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Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottRecovery Mindset: Elliott’s 3 Perspectives on Moving Through Trauma Ep. 346Have you ever been through a traumatic moment or event? With decades of experience helping individuals recover from trauma Elliott wanted to share 3 of his perspectives on how we can have a recovery mindset. Specifically, how do we move through the traumas we face throughout our lives? How do we stay present?How do we deal with feeling unsafe?Is it possible to live abundantly despite our traumas? Join us as we explore how these perspectives can help us all navigate through pain, fear, and uncertainty, ultimately leading to emotional and sp...2025-03-1336 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottRecovery Mindset: Elliott’s 3 Perspectives on Moving Through Trauma Ep. 346Have you ever been through a traumatic moment or event? With decades of experience helping individuals recover from trauma Elliott wanted to share 3 of his perspectives on how we can have a recovery mindset. Specifically, how do we move through the traumas we face throughout our lives? How do we stay present?How do we deal with feeling unsafe?Is it possible to live abundantly despite our traumas? Join us as we explore how these perspectives can help us all navigate through pain, fear, and uncertainty, ultimately leading to emotional and sp...2025-03-1336 min
Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottToxic Masculinity vs. Toxic Femininity Ep. 338In today's episode, Dr. Karin and Pastor Elliott tackle a conversation they've been wanting to have for a long time: Toxic Masculinity vs. Toxic Femininity.
We cover the following:
- Defining both toxicities (including A.I.'s definitions...)
- How do these traits present themselves in individuals and within our relationships?
- How does nature vs. nurture impact these traits?
- What role does societal expectations play?
- What's the Biblical perspective on this topic?
- How do we navigate these gender...2025-01-3038 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottToxic Masculinity vs. Toxic Femininity Ep. 338In today's episode, Dr. Karin and Pastor Elliott tackle a conversation they've been wanting to have for a long time: Toxic Masculinity vs. Toxic Femininity.
We cover the following:
- Defining both toxicities (including A.I.'s definitions...)
- How do these traits present themselves in individuals and within our relationships?
- How does nature vs. nurture impact these traits?
- What role does societal expectations play?
- What's the Biblical perspective on this topic?
- How do we navigate these gender...2025-01-3038 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAbortions at the DNC: How This Relates to Our What is a Man? Series Ep. 314Elliott didn’t know about this—I’m way more into current events than he is—so I decided to inform him during our episode. I wanted him to share his thoughts as a therapist, husband, father, and perhaps most importantly, as a pastor.
Abortion is a heavy, sensitive, and painful, subject—at least, it used to be. Clinton claimed it should be, “Safe, legal, and rare.”
Now women are encouraged to, “Shout Your Abortion!”
What’s going on?
I share some theorie...2024-08-2340 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottWhat is a Man? Part 3: Theology of Man Ep. 313Today Pastor Elliott and Producer Tim continue our series on "What is a Man?"
In his work as a counselor and pastor Elliott has developed a thesis for what he believes makes up the theology of a man based on the book of Genesis.
Specifically Elliott dives into the following topics:
Accountability
Responsibility
Sacrifice
Interdependence
And how men facility all of these topics into their lives personally, relationally, and ultimately into their communities at large.
We hope this episode will provide insights into your...2024-08-1533 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottWhat is a Man? Part 2: Female Boxing Controversy at The Olympics Ep. 312As you’ve likely heard, last week Olympic boxer Imane Khelif beat Angela Carini in a bout that lasted only 46 seconds.
Carini said of Khelif’s punch to her nose, “I’ve never been hit so hard in my life.”
Controversy ensued because just last year, Khelif had been disqualified from competing in the World Boxing Championships in the women’s category because of testosterone levels that were higher than permissible.
In prior Love & Life episodes, we’ve addressed the touchy subject of men competing against women. We interviewed Paula Scanlan (former UPenn swimmer) in ep...2024-08-0943 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottDo These 3 Things TODAY to Level Up Your Mindset! Ep. 309As psychotherapists, Elliott and I obviously view love and life through a psychological lens. We take a holistic approach to love and life—underscoring the interaction of our mind, body, and spirit. Elliott takes this approach in his role as a pastor, too. He reads the Bible and interprets scripture through this lens. God designed psychology—meaning, how God created human thinking and behaving.
Which is why I love Elliott’s recent sermon and why we wanted to share it with you. Elliott describes 3 simple, Biblically based steps we can take to level up your mi...2024-07-0942 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottDo These 3 Things TODAY to Level Up Your Mindset! Ep. 309As psychotherapists, Elliott and I obviously view love and life through a psychological lens. We take a holistic approach to love and life—underscoring the interaction of our mind, body, and spirit. Elliott takes this approach in his role as a pastor, too. He reads the Bible and interprets scripture through this lens. God designed psychology—meaning, how God created human thinking and behaving.
Which is why I love Elliott’s recent sermon and why we wanted to share it with you. Elliott describes 3 simple, Biblically based steps we can take to level up your mi...2024-07-0942 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottSingle and NOT Settling! with Vanessa Maree Ep. 308Please enjoy this conversation Dr. Karin had on the Single and Not Settling podcast!
A note from Vanessa of Single and Not Settling:
"This is absolutely a dream come true. I was so nervous throughout this interview as I could have pinched myself, achieving this goal of mine. You see in 2020 after I was ghosted and the world shut down, I found a podcast by Dr Karin. Her advice on dating and relationships gave me hope, taught me so much of what I know today but also helped me...2024-06-1356 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottSingle and NOT Settling! with Vanessa Maree Ep. 308Please enjoy this conversation Dr. Karin had on the Single and Not Settling podcast!
A note from Vanessa of Single and Not Settling:
"This is absolutely a dream come true. I was so nervous throughout this interview as I could have pinched myself, achieving this goal of mine. You see in 2020 after I was ghosted and the world shut down, I found a podcast by Dr Karin. Her advice on dating and relationships gave me hope, taught me so much of what I know today but also helped me...2024-06-1356 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAmericans are Getting More Therapy, but We’re Less Happy. What’s Going On? Ep. 307Recently, I read an article in Time Magazine titled, “America Has Reached Peak Therapy. Why Is Our Mental Health Getting Worse?”
Obviously, the content was quite sobering. How is it that mental health awareness is up, stigma is down—and yet, we’re more depressed and anxious than ever!?!
I knew I wanted to discuss the article with Elliott and share it with the Love & Life community.
Specifically, we unpack:
The unintended consequences of a culture of “Mental Health Awareness.”
How health insurance impacts the...2024-06-0653 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAmericans are Getting More Therapy, but We’re Less Happy. What’s Going On? Ep. 307Recently, I read an article in Time Magazine titled, “America Has Reached Peak Therapy. Why Is Our Mental Health Getting Worse?”
Obviously, the content was quite sobering. How is it that mental health awareness is up, stigma is down—and yet, we’re more depressed and anxious than ever!?!
I knew I wanted to discuss the article with Elliott and share it with the Love & Life community.
Specifically, we unpack:
The unintended consequences of a culture of “Mental Health Awareness.”
How health insurance impacts the...2024-06-0653 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs it Better to Marry Younger or Wait a While? What Does the Science Say? Part 1 Ep. 304Elliott and I have been meaning to debate this question for a while now—so here it is!
Elliott married at the tender age of 22 and, as for me, I was 42 before Dan and I tied the knot.
We both have strong, loving marriages. We’re both incredibly happy. But, we took very different paths.
Over the years, we’ve had fun taking sides—with Elliott proclaiming the benefits of marrying young and me asserting it’s better to wait.
But, wha...2024-05-1659 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs it Better to Marry Younger or Wait a While? What Does the Science Say? Part 1 Ep. 304Elliott and I have been meaning to debate this question for a while now—so here it is!
Elliott married at the tender age of 22 and, as for me, I was 42 before Dan and I tied the knot.
We both have strong, loving marriages. We’re both incredibly happy. But, we took very different paths.
Over the years, we’ve had fun taking sides—with Elliott proclaiming the benefits of marrying young and me asserting it’s better to wait.
But, wha...2024-05-1659 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottLet’s Talk About Sex! How to Experience True Sexual Intimacy and Fulfillment Ep. 295In the final session of Elliott’s premarital curriculum, he helps couples develop habits and dynamics necessary for cultivating sexual intimacy and fulfillment.
Step one—you need to be able to talk about it! As Elliott notes, many couples struggle to discuss this most important element of their relationship.
Elliott shares the key questions he poses to couples to assist them in establishing a solid foundation for the physical expression of their love and commitment.
Sponsor: The Wellness Company
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Code: LOVELIFE f...2024-04-0529 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow to Navigate Money & Power Dynamics Ep. 293In the fifth session of Elliott’s premarital curriculum he discusses the relationship dynamics related to money and power.
Karin is out of town this week so Elliott and Tim tackle this topic and address the following issues:
How do we communicate with our partner about finances?
What role do you play with your partner in relationship to money?
How do money and power co-exist in the context of a partnership?
What does the Bible say about money?
We can live empowered lives in relationship with our finances!
Sponsor: The Wellness Company
...2024-03-2141 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow to Navigate Money & Power Dynamics Ep. 293In the fifth session of Elliott’s premarital curriculum he discusses the relationship dynamics related to money and power.
Karin is out of town this week so Elliott and Tim tackle this topic and address the following issues:
How do we communicate with our partner about finances?
What role do you play with your partner in relationship to money?
How do money and power co-exist in the context of a partnership?
What does the Bible say about money?
We can live empowered lives in relationship with our finances!
Sponsor: The Wellness Company
...2024-03-2141 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Love Enough? Ep. 290We’re continuing our series on engagement by sharing Elliott’s premarital curriculum with you 💍
In session 2, Elliott asks couples if they believe love is enough. If we’re madly in love, can we be guaranteed a happy, solid, fulfilling marriage?
He goes into depth regarding the Bible’s instructions (I Peter 3:1-7) for how husbands are to treat their wives and vice versa. Elliott unpacks the meaning of the Greek to reveal the true intimacy God designed for us in marriage.
Spoiler alert: women will be quite pleased with God’s directions for how their...2024-02-2946 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Love Enough? Ep. 290We’re continuing our series on engagement by sharing Elliott’s premarital curriculum with you 💍
In session 2, Elliott asks couples if they believe love is enough. If we’re madly in love, can we be guaranteed a happy, solid, fulfilling marriage?
He goes into depth regarding the Bible’s instructions (I Peter 3:1-7) for how husbands are to treat their wives and vice versa. Elliott unpacks the meaning of the Greek to reveal the true intimacy God designed for us in marriage.
Spoiler alert: women will be quite pleased with God’s directions for how their...2024-02-2946 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottTrauma: How it Impacts Our Relationship to Self and Others Ep. 286We interrupt our series on engagement to bring you Elliott’s presentation on trauma, which he shared recently at his church.
How do we define trauma?
What experiences leave a trauma wound?
How do these wounds impact our relationships?
What does the Bible have to say about trauma?
Is there hope for healing?
If so, how do we heal?
We’ve all experienced some level of trauma—Big T or Little t. Perhaps you never fought in a war zone or were the victim of a violent attack, but we all recent...2024-02-0946 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottTrauma: How it Impacts Our Relationship to Self and Others Ep. 286We interrupt our series on engagement to bring you Elliott’s presentation on trauma, which he shared recently at his church.
How do we define trauma?
What experiences leave a trauma wound?
How do these wounds impact our relationships?
What does the Bible have to say about trauma?
Is there hope for healing?
If so, how do we heal?
We’ve all experienced some level of trauma—Big T or Little t. Perhaps you never fought in a war zone or were the victim of a violent attack, but we all recent...2024-02-0946 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott3 Ways NOT to Stray Ep. 269I asked Elliott the other day, “We’ve been talking about cheating and recovery, but what can we do to try to prevent affairs from happening in the first place?”
And yes, healing is possible and, as Elliott continues to stress, we may even find deeper intimacy after infidelity. But of course, wouldn’t we prefer to grow closer to our spouse without going through a marital breakdown?
In this conversation, we present 3 strategies for keeping your marriage solid and connected! We can’t control our partner, but we CAN take s...2023-11-0241 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott3 Ways NOT to Stray Ep. 269I asked Elliott the other day, “We’ve been talking about cheating and recovery, but what can we do to try to prevent affairs from happening in the first place?”
And yes, healing is possible and, as Elliott continues to stress, we may even find deeper intimacy after infidelity. But of course, wouldn’t we prefer to grow closer to our spouse without going through a marital breakdown?
In this conversation, we present 3 strategies for keeping your marriage solid and connected! We can’t control our partner, but we CAN take s...2023-11-0241 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAddiction in America Ep. 261Elliott’s mental health series continues with a message about addiction. Sadly, addictions have touched us all—whether we’ve struggled ourselves or we’ve endured the pain of watching a loved one wrestle with the grip of addiction.
Elliott shares an understanding of addiction through a Biblical lens. He tackles questions surrounding the grip of addiction and the hope and healing we can find in Christ.
Download Elliott’s PowerPoint here: https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/6pku0usfyr8cz8enz2dyi/Altering-Addictions.pptx?rlkey=t1p3y55dyo1gjhdvz...2023-08-3142 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAddiction in America Ep. 261Elliott’s mental health series continues with a message about addiction. Sadly, addictions have touched us all—whether we’ve struggled ourselves or we’ve endured the pain of watching a loved one wrestle with the grip of addiction.
Elliott shares an understanding of addiction through a Biblical lens. He tackles questions surrounding the grip of addiction and the hope and healing we can find in Christ.
Download Elliott’s PowerPoint here: https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/6pku0usfyr8cz8enz2dyi/Altering-Addictions.pptx?rlkey=t1p3y55dyo1gjhdvz...2023-08-3142 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow to Diminish Depression’s Hold on Your Life! Ep. 260Depression. No one can escape it. Yes, some of us struggle more than others, but sadness, despondency, and despair are part of life. Of course, we’d prefer to skip over the valleys. We’d rather stay on the mountaintops but that’s not how life works.
Can we accept depression as a normal part of the human condition?
Does despondency serve a purpose—other than making us miserable?
What does Scripture tell us about depression?
One of the reasons Elliott and I take issue with the “disease model” of mental health and th...2023-08-2439 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow to Diminish Depression’s Hold on Your Life! Ep. 260Depression. No one can escape it. Yes, some of us struggle more than others, but sadness, despondency, and despair are part of life. Of course, we’d prefer to skip over the valleys. We’d rather stay on the mountaintops but that’s not how life works.
Can we accept depression as a normal part of the human condition?
Does despondency serve a purpose—other than making us miserable?
What does Scripture tell us about depression?
One of the reasons Elliott and I take issue with the “disease model” of mental health and th...2023-08-2439 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAttacking Anxiety with Action! Ep. 258Do you struggle with anxiety? Have you felt disempowered on how to address it in your life?
In today’s episode Elliott shares a presentation he gave on the topic of anxiety and how we can proactively attack it with action!
Elliott discusses the following:
The Top 8 Causes of Anxiety
Mental and Physical Manifestations
The Root of Anxiety
And Steps to Overcome Anxiety Through: Situational Awareness, Positive Self-Talk, Physiological Regulation, and Sleep
Download Pastor Elliott’s Power Point Presentation: https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/jzo...2023-08-1041 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAttacking Anxiety with Action! Ep. 258Do you struggle with anxiety? Have you felt disempowered on how to address it in your life?
In today’s episode Elliott shares a presentation he gave on the topic of anxiety and how we can proactively attack it with action!
Elliott discusses the following:
The Top 8 Causes of Anxiety
Mental and Physical Manifestations
The Root of Anxiety
And Steps to Overcome Anxiety Through: Situational Awareness, Positive Self-Talk, Physiological Regulation, and Sleep
Download Pastor Elliott’s Power Point Presentation: https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/jzo...2023-08-1041 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottBest of Love & Life: Help! I Keep Dating Men with Avoidant Attachment Style! with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 255Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson is back to continue our series on Attachment Styles. This week we unpack Avoidant Attachment and consider the question, “Is it actually possible to have a relationship with someone with an avoidant attachment style?”
Specifically, we address:
Why avoidant men may initially appear very excited about the relationship and interested in commitment, but then later, they pull away.
The internal struggle of Avoidant Attachment.
The Pursuer-Distancer cycle—if you’ve dated someone with an Avoidant Attachment style, you’ve likely experienced this, especially if you have an Anxious Attachment style.
When he marries you, but i...2023-07-2045 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottBest of Love & Life: Help! I Keep Dating Men with Avoidant Attachment Style! with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 255Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson is back to continue our series on Attachment Styles. This week we unpack Avoidant Attachment and consider the question, “Is it actually possible to have a relationship with someone with an avoidant attachment style?”
Specifically, we address:
Why avoidant men may initially appear very excited about the relationship and interested in commitment, but then later, they pull away.
The internal struggle of Avoidant Attachment.
The Pursuer-Distancer cycle—if you’ve dated someone with an Avoidant Attachment style, you’ve likely experienced this, especially if you have an Anxious Attachment style.
When he marries you, but i...2023-07-2045 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottBest of Love & Life: Anxious Attachment on Dating and Relationships with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 254Join us today as we revisit Love & Life's most popular episode to date: Anxious Attachment on Dating and Relationships with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 165
I hear this question from women in my community all the time—“I have an anxious attachment style. Will I ever be able to be in a secure relationship?”
To address this concern, psychotherapist Elliott Anderson and I take a deep dive into anxious attachment and how it impacts dating and relationships.
Specifically, we discuss:
Anxious attachment and our desire for intimacy.
Trauma bonds and an...2023-07-1353 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottBest of Love & Life: Anxious Attachment on Dating and Relationships with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 254Join us today as we revisit Love & Life's most popular episode to date: Anxious Attachment on Dating and Relationships with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 165
I hear this question from women in my community all the time—“I have an anxious attachment style. Will I ever be able to be in a secure relationship?”
To address this concern, psychotherapist Elliott Anderson and I take a deep dive into anxious attachment and how it impacts dating and relationships.
Specifically, we discuss:
Anxious attachment and our desire for intimacy.
Trauma bonds and an...2023-07-1353 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottSibling Wound Convo with our Brother, Dr. Warren Anderson, Part 2 Ep. 244We pick up our Anderson Family Roundtable by sharing more on birth order—how we’ve seen it impact our personalities and also, how it’s influenced our choice of friends and significant others. We also revisit sibling woundedness—the intensity of the wounds but also, the hope and healing possible!
Specifically, we explore:
The birth order of virtually all Elliott’s best friends.
The birth order of my best friends.
The birth order of my boyfriends—but how this pattern was broken with Dan and why that’s a good thing!
Warren’s thoughts on friendships as an...2023-04-1352 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottSibling Wound Convo with our Brother, Dr. Warren Anderson, Part 2 Ep. 244We pick up our Anderson Family Roundtable by sharing more on birth order—how we’ve seen it impact our personalities and also, how it’s influenced our choice of friends and significant others. We also revisit sibling woundedness—the intensity of the wounds but also, the hope and healing possible!
Specifically, we explore:
The birth order of virtually all Elliott’s best friends.
The birth order of my best friends.
The birth order of my boyfriends—but how this pattern was broken with Dan and why that’s a good thing!
Warren’s thoughts on friendships as an...2023-04-1352 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottThe Birth Order Effect with Our Brother, Dr. Warren Anderson Ep. 243Welcome to a “behind the scenes” episode of Love & Life! Elliott and I loop in our older brother, Warren, to discuss the influence of our sibling relationships on our development.
We begin by delving into how birth order impacts our personality traits. With 3 kids in our family we’ve had fun analyzing each other over the years and we do, in fact, possess many of the stereotypical traits of oldests, middles, and youngests. Elliott brings up a recent time where I was in charge of a gig we played together—spoiler alert: babies aren’t typically the best leader...2023-04-0632 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottThe Birth Order Effect with Our Brother, Dr. Warren Anderson Ep. 243Welcome to a “behind the scenes” episode of Love & Life! Elliott and I loop in our older brother, Warren, to discuss the influence of our sibling relationships on our development.
We begin by delving into how birth order impacts our personality traits. With 3 kids in our family we’ve had fun analyzing each other over the years and we do, in fact, possess many of the stereotypical traits of oldests, middles, and youngests. Elliott brings up a recent time where I was in charge of a gig we played together—spoiler alert: babies aren’t typically the best leader...2023-04-0632 min
Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott5 Love Languages Extended: Elliott’s Additional Love Languages Ep. 235We're wrapping up our series on Dr. Chapman's 5 Love Languages with a couple more I've developed over my 30+ years working with couples—challenge and presentation!
1. Challenge: How we challenge each other in a committed romantic relationship—to be the best version of ourselves, in relationships, career, family, and faith—is critical mortar solidifying or weakening, your love language wall. Research shows one of the main reasons marriages break down is boredom! But couples who commit to challenging one another via encouragement and exhortation toward growth and development, strengthen their intimacy and keep their connection exciting!
2. Presentat...2023-02-2324 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott5 Love Languages Extended: Elliott’s Additional Love Languages Ep. 235We're wrapping up our series on Dr. Chapman's 5 Love Languages with a couple more I've developed over my 30+ years working with couples—challenge and presentation!
1. Challenge: How we challenge each other in a committed romantic relationship—to be the best version of ourselves, in relationships, career, family, and faith—is critical mortar solidifying or weakening, your love language wall. Research shows one of the main reasons marriages break down is boredom! But couples who commit to challenging one another via encouragement and exhortation toward growth and development, strengthen their intimacy and keep their connection exciting!
2. Presentat...2023-02-2324 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott5 Love Languages: Physical Touch Ep. 234We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.
Even if you’re familiar with Love Languages, this series is for you! We’re taking a broad approach to them by including their influence on our friendships and family relationships, in addition to our romantic partnerships.
Elliott & I discuss the following:
Fascinating research behind the power of touch.
Don’t all men have physical touch as their top love language...2023-02-1727 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott5 Love Languages: Physical Touch Ep. 234We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.
Even if you’re familiar with Love Languages, this series is for you! We’re taking a broad approach to them by including their influence on our friendships and family relationships, in addition to our romantic partnerships.
Elliott & I discuss the following:
Fascinating research behind the power of touch.
Don’t all men have physical touch as their top love language...2023-02-1727 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott5 Love Languages: Acts of Service Ep. 233We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.
Even if you’re familiar with Love Languages, this series is for you! We’re taking a broad approach to them by including their influence on our friendships and family relationships, in addition to our romantic partnerships.
Elliott & I discuss the following:
Why acts of service in partnership may feel harder to receive for people who were single for a long time...2023-02-1629 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott5 Love Languages: Acts of Service Ep. 233We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.
Even if you’re familiar with Love Languages, this series is for you! We’re taking a broad approach to them by including their influence on our friendships and family relationships, in addition to our romantic partnerships.
Elliott & I discuss the following:
Why acts of service in partnership may feel harder to receive for people who were single for a long time...2023-02-1629 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott5 Love Languages: Receiving Gifts Ep. 232We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.
Even if you’re familiar with Love Languages, this series is for you! We’re taking a broad approach to them by including their influence on our friendships and family relationships, in addition to our romantic partnerships.
Elliott and I explore the following:
How to give gifts in the early days of a relationship.
Values which lay at the root of gift...2023-02-1530 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott5 Love Languages: Receiving Gifts Ep. 232We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.
Even if you’re familiar with Love Languages, this series is for you! We’re taking a broad approach to them by including their influence on our friendships and family relationships, in addition to our romantic partnerships.
Elliott and I explore the following:
How to give gifts in the early days of a relationship.
Values which lay at the root of gift...2023-02-1530 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott5 Love Languages: Quality Time Ep. 231We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.
Even if you’re familiar with Love Languages, this series is for you! We’re taking a broad approach to them by including their influence on our friendships and family relationships, in addition to our romantic partnerships.
Elliott and I explore the following:
How to negotiate time—even in the early stages of your relationship. I share an example from when Dan...2023-02-1435 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott5 Love Languages: Quality Time Ep. 231We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.
Even if you’re familiar with Love Languages, this series is for you! We’re taking a broad approach to them by including their influence on our friendships and family relationships, in addition to our romantic partnerships.
Elliott and I explore the following:
How to negotiate time—even in the early stages of your relationship. I share an example from when Dan...2023-02-1435 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow “Words of Affirmation” Level Up EVERY Relationship in Your Life! Ep. 230We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.
Even if you’re familiar with Love Languages, this series is for you! We’re taking a broad approach to them by including their influence on our friendships and family relationships, in addition to our romantic partnerships.
Elliott and I explore the following:
Why Words of Affirmation may be the most important love language!
How to express Words of Affirmation...2023-02-1342 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow “Words of Affirmation” Level Up EVERY Relationship in Your Life! Ep. 230We’re kicking off Valentine’s Week with a series on Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We’ll be devoting an episode to each love language and rolling them out every day this week.
Even if you’re familiar with Love Languages, this series is for you! We’re taking a broad approach to them by including their influence on our friendships and family relationships, in addition to our romantic partnerships.
Elliott and I explore the following:
Why Words of Affirmation may be the most important love language!
How to express Words of Affirmation...2023-02-1342 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow to Keep Phones from Sabotaging Your Relationships! with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 226When did you last spend time with someone without a phone in your hand or on the table?
It’s probably been a while . . .
And while phones absolutely enhance our lives and provide the ability to connect with people across the globe, they can also detract from our IRL relationships.
In today’s episode, Elliott and I continue our conversation on phones and relationships by considering the following question: Does social media make you happy?
We explore the following and much more!
Does “technopherence” create barriers in your relationships?
Are you havin...2023-01-2038 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow to Keep Phones from Sabotaging Your Relationships! with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 226When did you last spend time with someone without a phone in your hand or on the table?
It’s probably been a while . . .
And while phones absolutely enhance our lives and provide the ability to connect with people across the globe, they can also detract from our IRL relationships.
In today’s episode, Elliott and I continue our conversation on phones and relationships by considering the following question: Does social media make you happy?
We explore the following and much more!
Does “technopherence” create barriers in your relationships?
Are you havin...2023-01-2038 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Your Phone Sabotaging Your Relationship? with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 224“It’s like there are four people in your relationship—you, your partner, and your two phones.” – Elliott Anderson, M.A.
Is your phone impacting your ability to cultivate deep, authentic intimacy?
Probably so!
Thanks to the phones in our pockets, we’re able to distract ourselves 24/7—from boredom, loneliness, or any uncomfortable emotion.
But what about when our relationship with our phone trumps our relationship with our significant other?
Join us for a discussion aro...2023-01-0540 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Your Phone Sabotaging Your Relationship? with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 224“It’s like there are four people in your relationship—you, your partner, and your two phones.” – Elliott Anderson, M.A.
Is your phone impacting your ability to cultivate deep, authentic intimacy?
Probably so!
Thanks to the phones in our pockets, we’re able to distract ourselves 24/7—from boredom, loneliness, or any uncomfortable emotion.
But what about when our relationship with our phone trumps our relationship with our significant other?
Join us for a discussion aro...2023-01-0540 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottFamily Feuds: How to Manage Conflict at Christmas (or Any Time!) with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 223It’s the most wonderful time of the year! At least, that’s the fantasy . . .
We imagine warm, loving family gatherings—breaking bread, sharing hopes and dreams. Grandparents regaling us with tales of Christmas past. Toddlers and teens giving us a glimpse into Christmas future.
But all too often the warm, loving gathering is neither—it’s cold and combative. Breaking bread breaks hearts as we war over politics, religion, and COVID policies. Grandparents’ stories can’t compete with TikTok. Toddlers throw tantrums while teens remain glued too screens.
Elliott and I discuss common struggl...2022-12-2440 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottFamily Feuds: How to Manage Conflict at Christmas (or Any Time!) with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 223It’s the most wonderful time of the year! At least, that’s the fantasy . . .
We imagine warm, loving family gatherings—breaking bread, sharing hopes and dreams. Grandparents regaling us with tales of Christmas past. Toddlers and teens giving us a glimpse into Christmas future.
But all too often the warm, loving gathering is neither—it’s cold and combative. Breaking bread breaks hearts as we war over politics, religion, and COVID policies. Grandparents’ stories can’t compete with TikTok. Toddlers throw tantrums while teens remain glued too screens.
Elliott and I discuss common struggl...2022-12-2440 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottPower Struggles: Are They Destroying Your Relationship? with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 222Is your relationship plagued by constant frustrations and arguments? If so, it’s possible power struggles are at the root of your disagreements.
In today’s episode, psychotherapist and pastor, Elliott Anderson, M.A., and I continue our conversation on conflict styles by examining power struggles.
If you haven’t had the chance to listen to parts 1 and 2 of this discussion, please jump back to episodes 220 and 221 of Love & Life so you’ll understand all these animals we’re talking about!
During his 30 years of counseling couples, Elliott has used the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Style mode...2022-12-1533 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottPower Struggles: Are They Destroying Your Relationship? with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 222Is your relationship plagued by constant frustrations and arguments? If so, it’s possible power struggles are at the root of your disagreements.
In today’s episode, psychotherapist and pastor, Elliott Anderson, M.A., and I continue our conversation on conflict styles by examining power struggles.
If you haven’t had the chance to listen to parts 1 and 2 of this discussion, please jump back to episodes 220 and 221 of Love & Life so you’ll understand all these animals we’re talking about!
During his 30 years of counseling couples, Elliott has used the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Style mode...2022-12-1533 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow Your Family Handled Conflict in the Past Impacts Your Relationships Today! with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 221If you have siblings, you likely fought with them about anything and everything!
They were your first sparring partners. And, through them—and interactions with parents and friends, too—you developed your conflict style. (For more on conflict styles, check out part 1 of this series, ep. 220 of Love & Life.)
Elliott and I continue our discussion on conflict negotiations in romantic partnership by examining the influence of our temperament, birth order, and our family of origin’s (unwritten) rules regarding conflict resolution.
I ask Elliott to share examples from his over 30 years of counseling couple...2022-12-1427 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow Your Family Handled Conflict in the Past Impacts Your Relationships Today! with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 221If you have siblings, you likely fought with them about anything and everything!
They were your first sparring partners. And, through them—and interactions with parents and friends, too—you developed your conflict style. (For more on conflict styles, check out part 1 of this series, ep. 220 of Love & Life.)
Elliott and I continue our discussion on conflict negotiations in romantic partnership by examining the influence of our temperament, birth order, and our family of origin’s (unwritten) rules regarding conflict resolution.
I ask Elliott to share examples from his over 30 years of counseling couple...2022-12-1427 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Your Conflict Style Sabotaging Your Relationships? with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 220Conflict is inherent to every relationship. And though many of us regard conflict as problematic and prefer to avoid it, we don’t actually have to perceive it as negative. In fact, when we negotiate conflict, we deepen intimacy and authentic connection.
That being said, it’s MUCH easier to negotiate conflict if we have a solid understanding of how we tend to respond when dealing with it.
Join Elliott and me as we discuss Thomas–Kilmann’s conflict style framework—a model Elliott has used with couples for over 30 years.
Discover your conflict s...2022-12-0846 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Your Conflict Style Sabotaging Your Relationships? with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 220Conflict is inherent to every relationship. And though many of us regard conflict as problematic and prefer to avoid it, we don’t actually have to perceive it as negative. In fact, when we negotiate conflict, we deepen intimacy and authentic connection.
That being said, it’s MUCH easier to negotiate conflict if we have a solid understanding of how we tend to respond when dealing with it.
Join Elliott and me as we discuss Thomas–Kilmann’s conflict style framework—a model Elliott has used with couples for over 30 years.
Discover your conflict s...2022-12-0846 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottWhere is This Relationship Going? Q&A with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson Ep. 218We wrapped up our recent Love & Life Live by answering questions from both our Instagram viewers and in-person audience.
Elliott and I shared our thoughts on the following questions:
What is an appropriate pacing for a relationship?
Butterflies—are we looking for them? Or, is it better to go for that calm feeling?
How can I know his or her intentions?
How do I know if my attraction is healthy or if I’m attracted to people who aren’t good for me due to a trauma bond?
How can we deal with conflict in our relati...2022-11-2321 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottWhere is This Relationship Going? Q&A with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson Ep. 218We wrapped up our recent Love & Life Live by answering questions from both our Instagram viewers and in-person audience.
Elliott and I shared our thoughts on the following questions:
What is an appropriate pacing for a relationship?
Butterflies—are we looking for them? Or, is it better to go for that calm feeling?
How can I know his or her intentions?
How do I know if my attraction is healthy or if I’m attracted to people who aren’t good for me due to a trauma bond?
How can we deal with conflict in our relati...2022-11-2321 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottRed Flags vs. Dealbreakers: How to Know the Difference! with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 217In this second part of our recent Love & Life Live, psychotherapist Elliott Anderson and I continue our conversation on how to cultivate deep, authentic, emotionally healthy intimacy.
Specifically, we tackle the following:
10 Warning Signs in Relationships.
10 Environmental Contexts and Concerns.
10 Family of Origin Dynamics to Observe and Discuss.
4 Non-negotiable Dealbreakers!
Yes, love is a mystery, but we can take some of the confusion out of it by keeping our head in the game! Elliott—along with his over 30 years of experience working with couples—is here to help!
Elliott Anderson
Work...2022-11-2258 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottRed Flags vs. Dealbreakers: How to Know the Difference! with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 217In this second part of our recent Love & Life Live, psychotherapist Elliott Anderson and I continue our conversation on how to cultivate deep, authentic, emotionally healthy intimacy.
Specifically, we tackle the following:
10 Warning Signs in Relationships.
10 Environmental Contexts and Concerns.
10 Family of Origin Dynamics to Observe and Discuss.
4 Non-negotiable Dealbreakers!
Yes, love is a mystery, but we can take some of the confusion out of it by keeping our head in the game! Elliott—along with his over 30 years of experience working with couples—is here to help!
Elliott Anderson
Work...2022-11-2258 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Love Enough? How to Build Deep Intimacy with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 216It’s time for another Love & Life Live! Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson invited me to join him at Judson University last week in his Interpersonal Relationships class. In part 1 of the live, we delve into: The characteristics of authentic intimate relationships. The characteristics of intimate conversations. Healthy, appropriate pacing in friendship development. The characteristics of long-term romantic relationships. The weaknesses in connection that create relationship uncertainty. Find out if your relationship has what it takes to go the distance in part 1 of our latest Love & Life Live!
Elliott Anderson
Work with Elliott, Books, & More...2022-11-1640 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Love Enough? How to Build Deep Intimacy with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 216It’s time for another Love & Life Live! Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson invited me to join him at Judson University last week in his Interpersonal Relationships class. In part 1 of the live, we delve into: The characteristics of authentic intimate relationships. The characteristics of intimate conversations. Healthy, appropriate pacing in friendship development. The characteristics of long-term romantic relationships. The weaknesses in connection that create relationship uncertainty. Find out if your relationship has what it takes to go the distance in part 1 of our latest Love & Life Live!
Elliott Anderson
Work with Elliott, Books, & More...2022-11-1640 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottBest of Love & Life: Is Your Father Wound Impacting Your Relationships? with Elliott Anderson Ep. 214If you’ve ever wondered if you have “daddy issues” or been curious as to how your relationship with your father influences the men you choose and the dynamics you experience in relationships, this episode is for you! Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson and I take a deep dive into how father wounds show up in our romantic relationships—and most importantly, how we can heal these wounds so as to avoid repeating painful patterns. Elliott and I discuss:
The two main ways father wounds play out with the couples Elliott counsels.
How psychotherapy can heal a father wound in unique and...2022-11-0443 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottBest of Love & Life: Is Your Father Wound Impacting Your Relationships? with Elliott Anderson Ep. 214If you’ve ever wondered if you have “daddy issues” or been curious as to how your relationship with your father influences the men you choose and the dynamics you experience in relationships, this episode is for you! Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson and I take a deep dive into how father wounds show up in our romantic relationships—and most importantly, how we can heal these wounds so as to avoid repeating painful patterns. Elliott and I discuss:
The two main ways father wounds play out with the couples Elliott counsels.
How psychotherapy can heal a father wound in unique and...2022-11-0443 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow Do My BF and I Build a Healthy Connection—Despite Being in Unhealthy Relationships in the Past? with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 213Elliott is back to answer your questions about cultivating healthy, happy relationships! We address the following questions you posed on Instagram:
1. Which is more important—personality or looks?
2. You two make me happy. What are your signs?
3. Are you twins?
4. I just started a new relationship. What are some of the things we can do to know if this is it? Neither of us has been in a relationship this healthy before.
Join us to hear our thoughts on these questions. Also, Elliott goes into depth regarding our sibling bond—inclu...2022-10-2832 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow Do My BF and I Build a Healthy Connection—Despite Being in Unhealthy Relationships in the Past? with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 213Elliott is back to answer your questions about cultivating healthy, happy relationships! We address the following questions you posed on Instagram:
1. Which is more important—personality or looks?
2. You two make me happy. What are your signs?
3. Are you twins?
4. I just started a new relationship. What are some of the things we can do to know if this is it? Neither of us has been in a relationship this healthy before.
Join us to hear our thoughts on these questions. Also, Elliott goes into depth regarding our sibling bond—inclu...2022-10-2832 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottA Marriage Therapist’s Best Advice for Singles with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 208I wanted to wrap up our celebration of National Unmarried & Single Americans week with a fan favorite and my favorite guest, of course, psychotherapist Elliott Anderson.
When I was considering what I wanted Elliott to share, I thought about all the couples he’s worked with over the years. He’s seen it all—from those who just needed some tools to get through a rough patch, to couples who could barely stand to be in the same room together, to those who’ve become violent and abusive.
I wondered,
What would Elliott want to say t...2022-09-2347 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottA Marriage Therapist’s Best Advice for Singles with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 208I wanted to wrap up our celebration of National Unmarried & Single Americans week with a fan favorite and my favorite guest, of course, psychotherapist Elliott Anderson.
When I was considering what I wanted Elliott to share, I thought about all the couples he’s worked with over the years. He’s seen it all—from those who just needed some tools to get through a rough patch, to couples who could barely stand to be in the same room together, to those who’ve become violent and abusive.
I wondered,
What would Elliott want to say t...2022-09-2347 min
Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow to Build Deep Romantic Intimacy: Love & Life Live! at Judson University with Elliott Anderson, MA Ep. 186We all desire deep, genuine intimacy. But so often, it feels incredibly difficult to cultivate! Sometimes we’re so infatuated we rush things. Other times, we fear getting close because we’ve been hurt so many times before.
In our first Love & Life Live, psychotherapist Elliott Anderson joins me to speak to Judson University students about how to develop and cultivate deep, authentic, lasting romantic intimacy.
Specifically, we discuss:
What’s the definition of intimacy?
How can we distinguish between intimacy and infatuation?
Is there a concrete process for building intimacy?
What do psychologists say ab...2022-03-181h 00Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHow to Build Deep Romantic Intimacy: Love & Life Live! at Judson University with Elliott Anderson, MA Ep. 186We all desire deep, genuine intimacy. But so often, it feels incredibly difficult to cultivate! Sometimes we’re so infatuated we rush things. Other times, we fear getting close because we’ve been hurt so many times before.
In our first Love & Life Live, psychotherapist Elliott Anderson joins me to speak to Judson University students about how to develop and cultivate deep, authentic, lasting romantic intimacy.
Specifically, we discuss:
What’s the definition of intimacy?
How can we distinguish between intimacy and infatuation?
Is there a concrete process for building intimacy?
What do psychologists say ab...2022-03-181h 00Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottThe Divorce Wound: Restoration and Redemption with Leisse Wilcox and Elliott Anderson, MA Ep. 185Divorce is brutal. The wound it leaves is deep and lasting. Can we find restoration and redemption after the death of a marriage? Can we resuscitate a demolished heart?
Leisse Wilcox and Elliott Anderson discuss the profound grief inherent to divorce. They hold space for the hurting. They honor the loss and pain.
And simultaneously, they invite you on a healing journey.
Specifically, they discuss:
The primal wound vs. the divorce wound.
Pain, shame, and blame surrounding divorce—and the gender differences Elliott has noticed in his work with couples.
Leisse observes di...2022-03-121h 00Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottThe Divorce Wound: Restoration and Redemption with Leisse Wilcox and Elliott Anderson, MA Ep. 185Divorce is brutal. The wound it leaves is deep and lasting. Can we find restoration and redemption after the death of a marriage? Can we resuscitate a demolished heart?
Leisse Wilcox and Elliott Anderson discuss the profound grief inherent to divorce. They hold space for the hurting. They honor the loss and pain.
And simultaneously, they invite you on a healing journey.
Specifically, they discuss:
The primal wound vs. the divorce wound.
Pain, shame, and blame surrounding divorce—and the gender differences Elliott has noticed in his work with couples.
Leisse observes di...2022-03-121h 00Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Your Family Sabotaging Your Love Life? with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson Ep. 183Our families have a profound impact on us—not just in childhood, but throughout our lifetime! But, family dynamics can be tricky to sort out due to the intensity of emotions and because we lack the objectivity necessary to see ourselves and our connections clearly; it’s hard to observe a system when you’re part of the system.
Furthermore, sometimes our families can unintentionally sabotage our efforts to find our person!
Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson joins me for a deep dive into how connections to family members may impede our search for romantic partnership—unbeknownst to all i...2022-02-2446 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Your Family Sabotaging Your Love Life? with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson Ep. 183Our families have a profound impact on us—not just in childhood, but throughout our lifetime! But, family dynamics can be tricky to sort out due to the intensity of emotions and because we lack the objectivity necessary to see ourselves and our connections clearly; it’s hard to observe a system when you’re part of the system.
Furthermore, sometimes our families can unintentionally sabotage our efforts to find our person!
Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson joins me for a deep dive into how connections to family members may impede our search for romantic partnership—unbeknownst to all i...2022-02-2446 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAvoidant Attachment Q&A with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson Ep. 179Elliott is back to answer your questions in Part 2 of our conversation about Avoidant Attachment style. We start with a question from a listener who wrote in after hearing episode 165 about Anxious Attachment in which Elliott mentioned that “oneness” takes years to develop. Her question was:
1. What’s the difference between intimacy and oneness?
We then get back to Avoidant Attachment and address the following questions from listeners:
2. I’ve recently left an abusive relationship and started dating an old friend. He was initially very attentive but then he started to pull away which ca...2022-02-0123 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAvoidant Attachment Q&A with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson Ep. 179Elliott is back to answer your questions in Part 2 of our conversation about Avoidant Attachment style. We start with a question from a listener who wrote in after hearing episode 165 about Anxious Attachment in which Elliott mentioned that “oneness” takes years to develop. Her question was:
1. What’s the difference between intimacy and oneness?
We then get back to Avoidant Attachment and address the following questions from listeners:
2. I’ve recently left an abusive relationship and started dating an old friend. He was initially very attentive but then he started to pull away which ca...2022-02-0123 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHelp! I Keep Dating Men with Avoidant Attachment Style! with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 178Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson is back to continue our series on Attachment Styles. This week we unpack Avoidant Attachment and consider the question, “Is it actually possible to have a relationship with someone with an avoidant attachment style?”
Specifically, we address:
Why avoidant men may initially appear very excited about the relationship and interested in commitment, but then later, they pull away.
The internal struggle of Avoidant Attachment.
The Pursuer-Distancer cycle—if you’ve dated someone with an Avoidant Attachment style, you’ve likely experienced this, especially if you have an Anxious Attachment style.
When he marries you, but i...2022-01-2546 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottHelp! I Keep Dating Men with Avoidant Attachment Style! with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 178Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson is back to continue our series on Attachment Styles. This week we unpack Avoidant Attachment and consider the question, “Is it actually possible to have a relationship with someone with an avoidant attachment style?”
Specifically, we address:
Why avoidant men may initially appear very excited about the relationship and interested in commitment, but then later, they pull away.
The internal struggle of Avoidant Attachment.
The Pursuer-Distancer cycle—if you’ve dated someone with an Avoidant Attachment style, you’ve likely experienced this, especially if you have an Anxious Attachment style.
When he marries you, but i...2022-01-2546 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAnxious Attachment on Dating and Relationships with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 165I hear this question from women in my community all the time—“I have an anxious attachment style. Will I ever be able to be in a secure relationship?”
To address this concern, psychotherapist Elliott Anderson and I take a deep dive into anxious attachment and how it impacts dating and relationships.
Specifically, we discuss:
Anxious attachment and our desire for intimacy.
Trauma bonds and anxious attachment.
When feeling anxiety in a relationship is a GOOD thing!
How the hookup culture has impacted attachment.
Masculine and feminine energy as they relate to attachment.
Elliot...2021-10-2053 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAnxious Attachment on Dating and Relationships with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 165I hear this question from women in my community all the time—“I have an anxious attachment style. Will I ever be able to be in a secure relationship?”
To address this concern, psychotherapist Elliott Anderson and I take a deep dive into anxious attachment and how it impacts dating and relationships.
Specifically, we discuss:
Anxious attachment and our desire for intimacy.
Trauma bonds and anxious attachment.
When feeling anxiety in a relationship is a GOOD thing!
How the hookup culture has impacted attachment.
Masculine and feminine energy as they relate to attachment.
Elliot...2021-10-2053 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottGetting the Love You Want—It’s All About Values! with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson: Worthy in Love Pod Tour Ep. 162This week Love & Life partners with Veronica Grant’s “How to Actually Feel Worthy in Love” Podcast Tour! We’re one of 12 podcasts invited to delve into what it truly takes to date from a place of authenticity and confidence so as to build a healthy, happy relationship. But, how can we do so if we don’t fundamentally believe we deserve love?
Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson joins me to share a critical strategy he implements with clients and couples—values clarification. As we identify what matters to us and commit to behaving in alignment with our principles, we fortify o...2021-10-0632 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottGetting the Love You Want—It’s All About Values! with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson: Worthy in Love Pod Tour Ep. 162This week Love & Life partners with Veronica Grant’s “How to Actually Feel Worthy in Love” Podcast Tour! We’re one of 12 podcasts invited to delve into what it truly takes to date from a place of authenticity and confidence so as to build a healthy, happy relationship. But, how can we do so if we don’t fundamentally believe we deserve love?
Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson joins me to share a critical strategy he implements with clients and couples—values clarification. As we identify what matters to us and commit to behaving in alignment with our principles, we fortify o...2021-10-0632 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottWhy Are SO Many Men SO Passive in Relationships? with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 144If you’ve dated a passive man or TRIED to date a passive man—because he never got around to asking you out—this episode is for you! As empowered women, we’ve been raised to take charge and take action, but does that work for us when dating? Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson is back to share his thoughts on male passivity—what it’s about and how to handle it!
Elliott and I discuss:
Why women who’ve experienced mother wounds may be more likely to be attracted to passive men.
The definition of interdependence and how it’s VERY...2021-06-0956 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottWhy Are SO Many Men SO Passive in Relationships? with Elliott Anderson, M.A. Ep. 144If you’ve dated a passive man or TRIED to date a passive man—because he never got around to asking you out—this episode is for you! As empowered women, we’ve been raised to take charge and take action, but does that work for us when dating? Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson is back to share his thoughts on male passivity—what it’s about and how to handle it!
Elliott and I discuss:
Why women who’ve experienced mother wounds may be more likely to be attracted to passive men.
The definition of interdependence and how it’s VERY...2021-06-0956 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Your Mother Wound Impacting Your Relationships? with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson Ep. 127Many of you resonated with our recent conversation on the father wound (ep. 125) and asked if we’d speak to the mother wound, too. So, psychotherapist and pastor Elliott Anderson is back to discuss how mother wounds affect our dating and relationships. Join us to learn:
How the mother wound differs from the father wound.
Common mother wounds children experience.
Enmeshment with mothers and how this impacts our ability to form healthy romantic attachments.
Recognizing when we’re “using” a romantic connection to “escape” dynamics from our family of origin.
Dating a man with a mother wound.
In recognizi...2021-02-0944 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Your Mother Wound Impacting Your Relationships? with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson Ep. 127Many of you resonated with our recent conversation on the father wound (ep. 125) and asked if we’d speak to the mother wound, too. So, psychotherapist and pastor Elliott Anderson is back to discuss how mother wounds affect our dating and relationships. Join us to learn:
How the mother wound differs from the father wound.
Common mother wounds children experience.
Enmeshment with mothers and how this impacts our ability to form healthy romantic attachments.
Recognizing when we’re “using” a romantic connection to “escape” dynamics from our family of origin.
Dating a man with a mother wound.
In recognizi...2021-02-0944 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Your Father Wound Impacting Your Relationships? with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson Ep. 125If you’ve ever wondered if you have “daddy issues” or been curious as to how your relationship with your father influences the men you choose and the dynamics you experience in relationships, this episode is for you! Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson and I take a deep dive into how father wounds show up in our romantic relationships—and most importantly, how we can heal these wounds so as to avoid repeating painful patterns. Elliott and I discuss:
The two main ways father wounds play out with the couples Elliott counsels.
How psychotherapy can heal a father wound in unique and...2021-01-2643 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottIs Your Father Wound Impacting Your Relationships? with Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson Ep. 125If you’ve ever wondered if you have “daddy issues” or been curious as to how your relationship with your father influences the men you choose and the dynamics you experience in relationships, this episode is for you! Psychotherapist Elliott Anderson and I take a deep dive into how father wounds show up in our romantic relationships—and most importantly, how we can heal these wounds so as to avoid repeating painful patterns. Elliott and I discuss:
The two main ways father wounds play out with the couples Elliott counsels.
How psychotherapy can heal a father wound in unique and...2021-01-2643 min
Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAre Subconscious Beliefs Sabotaging Your Love Life? Interview with Marriage Therapist Elliott Anderson Ep. 76Recently a listener asked me, “What if subconscious beliefs are affecting my love life and I don’t even know it?” Great question! Our beliefs—even those we’re unaware of—absolutely impact our relationships in profound ways. To explore this topic in depth—and to examine how beliefs affect couples, too—I’ve invited marriage therapist, Elliott Anderson, M.A. (aka my brother), to share what he’s learned from 30 years of working with couples. Join us to delve into:· How our negative beliefs about relationships can inadvertently manifest exactly what we fear!· The power in identifying the mea...2020-01-2155 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottAre Subconscious Beliefs Sabotaging Your Love Life? Interview with Marriage Therapist Elliott Anderson Ep. 76Recently a listener asked me, “What if subconscious beliefs are affecting my love life and I don’t even know it?” Great question! Our beliefs—even those we’re unaware of—absolutely impact our relationships in profound ways. To explore this topic in depth—and to examine how beliefs affect couples, too—I’ve invited marriage therapist, Elliott Anderson, M.A. (aka my brother), to share what he’s learned from 30 years of working with couples. Join us to delve into:· How our negative beliefs about relationships can inadvertently manifest exactly what we fear!· The power in identifying the mea...2020-01-2155 min
Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott"Dear Dr. Karin" Q & A on Relationships, Friendships, and Dating in the Digital Age Ep. 10Dr. Karin answers listeners' questions on this episode of Love & Life. She helps Rebecca process her frustrations with married friends and assists newly divorced Mindy in navigating her way through the singles' scene. Dr. Karin then addresses Carly's question about the challenges of dating in the "Digital Age."2017-03-2720 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott"Dear Dr. Karin" Q & A on Relationships, Friendships, and Dating in the Digital Age Ep. 10Dr. Karin answers listeners' questions on this episode of Love & Life. She helps Rebecca process her frustrations with married friends and assists newly divorced Mindy in navigating her way through the singles' scene. Dr. Karin then addresses Carly's question about the challenges of dating in the "Digital Age."2017-03-2720 min
Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottDr. Karin Gives 3 Key principles of Living and "Being Authentically You" Ep. 1With A Ph.D in psychology and 27 years on the dating scene, Dr. Karin Anderson-Abrell brings life experience and academic acumen to her philosophy on love and relationships. In this first episode, Dr. Karin shares three key principles for living a happy, hopeful, and positive life expressed by her favorite hashtags! She Discusses how to #GetHappy by taking charge of your thoughts, to take charge of your life! She then delves into the importance of authenticity in relationships and explains how EVERYONE around you benefits when you #NEVERSETTLE. www.drkarin.me2017-01-0318 minLove & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottDr. Karin Gives 3 Key principles of Living and "Being Authentically You" Ep. 1With A Ph.D in psychology and 27 years on the dating scene, Dr. Karin Anderson-Abrell brings life experience and academic acumen to her philosophy on love and relationships. In this first episode, Dr. Karin shares three key principles for living a happy, hopeful, and positive life expressed by her favorite hashtags! She Discusses how to #GetHappy by taking charge of your thoughts, to take charge of your life! She then delves into the importance of authenticity in relationships and explains how EVERYONE around you benefits when you #NEVERSETTLE. www.drkarin.me2017-01-0318 min