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OTCWHY Do People Bully : The Power of Education in Diminishing HateThe more education you have - the less likely you are to bully someone!
Join Lauren & Lili as we embark on a profound journey diving into the realm of hurtful comments and online negativity. Together, Lauren & Lili uncover the origins of bullying driven by ignorance and fear, shedding light on the pivotal role of education.
Our conversation takes a thought-provoking turn as Lauren & Lili explore the significance of continuous education and the dangers of narrow-mindedness. Through personal stories and reflections, they emphasize the transformative power of exposure to diverse perspectives in shaping individual worldviews.
2024-05-3031 minOTCChasing Equilibrium in a World of Work and Personal FulfillmentHere in America, work hours are grueling and job satisfaction is often a luxury.
Delve into the delicate balance between a healthy work ethic and the perilous allure of workaholism. Together, Lauren & Lili explore the quest for equilibrium between savoring life’s pleasures and fulfilling professional obligations.
Tune in as Lauren & Lili delve into the process of aligning personal values with career choices and the toll exacted by a misalignment on overall well-being. They shed light on the challenges of finding fulfillment in a society where work hours are grueling and job satisfaction is often a l...2024-05-2336 minOTCShaping Communication: Cultivating Self-Awareness and Mindfulness in RelationshipsWhy do we say and do certain things? Because it has been positively reinforced in the past!
Join Lauren & Lili this week as we dive deep into the intricate world of relationships, communication, and personal growth. Through candid storytelling and introspective reflections, we explore the journey towards healthier connections, both with others and ourselves.
Lauren & Lili bring up pivotal moments that have shaped our communication styles and relationship dynamics, from navigating canceling plans to confronting fears of commitment.
Throughout the episode, we examine the power of language, context, and respect in shaping the qu...2024-05-1630 minOTCDecoding Dating Apps: From 'Wanna F***?' to Meaningful Connections“Wanna Fuck?” - a first time online dating message all too familiar
Dating has come a far far way to what it is in 2024.
Ever encountered the displeasing of dating apps like getting your first message of “wanna fuck” and wondered how to navigate it with grace and confidence?
This episode Lili and Lauren dive into the troubling encounters in the world of dating apps. They share candid stories about the disrespect and boundary violations that are sadly all too common, from unsolicited explicit photos to aggressive messages, and the gaslighting that often ensues when women stand their ground.
Our conversation...2024-05-0930 minOTCWhat is the silver lining? Can it be joy?On today's episode, Lauren and Lili discuss the dialectics of joy.2024-04-2822 minOTCWhat are the social rules of a small dog?On today's episode, Lauren and Lili discuss social norms and rules through the lens of their own experiences.2024-04-1820 minOTCNature or nurture?On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss differing reactions to stress and crises.2024-04-1227 minOTCHopeless and MotivatedOn today's episode, Lauren and Lili continue their discussion of the healthcare system.2024-04-0424 minOTCAdvocating for change while regulating angerJoin Lili and Lauren while they use therapeutic skills while discussing the frustrations of our medical industry and out health care system.2024-03-2928 minOTCWalking the middle path with our husbandsOn today's episode, Lauren and Lili continue their discussion of difficult conversations. This time, they discuss walking the middle path in their relationships.2024-03-2124 minOTCLet’s get serious, but how?On today’s episode, Lili and Lauren discuss how to have difficult conversations using a variety of dialectical behavior therapy skills.2024-03-1526 minOTCEffective avoidance with Lili and LaurenOn today's episode, Lili and Lauren take a break from the day and model distracting from high intensity emotions.2024-03-0732 minOTCRemember when I had boundaries? Did I just crack and enable more walking on my eyeballs?Today's episode is the seasons finale of the first season of OTCC. Lauren and Lili have an updated discussion about boundaries and highlight moments where they may have forgotten to continue to maintain their boundaries. 2024-03-0126 minOTCAre you Bored? Are you still bored? What do you wanna do to stop being bored?On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss how to manage feelings of boredom without engaging in target behaviors.2024-02-2326 minOTCIs Cupid ghosting you? Or…?On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss the loneliness of relationship driven holidays (e.g., Valentine's Day) and their own fumbles with trying to manage loneliness in different moments in their lives.2024-02-1628 min
OTCGrief, loss, and the blue butterflyThis episode is dedicated to Lili’s amazing Sister-in-law and friend… te Quiero mucho mi hermosa mariposa azul2024-02-0826 minOTCHow do we balance our work, our life, our goals, and ourselves? It’s all about frequency.On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss managing their work/life/self balance.2024-02-0227 minOTCAm I lying? Or is it identity theft?On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss their experiences with lying and attempts at being more truthful.2024-01-2628 minOTCJust because you say it's validating, doesn't mean it is.On today's episode, Lauren and Lili describe what validation is and what it isn't.2024-01-1930 minOTCWhat are our Values? A signed shirt from Paramore? Of course!On today's episode, Lauren and Lili describe their values, how their values have evolved over the course of time, and examples of values-based actions.2024-01-1224 minOTCFloating through transitions with a pocketful of curiosityOn today’s episode, Lauren and Lili discuss how they navigate transitioning between people, places, and other environmental contexts.2024-01-0529 minOTCFinancial pressure, transitions, and the never ending fight between Smeagol and GollumOn today's episode, Lili shares from her own experience navigating financial pressure and work transitions. Lauren and Lili discuss the role of self-doubt and fear in exacerbating stress in these moments.2023-12-2931 minOTCFlight delays, traffic shenanigans, and gratitude.On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss the concept of gratitude and how they increase mindfulness of the things they are grateful for in their own lives.2023-12-2228 minOTCStress, overwhelm, and ways to ask people to bring their own chairs.On today’s episode, Lili and Lauren discuss stress and overwhelm in the context of the upcoming December holidays. Lili and Lauren weave in their own experiences as they identify strategies to make things better and hopefully not worse.2023-12-1530 minOTCTo avoid my high school reunion or not to avoid my high school reunion? That’s the question to avoid.On today’s episode, Lauren and Lili discuss their own experiences navigating their urges to avoid and strategies to avoid avoiding.2023-12-0830 minOTCAre expiration dates real? Learning to judge and when not to...During this episode, Lili and Lauren recap the assumptions they have made and how their assumptions impact their daily lives. Through acknowledging their own fallibility, Lili and Lauren begin their journey towards reducing their assumptions and judgments.2023-12-0133 minOTCIs change the only constant? Should I order more queso?On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss the other side of acceptance...change. They discuss the process of effectuating desired change across situations and contexts.2023-11-1731 minOTCWe're Not AcceptingOn today's episode, Lauren and Lila discuss their own journey towards acceptance and the non-acceptance behaviors that they engaged in along the way.2023-11-1030 minOTCAm I insecure? Should I switch to Geico?In this episode, Lili and Lauren talk about what everyone experiences and yet don't really understand how to not be judgemental of, insecurities. Enjoy the discussion of their insecurities in life, how they navigate the topic of insecurities in their sessions, and how they coach their clients and themselves to navigate insecurities without allowing them to affect day-to-day living.2023-11-0228 minOTCAbout UsIn this mini-episode, Lili and Lauren talk about how they found themselves as licensed clinicians, what paths they took to get to where they are today, and a bit about their current practices and the specifics of who they work with.
Lili and Lauren met each other in 2014 as associate DBT therapists at Clearview Outpatient programs in Westwood CA and have been having off-the-clock conversations since. 2023-10-2713 minOTCBoundaries for you and your chihuahuasIn this episode, Lili and Lauren go into discussing the importance of boundaries, what boundaries are in the field of therapy between clients and therapists, and how and why therapists can lack boundaries and extend their limits, while also providing personal examples to explain and normalize how boundaries can look in everyone's day to day life, the discomforts boundaries can create for us and others, the tension they can cause and the understanding that all the struggle and tension is for the purpose of change in a positive way for you and your loved ones. 2023-10-1215 min