Dr. Jeffrey And Amy Olrick And Christian Parenting

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Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickEye Rolls, Sighs, and Slamming Doors: How to Teach Respect By Modeling RespectToday we’re discussing two questions sent in from a mom, and we suspect that most parents can relate to the first one—how do we deal with the eye rolls, sighs, and other “junk behaviors” that can accompany the tween and teen years? We talk about how frustrating interactions often indicate that our kids have reached a new stage of development and how modeling respect teaches them to understand and express themselves better over time. In the second half, we discuss tips for blending an adoptive or foster child into your family. Author Kelle Hampton joins the conversation as we expl...2021-11-1841 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickHelp When It's Hard to Connect: Support for a Dad Who Can't Relate His to TweenIn this episode, we’re discussing a question from a mom wondering how to help her husband relate to their tween girl. We talk about dads and daughters and how this question points to an even bigger issue—how parents can respond to kids who feel different from or even difficult to them. Attachment science points us to two mirroring needs—comfort and delight—that we can use to connect to our kids, even when connection feels hard. Here’s the question— “My husband has started struggling with his interactions with our almost 13-year-old daughter. He just cannot...2021-11-0335 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickFacing Anxiety: How To Help Kids Fight Fear & Grow StrongIn this episode, we’re discussing a question about a 13-year-old struggling with anxiety. Fortunately, anxiety is one of the most treatable mental health issues to work with, but doing that takes good information to help us face fear head-on. Social anxiety, in particular, can really take hold between the ages of 12 to 14, and we talk about why that is, what to expect, and ways to respond if you’re concerned. Author Kelle Hampton joins us to explore how to help our kids take charge of anxiety rather than let it control and manage them. Here’s the qu...2021-10-2147 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickWhen Parents Don’t Agree: Finding a Way to Talk about ADHDAnyone else ever disagree with your partner over a parenting issue? We don’t think it’s just us, and we’ve seen how these disagreements can cause friction in families. In this episode, we discuss a question from a mom wondering how to move forward when she and her husband see things differently about their daughter and ADHD. Jeffrey shares strategies he uses in the therapy office to get couples back to connection, and we talk about the pros and cons of diagnoses and labels for kids, as well as things to know when considering ADHD.2021-10-0741 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickChanging Bodies, Changing Brains: 3 Huge Developments Every Teen's Parent Should UnderstandThe tween and teen years can bring with them unexpected joy, as well as to-be-expected ups and downs. In this episode, we talk about emotions and hormones and three huge transitions happening within the teenage brain. Understanding what’s going on with our kids’ bodies really helps all of us! Here’s the question: “My kids are entering middle school this year. My son is 13 going into 7th grade and my daughter is 11 going into 6th grade. And I’ve noticed in the last couple of years that the changes they’ve been going through are reminding me of when th...2021-09-2345 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickResisting the Control Trap: A Better Way to Boundaries with TeensThis season, we’re talking about raising tweens and teens, discussing parents’ questions, and exploring how science and faith come together to point our families to security and connection. Earlier this year, we received a question from a mom wondering how to direct her child’s moral choices. We’re using her question to kick off this series because we believe the issues she raises are important. In this episode, we talk about the difference between influence and control and discuss how relationship can guide our kids’ choices more powerfully than rules. We also share why the question's wording prompted us...2021-09-0948 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickThe Key to Connection: Repair after Pain with Andrew HanauerAll of our relationships with our kids will have moments of pain and disconnection. We build our children's security when we face those disconnections with openness and curiosity so that we can come back together when things feel broken. In this episode, Dr. Jeffrey Olrick and Amy Olrick discuss the concept of repair, and how important it is in building health, resilience, and understanding in our kids. Andrew Hanauer of the One America Movement joins the conversation to discuss practical ways to engage in the essential work of repair. Opening ourselves up to making things right after things have...2021-04-2936 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickEquipping that Gives Vision with Hope with Dr. Andrés PanasiukPainful experiences can be confusing and overwhelming for kids, but we can enter into hard moments in ways that grow them in wisdom and maturity. In this episode, Dr. Jeffrey Olrick and Amy Olrick talk about how to help children process difficult thoughts and feelings and the power of approaching our children’s pain with curiosity. Finding ways to share stories about our own tough experiences, even when we don’t have everything figured out, offers children perspective and hope. Author, speaker, and communication expert Dr. Andrés Panasiuk joins the conversation to discuss how to embrace each child's unique...2021-04-2234 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickComfort that Strengthens Our Kids with Claire Bidwell SmithComfort is our human need to be seen and held in the midst of our pain. And the research is clear that when we pause to see and sit with our kids’ suffering without immediately offering solutions, we gradually train their nervous systems to calm themselves down through us. But comfort can be a hard need to meet because when kids are in pain, parents are wired to hurt along with them. Dr. Jeffrey Olrick and Amy Olrick talk about why it is natural to want to dismiss or move quickly past our kids’ suffering and the strength that deve...2021-04-0833 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickProtecting our Kids from True Harm with D.L. & Krispin MayfieldWe all want to protect our kids from dangerous things, but too much protection can leave our children feeling unsure of themselves and afraid in the world. In this episode, Dr. Jeffrey Olrick and Amy Olrick talk about new ways to consider the real dangers kids face and how opportunities to overcome manageable amounts of trouble can help kids grow strong and reduce anxiety in the long run. Author D.L. Mayfield and her husband, therapist and author Krispin Mayfield, join the conversation to discuss how they balance the desire for safety with Christ's call to love...2021-04-0145 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickBoundaries that Free Kids to Grow with Valarie KaurWe all want our children to be able to go out into the world to discover and learn. But sometimes we give them limits because there are things that can hurt them. And our kids can cause hurt themselves if they don't understand that others have needs just like they do. This week, we discuss how to give our kids healthy boundaries so they can safely grow strong while learning to respect themselves and others. Author and civil rights activist Valarie Kaur joins the conversation to talk about how she sets boundaries with her kids, ways to...2021-03-2539 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickSupport that Embraces Mistakes with Daniel and Christina ImAll kids are born into the world with the instinct to learn, explore, and figure things out, which means childhood is full of big bumps and messes! Dr. Jeffrey Olrick and Amy Olrick talk about what healthy support looks like for our kids, and why children grow stronger when we don’t overcorrect their mistakes. Christina and Daniel Im of the IMbetween podcast join the conversation to discuss how understanding their kids’ need for support has strengthened their family. They share insight from their work and Daniel’s book, including how stepping back from over-support helps make Daniel...2021-03-1845 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickThe Transforming Power of Delight with Kelle HamptonIn his work as an attachment researcher, Dr. Jeffrey Olrick has identified six things our kids need as they grow and develop—delight, support, boundaries, protection, comfort, and equipping. In this episode, Jeffrey and Amy Olrick introduce the importance of delight and discuss how faith and science come together to point families to health and connection. Bestselling author Kelle Hampton joins the conversation to talk about how understanding delight can transform our relationship with our kids.2021-03-1139 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickThe Guide to Connection with Lori Beth AuldridgeAs parents and families face increasing pressure and mental health strain, Dr. Jeffrey Olrick and Amy Olrick share how science and faith come together to show us that attachment and connection can still grow our kids strong. They offer a guide to build strength and resiliency in our children that will last a lifetime, even through hard times. In this episode, the Olricks share an overview of attachment science and The 6 Needs Compass they present in their book, The 6 Needs of Every Child: Empowering Parents & Kids through the Science of Connection. Then author and mom of four...2021-03-0450 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy Olrick“We battle with our daughter about bedtime every night.”Most families deal with bedtime struggles at some point or another. In this episode, we discuss why kids are wired to be scared of the dark and strategies to make going to bed easier for everyone. At the end of the episode, New Zealand pastor and musician Aaron Hardy joins us to share his story and music from his band, Te Rautini. His music is a gift that we’re thrilled to get to share with you. Here’s today’s question: "I'm hoping you all might have some advice for us. Every night...2020-12-1033 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy Olrick"How can I get my kids to help me with chores?"In today’s episode, a mom wonders how to get her children to help her with chores. We talk about surprising ways to encourage kids to help from young ages, why creating a system where everyone contributes is so important, and how “doing with” a great way to grow our kids in responsibility over time. Don’t miss the God Moment at the end from Sam Altis. It’s a beautiful reminder of God’s perfect, pursuing love for our kids—love that will follow them even when they’re grown. Here’s the question: Hi, I’m the...2020-12-0332 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy Olrick“My kids’ arguing has me at the end of my rope.”This week's question is about a sometimes-too-familiar subject: sibling rivalry. We discuss how to help kids learn to negotiate their differences on their own and the importance of removing yourself from the role of judge. Don’t miss the God Moment at the end, when Lindsay Durrenberger shares about a remarkable encounter she had on the night after she’d been diagnosed with cancer. Here’s the question: "My kids arguing has me at the end of my rope. They’re pretty young still—5, 7, and 9, and the constant bickering over meaningless things has me wanting to scream...2020-11-1935 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy Olrick"Help! My son wants to be a YouTuber."In this episode, we hear from a mom concerned about her son’s desire to be a professional YouTuber. We discuss how situations like this can be opportunities and the power of starting conversations with our kids with a mindset of “Yes, and.” Here’s the question: I have a son who is very intelligent, creative, capable. He can do anything he sets his mind to do. And when I ask him what he wants to do when he grows up, he says he wants to be a famous YouTuber. Now, I’m in a conundrum b...2020-11-1233 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy Olrick"My 4-year-old demands constant attention"In this episode, we consider a question from a mom with a 4-year-old daughter who demands constant attention, discussing how to help manage her little girl’s needs and requests. Here's the question: “My daughter, who is turning 5 in a couple of weeks, is very articulate and emotionally intelligent and consistently communicates to me that she’s not getting enough attention. She is pretty relentless in advocating for and trying to get her way, and is also rarely satisfied when she does, which I find really challenging. For example, I might play with her for hours an...2020-11-0530 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy Olrick"My 7-year-old son says he hates me"In this episode of the Growing Connected podcast, we consider a question from a mom who is worried about her young son’s outbursts of temper. Listen to learn three steps that help children gain control of their big feelings and emotions, and don’t miss the beautiful God Moment story from our friend Tony at the end. Here's the question: “My 7-year-old child has started saying things like ‘I hate you’ and ‘I wish I was dead’ when he is angry and upset. His rage escalates when he's upset, and it scares me. I guess I'm both fearful for...2020-10-2934 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy Olrick"My daughter is struggling with virtual school"We’re embarking on this podcast at a very particular time in history, when families are dealing with so many hard things. So we want to begin by sharing some writing by a friend of ours, Marcy McClelland Klug. Marcy’s writing captures what many parents are experiencing right now, and also includes an important question about how to help different kids with different needs during this time. For more resources, links and questions, visit GrowingConnected.com. 2020-10-2228 min

Growing Connected with Dr. Jeffrey and Amy OlrickTrailerOn each Growing Connected podcast, husband and wife team Dr. Jeffrey Olrick and Amy Olrick discuss a listener-submitted question, exploring what the intersection of child development science and faith teach us about issues families are facing. Each episode ends with a God Moment — a story about a time a parent or a child felt God's love in their life in a specific and sometimes inexplicable way.2020-10-1202 min

Pardon the Mess with Courtney DeFeo - Christian Motherhood, Biblical Parenting, Raising Christian KidsThe six needs of every child with Amy and Jeffrey OlrickI think we can agree that one of the hardest parts of our COVID-19 existence is the lack of connection with friends and family. In our present circumstances, it has become very evident just how much we need connection, and it starts at the earliest of ages with our kids. I’m thrilled to have Amy and Jeffrey Olrick on our podcast today, discussing this very topic. They speak to the six needs every child possesses in relation to connection. Amy and Jeffrey’s integration of neuroscience and practical parenting is a great reminder that God c...2020-07-0933 min