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Raised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildNatasha’s Story: How An Overwhelmed Mom Helped Her Highly Sensitive 4-Year-Old Ditch Meltdowns and Aggressive Behaviors & Get Her “Spark” BackNatasha and her family were really struggling; their 4-year-old highly sensitive daughter was having daily meltdowns, showing aggressive behaviors toward her baby sister, and resorting to destruction (like slamming a door and breaking a spice rack full of glass) in really tough moments.
In this week's episode, I interview Natasha about her family’s experience in my Chaos to Connection program. She shares how, almost immediately, the dynamic in her family started to shift, and she started to “see a spark” in her child that she hadn’t seen in literal years.
Natasha’s story will inspire...2024-03-1521 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildConstantly Yelling at Your Child? Why Trying to "Stay Calm” Is Setting You Up to Fail (& What to Focus on Instead!)As parents – especially in the gentle, respectful, conscious parenting space – we’re constantly told that we have to “stay calm” in order to be effective with our kids. But sometimes staying calm feels unreachable, and it’s easy to feel like you’re failing in those moments.
In this week's episode, I unpack why it’s so hard to stay calm in the face of your child’s dysregulation and why focusing on this alone sets us up to fail. I then share what to focus on instead and how to set yourself up for success with realis...2024-03-1323 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildParenting Reflections: "Go Away and Die, Mommy!": How to Respond to Mean Words from Your Highly Sensitive Child (Without Losing Your Cool!)“I hate you!” “You’re the worst!” “I don’t love you!” These words are SO hard to hear … especially when they’re coming from your child!
In this week's episode, I walk you through how I handled it when my daughter recently told me to “go away and die.” I share my knee-jerk reaction and also how I shifted my mindset to show up more effectively for her.
Here’s the thing: Our kids will say mean things sometimes as a way to push us away or to help us understand the depth of thei...2024-03-0816 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildRaising a Strong-Willed, Anxious, or Perfectionistic Kid? What These 3 Kids Have in Common (& How to Understand Your Child Better!)What do strong-willed, hesitant / anxious, and perfectionistic kids have in common? It might seem like nothing at face value … but actually, all three of these behavioral patterns have the same roots.
In this week's episode, I share how being a strong-willed child, a child who tends to hesitate or be slow to warm up, and a child who tends toward perfectionism are all connected. I give examples of what each of these behavioral patterns looks like and then also help you understand how these patterns are all connected to being highly sensitive.
He...2024-03-0617 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildParenting Reflections: How to Respond When Your Highly Sensitive Child's Feelings Don't Make Logical SenseHave you ever said something to your highly sensitive child, but your child heard something completely different than what you meant? These miscommunications are tough no matter what, but they can lead to huge emotions for highly sensitive kids.
In this week's episode, I bring you behind the scenes of my own parenting life and share a miscommunication I had with my son and things unfolded for us that morning.
Here’s the thing: Our kids’ feelings might not always make logical sense to us, but it’s our job to trust those feelings and trust...2024-03-0112 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhy Your Highly Sensitive Child’s Sensitivity is Actually Their SuperpowerIf you’re stuck in a cycle of meltdown after meltdown, it’s probably tough to see that your child’s sensitivity can have an upside. But I promise you it does!
In this week's episode, I uncover the many positives of being highly sensitive, and I help you think about how to nurture these wonderful qualities in your child – while also working to help lessen the meltdowns.
Here’s the thing: Being highly sensitive is a wonderful thing – it’s just that most kids don’t know how to hone and nurture their secret superpower. And...2024-02-2812 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildParenting Reflections: How to Handle Birthday Meltdowns with Your Highly Sensitive ChildHave you ever had a wonderful, special day planned for your highly sensitive child – maybe for their birthday or a holiday – but they end up having meltdowns all day long?
In this parenting reflections episode, I share how I navigated my daughter’s big feelings on her birthday. I also reflect on the grief inherent in parenting and watching our kids grow into new versions of themselves each year.
Here’s the thing: Birthdays and special days can be tricky for highly sensitive kids; the excitement and fun can quickly spell overwhelm. But with the right mind...2024-02-2317 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildThe #1 Reason Your Highly Sensitive Child Has MeltdownsIf you’re parenting a highly sensitive child who’s struggling, you know how hard it can be. But have you ever wondered WHY your child might be struggling?
In this week's episode, I share the one common key idea underneath most struggles highly sensitive children face. So even if your child has a meltdown over something different every day, this common idea is always at the root of it.
Here’s the thing: Once you understand the WHY behind the meltdowns, you’ll be so much better able to help your child in tough moments...2024-02-2113 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildParenting Reflections: How to Regroup When You’ve Had a Rough Parenting Day (Yelling, Losing Your Cool, and Feeling Shame)Have you ever had one of those parenting days where you just keep messing up and making parenting mistakes? You yell at your child, you lose your cool, and you feel guilt and shame and like you don’t know how to get back on track?
In this week's episode, I bring you behind the scenes of my own parenting life and walk you through a day where I yelled, called my son “mean” and “a terrible brother,” and ultimately just felt off my parenting game. I share what happened, why I was actually primed to make the...2024-02-1614 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildManaging Separation Anxiety: Expert Tips for When Your Highly Sensitive Child Won't Let You LeaveWe’ve all been there: You’re desperate for a date-night with your partner or some time to yourself … but your highly sensitive child won’t leave your side without a massive meltdown – complete with hitting, kicking, and screaming – at the mere mention of you going out.
In this week's episode, I share 3 game-changing strategies to help your highly sensitive child tolerate the distress of separating from you. These tips are simple, effective, and easy to implement – so get ready for that much-needed date night!
Here’s the thing: Highly sensitive kids often struggle...2024-02-1414 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildParenting Reflections: How to Handle it When Your Child Says “I’m a Bad Kid”What do you do when your highly sensitive child insists that they’re “a bad kid” or that they’re “stupid?” How do you handle it without making things worse?
In this week's episode, I share a story from my own real-life parenting where my child insisted that he was a bad kid, and I initially handled the situation in a way that made things worse. I also share what I did to repair my mistake and how I eventually helped him with these uncomfortable feelings.
Here’s the thing: Our highly sensitive...2024-02-0908 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child5 Not-So-Obvious Signs Your Child is Highly SensitiveAfter a much longer break than I planned, Raised Resilient with Dr. Hilary is back! Moving forward, my focus is going to be on helping you parent your highly sensitive / deeply feeling / emotionally intense child effectively.
In this week's episode, I share five not-so-obvious signs that may indicate your child is highly sensitive and help you understand why highly sensitive children often present in these ways.
Here’s the thing: Recognizing these signs of high sensitivity in your child is key to parenting them effectively, helping them thrive emotionally, and building resi...2024-02-0716 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhy I’m Taking a Short Break from Podcasting (& Why You Should Take a Break from Something Too!)I can’t believe it’s been almost *exactly* a year and a half since I started this podcast. It’s been an absolute honor & a super fun adventure so far. And honestly, I’m really proud of the fact that I’ve delivered a new episode every Wednesday morning without fail for 18 straight months while raising 3 kids and running a therapy practice!
In this week’s episode, I share why I’m taking a short break from podcasting, when I’ll be returning, what exciting things you can expect from this show once I return, and why t...2023-08-0918 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildPractical Tips to Make Time for Exercise as a Busy Parent with Lauren ChanteAs busy parents, we’re all trying to fit in self-care around the 24/7 job of caring for our kids. It’s not easy, and sometimes it can even feel impossible to make time for things like exercise when you’re raising little kids.
In this week’s episode, I talk with Lauren Chante – wellness strategist, former celebrity personal trainer, and mom of 3 – about how you can ensure that you move your body each day, even if you feel like you have zero time and no childcare.
Here’s the thing: We can’t care for ot...2023-08-0228 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildHow to Know if Your Child is Kindergarten Ready (& Why “Kindergarten Readiness” is Probably Not What You Think It Is!)Kindergarten readiness has become a whole thing. There are flash cards, online programs, and books all designed to ensure that your child is ready for kindergarten (and the messaging is that you should get started pretty much as soon as your kid can walk). It’s enough to make your head spin!
In this week’s episode, I tell you why you actually don’t need books, programs, or flash cards – and I share 3 things you DO want to focus on during the toddler and preschool years to ensure that your child is truly ready when it’s...2023-07-2616 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child4 Reasons You Should Let Your Child be Bored (& How to Deal With Boredom)Most parents dread the inevitable “I’m bored” from our kids. Those words can conjure up feelings of guilt for us as parents, and we might feel compelled to jump in and suggest a list of activities or organize a craft or put on a movie.
In this week’s episode, I share four reasons why you should resist the urge to jump in and instead just let your child be bored. I also talk about how to hold space for the discomfort of boredom and how to support your child through it.
Here’...2023-07-1916 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child4 Tips to Encourage Your Child to Play Independently More Often (& For Longer!)As parents, we all want our kids to be comfortable with independent play – but how do we actually get there, especially if your child is resistant to the idea of playing alone?
In this week’s episode, I share four tips to help you encourage your child to play independently more often and for longer. This is a wonderful thing, not only because it’s exactly what your child needs for healthy development – but also because it gives you a much-needed and well-deserved break!
Here’s the thing: Kids need independent play, but som...2023-07-1215 min
The Purpose ShowEp 317: Let's Talk PPD with Dr. Hilary MandzikWe are getting a bit heavy today but not without light, hope, and encouragement. So don't let the title of this episode hold you back from listening! I have my friend Dr. Hilary Mandzik on the show to talk about something I am realllllyyy passionate about ... PPD. We are going to share our experiences with PPD, how they differ but both need/deserve help and support, as well as some valuable, encouraging, and hope-filled information for you guys. As we share our stories, if you feel connected in any way, don't feel shame. You are not alone. You are...2023-07-1056 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildTraveling with Kids: 5 Tips to Make Your Next Family Trip Less StressfulTraveling with kids can be amazing … but it can also be stressful. Long car rides, plane trips with strangers, schedule changes, busy days, and later bedtimes can spell challenges, especially with toddlers and preschoolers.
In this week’s episode, I share five tips to make your next family trip feel less stressful and flow more smoothly. I talk about how to prepare yourself and your child – and how to shift your mindset so that even hard moments don’t feel quite so hard.
Here’s the thing: Family trips can be exciting and...2023-07-0515 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildThe Benefits of Unstructured Outdoor Play (& How to Get Your Child Outside!) with Allana RobinsonGetting kids outside is truly magical. Fresh air can calm a fussy baby, support emotion regulation, and provide the context change you need on a long day of parenting. And letting kids explore the outdoors *without* structured activities has SO many benefits!
In this week’s episode, I talk with Allana Robinson – registered Early Childhood Educator and Developmental Specialist – about the many benefits of unstructured, independent outdoor play. We cover the logistics of getting kids outside (including weather & safety concerns), how to embrace unstructured outdoor exploration, and why it’s so important to let your child pla...2023-06-2837 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWater Safety for Kids: 5 Tips to Keep Your Child Safe (& Why This Topic Is So Important to Me!)Summer is here (in the northern hemisphere at least!), and for a lot of families, summer means swimming! But we can’t talk about water play without also talking about water safety. It’s not fun to think about, but drowning is the leading cause of death for children 4 and under – so it’s really important that parents know how to keep kids safe in & around water.
In this week’s episode, I share my family’s story – the reason I’m so passionate about water safety. I also share 5 tips to help you keep your child safe i...2023-06-2120 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildHow to Get Your Child to Talk to You (Even About the Hard Stuff!)We all want our kids to feel safe coming to us when they’re struggling. We want them to talk to us about their problems, tell us how they’re feeling, and generally keep us up to date on their lives. But how do we create the sort of parent-child relationship where our kids feel safe sharing even the hard stuff with us?
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who’s wondering exactly this, particularly as her pre-teen sons inch closer to adolescence. I uncover the single most important thing we can do to fost...2023-06-1422 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhat to Do When You Don’t Like Your Child’s FriendWhat should you do when your child comes home from school and tells you that her “best” friend ignored her today? Or that his long-time buddy said unkind things to him? Or that nobody wanted to play with them during recess? These are tough moments for parents; we often want to step in and fix the situation – but there’s a more helpful way to respond.
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener struggling with how to best support her 7-year-old daughter, who has a friend who’s kind one day and mean the next. I d...2023-06-0725 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildHow to Find Balance in Parenting, Life & Hormones with Dr. Brooke KalanickParenting is legit the hardest job we’ll ever do … and it’s almost impossible to show up to parenting the way we want to if we’re not prioritizing ourselves & our own wellness. But how do we do this in the midst of the busyness of raising kids?
In this week’s episode, I talk with naturopathic medicine doctor and women’s hormone expert Dr. Brooke Kalanick about how to figure out your priorities, how to balance parenting and other parts of your life, and how to know when your hormones are out of balance (it’s...2023-05-3131 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildHow to Introduce Your Baby / Child to a New Pet: 4 Tips for a Smooth TransitionWe just got a new puppy, and it’s been amazing … but there have also been challenges – especially when it comes to introducing our toddler to her new furry friend. This transition in our family inspired me to record this episode to help YOU should you decide you’re ready to adopt a new pet!
In this week’s episode, I share 4 tips for introducing your baby or child to a new pet. I talk about how we’ve navigated the transition with our kids – ranging from 2 to 8 – and how to ensure a safe and healthy beginning...2023-05-2422 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildThe #1 Negative Thought Pattern that Keeps Parents Feeling Stuck & DisconnectedI talk all the time about how our mindset affects our parenting; the lens through which we view ourselves and our child in tough moments makes the difference between a reactive power struggle and a connective learning opportunity.
In this week’s episode, I share the #1 negative thought pattern that I’ve seen in my work with parents. This negative thought pattern keeps parents stuck in blame and shame, makes us feel disconnected from our child, and renders it nearly impossible to parent effectively. Sounds pretty undesirable, right? Well, don’t stress – in this episode, I teach yo...2023-05-1724 min
Emotionally Healthy Legacy- Anger management for Christian moms, christian parenting, patient mom, calm mom, Christian motherhood, mom rage, Mom mindset, parenting triggers, mom guilt, controlling anger132. Triggered by your childs anger outbursts? How to remain calm when your child feels angry and experiences aggression // Dr Hilary MandzikDo you get pulled into your childs angry emotions? Is it hard for you to keep your cool when your child is being aggressive? There is a good reason for that. In this episode you will learn:Why kids anger outbursts feels threatening and triggering to youHow to let your kids feel angry and keep anger safe in the heat of the momentHow to help your child learn to regulate their emotionsHow to change your mindset about anger to reduce threatIf you want to respond better when your child is experiencing anger and teach t...2023-05-1242 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child4 Practical Ways to Manage Parenting Stress with Elizabeth AndreyevskiyParenting is stressful. But what if we could widen our window of tolerance for parenting’s most stressful moments? What if we could tolerate more … while reacting LESS? What if we could implement strategies ahead of time to help us show up the way we want to as parents?
In this week’s episode, I talk with Elizabeth Andreyevski, a stress coach who helps overwhelmed parents reduce their mental stress so they can respond to their kids with patience & calm. We talk about why parenting feels so stressful, and Elizabeth shares 4 proactive ways to feel less st...2023-05-1028 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildHow to Respond to Aggressive Behavior in Older KidsHitting, kicking, and other aggressive behaviors can be super challenging for parents – but when your child is too big to pick up, handling these behaviors gets even trickier.
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who’s struggling to know how to help her 7-year-old son when he’s angry and hitting; he’s too big for her to easily pick him up, and his behavior is frustrating for the whole family. I talk about why aggressive behaviors in our older kids can feel especially challenging – and how we can respond effectively.
Here...2023-05-0327 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildConnecting with “Big Kids”: How to Build & Sustain Healthy Relationships with Older Kids, Tweens & TeensWe talk a lot about connecting with our little kids – our babies, toddlers, preschoolers, and young kids. But as our kids grow, changing developmental needs & behaviors can sometimes make it feel more challenging to connect with them.
In this week’s episode, I dive into how your relationship with your child changes (and how it stays the same!) as your child grows. I share tips for connecting with your older kid, preteen, or teenager and help you shift your mindset so that you can show up for your “bid kid” in a way that feels good for b...2023-04-2628 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildResponding to Fears of the Dark & Other Common Bedtime StrugglesHow should parents respond to common bedtime struggles like children refusing to stay in their rooms, continually begging for one more story, or sharing that they’re suddenly afraid of the dark? Why is bedtime such a struggle for some families? And what can we do to help?
In this week’s episode, I answer all of these questions and then some. This deep dive into toddler and big kid bedtime struggles will help you understand why bedtime is such a struggle sometimes, what kids really need at bedtime, and how to respond to fears of th...2023-04-1929 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildBeyond Sleep Training or Co-Sleeping Forever: Finding the Baby Sleep Middle Ground with Rachael Shepherd-Ohta“How do I get my baby to sleep?” If you’ve ever Googled that question at 3am, you’re not alone. Sleep (or lack thereof!) is one of the most stressful parts of becoming a parent. It doesn’t help that the conversation around sleep is incredibly polarized; it can feel like you’re stuck with either “cry it out” or co-sleeping forever.
But actually, there’s so much middle ground when it comes to baby sleep! And in this week’s episode, I talk with Rachael Shepherd-Ohta – certified sleep specialist and the voice behind Hey, Sleepy Baby – abou...2023-04-1229 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildGentle Parenting with Babies: 5 Tips to Build Emotion Regulation from the StartThe days are long when you’re caring for a baby; the first year can feel like a blur of rocking, bouncing, and singing (and very little sleep!). But the work you’re doing during that first year is SO important … and YOU are so important to your baby!
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who’s wondering: How do you co-regulate with a baby? How do you implement gentle / respectful / conscious parenting with our tiniest humans? I share 5 tips to help you make sense of the many ways we’re co-regulating and building...2023-04-0528 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWelcoming a New Baby: 6 Tips to Help Your Older Child Adjust to Their New SiblingWelcoming a new baby is a HUGE transition for everyone involved – especially for older siblings! As parents, we all want to support our older child in bonding with their new baby sibling – but a new baby is a LOT of work, and we often feel unprepared for exactly how hard this process can be.
In this week’s episode, I share six tips to support you as you help your older child adjust to having a new sibling. I share the reasons this transition is SO hard on our older kids and how you can support...2023-03-2929 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child“How Do I Get My Partner On Board with Gentle Parenting?” with Bryana KappadakunnelDo you ever feel like you and your partner are on two totally different pages when it comes to parenting? Maybe you’ve fully embraced gentle / conscious / respectful parenting, but your partner feels strongly about using punishments. Maybe you’re arguing constantly about how to handle tough parenting moments.
If you can relate, you’re not alone! In this week’s episode, I talk with fellow licensed therapist Bryana Kappadakunnel about how to get on the same page with our partners when it comes to parenting. We talk about why it can feel so triggering when our p...2023-03-2229 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child”Does Gentle Parenting Actually Work?” Responding to a Skeptical PartnerIf you’re like most parents, you entered parenting knowing only the punishments-and-rewards approach your own parents used. But along the way, many of us have learned about gentle / respectful / conscious parenting. We’re intrigued, but we also wonder: Is gentle parenting actually effective? And when we raise our kids without punishments, are we preparing them for the real world?
In this week’s episode, I respond to a listener whose partner is asking these exact questions (which makes this a fantastic episode to share with anyone in your life who’s skeptical about gentle parenting...2023-03-1529 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhy Play is Your Child’s Most Important Job (& How it Supports Healthy Child Development!)Jean Piaget said that “play is the work of childhood,” and he was definitely right about that. Play is literally your child’s most important job. We often place more importance on academics, but the truth is that kids learn SO much more through play than through structured learning, especially when they’re really little.
In this week’s episode, I dive into why play is so important and give examples of how you can support your child’s need to explore the world through play. I talk about how to prioritize play, how to respect your...2023-03-0829 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildIntuitive Eating for Kids: How to Help Picky Eaters & Heal Food Trauma with Bekah GroopIs your child a picky eater? Are mealtimes the most stressful part of the day? Do you worry about whether your child’s nutrition is adequate or whether they’re getting enough veggies? If this is you, you’re not alone! Feeding kids can feel really stressful sometimes … and that’s even more true if you’ve got your own issues with food.
In this week’s episode, I interview Bekah Groop – fellow peaceful parenting educator / content creator, mom of 3, and eating disorder survivor – on how to ditch the mealtime stress and instead teach our kids to be intuitiv...2023-03-0129 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child3 Invaluable Parenting Truths I’ve Learned Through Creating a Parenting Podcast (One Year Anniversary Episode!)Raised Resilient with Dr. Hilary officially turns ONE this week! This means that it’s been a full year since I started this podcast. I wasn’t sure where this journey would take me (and I had no idea what I was doing), but I trudged ahead anyway, with a makeshift recording studio in my closet, a mic, and some serious passion for parenting & supporting parents.
In this week’s episode, I reflect on the journey that creating this podcast has been, and I share 3 invaluable parenting truths that I’ve learned along the way. I also gi...2023-02-2225 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child“My Child Won’t Share Her Toys on Play Dates”: Responding to Challenging Behaviors After a New Sibling is BornI get so many questions about challenging behaviors – not wanting to share, hitting and kicking, “clingy” behaviors, refusing to listen – that occur in the days, months, and years after a child becomes a big sibling. And while most parents acknowledge that getting a sibling is a big deal, we often don’t realize that our child’s challenging behaviors are connected to this major life shift.
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who wants to know how to help her young daughter, who’s struggling on play dates. She doesn’t want her peers to play w...2023-02-1523 min
Rock Your Wellness Podcast with Lauren ChanteTrauma & Your Wellness - with Dr. Hilary MandzikOn today's episode, I talk with parenting expert Dr. Hilary Mandzik about the basics of trauma: What is trauma, who has it (spoiler - all of us), and how it can impact your wellness. This is such a great episode. It's really going to rock your wellness! Show notes: https://laurenchante.com/index.php/2023/02/08/wellness-for-mothers-with-unresolved-trauma-with-dr-hilary-mandzik/2023-02-0825 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildDo Kids Actually Need Play Dates & Preschool? An Overview of Social Development for Toddlers Through TeensMeeting your child’s social needs can feel confusing. Parents often feel pressured to create a full schedule of play dates starting in babyhood … and then we feel frustrated when our older kids – especially our teens – only want to spend time with their friends. So what do our kids *actually* need in terms of social development and peer interactions, especially as they grow and change?
In this week’s episode, I give an overview of healthy social development from toddlerhood through the teen years. I talk about why young kids don’t actually need playdates (and what we n...2023-02-0827 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child“Why Is My Child’s Behavior Good at School and Bad at Home?!”: Unpacking This Common DynamicYour child is a star student – literally a teacher’s dream. But then she comes home from school, and it’s a totally different story; it’s meltdowns and tantrums and refusing to cooperate from carpool until bedtime. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone, and you’re probably wondering why on earth your child only has meltdowns at home.
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener’s question about the huge difference between her child’s behavior at school versus at home. I unpack this super common dynamic, explain why it happens (and why it...2023-02-0125 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildHow to Stop Sibling Teasing (& Why It Happens in the First Place)If you’ve got more than one child, you already know how infuriating it can be when one kid starts picking on the other, seemingly out of nowhere. It might seem purposeful and mean, and it can be super tricky to meet both kids’ needs in these tough parenting moments.
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to stop sibling teasing. I dive into the many reasons and complicated dynamics that cause one child to seemingly intentionally provoke the other, and I share both strategies to intervene in the moment an...2023-01-2525 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildHow to Get Kids to Clean Up: Pro Tips to Help You Teach This Important Skill (Without All the Stress!)“All I do all day is go from room to room cleaning up the messes my kids make!” Sound familiar? If it does, you’re not alone! The constant tidying we do as parents is exhausting. It makes so much sense that you’d want your child to start cleaning up their own toys & messes as soon as humanly possible.
In this week’s episode, I talk about how to actually get your child to clean up after themselves (I promise you it IS doable!). I share what to do (& what not to do) and what to expe...2023-01-1824 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildParenting With Trauma: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Reparent Yourself While You Simultaneously Raise Your Own ChildMost of us arrive at gentle / respectful / conscious parenting for a reason: We want to do things differently than they were done when we were kids. And the parts of our own childhoods that we leave behind as we become parents ourselves – the punishments, developmentally inappropriate expectations, criticisms, etc. – have often left us with unmet needs & unhealed wounds.
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who wonders how to deal with guilt around not having fully healed her childhood trauma before becoming a parent. I talk about how and why we can let go of t...2023-01-1129 min
Active & Connected FamiliesHow to Raise Emotionally Healthy Kids (and Stop Fixing your Kids' Feelings) with Hilary Mandzik, Psy.D.If you’re anything like me, when your kid starts showing anger, sadness, fear, or any other emotion in big form, you want to either fix the problem for them or send them away to deal with it on their own. But to raise emotionally healthy kids, we need to take a different approach. Today's expert guest is Hilary Mandzik, Psy.D. We discuss all the ins and outs of how and why we as parents need to stop fixing our kids' feelings and start sitting with them when they’re experiencing all the feels. Hilary helps us un...2023-01-0536 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildParents, Stop Doing These 3 Things Today to Simplify Your Parenting & Feel More JOY!"Parenting is the hardest job we’ll ever do." It's literally the first line of my podcast intro, and that’s because it’s the truth. But we often make parenting even harder than it needs to be; we take on responsibilities that were never ours to begin with … and then we feel like failures when we’re unsuccessful.
In this week’s episode, I share three common but unnecessary “jobs” we take on as parents …. and I encourage you to LET THEM GO! You’re probably working harder than you need to, friend.
Here’s the...2023-01-0425 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhy You Should Forget the New Year’s Resolutions & Do This ONE Thing Instead for Lighter, More Joyful Parenting in 2023!Ah, New Year’s Resolutions. According to the research, most of us make them … and most of us also give up on them before the end of January. I think this is because we often think of our resolutions in all-or-nothing terms (read: I resolve to NEVER yell at my kids again) … which sets us up to fail.
In this week’s episode, I give you another option: Ditch the all-or-nothing thinking connected to New Year’s Resolutions and instead build more (real, actual) gratitude into your life. Research tells us that gratitude is literally life-changing when it’s a regu...2022-12-2829 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildFrom Toddler Tantrums to Big Kid Struggles: How to Manage Holiday Meltdowns Like a ProThe holidays are magical for children. There’s a constant stream of fun activities, sugar, and presents. But all of that excitement and schedule changes can also bring tantrums, meltdowns, difficulties with impulse control, and lots of big feelings.
In this week’s episode, I give you actionable strategies to support your child through the holidays by paying attention to their schedule and cues, making a plan ahead of time, and knowing when to cut your losses and head home.
Here’s the thing: It’s not if your child will have a melt...2022-12-2128 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildHow to Deal When Someone Criticizes Your Parenting (& Navigating Holiday Gatherings With People Who Aren’t Into Respectful / Gentle Parenting)What do you do when you’ve made the decision to parent differently … but your family and friends aren’t exactly on board? How do you deal when your own parents criticize your parenting? How do you navigate gatherings with relatives who don’t get gentle / respectful / conscious parenting? These questions come up all the time … but especially during the holidays when we’re gathering with friends and family.
In this week’s episode, I dive into how to handle it when you’re spending time with others who don’t parent like you do. I give you scripts...2022-12-1425 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child“Should I Lie to My Kid About Santa Claus?”: Answers to Your Santa Questions (& How to Do the Santa Thing Respectfully!)If you’re a parent who celebrates Christmas, you’ve probably been wondering: Is it really okay to “lie” to my child about Santa Claus in order to keep the holiday magic alive? And what do I do when my child comes to me & asks me directly: “Is Santa Claus real?”
In this week’s episode, I answer these questions & share my thoughts on how to do Santa (& the Elf on the Shelf!) in a way that feels respectful, kind, and aligned with our values as parents trying to raise resilient, confident kids. I also offer ideas on...2022-12-0728 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhy the Holidays Are So Stressful for Parents (& 6 Tips to Reclaim Your Joy & Stress Less This Holiday Season!)There’s so much pressure on us as parents to curate the perfect holiday experience for our kids. Five minutes on social media can have you scrambling to create traditions you didn’t even know existed or feeling like a failure by comparison. You might work so hard chasing joy and creating magic that you don’t even get to really enjoy the holidays.
In this week’s episode, I explore the many reasons why the holidays are so stressful on parents and how our own childhood experiences and society’s influences play into our stress. And...2022-11-3027 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child”Am I Raising An Ungrateful Child?!”: How to Get Your Child to Say “Thank You” (Without Forcing It!)We all want our kids to be polite & kind, and this includes saying “thank you” when appropriate. In fact, many of us were raised to believe that “good kids always say ‘thank you,’” so we might feel triggered when our child can’t, won’t, or doesn’t thank someone. We can start to wonder: Am I raising an ungrateful child??
In today’s episode, I dive into what it looks like to help our kids recognize, connect with, and (eventually!) express feelings of gratitude. I talk about our role as parents in helping our kids tap into their g...2022-11-2328 min
The Purpose ShowEp 276: Moms, Stop Doing These 3 Things Today with Dr. Hilary Mandzik"Parenting is the hardest job we'll ever do, but it is possible to shift into a mindset where it doesn't feel so heavy." This hit HOME for me as I sat and chatted with my friend, Dr. Hilary Mandzik. She is a licensed psychologist, parenting specialist, and mom of 3 who is passionate about helping people parent in a way that truly feels good - for both parents and kids - and breaking unhelpful generational cycles. And in this episode she shares THREE things that moms need to stop doing today that will bring instant change to their family. I...2022-11-2330 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildSelf-Care for Parents: Why It’s Necessary & How to Make It HappenAs parents, we give SO much of ourselves. Parenting is HARD. And parenting differently than how we were parented can take a lot out of us; we’re reparenting ourselves while we’re coregulating with our kids, even when we’re not really feeling it. And when you add to all of that the stress of the holidays, it can be really hard to show up the way we want to unless we’re taking good care of ourselves.
In today’s episode, I talk about self-care for parents – and why it’s the necessary foundation upon...2022-11-1627 minRock Your Wellness Podcast with Lauren Chante3 Ways to Make Parenting Easier with Dr. Hilary MandzikWould you like to make parenting easier? You're not alone! When I work with my students in my intensive, parenting is one of the greatest sources of challenge and stress. We get little to no education in parenting before we're sent home with babies of our own. It's no wonder that many of us are underprepared and totally overwhelmed. Even worse, there's so much bad advice out there promising to make parenting easier but only making you more overwhelmed. I truly think Dr. Hilary Mandzik of the Raised Resilient podcast is the best voice in the parenting space right...2022-11-0941 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhy I Love Parenting Without Punishments: 3 Reasons to Stop Punishing Your ChildMost of us grew up being punished when our behavior didn’t please our parents: We were spanked, sent to time-out, sent to our rooms, or grounded. This was just how people parented when we were kids. And now that you’re a parent yourself, you might struggle as you decide whether to use punishments with your own child.
In today’s episode, I tackle the topic of punishments. Are punishments actually effective? Are punishments harmful? If we’re not using punishments with our child, what else can we do when challenging behaviors show up? What’s the...2022-11-0926 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildThe Hidden Dangers of Using Rewards to Motivate Children (& What You Can Do Instead!)One of the earliest pieces of parenting advice I got was this: “You just have to find your child’s currency, and then ‘good’ behavior will follow.” And at the time, I thought it was decent advice; sticker charts and treats are pretty innocent, right? And rewards are better than punishments, aren’t they? Well, as it turns out, rewards aren’t as innocent as they seem.
In today’s episode, I dive into using rewards with our kids. Do rewards really work to change a child’s behavior? What are there risks associated with using rewards in pa...2022-11-0226 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildLet’s Talk About “Mom Rage” / Parenting Rage: 4 Reasons You’re Losing It Constantly (& What You Can Do About It!)“Mom rage”: We don’t really talk about it, do we? There’s so much shame in our society around anger in general – and parenting rage feels even more unspeakable. But even though it feels unspeakable, parenting rage is SO common, and you’re definitely not alone if you’ve experienced it!
In today’s episode, I unpack “mom rage” (including why we call it “mom rage” even though any parent can experience it). I break down what “mom rage” really is & share four of the most common reasons we get ragey in parenting & simple action items to address each...2022-10-2627 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildTalking to Your Child About Death: How, When & What to Say to Broach This Difficult TopicTalking to kids about death feels hard, doesn’t it? It’s a tough subject for us as adults. And we’re often talking about it while grieving a fresh loss, which makes it all the more challenging. Sometimes it feels so hard to broach this topic that we just don’t … until we have to.
In today’s episode, I empower you with everything you need to know to have a conversation about death with your child starting today, even if you’re not grieving a fresh loss. I share how to broach the topic, what to...2022-10-1923 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildIt’s Not Always About Limit Setting: How to Give Your Child Independence & Influence (& Why You Should!)We talk a lot about setting boundaries with kids – and this is for good reason! Boundaries make kids feel safe, and it’s important that we show up as the sturdy leaders our kids need us to be. But sometimes our limits are less about safety and more about our own personal preference, which introduces some “gray area” into the equation of when to set a boundary with a child.
In today’s episode, I talk about how, while boundaries are super important in parenting, it’s also equally important that our kids feel like they have a v...2022-10-1224 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildSupporting Kids as They Explore: Finding the Sweet Spot Between “Helicopter Parenting” & Hands-Off ParentingYour child is climbing up high on a play structure, and you’re feeling nervous. What are you actually supposed to do? Should you be sipping coffee nonchalantly on a park bench nearby, letting whatever happens happen? Or should you be right there next to your child, setting limits around how high she climbs?
In this week’s episode, I help you understand the importance of supporting your child as they explore the world around them. I talk about scaffolding their experience to support developing skills, setting up the environment for success, and finding the balan...2022-10-0526 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhen Gentle Parenting Isn’t Working: Shift Your Energy & Watch Your Child’s Behavior ChangeYou’re validating all the feelings. You’re saying all the right things. You’re pretty sure you’re doing everything right … and yet you don’t feel any more connected to your child. In fact, you feel pretty frustrated. And your child’s challenging behavior isn’t changing. What gives?!?
In this week’s episode, I dive into one of the most common reasons why gentle / respectful / peaceful / conscious parenting might be falling flat: The energy you’re bringing to the situation doesn’t match the goals you have or the words you’re saying. I give examples o...2022-09-2823 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child“It’s MINE!”: What To Do When Your Child Won’t Share (& Why You Shouldn’t Force It!)Sharing is caring … or is it? Most of us grew up thinking that sharing was kindness – and that good kids always share. And now as parents, we wonder: Why isn’t my child sharing? How do I get my child to share? And should I force my child to share if it’s not happening?
In this week’s episode, I unpack the topic of kids & sharing: What’s really going on when kids won’t share? Is it normal for kids not to share? And how should parents respond when kids won’t share? I share the persp...2022-09-2123 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child“Why Do I Lose It When My Child Won’t Listen?!”: Making Sense of & Working Through Parenting TriggersParenting is legit the hardest job we’ll ever do. Parenting differently than how we were parented is especially hard because we’re being asked to give what we weren’t given. As we do this, our kids trigger our own past hurts & unmet needs … and the next thing we know, we’re losing it in an angry spiral.
In this week’s episode, I help demystify parenting triggers – how they develop, why they’re so hard, and what we can do to begin to shift how we show up in these really hard moments. I use the example...2022-09-1426 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child“Why Is My Child So Defiant!?”: What’s Really Going On (& Why Labeling Children Isn’t Helpful)If you spend just a minute Googling, you’ll see hundreds of results on how to deal with a "defiant” child. By “defiant”, we typically mean a child who’s purposefully digging her heels in & outright refusing to comply. We think of this child as difficult and problematic, and most of the Google results suggest punishment as a remedy.
In this week’s episode, I offer a different perspective. I don’t believe in calling kids defiant; I think doing so puts us in a mindset where we can’t parent effectively. I share why I think this term...2022-09-0722 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildThe Truth About Kids & Lying: Why Kids Really Lie (& What Parents Should Do About It!)Parents often feel frustrated, confused, and angry when kids tell lies. For most of us, this was a hard line for our parents; we were punished or made to feel like we were bad. And now as parents, we wonder: Why is my child lying? And how am I supposed to respond?!?
In this week’s episode, I unpack the topic of kids & lying: Why do children lie? Is it normal for kids to tell lies? And how should parents respond when kids lie? I share why lying is actually a good thing and 6 common rea...2022-08-3127 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildHow to Deal With After School Meltdowns: Why Children Have Meltdowns After School & What Parents Can Do to HelpYour child is so excited (and maybe also a little nervous!) to go to school; you send them off, and you can’t wait to hear all about their day when they get off the school bus. But come 3pm, instead of being greeted with hugs & stories about your child’s day, you get a grumpy attitude and a meltdown when you arrive back home. What gives?!?
In this week’s episode, I unpack the dreaded after-school meltdown and give you a step-by-step plan to support your child in the hours that follow their school day. I r...2022-08-2424 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhat Should I Do When My Child is Having a Meltdown? 3 Pieces of Bad Advice (& What to do Instead!)Navigating children’s meltdowns is one of the most challenging parts of parenting. It can be so hard to know how to respond when a child is screaming, throwing toys, hitting, kicking, crying, and unable to access logical reasoning. And because meltdowns are so challenging, there’s no shortage of advice on how to handle them … but not all of this advice is good!
In this week’s episode, I share 3 pieces of bad advice most of us have probably gotten when it comes to navigating children’s meltdowns. I share why these ideas are bad advice a...2022-08-1722 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildAre Meltdowns Normal? 4 Myths About Your Child’s Meltdowns (& the Truth Behind Them!)Navigating children’s meltdowns is one of the hardest parts of parenting. We often wonder: Is it normal for my child to have meltdowns? Why is my child having a meltdown? What in the world am I supposed to do during my child’s meltdowns? And why is it so hard to stay calm during my child’s meltdowns?
In this week’s episode, I answer all of these questions by debunking 4 common myths about children’s meltdowns. I also talk about the difference between tantrums and meltdowns and how one might lead to the other … and...2022-08-1026 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhen Your Child “Only Wants Mommy!”: Navigating Parental Preference with ConfidenceParental preference is really challenging; it’s so hard when your child only wants mommy or only wants daddy. Either you can’t get a break because your child seems to need you constantly, or you feel rejected because your child seems to want nothing to do with you.
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who asks: Why does my toddler only want Mommy? And how should we respond? I dive into why kids go through phases of preferring only one parent, what it means (hint: it’s not what you might think!), a...2022-08-0325 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildThe Power of Storytelling: A Tool to Use When Your Child Gets Hurt (& in Other Stressful Moments)One of your most important jobs as a parent is helping your child make sense of the world around them; children are born knowing nothing about the world that surrounds them, and we slowly help them understand what’s happening and where they fit.
In this week’s episode, I share why storytelling is SO powerful and how to use it to support your child’s healthy development & deepen the attachment relationship.
Here’s the thing: Storytelling is one of the most powerful tools we have as parents to help our kids make s...2022-07-2727 min
Mama Needs A MomentEp. 33 Tantrums, Conflict & Trauma: Helping Parents Through the Messy Stuff w/ Dr. Hilary MandzikDr. Hilary Mandzik is a mom to three young children so she understands that parenthood can be wonderful and amazing and full of joy while at the same time, it can be really, really hard. After working as a Licensed Psychologist with children and families in therapeutic settings for fifteen years, the life transition to becoming a mother gave a new life to her career.
Motherhood compelled her to expand her work to include support for new parents. She earned a Certificate in Perinatal Mental Health (PMH-C) from Postpartum Support International, which provided her with specialized knowledge...2022-07-201h 07Raised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildMaking Sense of “Clingy” Behaviors: What’s Really Going On When Your Child Won’t Leave Your SideSometimes our kids go through phases – days, weeks, or even months – where they seem to need to be near us constantly. This can be challenging for us as parents; it’s hard to show up the way we want to when we’re struggling to get our own needs met because we’re constantly tending to our kids.
In this week’s episode, I unpack what’s really happening in these difficult seasons – including why our kids stay close, common reasons our kids need us more than usual, and what children are really seeking when they won’t leave...2022-07-2018 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhat to Do When Your Child Interrupts: Why it Happens & How to RespondYou sit down to eat dinner after a long, exhausting day. You’re ready to enjoy your meal and chat with your partner … when your child interrupts with something they have to say right now. And then a few minutes later, your partner is telling a story … when your child interrupts again.
In this week’s episode, I answer a listener who asks: Why do kids interrupt? And how should parents respond? I dive into what’s often happening when kids interrupt, how to handle these tough moments, and a trick that’s helped my own kids navig...2022-07-1321 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhy Are My Kids Always Fighting? Strategies to Set Siblings Up for Success (& Why You Don’t Need to Stress!)If your kids are constantly fighting, you’re not alone. It can be SO challenging to know how to respond to constant arguments, teasing, and physical conflict. You might start to wonder: Is it normal for siblings to fight this much? How can I stop my kids from fighting? If you’re wondering these things, you’re not alone; it can be SO hard to see your children struggling with each other.
In this week’s episode, I explore sibling dynamics & strategies to set siblings up for success. I also talk about sibling conflict (spoiler alert: it...2022-07-0623 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildThe Magic of Independent Play: 4 Steps to Getting Your Child to Play Alone (& Why You Should!)How many times a day do you hear: “Mommy, come play with me!”? You might be in the middle of putting the dishes away or working or just (finally!) having a moment to yourself … and then this request pulls at your heartstrings – and you either say yes begrudgingly or say no with heaps of guilt. But what if I told you that there was another option?
In this week’s episode, I talk about why it’s actually really important & healthy for children to play alone – and I share tips to help you encourage more independent pla...2022-06-2925 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildKids & Screens: Tips for Healthy, Balanced Screen Use When Technology is EverywhereScreens are everywhere in 2022, and kids love them – but parents often use them with reluctance, guilt & anxiety. Maybe you can relate: Have you ever felt bad about using screens with your child? Have you Googled: “How does screen time affect kids?” or “Are screens safe for toddlers?” or “How much screen time is too much?” or “Why does my child melt down every time we turn off the TV?!”
In this week’s episode, I answer these questions and share best practices for kids & screen use. This episode will empower you to use screens in a way that works WITH...2022-06-2223 min
Passion ConnectedEp 41: How to talk to your kids about sex, adult topics, and masturbation [with Dr. Hilary Mandzik]You know you should talk to your kids about sex, but how? Dr. Hilary Mandzik, host of the Raised Resilient podcast and a psychologist who is ready to change the parenting game, is here to discuss where to start. Learn how a relationship with your kids is foundational to raising sexually healthy children.ow you can’t really go wrong if you try talking to your kids about sex. What age do we talk to our kids about sex. How to incorporate open, attachment style parenting in your discussions. Respond to self-touching/masturbation, adult topics, and more with confidence. Let's...2022-06-1527 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child4 Tips for Managing Summer Boredom (& Why You DON’T Need to Push Academics Over the Summer!)If your child’s on summer break, you’re probably already hearing the dreaded “I’m bored!”. When our kids beg us to entertain them, we can feel pulled to come up with an endless stream of ideas & activities, which is exhausting. But here’s the thing: entertainment is not what your child actually needs when they’re feeling bored.
In this week’s episode, I share my strategies for managing summer boredom (hint: they’re not me telling you to “just play with your child all day long”!). I also tell you why you don’t need to push acad...2022-06-1523 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildHow to Get Your Child to Listen: 3 Steps to Gain Cooperation & Build CollaborationWe all want our kids to LISTEN, right? We want them to clean up their toys, get their shoes on when it’s time to go, and stop teasing their siblings when we ask them to. If you’re feeling this, you’re not alone; I get asked allllll the time “How do I get my child to listen?!”
In this week’s episode, I talk about the mindset shift required to get kids to listen, and I share my 3-step process to engage children in smoother, simpler cooperation – without nagging. (I’ll even share my special trick...2022-06-0825 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhy We Shouldn’t Call Kids Shy (& How to Help a “Shy” Child!)You’re at the store, and a kind stranger says hi … but your child freezes & says nothing. You take your child to the playground, but he won’t leave your side. What should you do when your child acts shy? And does it mean something’s wrong?
In this week’s episode, I share why I don’t think it’s helpful to call our kids shy. I’ll help you reframe how you see “shy” behaviors & empower you with ways to support your child in these moments.
How we think & talk about our kids rea...2022-06-0122 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child(BONUS Episode) Talking About Hard Things: Supporting Children in the Aftermath of a School ShootingIn the aftermath of the school shooting at Robb Elementary in Uvalde, TX yesterday, we're all grieving. We're heartbroken & outraged at the same time. And in the midst of all of these feelings, how do we support our kids?
In this bonus episode, I talk about how to take care of our kids (and ourselves!) in the wake of a tragedy. I break down the important considerations around talking to your kids about yesterday's events and creating space to grieve as a family.
If you're feeling lost in the wake of yes...2022-05-2512 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildHow to Help a Child with Anxiety: Strategies for Building ResilienceIt can be so tough to know how to support our kids when they’re feeling anxious. Sometimes we can start to feel anxious about their anxiety, and this can lead to everyone feeling even more anxious.
In this week’s episode, I answer a question from a listener whose 11-year-old daughter is struggling with anxiety about riding in the car. I explore why our children’s anxiety is tough for us as parents, and I provide tools, strategies, and new ways of thinking about anxiety to help us support our kids.
Unders...2022-05-2525 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildHow to Deal with Your Child’s Frustration: 6 Tips to Build Frustration ToleranceAs parents, we all want to help our kids build frustration tolerance. It can be so tough – for us and for them! – when our kids shut down before they even give something a chance. But sometimes the things we do to try to help our children tolerate frustration better only make things harder. (Frustrating, right?)
In this week’s episode, I share why it’s so, so normal for kids to get frustrated easily – and I give you six actionable tips to help you support your child in learning to tolerate frustrating moments a little better!...2022-05-1820 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child“Shepherding Through”: How to Handle Meltdowns When Life Gets in the WayIf we want to help our children develop emotion regulation, allowing them to express their feelings is key. But what do you do when you have to be somewhere, but your child is having a tantrum? Or what about when you have multiple kids who all need you at once – like when your toddler is crying, but your baby needs a diaper change? How do you meet your child’s emotional needs in those moments?
In this week’s episode, I’m answering a listener who wrote in asking exactly this. I talk about how to show u...2022-05-1125 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildExpert Tips On How To Deal With Your Child’s Aggressive BehaviorsDealing with hitting, kicking, biting, pushing, scratching, spitting, and other aggressive behaviors in our children is one of the hardest parts of parenting. If you struggle in these moments, you’re so not alone! Aggressive behaviors during tantrums and meltdowns can be SO triggering and tricky.
In this week’s episode, I dive into why these aggressive behaviors happen, why they’re SO hard on us as parents, and how we can effectively and lovingly deal with these behaviors so that hopefully they happen less over time.
Here’s the thing: Aggressive...2022-05-0426 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildPraising Children: How to Praise Your Child in a Healthy, Confidence-Building Way (& What to Avoid!)Most of us grew up hearing “good job” or “I’m proud of you” when we did things that pleased our parents. And because we grew up hearing these things, it probably comes naturally to say them to our own kids – which seems innocent enough, right?
In today’s episode, I explore the effects of different ways of praising our kids – and I talk about which ones build REAL confidence (and which ones leave our kids hungry for more, constantly seeking approval from others).
We all love our kids, and it’s natural to want to tell them how am...2022-04-2721 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildEmotion Regulation for Kids: 4 Reasons Validating Your Child’s Feelings Isn’t Working (& What to do Instead!)Have you ever sat with your child in a tough moment and said ALL the “right” things … but your child only seems to get more & more upset? It can be SO hard! I’ve been there, too.
In this week’s episode, I talk about what our kids need MOST from us in difficult moments & explore four common mistakes we make when trying to validate our children’s feelings – complete with real life examples to help you do things differently!
Here’s the thing: In order to truly validate your child’s feelings, you have to first access gen...2022-04-2022 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildRespectful Parenting Isn’t Permissive Parenting: How to Set Healthy, Effective Boundaries That Will Set Your Child Up for SuccessOne of the most common misconceptions about parenting in a way that allows children to express all feelings is that kids basically get to do whatever they want. But that could not be further from the truth; allowing all feelings never means allowing all behaviors! The truth is that boundaries are essential in parenting … but actually setting them can be exhausting! If you’ve ever asked your child repeatedly to stop jumping on the couch only to have them ignore you, you know what I’m talking about; the struggle is real.
If setting boundaries with your child...2022-04-1320 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildParent’s Responsibility: What Do Our Kids ACTUALLY Need From Us? (& 3 Things They Don’t Need!)I talk a lot about how our children’s behaviors are actually a window into what’s going on for them “under the surface”; their behaviors communicate skills that they haven’t yet developed, impulses they can’t yet control, and sometimes needs that haven’t been met.
And that last one – the part about unmet needs – can be really triggering to think about as a parent! You might feel like it means you’re not doing your job or you’re not enough – but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Our kids have needs constantly, and we’ll never...2022-04-0624 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildLearning to Say Sorry: Why You Shouldn’t Force Your Kids to Apologize (& What to Do Instead!)Most of us grew up being told to “say sorry!” if we did something wrong. And maybe we learned to say the words … but I would argue that in saying these words, we didn’t actually feel remorse or learn how to repair our mistakes in any real way.
In this episode, I share why I don’t force my kids to apologize (& why I recommend you don’t, either). I explore the downsides of forcing apologies, and I share what we should do instead.
Allowing children the space to feel & act on genuine remorse is the key to...2022-03-3020 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child”Sitting With Big Feelings”: What It Really Means & How It Builds Emotion RegulationOne of the most important jobs we have as parents is helping our children learn to regulate their emotions ... but HOW do we actually do this? The answer seems so simple: We do this by allowing ALL of our children’s feelings to exist in our safe presence. But what does that actually mean? What does it look like in practice?
In today’s episode, I unpack the phrase “allowing space for feelings” & share real life examples to help you understand what it REALLY looks like to sit with your child’s big feelings. Because doing this consistent...2022-03-2320 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWhat to do When You Mess Up: How to Repair & Reconnect with Your ChildHave you ever lost your cool with your child? Have you yelled, said things you didn’t mean, or given in (when you know you shouldn’t) just to avoid a meltdown? The guilt we feel in these moments can be SO heavy. And sometimes that guilt makes it hard to know how to move forward.
In today’s episode, I’m going to walk you through the process of repairing your relationship with your child when you (inevitably!) mess up – why it’s important and how to do it.
Here’s the thing: The...2022-03-1622 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive Child“You’re the Worst Mommy Ever!”: Navigating Children’s Mad FeelingsAnger is one of the trickiest emotions we deal with as parents. When our kids are angry – especially *at* us – it can be SO tough to stay calm and regulated and to respond in a way that feels good!
In today’s episode, I explore WHY anger is so tricky (hint: it’s related to our OWN feelings!), and I share some ideas to help you navigate your child’s angry moments with confidence.
Here’s the thing: Anger is a normal and healthy part of life. The goal is for ALL of us to be able to fe...2022-03-0921 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildRespectful Parenting: What Does That Actually Mean?Have you ever wondered what terms like “respectful parenting”, “gentle parenting”, and “peaceful parenting” actually mean?
In today’s episode, I share why I’m not a fan of labels – and then I talk about the major ideas that define MY approach to parenting. (Hint: They all come back to parenting in a way that feels good – for you AND your child.)
If parenting isn’t feeling good for YOU right now, that’s okay! You can change things, starting today; it’s never too late. And it always comes back to two things: Building a str...2022-03-0220 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildReady to Raise Resilient Kids (with Less Stress and More Joy)?We all want to parent in a way that feels good. But raising kids is HARD, and there’s no instruction manual! It’s easy to find yourself struggling & wondering if you’re getting it right.
Today, in the very first episode of Raised Resilient, I'm sharing my own journey into the world of respectful parenting – and the 3 ideas that have empowered me to become the parent I always hoped I’d be.
We were raised to think that emotions are something to be avoided – that the goal is to stay happy all the tim...2022-02-2322 minRaised Resilient: Help Your Highly Sensitive ChildWelcome to Raised Resilient with Dr. Hilary! (Trailer)Parenting: It’s the hardest job we’ll ever do. Most of us are tired, stressed, struggling through meltdowns, and counting the minutes until bedtime.
But what if raising kids could feel just a little lighter? What if you could end even the hardest day feeling good about how you’re parenting?
I’m Dr. Hilary Mandzik – a licensed psychologist and mama of 3 changing the way we do parenting, so there’s less stress and more joy, even in the hardest moments!
Join me each week on the Raised Resili...2022-02-1001 min
Private Practice WorkshopHow Hilary Mandzik Got Fully Booked #117John interviews Dr. Hilary Mandzik on how she got Fully Booked in her Cary, NC private practice. Included in this episode: How Hilary created a tagline How Hilary created a killer website How Hilary overcame the shiny-object syndrome How Hilary became her own manager How Hilary gets new clients This is a short and extremely informative interview that you simply don’t want to miss. https://www.hilarymandzik.com/ Are you ready to get Fully Booked? www.thejohnclarke.com/workwithme2019-04-1723 min