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Project I AmAuthentic Living In A Career in Education - An Interview with Dr. Charles HeatonIn this episode of Project I Am, I interview Dr. Charle Heaton, a career educator and married gay man. From navigating deeply conservative spaces to fully embracing his authentic self, Dr. Charles Heaton’s journey is a powerful testament to resilience, identity, and pride. In this inspiring episode, Charlie shares what it was like to live as a married gay man while building a career in education—and how he found the courage to defy societal expectations and choose a life of truth and freedom.Join us as we explore the complexities of identity, the cost of sile...2025-06-2155 min
Project I AmRebuilding After Infidelity: A Journey of Healing and TransformationIn this intimate interview on Project I AM, Dr. David Schlosz speaks with Diane (a pseudonym) about the unraveling and reweaving of her marriage to Jack following his affair. The conversation delves into the complex emotional journey through betrayal, the challenges of rebuilding trust, and the hard work of transforming their relationship. Diane shares the impact of infidelity on her self-esteem, the reconciliation process, and the practical changes they made to ensure a healthier, stronger marriage. This episode highlights the raw, ongoing evolution of a couple determined to break generational cycles and rebuild a deeply connected partnership.2025-06-1256 min
Project I AmThe Hidden Curriculum: How Transference and Countertransference Teach Us to HealIn this reflective and educational episode of Project I Am, Dr. David Schlosz explores the profound role of transference and countertransference in the therapeutic relationship—unpacking how these often misunderstood dynamics can become powerful tools for growth, insight, and healing.Through the lens of Relational-Cultural Therapy (RCT) and the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM), David breaks down how the therapist-client relationship becomes a living classroom—one where old wounds show up in the room and where genuine connection creates the conditions for change. With real clinical vignettes, current research, and candid reflections from his own experience as a ther...2025-06-011h 12
Project I AmThe Smile That Hides the Ache: Waking Up from Autopilot In this vulnerable and powerful episode of Project I Am, Dr. David Schlosz peels back the mask many of us wear—the smile that hides the ache. Centered around his original spoken word poem, David explores how we often live on autopilot, clinging to humor, charm, and control as coping strategies rooted in early survival.Drawing from Internal Family Systems, trauma research, and personal reflection, this episode unpacks how defensive ego states and old patterns become our default identities—even when they no longer serve us. Through storytelling, insight, and a guided mindfulness practice, David gently invites us t...2025-05-2218 min
Project I AmHealing Complex Trauma Through Authentic Relationship - A Discussion with Whitney Sutherland, LPCIn this heartfelt and deeply insightful episode of Project I Am, Dr. David Schlosz sits down with somatically-oriented psychotherapist Whitney Sutherland to explore what it truly means to heal from complex trauma. Drawing from both clinical expertise and personal experience, Whitney shares how early attachment wounds shape our sense of self—and how healing becomes possible through presence, curiosity, and authentic relationship.Together, they unpack the nuances of C-PTSD, the difference between disconnection and avoidance, and the powerful role of the nervous system in trauma recovery. Whitney also introduces the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM), offering a compassionate fr...2025-05-131h 08
Project I AmThe Courage to Connect: Why the Therapeutic Relationship Matters MostIn this episode, we explore one of the most powerful — and often overlooked — truths in therapy: the healing lies not in the techniques we use, but in the authentic relationships we build. Drawing from Carl Rogers’ person-centered approach, Relational-Cultural Theory, and current research, we’ll unpack why the therapeutic relationship is more important than any core theory or intervention.We’ll talk honestly about why therapists sometimes hesitate to prioritize connection, the personal and professional costs of staying guarded, and the courage it takes to lean into real relational work. Through composite case examples, published studies, and reflection...2025-05-0753 min
Project I AmThe Transformative Power of Sitting in Your FeelingsIn this deeply reflective and empowering episode, Dr. David Schlosz explores the transformative power of sitting in your feelings—fully allowing yourself to feel, process, and move through emotional discomfort rather than escaping it. Drawing on cutting-edge research in psychology, counseling theory, and somatic practice, this episode challenges the cultural and personal habits of avoidance and emotional suppression.This episode weaves together clinical wisdom, real-life anecdotes, and powerful therapeutic tools from mindfulness, DBT, and somatic experiencing. Listeners will learn why avoidance increases suffering, how emotions live in the body, and what it really means to ride the wa...2025-04-2859 min
Project I AmThe Many Hats a Therapist Wears: The Archetypal Roles in the Healing JourneyIn this episode of Project I Am, Dr. David Schlosz explores the powerful and often unspoken roles that therapists embody throughout the healing process. Far beyond techniques or treatment plans, effective therapy relies on presence, attunement, and the fluid ability to shift roles as the relationship deepens.Drawing from recent research in interpersonal neurobiology, attachment theory, and relational-cultural therapy, David reflects on nine core archetypal roles therapists may take on—including midwife, surrogate, mirror, confessor, and sanctuary keeper. Each role invites us into a deeper understanding of the relational alchemy that underpins true transformation.Whether yo...2025-04-2114 min
Project I AmThe Many Hats a Therapist Wears: Archetypal Roles in the Healing JourneyIn this episode of Project I Am, Dr. David Schlosz explores the powerful and often unspoken roles that therapists embody throughout the healing process. Far beyond techniques or treatment plans, effective therapy relies on presence, attunement, and the fluid ability to shift roles as the relationship deepens.Drawing from recent research in interpersonal neurobiology, attachment theory, and relational-cultural therapy, David reflects on nine core archetypal roles therapists may take on—including midwife, surrogate, mirror, confessor, and sanctuary keeper. Each role invites us into a deeper understanding of the relational alchemy that underpins true transformation.Whether yo...2025-04-1914 min
Project I AmFrom Chaos to Community: The Growth of the Counselor Support and Success InitiativeIn a recent Project I Am podcast interview, I sat with Sonata Miles and Tessa Myers and discussed the launch and success of Counselor Support and Success Initiative (CSSI). We explored the dynamic evolution of their work—its roots, its reach, and the exciting road ahead. What began as a grassroots study group has become a robust professional collective offering resources, guidance, and community for counseling students and early-career professionals across the country.What started as a small online study group for the NCE has grown from two members to over 2,000, thanks in large part to the vi...2025-04-1924 min
Project I AmMentoring Moments: Mastering Telehealth – Building Therapeutic Presence Through the ScreenIn this Mentoring Moments episode of Project I Am, Dr. David J. Schlosz guides counseling students and early-career therapists through the evolving landscape of Telehealth therapy. Is therapy via video really effective? How do you build authentic connection through a screen? What do the most recent research studies say about digital therapeutic alliances and client outcomes? Blending clinical research, practical wisdom, and personal anecdotes, Dr. Schlosz explores how online therapy has reshaped mental health care — and what it takes to show up fully in a virtual space. Listeners will walk away with evidence-based tools, client stories, and ac...2025-04-1418 min
Project I AmLeading with Purpose: Dr. Rachelle Smith on Navigating Higher Education as a Woman of ColorWhat does it mean to lead with integrity when the room wasn’t built for you?What does authenticity look like when others are filtering you through their biases? In one of the most powerful conversations I’ve had, I sat down with Dr. Rachelle Smith—counselor, scholar, higher ed leader, wife, mother, and truth-teller. We explored:✅ The emotional labor of being a Black woman in academia✅ Why code-switching can’t protect us from bias—and why authenticity is essential✅ Her groundbreaking research on inclusive exc...2025-03-2952 min
Project I AmThe Shame We Carry: How Confession and Authenticity Set Us FreeShame is a silent weight many of us carry — a belief that we are somehow flawed, broken, or unworthy of love. In this powerful and compassionate episode of Project I Am, Dr. David J. Schlosz unpacks the profound impact of shame on our mental and emotional well-being and offers a path toward healing through the courageous practices of confession and authenticity.Drawing on research from shame experts like Brené Brown and June Tangney, personal therapy stories, and real-life media examples including Jonah Hill’s Stutz and Demi Lovato’s journey of truth-telling, this episode explores how sharing our sto...2025-03-2620 min
Project I AmBringing All Our Parts to the Table: Healing Through Inner HarmonyIn this powerful episode of Project I Am, Dr. David J. Schlosz explores one of the most transformative practices in personal growth and mental health today: embracing and integrating all the parts of ourselves. Drawing from Internal Family Systems (IFS), Polyvagal Theory, and somatic therapies, David invites you to rethink your inner world—not as broken or fragmented, but as a system of valuable, protective parts that are longing to be seen, heard, and healed.You’ll learn how to:Recognize the different parts of yourself—like the Inner Critic, the Perfectionist, and the Inner Child Bring...2025-03-1921 min
Project I AmMentoring Moments 5: Emerging TrendsThe mental health counseling field is evolving at lightning speed, and today’s students are stepping into a landscape rich with new opportunities—and new challenges. In this episode of Project I Am – Mentoring Moments we dive deep into Emerging Trends in Mental Health Counseling, exploring the cutting-edge innovations shaping the future of our profession.Join us as we break down:· The rise and permanence of telehealth counseling· How AI-powered tools are augmenting therapy—and raising ethical questions· The growing legitimacy of psychedelic-assisted therapy· The explosion of wellness coaching and its impa...2025-03-1722 min
Project I AmInterview with Pastor April Karli - Counseling needs of Christian clientsIn this episode I interview April Karli regarding the counseling needs of Christian clients and obstacles to receiving care.April Karli is a lifetime resident of Austin, Texas. She has been a pastor at Austin Mustard Seed for six years. As a PK (pastor's kid) she spent her life in the church, and has served in leadership roles in a variety of churches throughout her adult life. April has a heart for people who have been wounded by their experiences in church settings and longs to see them find healing. She's been married to Matt for 27 years...2025-03-1443 min
Project I AmAffirmations for Overcoming Past MistakesIn this guided meditation, you’ll be invited to cultivate self-compassion, self-acceptance, and inner peace through a series of powerful affirmations. Life is a journey of growth, and no matter your past, you are worthy of love, forgiveness, and new beginnings.Through gentle affirmations, deep breathing, and a moment of stillness, this meditation will help you:· Release self-judgment and embrace your journey with kindness· Let go of past mistakes and step into self-acceptance· Develop a more positive self-concept and inner peace Allow yourself this time to reconnect with...2025-03-1208 min
Project I AmPerfection is Overrated: The Myth of ArrivalWe’ve all been there—chasing perfection, believing that if we just fix one more thing about ourselves, we’ll finally be happy, successful, or enough. But what if I told you that perfection is not only overrated, but a complete myth?In this episode of Project I AM, we’re breaking down why the pursuit of perfection is a trap that keeps us stuck, exploring the psychology behind growth, and sharing real-life stories of people who found freedom in imperfection. Drawing from research by Brené Brown, Carol Dweck, and Kristin Neff, we’ll uncover why healing and self-im...2025-03-0916 min
Project I AmAll Your Parts Are Welcome - A Guided MeditationIn this 10-minute guided meditation, we invite you to take a seat at the head of your inner table—the place where all parts of you are welcome. From the strong and capable parts to the ones that feel messy, uncertain, or even difficult to acknowledge, every part of you has a place, a purpose, and a voice.With gentle curiosity and deep compassion, you’ll learn to embrace the parts that may have been silenced, to comfort the ones that struggle, and to invite in any missing pieces of yourself that long to be seen. Through mind...2025-03-0610 min
Project I AmMentoring Moment 4: Broaching In this episode of Project I Am - Mentoring Moments we dive deep into broaching, a critical counseling skill that helps create culturally responsive and inclusive therapy sessions.You’ll learn: What broaching is and why it matters How broaching builds trust and enhances therapeutic rapport The Broaching Continuum – where do you fall? Practical strategies to integrate broaching into your counseling practiceWhether you're just starting your graduate program or preparing for practicum, this episode will equip you with the tools to address race, culture, and identity with confidence. Don’t miss this essential conversation on bec...2025-03-0310 min
Project I AmThe Gap vs. The Gain – How to Stay Motivated on Your JourneyDo you ever feel like no matter how much you achieve, it’s never enough? You hit a goal—only to move the finish line further. Instead of feeling successful, you feel discouraged. This is what high achievers call “The Gap” mindset—where you measure yourself against an ideal that’s always out of reach. But what if there was a better way?In this episode of Project I AM, we break down the life-changing concept of The Gap vs. The Gain—coined by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy. We explore why focusing on how far you’ve come (i...2025-03-0310 min
Project I AmIchigo-Ichie, Ikigai, and Kaizen - Embracing the Present, Finding Purpose, and Growing DailyIn this episode of Project I Am, we explore three powerful Japanese philosophies that can transform the way you live: Ichigo Ichie, Ikigai, and Kaizen.Ichigo Ichie – The art of being fully present and cherishing each moment as if it will never happen again. Ikigai – The journey to discovering your life’s purpose by aligning passion, vocation, mission, and profession. Kaizen – The philosophy of continuous improvement, making small, sustainable changes that lead to long-term success.Through engaging real-world examples, scientific research, and practical applications, we’ll uncover how these concepts can help you live a more inten...2025-02-2813 min
Project I AmMentoring Moments Announcement! Project I am Presents: Mentoring Moments LiveA Free Live Session for Counseling Students & Recent GraduatesAre you a counseling student or recent graduate looking to connect, learn, and grow in your career? Join us for Mentoring Moments Live—a virtual gathering designed to build community, share resources, and provide expert insights from guest speakers in the field!🔹 What to Expect: ✅ A supportive space to connect with peers & professionals ✅ Valuable resources to enhance your counseling journey ✅ Engaging discussions on real-world challenges & best practices ✅ Special guest speakers sharing their expertise ✅ An opportunity to suggest topi...2025-02-2802 min
Project I AmInterview with Whitney White, Counselor and ResearcherIn this episode, we sit down with Whitney White, a licensed counselor from Tennessee and a PhD student researching impostor syndrome. Whitney opens up about her journey into counseling, the challenges of pursuing a doctoral degree, and the surprising ways impostor syndrome shows up in the counseling profession.Whitney also shares her personal experiences with impostor syndrome, the highs and lows of PhD life, and what’s next for her in the world of counseling and education. If you’ve ever doubted your abilities despite clear evidence of success, this episode is for you!Connect with...2025-02-2218 min
Project I AmFire Drills for Life Stuff– How Pre-Deciding Your Responses Leads to SuccessWhat are Fire Drills for Life?Have you ever found yourself in a stressful situation, scrambling to figure out the right response—only to regret your reaction later? What if you didn’t have to decide in the moment at all? What if you already had a plan?In this episode of Project I AM, we’re diving into the power of Fire Drills for Life—a strategy used by elite athletes, military units, and top performers to eliminate stress, make better decisions, and set themselves up for success. When we choose ahead of time how to r...2025-02-2012 min
Project I AmMemento Mori – The Art of Living by Remembering DeathWhat if thinking about death could actually make life richer?In this episode of Project I Am, we explore the ancient wisdom of Memento Mori—Latin for “Remember that you must die”—and why this seemingly morbid concept has inspired philosophers, artists, and even modern psychologists to embrace life more fully.From the Stoics of ancient Rome to medieval monks who greeted each other with Memento Mori, we uncover the surprising ways people throughout history have used death as a tool for clarity, gratitude, and purpose. We also dive into recent psychological studies that show how cont...2025-02-1810 min
Project I AmA Lesson from the Trees - a reflectionHave you ever wondered if trees worry about whether their leaves will return in the spring? On this episode of Project I Am we explore what nature can teach us about trust, patience, and the natural rhythm of life.Just like trees don’t panic when winter strips them bare, we too are called to trust the process—even when growth isn’t visible. Whether you're in a season of uncertainty, healing, or waiting, this episode will remind you that renewal is always on the horizon.Tune in for a heartfelt reflection on embracing life’s season...2025-02-0608 min
Project I AmStagnation or Incubation?Ever feel like you’re stuck in life? Like no matter how hard you work, nothing is moving forward? What if I told you that what feels like stagnation is actually incubation—a critical phase where growth is happening beneath the surface?In this episode of Project I Am, we reframe the idea of being “stuck” and explore how some of the most successful people—like Howard Schultz (Starbucks) and Sara Blakely (Spanx)—turned their quiet, frustrating seasons into launchpads for success. We’ll also dive into the psychology of incubation, the science of patience, and practical strategies to...2025-02-0414 min
Project I AmA Different Take on BoundariesBoundaries have become one of the most popular buzzwords in self-help and psychology, but have we misunderstood their true purpose? In this episode of Project I Am, we take a fresh look at boundaries—not just as barriers to keep people out, but as meeting places that foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships.We’ll explore:The true definition of boundaries in relationships and why they matter.The psychological origins of boundaries, from Freud to modern research.How boundaries became a self-help trend—and where that conversation went wrong.A new perspective on boundaries as negotiation points, rather...2025-02-0314 min
Project I AmCan Premature Forgiveness be Harmful?Is forgiveness always necessary? Or can forgiving too soon cause more harm than good? In this episode of Project I AM, we dive deep into the psychology of forgiveness—when it’s healing, when it’s harmful, and what needs to happen before it can truly set you free.We’ll explore real-life stories, psychological research, and expert insights to answer questions like: 🔹 Why does premature forgiveness sometimes feel empty? 🔹 What are the essential steps to take before forgiveness can be genuine? 🔹 How does forgiveness impact mental health, relationships, and even physical well-being?Through compelling anecdotes, wisdom...2025-01-3016 min
Project I AmMeditation - Be YourselfWelcome to the Project I AM Meditation Series, your weekly space to pause, breathe, and reconnect. Each episode is a guided meditation designed to help you cultivate calm, clarity, and balance in the midst of life’s ups and downs.Through themes like grounding, self-compassion, gratitude, and releasing stress, this series invites you to explore mindfulness and create moments of stillness in your week. Whether you’re new to meditation or have an established practice, these sessions are crafted to meet you where you are—offering simple, approachable guidance to help you feel more present and aligned.J...2025-01-0309 min
Project I AmLiving By DesignAre you living intentionally, or are you stuck on autopilot? In this thought-provoking episode of Project I Am, Dr. David J. Schlosz explores what it means to live by design, not by default. Packed with humor, relatable anecdotes, and actionable advice, this episode dives deep into how we can break free from mindless routines and create a life that reflects our dreams, values, and potential.Discover practical steps to audit your time, clarify your values, set meaningful goals, and build systems that support intentional living. From personal stories, like the “coffee cup epiphany,” to the science behind why...2025-01-0212 min
Project I AmThe Power of EncouragementIn this episode of Project I Am, we explore the profound impact of encouragement on our minds, hearts, and lives. Drawing on recent research, inspiring real-life stories, and practical insights, we uncover how simple words of belief and support can fuel motivation, boost resilience, and transform outcomes. From the science behind encouragement to powerful examples — like Leicester City’s historic sports victory and the life-changing influence of a dedicated teacher — this episode will inspire you to lift others up and encourage yourself along the way.Tune in to learn actionable strategies for practicing encouragement in your daily life a...2024-12-2412 min
Project I AmMeditation - You Are EnoughWelcome to the Project I AM Meditation Series, your weekly space to pause, breathe, and reconnect. Each episode is a guided meditation designed to help you cultivate calm, clarity, and balance in the midst of life’s ups and downs.Through themes like grounding, self-compassion, gratitude, and releasing stress, this series invites you to explore mindfulness and create moments of stillness in your week. Whether you’re new to meditation or have an established practice, these sessions are crafted to meet you where you are—offering simple, approachable guidance to help you feel more present and aligned.J...2024-12-2112 min
Project I AmMentoring Moments 3 (for counseling students)On today's Project I am Mentoring Moments 3, we briefly chat about the importance and benefits of having a core theory and differentiating between a theory and an intervention. Enjoy!If you have any questions or suggestions about topics that will help counseling students navigate their academic and professional journey, please write to me at info@therapywithdavid.com and put "Mentoring Moments" in the subject line.May you be well!2024-12-2017 min
Project I AmMeditation-Self-Compassion BreakWelcome to the Project I AM Meditation Series, your weekly space to pause, breathe, and reconnect. Each episode is a guided meditation designed to help you cultivate calm, clarity, and balance in the midst of life’s ups and downs.Through themes like grounding, self-compassion, gratitude, and releasing stress, this series invites you to explore mindfulness and create moments of stillness in your week. Whether you’re new to meditation or have an established practice, these sessions are crafted to meet you where you are—offering simple, approachable guidance to help you feel more present and aligned.J...2024-12-1610 min
Project I AmOvercoming Failure: Turning Setbacks into Comebacks Failure is inevitable, but it doesn’t have to be final. In this episode of Project I Am, we explore how to overcome career setbacks, personal disappointments, and moral failures with resilience and purpose. Through real-life stories—like Steve Jobs' career comeback and insights on post-traumatic growth, emotional agility, and the power of the failure resume—you’ll discover how failure can be your greatest teacher.Backed by research from leading psychologists like Dr. Richard Tedeschi, Dr. Susan David, and Dr. Tina Seelig, this episode offers practical strategies to reframe failure, process difficult emotions, and move forward stronger...2024-12-1213 min
Project I AmMentoring Moments 2 (for counseling students)On today's Project I am Mentoring Moments 2, we briefly chat about the importance and benefits of having mentors. Enjoy!If you have any questions or suggestions about topics that will help counseling students navigate their academic and professional journey, please write to me at info@therapywithdavid.com and put "Mentoring Moments" in the subject line.May you be well!2024-12-1112 min
Project I AmFor One Who Is Exhausted - PoemToday, I want to share a poem with you. This poem is especially for those of you who feel exhausted after a long year. You have put yourself out there and done your best - and it has taken its toll.The poem is called "For One Who Is Exhausted" by John O'Donohue.John O'Donohue was a poet, theologian, and philosopher. He authored a number of books, including Anam Cara, Beauty: The Invisible Embrace, and To Bless The Space Between Us. You can find the full poem...2024-12-1005 min
Project I AmFollowing Your DreamsIn this inspiring episode of "Project I am," we delve into the transformative journey of following your dreams.Join us as we explore the power of passion, perseverance, and self-belief through captivating real-life stories of iconic figures like J.K. Rowling, Oprah Winfrey, and Elon Musk. Discover how overcoming obstacles and embracing failure can lead to profound personal growth, and learn practical steps to help you turn your aspirations into reality.We’ll discuss the science behind motivation and visualization, the importance of balancing dreams with practical considerations, and how pursuing your passions can create a...2024-12-0924 min
Project I AmMeditation - Being KnownWelcome to the Project I AM Meditation Series, your weekly space to pause, breathe, and reconnect. Each episode is a guided meditation designed to help you cultivate calm, clarity, and balance in the midst of life’s ups and downs.Through themes like grounding, self-compassion, gratitude, and releasing stress, this series invites you to explore mindfulness and create moments of stillness in your week. Whether you’re new to meditation or have an established practice, these sessions are crafted to meet you where you are—offering simple, approachable guidance to help you feel more present and aligned.J...2024-12-0710 min
Project I AmMentoring Moments 1 (for counseling students)Welcome to a new Project I Am series: Mentoring Moments, the weekly podcast series designed to guide, uplift, and empower counseling students on their journey to becoming compassionate, skilled professionals. Whether you’re navigating coursework, tackling practicum challenges, or preparing for a career in the field, this series is your go-to companion for advice, inspiration, and practical tools to thrive.Each weekly episode features bite-sized mentoring sessions packed with actionable insights, heartfelt encouragement, and wisdom. From managing imposter syndrome to embracing self-care, building cultural competency, and preparing for your professional future, Mentoring Moments is your supportive guide ev...2024-12-0519 min
Project I AmBalancing Work, Life, and Growth: Finding Harmony in a Fast-Paced WorldIn today’s nonstop world, finding balance can feel impossible. But what if harmony isn’t about doing it all—it’s about doing what matters most? In this episode of Project I Am, we explore the art of balancing work, life, and personal growth with insights from the latest research, including studies by Dr. Stewart Friedman and Dr. Gloria Mark. Discover why balance is about integration, not perfection, and learn actionable strategies to align your time and energy with your priorities. With real-life stories of transformation and evidence-based tips, you’ll walk away inspired and equipp...2024-12-0416 min
Project I AmHOPEIn this inspiring episode of Project I Am, we take a deep dive into one of the most essential human experiences: hope. Drawing on cutting-edge research, real-life stories, and practical advice, we explore what hope truly means and why it’s so vital for our well-being.Whether you’re facing personal challenges, supporting someone you care about, or simply looking for inspiration, this episode is your guide to understanding and cultivating the transformative power of hope.Hope is not passive. It’s a powerful blend of belief and action that can reshape our future.”Tune i...2024-12-0218 min
Project I AmOvercoming Fear: Choosing Courage, Choosing YourselfFear is a universal experience, but it doesn’t have to control your life. In this empowering episode of Project I Am, we explore the nature of fear—what it is, why it holds us back, and how we can transform it into a catalyst for growth. From the fear of failure to the fear of change, we’ll discuss how to face fear head-on and choose courage instead.Drawing on insights from experts like Brené Brown, Dr. Kristin Neff, and Joseph LeDoux, as well as inspiring real-world stories of courage—like Simone Biles’ decision to prioritize mental heal...2024-12-0114 min
Project I AmThe Connection Killers: How Guilt and Shame Undermine RelationshipsIn this episode of Project I AM, we dive into two powerful emotions that shape the way we connect with others: guilt and shame. While guilt can serve as a bridge to repair relationships, shame often builds walls that isolate us. But how do these emotions affect our bonds with loved ones, and what can we do to overcome their negative effects? Join us as we: - Unpack the psychology behind guilt and shame. - Explore how these emotions can lead to isolation, overcompensation, and defensiveness in our relationships. - Share...2024-11-2715 min
Project I AmThe Power of Community: Building Your Tribe for a Fulfilling LifeIn this episode of Project I Am, we’re exploring one of the most vital aspects of our well-being: community. In a world that often feels increasingly disconnected, finding your tribe—a supportive network of people who truly understand and uplift you—has never been more important.Join us as we unpack the profound benefits of meaningful relationships, from improved mental and physical health to greater resilience and joy. We’ll discuss the rise of loneliness in modern society, how to overcome barriers to connection, and actionable steps to build and strengthen your community bonds.Whether...2024-11-2517 min
Project I AmOvercoming Setbacks: Embracing Resilience, Self-Compassion, and GrowthSetbacks are an inevitable part of life, but how we respond to them can shape our future. In this episode of The Resilient Mind, we explore the emotional weight of setbacks and uncover strategies to turn challenges into opportunities for growth.Join host Dr. David J Schlosz as we dive into the shame we often feel from mistakes and learn how to replace self-criticism with self-compassion. Discover the science behind resilience, the power of shifting perspectives, and actionable steps to help you bounce back stronger than ever. Drawing on recent research, personal stories, and timeless wisdom, this...2024-11-2413 min
Project I AmDiscomfort vs. Danger: Why Understanding the Difference Matters In this episode of Project I AM, we dive into a question with profound implications: Why do we confuse discomfort with a lack of safety? This misunderstanding shapes personal growth, relationships, workplaces, and even public policy. Join Dr. David J. Schlosz as we explore: - The key distinction between discomfort and danger. - Neuroscience explaining why our brains misinterpret challenges as threats. - How parenting, education, and social media foster “safetyism.” - The cultural impacts of trigger warnings, safe spaces, and censorship. - Practical strategies to reframe disc...2024-11-2217 min
Project I AmThe Central Relational Paradox: Why We Hide When We Most Need ConnectionWhy do we withdraw or hide parts of ourselves when we’re longing for connection the most? In this episode of Project I AM, we explore the Central Relational Paradox—a concept from Relational Cultural Theory that sheds light on the push-and-pull between our deep desire for connection and our fear of rejection.Join your host, Dr. David Schlosz, as we dive into the origins of this paradox, its roots in relational psychology, and how it shows up in our everyday lives. Using current research, real-world anecdotes, and practical advice, we’ll uncover why this paradox exists and ho...2024-11-2012 min
Project I AmTurning Loneliness into Aloneness: Finding Comfort in SolitudeIn this episode, we explore the journey from loneliness to aloneness—a transformative state where solitude becomes a source of comfort, growth, and even joy. Loneliness is a deeply human experience, and research shows that it’s more common than ever. But what if instead of running from loneliness, we learned to embrace it as an opportunity for self-connection and inner peace? We dive into recent studies on the effects of loneliness, self-compassion, and mindfulness, sharing practical steps to help you turn moments of loneliness into valuable times of self-discovery.Join us to explore how you can shif...2024-11-1713 min
Project I AmNon-Violent CommunicationIn this episode, we explore the transformative practice of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a communication style that prioritizes empathy, clarity, and compassion. Developed by psychologist Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, NVC encourages us to approach conversations—especially challenging ones—with openness and respect. We’ll break down the four essential components of NVC: Observation, Feelings, Needs, and Requests, and discuss how each step can help us connect more meaningfully with others while reducing conflict.With real-life examples, a practical exercise, and insights into Rosenberg’s philosophy, this episode provides a foundational understanding of NVC and tips for incorporating it into your dai...2024-11-1511 min
Project I AmThe Power of Self-Compassion: Embracing Kindness Toward YourselfIn this episode of Project I AM, we dive into the transformative power of self-compassion—a practice that might feel foreign or even indulgent in a world that often pushes us to be our own toughest critics. Yet, as research shows, it’s self-compassion, not self-criticism, that fosters resilience, motivation, and emotional well-being.We explore what self-compassion truly means, drawing on insights from Dr. Kristin Neff, who identifies three core elements: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. Together, these components allow us to meet our challenges with warmth and understanding instead of judgment and harshness. Through compelling studies, prac...2024-11-1316 min
Project I AmEveryday Activism: Making a Difference in Small and Big WaysIn this episode of "Project I AM" we explore how to be an activist and make a difference, whether through small, everyday actions or larger, organized efforts. Many of us feel called to push back against systems and ideologies that don’t align with our values or that marginalize communities, but it’s not always clear where to start. We’ll dive into research-backed approaches for effective activism, offer practical steps for engaging in ways that are sustainable, and share insights on finding hope and resilience in the journey. Whether you’re just beginning or looking for new ways to make...2024-11-1214 min
Project I Am Understanding Emotions in Politics: Men, Fear and the Recent ElectionsIn this episode of "Project I AM," we explore the role that fear played in shaping voting behavior among men in the recent elections. From economic anxiety and cultural shifts to media influence, fear is a powerful force that can drive people to seek stability and security in uncertain times. Drawing from current research in political psychology and sociology, we unpack how these fears influenced voting patterns, why certain messages resonate so deeply, and what this means for our political landscape.Join us as we delve into the psychology behind political decision-making, examining how fear impacts men...2024-11-1015 min
Project I AmNavigating Uncertainty: Coping with Change Beyond Our ControlIn this episode of "Project I Am" we explore strategies for handling political change and uncertainty that feel out of our control. With many feeling anxious or overwhelmed about the future, we offer practical, research-backed approaches to manage fear and find a sense of stability amidst unpredictability. From building resilience and practicing self-compassion to engaging in meaningful action and finding community, this episode provides tools to help you stay grounded and connected during challenging times. Tune in for insights on embracing uncertainty, reducing anxiety, and finding hope, even when the world feels uncertain.2024-11-0618 min
Project I AmYou Are Not Your Thoughts: Learning to Let GoIn this episode, we dive into the powerful realization that not every thought deserves our attention or belief. From understanding the brain’s natural negativity bias to learning practical techniques for handling uncomfortable thoughts, we’ll explore why it’s okay—and even freeing—not to take our thoughts so seriously. Join us as we discuss the science of mindfulness, the benefits of sitting with discomfort, and actionable strategies to help you let go of the thoughts that aren’t serving you. Perfect for anyone looking to boost mental resilience and find more peace in the everyday ebb and flow of the 2024-11-0512 min
Project I AmThe Problem with BlindspotsIn this episode, the I explore the concept of "blind spots"—those unseen areas in our perspectives and behaviors that often stem from cultural backgrounds, family dynamics, personal beliefs, and routines. Blind spots are described as a universal experience, impacting our understanding and actions without us even realizing it. The episode emphasizes how these blind spots, while not intentional, can affect others in ways we might not anticipate, leading to missed opportunities for empathy, inclusivity, and awareness.2024-11-0416 min
Project I AmChoosing Yourself Part 6: Choosing Yourself for the Benefit of Others: How Self-Prioritization Uplifts Your RelationshipsIn the final episode of Choosing Yourself, we explore the powerful ripple effect of self-prioritization. Many of us feel that focusing on our own needs might detract from our ability to support others, but the truth is quite the opposite. When we’re fulfilled and energized, we show up as our best selves in our relationships, creating a more positive and supportive environment for everyone.This episode features a story about Amanda, a mother who learned that taking just a little time for herself each day not only transformed her own happiness but also strengthened her family dy...2024-11-0104 min
Project I AmChoosing Yourself Part 5: The Art of Sustainable Self-Care: Making Time for You Without GuiltIn this episode of Choosing Yourself, we’re redefining self-care—not as an occasional escape but as a regular, sustainable practice that keeps us balanced and energized. Sustainable self-care isn’t about grand gestures; it’s about small, consistent habits that nourish our mind, body, and soul.We explore the challenge of guilt that often surrounds taking time for ourselves, sharing a story about the life-changing moment when a mentor asked, “How are you showing up for yourself?” This episode encourages you to see self-care as essential maintenance rather than an indulgence, and offers tips to integrate it into your...2024-11-0104 min
Project I AmChoosing Yourself Part 4: Choosing You in Times of Failure: Resilience Over PerfectionIn this episode of Choosing Yourself, we’re tackling one of life’s biggest challenges: failure. Failure can make us feel defeated, but it’s actually a profound opportunity for growth and self-compassion. Instead of letting setbacks define us, what if we viewed them as stepping stones toward resilience?We dive into why failure is not the end but a valuable teacher, with a story about a project that didn’t go as planned and the powerful lesson that followed. This episode is a reminder that choosing yourself means embracing your imperfections and getting back up after every st...2024-11-0105 min
Project I AmChoosing Yourself Part 3: Becoming Your Own Advocate: Building Confidence from WithinIn this episode of Choosing Yourself, we’re tackling a powerful aspect of self-care: confidence. Many of us struggle with feeling "not enough" or unworthy of prioritizing ourselves. But true confidence isn’t about being the loudest or always having the answers; it’s about trusting your own value and having the courage to stand up for yourself.We’ll explore what it means to advocate for yourself, with a story about Janice, a talented worker who learned the hard way that others might not see our worth if we don’t believe in it ourselves. By speaking u...2024-11-0104 min
Project I AmChoosing Yourself Part 2: Saying Yes to You: Boundaries as a Form of Self-LoveIn this episode of Choosing Yourself, we dive into the powerful, transformative act of setting boundaries. Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out; they’re about saying a meaningful "yes" to yourself. We’ll explore why boundaries are a form of self-love, protecting your time, energy, and well-being, especially in a world that often pulls us in all directions.I share a personal story of my early career struggles with over-commitment and how learning to set boundaries transformed my productivity and relationships. Through reflection and practical tips, I invite you to rethink what it means to prioritize your o...2024-11-0105 min
Project I AmChoosing Yourself Part 1 - The Power of Prioritizing You: Debunking Myths Around SelfishnessIn this first episode of the Choosing Yourself series, we dive into the importance of putting yourself first without guilt. Often, self-care is mislabeled as selfish, but host David challenges this myth by illustrating how self-prioritization fuels us to support others more sustainably. With relatable analogies and a personal story about Sarah—a friend who learned the hard way about burnout—listeners are invited to reconsider self-care as essential, not indulgent. Reflecting on areas where we may feel drained, we’re encouraged to start small, giving ourselves permission to prioritize our needs. Remember, when you choose yourself, everyone benefits.2024-11-0104 min