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ADHD RealitiesDisconnected, Burned Out & Still Expected to Want Sex: Reclaiming Desire with Dr. Kate BalestrieriWhat do you do when you realize you’re completely disconnected from your body, burned out, and expected to maintain a thriving sex life? In this episode, I sit down with psychologist, certified sex therapist, and author Dr. Kate Balestrieri to talk about her new book What Happened to My Sex Life?—a raw, real, and relatable exploration of desire, disconnection, resentment, and the slow road back to pleasure.
We talk about:
How burnout, patriarchy, ADHD, and resentment erode desire
What “reclaiming pleasure” really means (hint: it's not about lingerie and sex toys)
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SexologyEP448 - Connection and Pleasure: Reclaim Lost DesireWelcome to Episode 448 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Kate Balestrieri, who speaks to me about navigating low desire and reigniting intimacy in long‑term relationships.In this conversation, Kate and I normalize the reality that everyone, including sex therapists, experiences fluctuations in sexual desire. She shares the multifaceted story behind her own temporary drop in libido, touching on burnout, perimenopause, pandemic stress, and relationship “growing pains.” Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D is a Licensed Psychologist (Clinical and Forensic) in CA, FL, NY and IL...2025-07-2226 min
The Arch EffectYour Sex Life Needs This with Dr. Kate [VIDEO]What does sex look like when you’re grieving? In this episode, I sit down with sex therapist, Dr. Kate Balestrieri to explore how grief impacts intimacy, desire, and connection. We delve into kinks, queer love, the importance of exploration, and how sex can become part of the healing process. 2025-07-0737 min
The Pudding PalsPudding Wives & Sex lives with Dr. Kate BalestrieriThis one’s for the moms who’ve seen it all, and maybe not enough. The Pudding Wives are spilling the tea (and maybe some lube) on everything from wild sexcapades to “don’t touch me” phases. We’re talking initiation struggles, bedroom boredom, toys that collect dust, and the real reason we fake sleep. Nothing’s too awkward, too honest, or too TMI when it’s usHosts: Danielle Marco, Jordyn Siegel, Ashley Dadon, Stephanie Golditch, Heather FrimmerGuest: Dr.Kate Balestrieri @drkatebalestrieri2025-06-1030 min
Seggs Talk Radio48 - Dr. Kate Balestrieri: Making Intimacy Last Through PsychologyIn this informative episode of Seggs Talk Radio, Thea welcomes Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a clinical and forensic psychologist, and certified sex therapist. The conversation delves into multiple facets of intimacy and relationships, covering topics such as sexual health, the impact of societal norms on sexuality, and the complexities of emotional labor in partnerships. Dr. Balestrieri shares her professional insights on navigating desire discrepancies, the effects of censorship on sexual wellness education, and the dynamics of power in relationships. Additionally, they explore the nuances of infidelity, the significance of personal growth for maintaining relationship novelty, and the challenges f...2025-05-231h 03
Open Deeply PodcastPatriarchy Isn't What You Think with Dr. Kate Balestrieri - Ep 59It could be argued that agents of capitalism have built the patriarchal system as a means to keep both men and women controlled and in line. But what if we broke free? What would happen to sex, love and freedom then? Dr. Kate Balesteri joins us to discuss what patriarchy actually is, how it hurts all genders, and how we (men, women and every gender) can take back our agency while heightening our authenticity and consciousness.
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The Dude TherapistBeyond the Birds & Bees: Reclaiming Intimacy in Real Life w/ Dr. Kate BalestrieriIn this powerful and candid episode, Eli sits down with Dr. Kate Balestrieri—clinical psychologist, certified sex therapist, and author of What Happened to My Sex Life?—to explore the often misunderstood terrain of intimacy, desire, and sexual satisfaction in modern relationships.you'reTogether, they unpack everything from emotional labor and betrayal to the myths that still dominate conversations about sex. Dr. Kate shares why pleasure is a human right, how sexual entitlement erodes intimacy, and why sex is rarely just about sex. Whether you're navigating a dry spell, rebuilding after betrayal, or just trying to better understand your...2025-05-1440 min
Self-HelplessSelf-Helpless Snack: "Mind-Reading," Feeling Suffocated, And Other Problematic Relationship Dynamics with Dr. Kate BalestrieriLicensed Psychologist, Dr. Kate Balestrieri, describes insidious relationship patterns, their origins (and their impact) including: the pressure to mind-read, feeling engulfed or suffocated, oversharing mature information, tasks that aren't age-appropriate, living vicariously or "best friends" parent-child dynamics, and more. Plus, how to give yourself grace if you're caught in any of these cycles, and steps you can take to create new behaviors.Full episode with Dr. Kate Balestrieri: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/316bfe5c/how-enmeshment-trauma-impacts-every-relationship-you-have-with-dr-kate-balestrieriYou can support the podcast, vote on topics, and more here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelplessYo...2025-03-3128 min
In This BodyUnderstanding the Barriers to Desire and Reconnecting with Pleasure with Dr. Kate BalestrieriJoin Ailey Jolie and Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a clinical psychologist, certified sex therapist, and author, on this episode of In This Body. The conversation explores how systemic oppression—particularly patriarchy—shapes our relationships with gender, sexuality, and embodiment. Dr. Balestrieri unpacks the misconceptions around patriarchy, the impact of gender essentialism, and how masculinity can become a prison, disconnecting men from their emotional world. Ailey and Dr. Balestrieri discuss how trauma influences sexuality, why pleasure is a form of power, and the barriers that prevent individuals from viewing sex as a practice of play rather than a currency of worth. The...2025-03-1346 min
Terra's Baddy Club27: What Happened To My Sex Life With Dr. Kate BalestrieriIn this episode of Terra's Baddy Club, Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist, discusses the complexities of sexual desire, trauma, and intimacy. She shares insights from her practice, emphasizing the importance of understanding individual experiences and the role of communication in relationships. The conversation explores various themes, including the impact of trauma on sexual preferences, the nature of kinks, and therapeutic approaches to enhancing sexual compatibility and pleasure. In this conversation, Dr. Kate Balestrieri discusses the dynamics of pleasure in relationships, the impact of pornography on sexual expectations, and the ethical considerations within the porn...2025-03-1230 min
Reimagining LoveFrom Disconnected to Passionate: How to Get Out of a Sexual Rut with Dr. Kate BalestrieriConversations about sex are so important, but approaching the topic with a partner can feel overwhelming. When we come up against sexual challenges in our relationships, it can be easy to fall into patterns of blame and shame. Listening to this episode is a great first step as you find your voice and reclaim your power in your sex life. You’ll hear from psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Kate Balestrieri, who joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation all about sexuality and her new book, What Happened to My Sex Life? They explore the importance of creating shared agreements an...2025-02-1850 min
The Greatness Machine333 | Dr. Kate Balestrieri | What Happened to My Sex Life?: A Sex Therapist’s Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection, and PleasureAfter years of helping individuals and couples navigate the complexities of intimacy, renowned clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Kate Balestrieri has seen it all—from the challenges of fostering honest conversations to the powerful transformation that comes with reconnecting to oneself. In this episode, Dr. Kate shares profound insights into why so many people feel disconnected from their desire and how curiosity, vulnerability, and non-judgment can reignite connection and pleasure in relationships. Drawing from themes in her upcoming book, “What Happened to My Sex Life,” she also reveals how overcoming self-abandonment is the key to living authentically and buildi...2025-02-121h 03
Glowlab with Susan YaraSex Therapist Reveals Secrets to Better Relationships & Hotter SexAre you curious about how to keep the spark alive in your relationship or navigate the complexities of dating? I brought in sex therapist Dr. Kate Balestrieri for this episode of "My Life Online with Susan Yara" to talk all about it! We discuss topics like:
💑 How often should you have sex in a relationship?
💔 How to prevent "the ick" about your partner.
🔥 Tips for spicing up your sex life in long-term relationships.
🕒 Should you schedule sex to keep the passion alive?
👩❤️👩 Do open marriages really work?
👶 Marriage and sex life after k...2025-01-0740 min
CLITEROLOGYBONUS CLIP: What are Munches? with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, PHD, Psychologist + Sex TherapistDr. Kate talks explains the nature of munches as a strong community where one can go and have a non-judgmental conversation and be met with like-minded folks can feel like a homecoming of sorts. WATCH THIS CLIP OR THE FULL EPISODE 2 ON YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@cliterology2024-12-3102 min
Degrees of HealthDr. Kate Balestrieri | Modern Intimacy and The Nuances of Sex: Trading Judgement for CuriosityJust how judgey are we when it comes to sex? With ourselves, with our partners, with friends, when listening to others online... Be honest. What benefit does it serve? Or a better question to ask perhaps is what damage might it be doing?❗Whether you’re navigating your own relationship challenges or seeking deeper insights into your own sexual exploration, listen here to Dr Kate because it's a rich and honest conversation that might just reshape how you think about and experience intimacy, equality, and desire.Dr. Kate, who has spent thousands of hours with individuals and...2024-11-201h 01
Tosh ShowMy Sex Therapist - Dr. Kate BalestrieriDaniel sits down for a session with the psychologist and licensed sex therapist Dr. Kate Balestrieri that covers everything from treating couples and throuples to the orgasm gap and P. Diddy’s freak-offs.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.2024-10-1545 min
Double Teamed with Cami and NikiWhen They Don't Ask ft. Dr. KateHey DT Fam :) Just Niki this week, with Dr. Kate Balestrieri - psychologist, sex therapist, and founder of Modern Intimacy. We dive into her podcast and work in the sex therapy space, as well as feminine rage and the emotional labor that often falls on women during an intimate experience. Not to mention - what to do when someone does something that maybe you do typically enjoy, but should have warranted consent. Be sure to check out her Instagram and Get Naked with Dr. Kate!Head on over to tryjoymode.com and use code...2024-09-1255 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon094: How to Have a Threesome with Dr Kate BalestrieriOne of Heather’s Youtube playlists with similar content:https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS4dHEiq5weEC9MnfQcJe7SP In this episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, host Heather Shannon and returning guest Dr. Kate Balistrieri delve into the number one most common sexual fantasy—threesomes. The discussion covers essential considerations such as identifying personal and collective fantasies, setting boundaries and communication strategies, and how to find a sex-positive community. They also explore practical advice for single individuals and couples contemplating a threesome, emphasizing the importance of clear communication, consent, and safet...2024-09-0242 min
Rena Malik, MD Podcast: Optimizing Health, Sex & Relationships with Science Backed Tips from Leading ExpertsWant Better Sex? Start By Asking This… ft. Dr. Kate BalestrieriIn this episode, Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a renowned expert in modern intimacy, delves into the essentials of staying present and open communication during sexual experiences, the psychological underpinnings of infidelity, and the significance of setting boundaries for healthy relationships. Together with Dr. Rena Malik, they explore the impacts of biological and socialization factors on desire and intimacy, the challenges of libido mismatches, and the role of novelty in rekindling passion. Discussions cover the delicate balance needed when addressing kinks, non-monogamy, and the complexity of sexual fantasies, along with insights into effective sex therapy, addressing common sexual dysfunctions, and the...2024-08-231h 31
Next Up: NarcissismEpisode 16: Sex and Narcissistic Personality Disorder“In a narcissistically abusive relationship, sex can become a tool of weaponry, a tool of control,” declares Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist. In this episode, she joins Dr. Z to unpack the intricate relationship between sex and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
Dr. Balestrieri, founder of Modern Intimacy and host of the “Get Naked with Dr. Kate” podcast, delves into the subtle tactics of sexual coercion and emotional manipulation commonly used by someone with NPD. She discusses how, within these relationships, sex is used as a tool to seek validation, power, and contr...2024-08-0239 min
The Brilliant Body Podcast with Ali MezeyThe Incarcerated Body: Cultural & Institutional Imprisonment with Dr. Kate BalestrieriHEADS UP: We do touch on topics like sexism, gender dynamics, sexual identity, and societal pressures. There are also mentions of domestic and sexual violence. We use frank language and occasional swear words. Please take care while listening, and feel free to skip any parts that might be triggering. Your well-being is important to us.In this episode, we delve into the complex interplay of societal expectations and sexual identity with the renowned Dr. Kate Balestrieri. Dr. Kate is a licensed psychologist, certified sex therapist, and the founder of Modern Intimacy, with years of...2024-06-271h 03
The Midlife MentorsSex, Infidelity and Jealousy: Interview with Dr Kate BalestrieriNavigating the complexities of modern day relationships can be overwhelming and often we don’t have the tools and understanding to deal with it effectively.In this episode we talk to psychologist and licensed sex therapist Dr Kate Balestrieri about retroactive jealousy, infedelity, sex and intimacy and how to best communicate our emotions. This is an incredibly real and enlightening conversation, with so much advice about how to get the best from your relationship, and we know you’re going to really enjoy listening to this one.Connect with Dr Kate:https...2024-06-2237 min
Moore StyleHow to Elevate Your Sex Life with Dr. Kate BalestrieriHave you ever wondered how truly to elevate your sex life and navigate the tricky dynamics of desire in today's world? In today’s episode, we are joined by certified sex therapist Dr. Kate Balestrieri for an episode around sexual communication, consent, and sex education! Join us as Kate shares practical tips to improve your sex life including ways to give constructive feedback after a sexual experience, the opt-in or opt-out approach, and ways to communicate your sexual needs and desires – because a healthier sex life starts with communication! This conversation is a reminder that expanding your plea...2024-06-1752 min
Luvbites by Dr. TaraUnderstanding Sexual Trauma: 10 Must-Know Facts from a Sex Therapist | Dr. Tara & Dr. KateIn this episode of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast, Dr. Kate Balestrieri (Licensed Psychologist & Certified Sex Therapist) and Dr. Tara address how childhood trauma relates to BDSM interests, the difference between sex therapy and regular therapy, and how narcissism affects your sex life and relationship. #drtara #sexeducation #relationshipadvice
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Trying To Be Positive With Anne MatthewsDr. Kate Balestrieri and How to Bring Sexy Back to Timed Intercourse (clitoris toys included)Join us for an in-depth discussion on intimacy, fertility, and desire with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, founder of Modern Intimacy and a licensed sex therapist. The episode brings invaluable insights into maintaining a healthy sex life during the stressful fertility journey. Dr. Balestrieri shares her expertise on how infertility can impact couples and navigating postpartum intimacy. Learn about maintaining a balanced libido, the psychological aspects of sexual health, and how partners can better support each other.
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Scott Carney Investigates45. Power, Sex and Psychopathy with Dr. Kate BalestrieriToday we're going to talk about some hard subjects--adultery, violence, power, and psychopathy. During the last few weeks I've been in touch with many amazing people from all around the internet who are trying to understand how deep the problems with Andrew Huberman really go. One of the people I met was the sex and relationship counselor Kate Balestreri and I'm so glad that we had some time to sit down together.
Kate Balestrieri: https://www.threads.net/@drkatebalestrieri
Modern Intimacy: https://www.modernintimacy.com
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BedsideOvercoming “Good Girl Syndrome” 🙏 How Sexual Guilt is Getting in the Way of Your Sex Life with Dr. Kate BalestrieriToday I'm joined again by my FAVORITE sex therapist Dr. Kate Balestrieri! We're here to discuss the topic of sexual shame and self-worth when it comes to "Good Girl Syndrome" (thank you Catholic school). On today's episode we're exploring signs of sexual shame, the impact of societal messaging on our sexual expression, and how to transform shame narratives. We also discuss the sneaky ways shame and guilt might be showing up in our intimate lives and offer therapy room advice on navigating shame in partnerships.On this episode we cover:sex negativity culture self-worthsexual expressionsigns of s...2024-04-0346 min
The Body PodSex Therapy, Addiction, and Talking to Your Kids About Sex with Dr. Kate BalestrieriIn this episode, we sit down with sex therapist and psychologist Dr. Kate Balestrieri to discuss everything from sex therapy and sex addiction to how and when to talk to your kids about sex. Dr. Balestrieri provides expert advice on spicing up your sex life and navigating complex topics like sexual health and addiction recovery. Whether you’re looking to improve your relationship or better understand sex education for your children, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical tips. Tune in for a candid conversation on enhancing intimacy and addressing sex addiction in a healthy, open way.2024-04-011h 02
The Well Power Podcast with Ruby Jusas19. Break Free From Sexual Shame With Dr. Kate BalestreriIn episode #19 I speak with Dr. Kate Balestreri who is a Licensed Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, Founder of Modern Intimacy & Host of the Get Naked With Dr. Kate Podcast. Dr. Kate shares her insights into how to break free from sexual shame, which holds so many back from expressing themselves fully & from experiencing real pleasure. Dr. Kate discusses navigating sexual shame after sexual stress, distress, trauma or abuse to ignite feelings of excitement and pleasure in your sex life again. https://www.modernintimacy.com/dr-kate-balestrieri-sex-therapist/ Disclaimer2024-03-1444 minCLITEROLOGYDR. KATE BALESTRIERI, PHD: Embodied + Empowered! How to Prioritize Pleasure and Mental HealthWe cover a lot of ground in this episode with Dr. Kate Balestrieri PHD, an in-demand psychologist and sex therapist driven by helping people create and define their sexuality. The founder of the Modern Intimacy, and host of Get Naked with Dr. Kate, Dr. Kate Balestrieri built a platform that connects clinicians trained in sex therapy with people seeking therapy for sexual issues and provides a safe space for people to get access to education about sensitive topics. In just over an hour, we tap into many facets of female sexuality and mental health and c...2024-03-071h 07
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser#202 Who’s Doing the Emotional Labour in Your Relationship? (with Dr. Kate Balestrieri)On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a licensed clinical and forensic psychologist, certified sex therapist, founder of the therapy practice Modern Intimacy, and host of the Get Naked with Dr. Kate podcast. She helps people live more fulfilled lives by shattering stigma and erasing shame.
Key Points:
- Kate introduces herself
- Inequalities in emotional labour
- Addressing inequalities through communication
- Emotional labour and mental load
- Practical steps for individuals and couples
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Truth Hurts ShowTOP RATED SEX THERAPIST Answers The Biggest Questions People Ask In Therapy | Kate BalestrieriWelcome to a new episode of The Truth Hurts Show, a show where we dive deep into conversations that matter. In today's must-listen episode, we're thrilled to have an extraordinary guest, Dr. Kate Balestrieri.Dr. Balestrieri is not just any expert - she's a distinguished Licensed Clinical and Forensic Psychologist, practicing in California and Illinois, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. Her expertise spans across working with adolescents, adults, and couples, tackling a spectrum of mental health issues. She's renowned for her individual and couples therapy, comprehensive cognitive and personality assessments, and her insightful...2024-02-071h 10
LivBtrLivBtr with Kate BalestrieriWelcome to a captivating episode of the LivBtr Podcast with your host, Jay Siano. In this episode, we delve into the world of sex positivity and keeping desire alive with our special guest, Dr. Kate Balestrieri. Dr. Balestrieri, a Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, brings her expertise to the forefront as we explore healthy relationships, adventure, and constant learning, all in the pursuit of living better.
Join us as Dr. Kate Balestrieri shares her insights on when people should consider working with a sex therapist, offering valuable guidance for those seeking to enhance their relationships...2024-02-0150 min
Relatable | Relationships UnfilteredInside the World of Kink with Dr. Kate Balestrieri - Bonus Clip from Episode 2Dr. Liz hangs out with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Licensed Psychologist & Certified Sex Therapist, in this episode to chat all about kink! Dr. Kate provides insights into different types of kink and works to clear up common misconceptions and stigmas regarding the world of kink. Dr. Kate talks about the impact of sexual trauma on sexual preferences and desires, as well as shares ways to use safe and connected sex as a way of healing and reclaiming your sexuality. Dr. Kate explains the importance of using sex as a form of play and discusses different ways to do so!
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Diary of An Empath by Keresse Thompson, LCSWThe Naked Truth; Submission vs Feminism, Gender Stereotypes In Dating, Porn & OnlyFansWelcome to another episode of "Diary of an Empath." In this insightful conversation, our host delves into the complex world of relationships, gender dynamics, and sexuality with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a renowned Sex Therapist and consultant for major social media platforms. Dr. Kate, also the host of the podcast "Get Naked with Dr. Kate," shares her expertise on a wide range of topics, challenging preconceived notions and shedding light on the intricacies of modern relationships.Highlights from the Conversation:1. Understanding Gender Essentialism: Dr. Balestrieri explores the concept of gender essentialism and its impact on our...2023-12-1500 min
You Turn Podcast w/ Ashley Stahl[LOVE] Ep. 351 How To Keep The Spark Alive In Your Relationship with Dr. Kate BalestrieriThis week, Ash talks with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a licensed psychologist and sex therapist and the founder of Modern Intimacy, here to talk all about keeping the spark alive in your relationship and sex life. Dr. Kate and Ash discuss navigating sexual discrepancies in desires and the type of intimacy you desire. They also dive into tools to build more chemistry and connection, cultivate passion, and transition from work mode into a sensual space. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Navigation of sexual discrepancy in a relationship. The diff...2023-11-2953 min
Self-HelplessHow Enmeshment Trauma Impacts Every Relationship You Have with Dr. Kate BalestrieriDelanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by sex therapist and licensed psychologist, Dr. Kate Balestrieri. Dr. Kate educates us on all things enmeshment trauma -- how it can impact our romantic relationships, the types of partners we’re drawn to, our familial relationships and friendships, as well as how it shapes our identity, self-worth, and perspective on love and boundaries. Whether you're just learning about this topic, healing from your own enmeshment trauma, or you want to break unhealthy patterns in your current relationships, this episode is an absolute must-listen.
For exclusive rewards, and to influence co...2023-11-2056 min
Heal Thy Self with Dr. GBreak Free From Sexual Shame with Dr. Kate Balestrieri | Heal Thy Self w/ Dr. G | Episode # 236Dr. Kate Balestieri is a sex positive therapist who focuses on providing counseling services to help people build resilience and recovery from deep-rooted sexual shame, which is holding so many back from allowing themselves to experience real pleasure.Be sure to like and subscribe to #HealThySelfHosted by Doctor Christian Gonzalez N.D.Follow Doctor G on Instagram @doctor.gonzalezhttps://www.instagram.com/doctor.gonzalez/2023-11-1354 min