The Two Key FactorsThere are two key factors at play - temperament and reinforcement.
Parents may over-emphasize temperament and over-value personality. We do it all of the time. "That's just his personality." Strong-willed individuals may require more work. Defiance may require more work. Thus, shaping and reinforcement for that child's individual needs requires something different.
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2018-11-1604 minParenting Doctors PodcastHealthy Families Allow DisagreementHealthy Families Allow for Disagreement
Parents struggle with this one. They use terms like "disobedience," or "rebelliousness." Parents are unsure how to allow for disagreement while still maintaining authority in the family. In today's parenting podcast, I lay out the specific rules for allowing for disagreement.
This is taken from Dr. Dan's new book You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist.
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2018-11-0905 minParenting Doctors PodcastWhat is most important when dealing with aggression toward others, back talking, property destruction, defiance, and noncompliance?What is most important when dealing with aggression toward others, back talking, property destruction, defiance, and noncompliance?
65% follow through and are consistent more than two times per week. Lots to discuss about this.
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2018-11-0203 minParenting Doctors PodcastThe Ultimate Family Sleep ChallengeThis week's parenting podcast is The Ultimate Family Sleep Challenge! We are all sleep deprived. We as parents need more sleep. Our children need more sleep. Today, I present the Ultimate Family Sleep Challenge.
Let's consider the behavioral sleep recommendations and consider how we can apply good sleep practices to the kids.
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2018-10-2611 minParenting Doctors PodcastSocial Media Stress ManagementThere are many stressors young people face. I go through some of the stressors young people are facing as reported by my colleagues (social workers, psychologists, professional counselors, and others) throughout the country.
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2018-10-1206 minParenting Doctors PodcastYour Prescription for Passive & Aggressive BehaviorDr. Dan explores the key solution to manipulation and passive aggressive behavior. He says that parents need to name it. And encourage (even expect) direct and honest communication.
Check out Dr. Dan's new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20
2018-10-0505 minParenting Doctors PodcastTruth Emerges Out Of A RelationshipToday's podcast is about an argument between a father and a son. A father goes on to try to enforce the son to tell the truth with discipline, consequences, and punishment.
When situations develop within the family, truth emerges out of a relationship. When there are parent-child power struggles, multiple perspective can develop. Parents involved in family details may develop elaborate consequences but this will not deliver the truth. Love and the relationship is what brings forth the truth.
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2018-09-2809 minParenting Doctors PodcastRespectful DisagreementMany parents inquire about "encouraging disagreement." It might sound better if I emphasize "allowing disagreement." Many ask, "What does that mean?"
The new generation of healthy families consists of multiple ideas and perspectives. If teens don't feel heard, they feel shut down. If pre-teens aren't respected, you come across as a tyrant. If young children aren't encourage to think on their own, their ability to think for themselves is dimnished. These individuals might then be easily moved and manipulated by a charismatic personality, for example.
This podcast discusses key aspects of respectful disagreement in the family...2018-09-2105 minParenting Doctors PodcastTough Adolescents: Exiting, Waiting, & OverlookingI present two interventions today that can make a difference, along with some key tips for healthy functioning when dealing with a tough adolescent.
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2018-09-0708 minParenting Doctors PodcastStop Pathologizing Childhood With Specific Problem SolvingMany parents pathologize childhood using terms like "He's an attention seeker," OR "She's so oppositional," OR "He's a tormentor," OR "He's A defiant kid!"
These kinds of vague descriptions may help us cope, but they do nothing to help children help. We need to help kids recognize that behavior is based on choices.
We offer a 5-step specific problem solving method that is the answer to these behavior problems that all kids have.
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2018-08-2412 minParenting Doctors PodcastHelping Kids With More Self CompassionKids may be starting school soon. In FL, school is in full swing. Many schools are completing their first full week. Some of the kids are in a "candy store." Many others are overwhelmed. Kids are experiencing pressure, stress, and demands. Lots are being asked of them.
We want to reinforce self-compassion! I also provide a mindfulness technique using smell that can help kids get out of their overwhelm, into the present, and experience less stress.
2018-08-1709 minParenting Doctors PodcastTutoring for Video Games????Parents are paying $20 an hour and sometimes as much as $50 an hour for video game tutors. What's the problem with tutors?
1) Lowering self esteem and confidence
2) Reinforcing addiction (video game)
3) Reinforcing followship rather than leadership
See Dr. Dan's new book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20
2018-08-1008 minParenting Doctors PodcastAre you dealing with a child with an anger problem and you don’t know what to do?Check out the following videos at our Parenting Doctors youtube channel:
The Dr. van Ingen Clinical Psychology & Parenting Show on Anger.
(Dr. Dan and Professor Dr. Sarah present together) on Loving Angry Children: 5 Golden Coin Insights to Working with Anger in Families
This week's podcast presents 5 techniques, 5 ART's: Anger Reduction Techniques, that can help both parents and their children (kids, preteens, teens) when they are experiencing a cross over the threshold and into the therapeutic zone.
Check out Dr. Dan's new parenting book available at https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=me...2018-08-0311 minParenting Doctors PodcastNo Phones At DinnerWe live in a strange Digital Culture. Everyone revolving their lives around cell phones. But, not everyone. Healthy Families are working against these water currents. Healthy families have parents who say "No Phones At Dinner!"
Check out Dr. Dan's book You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist at Amazon now.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20
2018-07-2707 minParenting Doctors PodcastValuing & Sharing Our Failure StoriesI share some of my failures in life, mostly growing up. In my book: You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist https://www.amazon.com/dp/1935576062/?tag=medrounpublic-20
I mention that parents should know their top 10. I share some of my top 10 and other minor failures.
I'm a big proponent of being unafraid of anxiety.
Likewise I'm a big fan of being unafraid of failure. To help our kids learn to be unafraid of failure, we should share our failures. Sharing failures builds connections because kids want us to be vulnerable, which does so much m...2018-07-1611 minParenting Doctors PodcastGuit VS Shame: Healthy Families Value Guilt But Not ShameGuilt is good.
Shame is not.
2018-06-2205 minParenting Doctors PodcastWarning to Parents About Social MediaThis is a simple warning to parents. Yes, it's an unbalanced view on social media. The view presented here is not all encompassing and obviously doesn't include the positives about social media or recommendations for families. This podcast is a direct warning about what your kids' lives can look like without limits and considerations.
See other podcasts and our youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1qNMxObTzbQ&t=8s on information re: social media recommendations.
WARNING! DO YOU WANT YOUR KIDS' LIVES LIKE THIS?
2018-06-0805 minParenting Doctors Podcast10 Keys to Confident Kids10 Keys to UNLOCKING confidence in Kids. We don't have to wait until kids are young adults to develop confidence. That's what happened to me, quite honestly. Instead, let's develop confidence early. Here are the 10 Keys to Confident Kids.
2018-06-0114 minParenting Doctors PodcastKnow Your Triggers & Love AnywayMany parents have rough backgrounds. Many parents have "triggers" and when you deal with the stuff of raising kids who may yell, back talk, name call, or accidentally break a dish/glass, this can TRIGGER stuff in you.
Check out this podcast and LOVE ANYWAY!!!
2018-05-2509 minParenting Doctors PodcastPersistent Redo’s, Patience and the Power of PraisePersistent Redo's, patience, and the power of praise
When a 4-year old says "what" inappropriately and noncompliantly, what should a parent do?
Check out this brief and terrific example!
2018-05-1803 minParenting Doctors PodcastDoes Social Media Cause Anxiety?Social Media is related to unhappiness. Does it cause anxiety? We are still waiting on randomized controlled empirical research to determine the relationship between social media and anxiety disorders.
But, let's just a take a look at anxiety problems generally speaking. And, let's examine what happens with each of these examples that I mention today. What should parents do? First, parents need to acknowledge the anxiety epidemic.
2018-05-1110 minParenting Doctors PodcastSharing Personal Reflections & Excitement Here are the Parenting DoctorsSome personal reflections on our new book:
You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist: 7 Keys to Excellence in Parenting.
2018-04-0608 minParenting Doctors PodcastHelping Children, Preteens, & Teens with Secure & Confident ComebacksHelping Children, Preteens, & Teens with Secure & Confident Comebacks
Children need to know what to say as an alternative from sinking low, playing in the mud, lowering themselving and entering into the negative. Instead, what is a secure and confident comeback in the face of being mocked?
2018-03-2308 minParenting Doctors PodcastOvercoming An Ambivalent Attachment HistoryAs parents, we have to overcome our histories to be excellent. If you were raised in anger, you have to overcome that reinforcement history and respond in different ways than how you were trained. If you grew up regularly criticized, you will have to overcome a tendency on your part to find the negative and overreact with the heavy hand of criticism.
Ambivalent soothing and ambivalence in the attachment relationship is a very tough thing to overcome. But, consistency is the goal!
2018-03-0905 minParenting Doctors PodcastValidating Emotion with SincerityIt is important to teach children how to validate emotion. Interestingly, it helps kids to remind them that they don't even have to agree when they validate emotion. An apology requires sincerity with minimizing.
2018-03-0305 minParenting Doctors PodcastBalancing Privacy and Protection With Teenagers' Social MediaBalancing Privacy and Protection With Teenagers' Social Media
1) Encourage Transparency
2) Smart Technology
3) Social Media Family Standards (and Limits)
2018-02-2305 minParenting Doctors PodcastHow To Be The Best Sports Parent You Can BeSports has three goals for kids: 1. To learn how to follow directions from somebody besides your parent; 2. To develop character which including learning to be unselfish; 3. To have FUN!
In this brief podcast, I identify a key book that every sports parent should read. John Tauer's book,
Why LESS is MORE for WOSPs (Well-Intentioned, Overinvolved Sports Parents): How to Be the Best Sports Parent You Can Be
2018-02-1605 minParenting Doctors PodcastDismantling Disagreeableness: You Can Agree or NegotiateYou can Agree
Or
You can Negotiate
The goal of negotiation is three-fold:
Develop PUP – poise under pressure
Help children Accept that they have choices. They don’t have to agree.
Reinforces negotiation and teaches them to think critically.
2018-02-0903 minParenting Doctors PodcastSchool Anxiety: Separation Anxiety Part 2This is a large topic. Some of the keys include what parents can do and what teachers can do.
Besides psychological treatment, let's discuss some things parents can do. I remind us of the behavioral rehearsal, specifically the goodbye ritual. Another reminder of healthy attachment with two moments of warmth per day. A reminder of the importance of speaking good into our children / and calling good out of them.
Some things for teachers to consider, besides parents open to their words and influence, thus maintaining open communication with parents to give them that chance, and open...2018-02-0206 minParenting Doctors PodcastSeparation AnxietyThis is a large topic but I wanted to give you some quick solutions. First, we need to be aware of how the meltdown may be behavioral, emotional, or an attachment issue. Second, we want to address the issue of reinforcement - there are things we do that reinforce tantrums. "You must go to the coffee appt." "You must go to the job interview." Or, the child needs to go to school.
I provide an example of a goodbye ritual that can make a difference.
2018-01-2606 minParenting Doctors PodcastLoving Angry ChildrenWe have an extensive video on our youtube channel that articulates the five golden coins of loving angry children! Check us out at www.parentingdoctors.com
This podcast focuses on the key points in a few minutes.
2017-12-0405 minParenting Doctors PodcastNip Negative Cycles in the Bud by Speaking Good Into ChildrenChildren will go down the rabbit holes of negative cycles. Sometimes these cycles include manipulation or passive aggressive behavior. Parents can nip these behaviors in the bud by speaking good into children. Nip Negative Cycles in the Bud by Speaking Good Into Children!
2017-10-2506 minParenting Doctors PodcastFinding The Perfect Gymnastics CenterIn our first parenting podcast of the year, we return to explore decision making. Many parents are susceptible to approaching their parenting as maximizers versus Satisficers. Maximizers will go to 10 stores in order to find the perfect pair of jeans. Satisficers will be content with the jeans at the first store because they are "good enough." So often, we as parents put our "maximizer mentality" on our kids. This mentality is a new kind of "snowplow parenting" (the cousin of the helicopter parent), but they inevitably plow before the snow comes.
Nothing is good enough.
Hard to...2017-03-0805 minParenting Doctors PodcastFour Recommendations For Maintaining Poise On The Balance Beam Of Family Life: Part 3 & Part 4This completes our four recommendations for balanced families:
1) Family Dinners
2) Two moments of warmth with each child per day
And parts 3 and 4 are completed in this podcast:
3) Consistency - when parents are perceived as reliable...
4) Rituals and Traditions - the bedrock of healthy families....2016-09-3004 minParenting Doctors PodcastGrowth Versus Fixed Traits In Our Children: Why We Sometimes Restrict Emotional Development?Growth Versus Fixed Traits In Our Children: Why We Sometimes Restrict Emotional Development?
Some parents will say "Oh, he's just shy!" Or, "he's got a rebellious streak." These types of comments over-emphasize fixed character traits and undervalue the reality that our children are on a path of growth and development. 2016-09-2303 minParenting Doctors PodcastThe Essence Of Anger Management Is Staying On The SubjectWhen children say "I hate you," "Go Away," "Time to go home - to a guest," these comments involve avoiding the subject. Anger Management is essentially being vulnerable by staying on the subject. Practice, practice, practice! 2016-08-1903 minParenting Doctors PodcastFour Recommendations For Maintaining Poise On The Balance Beam Of Family Life: Part 2Part 1 emphasized the importance of family dinners. Our second recommendation emphasizes the importance of daily moments of connectedness. 2 moments of warmth per day! 2016-06-2401 minParenting Doctors PodcastFour Recommendations For Maintaining Poise On The Balance Beam Of Family Life: Part 1This week's parenting podcast starts off my four recommendations for maintaining poise on the balance beam of family life. What are those things that families can do to stay balanced? Part 1 --- Family dinners! 2016-05-2003 minParenting Doctors PodcastAnger: Identification, Self-Soothing Strategies, & Anger RehearsalsHelping our children manage their anger is extremely critical for well-being and the long-term success of their future. There are several things we can do to help our children manage their anger. The first and most important element for families is for parents to see "expressing anger appropriately" as a positive for family well-being. 2016-05-0604 minParenting Doctors PodcastWhat Are The Stressors For Young People Nowadays? Five Pieces of Advice Every Family Should ApplyYouth deal with many stressors nowadays. Social media pressures and over scheduling in academics, sports, and activities are just some of them. The following podcast consists Five Pieces of Advice that Every Family Should Apply. 2016-04-2903 minParenting Doctors PodcastResolving Blind Spots To Prevent Conditional Love
The last thing
kids need is conditional love. Instead, they need unconditional love. No matter what kids do, healthy parents will
love them no matter what. Drugs, teenage
pregnancy, juveline detention, not getting Ivy League scholarships, not winning,
not breaking records, misspelling on tests, etc. All of these things and more prevent unconditional love. Why is that? There are many reasons for conditional love. One of those reasons are those particular blind spots that we have as parents, that are related to family of origin issues. Bring resolution to these unresolved blind spots takes some work but has been successfu...2016-04-0804 minParenting Doctors PodcastWhy Losing Is Great For Kids!There are so many advantages to losing a basketball game and as parents we can turn losses into life lessons, emotional resilience, and the ability to embrace adversity like amazing cancer survivors Tiffany Powles Garber or my sister Katherine Colino who embraced adversity and defeated cancer (with God's help). Let's join together and teach our kids life lessons as we value losing and failing for something better.2016-04-0106 minParenting Doctors PodcastFacilitating Courage In The Family: Bravery & VulnerabilityFacilitating Courage In The Family: Bravery & Vulnerability
Facilitating courage has to go beyond belief - and to personal impact. I provide 3 Keys to applying courage in the family.
1. Reinforce effort more than outcome.
2. Share moments of breakthroughs with your children.
3. Take the time to be vulnerable.
We are talking about acceptance and courage to be vulnerability. 2016-03-1807 minParenting Doctors PodcastHow to improve communication between a teacher and parent when a child has a behavior problem in the classroom
How to improve communication between a teacher
and parent when a child has a behavior problem in the classroom.
If your teacher is dealing with behavior problems with your
child, and gives you a vague explanation, try to ask for a specific
example. If they can’t, ask him or her
if they would be willing to write down the incident so you can walk your child
through the incident and what could have been done to handle it
differently. Likewise, when parents
describe behavior to other
parents, specific details are important.
2016-03-1106 minParenting Doctors Podcast5 Keys To Reducing Experienced & Perceived Pressure In Sports & Academics In Our Children
I spoke to over 90 mental health
experts in the Midwest during three days last week. Many reports that parents put significant
pressure on their kids when it comes to academics. College scholarships depend on academic
excellence. Jobs depend on academic
success.
Likewise, parents put significant
pressure on their kids when it comes to academics. College scholarships depend on academic
excellence. Jobs depend on academic
success. Many parents put significant
pressure on their kids when it comes to sports. When I talk to parents, some kids
report experiencing pressure even when pressure is not imposed by the parents. The bottom...2016-03-0407 minParenting Doctors PodcastParenting Teenagers with FOMO: Fear of Missing OutThis week's Parenting Podcast is titled "Parenting Teenagers With FOMO -- Fear of Missing Out." There are a range of stressors that tweens and teenagers are dealing with nowadays. FOMO is one of those stressors, particularly as it relates to teenagers and their cell phones. I identify five solutions to approaching FOMO with your teens.2016-02-2606 minParenting Doctors PodcastCoping With GriefFamily dinners remains one of the best predictors of healthy families. Discussing grief at dinner time includes accepting feelings and self care. Other practical things to do in honoring the legacy of the loved one include: 1. Slideshow 2. Small remembrances 3. Humor 4. Identifying positive attributes 5. Gratitude2016-02-1205 minParenting Doctors PodcastFive Action Steps To Help You Teach Your Child To Never QuitToday's podcast is Five Action Steps to Help You Teach Your Child To Never Quit!
In My practice, I am seeing quitting happening quite frequently on the sports field or court. It is not uncommon for kids to quit family games, from monopoly to the wiffle ball game, or the chess game with Grandpa. Parents have to put forth some effort to reverse this trend. Here are some action steps parents can take to address this problem in their own homes. 2016-01-1506 minParenting Doctors PodcastWhat Is The Antidote To Your Teenager Making The Comment "I'm Not Proud Of You?"A man was going through a difficult time and his daughter remarked to the gentleman that she "wasn't proud of him." What does a father say to this experience? Is the only and "normal" respond sadness and despair? Or, is there another approach he can take to the relationship?
And, what does a parent - child relationship need to buffer against the ups and downs of life, the highlights and lowlights of life? Unconditional Love is the answer. And, it starts with the parents. 2016-01-0804 min